Having a lawyer will boost your confidence for approaching

#1) When a girl glances at you - but not always when she glances at you #2) When she makes eye contact with you - but sometimes it is by accident and she isn't interested #3) When she smiles at you - but sometimes they are just being polite and smiling at everyone #4) When she fixes her hair - but sometimes they are just fixing their hair for no reason at all #5) When she moves closer to you - but sometime it is just happens to be near you Clear as mud

I'm a nurse. I worked with a girl who did many of these things, so I approached her and she was very receptive. We even planned to get together in our off time for what I would call a date even though we did not use that terminology. She was super flirty and even occasionally caught me off guard by talking sexually. Later, I decided I liked her enough to date her, and only then did she tell me she had a boyfriend. She acted like it was a total surprise that I was into her despite my having been very clear about that the whole time. Some women just want the attention and they think as long as they don't do anything physical it is not cheating. Despite knowing my feelings for her, she said we should still be friends and nothing had to change as long as I didn't make a big deal out of it and I said no. I wanted to respect her boyfriend because if I was him I would want that respect. This blew my mind. Why would I have more respect for her boyfriend than even she did?

I had a woman approach me and I could tell right away she was into me. She came up to me smiling and we got on the subject of what kind of food I like and what my drink of choice was. What made me know for sure she was into me is when she actually brought me the food and drink we were just talking about. I fell in love right away.

"Being a woman isn't easy." "And how is that?" "Imagine waiting for a reply without sending the message."

Final bonus from me: If a girl comes up to you and ask you to buy her a drink or her friends drinks, it's a sign that she just want free drinks. Don't do it boys...

The duration of eye contact is the give away. The longer the higher the interest. Eyes are truly the windows to the soul.

I appreciate your statement that you are just being realistic, people lose sight of how important it is to confront "what actually is the reality". That stuck out for me. You can either attempt to find a relationship with an imaginary girl who conforms to your preconceived notions of how they should act, or you can attempt to find a relationship with an actual girl who... is going to act the way she acts.

Going to bars is a terrible place for introverted people who aren't big drinkers, and hate having to yell to speak. It's like; be someone you're not, in a place you don't want to be, doing something you don't want to do.

My motto is rejection from a woman can be a way God saving you from a headache you don't need. The woman that's meant for you won't reject you. Give her a compliment and keep on moving.

You are a powerful force for good, innovation, creativity and progress. Instead of wasting your time trying to figure out if a girl is signalling you or just fixing her hair, go be the best version of you that you can be. Give it your undivided attention until you wake up every day, ecstatic about who you are as a person and what you can and do accomplish every day. If you do this, you will realise that raising a family and impressing a woman is not as high a priority as you have been conditioned to think it is. Impress yourself. That will make you truly happy.

When approaching a woman tell her that you don't have any money and still live with your parents.

And remember, just because she has a restraining order on you, DOESN'T mean she's interested in you.

Guys, protip: If she breaks into your house to steal a lock of your hair for her altar, she's DEFINITELY at least minimally interested in you, but it depends on the context.

Being direct is NOT rude! It's actully a gift!

Explaining somethings like this is already fun to hear but when a beautiful girl like you do that it makes it so much more fun to watch 🤩

Tips to ladies to approach guys: Make it CLEAR that you are interested with your actions and words. It's hard these days to know if a woman is really interested in us or not.

1. Do approach a girl if she is sitting/standing and looks relaxed. ... 2. Do approach if you've noticed her sending several glances and/or smiles your way. ... 3. Don't approach a girl if she looks upset. ... 4. Don't approach a girl if she is deeply preoccupied with something. 5. Try in public place airport, coffee shop, library or book store, parks

It's so true. Was talking to a girl for a hour at a party, a neighbor said hello, female, I turned my body to be polite and say hello and 2 moments later the first girl walked away. At the time it blew me away because I was just being kind to the neighbor. Live and learn.

I luv that she is not a narcissist, and a college attendant. Down to earth

1- 1:10 The Glance - Checking, Or See you at many times. 2- 2:54 Eye Contact 3- 3:54 A Smile - Smile, Eye Contact and look away. 4- 5:27 Touching her Hair 5- 6:34 She's getting Closer to you

They smile to acknowledge your existence 😭😭😭😂😂.. that line got me

38 yr old single man here .. Just wanted to say I've watched quite a few of your videos and enjoy your nice calm feminine demeanor : ) You make some excellent points about the times we are in as far as dating goes. It's just another world out there : / I've always been a relationship type of guy and since I was 19 have usually had a girlfriend. 5 great women to be exact. Each relationship was truly amazing in its own way and I'll always adore each one of those girls .. They were a big part of my life as I was coming of age and each one taught me something different. As far as the times a woman ever hit on me or approached me I can count on one hand lol. I'm speaking of times a girl actually either bumped into me and talked to me or gave me a comment and not just the eye contact/glances/looks from across the room. I still think us men should be the ones to initiate conversation and or introduce ourselves. However, we really are separating ourselves from you ladies and not approaching you as if it has become not even worth it. The disinterest of men wanting to meet and talk to women especially these past few years is alarming. Almost seems as if something so innocent as a man approaching a woman to give a compliment/say something and try and see if there is a connection is a lost art or an ancient form of communication lol. The pandemic did not help AT ALL with any of this. I believe at this point we all crave a return to normalcy so bad that we don't really know exactly what to do in a sense. Kinda sad that we've gotten to this point but its on both sexes to get back to how things used to be. If you think about it we can eliminate and disregard social media from our lives and try to get back to basics. Ya know simple easy dating stuff : ) Think back to when you were young and wanted to ask a girl you liked to roller 'slow' skate with you to a sweet rock ballad lol You were head over heels and in puppy love. Nothing can replace human emotion and human contact and the bond between a man and a woman. You can't eliminate human compassion.

Excellent content; this relationship dynamic is complicated for many men. You highlight some good advice for men only searching for a soul mate to enjoy life with. Thank you for your work! We really appreciate you and treasure your input.

For me a direct rejection is so much less hurtful and more respectful than hoping a guy will read your subtle hints. If I'm nervous in approaching a woman, and I usually am, I tend to overlook things I normally wouldn't miss when I'm not nervous. Anyway, thank you for the videos on common advice that's not so common anymore. Things I wish I knew earlier. I'm grateful for you taking the time to make these videos for people like me, thanks again.

Tip to women: when you go to social events as a group, don't create "gates" by seating or standing close together. This creates the idea that you are guarding yourselves and it sends the wrong message to men, it ends with many men not approaching. Instead, give yourselves some space between each other or go to different parts of the venue. Walk around the venue too, don't just stay in one spot the whole night. It gives off the feeling that you are afraid and don't want to be approach. Just what I've noticed, after going to social meet ups and hearing several women complaining about how men don't approach you. It's due to how you set yourselves up and how you set your environments and vibes too.

Hi Courtney. Your whole presentation is easy to listen to and benefit from, even though I am not fishing for someone new at this time. That is all to say, that I am not trying to flatter you with the following words, only to genuinely complement you. You are sensible, sensitive, insightful, helpful, a pleasant person and otherwise very appealing (that's the easy-to-listen-to part). I do like to smile at most people because it is generally a feel-good thing. Bars have never been appealing to me; alcohol isn't needed to make life enjoyable, and if anything it creates dependence or looseness. The fellow who may have captured your heart is apparently an upstanding character and certainly fortunate to have your attention. So there, I hope my words are encouraging to you (even though your eyes may never see them).

I feel like I'm in a relationship just watching this young lady speak. Lots of wisdom there to be so young!

5 Body Language Signs She Wants you to Approach her. Courtney Ryan 1- 1:10 The Glance - Checking, Or See you at many times. 2- 2:54 Eye Contact 3- 3:54 A Smile - Smile, Eye Contact and look away. 4- 5:27 Touching her Hair 5- 6:34 She's getting Closer to you

i've started making more eye contact with females. and wow it is a huge difference. i've always been shy but have always noticed women looking at me, and now i can pretty much read if they seem to like what they see. it's crazy. i really would suggest making eye contact if they are looking your way.

Your words just proved what I’d observed personally but had some doubts. Thank you🙏

GREAT VIDEO COURTNEY!!!!! THIS IS ONE OF YOUR BEST!!!!! SIMPLE AND TO THE POINT!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH AND I LEARNED SO MUCH!!!!

When you know she wants you to approach her and you ignore all the signs so she doesn’t get validated 🙏

Women: I like honest communication: also women... I expect you to read my mind thru ambivalent body language 😅🤣😅🤣

I’m so sorry you went through that terrible guy who didn’t know how to take a hint. You’re so beautiful and polite and thoughtful…. And loved the video …

Great tips. I've been so bad at reading body language. Reflecting on past experiences, I've seen those signs and not acted on them. It's probably the reason I'm still single. I'll hopefully be smarter in the future after seeing this video.

1. The glance (and then a second glance). 2. Eye contact. 3. A smile (in combination with 1 and 2). 4. Touching her hair, brush her hair with her hand, twirling her hair with finger. 5. Getting closer to you (moving from across the room to very near your proximity). If you talk to her and she turns to face you full body, her feet are pointed to you, it's on! If she comes up and talks to you, even saying the DUMBEST thing on planet Earth, most likely, she's into you.

I will always remember my mother telling me " the kind of people you meet in a bar are the kind of people you meet in a bar ".

Thank you for these great videos. I might suggest that people from different areas communicate differently. Where I'm from we all typically just talk about ourselves but we all also understand that doing so is an invitation for you to talk about yourselves, and we all know that we will be heard and listened to. When I moved to different areas I noticed that this was not always well received and it took me a while to learn that communication styles vary depending on where you are. I think the takeaway here is whether or not you feel like you were paid attention to when you were speaking. Imho!

this one is really helpful courtney!! in general terms, us men are really dense with respect to picking up on ladies cues. once again, thanks courtney ✨

"She wants to be approached by you..." Until her friends say you're a troll and suddenly you're harassing her and then the guy who's simping for her wants to go outside and settle it and then you wind up in the back of a squad car and swear off approaching women... The problem with body language is in this day and age it's alllllll fun and games until someone gets doxxed and cancelled.

I’m an older guy and semi-retired. I have a part-time job at a grocery store to keep from being bored. I see these signs all the time, between customers mostly, and sometimes directed toward me. I see men miss these signs all the time. Getting closer is definitely a positive sign. I get to see women talking to their friends, so I know their intentions. I’ve seen ladies point out a man, then look his way a couple times, then play with their hair, then get closer. It may sound strange, but a grocery store is a good place to meet people. You can tell a lot about people by what food they buy and you can tell if they have similar tastes. I’ve seen a lot of dates happen in the grocery store I work.

I have always let women approach me . That way I know she is interested for certain . Otherwise I don't bother . It worked for me .

Man i have been clueless to the signs until now thank you for the tips

Hi Courtney, I recently discovered your channel and I love it. It's great hearing a down to earth female's perspective on these things. Keep up the great work!

Courtney rejections are probably like “thanks BUD but I’m not interested at this time”.

Thank e so very much for the insight. It's sometimes difficult to understand a woman & her body language. Don't want to misunderstand what she might be sharing with you.

Courtney you are spot on . I'm 57 and been around the world a few times. Thousands of bars, clubs and cafe's.

It's really important to remember that just one thing isn't an indicator, it's the cluster that is the giveaway. The more indicators the better. A smile, or a hair twirl, or proximity, or eye contact, any of these things by themselves isn't likely to mean anything. If there's three or four things going on, I'd say be open to possibilities and say hello.

If she wants me to approach her, then she should approach me. Otherwise I can already tell I'll be going through hoops every step of the way hence she's not worth it. Yall wanted equality, yall got it. She has nothing to risk, I'm not putting my head on the block over her inability to communicate.

I just moved to Florida from NYC and don't know anyone in my area. I haven't been single in over a decade, so all of this is new to me. Thanks for the advice, and hopefully, I will find someone soon. Women always give the best advice about other women. 💯

You have a really lovely voice and manner Courtney and your analysis is pretty accurate I think. It’s a little amusing to me that us guys need this stuff to be explained to us after all the years of evolution but we DO, tend to need this advice. Even if it’s just to confirm what we already suspect or, “know” about the opposite sex. Only recently discovered your channel and I’m really enjoying the content so you have another happy subscriber! May I also say you are a very lovely looking lady! Wishing you a nice day/week/month from Australia 🙏😉👍

As someone who’s not the most garrulous person and had to do speech-language therapy growing up, this is so helpful. I’m terrified of approaching beautiful women and knowing the signs that they’re interested definitely helps. You rock, Courtney!

"Having the confidence to approach a girl" I don't wanna go to jail tho 😂😂😂

I love how you put the background perfectly and classy..interior decoration is on point. By the way..english girls do this weird thing where she signals you to wait and not leave the time till less people are around..

A girl came up to me to ask what time it was. I assumed her phone was probably dead, so I told her the time and I left. A girl approaching you means she needs something from you. I learned that over the years. Best to get it over with as fast as possible. No misunderstandings, no games, no problems that way.

All of these can relate back to her just being normal and nice

I won’t even bother with approaching women any more (at least in the USA). So many have absolutely nothing to offer in a relationship. I visited Poland 2 years ago and holy shit, the women there actually seem to have their shit together and enjoy life. The difference in the “women culture” (if that’s a thing) was staggering. Made me want to move there JUST to meet a partner.

Damn. This video hits so hard. Looking back and thinking about all of my social situations ive been in, i now realize that ive never once, not even once, had a girl interested in me. Feels bad man.

Being the 5th boy in an all boy family with a single mother I had no idea what girls were about, your talks are very informative, TY!

I had a girl (one of my employee's daughters) come sit next to me and started to talk. I basically did what Courtney did because of ethical reason. Dating the daughter of someone who works for me is a bad idea. She eventually got the hint.

Dating should not be this complicated and things are only getting worse. Gentlemen, the juice is NO longer worth the squeeze. Go, chase your dreams, not these women, and make something of yourself.

The last part about a girl saying something to the guy kinda hit me, because that happened to me twice, and the first time only afterwards did I think that maybe there was more to it, the second time it hit me as it happened but I wasn't sure - or how to proceed. It's good to hear it said.

Thanks Courtney for helping me out on this one.

Courtney you helped me so much with your bonus tip in the end. I never had a girlfriend and a girl chatted up with me for pretty much the first time in my life. I think I found someone super special and your words gave me the confidence I needed. I’m so excited to get to know her and maybe have her join my self improvement journey. Thank you so friquin much! I love you!

This is one of the best channels I have come across this year

Wow, right now I’m just trying to work my way out f this relationship. Being married, and a business at home has made it horribly difficult. (Also expensive, and infinitely more expensive as there’s property, and wealth involved. Had enough! Thanks for the helpful posts!

1:09 "The Glance" 2:52 Repeated eye contact 3:51 "The Smile" 5:25 Playing with hair (while giving attention) 6:33 Faces your direction 9:37 Talks to you Pretty vague hints mostly, but at least I get where you're coming from. 🤷 I just don't think I'll ever be in the locations, or look the right way, to see if these work for me. 😔 At least anymore, at my age.

Just started watching your videos Courtney and while I myself am just starting to heal from a very deep traumatic wound from being with a woman who was total sociopathic narcissist, these videos are slowly helping me to recover and teaching me the signs and signals to look and what red flags to avoid. Have a blessed one🙏🥰

Hello Ms. Courtney. Been listening to some of your posts for awhile now and have since just subscribed. I can't say enough how refreshing it is to hear the personal integrity of an intelligent woman speak to her audience with the clarity and honesty that you do. As well as offering your opinion and calling out others immature methods of attracting (or not) the opposite gender. After a long term relationship, I have no idea how to go about the dating scene in today's volatile climate. Although I can attest that honesty, politeness, humor and good old-fashioned chivalry are proud attributes of mine that are in short supply and help carry my own integrity. Hearing your perspective is reassuring to learn that overthinking this stuff just isn't necessary. Also, the main reason for my reply is hearing you mention where you're from, so I couldn't resist the opportunity to say hello to a North Coast neighbor. Forgive my curiosity however; "West Side" or "East Side?" (Only Landers will understand). Either way, small world. How cool! How pleasing to be listening to your Midwest values and intelligence. Thank you. Your content is superb. Have a grand day!

Probably the best video I have seen on this topic.

I am terrible at reading body language. A girl practically has to sit in my lap or give me an inappropriately looong hug. Good video, Courtney!

If you can accept a rejection “standing tall”, the woman will usually seek you out later, because it is a sign of strength to be able to handle rejection with dignity and kindness.

You are an angel Courtney. Thanks for everything you do. They are blessed to have you as their teacher.

You give good advice. Very often it is when two or three movement line up.

I really appreciate your video Courtney, thank you. These are actually some things that boys--and therefore men--don't get told, and simply don't know. (Like me.)

Nice hearing these tips. Looking back I can say more girls were interested in me then I thought. Except I'm on the spectrum and so social signals don't register even more than the typical guy. I swear I'm as dense as a anime protagonist.

Oh man, I wish I learned about body language when I was a teenager, or even in college. All very helpful tips. - Thank you! A tip to ladies. When a guy approaches, he doesn’t know how many guys have approached you previously. He doesn’t know what your day was like. So, please be respectful and kind in your response, because approaching a lady can be a very difficult event for a guy.

You deliver your messages very well. Respect.

Hi from Cali 👋🏼. Thanks for these helpful tips. Ive always had a difficult time deciphering whether or not a girl is interested and wants me to make a move. Although context matters and I'm not going to make assumptions, knowing these general behaviors can give me some idea how a girl may be feeling. 👍🏼

And remember lads there is absolutely nothing stopping her from calling the police and pressing charges if you're wrong about any of this. Contrary to popular mythology it does not have to be repeated unwanted advances to warrant a police complaint. If you say hello and she doesn't like it that's harassment. This kind of thing is just a really bad idea if you aren't wealthy, tall, and single digit body fat.

I'm on the autism spectrum and reading body language can be a really difficult thing for me. I'm staying strong but honestly the dating world for men like me is hell. Most girls notice my problems right away and are never nice about it. Infact they are straight up bullies about it. Everyday I feel closer and closer to just saying screw it and just giving up. Sorry I dont mean to be negative but I just needed to vent and I have no one to vent to at this point in time. I'm tired and I'm sick of not allowing myself to be tired because I'm worried about what some woman will think of me for being tired. I dont know what I should do. I'm too hard headed to give up but I know I'm not gonna get anywhere. I do feel better after this little bit of venting though. 😎😁

You’re always rock solid my dear !!❤ best wishes to you!!

if she smiles at you, shes not interested.. but if she looks at you and then immediately away, she is! lol

You asked how guys liked to get approached. So I’d like to give my 2 cents. This is me personally, and as honest as possible. Guys don’t care one way or the other how we’re approached. Literally, we don’t. It’s my observation that women are the ones that get spooked, and guys just simply don’t. Things don’t creep us out or frighten us when getting approached by a woman. Ever. This could just be me, but I think I speak for the majority of the male population here on this one. Real talk, if a pretty girl walks up to me who I’ve never seen in my life and told me aliens are attacking earth, I would honestly react by saying “thank god, finally. We’re long overdue.” In summary, since men aren’t the ones usually getting bombarded with women at our door, we appreciate any approach no matter the form it takes.

Step 1. Be Attractive Step 2. Don't be unattractive Step 3. .... Step 4. Profit

Thank you Courtney great advice as always!

Haven't noticed any of these signs... message received

It infuriates me when girls who constantly ask their girlfriends for an opinion on a guy that they are interested in. I just wish that women would be more upfront. Not asking their friends about if he is the right match for her.

Thank you for all this Courtney and not hating on you or women for that matter. You really are a nice person. At 47 though, I don't care anymore and honest to God never thought I would reach a point in my to realize that relationships are way overrated.

So I have someone who’s caught my eye. We work together and as we talk she is constantly fixing her hair. Like combing through it with her hands and constantly repositioning it. I guess that’s a good sign

Ladies..definitely approach..I have had it happen a few times..and it was totally unexpected but flattering.

When a girl glances over at me I always assume that she DOESN'T want me to approach her lol.

I am a high functioning autistic. This advice is very helpful as body language is not something I notice easily. Now I know what to watch for and can hopefully not make a fool of myself like so many times throughout my life. Thank you for the guidance.

My only form of socializing is when I’m at work. I work in retail so it’s sort of inappropriate for an associate to talk to a customer in a specific way. They could come back and talk to a manager. Nowadays the dating scene is tricky.

This reminds me of my high school love. Very unusual case - she actually approached me. 1) She was older than me (I was 17 at the time) .I don't know how is it in your culture but in Bulgaria older students think of their younger peers as less than human. Friendship between men was possible (with the said effect still valid to an extent) but a girl approaching a younger boy for romantic purposes - no, that was extremely rare in my days at high school. I literally can't think of another similar example. 2) In my eyes she was drop dead gorgeous. Her face , her figure , her hair , her speech , her mind ... 3) She was not just an A student but also a biology champion from competitions. The greatest female mind I have been with and without bragging too much I have been with a lot with that regard. .She was the star of her class with me being just another regular A student in only some of the subjects (maths, history, english and philosophy) 4) She was by no means a Nerd. Absolutely wild , confident and protective of her freedom while being invasive of others'. She liked super hero movies and damn she seemed somewhat of an evil genius. What happened was that she came to me in the school yard grabbed me by the hand, separated me from my peers and said : "I like you a lot". There was a brief awkward moment of silence (as I was in total awe ) and then she started playing vulnerable "Oh, I am so nervous blah blah blah". Total 180 from being a confident predator to being potential prey. I had no choice but to oblige: "No ,no, no you shouldn't be ,I also like you , I like you , I like you, don't go!" One time when she was giving me a handjob in the park she ripped open a part of my penis tissue and there was a ton of blood - a complete mess. I still carry the scar to this day.

(I live in Miami) Last month, a girl hit the bar while I was enjoying my solitude and my beer. She suddenly starts talking to me and asking for opinion about what drink to have. She was interested. Plot twist: she was interested in me buying her a drink, not in me. I did buy her a drink though, because she earned it after talking with me for so long. She then said she was going to regroup with her friends and be back. I took a sip of my beer and walked the other way.

#1 solid eye contact ,few times, my green light to go in with smile and introduce myself casually, works most time lol- good advice, jst go for it and be yourself guys, you never know until you try🤙

#1 1:09: The Glance #2 2:52: Eye Contact #3 3:51: A smile #4 5:25: Touching her Hair #5 6:33: She’s getting closer

I know it might sound weird, but there is nothing obvious, but it is chemistry, something hidden but you can feel it. When this kind of awkwardness is there, you two like each other. When it's one sided, that's a wrong feeling, maybe you need something else, not to be with this person, but you might lack something else that you need to find.