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I gave everything and had no boundaries. I recognise all of these behaviours in myself and it’s something I have to work on forever after thirty years with a narc.

Learning everyday to say "no" and not to overshare.

The whole toxic system reinforces the narc not allowing boundaries. If you are out and they are mad you win. ❤

When I finally separated myself from disrespectful coworkers and family members who wouldn't respect my boundaries, a smear campaign was waged against me, and I was ostracized from the work and family groups.

I bought a cheap wedding band and have decided to wear it to remind myself that I’m not going to disrespect myself and that I am worth standing up for. Good video. Thank you.

I knew someone that wasn't alowed to have a door in her own bedroom. Just imagine how disresepctfull and invasive was her mother.

I set my boundaries according to my priorities. I do this for work & my personal life. You would be amazed at the folks that absolutely disrespect other folks boundaries. It’s saying NO to them & they cannot handle people denying them access to your life. I love the house example you gave.

Brilliant! Another insightful and very useful episode.

As always, thank you Darren for a very informative video. I tend to over explain and try to catch myself before I do it now. I was also the queen of no boundaries. I did not even know what they were. I set my first hard line just over a year ago and am still paying for it. Thanks again! I look forward to your videos.

Great stuff Darren. Thanks-a-googol. You made a comment at the beginning about how a lot of this stuff is "common sense" and it is, and also, it isn't. The longer you spoke the more I kept on realising that I need to keep revisiting, reminding myself and taking a fresh look at these crucial aspects of everyday life. No one really teaches us these things, it isn't part of any curriculum, yet it is so valuable and important to be aware of and open to.

Hi Darren, growing up as my mothers scapegoat it has taken a lot of therapy and hard work to reverse the brain washing. I had no idea for most of my life that I was even entitled to boundaries! Over the past year I've been practicing and making lots of mistakes😄but getting better and stronger all the time. I've also stopped being angry with myself. Thanks so much for all your work, they're a great resource that reinforces all my therapy. I think you'd be a brilliant Doctor, you wield your metaphoric sonic screwdriver every time you make a video😁❤🖖

This is uncannily appropriate for the astrological phase of the moon today….seems like you’re in alignment sir 🙌🏾✨💜

I'm wondering about when a narcissist tells you their "feelings", and they are ALL bad about you, accusatory with no supporting facts, and just a general negative view of you, and made up lies. And when you defend yourself, and tell them how hurtful it was, they play the "It should be ok for me to express my feelings in a relationship" card. I end up somehow feeling guilty for things I haven't said, done or even AM. Shatters my self esteem and they dismiss my own feelings about the terrible things they said to me. Basically telling me that their feelings are valid, they're expressing them, and I should just sit there and take it, even if it appears hateful. For NO reason. Feel like I can't win. 😢 This person had a horribly abusive childhood, is an alcoholic, addicted to Adderall, is manipulative, a perpetual victim and devalues me every chance possible.

great subject to draw lines is impossible once these people infest you family, you become the bad guy in everbody´s eyes - black sheep

Very helpful, just what I needed. Thank you.

Appreciated the broad range of relationships referenced here. Marriage is not the sole relationship where dysfunctionality, abuse, narcissism, sociopathy exists. Your explanation of assertiveness forms were excellent. Your concrete, practical suggestions were perfect in helping me to move forward! I recently figured out, after many years, along with the help of your previous videos, how to "deal" with a dysfunctional individual. I finally set my own boundary, in a non aggressive tone and simple, factual language. I identified my goal and practiced my script. I HAD BEEN dealing with a sociopathic, narcissist, with behavioral issues as a youth, and abuse issues as an adult. Your mention of behavior issues (aka history) was the best clarifier. Irresponsibility, deflection, blame, passive-aggressiveness, victim-claiming were their behaviors. The key turnaround came after I asserted myself. No legal authority of mine mattered to them. Only my no nonsense assertiveness. Thank you.

Super video thank you

I allowed without realizing it to give someone a narcissist all the decision-making on where we went what we did never wanted to do anything I want it to do when we had to go somewhere and be on time this person was always late or pretended they didn't remember which would make me anxious and mad and it would happen every time it was a game I finally said to this person I do not need you I'm a big girl the narc got mad said ugly things and goodbye it does hurt to put those boundary or put a stop to something you have to or it will continue but still suffering doctor anxiety heart palpitations brain fog you name it it took a toll on me but I'll get better with time what's a you doctor to this thank you for your video I listen to you a lot and take your advice love your videos they've helped me a lot

Wise words, we can be ourselves, assertive and with respect. We don't have to sacrifice who we are to the narc. Sorry missed the singing to the hairbrush 😄. Being assertive for the last time to my narc sister came at a price. After civilly agreeing to be away from each other I was subjected to a massive rage attack. This also was followed up by character assassination with our cousins and anyone else that would listen. I spoke civilly and quietly then moved away and she followed me everywhere raging as she did. Even if I don't give ammunition, she would bring up things from over 40 years ago to twist the knife even if it wasn't true.

Always the common sense approach delivered in an easy to understand way. Thanks as always

Thank you Darren, this was most helpful. I'll appreciate watching the replay whenever I can't attend the live event.

This is a wonderful presentation. Thank you! I mumble a bit too when I’m reading. It helps me comprehend better when I’m reading something unfamiliar in real time.

I missed the live stream. Bah!

Muttering... so you are human, that's a relief 😃😃

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Fantastic content Darren. Videos longer that 20 minutes, Regretfully, may result in not viewing your content.

only because I was expecting and for survival of children and self got decieved and trapped

mine is half of all and his is half of all

Therapy teachs you too overshare. " You have to tell me everything. I am not your friend. gave promise of privacy and confidencially ity gave all records to abusers lawyer and abuser kept copy to use in futture never able to speak for myself lawyer weak his lawyrr mafia

copsin his pay roll no help

Yes . 100 lbs heavier 8". inches taller linebacker man handles rough not face but bruised bleeding invisible treats as slave no support from sustem family supporrt and also abuse flying monkeys of perpetrator He is indifferent crumbs and provocation pattern nasty

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He is double minded pretends lies contrils

do not tease the ogre or the pirate.

system made worse