Lara O'neal Wow similar and now I'm ready to move forward and go on with life . So now I'm tryn to work with my son with backstabbing family that help him move on and live his life... I would like to move away to grow....but this is right on time for me....

Drachonetez Stegall Good for you. Be strong . Don’t have blind loyalty to anyone ever. God bless.

Drachonetez Stegall Props to you and God bless.

Thanks

Lara O'neal I'm dealing with this now bt I don't know how I'm going to think with out them.

Ashley Ongweso same here. I have no friends that understand it and I feel alone. Still struggling that I made the decision two days ago to cut off my mom and sister. Recently cut off my dad

Krystal de Leon Hey, hows everything going now? I hope everything is good. Trust me it’s hard for a little while but you’ll realize you get happier and happier as you start stripping that negative energy away

rose968 thanks for following up. It’s still lonely but it’s a little better bc I’m developing self love and independence. I just pray to God that He brings me more friends and love to fill in that void I’ve had since I was a child

@@krystaldee22 I'm considering cutting off my mother and keeping my grandparents at a distance and only seeing them ever so often. It's difficult for me because they are the only people I have to turn to for love. Their toxic love is the only love I've ever known. Do you think cutting them off will become easier for me as I make new non-toxic friends, fall in love with someone, have children, etc. to look elsewhere for love?

Your not alone my dear xxoo

FinChX0X0 💯💯💯💯💯💯

FinChX0X0 YESSAHH!!💯💯🔥🔥🔥

FinChX0X0 Unfortunately🗣...

Yesss

SO TRUE

Exactly! Finally someone said it

Pregnancy actually amplifies her shitty or healthy character, my aunt is an example, she always was bitchy but now her mouth just won't ever stop, but there are women who were motherly before and even more after...

Exactly!!

Thanks for saying it. My mother was very abusive. I’m trying to be healthier and cut her and my older brother out of my life completely

You know it.

Arvin Katoch that is so true, some of my family members are like bitches and all I look at them like is enraged strangers enraged abusive strangers

It hurts especially when ur a forgiving person, because ideally you want a happy loving family, but every time you forgive them they hit you again. I need a video on how to cut them off and keep it that way. I have a toxic sister(even I can even call her a sister) she's four years older and I'm not sure if she's bipolar but she'll ridicule me and bring me down, berate me and come back tryna make amends(not genuinely tho) and I just forgive to keep on her good side. it's humiliating for me.

Yep they say blood is thicker than water but who cares about the consistency if the blood is toxic and needs water to survive? I would rather choose water (strangers) for my blood cells to be healthy instead of sticking to unhealthy toxic blood

@@Layla-fr7mf I know that's right I'd choose the same because I'm steady living with a family member right now, right now and it's my eldest sibling

shout out to the boys, always taking time out their day to make sure im alright and including me

So true took the words right out my mouth.

Yes preach ,but then they expect you to Go with the flow and accept this mental abuse😡

Wow. Yes then if you speak up your ungrateful. God forbid you actually remember the hurtful words & things. 😢

@@roseymarie6006 or disrespectful no matter how respectful you really are.

Searra Ann you need a plan... and a job to start saving .... if you can wait maybe go away to college ... that would be ideal

Of course you know who you are! ;) Their loss. Get on with your life, girl. Go make yourself happy! ;)

@Anon Anon yes.

@LeahWoodbury Yes I have another channel, check it out!

They all be lieing to each other instead of saying it to you

@@bev8200 yeah ikr

Indeed

Omg so true

Yes

This is so true

Yes.

Absolutely. No attempt to understand what they don't understand.

Yup! If I had a dollar for every time my mom told me that I was too emotional I wouldn’t have to work at all

They make you feel Guilty for being yourself, def not unconditional love which I originally thought

That's a bullying tactic....

@@jesuslovesme8477 How so? My mom has ALWAYS told me that I was too sensitive. That I was weak, insecure and had low self-esteem. She doesn't listen to me when I tell her that she hurts me. She makes it seem like I am crazy or something. "Grow up, everyone has problems. You ain't the only one. Stop blaming your problems on other people. ". She just doesn't care that the words she says hurts me. Because she tells me to get out of her face.

That also gaslighting. Most times your not "too sensitive" at all. It's because they are narcissistic and don't want to take accountability for hurting you.

Reading with Janae Marie your feelings do matter

Mon88 Ca that makes sense

Lol me I’m having trouble with my family too

Meeee😫😭

🙋‍♀️

Same.

same same same. I felt this.

Yup!

Same 😔

I felt this!

Invoke the 25th Amendment. I wish I could do that ....... sometimes I feel like everything my mom says about me is true ... but I know she’s just disrespecting me and trying to make me feel bad.

Great.

Amen. I have DISOWNED my fucking family-what a fucking relief. I told the fuckers never to contact me ever!!!! I don't care about these fuckers.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 thank you for sharing! I’m so happy for you! My family was wrong about me too! Imagine my surprise to discover I’m not just a selfish, lying, bad, loser. I’m actually kind hearted and creative and affectionate and sincere.

You should right a book

Hmmmm God bless you for telling these young ones... Honestly...I wish someone told me this many years ago... When I lived with my family.

Thank. You

@Baby thank you

I ran away to NYC at 18, broke af. I was tricked into coming back home and a year passed and I was trapped again. Now I’m writing this from the airport as I have one plane ride left till NYC. It’s back to being homeless again. Back to the youth shelters and youth group homes again. This time without 4G or text messages on my phone. Round 2! Even tougher. When do I fight the big boss, ehh? Lol.)

THEY KNOW FULL WELL THE PROPAGANDA TECHNIQUES OF REPEATING A LIE OVER & OVER & OVER, LYING VIA OMISSION, GASLIGHTING, EGO PROJECTIONS BECAUSE DEEP DOWN BENEATH THEIR EGOS THEY CORRECTLY SEE THEMSELVES AS SUB HUMAN. THERE'S ONLY SO MUCH ABUSE EVEN THE STRONGEST OF MEN CAN TOLERATE.

This. This is my situation rn with my mom. I keep trying to explain it to her that she's hurting me but each time I do, she just gaslights me and makes me doubt my feelings/ make me feel bad. I don't know what to do anymore...

@@keijisbuffarms4791 I totally understand you! My mom is a narcissist. She laughs in my face when I'm going thru things. Just yesterday I didn't get any breakfast and I had somewhere to go (a trip with my youth club) but she kept wasting my time, telling me to do this and that, then she asked, "oh have u eaten?" And I said, "no" and the she laughed in my face about it. Like that freakin hurts. She does the most just to piss me off but still has the audacity to act like I'm the problem, and she's the victim. I've become so depressed over the years and I can't wait till I'm set free from this endless cycle of darkness and pain 😭😭😭

@@JerrenAnnah Thank you, it's nice to know I'm not the only one going through this 🥺❤️ At this point I have completely given up on her, and can't wait until I'm free from this horrific cycle.

@@keijisbuffarms4791 me too! Over quarantine I've been trying to find myself. Who am I? Who was I truly meant to be without the influence of a monster in my life? Anyway, I hope ur having a good day today 🥺 if u ever need to vent, talk, or need someone to just simply sit at the other side of the screen and just listen, I can do that for you ❤ my insta is jerren_annah (I'm currently leaving my house now but hopefully I'll be back soon enough if u decide to message me 🥺❤)

@@JerrenAnnah thank you sm 🥺❤️ I'll definitely give you a message later (it's night for me rn) my insta is ruto_shadowz! Have a good day and once again, thank you ❤️

Absolutely 💯 ..but sometimes they do realize butbtgey just don't care

@@oleratomoile9480 that part

Indeed. They will never try to understand neither accept the fact.

She said that perfectly. I could not agree more.

Sad but true!!! I’d rather be alone than around toxic people!

What a word!!! Thank you!❤

OKAY

I’m 15 years old and I have autism sometimes I don’t know how to control my emotions because I live with my mom and my drunk stepdad and I don’t try to disrespect my mom my family has had lots of talks with me about being respectful but my mother has been in a lot of abusive relationships and I feel like this is another one she is in but when she gets mad at me she calls me a bitch and all types of bad things and we have family time she says bad things about me I try my hardest to work with her because she is my mom and I love her I wanted to commit suicide to because like all she cares about is him and i cry every night

Tiffany B that's right, energy don't lie.

Tiffany B ...not only black ;)

Tiffany B your right black families always do that and that shit is annoying

Tiffany B I it's a myth that is handed down from one generation to the next. Also, there's a collective mindset in the black community where autonomy is frowned upon. This keeps them more enmeshed in the family in which conflict can be triggered. Their personal space is intruded by relatives and not respected

Sadly but true

I've told my emotionally abusive mom, I plan to move out , and she told me how am I going to do that because I struggle with depression, etc., I'm going to save my money and work hard to get my own place because I can't stay here anymore at home.

@@chelseaspringer982 You can do it! I did it! It was not easy, I didn't tell anyone I was leaving for good. Start by saving, don't wait till you have a lot of money, you just need 2 months of the budget, everything else will work itself out because your survival mode will kick in.

@@dancinginthepurplereign4126 thanks for this advice!

I felt like that too. You are living with big bullies. When u leave heal and don’t go back

THISSSSS!!!!!!!! Pick on you any chance they get. Then say “you’re so sensitive” if you feel some type of way. I just wanna disappear

thank god one of my parents is a caring understanding person, but it feels like the POS has all the toxicity of a bakers dozen people

Siblings who bully is really hurtful too

God bless you.we need more ppl like you❤❤❤

Same

Sometimes blood isn’t thicker than water

@@estheradao Just like a blood clot can kill you, a family grouped together to kill you and wants to stop their own blood relative from moving freely or to be themselves

Dashonda : You said it right , girl !

LibraLife 47 So true! I use to think for most of my life that I was crazy....comes to reality! IM NOT!!!!!

❤️

Reading the comments and watching these videos I'm constantly in aw to read and hear my life story repeated to me from strangers. . Right down to the exact words narcs use to hurt or manipulate. Its like they went to school for this shit and memorized a manual. To see and feel all your pain is to be finally seen

i started crying as soon as i read your comment, its not just you i promise!! we're the black sheep of the family, meant to be strong through the pain then move on

LibraLife 47 😢❗️💯

Im so happy for u god bless u ✨✨⭐⭐⭐

Wow!!

❤

And don't tell anyone your plans or that you are saving money

I’m so dumb, I’m in my 30s with like $500 saved..two bachelors degrees later, one I recently went back for and no career job..I’m about to scream, and I know, pathetic I still live at home

Hugs💙 I empathize...but you are NOT inadequate. You are beautifully different!

Same:/

JNeaves81 seriously! Or maybe they need to learn something from us in the long run. Even if that lesson comes in losing us

Word

Yep it’s called karmic family. They are made to be difficult or abusive so that you can discover who you are and your inner greatness. You can break the soul contract by writing about them on a piece of paper and how you learned your lesson from them and burning it

@@Layla-fr7mf😮 never thought of that

I have no job, no where to go. I'm stuck in the abuse over and over

My parent has this money power over me. I'm unemployed once again and can't find work. No unemployment checks so he has to help me pay what bills I need paid. One minute he's supportive and the next minute your a piece of shit, your so lazy. That abusive behavior over and over I'm going to school to be a Medical Assistance and right now with student loan I don't have much left over to save. When I graduate I'm hoping my internship turns into a job so I can save and move out of state.

Toxic families manipulate your money from your first job! You contribute to their welfare & future well being, while ending up with nothing to show for it in the end but scars from abuse, possibly poverty and tons of issues to work on. In the end, blood doesn’t =your best interest! In fact, those closest to you can does you with the most venomous & slow poison since birth!

Zofia Janeczek im 19 & the only job ive ever had was my moms salon. she gives me $125 a week to ensure i dont get a job.... Im too scared to get a job or do anything that she doesn’t approve of..

@@daniellegagne6726 that's sad, but I guess you know what you have to do. Fair is what holds us back. It is normal and understandable to be afraid. But once you walk away you realize, nothing is as scary as walking back

Keng Yang me too.

At what age did u move out?

Kent Yang another toxic trait is when family starts to compete with one another instead of being happy for your success.

Literally same. Its terrible that strangers are more kind to me than my fam :/

Me too

2 years later are you still separated from your family

You communicated this subject in the easiest terms for understanding. Best I’ve heard. You are easy to listen to and to the point. Thank you for your posts!

good look with that job.

Sativa Skies good for you!

Congrats!!

Good fortune to you 🙏

so proud of you

Wow, you two sound like the same situation I’ve dealt with my ENTIRE life as well..... this channel is awesome because it shows that NONE OF US ARE ALONE...and this UNIT of people that we are even crosses race and, gender....WE WILL GET THERE IN TIME❤️..balance, love and hope.

Lupeepee I agree totally with you. My parents taught me everything I don’t ever want to be also. Kudos to you for your independent thinking. It takes a strong person to be able to break the fantasy bond with parents who have never had your best interest at heart. Too many ppl give their parents undeserved loyalty and that needs to be broken so that you can be who you really are. Ppl only deserve loyalty as it is earned , not just because they are older than you or your parents. Look at your parents objectively and critically. It is unfortunately rare for many ppl to do this. God bless you many times over.

Lupeepee you're not alone. I never did either.

Lupeepee omg girl!! I love that you said that they taught you what not to be. I owe all of my success in life by doing the opposite of what my crazy ass family did and does

Lupeepee Sameee. Felt more of a parent to them than them to me😔. Did make me independent tho too and also want to be a better person from get go.

I was thinking the same thing

I was thinking about something like that, that would be nice! Need the emotional support!!

I was thinking the same! Maybe we can form a chat group

I think there's Reddit subs about this? It's not super close knit but it's still very helpful

Omg yes 🙌🏾🙏🏾

I recently cut my entire family off. It took me my entire life to realize that, as much as I longed for a healthy family, MY family has been keeping me in this toxic loop of self destruction... but I'll always remain the "kcuf up"in their eyes, despite my many successes. I don't care anymore. Their reaction to me cutting ties just proves that I made the right decision. I cried for about a week, but now I feel so much RELIEF!!!

James R God bless you. Stay strong.

Treemarie God bless you. Stay strong.

@Shawny Monique Your organic tribe will reveal it self, don't worry💪😉🤗

Felt. When I was younger I used to refer to myself as an orphan. I was basically parenting myself. Still am

Zodac Bring it on!!! You made me laugh with that comment. Something I surely needed today. Blessings and heaps of bucks lol.

On God!!

Gideon Kes : I love BOTH ! Bring it on ! ! !

Yes girl

same here. I wish the best for you bb

I am so sorry your going through this I wish I could help you . You will pull through and I am sending positive energy your way. You are strong and brilliant!!!

The best thing you can do for yourself is get the best grades possibles and get a job to save all of the money you can. What you do in high school and college truly does set up the entire rest of your life. All thru high school I worked during the school year and two jobs every summer so I could save up money for an apartment. I left at 18 and didn’t return until I was 30. In that time, they never changed for the better. You will find people to care for you and you can build a new life.

Praying that you are on the up and up, and moving to higher ground.

same here. they were making me physically ill due to stress they were casing me

About to do it. Feeling scared for some reason. But the meanness I copped today.....is way beyond tolerable. My 92 yr old mother's funeral day... I could not go because of chronic health problem. I was promised oh so sweetly that live streaming was set up so I could feel part of the service. Felt good about that. Bottom line...1 hour before the service... I found I needed the confirmation email to access link so sent a request for it. Absolutely no response from anyone.... even the sweet fkn sister who had spoken to me hours earlier. I rang funeral home and they sent link so I hooked in on one device with the passcode. Minutes later I went to do the same on the iPad for better viewing. The code had been changed. Unbelievable. But unbeknown to them I could still watch it on the first device. It is 5 hours since finish and not one word from 5 siblings. This is so shocking....to me. I cannot conceive of being so mean to someone. I am feeling really sick tonight and in shock. And lost.

Lynda you have every right to feel how you feel that fact that they left you out like that on something so important was wrong. No one she feel emotional trauma from any one rather it’s family are not. Take care of you and everything else will fall into place.

sunny pavey Good for you.

Same here.. so good to know I’m not alone. There’s no going back! It almost destroyed me. But well, it seems to be so difficult to understand for people with a healthy family.. for me, it almost feels like a different world..

Thalie Ferry 🙇‍♀️🙏🙇‍♀️

Thanks!

Adults need just as much guidance, love and support as children do.

Thank you so much for this!this is what I'm doing now. 💖😣

Self-help books saved me and continue to save my sanity until I have enough money to leave.

It’s simultaneously really painful but a learning experience..It makes me want to go into some kind of profession helping people, maybe a therapist

this is how I feel. I really feel everything on my body from my mind. I start therapy tomorrow again. It is time for transition into healthy life.

Well said ❤️

Dime Fever That Part!!!

Jonique Danniels What are you saying?

Yes, I agree it might feel hurtful at first to let go of certain people in our lives but through time one comes to realize that what hurt one the most was the way certain people made us feel.

Dime Fever exactly

👏👏👏👏👏👏🤗

@Cody Sagget I just read this and I was in the same situation. I promise once you make the jump your life will be so much more beautiful. Take the time to care for yourself in the beginning because being gay and rejected is the most toxic mentality to have. 😘😘😘😘

Cody Sagget, good for you. Please update how youre doing. Finish school and build a strong foundation for long term independence.

@Cody Sagget I wish I was that lucky but I can't get away I don't have the money and I can't get a job due to anxiety so I'm kinda stuck

@Tekisha Alston my family is not that crazy or care that much to stalk me if I moved away but if they ever ran into me It wouldn't be pretty

I’m going through that right now with my mom !

Keep your head up be you and follow your dreams lilly😍💘💪

First, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I get it. And random question but are you Ghanaian? (I assumed because of the "Boateng" in your name) If so, I am, too! I always feel even more alone because of it's culture surrounding "family togetherness" and subjects like this are so fucking taboo. It sucks...

Lilly Elboateng omg yes same I literally can’t talk to them or be myself fully around them and they know this but still don’t try to make amends or anything

@Lilly Elboateng Lily I feel the same way trying to finger out how to Exit this situation!.

Wow I wrote this 10 months ago, it feels like yesterday. Thank you for the likes and replies I didn’t see them. I left my family since then, I didn’t cut my mum off completely but the rest of my family I have. I couldn’t stay there any longer my mental health was deteriorating, I’m better but not fully there yet, I still struggle after leaving because I feel a sense of guilt, but i had to do what’s right for me. 💕

I am well on my way to doing that..

I envy you🙌🏿☝🏿

I’m doing it next week and I’m terrified

Nicole boswell Out of curiosity how did it go?You don’t have to answer if you feel uncomfortable

@@Nicole-bw2cu It's a hard decision but your health and sanity comes first👍Also I just decided to give a break to my family (mother /sibs)but I wouldn't mind fixing things with my siblings if possible because it's not their fault.I have tried with my sister but no luck because I think she's the "new"scapegoat.Hopefully you can set yourself Free without the guilt because if I had the courage to do earlier on I think my life would've been diffrent.

Cyrano Crimson I feel this so much ❤️

I feel ya. Feelings were never validated or were met with opposition. No one acted like they gave a rat’s ass about the others. I got divorced a couple years ago, and no one called to check on me or ask me what happened. Like “wow...oh well” was about all they could come up with. Now my mom, who lives with me, can’t understand why I have so much anger and resentment towards her. She stresses me out so bad I can’t stand being in my own house with her.

BINGO!!! I am the family member that suffers from what you said.

Great comment!!! BIG FACTS...

@@rebeccacarraway480 Why is mama living with you??

Isn't she? I was so glad I found this channel a while back.

This is so true. I hate that

Yes! Same girl 💕💕

Same girl I'm starting my own business

I wanna do the same and I’m going to get a job and leave but I’m so anxious about it

Do it you’ll be at peace ☮️

Barbara Harris I hope you are feeling good, strong and happy. Don’t look back only forward. Live the life you choose to. Much ❤️🇬🇧

Good for you👍💯🙏

I’m 16, graduating in a year and few months. I’m so scared to cut them off, especially with college. Any tips, I’m done with the abuse

Great. Family love to stay in poverty

I'm sorry about all of that and I'm really glad you are managing to move on!! Congratulations on your new life prospects and please take care of yourself ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I alwas think , then whos going to bury mwe LOL... buy im doing it this year, just a matter of time

Jonique Danniels I completely agree!

Nu Mindframe you're too sexy

Thank you:)

Jonique Danniels facts

Jonique Danniels I agree with you. I really don't feel like my family is my family, but distant acquaintances.

Miss Williams wow the similarities. I cut mine off two years ago same thing with both my parents. Youre doing amazing sweetie, protect your peace

Congrats! You deserve love now.

Completely relate

I've decided to cut them off as well. I moved out a few months ago at the age of 26. Best decision I ever made for my peace of mind.

Miss Williams you go girl 💕

I wish He'd come through for me. I stay tired

Amen I'm glad that you were able to run and cut them off. I was in that same boat some years ago. So glad I left them behind.

Diane Ferreira I’ll be glad when I can run away like that. I’m still waiting on TMH..

dyva lei that’s deep

All da best..

Same here mind is 8

the fact that you are aware that you might project your experience and your trying your best not to, is so admirable.

you're an amazing mom!

i’m a teenager and feel the same way thought i’m gonna move out earlier, found out my mom was toxic a little while ago and i’m now figuring it out. i’m happy you realized that you’re your own separate person and can make your own decisions ✌️

gaslighting

I didn't know either until I started this channel. There are alot of us. We definitely need to stick together through our healing 💞

It makes me feel a little bit better and at least more “normal” that soooo many people have been through this shit. BUT at the same time I hate how so many people actually have went through this because I know how it feels and it’s awful.

Cherice Walloe yep watch ye back

Yeah sometimes family ain't shit.

Cherice Walloe it's quite typical, but most people deal with because of blood connections

Gangsters love God too, I feel you. Godspeed.

Sending you love.

You'll heal over time, I promise. God bless ❤

same

Same

Sadly I’m the same way , I’m so numb to my family

Girl you Ain't never lied Amen

@Sade Watkins

Princess Ella you are loved. You are respected. Happy for you

good luck with life. i cut mine off 2 years ago. struggling but feel better reading all these comments

Ella I'm from Poland and you're right. It's not an ethnicity thing.

It is global my mom is Mexican from Mexico and I feel her shortcomings were due to no one stroking her ego....her looks.us was not what she expected people kissing her a....s so she would take jabs at us no matter what the cost so we never developed respect for one other

Princess Ella I hope things have gotten better for you 💜

Bro. EVERY SMALL TOXIC MOVE I FEEL. Sometimes I just want to be str8 up but I’m the black sheep & it will be a 10000 issue. I’m disrespectful for being honest.

e m I’m so sorry that you’re going through this and I’m going through a similar thing with my narcissistic mother. What you should do is: when you’re 18, you and your sister should stay home (or act sick etc) while your parents and brothers leave the house to do something. Then while they’re gone quickly pack your things and leave and leave a note so they don’t report you missing or something. That way they can’t stop you whatsoever because you will be at the legal age and you they won’t be home :). Make sure to plan this and you can have your stuff pre-packed and hidden in your room so it won’t take too long. However if they think they may find your packed stuff, just quickly pack it when they leave. In the future you may feel bad that you won’t have the traditional living family that most people have and you may feel at a disadvantage when it comes to finding a partner or something like that and you may feel different because you don’t have a normal loving family. You may also feel bad because your future children will only have one set of grandparents and uncles and aunties etc (apart from your sister ❤️) because they won’t meet your side of the family. And I have a feeling that that is how I’m going to feel too. However just remember that that is one of the best things you will do for your children because they will have 0 toxic family members and then you can give them the loving childhood they deserve and that your family never gave to you. If your partner really loves you, they won’t care. Tell them about your family and how strong you are for taking yourself out of that situation. Because you are! ❤️ you don’t need a family to carry you through the world, make your own family! Just remember, when you leave, completely cut contact. It may be hard at first but you will feel positive and happier. Then you can start your life and build a new family along the way, and you will still have your sister! ❤️ Stay strong and hang in there. Try to avoid as much conflict as you can with your family before you leave. At least you have your sister to keep you sane ❤️ you and your sister stick together ❤️ everything will work out! Best of luck! ❤️

Get a job once you finish education. Financial independency is very very important to move out and stay on your decision confidently.

I'm in a similar situation as u I'm Arab too my parents try to change me and just control me and my brothers don't like me I don't wanna be in that house hold and realign and my sister is married she's the best child to my parents which sucks my parents always emotionally abuse me and physically I'm 13 and I'm planning to run away and go to my best friends house but I'm too scared

Awe that’s a good thread thanks for sharing good luck

Im so sorry to hear that, hun. I want you to know that you and your sister are very brave to choose to acknowledge the dysfunction and want to move, and i admire that. I wish you the best of luck on both of your journeys. Remember that you are loved. Be strong, you got this. 💜💜💜

Update ?

I'm in Seattle too.

Val Lalonde update ? How are you doing ?

I have done a similar thing last summer with a relative i was subject to narcassistic abusive with that i took a plain to Vegas and stayed there for the ret of the summer until school started back in August.

💖

YASSSSS BOOOO YOU DO IM PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am soo proud of you!!

Congratulations

serenity0324 Same here

Same!

We're on the same page.

dani G. Lovely comment. Yes I have nowhere in my physical world to feel safe at the moment and this site is a haven until I get stronger. Thanks.

When you have to cross a line to keep family close and they could care less about you then they've done crossed a line . im disowning my hateful sister and its so painful . white black brown it doesn't matter feelings have no color but hate has its own recognition . just be strong for yourself . youll get thru

God bless u ur not alone ⭐⭐⭐❤️❤️

@@tasmaniandevil7610 I’ve been there before and I’m sorry you experienced such betrayal. Sometimes family isn’t blood-related, and that’s okay.

Haha me too!

💖💖because it was healing

rochelle thundercloud Feels A M A Z I N G don’t it? Feels F R E E & P E A C E F U L🤩🤩

Thats awesome!

What do you do?

iconic antonio you can do it

Saaaame. Although I plan to move out at 15/16

iconic antonio let us know how it went. Save up all $ you can! Stay strong and move on, good for you ✊

I hope you find whatever it is your are looking for 💙 u can do it💪

You're not alone sister keep your head up, remember blood doesn't determine family.

I don’t blame you I don’t plan on going to most of my families funeral neither

Tasha Harris: Regards Black Families, NOT, Sad but True...(note), Jezebel is the Alpha Spirit of This Age...

I think mine is the worst, I’m sorry we had to deal with this toxic nasty environment.

Tasha Harris Black families really gotta do better!🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️😒

Alan Grant relatives usually side with the abusers, particularly if children are involved. They have the mindset that families should remain in contact regardless of the abuse.

Alan Grant fam members forcing reconciliation often side with abusers, and they can be even more vicious and backstabbing. They are reporters because they report everything the victim says to their abusers in some cases

Any culture where respecting your elders is expected the sick narcissist parent will take full advantage of that i am W. African after a lifetime of abuse and i mean from birth after 47 years i had enough they can swim in their misery pool...all set here

@@sammalone9079 they use elder respect for their own sick and sadistic agenda as a tactic to abuse and guilt trip children.

Alan Grant my mother too. She told me the real reason why she abused me but she's a fucking liar. She text me we're sorry if we did abuse u in anyway we were just trying to discipline you if we made a mistake we're sorry. I forgave her but it's still hard to believe that shit because I went through so much fucking hell my family, what happens outside my family. But deep down they ain't shit

This is exactly how I feel with my family… I left and came back home due to lack of money but I’m leaving again soon

@@remaiyamarshall4466 SAMEEEE BABY GURL MUCH LOVE AND PROSPERITY!!!!

Im 24 and i know my life is going to be like yours. I have found my soulmate, unfortunately he also doesnt have contact with his family and im afraid that we will only have each other and wont find good friends since both of us dont get along with anybody. Thats why I'm afraid to let go of my family.. just not to be completely alone. Do you have any advice? I would love to hear your opinion and I wish you the best luck for your and your husbands life!

@@LuckyMelisse Hi Meli my name is Sharon. I'm trying to understand what did you mean about being alone? You and your soul mate have each other.. are you talking about having a community?

@@sheyg.395 yes. Im used to have a lot of people around me. I have a lot of cousins and i know when i leave my Relationship will also break with them. And thats the one thing that makes me sad

@@LuckyMelisse I see what you mean.. it's hard. Follow your heart.

Meli M I’m losing my brother, sister in law, niece, nephews because I cut my mom and sister out. It’s hard. I miss them and always will. Get a dog,find people who are lonely or in need and serve them, try out a church, befriend an elderly person, make real friends, volunteer, be a Big Brother/Big Sister, join community interest groups, be patient with yourself ❤️

they don't change.

Wow! Just wow! Many blessings....

MissRhane I deal with anxiety too !!

Wishing you love healing and light

@@deniseperkins5335 its sad

I know this was posted 2 years ago but I relate to this so much! I’ve felt so much shame about being 20 and not having a real job bc of my family. My mom literally hid away my birth certificate and social security so I couldn’t apply for a job or leave. I’ve finally recovered my documents and am going to take any steps I can to leave. I feel like I can do it knowing someone else like me did it! I hope you’re doing well !

Felt this.

@tv Lenox I dont even bother leaving a note. They still wouldnt get it. Or they would still find a way to make themselves the victim or make me look crazy or ridiculous....

Seas _Wallace I hope Scotland is doing you well.. all the best 🙂

I know this video is old but your comment hit home and I feel the same way but people will try to judge you for making that decision. I stop caring about people's opinion cuz they weren't there through the years of depression or heart aches..good for you.