CONVO | 13 Years of marriage, dealing with divorce & moving on - Julz Bakunzi

CONVO | 13 Years of marriage, dealing with divorce & moving on - Julz Bakunzi | ThatHusbandPodcast

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[S1] EPISODE 7: LION AND LAMB
Being a child of divorce myself, I know very well the devastation that comes with experiencing this kind of loss. I was pained when Julz first told me about his divorce and seeing another marriage suffer this fatal blow, honestly broke me. Part of why I make this content is to try to help as many people to not get to the court steps wanting to call it off, I want to help as many husbands not have the story I share with my father who left us as a family. Episodes like these for me are warns shots! Take heed, before you walk out watch this.
There are key points in the conversation that really highlight, the importance of getting into marriage soberly, knowing the kind of attack this institution is under will force us to move with that awareness to fight our own inclinations, desires, that might lead to us opening the door for the disaster to crip in and crumble what we are building.
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@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

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@Lelo_diokana 2 ай бұрын

Finally something for men!!! I've felt like the ministry of being a husband is being attacked and I just couldn't articulate it and I wasn't seeing a lot of conversations around it...arg, you are doing the Lord's work indeed

@mmadigoeditlhake4183 2 ай бұрын

Felt the same🎉🎉🎉🎉

@mashudumunyai931 Ай бұрын

Well said!

@kabelontobo303 2 ай бұрын

The 1st time I ever heard from God was when he confirmed that my then wife was my wife. We were married for 10 years, separated for 4 going on to 5. I finally got the guts to file beginning of this year and we are just waiting for the matter to be settled/finalized now. I never thought I'd ever get divorced even before I got born again, this was always my belief and only got even more entrenched in my belief system when I received Christ as my Lord and Saviour. One thing that I know is that God never make mistakes. The word that got me through 2022 was "All things work together for those who love the Lord." I still desire marriage in the future but I'm not in a hurry. I'll wait until I can fully give myself to a new person emotionally. Right now I'm enjoying being a Dad to my 15 and 9 year old daughters who stay with me. The rest will come in the right time, but I'm looking forward to it. Marriage is a beautiful institution when both parties are in it for the right reasons.

@chosenqueen5109 Ай бұрын

How did you know that was the voice of God if you hadn't heard Him before?

@Drawingboredi Ай бұрын

Did God tell you to divorce too or is it just a personal choice? It's okay also you followed the voice ,played your part for that time. I'm just curious

@nonkululekoxaba4820 Ай бұрын

Cheers to you King, "all things work together for good to them that love God"

@kabelontobo303 Ай бұрын

@@chosenqueen5109 Trust me when it's him you'll know. It's different than anything you've ever experienced before. The calmness and peace that comes with it. It's unmistakable. You can't confuse it for anything else.

@kabelontobo303 Ай бұрын

@@Drawingboredi No he didn't but she's moved on so there's no need to keep holding on to something that's dead. I tried to get an answer from him many times before and all I got was silence.

@tlaly 2 ай бұрын

Yoh guys🙌🏾what a heart-warming conversation!!! I'm only just discovering your channel via this video and I'm in awe! Our society (without being aware) is DESPERATE for such insights, young-ish (🤭) men opening their hearts to the public about husbandhood??? What? Both of you dropped such GEMS too🤌🏿 Please man this is beautiful beyond words🙌🏾, it's so refreshing 🥹🥹🥹. I listened to the whole hour but the last 15 minutes had a different anointing 🔥🔥🔥. I'm the 2576th subscriber, may there be 97500 after me by next week 😅😌

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

What a beautiful message!!! Thank you so much for watching and for catching the vision sis! We believe very much for the, currently, 97333 subbies coming behind you🙌🏾

@puseletsomazibuko5403 2 ай бұрын

This is the first time I come across your channel, this is refreshing and necessary to see men talk, open up and unashamed about talking about the Lord. I'm here to stay.

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

amen and amen! thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@zinedanewikruger7014 2 ай бұрын

Made me think of 'Ownership is nothing; MANAGEMENT is key.' Thank you🙏

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

That's the one! And thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@ibugemartha4564 2 ай бұрын

I love to hear men side of this good thing marriage. Uganda the pearl of African.

@karensinclair4922 Ай бұрын

Great chat boys, my take is: As husbands you can lead but you can't control. At the end of the day, your gal was grown, she had her own relationship with God. She excercised her God-given free will and walked away from both God and you. We minimise this lady's personal agency by inferring you failed to lead some poor misguided / naive / weak/ woman. James 1:14 " each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed." Proverbs14:1 "A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands."

@yandie_z 19 күн бұрын

What an admirable man and a mature conversation. Beautiful to see how he is taking accountability of where he could have done better, even though his actions weren't what broke "the camel's back", but as the leader of the family/unit, he can see how he could have done better to manage the situation before it got out of hand. Much respect for him and wish him well in his new marriage. May God continue to restore what the enemy tried to destroy.

@user-il9wn1mf3f 2 ай бұрын

I am a lady but I am learning a lot from this Podcast Thanks a lot Guys🙌🙏😇

@dadaidzvairo9198 2 ай бұрын

You and me sis😉

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Happy the ladies are here! The more we ALL know the better for ALL of us 🙌🏾

@siyamthandaaphelelemthembu1656 2 ай бұрын

This was a beautiful conversation. I truly enjoy enjoyed it. I’ve never been married so I have never experienced someone in such close proximity leave the Lord. That must’ve been devastating. However I’ve experienced a friend leaving Christ and it grieved me, I never stopped praying and I never stopped trying to have conversations with them but outside of you losing this person you essentially witnessing them lose their identity. I love the picture he painted that it felt like they were walking together and then you turn to your side and you’re no longer walking together . With all that being said I encourage everyone in the faith to not only check on the physical well-being when it comes to loved ones but always ask if the person is still praying, are they still having quite time? if not then why? Not say their salvation is your responsibility but I believe we are to help each other run this race well. Check in and pray!

@masegomoruakgomo9033 Ай бұрын

First time on the channel and I loved this conversation, the transparency, the accountability, the nuggets of wisdom. The guest did a really great job of explaining his journey in a transparent and respectful way, not bashing the former and not disrespecting his current wife either, very delicate but he’s the first person I’ve heard handle remarriage/divorce subject this way 👏👏 much respect

@The_Dream_Space Ай бұрын

He truly did an amazing job of balancing things with love and grace and honesty. Such a special quality and a true reflection of who he is as a person. Thanks so much for tuning in, hope you get to watch more episodes 🙏🏾

@gugungonyama1341 2 ай бұрын

Shout out to Juls! Still the same gent from His People and living with us at the commune back in 2007. So genuine and consistent ❤

@lillymillion 2 ай бұрын

So many takeaways from this episode, too many to type... wow. Shout out to you Julz! 🙌🏾

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Massive shout out!!

@leornardmbatha7156 2 ай бұрын

Do you believe in love at first site? I did a subscribe at first minute. Yoh! Y’all killing it. I’m inspired. As a young husband navigating this thing I kinda need this community. Big ups guys. Wow.

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Love at first sight would be an interesting episode to explore hey. we’ll have to find someone who may have that story to share… thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@buyihlubi3344 2 ай бұрын

Wow so many gems in this convo🔥🔥 In addition to what was said, i took some lessons: 1. The importance of being with someone who has personal convictions outside of the church /home traditions. It becomes easier to sway from something God hasn't personally revealed. Values are not really values until one understands why. 2. It was in the moment she found people in her masters class that challenged her world views, that i was reminded of how deceptive the serpent was to Eve - he asked "did God really say you couldn't eat from that tree". In that moment, Eve's view changed. In essence, its important the to discern the kind of seed people plant in your life. Does it draw you away or closer to God? Can't wait for next week Loved this convo 👏🏼

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

It's so crazy cause most of us never want to believe we are influenced by others or the world around us yet it happens all the time. So we have to be intentional about what we take in and make sure to wash ourselves off of what may harm us or where we want to go... Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@masegomoruakgomo9033 Ай бұрын

Not exactly the same thing but this reminded me of a sermon I heard titled “Who’s whispering into your ear” it was basically about Naomi instructing Ruth and the importance of having the correct voice influence your actions

@kabelontobo303 Ай бұрын

1 Corin 15:33 Bad company corrupts good morals. Don't be a starring and think you can hangout with whoever, wherever and you won't be corrupted. Greater men and women have fallen because of false sense of bo Christian starring.

@lesegobabypuso8795 2 ай бұрын

What a heartwarming conversation between two men. Just came across this podcast and I’m thoroughly encouraged. We don’t see enough men talk about so honestly about God and their family life. More of these please

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for clicking and watching, so happy to have you 🙏🏾 We release this podcast every Wednesday at 11:30 so definitely stuck around. You can also turn notifications so you don't miss next week 😉

@nolwazindlovu2320 2 ай бұрын

This might be my fav episode for the year so far. There very clear points communicated.. Cause a husband shouldn’t be liberal is a powerful statement… be a lion as well. This episode very key. 👌🏾The chemistry was also so enjoyable.

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Yeah its definitely up there but we have just begun :) Thanks Nola!

@PhilasandeMalevu 2 ай бұрын

Julz is a gem fam

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

He's a solid brother. Good to see you over here as well bro! Thanks for watching 🙏🏾

@WordsPictures997 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely needed that note on " friendship ". That was very sobering. Thank you Gentlemen!

@Amza101 2 ай бұрын

Yho this was amazing!!!

@lillymillion 2 ай бұрын

I know we are very much in our feels (including me) but 50:12 - 50:40 "I bless people and help them find steps towards their destinies" took me out!!! 😂

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

It's okay to tell the truth! 😂😂😂

@kingdomliving-kingdomconve5511 2 ай бұрын

The counsel you gave the friend starting a new business, top tier Sir!!

@yasminekazadi1656 2 ай бұрын

God bless you for this Podcast, My goodness, this is divine and needed. For all of us fighting for our marriages.

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Amen and amen! Thanks so much, and I pray God strengthens all of us

@SisiM-fu4xq Ай бұрын

Wow I love this podcast. It’s needed

@bantukazimini4274 2 ай бұрын

Yhooo bro you coming hard....these episodes have been a lot..... Yhoo....Relax.... Yhooo.... Im still recovering from the previous ones ....😂😂😂😂 Bless you this is good for them husband's...im also learning a lot....the is so much realness 🙏🏽

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

😂 We not resting little sis!! Thanks so much for supporting 🙏🏾

@linetk5444 2 ай бұрын

Wow, such a beautiful, real and encouraging conversation, rooted in the Gospel... I hope we see more of these. Thanks you guys 🙌🏽

@nonkululekoxaba4820 Ай бұрын

First time here, I absolutely enjoyed the conversation. So healthy, and Godly. I would definitely not think twice to marry a wholesome divorcee like this Man of God.

@yolisalisanqari 2 ай бұрын

Wow this has been a great episode, I just said to myself let me comment before I go listen the 3rd time now. 😅 I am out here taking notes, thank you Pst Julz for coming in❤ I love the sense of humor in here 😅must say. Please Sir let the Lion roar and of course the lamb be in there too. I see your current marriage working sir and beautifully so. Thank you @TheDreamSpace for such a powerful installment ❤ Enkosini guys❤

@snenhlanhlamashile6398 2 ай бұрын

Definitely tuning in tonight ❤

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

See you later 😉

@mahadimkwanazi3152 23 күн бұрын

Really great guest! What a solid gent. 😊 I however struggled a bit with this conversation, I felt like I wanted to know MORE about his journey and less about his ex’s part of it as she isn’t here to speak for herself. It felt like too much was shared about her (she could be okay with it or not, I don’t know obviously) but my point is I would’ve loved to hear more about how he processed all of this for himself, without so many details about her. I’m still yet to watch part 2 so maybe this was needed for context I don’t know, I just know I struggled. But I also appreciated the vulnerability of this conversation. And I suppose inevitably details will be shared about the other as a marriage does make your lives one. So I suppose mixed feelings. PS You are doing great work on this platform though! Big ups

@DiscoveringKatlego 2 ай бұрын

The intro got me killing the subscribe button

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Thank you!!! We worked hard on that 🙌🏾

@Engetelani 2 ай бұрын

Loved this episode so much 👏🏾

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@Nandy_Nyc Ай бұрын

This was wholesome

@annieluhanga1229 2 ай бұрын

This was beautiful to watch.

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@nokuthulaphakathi2798 Ай бұрын

I love this may the good God continue to make man be open and teach one another.

@ntomboxolosontsonga9608 2 ай бұрын

Just subscribed for my partner. I hope he grasps what your channel wants to promote. Keep going

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

I hope so too. Thank so much for watching and the encouragement 🙏🏾

@IT6PR 2 ай бұрын

I was there in that period where young black men were inspired to mary at His People, Jhb. You had to be there +/- 2006. It was beautiful to see young black men being inspired to take up the call of being husbands. I love to hear Julez reflect on that. I am deeply sorry to hear that things didn't work out with first wife Ps Julez. I loved you both, and love the grace arround it all...

@emba_d 2 ай бұрын

YEY YEY YEY YEY!! What in the world is going on in this episode🤯🔥🤺🤺🤺 Do y’all really want us to timestamp every minute?😮 I’ve just gone through WAY too many emotions in one hour😮‍💨 Nah y’all went off🤒

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Give us the timestamps! 😂

@emba_d 2 ай бұрын

@@The_Dream_Space There’s too many, I’ve had to watch this episode 3 times. He needs to come back after next week to double click on some stuff. But 42:50 literally made me go get a glass of water the first time I watched. Shoutout to Julz. Don’t know how he’s able to crack jokes while sharing this 🍃

@Vutlhari_Mathebula 2 ай бұрын

Here I am all the way from tik-tock🎉🎉

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

thanks for tuning in!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

@wendymashiyane1025 2 ай бұрын

This was too beautiful to watch🥺🥺❤

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@Pinki0134 2 ай бұрын

Grace all over this testimony...even in the way the story is told. Very encouraging and rare.

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Agreed! Julz did an impeccable job in expressing his story accurately but with grace and accountability. Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

@ZakaniNgqokotya 2 ай бұрын

Also please consider iniquity found in the blood of both couples. That comes in because of their legal right to come and collect in the form of finding yourself not interested in your partner any more, out of nowhere not interested in fighting for your marriage coz Satan had infiltrate it. Expecially when u know God told about your partner... but I'm glad of wat your doing because this is important for men find people to account to expecially mem particular saved men

@innocentiaradebe9314 2 ай бұрын

❤❤

@joshchabalaendure6223 2 ай бұрын

This is great, are you on Spotify?

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Hey thanks so much, yes we are set up now open.spotify.com/show/4niQ41FftbvrNUfILSXjCR

@user-il9wn1mf3f 2 ай бұрын

Hey bro you're not alone in this walking away instead of resolving it which is not Good but we're working on it

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

Keep working on it and praying for guidance as well 🙏🏾

@yvonneoshevwe2334 Ай бұрын

Can you allow the save button please? Thank you

@The_Dream_Space Ай бұрын

Hi not sure what you mean... We don't control the save button. KZfaq allows all videos to be saved to personal or public playlists

@nosipheloduduma3735 2 ай бұрын

This conversation 😢😢😢😢

@KamurukoVillage 2 ай бұрын

Edifying really... Confident it's doable and that's it's desirable

@The_Dream_Space 2 ай бұрын

definitely! thanks so much watching 🙏🏾

@ndumisodlamini711 Ай бұрын

First time watching your podcast. My concern though, as long as there's no opportunity to hear from the other. Rather stay away from details. Adam, did not divorce Eve. That is, if you heard from God. God is Alpha & Omega. Certainly, in that context, God knew your future. P Perhaps, I declare, twice I have been divorced. Yet am a devoted Christian all my life.

@The_Dream_Space Ай бұрын

thanks for watching and the feedback. Everyone has the right to share their story if they choose to and when it suits them. This was an opportunity our guest took for himself. if the other party ever wished to, that would be her choice.