I love how the phrase "How not to think about you when it's late at night and quiet" not only refers to their feelings towards each other but also the addiction towards alcohol. It created a powerful message

370 days sober and everyday is worth it. My relationship with Jesus is EVERYTHING.

Country songs really hit different when you’re heartbroken

Those who are fighting to get sober just remember that you do have people that love you and will be your side through it. Sending love and prayers

2 years ago I fell in love with an alcoholic and took on his lifestyle of alcoholism 3 days ago he cheated on me 3 days ago I left him and flew home 8 hours away 3 days ago I took a pledge of sobriety 3 days ago was the first time I heard this song it's been 3 days since my last drink and I can definitely say I'm proud of myself and this really hits deep...

I am a recovering alcoholic. I’ve been sober for over 2 years. What a gut wrenching video. So true to the life and path that we choose. I finally decided to change what the outcome of my life was going to be. I wanted something different from what my grandparents, my father and my uncles lives were and ended on. I decided to take control and ask for help from my loving Heavenly Father.

I can not express enough how much i feel from this. Im crying like a baby and watching this on repeat. Its all over now but i could go back and put the bottle down i would. I love this so much. It hurts but its healing at the same time.

This song & video is for sure an inspiration. I am almost 2 months into my sobriety & have never felt better. The good Lord even has me in church again. So amazing. I am super excited to get that one year cake 🎂 ❤!! 🎉 We got this!!

thank u . both for this song.. my mom, bless her. she's been sober for 17 years. She is gone now. been one year.

Sometimes it takes two broken souls to come together to build a wonderful life :)

I fell in love at 20, the kind you see in movies where it's just *boom* when he enters the room and you're in love before you even know what happened. He was an alcoholic and a narcissist, he still plays mind games and can be evil. Tbh he really put me through it and I had 7 years of the best and worst times. I was heartbroken when I took our babies and left... I spent years crying over him and 5 years later he came back! With all the promises and the best intentions, and I had another year on the rollercoaster before it burnt down in flames again! It took time to heal and it took time to see it for what it is. Now I watch videos like this or see toxic relationships and I honesty feel sick. I pray that anyone struggling like this finds peace. 5 years since our final breakup... he's with someone (a fellow alcoholic) they are both trying to come off the drink/ 'cut down'... but he's a little bit more present and calls and sees our children more regularly. I'm nearly 2 years into a happy, healthy relationship with a guy I met 3 years ago. I don't take anything for granted, just enjoy what you have right now as much as you can. Love works both ways and you can't fight someones addiction or disease for them. Alcoholism will destroy you both if you're the only one fighting it and the addict can't. I wish any of you in this situation the best of luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers

Wish I could stop thinking of you. Quit sleeping at night because of the quietness. Song is amazing.

I'm so glad there's still country artist that aren't afraid to make real music and be bold. Something that can touch someone and help them instead of going to bars and parties. Love this song and these artists!

I got 46 days clean and this hit home. I have been listening to it over and over while crying. lol

I love when it makes my soul tingle. Chest hurts. Knowing how much I lost. How much I've grown and the hating myself I broke free from.

#LYRICS: I can honestly understand why it's over I can go through the motions of walking away I can give you the key and take my things back I can find plenty things to fill my days But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and quiet And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2] You're like second nature baby, you're just like breathin' A melody that you hear and you can't forget The time goes by and I still need you Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and quiet And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2] I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and quiet But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door, Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning, Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2]

I absolutely loved it. I love how you incorporated the song into the alcoholism issue. What a beautiful video. I think this will be an absolute hit and will win a lot of awards! Love you guys!!

I've been sober now for 2 week's and this video is such an inspiration! I've always have loved this song! please make a video for lately!!! Best song ever.. Thank you so, so much DAN + Shay! 💖💯💖💯

This is such a powerful song. A lot of people can relate to it and it sends a message which I love in a song.

Beautiful song that one who truly falls inlove who only understand ❤️

Watching this and concentrating on the lyrics brought back some VERY painful memories. If you've lost someone you love due to complications of alcoholism, this will affect you like it did me... In 1975 the first love of my life and I split up after being together for four years, then thirty one years later we reconnected. Throughout that time he ended up in Utah and I in Pennsylvania. We both moved back to Montana in 2006 where we were originally from and started a new relationship picking up where we left off. With all the time that had passed, we never stopped thinking about each other nor did our love die. With that reconnection I knew he drank, but not as heavily as what he did. I adjusted to his addiction/disease and loved him for who "he" was. It was a difficult walk to follow and yes I'll be honest, there were times I felt I needed to walk away. The love I had for him was SO strong that I just couldn't and wasn't going to do it!! Thank God there was no violence whatsoever like this video shows...it was the pain of watching him slowly destroy and kill himself knowing there was nothing I could do that hurt so deeply. The demon ( which he called alcohol) controlled him he couldn't control it. I walked every painful step of the way with him doing what I could to help fight that Demon...We were together for two and a half years, married for one year and six days when he left me. His heart could no longer withstand the damage alcohol was doing to it and passed from a massive heart attack. God took him home to Heaven on March 31, 2009 freeing him from the pain and agony he was in. As for me...I'm doing the best I can to live without him and taking one day at a time as it comes to me.

I can relate so much to this video. My dad is 7 years sober tomorrow.

One of the best Dan + Shay music video's I've seen by far. Not only did I love how the music video doesn't shine away about Alcoholism and the addiction of alcohol but also it shows that if you have someone in your life that is positive influence and truly cares about your well being. You can accomplish and survive anything that life throws at you.

This was honestly the best music video Ive ever seen. I never would have thought to incorporate alcoholism into this song, but now I see how well it fits. The taking scenes also fit in so well with the music. Seriously such a good video!

If this video doesn't win a ton of awards or at least get nominated for a ton this year and/or next, that'll be a shame. Fantastic job to all involved especially Katie, her on screen love interest, and to D&S!

The beginning reminded me of The Fault In Our Stars where they sit in the heart of jesus.

Was a heroine addict for 4 1/2 years, almost died, got clean for a year and a half, then relapsed been 8 days clean as of today. Have this song on repeat its been a rough week.

Never have I ever wanted to comment on a video before. I love this song and have not watched the video until now and let me tell you I couldn't finish it. I have been drinking since I was 13 . Helped a lot with depression PTSD anxiety. Just to cope with life. To forget the things I had burned in my brain. I was living like this for so long. I'm 26 now sober since February 4th, 2017. Not Long but it's a struggle a process but fighting everyday with temptation.. I'll never listen to this song the same but totally for a good reason. For now on this is reminding me of how strong we all are and WE can overcome this terrible disease of alcoholism or any addiction. Praying for all💚💚 xoxo

A sad, yet insightful perspective on apart of the reality and struggles that individuals and families go through with this disease

3 days. I’ve been listening to this song and finally had the courage!

Definitely a struggle for so many people who all have burden's of Pain! I pray for Us all to have strength and the power of God! This is a nation under stressful day's, each day is a blessing granted and forgiveness of each other's selfishness can bring us threw the same toughest time's

4 years ago and this video is still sending chills down my spine

Yall please pray for my mom. Currently I don't live with her but my brother does. She's not healthy right now. Her and my Step dad is always arguing and my mom turns to alcohol. Just please pray for her to get healthy. God bless you all!!

Hey friends! Be here to chat in a sec. Gotta post the video on Instagram! Hope y'all are digging it so far!

This song makes me cry, every time this song is being played I start to choke on tears. This song is an inspiration to me. I’m not gonna drink when I’m an adult, thank you Dan + Shay! 👍 ❤️

When I was in my second year of college, I met the love of my life. She was all I've ever dreamt of in a woman and more. We were together for nearly 2 years. We had a beautiful relationship. I can confidently say that the time we were together was the happiest we have both ever been in our entire lives. She is such a beautiful person, inside and out. You can get lost in her eyes. She is hands down the most caring and generous person I have ever met. The way she cares for her parents and her sister. I could not name a single flaw with her even if I had a gun in my mouth. The way she always cared for me and planned to make sure that I would be ok. How madly in love she was with me. She helped me to become a person that I never knew I could be. Helped me realize my full potential. She was the only one I could ever be vulnerable around, the only one I confided in, the first person I went to whenever I had to make a decision in life. Even though I was only 20 years old. I was confident that I wanted to marry her. Our love was so strong. Yes, there were bumps along the road as this was our first serious relationship. However, I always told myself that no matter what happens, we would always work on it and always bounce back. Problems are inevitable in life and I believe that time does heal even the deepest of scars. In October of 2020, I messed up big time. I will man up and own my mistakes. I started to lose focus and I did some things that I absolutely hate myself for. I will never forgive myself for the things I did. It is now January 10th of 2020, and she had decided to end our relationship yesterday. She stayed for nearly 3 months after. I did everything and more in order to prove I really was a changed person. I am 10 times better now than the version of me she first fell in love with. Do you know how painful it is to hear "I don't want this to work anymore" from the person you want to marry, the person you love the most in life? to hear them say that them being around you makes them feel worthless? I know people will say that I believe time heals, so that time can heal my broken heart. I can't help but wonder about all the things we could have done if I didn't mess it up. All the things I planned. I had planned to graduate this summer and propose to her the same summer. She loved sunflowers, I planned to take her to a sunflower field in the summer and propose to her as I pretended to take a picture of her looking into the sunflowers. We talked about our future, jobs, family, goals. We wanted to have 2 children. Zayn and Zara were names that we had in mind. I threw that all away because I was selfish and pathetic. We believed in soul mates. I still do, there is no doubt in my mind that she is the one for me. I don't know what to do. I don't want to move on. I don't want to think of anyone else or look for anyone else. I can't accept it. Losing the love of my life coupled with facing dismissal from my college program for a false accusation of cheating is a nice combo, isn't it? I hate myself So much. So much guilt. I don't deserve to even be alive. To you young guys with new relationships, stop letting your hormones control you, don't have wandering eyes. Loyalty and discipline are so admirable in relationships. She always loved trying new things. After a few calls with her, found out that she was 18 and had never tried hot chocolate. So when I asked her to be my girlfriend, I used a cup of hot chocolate from Dunkin to write down my message for her. I doubt she will ever find this comment. If she somehow does, keep drinking hot chocolate, please. I will always be in love with you honey.

i love this song and its meaning behind it i have 6 in a half months clean and never felt better unfortunately my husband didn't make it i miss him so much it hurts but i am giving him his voice and standing strong. thank you dan and shay i love this song!!!!!

so not what I was expecting but SOOOO GOOD!

I lost the woman I loved over four years ago and haven’t been able to go one day without missing her. I don’t even know if I can find anyone else I’m so heartbroken still. I miss her so much.

Thank you for creating a video of what alcoholism can really look like, and how it can look like if you quit. The video depicts what has happened in my 40 years...and although I didn't use AA...quitting has shifted my entire mindset, relationships with the people I love, allowed strength to push away those who were unhealthy, and start taking accountablity for the words and actions that left me spinning in circles. Sobriety is a beautiful thing.

Whoever Noah is....he's gorgeous. Good God...

This song is so raw for me. Been sober for 9 months and have lost the man I love because of the addiction. This song signifies not only the addiction but losing the love of my life.

BEAUTIFUL!

I was in love with the song for a while. I found this video and now I'm more obsessed with the song, obsessed with the video, and obsessed with Pierson Fodé

I love how this video is so beautiful and has a powerful meaning behind it. In this day and age it's hard to find a good video with meaning behind it. Y'all did a great job! I love the song so much!

KATIIIIIE

I stopped drinking 1 year and 2 months. When I was an acholoic I was drinking my problems away. My broken marriage, fired from my 10 years working for target and being alone. I asked God for help and forgiveness. Just to stop drinking and start a new life and help me find my true love.

This song hits me on another level. How do I not think about you? It's been the only thing there for me when I'm in need. The only thing that dulls the pain. I'm sure everyone goes through hard times. Will power test us all. How strong are you? How beat down are you? How weak are you? Who's there for you? No matter what you control the out come. Just remember someone loves you matter what. Strive to be the person you want to be. Love yourself. Always remember the choices is yours. Love is a powerful tool.

I'm 13 I've dealt with an alcoholic mother and a father who tried his hardest to keep me away from it. They often fought when I was younger and I had never seen the official video for this song but the fight scenes always make me remember all those fights my parents would have over her drinking.

I can't even. That video was amazing and its perfect for the song. I love it so much!

This video touches so close to home. I myself am an alcoholic. I watch this video a lot and can relate. Have not yet had the same strength to seek help as so many of you have. God bless you.

my uncle passed away in Sept '16. he was an alcoholic for the majority of his life. although. i know hes no longer suffering, its still painful knowing he isnt here anymore. i absolutely love the message of this song.

This is great. Thank you

this gave me so many chills. the way drugs and alcohol have consumed so many people's lives is very heartbreaking. this shows things can work out.

wow this is true for me..thank u..u guys are great!!

Just when I didn't think I could love you guys more, you make this. My father has struggled with his alcoholism my entire life, as i write this he has relapsed. I pray that he finds a relationship like the one you depicted here. Truly beautiful video, moved me to tears.

officially my favourite music video😻😻 it has aesthetic, simplicity, amazing actors, amazing song and an amazing director!

By far my fave Dan + Shay song. This video only adds to my love for it. Well done guys!

Shout out to every one going through something that it feels like no one understands.

I love this song! Can’t stop listening to it, it makes me tear up because I live with a alcoholic & he has no clue what his alcoholism is doing to me or our kids. You guys nailed this song!

I had a friend of mine turn me on to this song tonight, touched my heart so deeply. She stayed with me thru 2 years of my alcoholism and is still around to see me have 6 months sober, may God Bless you richly for your work on this Heartfelt song Dan + Shay (y)

This song, paired with great cinematography, tells such a symbolic story about love and addiction.

Loving an alcoholic can be challenging because they have to want sobriety you can't force it you can hold their hand through the detoxification process the shaking, urges, anger, depression all the effects of the process. Being a stepdaughter of a recovered alcoholics with thirteen years of blessed sobriety I learned so much from him. He knew that I had a pattern of being a fixing person & he believed I had the strength to be the hand holder like my mom was for him. Alanon was my saving grace! Love the person hate the disease ❤

I’m 3years sober from being a alcoholic i started young and I’m 28yrs old now and I’m living my best life working on me. I pray everyone who suffers addiction gets through it you are all loved😘

I couldn't even concentrate on you guys singing the story was just amazing! I loved it! such a great video!

Literally this is my life atm... just got over liver failure to. Kidneys, jaundice, yellow eyes and finger nails. Swollen legs and hands !! Pancreatitis to! I was 23! I’m only 24 now... still not where I need to be but man this hits home

I'm not usually one to post comments on videos but this one...this one hit me hard. I was an addict for over 3 years and went to detox and rehab when I was only 18. I met my boyfriend last summer and I was in bad shape. I had just lost my job, could barely afford to eat and just didnt want to be here anymore. I havent touched anything since August because of him. He was an addict too but now we have each other to lean on. He doesnt know it but he saved my life. i felt like i was nothing until he showed me how fun life can really be sober. i still struggle every day but having him beside me gives me the strength to resist. to anyone dealing with an addiction, you CAN do it even if it feels like the whole world is against you. once you become sober you realize how valuable life is.

It took me just now to realize that this video was uploaded on my 19th birthday six years ago. But regardless, I still love this song back then and now.

LYRICS I can honestly understand why it's over I can go through the motions of walking away I can give you the key and take my things back I can find plenty things to fill my days But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to You're like second nature, baby, you're just like breathin' A melody that you hear and you can't forget The time goes by and I still need you Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to

I can honestly understand why it's over I can go through the motions of walking away I can give you the key and take my things back I can find plenty things to fill my days But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to You're like second nature, baby, you're just like breathin' A melody that you hear and you can't forget The time goes by and I still need you Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to

There's always a great story to their songs and I always replay to get the story right xx

This song is helping me with go through my heartbreak. After 11 years, how can you just forget about the love you shared. In order to get through the hardships in life, you need someone to pick you up. 💔💔

This was really touching and I absolutely loved it!

Going through the same thing with me and my girlfriend right now. Our best friend died last august who was her boyfriend. We fell in love afterward and have slipped down the road of alcohol and are actively working on getting better together. Thank you for this inspirational song that I relate to right now. 2 more weeks and shes out of rehab

The video is an awesome story of how things can change so much with just one person entering or leaving your life

So many relationships ruined by alcohol addiction. Excellent song and powerful message / video !

As a recovering addict, I can so relate to this song! Thank you Dan+Shay💞

Peirson is so awesome ♡

My fiancé died 9/22/2020 and while it wasn’t a break up I still find myself gravitating towards this song and video because he died of an overdose... we had been going to meetings together and he lost the battle so many are fighting. I’ve cried myself to sleep to this song but the more I listen to it the more I can smile and just try to be strong and move on... thank you Dan + Shay.

Greetings from the heart of Africa Rwanda❤🇷🇼

It isn't always easy but it's definitely worth quitting. Been there, done that!

This is my most favorite video ever from Dan and Shay! The video itself is like medication and reality to me. The Lyrics are so true, when you want someone so bad, that any and every vice is searched to ease a pain, that is always still there at the end of the day. It gives hope for a better future.Thank you guys for this video, song, and for hope!

To my brother, Dan....I love you man 💜🤘

I have been a fan of Dan and Shay since so many years ago,but imagine this is when I see this so powerful song and I really really needed it! Thank you So much Dan and Shay

Thats powerful, and shes a good actress

Oh my Lord there isn’t one song of theirs that I just don’t fall in love with !! 😍😍

These voices with the consistent songwriting blended with a powerful band!

This is one of those music videos that will bring tears in your eyes no matter what

chills chills chills

Wow this is amazing! ♥ So much depth!

wow i never knew how powerful this was. knew the song but didn't know the vid.. BRAVO!!!

So painful to be separated from a loved one by an RX bottle of spirits. The pain of someone else’s infliction doesn’t end once their acts have shaken a lovely soul to its foundation. D&S continually showing us the underlying truths of what’s important.. where love, truly, lies. ❤️‍🔥

This is one of the best video song of 2017. 😍

This is your best music video yet guys. *Dan+Shay, you've done it again*

this song is so beautiful, and also the guy in the video has gorgeous eyes.

This video broke my heart and gave me hope at the same time. 💔 ILYCG

Late to the comment party, but I feel the pain and the love and every emotion in this song. I struggled with alcoholism for 3 years and feel great that I got a grip on it. Great song. Great video.

Man this video speaks to me. Not the part about the relationship. But I was the girl. Being drunk. Partying. Going to work impaired even if I wasn't drinking on the job. Getting fired. Having alcohol ruin my life. But next month I'll have 2.5 years sober. What a blessing! Awesome video!

Somehow, KZfaq knew I was thinking about this song. My ex told me that he was still in love with me and that I am the one, after being apart for a year and a half. And now, this song says exactly how I feel about him. I don’t know how not to think about him. I don’t think I ever got fully over him.

Seriously, this brought me to tears 😭😍 great song.