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Dear Sister: Marriage Stress, Uncertainty, & What To Consider Before Marriage | S4EP66 | Happy Chirp

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Sisters, meet Maida Iqbal and Usra Murtaza. Today we’re talking about something that almost every girl gets stressed about at a certain point in life - marriage stress, and things to consider before getting married. It's completely natural to feel anxious as you approach a big life milestone. However, there are so many things that you need to look into before you make the final decision. Should you stop your life to get married? Why are women expected to move? Will it affect your career? Is he “the one”? How to make it work? The importance of emotional support and how to identify abusive patterns? Catch this and so much more in tonight’s episode.
#happychirp #humnaraza #marriage
00:00 Meet Maida Iqbal and Usra Murtaza
00:30 Khush-Khabri
00:39 Marriage stress & uncertainty
07:01 Why are women expected to move?
07:58 Career choices: Love marriage Vs. Arrange marriage
11:35 Should you stop your life to get married?
15:39 Usra's plans for her career and marriage
19:22 The change in mindset
21:12 How to find “the one”?
27:41 Things to think about before getting married
33:04 Emotional support & insecurity
37:32 Shaming and abusive patterns
47:28 How to make it work?
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@alizabatool1280 2 жыл бұрын

I really hope to see that day soon where mothers and women in general stop watching the same toxic morning shows with same stereotypical topics and switch to such meaningful and honest conversations of everyday reality that most of us are living in. Pakistan really needs to promote the podcast culture more. I really hope you take your podcast to radio soon, it needs to reach every Pakistani despite their gender. Really good initiative. More power to you and I hope to see your channel grow with every passing day.

@farzeenfatima590 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this podcast! In a middle class household they only care about their family values and what a girl should do in her in laws house and all sorts of responsibilities... They make sure that the girl is of a young age so that they can mould her into her family values and culture instead of understanding her passion and life goals. In fact the guy is also a victim of their parents needs and wants. The guy and the girl both are compromising in this so-called family culture issues. They can't decide their future on their own just feel pressurized and looking up for their parents / in-laws and their examples that we should live our life accordingly because they're programmed to do and think like that... It is toxic in many households because they're just expecting a newly married couple to understand all these things instead of understanding the era changes and the environment.... Our parents are becoming so strict towards their rules and laws that unfortunately they fail to understand their children and force them to do what they have been doing in their lifetime because they think they know the world and our young generation is not going to do things as intellectually as us.

@minahwaqas3406 2 жыл бұрын

loved this! its high time we start addressing such issues and i think you guys are doing an amazing job with bringing up such topics and having conversations that people need to and should hear. thankyou humna for coming up with happy chirp! and i hope you continue doing such thought provoking podcasts!🥰

@ayeshashah5256 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes stability looks like lack of love due to past traumatic relationships (parental or romantic).. which is why most of the youngsters feel attracted towards a "bad boy" or someone who brings a lot of drama to their life. Because this kind of pattern feels familiar to them.

@sabrabatool8204 2 жыл бұрын

This was so positive and empowering. ❤️ Worth listening. 🙌

@ayeshashah5256 2 жыл бұрын

Also, love at first sight, everlasting passion, spark, such unrealistic ideas are normalized or romanticized due to Bollywood/Hollywood.. which is why everyone loves the honeymoon phase but they drift away when it comes to conflict. Self awareness and compassion towards the other person as humna and usra had said is rlly important for a long term relationship to sustain the lows of rlshp/life.

@shazamramzan275 Жыл бұрын

1st of all, you are discussing that topics, that are never ever discussed before and no one will discuss them because no one consider them to be discussed but these series of topics, specially the partner choosing, marriage related things, career Vs relationships and other relevant stuff, are need of the hour to be discuss. Thanks to you people that you are discussing these topics..

@NoorFatima-ec3vo 2 жыл бұрын

We need a separate podcast with Maida please

@ridakhan1749 5 ай бұрын

A boy's mother, initially pointing out flaws in a girl at her age/physique/dowry etc. at the time of rishta, is a major red flag for a girl's life ahead. Parents should absolutely avoid doing rishtas to such families, specially if your girl is talented and independent financially.

@aroosrao6699 2 жыл бұрын

You are speaking to million of hearts. Stay blessed Always 💕

@RjAhmed 2 жыл бұрын

Wow! What a thoughtful podcast that was

@mishawaqar8557 2 жыл бұрын

Very nice podcast ...per jo points consider krny chahye in person u r hoping to get married to,how will u get to know about all those things before marriage?? In totally arrange marriage system...

@natureatrescue4337 2 жыл бұрын

NEXT TOPIC ; "HUSBANDS MENTAL ABBUSE" .pLEASE THIS IS A VERY LESS DISCUSSED TOPIC.

@NAVEEDAKHLAQ 2 жыл бұрын

Bcz they are expert and they have in depth knowledge about human psychology

@ahmedzaf55 2 жыл бұрын

They say a man should be the provider, hes responsible for running a family. Hes nothing without being financially stable, having an established career. But on the other hand you say that in relationships career opportunities for women should be considered equally significant for example she gets a work oppurtunity abroad and i'm well settled in here but she wants to work there and she asks me to move with her and i know i would've asked her the same if she was settled here and i had to move abroad considering a better oppurtunity, the confusion is, whatever she earns shes not compelled to spend it on the family but whatever i earn i have the responsibility to take care of my family. Even in such simple scenarios it comes down to men being the ones to carve the path not the women. How should it be addressed? You are right with almost all of the wrongs or so called norms that are being followed but when it comes down to finances it gets very confusing to balance the needs and wants and at the same time to let your partner have the freedom to persue her career on her own will. To what extent do you think this pattern is wrong and how can we make it right?

@zainabhabib4437 2 жыл бұрын

It is a mans job to take care of the finances, women are freed from this responsibility... But they surely can and will help in need And secondly what society says and expects, koi poora nahi kar sakta...

@natureatrescue4337 2 жыл бұрын

AMAZING PODCAAST I HOPE EVERY SINGLE PEROSN WATCHES THIS.

@mohdatif4847 6 ай бұрын

Allah karre sab ke shadi ho jaei Ameen

@AbdulSamad-ln5tc 2 жыл бұрын

Would love to see Arhum Baloch on this podcast again. Bring her back, please.

@noorulain4785 2 жыл бұрын

U guys are doing great job ❤️❤️👏

@noorulain4785 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful podcast 👏👏👏👏👏❤️

@fatimanaeem3993 2 жыл бұрын

Hamna, i feel like it was a great podcast appreciated topic and discussion, but please look into letting the guest speak more, it felt a lot like your own thought expression, couldnt really hear out more from the guest.

@sabaaamir5331 2 жыл бұрын

The guest is incapable and has nothing to say guys! Come on cant u see what little she said was insanely ridiculous! Hamna is dense and how smartly she covered with her factual knowledge! The guest knowledge was utter non sense! May be what hamna could have done better was to invite her own mom or shireen gheba and talk on this sensitive topic who had succesful marriage lives ,their future secured and their children are well settled too Ma sha Allah. Their wise knowledge based on experience would do wonders for the young ladies. Again No offence to anyone.✌️

@happychirp 2 жыл бұрын

Hello! I understand but these podcasts are not guest based. Dear sister is topic based and anybody who has something to say can speak. It’s not an interview. 🤗 my other guest based podcasts, are more based on guests, their journeys and expertise. This is a conversation. ☺️

@shazamramzan275 Жыл бұрын

There is some background noise in this podcast. Please do resolve that. Thanks..

@mishshaukat 2 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this❤️.

@kainatashraf2944 2 жыл бұрын

Loved every bit of it

@nihaabbasi574 2 жыл бұрын

Really insightful podcast

@hiratayyab7 2 жыл бұрын

Enjoying the podcast, Maida resembles Saba Qamar btw.

@hamnasaif5026 Жыл бұрын

I learned a lot without being bored. So thank you❤️

@maazismail4936 Жыл бұрын

Such a brillant podcast, thank you for doing it😍😍

@sandothemando8924 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the podcast! :)

@hiratayyab7 2 жыл бұрын

Best scenario is get married but take time to have kids (or not at all if both are not obsessed with kids) ❤️

@muhammadahwaheed4742 2 жыл бұрын

Hi, can you recommend book related to your this podcast topic?

@ifrahabid3654 2 жыл бұрын

Thankyou for this!

@hehehe5989 Жыл бұрын

Very insightful

@maryamijaz6107 2 жыл бұрын

I know its very exciting and interesting topic but atleast let maida speak. Humna with no offense but i felt like you are taking words from maida's mouth. I know app bhtt sensible baatein kr rhy ho sb log but usko bolnay tou dein na app. Want to listen to her as well😒

@sabaaamir5331 2 жыл бұрын

Lol its good that hamna spoke because she is far more experienced in family life than maida. What maida doesnt even know that habits never change , no matter what so it was good for hamna to take over because she knows what she is talking about.No offense to maida but hamna always invites inspiring women ,please dont lower down your intellectual and wise standard hamna.Your audience is far more mature with a good intellectual level.maida was completely wasted.

@fouadashraf8144 Жыл бұрын

@@sabaaamir5331 what makes you say that? Can you point out why exactly you chose to call someone wasted? Getting real tired of women putting other women down.

@shazamramzan275 Жыл бұрын

If we are talking about this specific podcast, you said almost everything right about Ikhlaaq, respect, trust, understanding, loyalty. Every point is linked to each other..and the point about Bonding and other things. If bonding is matched and other habits like talked about drinking habits, smoking are also there and which one to choose. What I want to say here is that, only a little things are talked about women that how to know them, you just talked "how to know about men". I respect your views please discuss the both sides of the picture. Right now what I'm facing and observing in society is that, men are facing more difficulties or you can say equal difficulties as women have. Most of the males and their families don't even have any demands. Literally I'm saying thag. Just, they want Good Ikhlaaq and respect and nothing else. But men are ignored only due to their financial instability and yes that's a big issue but, why don't you talk about that both will make their career together and grow together? That's also a possibility.. Please don't mind but this is what I'm thinking

@asmaabro6844 2 жыл бұрын

Very good content humna

@thinktech8306 2 жыл бұрын

I don’t know why ladies are overthinking about relationship, couple have to Understand each other and should be struggle build better habits for higher lifestyles it’s simple why we make so complicated

@hiratayyab7 2 жыл бұрын

True but parents involvement doesn't let the couple figure out things organically, they enforce a timeline.

@sabasiddiqui429 2 жыл бұрын

I think the woman who did 'baby by herself' Amina from Khan'sGalore!! Am I right? 😉

@laraibzaheer4446 Жыл бұрын

No offense or hatred, but I think the guest should speak more than the host. Humna interfere between the guest's points. we hardly get to know lot about the guest. Please let them speak and wait until they are done talking. Otherwise great topic. thanks x

@majidlatif470 2 жыл бұрын

As a guy, listening to this to understand the women species ☻️

@NAVEEDAKHLAQ 2 жыл бұрын

In this episode there should be a psychologist present in the house.

@aberunnishaq2137 2 жыл бұрын

Haha I hope your friend has clearer view now. ♥️

@abdullahqamar5570 2 жыл бұрын

there is no prefect relation

@cutiepie9139 Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@NeharryVlogs 2 жыл бұрын

🌺

@tehminarashid7946 2 жыл бұрын

👍

@mahrukhzaka9763 2 жыл бұрын

I was very looking forward to this podcast but it felt a lot like a classroom lecture from human. I suggest all participants have somewhat equal talk time to get different opinions.

@NeioM 2 жыл бұрын

Regardless of gender, Behan jee, you will go to the US if you marry an American with a green card; the green card is what is moving you, not the person. Koi pagal ka bacha/bachi hogi jo US chor k Pakistan settle hojaye . Agr Aisa nhe hy to chichawatni k larke se shadi kren woh apke gar me shift hoga apke sath 😂😂😂😂 At least make an effort to communicate honestly

@funzone1314 2 жыл бұрын

Please don’t involve usra she acts really oversmart in every podcast it’s not her show, love to hear you alone.

@sidrahaider4018 2 жыл бұрын

She doesn't act smart. She's over smart that's why she's sitting there and you are here watching the video and commenting. That's why people like you are unable to digest whatever she has to say.. If you want to hear her alone don't watch the podcasts in which there are other people too.

@tbonesteak1481 2 жыл бұрын

I disagree. She is smart and has very good points