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Bookmarking 😮 why have I never heard that when this has happened to me with my ex

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I wish this weren’t a probable outcome. But i agree.

That didn't occur to me until Anna said it. But, yes, it makes sense.

exactly..

He's married,or living with someone...

That therapist visit may also be a lie

Agreed. He treats her like a sex worker.

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That's not the only reason why.

@@ND-or5so well yeah it’s a crazy unbalanced power dynamic. But someone willing to risk their license and disregard their ethical principals is just one of many reasons to not get involved

100%

​@Golf2foto I don't know. I can't toss our memories out. I don't think it was fake. We dove deep in. She didncas it hurts her Cas she loved me and u lapsed. Re. U know. She left. I got left with the wreckage . We loved. She had to take care of her. I can heal for it's a power greater than ourselves!!!

This is spot on ❤

Same story as me My mother was the drinker tho

It's kind of crazy to know that my confusion about why people want marriage and long term relationships is likely a trauma thing, not just a me thing.

ENM? plz define, thnx.

Agreed. Open relationships give space for people to avoid being truly vulnerable.

@@FreeQueen-md7zm Ethical non monogamy

These people try to project their insecurities and vice onto society. That’s a no no. You either commit or you don’t and you leave people alone.

I love how just by the magic of saying the word “ethical” in front of non-monogamy, somehow instantly makes it so, right? 🙄

What is coda?

Codependents Anonymous. It's a 12 step program. It's great. They have a lot of virtual mtgs and some in person depending where you are.

@@tinag9694thank you for this. I think this is worth looking into and may help me.

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Hey were twins!!! ❤😂

i know the feeling. same thing as me. I married a Covert and i'm in a battle for divorce. 15 years as if it meant F ALL. I even saved her life in a accident few years ago...meant nothing. single for life even if a crave affection and love constantly. I was never loved in 46 years, family, parents narcs. ex's all had narcs behaviour. I have a magnet for them staying single is the only sure way i'll never get abuse and manipulated again. I loathe being a empath, it always got me manipulated. I love women but women hates me.

​@@Ballpython77I was only manipulated once it was awful,to add insult I knew her from high school 46 yrs ago.she screwed me over on purpose,that is what hurt the most. No more relationships for me, I hate deceit and she knew it, I have never dis- liked anyone as much as her.evil...

I feel invisible, I feel like I've missed my season for having a loving relationship...

Yes, it's fundamental. If you become financially dependent upon a romantic partner you'll be in a very precarious situation.

I felt the same way for so many years. I was able to climb the corporate ladder and became a workaholic. The office became my safe place to avoid my crappy life with a narcissistic husband. Looking back, I should have used some of the money I earned to take care of my mental state. To take care of myself. If only...Today I'm trying to rebuild my life and I am very grateful I found this channel. Thank you for this channel. I feel safe here and learning a lot.

thank you for this comment 😭😭 i watched this video a couple days ago and forgot what this was called, i scrolled through the comments for like 10 mins hoping someone would comment on it

Sometimes it's not even bookmarking. Girls sometimes flirt for entertainment, boost to self esteem, validation. Bookmarking is like you have a possibility with her someday when she's drunk or sad. Aimless flirting is you have zero chances, she wouldn't even remember she flirted with you.

For 2 weeks I do the dayli practice Between 1 time and more and more 2 times a day, with 15min meditation. I began with 3 days, the way you teach it, too try, after having made it with your guidnes and felt a difference after that first time 🙏🤔👍 The difference was Amazing.😄😙 I have C-PTSD 🤯 and lived in fear and stress most of the time since I'm 15 ( now 53 ) and it worked !!! But twice a day 20 min meditation was too much. I decided to stick to 10 min ones a day, no matters what happens and made a comitment with my self to never stop this practice, for all my life. For me your daily practice is what makes the reste possible, without I'm scared that the c-PTSD will gane power over me, slowly down and down.... I feel it in my guts and trust your experince. It is hard work too integrat some thing new in my life and I'm tired to loos the benefits because I stop meditation as I felt better and Wanted to meet poeaple, thinking that's what I need. Human support ! Thank you too help me see the priority and help me stay fucust. I use multiples health approches. But I'm new here on KZfaq. Since I discuvered that there was the informations I need, I watch different KZfaqurs. What I like, is that I choose who I lissen to and keep those I feel trustfull. It is easy, because I say yes with all my body while lissening 🙏💕💕 I reconaze my story and my pains describe by poeaple who don't know me. I was desesperate, I worked hard on me but, even I did improove, the chronic fatigue, fear, stress, emotional flash back, no understending support, no friends ( I'm weird, smell stress, fear and ask questions all the time... No one wanted to tell me... Now I prefer too get those from you, said in a soft and empathic way. I can understand them better now and learn to behave. With my KZfaqrs therapists groupe I get the help I need. With chronic fatigue I have too take it slow and give me the time I need to build a good understending. For that I immerge intoo good thoughts, questions, explanations, mirror effect and much Moore. It helps me to see reality at it IS. And I writte more often, moove a litel bit more. Juste with the Fary ❤️ daily practice I change and use those too add an other helpful action, that flow toogether... And One thing leed too an other change.... Like that way, baby Steps 👍💯🤘💪 I heard your story and don't want to get back too illness.... I had enough of those 😥

Good luck on your healing journey! If you're interested, try Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

Thank you

there s nothing cruel about pavlov, also, the way humans treat each other is far worse

@@AugfordpdoggiePavlov I don’t know, but if you aren’t bothered by the Harlow experiments on the monkeys, something’s happened to your heart…

You made a good decision. Good luck on your healing journey! Nika@TeamFairy

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Thanks for sharing these kind words :) -Calista@TeamFairy

We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy

@@elipotter369 That is so smart. I can't say I'm entirely relationship smart, myself... but I'm learning and getting wiser. I'm glad I'm not a young woman anymore - that helps remove the intensity of who/what gets drawn to me.

He Is. Listening to this I understand know how I Never knew im with married guy. I was Never asking much and thought it's normal😮😢

@@alextarotif your guy is married to somebody else. Please leave! I was in similar situation and they will not leave the their wife. They’re still married for a reason and you deserve 100% more from someone 100% better. Don’t fall for the love bombing! It’s hard to walk away but you can do it and work on your self-esteem and self-confidence. You’re worth it!!! 💙💙💙

@@alextarot yeah, u have to learn the red flags, some men can b so manipulative and even tho its disgusting that they r CHEATING on their wives, they dont care for her or u.

​@@KatErina-ii6ru I left as soon as i found out

@@alextarot ♥️

Anna often recommends a free course ‘The Daily Practice’ because it is the technique that led to her own healing, and she uses it to this day. It can help process fears and resentments. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

I think I will book a relaxing spa day for and by myself. And I want to cook something for myself, something really nice. And I'll read the best book there is 🥰

Get together with friends and family. Start making plans to not be alone. It helps alot.

Only works in dark mode :-)

It's the fact that she's never seen him on a major holiday that makes me suspect he's married to a wife (and probably has kids). That would be where he is on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Of course we don't have enough information to know.

You don’t owe him a back burner open door…

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@@CrappyChildhoodFairy idk why this helps but it does. I’m in a better feeling place today and I’ll try to keep it going!

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For YEARS I thought deep down in my heart I wasn’t worthy of getting married yet I longed for it FOREVER. Also dated married men more than one, thought they would marry me, or dating abusers and narcissists. I had no idea all this was connected to CPTSD. You’re not alone!!!

I never wanted to be married, when I was younger I was afraid of being trapped (part of my C-PTSD), these days I just feel more stable and relaxed not having a partner. I’ve had boyfriends but I don’t think any of my relationships have been healthy. I don’t feel marriage is a necessity for myself and personally don’t think getting married is a reliable indicator of anyone’s self worth, as paradoxical as that may seem to some. We’ve all heard of horrible marriages, and know there are devoted couples out there who aren’t married, and worse - people who were devoted but got married only for marriage to essentially ruin what they had.

Omg yes. It doesn’t even feel like it’s a possibility