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1. Negative self talk 2. Lacking good hygiene or grooming habits all together 3. Revving your engine/driving unsafely 4. No chivalry on dates 5. Too agreeable/passive 6. Emotianal vomit 7. Talking about other women

Happy Fathers Day Fathers

Having poor hygiene is huge for both men and women. Nobody wants to be with somebody that has terrible hygiene and doesn’t take care of themselves. It’s a red flag for me, it’s disgusting.

Important thing: 0:16 First Thing - Negative Self-talk; 1:53 Second Thing - Lacking Good Hygiene Or Grooming Habits; 4:15 Third Thing - Revving Your Engine / Driving Like An Idiot; 6:36 Fourth Thing - No Chivalry On Dates; 7:17 (so true - it matters who you are deeply in your heart, and in your head); 8:37 Fifth Thing - Too Agreeable / Not Direct; 10:39 Sixth Thing - Oversharing / Trauma Dumping; 12:21 Seventh Thing - Talking About Other Women; and 14:48 to summarize all the told. Some of these things can be a turn off for men as well. Also some of these things might be used in most of the life situations. Among the all told here I might add few other things that are turn off. And those are: 8. Lack of showing the attention; 9. Not showing empathy; and 10. Behaving as an immature person. No matter what they say I surely believe that there is a chivalry (and I believe that there are women who respect that). I'll always be a gentleman, no matter what happens. I respect women (but I can sometimes agree, and disagree with the things, etc.). When I was learning to drive a car, I was taught by a woman. And I don't have that problem at all. Thank you very much Courtney for this. Especially I thank you for telling that chivalry still exist. It means a lot. You are so awesome Courtney. The topic is la perfection madam 😉😘🙂🤓😎❤❤❤.

There is only one type of place where a revving a car engine is appropriate: a racetrack! Drive safely, folks. Your passengers and other responsible drivers will appreciate it!

Courtney thank you for your honest videos. When I get discouraged you really turn things around

I remember I was so focused on my goals, (becoming successful) passions... (I am still a man of focus), that I was absolutely not interested in any relationship. During 1 of my early joggings I started to talk to a young woman, then she asked me if we could exchange numbers. I responded with a smile, that I honestly had no time for a relationship and that there was no point. A couple of days later I met her again. She gave me her mobile number (on a business card) and asked me very politely, that I would pls give her a call, whenever I would have time. I still did not give her call. 1 week later I saw her again, she apologized for coming on too strong. I answered that it was fine and I would call her next weekend to hang out. So we did and I took it very slow. Eventualy we got together and she's still my girlfriend after 5 years and she's a keeper. Very fine woman with feminine traits. Our core values are the same and that's very important.😊

You know... I do not care anymore! I should not need to babysit a grown woman with what she wants and needs. I look after myself and she wants me to look after her as well? Seriously? Nah... I'll just find a mature stable woman - they exist in multitudes. If I find one where we both connect even better!

The car thing actually depends on the girl, my sister in-law loves driving fast, and such. She actually pushes the boundaries of safety more than my brother does.

This video was very helpful and informative I appreciate the fact that you take the time to go into detail with each topic Thank you Courtney

I appreciate this video. It made me think introspectively about I’d I do these things. Anytime you look inside, especially with somebody else “guiding” the questions, is a gift. Have a good day CCR

Turn ons for women: - being a psychopath -being a narcissist - being a serial killer - treating her like garbage -cheating on her Nice guys finish last, bad boys finish on her face.

Agreed with rubbing his car engine. Also blasting his music when he drives by.

Hi Courtney, I think that you are right on the ball with this one !!! I really appreciate your point of view !!! Thank you Hun ❣️Patrick

Thanks as always for making these videos Courtney! You are a rockstar! So many great points here. I had positive results yesterday that may have turned the heads of a few girls at the restaurant yesterday. I got the chance to hold the door for an older gentleman with a walker and later a lady with carry out. The whole time there, I was pleasant, polite and acknowledged anyone with whom I saw. I was dressed nice and am in good shape, but I think the girls liked how I carried myself. Somebody else pointed out to me that they were checking me out because I never noticed. I have terrible girl radar. Haha. It was a nice moment. Point is fellas that how you carry yourself makes a huge impact more than designer label or a fancy car. Happy Father’s Day to all the great Dads out there!

"Too agreeable" yeah had that problem when i was younger. Used to think that if i diasagreed with a girl she would stop liking me. Also used to do this thing where if a girl mentioned she liked something id enthusiastically agree instead of sharing my own opinion. I think this a turn off for girls and seems desperate and they can tell what youre doing.

The agreeable point is something I definitely struggle with. People pleasing is something of a coping/defense mechanism with the NDDs I suffer from and keeping that under wraps is quite exhausting, lol.

No trauma dumping. Yea, I bombed a relationship by doing that once. I eventually came to the conclusion that I could either pay a therapist to listen or take that stuff to the grave. Because, strangers dont want to be bummed out by your problems. And your guy friends also dont want to hear about it. It's just another reminder that no matter how many valued people you have in your life, we all die alone in the end. Embrace the suck and move along. And try some mushrooms to heal the PTSD if you can get some.

I was revving my car and driving like an idiot with my current girlfriend the first time I met her, she was loving it and still does lol

Thank you so much for your videos. You really helped me to be more confident in who I am

I’m forever blessed by Courtney’s content.

Courtney, I loved this video, even though I have a few of the points to work on, but that is a good thing for my self-improvement. Men and women are attracted to very different things; I’d love to see a full video on this. Happy Father’s Day to Captain Clayface aka Courtney’s dad!

As a childless person, I want to say happy Father's Day to any dad's on the comments and happy Sunday, Courtney ❤

These are so many great points. You are so correct, Courtney!

This topic of hygiene came on the right time. Today I have been talking with a married man, he was having a conversation with me, the distance between us was short enough. Guess what I started to smell a bad breath coming from his side in the form of waves, it could kill a mosquito moving nearby😂, it was really annoying, I could not keep the conversation going for so long. Whenever I remember this smell, it is still in my nose till now. I will try to take a cup of tea containing flowers to ease me up.

Thank you in advance for mentioning hygiene, Courtney. I'm doing my laundry and am in need of a shower while I'm listening to you.

#3 is why I haven’t put aftermarket exhaust on my Mustang. The exhaust still sounds good (V8), but it’s not so loud that it’s annoying.

Solid video as usual. Thank you Courtney and happy Father’s Day to all the fathers out there!

I agree and understand all the points brought up in this video, but something really stood out to me revolving around two of the points. The first point about not talking down about yourself and the emotional vomit point, I think there is some significant correlation between these two things and why men’s mental health has been declining. All guys at some point in their life has insecurities and or trauma that goes completely unaddressed, and that burying is reinforced by the dynamic between men and women among others as well. Now I’m not blaming women, just pointing it out. I am someone who had a rough childhood and adolescents and certain things I experienced still have an effect on my to this day, and if not for me getting taken out of that situation and having some support, I would have no clue where I’d be today. Getting to the point though, there are very few people that I would even discuss my past with, and nobody that I would get into how I felt and still feel. I know from watching others how easily you can bring other people down or push people away by sharing these things, and I’d imagine I’m not the only one. Just as I said I’m not blaming women, I’m also not blaming society for this, it’s only natural to feel uncomfortable discussing and dealing with these issues, I’m just pointing out the reality for many people.

Definitely agree with most of your points, especially the manner in which we drive. Fellas, I’ve done this and Courtney is correct- females want to feel safe. Don’t mess up your date for the sake of showing off.

Thanks Courtney. Been following you for a couple of years now. In answer to your Q. Please do a m/f gaze comparison. I'd be fascinated

Admiring a man's physique has more to do with men knowing how hard it is to achieve. The countless hours in the gym, eating right, taking supplements. Yes, we find discipline, dedication and hard work, cool! 💪🏾 Edit: It's not always done for the female gaze, taking care of your body is part of self-improvement.

Happy father days courtney! Thank you for teaching us how to become "daddies" for the women in our lives ❤

Good video. Thanks Courtney. Now i know what to do if a woman i don't wanna be with tries to get overly friendly. Thumbs up

I hate when people act like taking a step back, reanalyzing, not overly commiting when you haven't properly accessed a situation, not speaking out of your ass about things you don't know is perceived as a "lack of confidence" when those are all things that brought me success in life. It's like people purposefully want to find failure attractive, you have to bullshit to them about the steps you take to solve problems to seem like you don't have to "overly think" about a situation. Or maybe those people were never put in truly difficult situations to begin with.

I once got scolded by a close female friend for employing a bit of self-deprecating humor ("Strong back, Weak mind"). Didn't really understand the perspective at the time.

Courtney, another very informative video. Great job!

I definitely agree with all of these. I was seeing a guy who kept bringing up the other women he was seeing. After asking him not to bring them up, he did it again & was shocked when I immediately ended things. If u have options, you don't need to tell others that you have options.

Yes to the video on female vs. male gaze!

I'm glad you brought up negative self talk bc like you said our thoughts definitely creates our reality

I'm enjoying this new arc of Courtney videos. The butter churning arc. 😁 I'm hoping I'm not doing any of these things listed here. 😬We'll see. If I am I'm ready to make some adjustments. *presses play*

These ought to be interesting; fortunately I learned things like these in my early twenties and being in my early thirties I'm definitely having a lot more fun, and a lot better of experiences

Negative self talk is basically having a false sense of humility and wanting others, especially whoever you may be dating, to disagree with your negative self assessment and dish out compliments instead. I was guilty of this in my younger days, as well as spewing emotional vomit. I can't tell you how many potential long term relationships I destroyed doing this. It took me until around age 40 to realize how self destructive this was. It seems so ridiculous now. Solid advice as always, from Courtney. I appreciate the honest and direct approach in these videos.

I’ve recently had several guys from dating apps bring up after talking to me for a week and showing interest that “oh their ex just broke up with them a year ago.. and they were depressed early that year” or “hey can I ask a random question? So you think exes can be friends?” And went on about how they are friends. Or I went on a date 2 weeks ago where the guy was nice and flirty in the beginning but then asked my dating experiences on rhe app and went on about his.. how he matched with a professor from Ivy League school who canceled on him right before the date? SMH 🤦‍♀️. I’m just sitting there listening to them and thinking what the hell is wrong with them.. they are in their 30s and talking about exes /other dates before the first date or on the date while I’m RIGHT there. It feels horrible. I don’t understand how they don’t even have any awareness that they are in talking stages with me or on a date with me and we’re supposed to see if WE have a connection but you’re talking about other girls you dated? I felt like you are not interested in me and like I’m not good enough. It felt very disrespectful and I can’t trust you as any type of partner. So yeah.. men don’t do this! It’s not cool nor respectful! I had to go off on one guy bc I got so fed of this after 3 guys did this recently the past few months..

Courtney you are a treasure. Your thoughts and advice are always so down to earth and genuine and have helped me so much. Thank you!

Wow!!! White is a really nice color on you, makes your eyes really stand out! Beautiful!

In regards to the bad driving manners, I have seen many instances where a bad driving decision either led to or nearly led to an accident. Too many times a driver will change lanes without turning their signal on, or try to turn off a road from a lane on the other side of the road (turning left from the far right lane, as an example). Trying to show off how fast your vehicle can go or how swift you can make a turn can and will go terribly wrong and may cost more than just simple car repairs.

Thank you for this education video awesome you’re so kind and sweet keep up the good work

A lot of the times guys flex their car skills to impress other guys, something I've always found weird. Like my mans just drive your car and chill out 😂 Looking gracious as always Courtney!

If there's good rapport going on, particularly with the chivalry and being a gentleman point, I've found that instead of holding hands, offering my arm for her to hold onto is a great way to build physical chemistry and have that old-world sense of charm, without feeling pushy or needy.

You look pretty Courtney #1, second you are 100 percent accurate on all the topics. I've been enjoying your videos and will continue to do so.

thank you for your love Coloatno Ryan...You are a blessing to all men...

I think the advent of feminism has had a very negative impact on society, as many women think they can have everything in every way without taking any responsibility for their actions and men are now just confused about what is expected. All the traditional masculine traits now seem to have come under the category of 'toxic' masculinity.

Thank you, Courtney! I need a break. These tips are sure to make great women repellant.

The third point which you mentioned just doesn't apply to me since I use public transport .... Lol ... 😀. Anyways, nice informative video, Courtney Ryan ... 👍.

As always, I appreciate your thoughts and advice, keep up the good work Courtney!

I've fallen into #1 and #4 many times in the past, so that's totally valid. Re #3, female gaze is totally a Thing, let us not deny that. Those of us not blessed with things like looks, height, and muscles *will* be ignored. Speaking from experience, there, of course. I tend to be direct because I believe in not BSing anybody; it's not my fault that people are easily offended by everything these days. As per the last two things, well...I went through a pretty bad divorce 16 years ago and when I finally got over myself and began the process of reforging myself? I finally reached a point where I could be and can be completely objective about my part in it now and can safely say I learned more than I thought I had before. With all that having been said? I'm a happy bachelor and intend on keeping it that way for a couple of reasons.

The male gaze was an old school term used in film theory classes to talk about over sexualization. Now it's a buzzword for tiktokers?? They love rebranding and recycling terminology and changing their connotations... which might not be a bad thing? I don't know where I'm going with this... Perfect video.

The car and the motorcycle being tuned to perfection and sounding like the love I put into the hobby are for me. If women don’t like then then that’s totally fine, I can live with it

Yep. Your mind tries to complete what it pictures. So, no negative thoughts! And, thoughts are "things."

Your tone and general affect is wonderful. And as a bonus you're full of great manly advice!

Driving is a weird one. I've been with women who both loved and hated speeding. Most of them actually enjoyed it, coming to think of it. But there is being obnoxious, endangering yourself and others type of driving when you are just being an annoyance and there is fun driving where you occasionally launch it on a clear road just to experience that exhilarating acceleration.

4:15 Literally reminded me of this TikTok where a guy revs his engine and a cop shouts over the P.A. system, “Shut up, idiot!” Funniest thing I’ve ever seen! 😂😂😂

Dont wear sunglasses inside, even if you're by yourself in the grocery store. Also, 90% of people don't care about your problems, the other 10% are glad you have them.

I would heed the advice about not talking about ex's except I frequently get asked about it when I'm on dates. Especially "Why did you get divorced?" So then I'm forced to come up with some explanation.

Agree with all. Things learned the hard way of what not to do.

My now husband had a sickness where he sweats alot. He had a normal figure not very muscula nor overweight, but he was always sweaty and smelled a bit becasue of it. We had a few dates and before the fourht date, i had made up my mind about ending it, becasue i was kinda grossed out. in the middle of our date he told me about his sickness and a few months later he got better medication and now sweats like a normal person. Kinda sad how shallow we all are...

Self deprecation is not always a sign of no confidence can be just the opposite (not obsessively) that’s just weird. Kind and mannerly but not a lapdog (boundaries).

“Im not trying to die” 😂😂😂 the emphasis on that was funny…@4:37

This is actually one of the best videos about dating i've seen, thank you Courtney

Yes please make a video about the female gaze. I'm not trying to get huge at the gym, but I definitely feel like my physique needs to be a certain size to really show my fitness level through my clothes

I hate that confidence is seen as a virtue. The only people who are confident are rarely intelligent and they are rarely right. Ever heard someone described as 'seldom doubtful but often wrong'? Intelligent people know how easy it is to be wrong and appreciate the consequences of their mistakes. Also, it's virtually impossible to differentiate confidence from not giving a shit. It's easy to appear confident when the consequences are negligible. People ACT confident to dupe people: they are shysters.

There's an engine revving epidemic in Arizona. One of the reasons I had to leave.

In regards to the first topic, the other way round. I remember giving up on a gorgeous girl who was "never up to the circumstance". She was wonderful, incredibly beautiful but she was always self-deprecating. I didn't "dump" her. I would never do, but I gave up. She is still the same, and single.

Noticed your catalog You haven't had a self improvement video for a while. That is the most attractive thing to me about your channel, with dating second

Thanks Courtney for sharing this information sounds great ❤

As always, great content!!!

Three biggest turn offs for Washington DC ladies: When they see you're not over 6'5 in height, when the find out you're not making over $300k per year and they find out you do not hold a PHD or higher. Does not matter if she still lives at home, has no job and does not have five cents to her name.

I've been on tinder for like almost a year now and have had ZERO matches since joining. Can you make a video concerning tips and what you might do wrong on Tinder that makes women not swipe right?

The reason i go along with thing and im agreeable is because i dont care enough most of the time. Where we eat what we do where we go. These are things i dont care about so it does not matter to me what the choice is.

Lmao #3... Courtney you talking about Billy from Stranger Things?? That's so 80s haha

I've inadvertently done the speeding thing in my work truck. I drive for FedEx, and through a combination of being in a rush and not feeling well, went a bit too fast in a parking lot. A girl in a Tesla chewed me out for going too fast and not being careful

I was in a car with 2 guys, 2 girls. The driver (male) was driving a sports car and revving his engine. 3 years later, we still make fun of him.

Hi @CourtneyRyan! Always very interesting and useful video! It would be very nice to make a video about girls preference on men on the beach! I'm talking about "hair removal - yes/no" or the type of swimsuit, beach outfit in general.. Thank you anyway! ❤

I can say with confidence that all of these go both ways accept for driving fast. It's kind of hot if a woman knows how to drive fast or enjoys a brisk drive once in a while. Never in a place where you might put others at risk.

Totally agree with you on the engine revving. There's 3 categories for it though. 1 is teens or import kids who drive a turd of a Honda or other import being obnoxious on a Tuesday night. 2 it's f boys in their diesels or new sports cars like a corvette or audi and 3 is a classic that's a turd in progress like a squarebody chevy or classic car. Restored classics people will look at differently for being loud at idle or taking off at a light but the attention is natural so no need to drive stupid

Never had these as issues, although my experience is few females truly appreciate honesty, and I don't mean being blunt.

The revving the engine thing is also annoying to me too as a man because at my dorm there’s this guy who owns a car with a really loud muffler who drives around every night and when he’s on the road he revs his engine so loudly that I thought I’d lose my hearing one time! So yeah, revving your engine is unattractive to women and it says something about your personality towards anyone too.

Thank You!

There are a lot of women who dress or act in a way that it encourages me to be chivalrous, but I refrain from doing it. I will take your word for a week, and give it 5 strikes.

Gotta love the hypocrisy of #1: Never doubt, critisize or talk bad about yourself - EVER. But if she does it every other day, you are expected to support her - no matter how stupid the reason is. Double standards much? Screw what girls say: NEVER show any weakness. If you have problems, talk with your family or your best friends. If UR girl asks, just say: "Don't worry about it. It will be fine."

Thanks for the great tips and your perspective 🙏🏻. I want you to take a frame from this episode a place the picture of the Iconic Mona Lisa side by side. You have a stunning resemblance to this beautiful woman. I can't be the only man who sees this, am I?? Lmk👌. Cheers 🍻, G

8. Not being calm - aka being hyper, extra, nervous, etc. Most people hate us.

I actually find you very knowledgeable

break down emotionally; watching corn; simping; top three things to never do in front of a woman, or ever

Hey Courtney! I’m a regular viewer of the videos. I want to know if you have any pointers for me. I’m almost done with college. I’m currently spending my summer in Europe, mostly in the Netherlands. I’ve worked really hard on my emotional and mental health. I don’t wear my heart on my sleeve as much as I used to. I’ve managed to maintain a small circle of friends, especially with a female friend, even though I’m often socially awkward. Is there anything more I can do? I love all the videos you do. You have a very attractive character, and one I would like in a future partner.

Great content thank you

I think most car people can agree we do not care about how others view our car, if you find it annoying but it makes someone else happy, for example those 2 teenage boys interacting with the driver, that will make our day. Plus most car people date other car people, if a woman is disinterested in cars, from what ive seen guys dont go for them at all.

My wife of 25 years loved my fast cars. I also had a decent amount of other things going for me though too.