I have done the primary invalidation to my child and I feel absolutely horrible about it. I’m trying to be a better person and mother she deserves

I have learned and realized so much about my BPD, hypersensitivity and childhood trauma more than I ever have…everything makes so much sense now…I need to contact a therapist…thank you💕

I have had little to no professional help recently & I couldn't express how grateful I am for your videos. Although I've self therapised myself before; different trauma calls for different & better healing tactics. And accepting I did the best I could helping myself as a child. You have taught me a great deal that internet reading alone can't always do. Thank you

This video is valuable beyond words. The dynamic of sufferers being triggered by the very environments that invalidate them screams emotional abuse. Even well-intentioned persons, if uninformed are not able to adecuately support persons in pain if they cannot understand the validity of the condition. Thank you Dr. Snipes for raising awareness of the topic!

Wow, this is so great. I've been struggling with BPD all my adult life (possibly as far back as 10 years old), without therapy. I have stumbled upon many of these techniques, but this is a bonanza. Thank you.

"If you try to save your life you'll lose it but if you give up your life you'll save it"........the problem at its core, is fear and trying to protect yourself from harm. The solution is to stop all activities and thoughts that are designed to protect yourself, give up your life.

You are the greatest teacher in my life, it is so pleasant to listen to your videos every single day.

7 years taking this class, a new record to stay consistent and proactive in learning new techniques of coping skills. Thank you Doctor it's cool.

Hahahaha “if the chainsaw is out, they know I need space”. I totally feel that. I recently got diagnosed with BPD and I’ve been really trying to regulate my moods. Thank you for making this lesson available online.

I went through a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy course over 12 years ago. I expect myself to be perfect because I have these skills. When I do not use these skills, I feel like a failure. The Tip exercise and the Accepts exercise are excellent techniques for distress tolerance. I particularly like to self-soothe through burning incense or listening to music. The 5-4-3-2-1 exercise is great to do. Since I have found your video channel, your videos have been a very helpful distress tolerance tool.

This is amazing thank you kindly for thanking the time to create and share this. I recently paid for a DBT course that wasnt anywhere near as practical and informative as this. Thanks again.

This channel is really great I have been spending an hour a night listening no matter what and it does help

This was my first video learning about Dpt. It was describing me to a T. It was very emotional to go through the video. This was very educational. Thank you.

You are a very kind and knowledgeable strong person doctor. Love and blessings from Egypt

Thank you, Everything is clearer now. I appreciate you.

I highly appreciate your videos. Excellent explanation. This makes a lot of sense.

You are amazing. You covered lots of material. Thanks so much

Thanks for putting this together. I recently started dating someone with BPD, she told me kn our first date but I honestly didn't know a lot about it. Amazing first part of the relationship but now it's revolved round to a difficult spell where by I don't know where I stand. Helping to understand how her mind works is helping, and if it doesn't work out with her then I have this knowledge to use on another person. Really sucks though, because I just want to be loved

This whole channel is gold. Thanks!

Awesome overview, thank you. I'm inspired to learn and apply.

Thank you so much for this video. My son is in a really bad place and an emotional wreck. We've been waiting 18 months to get him DBT but there's still no light at the end of the tunnel. This video has helped me so much and I have hope that I can try to help him now I have a better understanding of what DBT is and how it's used. Thank you

Many thanks for all your hard work on your content!

Thank you so much. The information you presented is the best help I have received in recent years. May God bless you.❤

Thank you for posting

Very helpful, thank you so much😊

amazing presentation. Thank you so much

That was amazingly helpful, thank you! 🙏

Great Skills, thank you!

School staff need to see this ❤

This presentation is excellent! I’ve taken a DBT course so this was a great refresher. The info is detailed and spot-on. Thank you for sharing this!

Thank you Dr. Snipes for doing this review. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorders over 15 years ago. I totally agree with this diagnoses. I relate to everything that is said about BPD.

Thank you very much This explanation is very helpful to me.

This is the best breakdown of the causative factors of bpd n treatment of dbt. U have no idea how much u have helped us and using simple explanations so that the every day person can have a deep understanding of dbt. Thank u very much for this

Great information thank you Doc Snipes 🙌🏻☀️

Very informative and practical thenkyou!

Thank you.

Wow! I knew this existed but never knew what exactly it was! I am a super Sensitive a super Empath and Clair… Clairsentience… I will now Perdue what I have so deeply not understood. God Bless you… you have opens my mind to the possibility of help.

Super helpful Thank you

Thank you thank you for this video

Thank you for this. I live in TN but cannot afford dbt at the moment so I joined a support group on Facebook and a member of the group directed me here. At least I can somewhat learn some dbt skills here. I hope to possibly understand myself more.

Thank You 🙏🏻

Thank you!!!!! ❤

Thank you so much for this video I need help so bad

So me!!!! I always kick in to fight or flight and I can’t slow down. I try, and I know where it is coming from but it’s hard to get myself to stop and I get very anxious

This was very useful. Thanks 😊

Your video was easy to watch and the ideas were easy to absorb. The key for me to get so much out of the material you presented was my own motivation. Thanks for putting this video together, I will definitely come back to it as a resource. (My favorite quote of yours was "to tame the monkey mind"). Bravo! I much appreciate your work on this topic!

This is really helpful for me. Thank you. The 10 game - Find 10 things you are grateful for. Gratitude = Sanity. I use essential oils daily. Today I'm using a body butter that I just added petitgrain bigarde to and its citrusy scent is very uplifting, energizing and this oil helps with physical pain. I read that petitgrain sur fleurs is aromatherapeutic for anger and anxiety. I have that one on my wishlist. I like the idea of visualizing successful completion. I've never heard of that before. I'll try that before I have to be around people again. I just realized I've been doing the opposite. I like the idea of setting microgoals.

If my family would listen to this maybe they would have understood me because this is me 100 percent...instead they decided I was toxic and now I'm alienated...

Thanks Doc 😭♥️😭

I've been recently diagnosed with PTSD Trauma and was told about DBT

Guided imagery is great for improving the moment. The DEAR MAN is very helpful. Though, I find it hard to negotiate.

Some of the skills could have benefited from some expansion such as Dear Man. The use of 'I feel' statements, explaining that the skill is primarily intended as a way of getting what you want from someone, describing the skill in a way which can be used to say no or set boundaries, the importance of not allowing the other individual to derail the conversation, and using an example so as to better describe how the skill can be used during interpersonal interaction... If the intention of this class was to give brief summary introductions or review then I suppose it's fine.

This is so helpful

Here based on your recommendation Doc, thanks.

Some people are not sensitive at all and are super abusive to people closest to them, this is especially true of teens that behave like that

"knee high to a grasshopper" 😂 i love u dr snipes..

the only place I feel anywhere remotely safe is my home. I suffer from severe social anxiety. it has been this was pretty much my whole life. I remember as a teenager I couldn't even go to the mall to watch movies because I would have panic attacks. today I am 35 yes old. I have BPD PTSD, DEPRESSION AND SEVERE SOCIAL ANXIETY. it controls my life. it literally takes an act of Congress to get me into a grocery store. I literally have two outfits to my name that actually fit me because I have lost almost 50lbs in less than 8 months but it is impossible for me to go into a store to try and find clothes to fit me. I get maybe one or two outfits tried on and by this point I'm in tears shaking and my husband has to guide me out of the store. I had a period for about 4 yrs where I thought I had truly overcome these issues. I don't know what happened again to cause me to slip this far back.

I found this lecture very clear and to the point. As a CPTSD patient my therapist recommended this type of therapy. However she did not explain who would be the one helping me with it. She recommended group therapy that I have an aversion to. Do you feel, although I really appreciate my therapist that I can add a second therapist for the next six months for the Dialectical behavior therapy?

I need this.

I would love a presentation on treating substance use disorders for clients who are using medicinal cannabis. Thank you.

Your videos are wonderfully informative for the layperson and professional alike. All DBT clinicians should "brush up" their skills with this video. Thank you for this and everything else you share with the world.

We all eff up as parents at times...we all carry our own trauma and unfortunately our children are along for the ride 😢 Difference is....if you recognise your trauma and use the right tools to heal, your children will see this and follow your lead ❤❤

As BPD, really hate the responsible for their resolution,and just say this is the way it is,,,,u can say we have the power to fight for our life,,,but saying responsible that make ppl cant accept trauma respone instant gulity for failure to cope

Hi. I appreciate this training, as always. I am wondering if one can get CEU for watching this training. It seems like I should but not sure if it’s set it for this purpose. Pls advice. Thank you.

Why isn't there any focus on finding the original problem and fixing it?

I have to copy and paste here, at least I hope it will let me! I meant to respond earlier to this, as I was so appreciative of your response. Especially written in a way nobody had before. I only wish my initial question was more clear. First, I like what you said about balancing the internal life by taking action in reality. And, I also like how you said social interaction and physical movement is important. But, Im not sure if motivation is entirely the problem. Thank you for aknowledging my Infp mbti type that i identify with. (Also, enneagram 4w5) Nobody ever has or was willing to, even though I identify with it. The problem is I always felt that therapists approached therapy in a way that seemed to advise on what came easy for them. Little do they know how difficult it is for me to sustain any concentration on the external world. Add to that a maladaptive internal experience that i dont have a lot of control over. Tbh, none. That had arised, I think...out of C-PTSD and an extremely disconnected life. (I currently have one friend of the opposite sex for 6 years. And, I spent my entire adult life without literally any family connection at all. No friends, especially female, which ive hidden from people. And, i lived in inequity and survival. No kids. Never married. It was my dream to but i now suffer those losses which does make "motivation" hard at this point. As i feel a real sense of injustice. Ive been through hell. And life was very painful without support and belonging....and surviving instead of living. I know myself extremely well though, with strong values. And a goal. But, I'd say that my problem is not exactly "fear of abandonment" instead... the chronic actual aloneness and feelings of having been worthless, degraded, scapegoated, targeted, harassed, inferior...in the context of social experiences...and in employment levels. I have social anxiety accompanied by some paranoia. Ontop, I find I get overwhelmed alot and easy. I have an important certificate towards employment im supposed to be studying, at age 47. But, I lack middle and highschool foundation, due to my bad childhood and lack of support. I REALLY lived in my head as a child. And, to give you an example of extremes. At age 18-19 i didnt leave my home, instead lived a life in my mind. In my early 20's I had maladaptive day dreaming. It angers me that an Rpn once at a mental health clinic put me on anti schitsophrenic drugs at the time. Saying, that daydreaming was like schitsophrenia. So lets try this. I have too many other tales about a harmful system, many misdiagnosis, and experiences that honestly perpetuated my low self worth in life. Ontop, I got into power struggles with professionals over my needing to be believed how hard it was for me to pay attention. And i did break away from it all, even when they tried to continue my dependency. But it was an inadequate life of survival and disconnect. I then crashed years later and returned again, but lost years of my life to talk therapy without results. A supportive woman though. Then, I tried once more in recent years, but got misdiagnosed with rediculously severe labels. They were rediculous and not correct. Like DID, which I was labeled after only one session because I said that i "dissasociate" not really knowing the meaning, by having an inner world. And i do lose time. So yea, I am looking exactly for a more empowered approach with EMDR, especially since i relive experiences every day. And i have anger and chronic anxiety. But how to structure and learn this employment material on my own? Ill have to but have put it off for extreme amounts of time. On top, social anxiety and disconnect has me always imagining scenarios and conversations in my head. I have no control over these imaginings and I dont think they will ever disappear. Its all ive ever known. I have to ask my friend what is going on in a movie continuously, as an example of it. I swear it feels crazy or that im just different... because everyone else is paying attention and are quicker to comprehend, like in reading. But with me, it is an extreme mental juggle with my concentration torn with these imaginings. However, often they are imaginings that i can derive meaning from when i understand them. But every therapist tells me they have no understanding or knowing about it. Or they give me false labels besides. I can lay in bed for hours and hours. I waste days and days. Sometimes feeling like I'll never move. Then finally I get out of my head enough to do so. But, I just don't know how to make that transition quicker and consistent. I'm on my own here except for a dbt book, that I tend to forget what it says over and over... and I resort to distraction as a tool, I do the breathing techniques, I sometimes make it to yoga...telling myself to be mindful and observe without judgement, only to either be angry in memories, or having imagined conversations in engrossed amusement while for what seems like seconds of painfully telling myself to observe my surroundings. Painfully because its that difficult. Ive been told to then pay attention to my thoughts. Well, trust me, im pretty good at that. Ive been told, as a borderline that i need to be okay with being alone. OKAY. But, Ive been alone at lengths of time that surely would have profound results on the average person. We all need connection and belonging. SO Yea i like what you said. And i would like to taylor somehow a perfect therapy. But i dont know what to do. Should i be using CBT to get unstuck? Should i be practicing self respect while im immersed in imagined conversations and scenarios? Im not kidding. When im stuck in bad traumatic memories of people...or fear of the future... what dbt skill should i be using. Thanks for your input, because deep down, i believe im worthy. Worthy of a chance to live equally and to find some belonging somehow in this world.​@DocSnipes

Wow, I didn't know you were close to Tennessee. (Florida I see??) WIsh I would have known about this conference.

Bpd is literally ripping me into pieces . Idk how much longer I'll make it

Algorithm: more dialectical behavior therapy content please.

I don't have bpd. But it seems obvious to me that my father did. So my feelings weren't acknowledged. My whole childhood was about my father's out of control emotions

What can you do to limit contact with family, if one is in this tragic situation? Or if you are not in a position to limit contact due to external factors?

My struggles aren't with knowing the past that caused these things. My struggles stem from creating solutions. So many therapists focus on past trauma and events. How do I find a therapist who can help me create solutions?

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What do you do if you are an infp personality type and you have a severe problem getting yourself to do anything? Isolation, lack of structure, disconnect...plays a part. But, I've always lived in my head and lived in my imagination. I've had bouts of time in my lifetime that was years long where I was stuck with little physical activity. I mean someone really suggested dbt again.... which frustrated me because....how the heck to you get out of your head to do dbt? I'm serious. I'm supposed to go for an intake for EMDR therapy soon. And they said that they start off with DBT. And I'm frustrated because I thought EMDR would help the DBT to actually have affect. Besides that, I swear it was written for those with extroverted sensing in their mbti function stack.

after hearing about TIPS i feel like people who use self harm are kind of doing the same thing??

29:31 we don't talk about this enough

Shears and chainsaws 😂. I can relate

My little sister sends me the following: “The biosocial theory of emotional dysregulation posits that a teens' “5 problem areas” (i.e., 1) reduced focus/awareness, 2) impulsivity, 3) emotion dysregulation, 4) interpersonal problems, and 5) teen-family challenges) evolve from a transaction between a biological vulnerability and an invalidating environment.” I read it and laughed, uncontrollably, and of course I offended her and hurt her feelings! I had four teens…they ALL HAD THOSE symptoms, lol…grew up and matured. No drugs, no big deal. BTW, her kids were plugged in, I never had a tv or computer at home! No cells till senior year. All “ problem areas” are normal, hormonal and environmental…we live what we learn….be simple…slow down….they need it, too!

Here’s a hint for everybody in the comment section if you’re doing something for seven years and it’s not completed yet you better be building a pyramid and if you’re paying for this after seven years, you’re getting scammed. I get so much more information out of videos not labeled dbt it’s ridiculous.

Keep calm and use dmt skills!

DBT sucks like most behavior therapies

I struggle with BPD bad.

Thank you. Finally I feel like someone see’s me, even if it’s me! 😅🫶🏻🙏😌