NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.

Girls have thousands of dm’s that they don’t even read while most guys have 0 dm’s and we’re just waiting for at least 1. Life ain’t fair

I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.

I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”

If she doesn’t respond to your dm, you go for her friends. Stay toxic kings 👑👑👑

From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!

Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.

You have been posting like a champ! Congratulations on the channel’s growth and thanks for helping us knuckleheads.

You are down to earth, sincere and obviously care about helping viewers. Thanks for always having awesome videos. Your boyfriend is a lucky dude. Best wishes.

As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.

I've been smiling while watching this knowing that Im doing it right. The Courtney style. Hahaha Great video!

Even if a girl has 1,000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1,000 unread messages. Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation. And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.

I think a good general rule of thumb is to avoid messaging girls you haven’t met and interacted with in person. As always, great tips Courtney.

Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.

This video helps more than enough Courtney. Ironically enough, i met some of the girls i was into through twitter and i just realized i been using your advice this whole time there. I haven't dm many girls on Instagram but some have dm me first. If i do, it's because we have something in common. I rarely message girls with tons of followers tho. I'll be using your advice about Instagram stories too since i know most people kinda ignore those. Have a great day 🌼

Me slides in her DM's: "Hi" Her: "Sorry do I know you?"

Your advice is very insightful, thank you for giving us your perspective. 💯

watched this for the first time and i'm into it! love your style, way of talking and voice! I becomes your a huge big fan! from korea

On this last times I'm avoiding social media, I'm feel so strange to use this and I prefer to improve myself on things what really matters to me. Thanks Courtney for this tips Greetings from Brazil.

Hey Courtney, I love your whole vibe & energy 😊🤞🏽

You were honest throughout the video .. thats great. Very well made video, looking professional!

This is good stuff. I met all of my past significant others on the dance floor (ballroom, swing, and country specifically), but since that's not an option these days maybe it's worth considering meeting people on the internet...

Great video Courtney... I kind of figured that Beautiful Women like yourself get thousands of messages and that makes it tougher to find the Woman we desire when it seems demand supercedes the supply. I am over 40 and still single, just been unable to find what I am desiring because it's been tough to find single Women that are Beautiful to me online or in real life.

Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help

The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.

You are so cool and honest, thanks for the video

Love your content courtney, so honest and helpful

Thanks, Courtney, I've been watching your vids since December time last year and they've been very helpful. So thank you very much! :D

Good one! I’m always messaging women (not “girls”) I’m attracted to on IG. It’s hit & miss. Sometimes I get a response. Sometimes I don’t.

Courtney I guess I am slow or I missed something entirely here b/c I had no idea Instagram was being used as a side dating/meeting app, this explains a lot of other thoughts I had about Instagram but I usually just use mine from time to time to post pictures. Thanks for the helpful info, definitely appreciated!

Hey Courtney, great video. Could you please do a video about colour co-ordinating. How to match colours. Can I wear black denim with brown leather shoes, or why shouldn't we wear navy with black, or what colours are most versatile for summer?

I love the way you always say "I promise". I have a question about messaging someone from a business perspective. How do you reach them quickly without spam if she doesn't know you? I often see "email for collaboration' yet no url is given. They are so hard to reach as you were describing you only have maybe one brief shot, what is the best message to break through the wall? Will you comment directly?

Once again our friend Courtney is absolutely right. Even tho I don't care use social media.

Thanks for the advice and the tips really appreciate it :)

Your voice made my anxiety go down, and my game level up. Congratulations🎉 (and thanks)

thanks for not being a shittalker like many other “dating” channels out there

Courtney your skin is glowing. In April I'm jealous

Most interesting video, thanks Courtney 😘

Wow! I really needed this.

thank you courtney!!!!["oh lets try to be diffrent"] boys,"iam bowing to courtney who is helps out us as an elder sister",iam greatfull to u.

Courtney with another banger vid 👍

Courtney your content is marvelous ❤️💯

Great topic. Keep up the great advice

Thanks for this. Appreciate your content.

Hi Courtney, I currently use Tiege Hanley for my skincare routine and follow it very closely. Is this a good brand to use or is there something else you would suggest?

I took this advice and got a date set up.. thank you Courtney

You’re so detailed and well thought-out I’m surprised you haven’t written an ebook.

When I see these videos I always feel left out. I've never had social media from the time myspace started to everything out right now. Never had any of those apps. I still do things the old fashion way like my father taught me and do face to face interactions. Just last week I walked up to a women at the grocery store, introduced myself and told her i was attracted to her and that didn't want to take up too much of her time so I got straight to the point and asked for her number. She gave me her nunber and later confessed that she was blown away with my confidence that I just came up to her in person and asked for her number and that was the reason she did give me her number. She was impressed and all I did was introduce myself.

Love ur honesty

This is a God-send! I don't like dating apps so this is very helpful. Thank you!

Good morning from AZ Ms. Ryan. I have a question, I was asked to be a groomsmen in a wedding this summer. Could you do a video on tips on being a groomsmen? For this particular wedding, I have to wear a black suit, white shirt and I'm assuming black tie. Thank you for your time.

I do all the stuff you said to do and ya I do get responses from girls sometime but I struggle to lead the conversation from there. Do make video on that too.

That was really helpfull! Keep it up

Courtney always keeps it real!! The funny part in this video is that she tried so hard not to say that word nevertheless it still came out somehow 😂. “Don’t send a dick pic” 😭 and she said it twice 🤣🤣. This is so funny to me because even in a relationship I don’t let my girl send me such pictures or myself do that, I personally think it’s not respectful I rather show the girl or see her live Lol 🤷🏾‍♂️. Plus I know a thing or two about the internet just know your pictures are stored somewhere in the cloud unless you don’t care Lol!!

You are just amazing ❤️

Will you make a dating tips video for people with social disabilities (like autism) or people who are naturally very awkward?

The message was direct and clear

I really lov u❤❤ ur advices ar dope

this is great tips i got layed doing this :) change approch do not talk about sex ... dont send dp, Be real. be honst, communinate it will work out eventually

Though I'm not on Instagram nor will I ever be, I was definitely curious.

Love your advice!!!

Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going

Courtney I saved this video thanks Courtney I was having trouble messaging girls but with this advice I can improve 😎 thanks Courtney your the best 😎🔥

Thanks for the advice!

Thanks! Also congratulations on them muscle weight gain!

Much needed video, thank you so much Courtney!!

It’s really rare that I message on social media, excited to hear your thoughts on this! ☺️

- The guy who sent over 500 messages rn: “Yeah I got finally noticed” 😂

Appreciate the effort💜

I'm going to be a working professional soon and I've been told it will be difficult to meet people once I graduate from college. I didn't date during my tenure at college. What can I do in order to meet women once I graduate and start work? I have made friends including several female friends who I can meet in person once in a while or text/message on social media but not of any romantic interest but it's very difficult to go from friends to romantic relationships if I don't see them every day or as frequently as I used to in college. I am not a fan of online dating and casual dating.

Thank you sooo much, feels like your my big sis Britney !

agreed, talking about her life and story works and the last two i have never done and just thinking about it is cringy af, also you should do a "How to message Men on instagram" video for the women on your channel and it would allow a sort of self reflection for men on your channel who use social media because men and women view social media differently.

Courtney is on a mission for the guys to make a gf online keep it going

She doesn’t miss!! 👏

Courtney, just listen to your Advice Column/vlog for the first time. I thought it very sound. I was pleasantly surprised that I do the SE things that you do although I have hink idp need to tone it down at times on liking photos. I look forward toteying it out on "Real women" on Instagram instead of all the scammers on these dating sites. By the way, I have now turneddown/ walked away from 850 scam artists. I'd love to share some stories and commiserate w you if you decide to vlog on safe guarding yourself from love scammers. Lol. By the way, in what cit do you live?

Thanks for the advice❤️

cant believe im watching this

Your voice is soothing

I studied 4 years of Chemistry and Endocrinology at University and they were wayy easier than all.this dating and messaging instructions and rules to follow.

Great video. Can you do a video on dating when you work 12 hour days. I'm a Mailman and find it hard to date.

Me: DM’s Courtney .... Haha jk jk she’s great & even tho she regularly posts videos to put me on blast 😝, they’re still the best! Appreciate the effort in seeing it from a guys perspective & sharing the lady’s perspective as well

Hi Courtney great content! Could you possibly make video on men dating outfits with women. Thanks.

I thing that was helpful somehow thank you so much beautiful

Hi Courtney. Since watching this video based on girls on Instagram, how about making a video on which girls on Instagram are red flags 🚩 and which are the ones you take home to mom? I’m asking you because you could help filter out the good ones from the bad ones. There’s a lot of good looking women on Instagram but it’s hard to filter out the good ones from the bad ones. Pls help. Thanks.

I gotta ask you something Courtney. When a random girl who doesn't follow a guy on Insta suddenly pops up in his notifications and likes 3 of his last posts, does he have to respond to that? And if yes, what does he have to do? Is there anything the girl is trying to say or imply with those 3 likes or it's just likes with no hint? By the way, I did put some of what you said into practice and I got a reply! But of course, I was being genuine with my text and did not beat around the bush. I followed the girl, asked her a question that concerned something I saw in her bio and I got the most polite and respectful response! And please don't forget about the question I wrote above.

Never had an Instagram, however I’m very curious about the long distance relationship situation. I can understand the issues with living in different states, but what about a situation when it comes to work? For example I served in the Army for 6 years, and now it’s a truck driver, I’m actually working in the oilfields in Oklahoma but I live in Texas, on my days off I go back home. Whenever you do make a video about the long distance situation, hopefully you don’t use your 1 bad experience to judge it. Most of the guys I work with have wife’s and kids and we are out several weeks at a time so it’s not impossible. I’m curious on what your take on the long distance situation.

Nice mind of yours... First time watching your video

I try not to use social media when interacting with females. It’s just too hard to know what to read. It’s better if I’m just being friends with them and texting, because there won’t be any expectations of dating the girl.

This helped alot thx so much

Good list of tips 🌹

Thank you queen 🫡

Another daily vido! Wow Ryan

Hey Courtney I love your videos. If you haven’t done so already you should make a video when a girl you really like is losing interest what should you do ?

Messaging her story is a good idea. Is it weird to message their story if you not following her on instagram? Or follow, then message. May be discuss in a Part 2 or 3 of this topic.

Advice... yeaaah that’s why I messaged you ....

OK, sounds simple enough. Her & I have this strong conversation when I DM her and she likes a lot of my photos so I guess I should just keep going and see if it leads to where I want it to lead.

Your voice is lovely 😌

I didn’t watch because I have a wonderful wife, but always happy to see your face Courtney. SEIKO IS KING !!!

Just what I need

Courtney Ryan giving the secret sauce, I need some of that yhhhh