One thing that has to be added is that dating doesn't necessarily need to be a thing here.... Sure, of course, people are dating, we have dating apps, even hookup culture etc. But most people I know just met their partners through school, work, friends or at a party. That initial spark tends to happen naturally and organically in settings like those. An important aspect for a lot of Swedes (I think) is to feel a meaningful and emotional connection with another person. Dating, at least to me feels much more like an imported "American concept" that turns love into a commodity where there is a big focus on consuming goods and services and where it is implied that men should "show off" to swoon girls. I think most Swedes just like a more natural settings. The biggest cultural difference I can come to think of is that there isn't a large divide between genders. A friend of mine threw a big birthday get-together just a week ago, and we were basically just a big group of mixed adults ranging from 25-45 year olds, everyone was interacting with one another in a very mixed setting, gender, age or sexual orientation didn't really matter, and people mingled around quite organically. Something that objectively felt quite unique compared to what I have witnessed when traveling abroad (where people tend to group up in guy groups and girl groups)

The summary of this video is that dating life in Sweden is as cold as it's weather.

In my experience, swedes don’t tend to do the casual dating the way they do in the US. We don’t really date for the sake of it, but rather because we want to get to know that particular person. I also feel like the whole pressure of being in a relationship is a lot less here than in other places, hence when we meet someone it is usually because we like them as a person, and not just because we want a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Seems like the guys like the way things are for the most part but it seems like the women are open to more “traditional” things like the man asking out and paying for dinner or paying for a drink. Interesting 🤔

Love the Scandinavian dating videos, this is so interesting.

I live in Sweden and swedes are generally well intentioned , I am sure they would invite but when you go out with your friends and drinks cost minimum 15 euros it puts the mood down and forces to split a bit Problem is that the high cost of living for leisure kind of ruins the party mood, and if you invite people éventually will give it back to you so it is about to show that we can have a more convivial approach and then Swedes are hooked 🤗

Sooo the women would like to be asked out ... but no one does it?

the redhead seemed lovely, was uni friends with some swedes, lovely bunch of people

This is what I'm hearing. Swedish women want some traditional traits from men without being traditional women themselves. The men are more feminine and don't question certain aspects of roles. My question would be if they were asleep and they heard a thump in the middle of night that sounded like someone was in their house, then who's going to go check on it? The woman or the man? Who's carrying the heavier items in the house?

Enjoying the Swedish content. Keep it coming !!!

Why I felt so depressed watching this?

Marina, we need to know the top beauty features that women prefer in each country? Can you make a video with as more countries as you can involve

moving to Sweden for a couple months this was super useful and fun video🙌🏽

Hi Marina! I love your channel and wanted to ask, are you planning on making anymore you know you are dating videos? They are the best, and I would love to see a video about dating a New Zealand man and woman. Have an incredible day and can’t wait to see more videos!

As a Swede this series of videos talking about Swedish social culture has verily helped me gain a very good perspective on the whole dating situation here (I'm 24) as I've been trying to figure it out, decode it in a way. See, I'm not your typical Swede, I'm a traditionalist in many regards, old school, and you guessed it, makes it a lot harder to date here with all the casual hookups. But now that I've gained better understanding, not only of dating in general, but this aspect of Swedish culture in particular, I feel like I should be able to find me a good match (out here in the snow). What really got me was the redhead girl encouraging us guys to not be so Swedish (coconutty) and actually be more direct and more brave. I've always been a person who stick out (a long haired creative with a mystic mind) and always been very masculine by nature, so I feel like this won't be a problem for me now that I got the confirmation that it is actually the better way to go. I've naturally already been taking this approach doing cold approaches and generally been more social with strangers, which's fun, I really like it most of the time, and I can honestly say that I've gotten some really great interactions, smiles I'll never forget. However, finding a good woman to match my old school standard might prove to be difficult since this culture is so secular and progressive. But who knows, maybe some women out here are tired of meowing around and just want to settle down and have a family, I believe so. Though I might just travel to the eastern countries where traditionalism is already ingrained in the culture, just to better my odds.

Drinks are quite expensive in Sweden, so that may be why we usually dont offer ladies a drink as our first move. 15 euros or more for a standard Gin & Tonic

My theory here is that a lot of women consume a lot of social media from countries like the US and then get inspiration/expectations from it. It's not until the past few years the term "dating" has been a thing, that's why one of the women in the video got a bit confused.

Before you pack your bags and start singing ABBA songs, here are the things you need to know before moving to Sweden, my friend. First of all, the weather is as unpredictable as a Swedish fish playing hide-and-seek in a fjord. One minute it's sunny and beautiful, next minute you're hit with a blizzard straight out of Frozen. Secondly, forget about personal space - Swedes take their "lagom" attitude seriously and won't invade your bubble. But beware, they might confuse politeness for introversion, so don't be surprised if your icebreaker joke doesn't land like an Ikea furniture manual translation. Oh, and did I mention the majestic beauty of nature? From picturesque lakes to stunning forest landscapes, Sweden will give your Instagram feed a serious case of envy. Lastly, brace yourself for an invasion of surströmming - fermented fish that can clear a room faster than you can say "IKEA meatballs." Embrace the quirks though because once you get past them, living in Sweden will make you feel like part of their cozy little family.

These are great! Can you do Ireland and Scotland next?

very nice vid, can you kindly make one for Swiss dating culture as well please? cheers ❤

Thank you Marina. This video is very helpful. I like all your videos in Nordic countries!

That title of the book is genius ! Made me chuckle too. Gothenburg seems to have a very different vibe to Oslo btw, bit more open somehow. Jazzier , lol sorry for the word choice

Answer to the ”no one ever buys me a beer/drink” thing they talk about and preferences. 1. Swedish girls in most situations when you been here long enough always shut men down in different ways and are very cold, so asking girls out turns into a big negative situation(not worth it) as in other countries. 2. Tinder desensitise an already very private social structure. 3. Nothing said as good qualities in this video by the people interviewed is generally seen as something positive in Swedish society. What nr 3. Is though is something that breaks the norm making it more exotic and if swedish girls likes anything it is something exotic.. for a short while at least :) //Swede

Great format easy to watch!

Buying women drinks and etc isn’t a flex or showing you’re a man they literally are saying yes because it’s them receiving something FREE just for EXISTING who wouldn’t say they like that😂 Be wise

Keep in mind that in Sweden they don't even prepare food for their children's friends when they come over to play. Swedish families will eat lunch with their child while expecting their guest to sit in another room with no food. That's the cultural context in which Swedish men don't pay on dates. It's more because they don't have a culture of hospitality and are socially stunted, not because of gender equality.

Interesting and informative video

No ways am I buying a guy who is not my husband a meal or even going 50/50. Clearly I would not survive in Sweden😂

-- "What's your secret to a happy marriage?" -- (Frowns and looks into the farthest distance possible.)

Through all the videos that you post you are the most beautiful person and energy. 🍀

Favorite city and excellent format. Appreciate the creativity.

I say, people in Sweden are giving some good opinions about not dating in their country. This is a good example of how different countries can learn how to date. : )

I feel the most common way to get a boyfriend/girlfriend in sweden is still through your social circles. It might be a friend of a friend or someone that goes to the same activity on the weekend or someone from school. Other then that dating apps are not super uncommon. Just picking someone up at a bar or in town seems super weird, we don't really engage with strangers. Any stranger that approaches you will give of an instant odd impression (if it wasn't for something tiny like "excuse me, your backpack is open" or "do you know the way to...?")

I really enjoyed it very much!!!!!

Awesome video

Good thing to know before i jump into a serious relationship with a swedes.As an indian though im an independent woman im still into men being more traditional & i dont mind a man with good intentions approaching me but for me to approach a man? well i'd have to be crazy inlove with that man to do so.

interesting point from that married lady who have never been on date. So sad she did not say more details. I assume, that she just started meeting one nice boy that and there and finaly they ended up married to each other. Maybe people are ovethinking this stuff. It is just human interaction as anything else.

1:00 this accounts for your opinions too. You are not allowed to have your own opinions in sweden and if you stand by values that are slightly different from them they will slowly gravitate away from you. So, my recommendation is keep any opinions you have to yourself until like 3 months into the relationship/friendship and you might get a positive response

About the whole paying thing. I think we need to separate a woman's enjoyment of being spoiled with a restaurant dinner and the expectation that the man should spoil her with a restaurant dinner. In general nobody in Sweden expects anybody to pay for anything other than what they buy for themselves. But there are of course still people buying things for eachother as a gesture and to be nice. Or simply out of practicality, like "You are my girlfriend or friend since decades, I don't have to keep tabs". Altough, if you are a group of more than two, probably the far most common arrangement is for everybody to pay for themselves.

Oof, no thank you to the “quizzes” date, I can’t believe anyone thinks testing or quizzing of any kind is fun 🤣. I did enjoy Henrik’s “go with the flow” approach, however!

first date in a museum, she offers to pay, equality in a relationship.... love it

Thank you! Will buy your book, 'sex before coffee ' , sounds interesting!

Nobody wants to pay 😂

Are the responsibilities of children equally split? If so, I guess it’s not so bad

Imagine fighting for Feminism so hard and then complaining that Traditionalism is dead.... YOU KILLED IT!

Happy Thursday Marina! If you're ever back in Miami in the future food and drinks are on me 😁

I like your shirt. Though if I remember correctly, it was a Dane who said it in one of your episodes, no?

It's a good thing I moved out of Sweden at dating age cause it sounds like the men dont really befit the strong provider protector archetype but more you do you I do me.

As a Swede, i would like my culture (in this specific aspect) to life on death row. I'm in my 50's and have been working on myself for decades now. To come to a place, where it is ok to have emotions, sparkles of joy.

I am married to a Swede (not a Swede myself). While we were dating, I was paying and he was also paying. Swedish men, if you are after the calculation of 15-20 kronas, you may as well lose the chance of a potentially good relationship/marriage. Sharing is caring. Those who eat alone, die alone.

My conclusion to this video is that women want a gentleman but dont want to be a lady them self. As a single man in Sweden its really hard to date. Women want soo much but often dont want to give nearly as much in return. Im of course not very politically correct but that makes it even more difficult, sure many women want a gentleman but at the same time a politically correct feminine man, hopeless....

if you want to feel like the man in a relationship even though you're a woman then feel free to date north european men

I like If I buy a drink to a lady an if she accept she appreciate it or she feel flattered etc. The problem is that in US for example you buy them a drink they accept it but still they don't even appreciate it. they either having the body language of " idiot he is buy me a drink" or they actually feel that is not even worth to acknowledge and appreciate it .

Hi can you say which country in the world where it is easier for a woman to find a partner and also where you can make friends easily please let me know i live n montreal i have trouble making friends i am sociable but as a woman i find it difficult to find people to socialize so please let me know where its easier thank you

IF you at first meeting first invite, ask, then the other person is a guest and OFC they no pay. Later on if become friends or more, you split. Common sense in all Scandinavia, also Finland. Period!

Hello good day, this is a great video. I think Scandinavian cultue is a very very special thing. I just wanted to mention that I was a little shocked when after the talk of the woman in minute 6:30 she then said that swedish women would actually like that men be more galant... It seemed counterintuitive to me as she mentioned things like "swedish females are pretty independant, it´s not our greatest achievement or goal in life to get married", "dating a swedish woman you have to be confident and let her do her own thing." This all gives the impression that they would not approve much of the galant behaviour she describes as "american". What is funny is at the end SHE AND HER FRIEND both say the would "enjoy it if swedish men did that more (reffering to the galant things listed before). Anyway I just thought it would be funny to mention this, hope somebody reads it and answers. Bye bye message in a bottle hehehe

Why choose a restaurant for the first date? The risk of having an expensive meal while suffering through an awkward situation and conversation, while you can't just quit 🤨

Swedish men are known to be good looking and well dressed but what you’re not told is that they are the most conflict-fearing, and feminine men in the world so if that’s what you’re looking for ladies then go for it but be aware that their gentlemanly attire and features don’t make them gentlemanly in their personality. This coming from a Swede btw.

I'm in the wrong country 😂 I'd be buying mojitos left and right

We want to get to know the person abit... befoe even approaching at all. This happen in school, work, through friends or from house parties with friends and their friends ... things like that, because trust is an important metric for us, so we want to feel that this person is trustworthy. We just dont go date here, date there, generally speaking. There is no rush at all in anyway for it either. Also going to restaurants is like .. rare i feel, we like to go home, watch movies and stuff, chill XD Im not speaking for everyone here. Ofcourse there are Swedes that prefer opposite stuff but anyway.

Never compliment Never hold the door Never pay everything Equality is Big

Santa “Klaus” the old guy is the hottest haha

In Sweden be brag much even when we don’t have it.

Dating in Sweden? Just don't.

I was born & raised in Sweden but have lived in the UK for the past 12 years. Been in Stockholm all summer this year and a lot of these is the typical Swedish experience BUT the ethnic Swedish experience is not like this 😂 in fact, the dating scene in London sucks compared to the ethnic Swedish scene in Stockholm, so maybe broaden horizons!

6:01 being a mother and a housewife does not make you less of an adult

Ooooooffff. Scandies are difficult.

This just like the states damn near. Also, it’s funny how the Swedish women would like men to pay more or open then door but then also true equailty 😂

It means there has become a trust deficit in Swedish people about dating with forigners. Obviously swed dating a swed is more comfortable regarding same culture.

Seems like Swedish ladies have contradicting views. In one hand they want to be treated like real ladies - the men to be more galant. On the other hand they show their independence so much; that the guys would be afraid to offer their help or care. 🧐

Mm they dont sound romantic at all 😅😅😅

Is a great country and nice people God blessed them❤

American women wouldn’t like Sweden as American men are still required to pay for everything in dating and marriage. American women are independent but the men must be traditional in f you want a woman .

Wait a minute don’t have to pay on the first date and get these gorgeous model looking girls…. I need a passport

Easy to say for Americans when it doesn’t cost 15 euros a drink

this is such a hypocracy, I can then say it is nice for women to cook sometimes, to clean and be housewife, its nice, sometimes you know

Does that apply to Charming gentleman myself? Even if I want to pay, is that okay still?

Seems like the men leaned all the way into the feminist shit and it ended up backfiring against the women lol People are hilarious 😂

We date???

To me, it seems like a very equal country like Sweden and Scandinavia in general strips away men's hunter nature. We know in general women won't approach men. These women need to increase their approaching rate and be okay with being turned down by men to actually make it someone what equal. While the Scandinavian guys are reputed to be tall and pretty everything that the USA women always talk about. For a foreign woman going there, the question would be are you ready to make the approach?do you actually believe in equality and practice what you preach?. Those guys seem the really embody equality without some afterthought. They don't seem to have that ''you wanted equality this is what you get attitude'' like in the USA etc.. Well, im sure most Swedish women will prefer dating Swedish guys in the end. From this interview, I can see why a foreign man from the USA.uk, and Spain. Australia and Canada could get there and get some positive results because their own men seem passive and dont approach.

What sort of men are these, you cannot put your hand into your pocket for only a drink?? You cheap skates😂😂

It’s a failed society.

Don’t be broke and don’t be poor!

Don't ever pay for a female. They must work and pay💪

From the whole interview, I can conclude that sweds men are stingy.

These people are so cringy. And lost.

Mam this is my request to you make a video on Bangladeshi women

I like your haircut! especially the wavy side.

If somebody says the opposite party SHOULD do something, or somebody SHOULD pay and anything like that... They should stop watching netflix and start treating their god syndrome. Go out and talk to people as an equal.

Isn't feminism and liberation wonderful. Now both members of a couple need to work to afford to live and pay their bills when previously only one did!

Don't worry about it sweetie, I will not be a swede, I will be the MAN.

Bruh 💀

5:47 I need mature woman

The ginger girl got no accent when speaking English. She legit could pass for American or Canadian.

ofc she likes getting a free drink, why doesnt she buy one for a man huh ?

It looks like things are lacking in the women's lives. At the end of the day, we just want to be treated special even when you see us as equal. .....Those who have paid for men food and date....stop that. If it is for birthday or celebration okay. Don't do this as a norm it usually doesn't end well. A man will pay if they really care about you.

These bros are gay. No need to advertise them for women.

Swedish men are simple in nature and more focused on their careers rather dating or stuff. That's why Swedish women approach to Swedish men more.

Broke bros

If she offers to pay where is the equality? Scandinavians are cute but I'm happy dating my arab men xD no question for the bill and I'm treated like a precious woman ^^ Interestingly the richest countries are the least generous when it comes to paying .. America, scandinavia.. Go to African country see if a man lets his woman pay, that's an insult to his dignity!