would totally love to see a collab between you and How To ADHD

When you’ve had to rewatch the first 3 minutes 5 times now because you keep forgetting to listen....ADHD check!

I was at an ADHD training for my job a few years ago. A woman who also had ADHD told us that boredom was PHYSICALLY PAINFUL. That changed my view of how help clients of mine that struggle ADHD. This is a fantastic video Kati!! Thank you!!

I have ADHD and accused of being selfish a lot, and yet I care for people so much! I'm commenting before watching! Let's strap in for this one Kati! Thank you for making this video

i have ADHD, depression, and anxiety, and the symptoms all feed off each other

When your name is Nora, has adhd, and therefore lacks noraepinephrine

My wonderful husband has ADHD and we’ve been talking about it a lot lately. One of the ways this has been relevant to us is impulse spending. We were poor when we first got married and had to budget carefully but he’s since told me it was an enormous struggle during that time to not make a bunch of random purchases because he saw a couple hundred dollars in the account. It’s also hard for him to have long discussions about things or to quickly switch gears when I need something. The fact that he tries is more meaningful to me than if he were perfect

She should do a collab with Jessica from How To ADHD.

Kati: Do any of you think of boredom as a good thing? Me out loud: No! Kati: Yeah I didnt think so. Me: 😊 nailed it

Hi Kati. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at 38 after struggling since early childhood. It explains so much. I’m now getting appropriate help to deal with it and my life has improved greatly. Thanks for touching on this.

Being someone with ADHD, I often have feelings of guilt that I'm lazy or selfish. But I try and combat those negative thoughts with one word. "Why?" I ask myself why I feel that way, and I try and answer myself honestly. My answers can be "because I did this thing and it was selfish of me". Then I ask "why did you do that thing?" And I answer why. Then I ask "and what led you to do that thing? Was it because you WANTED to be selfish, or was it an impulse caused by ADHD?" It's a tedious processes, but it's what I do to help me to not be too hard on myself. I hope this helps someone else

This was kinda cool. The whole ADHD thing is weird to me. I didn't find out until I was 33 and taking my own kid in for testing. The guy doing the test was watching me fidget in the corner and count ceiling tiles while my kid was at the computer and then next time I saw him he mentioned testing. I find there is a huge difference between the way my husband looks at his and the way I look at mine and I think it has a lot to do with him being tested as a kid. He grew up knowing why he does what he does and why he was different. Where I grew up thinking i was just weird and had to figure out how to cope with out knowing why I had to do it.

I told my grandparents how I struggle with my ADHD and they told me "you are just not trying hard enough".

When my ADHD gets bad, and I can't find an outlet when I get REALLY bored, I get really depressed.

I always suffered from depression, but when I became selfish and took care of myself I overcame it. Hope it helps! ❤️

ADHD sufferer here - boredom can be so bad I get suicidal - can't focus on anything and forget almost every thought I have through the day extreme trouble switching tasks and cannot keep track of time to save my life. However not selfish - extremely aware of my behavior and how I am coming off to others and love and value my relationships. I'm an extreme scheduler, have several alarms, and write down important things in multiple places to keep track of things. Took a long time to accept my adhd because I wasn't hyper verbal or impulsive but that's because of how I was raised. There's no one size fits all with ADHD and I'd imagine most illnesses.

I love Jessica's channel. She was INTEGRAL in me getting diagnosed at 33. I have her to thank for a lot of things.

My number one ADHD coping method is finding someone (usually on Facebook) who's available to be my accountability buddy. I don't always rely on others to hold me accountable for being productive, but it is super duper effective for me when I'm in need of the support! I accomplish an average person's week's worth of work in 3 hours of being held accountable. It's miraculous. Usually, I update my accountability buddy every 10-15 minutes on what I've accomplished, and they reply (sometimes with funny memes) to let me know they're keeping tabs on my progress. It really helps me stay on task. 🙂

I actually write everything down for the day on a wall calendar. Appointments, new doctor visits, things I accomplished for the day... it's like my journal except it's not a book I have to write in every day. I don't keep track of my feelings or thoughts, but even keeping just a timeline written down helps me out with organizing my timeline that I can't keep track of in my head. ("Oh, that was just YESTERDAY?? That felt like last week!" or "That was 3 weeks ago? I thought it was only a week at the most!")

One of the best descriptions I've come across of what ADHD is and is like.

Love this video so much!! Thanks for all the info, Kati!!

Unmedicated ADHD, currently getting yet another tattoo....Thanks Kati! I love your videos

I have ADHD. I take Elvanse and Inderal. Had it since 2001. Also got diagnosed with Autism 2019. Yay, I love How to ADHD.

It was like the universe knew I needed this video because I was just diagnosed with ADD last week and have been struggling to understand it. Admittedly though, my therapist told me that what I had was different from ADHD but did not elaborate. It would be really amazing if you could make a video about the differences between ADD vs ADHD!

I can’t remember the last time I focused so hard for a whole 10 minutes, such a brilliant video to watch, informative and inspiring, thankyou .

For me, I find that meditation is the best way to control my ADHD. People often say Ritalin (ADHD medication) makes anxiety worse. I really find the opposite. Although I am on meds for anxiety and depression as well, I find that Ritalin helps slow my mind down and let's me stay focused and allows to me think before making some impulsive decisions. But this video is really helpful!

Wow. I am a 39 year old mom, to one little boy, married for 6, and I was recently diagnosed with ADHD…and I feel like a little world of understanding has just opened up for me, and it feels like I need to “meet” myself again, as well somehow “reintroduce” myself to those closest to me, now with a little more wiggle room, guidance and actual practical support. This video completely captures my experience and train of thought. Really appreciate this selfish topic, because I feel so many bursts or phases of that, all the while feeling like it contradicts the person I really am inside and how I want to contribute to the world and to my friends and fam. I needed this video more than you know. Also, your cadence and direct and assertive speaking voice, that is very matter of fact mixed with lens of understanding is so impactful to me. I feel like you could explain the most difficult things to me and they would finally make sense. Appreciate you, your work, and for taking the time to put this together for us. …now off to do more homework (thank you for giving some action items!) and find more practical ways to manage this

The hardest part imo is that many people STILL don't believe adhd is real and that we're always "just making excuses" for not being able to function in ways that are deemed "normal". Both my son and I have it and it can be really heartbreaking sometimes. As if living with it wasn't hard enough as it is, trying to gain people's acceptance and understanding or trying to constantly prove or convince others (especially family) makes it SO much harder!! I was diagnosed recently at age 32 and let me tell you, everything difficult about my life suddenly made so much sense. Growing up knowing you're different but not knowing how or why is extremely challenging. We suffer far more ways than what's highlighted here because our emotions are very volatile and our confidence is always knocked. As a result, never feeling "good enough" having been compared to others our whole lives and instead labelled "too sensitive", "too emotional" or "difficult" as well as the things mentioned in this vid. I could go on but I'll leave it here. Thanks for your vid Kati and I hope it brings more awareness and understanding but most of all, I hope for more compassion, patience, support and acceptance of this condition around the world! If you know anyone who has adhd, please understand the power and necessity of making them feel MORE validated, accepted and worthy than your other neurotypical counterparts!!

I'm 20, I was diagnosed when I was 12/13, had accommodations in school from 6th grade, and I only really started getting a handle on it these past couple months. Just finished my 3rd year of college. School has been mostly pretty difficult for me until I started reaching out and getting help. I was at the point where I was ready to accept therapy and the patience to find the right meds. Meds can be absolutely crucial and potentially life-saving in the long run. ADHD has some gifts, and the ability to function and then eventually self-actualize is a beautiful thing, but it takes a lot of adjusting & vigilance for one's own health

I have adhd and the talk about deadlines and pressure really spoke to me I have a hard time with deadlines far out and generally end up getting to it towards when time is running out and I get stressed and get it done in burst. Really makes getting a dissertation done ab it challenging especially given all this Covid stuff.

OHHHHH, sooo excited to watch this one!!!! I have ADHD so this hits close to home for me!!! Great job on the video, I loved what you said, it was amazing!!!!! I actually have been struggling with this, thank you for the advice and helping me understand my ADHD!!!! Love you Katie!!!!!!💕💕

Thank you for providing such useful content. I’ll make sure I show this video to my ADHD clients.

I never clicked on a video so quickly. Thanks Kati

i don’t knwo if i’m adhd but this vid helped me understand more bout adhd

This is a great video thank you Kati for making this video

I one thousand percent related to this video and comments. Thank you so much for this. I struggle with the anxiety I get from not being busy 24/7, it is literally painful, exhausting, and I need to learn to be okay with being still.

Cross linking over to this video from others I watched made this worth every second. I feel selfish at times and it was like I didn't care. I continue to work on all aspects of ADHD management including medication, and I am finding it all effective. I've changed as a person already but this video really helped me focus on the behaviors I struggle with daily. Sure, with medication, I am better able to control it but truth is, it's just a method to help me obtain a sense of identifying a behavior from ADHD and control it immediately. Talking too much, which is what you may interpret this, and is ironic ha!, but I can now stop and not talk over people. Thank you for the video Kati. I am subscribing now.

I have high functioning ADHD,Anxiety,ODD,learning difficulties, segmental nf1 and more. It’s hard for me because all of those together creates an odd brain. I have struggled my whole life with it and your videos make me understand how it works more. Thank you, Kati!

Thank you for this! I was diagnosed with ADHD at 20 and as a child my parents were often telling me to not ‘be so selfish’ and ‘think about the other people’ I lived with. I was internally screaming ‘I do think about other people!!! Like all the time!!! That’s literally all I ever do!!!’ I would just trip over myself trying to accommodate for everyone as well as the undiagnosed, untreated mess that was going on inside my own head. I’ve learnt that I’m at my best when I am being selfish and focusing on myself and my needs first, and then I’m in a better place to focus on the people I love. So thank you for this video! ♥️

Elucidating, as ever. This moved me deeply. Thank you. You have explained much of what I know to be at my core and my problems

Thank you for making this video. I deal with adhd and ocd and man I wish people would know more about it. Not just “you can’t focus” or that it’s a fake thing

Thank you for making this video!

I’ve always felt like I’m never stimulated enough. It’s a never-ending battle.

Thank you! Very thorough.

Every Monday, I’m waiting for your video 💜💜💜 I really love your videos

This video resonated with me largely, I've been seeking answers! This gave me drive to seek resources, and see a doctor with my concerns. This topic came at a wonderful time! (And yea! "how to adhd" is a magically helpful channel!!)

Oooo!! Clicked as soon as I saw this because I’ve been pondering on this/struggling with it for a while. I’ve been making an effort to improve though. Still learning things about myself that I should’ve noticed before but maybe was in denial about lol not always fun taking a hard look. I feel guilty for being selfish towards family members, friends, significant others… Self awareness is key

FYI - for those of us who aren't American (yes Americans, there are other countries too! 🤣) Norepinephrine is known as Noradrenaline in the rest of the world.

Thank you for the reminder to check in with the people you care about, when I'm off doing my own thing for a while I do get a little worried that I'm being selfish. Especially if I'm fired up about something, either I'm really passionate about a subject I'm binging on the internet or I'm mad at how I've been treated somewhere in my life, I can tend to be overly assertive in getting my dopamine. I've taken a lot of dumb risks and I'm probably really lucky that most of them work out in the end so it's good to check in and make sure I haven't wronged anyone lately when I notice I haven't been in the driver's seat so much lately. Thank you for all the great content you make on a regular basis, keep it up!

woah! kati is almost at 1million well done!!!!

I remember the "sledge hammer psychology" of my parents, who were not aware that such a condition like ADD and Asperger's exist. I was told to "behave", to do as I was told, just subordinate to life's requirements. I grew up in the 1960ies and 1970ies. For decades I suffer from depression, and anxiety, on top of the previously mentioned psychological issues. I was diagnosed in my mid fifties, and it was a relief. Immense relief. Stuff that interests me catches my attention and focus. I easily give up on less interesting things, especially when there is resistance, or obstacles. I love being alone, I get stressed out by too many people around me. Too many is more than one. And if the one person leaves, it's heaven. I was told to be selfish, because I "zoom out", rather grabbing a book, and retreating into a quiet corner, and do not intermingle. Oh, I do talk to people, rather stand by and listen, though, and suddenly retreat. Too much is too much. Chat about relationships bores me. I retreat. If asked why I do not participate, I have learned to say that it is stressful for me. Irritated glances, why, company is wonderful. Yikes! Grin and bear it.

Been watching your videos on ADHD my 9yr old son was recently diagnosed, it's definitely been a journey so far with different testing had to do with him and appointments. I was also told it was hereditary. I have trouble with my mental health and have auditory processing disorder but I'm getting rescreened and making sure that is exactly my problem. Iv struggled so much with trying to connect with others making friendships, concentration, and being told by others I'm weird or selfish at times. I can also be very blunt or tell it like I see it. Always tell truth for most part and I don't have a filter in sense I'm so open about my life, it can trigger other people. Will know my results next week and moving forward one step at a time in regards to the right strategies and support.

Kati your voice is beautiful and soothing 💜💜💜

You are 100% dead on, I’v been struggling with all you have said, my whole life.

Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this as a person with ADD myself.

Much appreciate this video, i dont suffer from ADHD but some of these tips can help with the inner critic attacks of C-PTSD

Thank you so much for this video. It was verry insidefull for me.

Oh. My. God. Thank you for talking about that topic. Thank you.

THIS!!! This video is ME 100%!! I learned slowly that I'm a selfish person. I was diagnosed with having ADHD, Anxiety and depression a few years ago. I already knew growing up that I was depressed and had some anxiety, but I didn't know about the ADHD until I talked with a Psychologist. It's VERY comforting to know and learn about what's going on in my brain that causes me to act and react the way that I do! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your videos, @Kati!! Maybe someday we can do a video therapy session!?

Kati - Good video! Very informative!

3:23 Yayyy, Jessica is amazing I love her channel!!!!😁

Hey Kati ! Happy seeing u after a long long time ! Hope u and Shawn r well and safe ! Love ur dress sooo much !!

Thank you so much for this video, it definitely helps me guide a new routine with managing my adhd I often have to almost have everything clean to be focused and I have to separate myself from other people to finish work. As a person who has struggled with depression and anxiety the majority of my life I’m starting to notice good things about my adhd it allows me to be creative and artistic especially being a graphic designer it lets me focus on the details making sure everything in is the right place and to be honest it is true that especially with adhd all I want is structure it’s really the only thing right now that allows me to function and not get sad throughout the day. Thank you for all of your videos and expertise I truly appreciate it , you are blessing a lot of people with this information and helping them find hope 😊🙏🏼

Wow, Kati. Coupling this discussion of ADHD coping skills and symptoms to one of the deeply concerning subjective experiences - or maybe "worries" - of many of us with ADHD really shows how great of a therapist you really are. I don't know if you'll read this, but if you do, just allow me to say thank you for everything you do. I seem to come back to your channel every few months - at least, ever since I received my late diagnosis of adult ADHD. Sometimes, it is because one of my dopamine-seeking activities is learning (and psychology interests me). Often, it is because I have struggled so much - and have come to recognize that, in some ways, I always will - in the sense that with ADHD, there will always be something to work on. I've also been unemployed for a couple years and that has meant that I'm without access to competant mental healthcare. Sure my medicaid primary care provider manages my meds just fine - but i have no one to work with on accountability, coping skills, etc. I hope you realize that you are helping countless people with all kinds of difficulties accessing mental healthcare. You really are a hero.

as a person with ADD I a need this video in its TikTok version cause I lost you at about 3:40

I was just diagnosed at 31 with ADHD. Literally never even thought of it as a possibility until I started seeing my most recent therapist. So I'm still trying to figure things out and this video definitely helps me understand what ADHD is and make more sense of my ADHD symptoms. I don't want to use my ADHD as an excuse for why I start dozens of projects and never get them done, but I am still not certain what is caused by my ADHD and what isn't, and if it is ADHD what do I do about it. Because I have a very short attention span, and sometimes I can get so bored it's almost physically painful

Thank you for this video, my Dad has ADHD so this helped to understand him.

The algorithm pointed me to this at a perfect time. I just had a traumatic event where I was called selfish and I knew that what I was doing was heavily influenced by my ADHD, but having this validation really helped. Thank you so much.

thank you for this video! I’ve been struggling with my ADHD so much during quarantine, without any schedule my ADHD is insannnne. it feels like there are 100 tv shows on at once in my brain and I never know what to pay attention to

Thank you for the very insightful videos. I always feel like I walk away from them with a lot more knowledge on how to help myself

It's almost a subconscious thing that happens, the seeking of dopamine. I don't even realize that I'm always seeking it.

Therapist (adhd/artistic) here. You recommend many resources that I go over with clients. I'll start sending them this video! Thanks for making this resource!

So relevant to me! Thank you Kati, for *all* your videos.

Routines are life saving for me!! Especially self care ❤️

I am very thankful for this video! Thank you for helping me understand better my condition. I would love that you make more videos ADHD related! Love you and your content, it's always interesting to learn something new! 💝🙌🏼

*Vyvanse Kicks In* Hey Kati! Always so helpful seeing your videos. For me, the action of the dopamine from my meds is OK if I already planned out my day, and the fact I get the biggest dopamine rush from being helpful and productive at work helps keep me on track. BUT... if the structure and routine gets off track...THAT'S when I can become selfish. Party from being distracted and not able to empathize channel the energy in the way I want to. CNS on fire being like some fight or flight shit LOL. I also think my dose became stronger since working from home. I want to ask my Psych to reduce. I'm not intending to be selfish by talking about myself, but it's what I know best, and I'm not qualified to give general advice haha. Maybe other can relate too 😊 I've grown a lot lately. I've sensed in it a lot of people resently, including you 😊 Not that you were ever missing anything 😍😍. Growth is beautiful, and life long. Sometimes it's gradual, sometimes it's like...BAM! If you're ready or not haha. There's always a bright side, but it's harder to find sometimes. Experience helps :) looking forward to the next one ✌☝🏾❤

WE MISS YOUR HAPPY WELCOME!! :( and awesome video as always kati!

Growing up I always just thought I was selfish, dumb, unorganized and lazy. I could not keep it together, and was often called an instigator. I also NEVER stopped talking, to a point where people couldn't understand me. My biological mother denied anything was going on and simply called me an unorganized lazy child. So I believed that. For so many years. I moved out when I was 16, went to school to upgrade (because I did not do well in grade school). I am now 21 and in nursing school and also seeking treatment for undiagnosed ADHD that I have had my whole life but denied. I'm currently under evaluation before I can start meds(because I also have anorexia) and I'm finally feeling like hey, maybe I'm not dumb, stupid or lazy. I have a real issue that I've done an amazing job surviving with, but I dont want to just survive anymore. I'm ready to accept my past and move on to do the things that will work for me in the future. (:

Hi Kati. Thank you for all you do! Love your videos🤩 please would you do a video on how teachers can support students struggling with a mental illness( eg depression, panic attacks, even suicidal ideation) and how can we creat a school support team! X thanks

Great Video!! Helps other people to understand more what's going on with us!

I’m so GLAD you said “bored “ bc that’s what my life has been since I’ve been off my adderal - absolutely miserable !!! Can’t stand it ! I need the stimulant to make me calm (??) driven and happy.

I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this, I don’t know a whole lot about ADHD!! I hope you’re having a magnificent day Kati 💕

Watching this helped me realize why I am emotionally attracted to my BPD wife... She gives me thoes strong feelings I can't give myself.

Boredom is where the creativity comes in 🥰 when your mind is rested and at peace, that’s where the subconscious ideas can be explored

I'm soon turning 42 and I have never been diagnosed but I really believe I have ADHD. I've lost all enjoyment in all of my hobbies. Only things that stimulate my brain is video games, women, and getting high. I usually put things off till the last second. I have a hard time being organized until the clutter gets enough to really annoy me. My parents live with me at my house and their French bulldog is my best buddy in the world and keeps me focused and happy. I'm thankful for him for sure. I love him so much.

THANK YOU SO MUCH. this is this one thing ive never understood about myself and knowing how much this plays into my adhd is so helpful thank you

Kati Morton hello I clicked on this video because I like to know about other Mental health problems and find out about them so then I can better understand it I once knew someone with ADHD so this video was still helpful and interesting to me you always share such important information with everyone lastly not related I like your top thanks for sharing the video again as i could never really understand what HDHD was 🙂

Thanks for the video!!!

Watching your videos transports me into the logical, self-assessing mindset that is productive and sets a pace for my ability to create a plan to improve my environment, temperament, and long-term goals. Thank you for creating this channel, so low-income people have free access to exceedingly helpful, credible sources of help. You're awesome, your videos have been immensely helpful.

Thanks for helping us learn about ADHD. I really like your videos as you use simple language, provide good examples / scenarios to explain technical terms, are non-judgemental and supportive. Hi from Australia 🤗

Another brilliant ADHD video especially highlighting the lack Of dopamine response, Before being diagnosed I just thought ADHD was kids playing up in school like how most people think if they don’t know What it really involves.

I've ben dignosed my hole life with ADHD(or at least as long as I can rember) it's a core reason I also have GAD. How I put it most often nowadays is my brain dosent stop,ever. Not even when I sleep (because I always dream) it's a real strugle that efects evreything in my life,body and evreything around me. How to ADHD has ben very helpfull to me along with mental health talk on KZfaq. I strugle with a list of other stuff,but adhd is a big one.

thanks for this video you always teach me alot!😁💖

For weeks I've been staying up all night asking myself if I'm being selfish by only having personal projects in my mind and postponing that call to my grandma to check on her and many other things, I remembered this channel and came here looking for help and I'm so grateful that the most recent video is exactly about this topic, thanks a lot Kati!

Thank you 😌

I CAN RELATE TO ALL OF THESE THINGS YOU WERE TALKING ABOUT ON THIS VIDEO.

Diagnosed with ADHD at 23 (childhood diagnosis dismissed by parents). My roommate doesn't believe I have it, claiming that "Everyone has ADHD now" and that "Everyone has those feelings, you're just not disciplined enough to control yourself". But then she makes fun of me and gets annoyed that I'm talking up the kitchen when it's Sunday and I'm on hour 4 of working on my homemade oatmeal cookie recipe bc I hyperfocused. So being able to understand the science and connect it to behavior is such strong knowledge! Also I love How to ADHD!

Going to bed smiling after watching this :) great tips!!

Hello Kati, I've been watching your videos for quite a a while now; this channel helps me with my own struggles. You are amazing and so helpful!!!(: Thank you for these eye opening, Precised, important, full of information videos! Many things became more clear to me about myself, and this video was the best! I'm gonna take your advice and explain it to my significant other and parents! Thank you so.

Thank you❤️❤️❤️