What can you do to shrink it?

@@alextrainor2552 nothing, I had to learn how to manage my emotions having BPD.

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Hugs! What a hard realization to face. I wonder if this happens to everyone dealing with trauma especially as a child.

@@sirenachantal471 it definitely wasn't the Walton's but thankfully I grew from it, I have 3 kids and I decided to give them a more structured life instead of the chaos I grew up with

Make sure you keep hydrated, it gave me kidney stones after a while😢

Your comment jumps out at me because I know a young woman with both ADHD and BPD. She told me she has ADHD, but I don't think she knows she has BPD. She absolutely does -- I've studied this subject intensely for a couple months, and I'm 100% sure she has it. She unmistakably has 5 of the 9 symptom criteria, and I'd say she's about in the middle of the severity spectrum. She takes Concerta for her ADHD, but of course nothing for her BPD. Your comment is the first I've heard about Wellbutrin. Because she doesn't know she has BPD (or if she does, she's hiding it from me), she isn't taking any medicine specifically for it. I'm worried about her -- she's only 19, and she's getting worse. She's in for a lifetime of pain and confusion if she doesn't get real help. If you don't mind me asking, have you tried Concerta, and if so, has it helped with either of your conditions? Even though it's my understanding that it's not for BPD, she does seem to be better when she's taking Concerta. Once she goes off it though, it's like she's a different person (in a very bad way).

i have bpd n adhd n am trying to see if i’m autistic as well. but being on wellbutrin and abilify has helped me as well. for bpd i had all 7 symptoms and scored severe for awhile. i realized i needed to get sober and having a good support system can help.

I've been thinking a lot about the same, the connection between ADHD and BPD. I'm also curious about how frequently people with BPD might have underdiagnosed or misdiagnosed ADHD. It was also nice to learn (and feel) that DBT therapy can be helpful for ADHD.

I think both BPD and ADHD are linked through trauma (and perhaps genetic factors). The all encompassing disorder is CPTSD.

Yes please

Yes. That and how concussions from sports may cause different factors.

And happiness always will be hard to define, especially if it's supposed to be some sort of feeling, some warm and bubbly thing, that you just feel all day long lolol like some endless dopamine hit! 🤯 come on that's not even possible, and it would look different for everyone. Why is it that when these doctors say something no one even questions it? Want to hear a secret? Most people are walking around feeling kind of numb...... most of the day! They have to be a bit numb (completely set their emotions on a back burner) in order to get the business of getting work done..... Done! Most people feel slightly bored, fatigued, a bit irritable, uncertain..... And on rare occasions (birth of a child, starting a new business, getting something published for the first time, etc) TRULY happy. That is literally the emotional state of humans on most days. Maybe once or twice a year they get completely angry over something.... Like someone backing into them, in a parking lot. That's actually the normal emotional state of people. But people who go to therapy seem to think that everyone else, anyone else, is just happy happy, full of joy all day long..... EVERYDAY. And that if for some reason you're not just over filled with joy and gratefulness just because you wake up in the morning....... There must be something wrong lol For most of you the only thing wrong with you, is that you openly admit to feeling the way everyone else is pretending they don't feel. In a world of fake joyful lives, conveyed in the form of selfies and self aggrandizing lies.......on Facebook and Instagram...... The real problem here...... is that you're just not a self delusioned liar! What treatment really is, is to teach you to stuff all your emotions down, do not react to being harmed by others and just be a better liar........ like everyone else!

​@stepfaniehawkins205 I gave up seeking 'happiness' years ago when I realised it's an unrealistic goal that creates a lot of pressure and stress in trying to achieve it. Now I aim for contentment.

​@stepfaniehawkins205 I gave up seeking 'happiness' years ago when I realised its an unrealistic goal that creates a a

​@stepfaniehawkins205 I gave up seeking 'happiness' years ago when I realised its an unrealistic goal that creates a a

@@stepfaniehawkins205yes we are programmed to be ‘ok’ at all costs. Ok translated happy face/mask. I believe there is a difference between happy and joy/contentment.

I agree, not many talking about childhood trauma, making us look like wicked people. I've seen comments like 'if your partner has bpd, RUN!' I feel if there was more education out there on why we end up here, there'd be more compassion and less judgement and discrimination.

​@@arabellacoxyeah, my childhood aka parents n grandma (mum n grandma have bpd n r erratic, unstable n chaotic af, dad is aloof, cold and distant) + highly-sensitive child and u get the perfect recipe fr bpd hahaha

I’m starting group therapy tomorrow for EUPD/BPD! I have really high hopes for it, how did you find it?

@@withusnotforus how's you're therapy going? It helps a lot!! The skills you learn are priceless

@@rarepurposereadingsllc2723 Hey! Thanks for asking, it’s going super well so far. There’s been a few complications in terms of attending. I’ve just started a new job and can’t make group sessions so I’m now doing 1 to 1 which I’m really sad about. Being involved in the group, as sad as it was hearing that other people are feeling the same as you it’s also so validating and reassuring that you’re not alone and absolutely bat shit crazy. I’ve grown up in and am still in a very invalidating environment around people who don’t want to understand or recognise that I’m unwell. The group has helped so much with all of that. The DBT skills we have spoken about are so helpful but they’re one of those things where you need to practice and practice, it’s not going to happen overnight you know? Yeah super helpful so far and I’m so grateful to be receiving this kind of help. Unfortunately it’s not accessible for many people :(

As they say "pills don't teach skills"

Yea but if pills rebalance your neurotransmitters to that of a normal person, then it means now your brain functions like a normal person…

Add in L-Dopa and Magnesium Threonate 🤗

Me too Jackie except for restless legs. The tremors I've only had a few years I wondered what it was. Take care.

most people with BPD are of the quiet, predominantly inwardly directed subtype, but thanks to harmful stereotypes we go under the radar. I have the odd outburst, but generally I take it out on myself.

Yes exactly I'm the same

And also the 2nd sub group is the petulant one where all the anger is inwards and often are a quiet person

They definitely didn't take me seriously. They even said everyone feels like that sometimes and we all spend!! Awful treatment.

What you were told is a lie.

I am in a very similar situation-except we are not so good at apologizing. Too bad u didn’t get a response.

This might sound really odd, but look for a new competition? What I´m hesitant to face is that the severe internal struggle with my family in the past might have prevented me from feeling a lack of idk something. If you were lucky to overcome the exhausting work relationship and then just glad and reliefed for the next years, maybe the complete loss of this aspect needs an replacement by sth that you chose yourself? Just an idea, but this reminds me a bit of the really confusing emptiness that I feel.

Im sorry you went through that but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you now have a dopamine deficiency. There could be many reasons why that experience marked a change in you. And when it comes to mental health it’s seldom just one single isolated thing. Everything is more complex than that.

Dk been tryna find it since i lost it at 21 and im 24 rn. Echoing the other comments that u prolly need a challenge.

I appreciate your comment and the helpful information you shared. It's always great to hear that my videos are making a difference. Thank you for watching!

You have helped me change over the years because of your content. Thank you @@DrDanielFox

Very true

I second that. I got triangulated by my BPD partner, and it destroyed our relationship. I was furious, of course, and cut all ties with her. It's the most hurtful thing ever, and there's no way to undo it. Of all the things people with BPD do, triangulation is the worst IMHO.

Thats good to hear, hopefully it stays that way for a long time

yeah, there's no one medication that addresses BPD, since it's a series of maladaptive coping mechanisms rather than a specific lack of one neurotransmitter. So we tend to get tranquillizers, SSRIs, to address the symptoms rather than the root cause. Talking therapies and skill based treatment like DBT help more, since it addresses the lack of emotional validation and gives us tools to manage it better.

Thank you so much for the info

Dbt and therapy will help a lot! Was in talk therapy for 5 yrs and it helped a bit bt dbt helped the most cz its basically teaching us skills.

Yess thiss. He makes me feel so validated, so understood and so seen too. I feel human, i feel empathy and i feel the drive, motivation n WANT to change...

I had a strange reaction to weed as well….it will go away or you just enhanced a part of yourself you already were. My social anxiety was actually way heavier in middle school before high school weed. The best advise I can give: Easy on the weed maybe just at night to sleep. Go jogging 3 times a week at least. Get ur heart rate up and sweat. Sleep consistent hours most nights You see the world not as things are, but how you are. Think of how YOU want to see things and how you want to feel, do not go look for “truths” from the outside world Understand that you are living to be the best version of your self, not someone else’s self. Find comfort that whatever you decide to be, it’s ok just be the best version of that for yourself. Don’t require that you please people, but look to always have a positive impact on people around you. Not everyone will be compatible with your style, Focus on those who are. Be water. Adapt to the world around you as it happens and move with it. Do not try to force the world to be only what you feel it should be

@jellyjams7217 I don't like the shift. It doesn't align with who I truly am. Thanks for your two cents bro.

The paranoia and anxiety are due to taking weed. It affects the amygdala and hence you become extremely anxious and you get negative thoughts About yourself which leads eventually to paranoia..weed can enhance the senses but too much of it you become hyper aware of every detail in a fearful way. Detox from the weed. Get CBD to help if you can and once you stop those symptoms will go away.

That has to be your daughter's decision if she's over, like, 10 or so.

@@ellenorbjornsdottir1166 absolutely

It never helped me none of them do. Oh well.

@@mariahconklin4150 it took 4 months at the max dose to see anything for me. So about 8 months total before I saw improvement. I'm so sorry you can't find anything to help. I do still have BPD symptoms but my life has improved some overall because of my energy level, motivation, etc.

L-dopa, 5-htp, tyrosine (dopamine & serotonin precursors) & benfotiamine (B1 Thiamine) for the anxiety. Most people in the western world have a B1 deficiency, and if you look at the literature for the laundry list of B1 def symptoms, Anxiety is right near the top of the list. Does caffeine/hangovers cause you to have anxiety? There ya go

​@thorzyan what does anxiety from caffeine have to do with a B1 deficiency? Generally curious

It sounds like you have been through a lot. Have you found any strategies that work for you?

I will depend upon the glue that you were sniffing. In some cases these treat actual holes in your brain they can be visible on a CAT scan or an MRI. That’s in some cases and not all. You may want to consult with a neurologist to be sure.

@@DrDanielFox Wow, never knew that!...I will go to my Doctors and see what she thinks as she is the one to refer me if need be....I am in UK under the NHS so bit different here.....Thank you so much I really appreciate it

I’ve not seen research to support this.

My experience falls under the “life-changing” category, so yes!

Thanks for sharing that information! Iron malabsorption can definitely be a challenge, especially for those with celiac disease or Crohn's disease.

@@DrDanielFoxIs then dopamine used as an hormone ? Is the reason why the hypothalamus gets involved too ?

Glad it was helpful!

Good question

I’m sorry that you are struggling with these issues. Medication is only going to help so much, filling inside and learning adaptive strategies are key components. I wish you all the best.

@@DrDanielFox thankyou 🪷

I think you feel discouraged in life and maybe you have to work on being more hopeful and seeing the possibilities in life.

It’s more environmental than hereditary. Aka, children of parents end up with the condition not because of their genetics but because of the environment they were raised in, what they learned and how they were taught (indirectly) to cope with life

My mom passed as well ❤️‍🩹 rest ez to your mother

Wow I need to watch this later thank you

​@@TaylorAmeliahave to thank mum and dad for this ❤

Thanks

Nah, that was only a "Just think about that for a minute" kind of look.

That’s an interesting comment. The video isn’t even released yet. I hope you’ll give it a chance.

That doesn't sound like a thing.

What the other guy said.

@DD-ng3xy I've always been plagued with the misfortune of anxiety, mainly social anxiety. But it wasn't until I used marijuana during the pandemic that my mental health issues worsened. I've been living in a paranoid state since the high. It looks as though there has been some rewiring to my cognition. I now spend most of my time worried and thinking that people are talking about me. I've become so untrusting that I've become distant towards family and friends. I struggle to sustain romantic relationships due to obsessing about the possibility of my partner cheating on me. The most recent girl I dated broke up with me become I'd frequently accuse her of cheating even when I had no evidence, which I think exhausted her. I have this proclivity to interpret people's remarks, facial expressions, actions as either negative or designed to somehow hurt. As a result I become combative & hostile As a factor of this psychological problem I'm afflicted with, I've become unable to feel love or affection. All my relationships are practically emotionless. Another thing is that, I've been questioning my sexuality since the pandemic which is something I find traumatic because I've hadn't had issues with my sexuality through my life until 2020. I obsessively spend most of my days trying to discern if I'm really heterosexual or if somehow there's been a base-level shift in who I am. Other experiences or challenges in having - Constantly Daydreaming - Feeling hated by those around me. - Irritability - Hostility It's almost like I've morphed into someone else other than my inherent self. Can someone help me make sense of all this?

​@@DD-ng3xy this. It made me sleepy and relaxed bt that's it like. It doesn't solve my problems. Just added expenses.

He is a borderline personality disorder specialist. BPD also could stand for bipolar disorder.