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@@nileshkumar8076 click the link above, click the tab of one on one correspondence. Book an appointment.

I went to your page. I’m going to sign up for the trauma bond one soon. Will want a private session at some point too. You have opened my eyes and I’ve been in every kind of therapy imaginable. You finally made me understand this truly. My father and my husband of 23 years are both narcissists. The stuff about my husband AND me are spot on. It’s like we grew up together. Aloha from Hawaii. Mahalo for bringing this education to us. I realized speaking with the owner of a company I was doing work for that he was completely lying and manipulating me! I do mobile notaries and his company hires people like me to sign loan documents. They get paid from the title company who then is supposed to pay us. The last year payments haven’t been coming on time. The dude lied and basically threatened me if I posted the fact that they are not paying on time now that it would be a problem. I found myself being apologetic etc even though he’s asking me to lie! Bosses are renowned for being narcissists. I worked in the mortgage industry as an underwriter. My signature could make a lot of money for these guys. They all flirted, grabbed me, threatened me and on and on. It intimated me and I thought that was just what we had to deal with as women. These dudes used and abused me because they could. It’s prevalent in so many aspects of my life. And now some repressed memories are working their way out. I can feel it. The stories I’ve told myself now don’t seem real. My brain is protecting me. With the knowledge you are bringing me it’s opened up dusty old parts of my brain that need to be healed. The two memories were at age 6 and age 22. When I look back at the stories attached to them they make no sense. I could see though how my brain has helped me. I’m ready now to remember thanks to you! I’m so grateful. Oh, do you do anything regarding repressed memories? Mahalo from Maui 🌸🌺

I LOVe your wall!!!!!! Thoes nice wood wall

Tell us the diffrence between x: "opray whinfrey" narsicist and x: "trumph" narsicist then?Tthis if you include both side and the side "trowing out of heaven"...

Same here told him years ago he a razor blade for a tongue he took that as a compliment.I have tried to leave but he always finds me then threatens to set fire where i live ect.

I had 40 years of it too, love. I hope you are doing well and healing. Bless you.

40 years for me too 🙁 but now i know 👍🏼 after going almost no contact for three years … now she is being soooo nice . but i know better now . i know she lost her new supply….but i have been Blessed to find a life long , true friend again 😊a Lady that has Always been good to me . if i had tried this separation alone … ? no way could i have pulled it off …i know after 40 years of off and on i would have gone back . gone back to abuse and pain one more time. Thank you Danish … your words are priceless 👍🏼

Me too

The lies, him looking at me thinking I don't remember what I've said, or remember what he said, him telling me I'm crazy.

Correct

amen

Exactly...!

SPOT ON!!!

I fell for the agenda recently….I got burnt but I’m back out again thank God

This is true - Staying and giving up yourself. 😮

@@bobbyapple7414 yess

The victim game is strong.

@@David-eu1ms The attention seeking game is strong.

It dies feel like kicking a puppy. When I rescued a dog he told me I am on my own. I realised how much more that comment meant to my relationship then he wanted me to see ❤

@David-eu1ms Beautiful expression of truth. I never kicked the puppy, and was constantly told I did

Beautiful expression of the truth, I never kicked the puppy an ws constantly told that I did.

Congratulations well done. The first step is always the hardest. You got this!

Good for you, it's not always easy but not nearly as hard as living with a narcissist

How? You must have a good support system. Congratulations!

@@jbrown2908 Have you been in this situation? I'm guessing not, otherwise you would have a better understanding of how this cycle makes people feel. Feeling heartbroken and shattered are perfectly normal emotions when you're in love with someone and put your trust in them, only to be let down again. We give them another chance because WE desperately want it to be different this time. We may cognitively know that it won't be - but hope gets in the way. Feeling angry and resolute is a stage in the grieving process which often doesn't come until much later, when we are out of the fog and the trauma bond with that person.

Firstly you are not stupid. This is what they do, and they know which buttons to press because they spend all their time manipulating and lying to others. The fact that you gave them another chance simply shows that you are human being with empathy and feelings. And to be let down by someone when you really thought they wanted to change, is extremely hurtful. Narcissists gravitate towards forgiving and trusting people, but that doesn't mean that you're wrong or stupid for being forgiving and trusting - the fault is with them, for abusing those qualities for their own gain. Hang in there and please don't give up. Talk to a therapist or friends or family about what's happening if you can.

We all do this cycle again and again, seeing their potential, sadly not the reality - hoping that they will follow our leed and do the healing work but they don't - they don't change. These videos help so much in understanding that they won't change, they don't actually love you - they are only out for what they can get from you and it is just a repeating cycle...until we move on.

This is me right now. Let’s stay strong.

@@msjanine8 Oh dear, I understand how painful this is. Sending you lots of love, strength and healing. You are wonderful and very strong. Take care. May God Bless you. 🙌🏻 🤗 ❤️

I did try to run away from home when I was a teenager, but she stopped me. At that time I had no idea that she was a narcissist. All I knew was, as her child I always tried to be as best as she wanted me to be, but all I got from her was bad treatmeants and abusive words. She drove me crazy every single day and she killed my self esteem.

Thank you for the kind words ❤️

I'm 61 & still healing. I was kicked out at 16 & tried to have some kind of relationship with my mother ever since. But all she could see was my brother he was king. A fat fu*k up with every mental problem you could name. Never left home never had a job can't use a computer & scared of the world at 59 because of her. Now she is dead. I've lived in Australia for almost 40 years & don't even know where her ashes are! She hated me all my life because I was a girl & because I wasn't afraid of her. I actually wonder if there is something wrong with me that I don't care about her! But if you have read this far you may as well know the ugly truth... She knew I was being S.A's at 5-9yrs by my stepdad #3 & stayed with him! Yep I had 4 dads & 9 schools & was never allowed to make friends with anyone ever!!!!

Our anger is most helpful in keeping us motivated as we move on to better days.

Is he a good guy?

@@rickiilatino Nooo Anger is sads bodyguard. Self respect is what is needed. Can't beat a healthy dose of self respect like " you don't get to do that to me anymore, I quit"

Exactly the same thing I went through..😂😂😂😂 omg..

You see this in some employers as well who are narcs. Treat their employees like crap then dole out gifts or bonuses to keep you there.

That’s what always gets me when people call their partner a narcissist because the narcissist dumped them and left them. That’s just a jerk. A real narcissist doesn’t leave!!! Won’t leave you alone.

@@undercoverbird8592 That's why I left, my Toxic ex wouldn't leave my house, I left so I could get him out.

Actually, to comment above, some Narcissists do leave. When I learned about narcissism, I started my healing journey. I explained my weaknesses due to my upbringing. I asked him to also get help, because we both needed to heal. He finally got to the point of saying he wanted to change and getting help. Literally within 2 weeks, a female predator went after him. He jumped to her for source, but the sad thing is, she is so toxic to him. It's very hard to watch someone you love be eaten alive and lose himself. I struggle with how a horribly sick parent can cause a child to become a narcissist, and then there's no hope for thr innocent child.

​@undercoverbird8592 Narcissist do leave. Usually it's a ploy to break you and the plan is always to come back. Sometimes it's because you've been successful in grey rock and they find new supply.

Yes! You are right! We want to believe them. Being treated like sh* for years, we get thirsty for some love or some nice words and we think they changed, while they play their evil games. They never change, they remain evil till the last day.

We're in denial about the evil we have been thru....I know I've been.

Trauma Bonding

@@MauveBlossom Yes :(

I’m sorry 😂😂😂😂 this is too funny because this is so sadly true… they KNOW they have you hostage and nobody truly wants THEM for them

Not calling u.mama 😮

Wow you sound like a got it together person I'm left wondering how the H did it las 18 years? I really hope you are far away from that "mama" needy man-child & his PlayStation!

I hope both you and your kids are safe.

Same here. Lesson learned 👍

Yes!!!

Oh ya, well said!

So true!

Perfectly said.

Lady, I'm praying for you. I was just in this for 19 years I know exactly were you are. My son is going to be 18 in 4 mths. He's been torn apart by his dad, mentally and emotionally. To me I believe it was worse on the child to stay, but, I was told if I ever took his kid again. "You will go miss, like an old man fishing, one call"

@@serenamccullough7755 I hear you Serena!!! I have feared for my life a myriad of times over these 18.5 years (nearly the same number as you!!). I also felt staying in was safer for BOTH me and my son, than leaving, but once my son moves out, I AM RESTARTING MY LIFE!! I have only stayed to protect him, albeit his father and the entire psych family has attempted to alienate him from me as he has grown up by using BIG MONEY and BIG THINGS. They are deplorables. Not to mention-sexually deprave. It’s like living a Dateline story in real time. Prayers up for the both of us!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Begin your steps to leave now! It will never stop. Help is readily available if you look for it.