I'd be in a mental hospital in a few weeks if I had that job. You're the best

Core question: Did they get help they needed?

​@@zb3185- Who knows? She was a pre-school teacher & no one takes pre-school teachers seriously on this issue. I taught pre-school & there is one girl that I thought would commit heinous, sadistic crimes. She enjoyed hurting people & thinking about hurting people. I saw her about 4 years later & was grateful to see her little brother was still alive. Yet I still think that she is capable of the most heinous acts. I hope she didn't have children. I think she had neurological problems.

​@@zb3185we live in the pass the buck country. Pass the kid and it's someone else's problem

@@RepresentWV I did everything I could to show them kindness and empathy. Know what that is?

Bad genetics? 👎

Psychopathy and pathological narcissism are genetic, so yes, bad genes.

@@barbieblue3336it’s a fact genetics play a part in how you turn out and behave as an adult. Same with environment but I don’t see you going, “eNvIrOnMeNt?” 😂

Nice to know people are still compassionate. ❤

Psychopathy and pathological narcissism are genetic, so yes, bad genes.

Wow, I love this story, thank you, and GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

Aries

You are a gem for sticking thru everything and not giving up! Wow! Encouraging story. Some endings are just not so wrapped up. So glad to hear it can work out sometimes.❤

Good for you! It's not easy raising "challenging children". That's a testament to your love.

all of the cactuses thoughtlessly placed…bro your set is awful.

My daughter was one of those kids. We're good now and she's incredibly well behaved. Parents are fooling themselves if they think their child will grow out of it. I took years of parenting classes, got her play therapy, found her treatment with others kids that help them name emotions, lots of sports, maybe assessments out of my own pocket, and hundreds of hours dealing with the school. We also did a 2 year digital detox, she wasn't allowed any screentime at all. It was time consuming and expensive but I'm fairly certain she's not a future violent risk to others anymore.

It didn't used to be like that back in the days that we now call the Bad Old Days. The culture is going downhill fast and the brakes are out. CA is leading the way.

@@neilreynolds3858, no not California but red states with the abundance of guns, macho attitudes and worst public education and lack of mental places as the father was primarily in Texas.

@@neilreynolds3858that’s not true. There were weirdos back in the day too

Just listen to the Elton John song "Ticking".

In most other countries he would've made nationwide headlines and stayed in memory for decades with such a crime. But in the USA... a total of 159 people have been killed and 256 people have been wounded in 83 mass shootings between January 1 and February 29 2024 alone ... incidents like this happen so often that most of them make only local news and you never hear about them until someone decides to make a documentary or a youtube video.

@@KelmutHool That is absolutely lunacy. What’s wrong with our country?

It’s weird that many mass shooters want to be remembered or famous but in their personal lives they were private and introverted and reclusive and disliked anything to do with socializing

Same here. And I will forget him again soon after writing this.

@@ChristinaTodd1970lazy, stupid, selfish citizens who prefer Wall-E world over self-actualizing 🎉

3/23/24 It starts at home. Military Dad then Stepmother too, wonder how much love he was shown or warmth of a loving hug, not for school or institutions to provide or “fix” my child then send him back (was only 4)

Because they're not designed to work- they're designed to make money.

⁠@@erikamccarthy1457military Dad doesn’t automatically mean a lack of hugs or expressed love. My Dad was Air Force for 20 years, and my sister (who is on the autism spectrum, has ocd, has developmental delays, and exhibits some oppositional defiant traits) is an absolute Daddy’s Girl. He has always been very involved. Now, to be fair, we also had the benefit of a stay-at-home Mom who homeschooled us so my sister could get the one-on-one attention she needed to help her do well in school. Your hypothesis might well be correct for the particular case in the video; it is only the seeming assumption that a military Dad = lack of expressed love that I object to. It just doesn’t match my sister & my experience, nor that of my Mom (her Dad was also Air Force).

@@tahlia__nerds_out 5/3/24 Happy you had a great experience. Dad & Mom (Stepmom, not bio) both in Military not 1 f/t experience. Two completely different topics.

What?

That's so sad

"Threaten to unalive us with his GERBIL"? Could you explain?

Yeah chucky ain't gonna help 😂 but also, coddling in the opposite direction doesn't help either, js 😂

​@@AnimosityIncarnatedepends on what you mean by coddle. Parents who make their kids "cry it out" without attending to them, are inflicting so much damage that they are not aware of. There's recent studies on this. Babies and very small children do not have the ability to self-regulate. They're literally incapable of it. So you're teaching them. When you have a problem, no one is going to help you. You're on your own. And that really fucks a kid up.

So sorry what you suffered. Been there.

My girl had ODD, and it was removed as a diagnosis when she turned 11. We did LOTS of treatment though, it ate up my entire life - I couldn't even work for years. Not every parent can do that. So while your sister still has ODD, at least it didn't progress to conduct disorder or ASPD. That was my biggest fear.

​@@blackswan1983there now.. already took off work and tons of therapy. Hoping for a handle before his teens. Slow relentless depressing process. Had a cousin S/A ing him bw 3-5 yrs old..this has been my result. I didn't understand what caused the behavior for years

Did she "outgrow" it? I know a girl who has it from her father and her mother's sister. It's. So. Bad.

Does she have children? If so do they behave like her?

It sounds like it's both nature and nuture

So, you disagree with Dr. Grande's assessment: Too high a level of narciscism and too psycopathic to treat. If these traits could be better quantified and identified, things like Robbie could be kept away from society permanently, rather than allowing them to fester and grow til violence is pretty much guaranteed...

His ego was too large for his abilities. People who have no talent, no brains, no looks, and no personality need to just accept it and stop wanting to be praised or famous.

so says the parent who didn't get given one of these aberrations. Sure, parenting comes in, but... it's mainly just genetics. Two different children have exactly the same situation. One can resolve it, become a useful highly productive member of society, the other becomes a useless spongeing whining blaming alkie/junkie/never-works. Believe me, I know. If you get one, nothing you can do will stop it happening. (and the kid blames everyone but themselves)

Whats tragic are the poor victims. How sad for them and their families

I’m sure many of us saw it when it happened, but because there are so many mass shootings in the country, it’s impossible to remember them all. Thank you NRA!

And it was one of the higher body counts at that time

Because the average person goes their entire life never thinking about Nebraska.

I remember it happening but can't remember any details like when and who. Sadly, there are just too many mass shooting events for any one to be memorable to those of us fortunate enough to not be closely touched by it.

We only get local news

Exactly!

a four year old is pretty easy to control. i can’t imagine putting him in a psych ward was helpful. unless he was over 5 feet tall at that age, why could they not reasonably keep him at home. was he disturbed from birth? maybe but that couldn’t have been a helpful stay

@@komodolifeI feel the same way. If you have to institutionalize your child by age 4, you have ABSOLUTELY no place or right to parent a human being. Ever. Don’t give a shit what extenuating circumstances there were. That’s inexcusable.

@@komodolifesounds like things hit the fan for the boy during his month stay at the hospital and it spat him back out well worse than when he went In.

Yes, a four year old can be difficult to control.

Children can have mental illnesses.

I’m in a similar situation, in terms of being very worried about my son. I’ve tried receiving help from the mental health system; education system; juvenile justice system… Nothing has really helped, and, yes, I have to work…

Depending on age they can be put in a boot camp. Looked into this few years back and it seems to be run by army reserve. They host school, meals, and give the children a job to do. They make it to where there is no time or room for chaotic behavior.

Exactly!! 😡😡🤬

Criminals always find the way 🤪

Insanely careless ... a violent stepson visits & 60 rounds & a weapon are taken & not noticed !! That mom just kept marrying dangerous nutters ... then pretending she doesn't know where her violent kid "gets it from" 😪😭

@@j3suisd3 Yeah.😡

1. Guns not being locked up, with keys or access codes withheld from children 2. Mental health concerns being ignored or brushed aside when allowing kids to have access to guns-conservative parents are all too eager to get their kids on their side of the second amendment arguments, after all

Add poor nutrition, like low, iron and low, omega-3 fatty acids and no behavioral therapy and you have a recipe for disaster. Low iron can manifest as aggression.

Have you read Torey Hayden? She's got brilliant stories (real) about being SE teacher. Always problems at home.

Eh, I was similarly deranged and had shit tons of home issues and mental issues but I still turned out relatively normal. I'm not a violent person, even if I struggle with verbal anger, I'm not a bad person with a mean heart, and I aim to be a better person every day. You can't simplify everything to "bad home issues". Evil lies deeper.

To be real, a lot of kids like guns and death and are totally normal, I used to make bloody and gory drawings as a kid of gladiators fighting because of my favourite video game and I never killed anyone in real life, but I got reported to the office a million times for drawings.

@bittytwinz same, played a lot of violent video games, still love guns and I carry, I'm 23 and have not had a violent incident. Some people TRULY are just evil by nature.

Yeah I am curious if the parents had stayed together, not had any more kids, always had a stay at home parent and really devoted everything to keeping this kid from hurting anyone until 25 when his brain would finish developing if it could be done. It hurts my heart to think that kids really could just be born that bad. I have to believe that there’s something you could do for every child.

I was separated from my parents at birth due to medical reasons and didn't see my mom for 2 weeks. Still haven't deliberately hurt someone, nor plan to. Some people are bad seed.

@@blackswan1983 Some people are hurt in different ways and react in different ways. What happened in hospital to an individual child is a factor to consider as well.

It’s interesting to observe how kids from the same family will grow from, be harmed or ignore adverse conditions, even good conditions.

@blackswan1983 Until around 7 months old, babies generally don’t care who attends to their needs, as long as they’re cared for. It’s after that point that children become more affected by attachments with particular people.

​@@blackswan1983same! Thank you. No one is born inherently evil, it's a learned or eventual outcome of life.

Thanks Ronald

I couldn't agree more!

Libs never apologized for that one!! Orphanages, mental r homes either. They re now on the streets mainly.

In the name of compassion, can you believe it?@@jackiepowell7513

​@@jackiepowell7513I'm not a fan of "libs", but I don't think you can blame liberals for closing down the mental hospitals. That was done by Ronald Reagan, a Republican.

Starts early sometimes. Bundy circled his aunts bed with knives at age 4-5

Him and that one KZfaq girl “Born in Rage.” But yeah, 4 years old seems awfully young. It’s odd that nobody in his family knows what the trauma was.

Pretty much 😢

Totally what I was thinking

The parents are unlikely to discuss his trauma origins as it would reflect on themselves.

I doubt that they do.

@@neilreynolds3858 Jeffrey Dahmer's father always blamed himself for what his son did, and not seeing the warning signs sooner.

Or his parents blamed him. When I was eight years old, my mom used to say to me, "You're manipulative and sadistic. You enjoy upsetting me. You're playing the let's-upset-Mommy-today game and winning." I had a good vocab and knew what she was saying. It had a terrible effect on me. And that doesn't even get into the chaos of my parents' divorce.

@@I_Love_Rainbows510 Sorry for your experience. I was hit with different variations of "You're just like your father, good for nothing" after my parents divorce. They got divorced when i was 6, and it continued for years, whenever she got angry at me. Just like him, you're sneaky. Can't be trusted. Over even the most trivial perceived slights. Really can be emotionally damaging.

@@davidpetrosky Gosh, yeah, it bites!! I'm sad that you've experienced it too!! 😞I wish parents could be smarter!! 😞

My parents divorced before I turned seven. My brother was two. He started abusing drugs when he was a teenager. In the de-addiction centre he wrote, "I didn't know who my mother was when I was a little boy." He cleaned up and took flying lessons. He loved it. But he got back to abusing drugs and died in his early 30s. The only person who he abused verbally was our dad's new wife who he absolutely hated.

100%- I’ve had a 30 year career working with severely disturbed children. All children are self-centred, that’s just where they are developmentally. Unfortunately, this leads them to believe that they are responsible for their parent’s unhappiness. This gets internalized, and they see themselves as inherently bad and unworthy. As the child grows, they continue to seek “proof” of their inherent “badness”, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

By far the most frightening part of the shooting at the Westroads Mall is the 9-1-1 call placed by Jodi Longmeyer; the Human Resources manager at the Von Maur Department Store. Jodi was extremely frightened as she informed the 9-1-1 operator that she saw Hawkins laying on the floor by customer service after taking his own life.

This was an extremely sad incident in Omaha (I live here too). Several years after it happened, one of the Von Maur employees he had shot and injured talked at our church about the incident as he experienced it, and about forgiveness as a healing tool.

@@susangrande8142 Granting Forgiveness for the perpetrator after having endured such a deliberate act of violence, is a mental game the victim plays against their own human nature. The survival Instinct drives us to fight that which tries to make us suffer or kill us. Play the Forgiveness game is just a mental exercise that works for some people, maybe 1% of the population. The other group that claims forgiveness is still suffering through the pain the perpetrator put upon them.

I said the same thing elsewhere but you said it better.

I have my doubts. I've seen kids raised with love, attention and understanding and they still ended up bad.

​@@bluejay9890yeah, plenty of turds in existence. They aren't victims 🤯🤡

@@bluejay9890 It comes down to personal choice. Nobody forces you to do something bad, unless you are actually suffering from dementia

And Meds.

I currently have one who is a pathological liar & has started stealing from the classroom. He's 5.😬

Very bad coping skills and lack of empathy for others, how sad. Can you suggest behavior intervention to mom and dad? Poor boy stands no chance. That’s a thought spot you’re in.@@istateyourname4710

@@istateyourname4710that’s so so so sad. Poor little kid probably has a terrible home life. Little kids naturally struggle with impulse control and defensive lying. It’s just natural. Without loving parents there to guide them & help them learn self control they’re really so lost. Thank God for teachers like you that recognize their troubles and give them love and understanding and someone to connect with so they have the chance to learn the empathy and self worth they don’t get at home. I remember stealing in kindergarten and being a compulsive defensive liar. My home life looked picture perfect on the outside but it was intolerably abusive. I still remember every single elementary school teacher that I had growing up. Only one treated me like I was “bad” but the others gently held me accountable and encouraged me and made me feel so safe and loved. I am positive those early experiences made all the difference in the world to help me grow up to have love and empathy for others

That is such a heartless statement. Teachers are part of the environment students grow up in, so no wonder they ended up in prison with grown ups with that kind of mindset.

@@TheMaryAnn75100% agree, especially kids with ODD

I'm sorry that you were mistreated. There is no excuse for that. I'm happy for you that you have a strong moral core. Life can be so hard. There is a reason that you have such strength, you will find a way to add a lot of value to the world.❤

I think only about 3% of the population meets the physical, mental and background check requirements to join the military if I remember correctly. If you lie to your recruiters then that's another story

Need to be able to follow orders….antisocial often can’t conform to rules enough but occasionally a few slip in, and a few regrettably thrive there if smart enough

A side note - in the 90s, after a few previous mental illness related incidents - they weren't taking any chances. Combine that with massive budget cuts and base closures, they were using any excuse to kick people out. A friend told a fellow recruit in boot camp that he *used* to be suicidal but he wasn't anymore because he found meaning in life and they gave him a medical discharge due to "depression".

My nephew. He was abusive in subtle ways towards younger children. Not sure of all the details but he had five kids removed from his care. And has another one. I don't think he ever worked a day in his life. Manages to draw welfare... I keep my distance from that side of the family.

My cousin's son.... There's been something off with him since day one, plus she doesn't bother to discipline him so he's forever going to feel entitled. Unfortunately, because his mother and grandmother have coddled the little sh1t, I genuinely fear he will take advantage of women in the future because he's never been told no. We've all met naughty kids, but there is something inherently dark about that boy. I'm not the only one who sees it either, but my cousin couldn't give a sh1t. She'll see it one day, at the cost of someone else.

Sometimes child abuse can damage a developing brain. If he was banging his head saying no one loved him he was probably being abused. I know he was abused as an adult. He is also not here to tell us his side. Do you think the step mother was a loving saint?

The difficult part is that they don't all become criminals.

Honest question, where would you want someone like that working? @@tessaducek5601

Yeah I saw that. Soooo disturbing. I do think there was just something he was born with that was different in his brain. I don’t know how the stepmother stayed with him as long as she did.

3/23/24 Coming from a Military stepmother who had a Military husband & child that wasn’t her own, idk how much love he was shown or given. Counseling after divorce or right to institute at age 4, I wonder.

Yes. I certainly hope Dr. Grande is not in private practice with that attitude. Perhaps the people that were in positions to help this kid felt the same way and here we are. I had a similar upbringing with trauma you wouldn’t even imagine. Just think 15-20x what this kid went through. With the right people in my corner and the help of the Lord, I was saved from a life of hell. For every Robbie there are countless others who made it out of the pits of hell because people believed in them and stepped in to help out. Never give up on people.

@@norbertomoran4575 Right, keep wasting money on individuals when the whole culture is running downhill with no brakes.

​@norbertomoran4575 Yeah, but the point OP and Dr. Grande are making is there ARE Robbies out there. There are people who don't want to be helped. There are people who don't want the support system they have or could have. They enjoy being angry. They enjoy hurting other people. And not recognizing that is just as unreasonable as the opinion that no one can change so invest help in no one.

@@GAshoneybear Understood. This kid was clearly traumatized as a young child as his behaviors were exhibited very early on. He’s had so many mental struggles from the beginning that went untreated. If he was developmentally disabled we’d say that he couldn’t help it. But undiagnosed, severe mental illness has similar effect in that the individual can feel helpless to turn their situation around even if they wanted to. What I see is a severely damaged person embracing their invisible disabilities in the worst way. Dr. Grande, if he is a doctor, should be very familiar with such pathologies. Not unlike someone who suffers with severe depression and is suicidal. Maybe they want to live but they’re suffering and see no way out. When I hear of a child at 4 years old banging their head on the wall saying they’re worthless it’s clear to me their psyche and their hearts have been severely damaged. Not child should ever have to go through that. I promise you I’ve seen this from various angles in my own personal experiences and am very familiar with the effects of trauma on children. Whereas you see an adult or teen, in reality there is an unhealed child struggling to function because many things were missed in what should be a normal process of nurturing and growth. It is true that not everyone acts as he did but many are lucky. I was.

@@neilreynolds3858 read through these comments. I’ve seen at least two where people got the help they needed and turn things around. No real human garbage, though it may seem so. I simply feel like this kid likely never had a chance.

And the sequel, "We Need to Talk About Kevin Spacey"

😂 ​@@darthkek1953

Turns out Ezra Miller was just playing himself the entire time.

Omg I forgot that was Miller lmao​@@nunyabiznes33

​@@nunyabiznes33omg fr tho

Wow

As do I. It was a horrible shock & just before Christmas. Nothing like this had ever happened here that I know of, & I believe it traumatized the entire city. A terrible loss of some valuable people.

Some people have parents that didn't know how to parent and they have kids. I heard of a case in Canada where it went on for 6 generations.

@@neilreynolds3858 How sad. A heartbreaking cycle.

It may not have even been his parents that told him he was stupid.

@@tanikokishimoto1604 when I was a kid I was never really bullied, but I bullied myself constantly, hating myself inside.

@@MeatCatCheesyBlaster I am so sorry to hear that. I hope that things are better now

I'm sure they can chameleon their way around in social media, or just not use social media.

Hello 👋

Not always, but yeah plenty do think they'll be famous.

A kid jumped off of something and on to my back to get me in a choke hold. They figure out how to harm people, no problem 🤯

You really should have just watched the video instead of speaking 😂

I think being sent to a psych ward alone at 4 years old and heavily medicated made his problems a lot worse. It just confirmed to him that he was crazy and bad (and to blame for his parents' divorce and his mother leaving, in his mind), and he learned that drugs make you feel good when you're upset.

There is no place to put young violent kids, it's true.

I thought so too. Brain damage and other anomalies can exist without being obvious. He needed meds at the very least. We need to start medically studying this issue in a serious way, there seems to be more kids like this every year.

My sister and her husband adopted a 4 yr old and 3yr old half brothers. Life's had been spent bounced around the system. My sister figured as a school teacher she'd straighten them up quick. Finally I suggested the older child get a brain scan, and see a neurologist, vs just child behavioral psychologists. I'm a NP. When they did they discovered fairly significant brain damage done by his birth moms bf when he was a toddler. He was violent, lied like a skilled con man, and was learning disabled. So the courts 0laved him at age 8 into a residential school/ treatment program for 3 months. There with the experts he learned to follow directions, get up dress himself, how to shower himself, and eat at the table properly. But he continued to assault teachers in school, and run away. He couldn't read or write, and a,though the school provided a computer for his adapted lessons, he couldn't be bothered. I was impressed once again by the courts ruling...at 10 this one child got a foster family part time, plus my susters family. The chosen foster family had 3 teen males living at home, and those young men taught him that there are bigger men in life than you boy. So he d7dnt always win at shooting hoops, or hitting golf balls, they out performed him and were large enough to stop him running off. What a God send. He calmed down from this split living scenario. At 18 he left to find his fortune. But it was indeed fascinating to see him and his evil ways constantly planning, sneaking, and lying. He had professional help, medication, education, and 2 families plus extended family. He just didn't bond, or care unless it benefitted him. We worry about him out in the wild world.

@@joywebster2678 I am a Child Development Specialist. Grew up in an abusive home. Won't share personal data about what happened to my sibling, but he is reflected in previous comments here. Worked with many troubled children over the years. The idea of part-time foster care sounds like a great idea.

​@@joywebster2678don't worry about him, worry about his possible prey

@@joywebster2678scary how they are among us like this.

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@@oldrandon Thanks for your reply and have a great day!

I can't imagine a mental ward for preschoolers !

Yeah, kids don't claim "I'm stupid" at 4 years old unless they've been abused and made to feel that way by someone else, most likely their parents.

The "folk" is pronounced "fuck".

Strangely, public/school shootings have been around a lot longer than I thought, tho Laurie Dann was 1st school shooter of modern times I recall. Valerie Bertinelli (yeah, Van Helen's ex), plays her in a movie. Forget title, but it was free on Tubi, I think it was. Don't even have to register. She was surprisingly good! In her case, her father and mother basically ignored her. She was "Just Plain Nuts!" (old Far Side cartoon...)

Sadly yes- I feel conflicted - on one hand I pity this poor boy- yet on the the other I'm disgusted by his lack of empathy for the innocent people he murdered

As Dr Grande said, I think it's a mix of environment and genetics.

“He’ll grow out of it.”

Isn't there several versions of the story of the so-called 'bad seed?'

I would agree. But unfortunately, the people who bring you terms like "oppositional defiant disorder and Drapetomania would absolutely not accept that some people are just born bad. That no intervention could ever help them. They completely reject the idea that we are not all born exactly alike and that things other than the environment shapes things about us. They won't even reject the concept that we're all somehow equal. Nothing is more obvious that the inequality of man and yet they still reject it.

Far Side? "Just Plain NUTS!" He writes on his pad? Lol

No you didn't

I found, as a child, that many teachers were themselves childish know-nothings who made sweeping generalizations based on little evidence

@@festina_lente7655 Punctuation is a good idea here.

Due to embarrassment causing emotional injury, then passive aggressive acting out later

It makes sense logically. If a child is a disciplinary problem as a small kid there is definitely likelihood that it isn’t going to be corrected and the child will grow into an adult with disciplinary problems

You must know that some humans can't be cured on their physical ailments-- the same applies to mental ailments.

I'm sure the therapists did their best, normally they only see the children 1 to 2 hours weekly. Most healing comes within the home, diet, and we all need a tribe

There’s only so much u can do if somebody wants to do something there gonna do regardless of what you say

They always think they'll finally get the attention they think they deserve. Only for the most pathetic wankers to think they're some kind of victim/hero 🤡

its common one in twenty kids

All these drug addicted babies now too! They give them heavy duty drugs to get them to sit still.

🙄🙄🙄

@@festina_lente7655 Excuse you.

Frog 🐸 day

@@birdworldist Froggies! 🐸

We all have a lot of time on our hands with all these dedicated days. And keep the Chef Boyardee and I'll take the French Bread.

Where does he even dig up all the details. I hope he's not stalking me! 😂

His brain was wired all wrong. He couldn't act logically because he couldn't think logically.

He checked the store out to see if there was security and then went back to get his rifle when there wasn't. He might have been "out of control" but he was in control that much.

Because controlling and killing random civilians is the only thing he can control in his life

I’m curious why people use that term: “un-aliving.”

@@duvessa2003 - I looked it up. Coined in “Deadpool”. Now in the lexicon.

They were born into it through their home environment

So sorry to hear you lost a loved one. I was thinking this when I heard the accusations the father made about the mother. Access to bombs etc with her, but absolutely no chance of access to guns with the father who is in Service? I haven't heard coverage of the case outside of this video so maybe it was touched on somewhere about weapons in the father's home.

I’m sorry Tay ❤

Disclaimer: figuratively speaking!! Peta!!! No bx w animals!!

Will he take a good multivitamin with iron? Omega-3 fatty acids? Magnesium baths before bed? Maybe try for six weeks along with behavior therapy and look for improvement. You are a good mom, hun. Persist and try praying the rosary.

He’s lucky to have you as a step mom! So many adults wanna blame the child and here you are getting the education you can to help him and recognizing that it’s not his fault. God bless you and hang in there! I hope his father, your husband, is also working hard to help and you’re not completely on your own in trying to help this poor kid. Sending you so much love ❤

You're still married to her? Can you get custody if you divorce?

You need a life

@@user-xj5xp6qz5gMan, that’s cruel!

Me too.

Creepy! Maybe you need to be psychoanalyzed by Dr. Grande!!

Jordan Peterson is a better internet dad!

Good grief!

@@gregrice1354 😁😁😁😁

My brother...caused so much pain and fear. He was that way since the beginning of his life.

Did the show reflect all facts?

@@zb3185 It did seem to go into a lot of detail. It spoke at length with the father and the stepmother. There were three other children involved...Robbie's older sister and two stepsisters who belonged to Candace. It focused on how Robbie was uncontrollable from a very early age and how no matter what the father and stepmother tried to do, he just couldn't be helped. The show didn't focus on whether Robbie had contact with his mother or not. She seems to be a bit of a mistery in the story. It just showed how much they tried to help him and how hopeless it was the older he got. I really don't what else his father, stepmother, or mental health counselors could have done. It was honestly like watching a train wreck m

ADHD seems to make people more susceptible to outside influences. If they're bad, they go bad. My oldest friend has what a therapist called the worst case of ADHD he'd ever seen. Despite having an advantaged family, he could never stop himself from doing what people who did not have his best interests at heart told him to do. It was a blind spot that we tried to help him with but he thought we were being "negative". We were. He couldn't do it himself. That's not uncommon in ADHD.

Air force, pilots in Texas...yeah they have certain attitudes and they love guns. Guns and a mentally messed up kid are not a good combo!

A child that acts like this most likely has ODD which is exactly what he had

@alena5484 A trauma-informed perspective would wonder if most ODD is actually trauma.

@@digitalmommydaddypeople would rather blame it on genetics rather than addressing the most uncomfortable truths.

What’s SA’d?