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When they don't critize you they neglect you .

They run for the hills when you tell them exactly what they are. Mine discarded me immediately after I exposed him and told him he’s a narcissist.

I afraid even to make a cup of tea for me😢...always made his light tea... Whenever i try to add one teaspoon more tea power I was caught as a criminal

Last night, my trauma bond FINALLY BROKE, 2.5 years after leaving EXTREMELY narcistic soon to be EX-husband. I don't know how it happened--I "snapped" and all of the sudden I felt nothing, absolutely NOTHING towards him. Enough was enough. I feel free.

After putting up with my narc Dad for 60 years. I'm done He watched my Mom die of heart failure and did nothing to help her. She did nothing but help him for 65 years in their marriage. I got there and he tried to blame me for not being there to do his responsibility. They are sick and never change. I left him after getting him a button for medical help if needed. The second night alone the coward had a heart attack..he pushed the button and passed out. I think I bought the button for the wrong person. I will forever be sad and heartbroken for my Mom. She didn't deserve to die that way.

1. Prioritize self and needs- meet my own needs. Recognize my needs , focus always on other person. Reclaim my power, wantede to belief I am selfish for expressing my needs 2. Follow my passions- jealous of me, I had purpose nit them, I had to forget my passion, do what I love, I must be passionate about my life 3. Speak my thoughts and truth- naturally learned to question my beliefs , calm and assertive 4. Make mistakes and make a lot of mistakes- planted a seed of shame, but uproot it, I have reclaimed my power 5. Assert my independence - emotionally, financially I can do it

I find you the most helpful Narc talker! I just need reminding a million times over to just sort my own life out. It's harder than I feel it "should" be after so long of this nonsense. Baby steps and little wins!

In my relationship with a narcissist I had started to believe that they hated me. They were envious, jealous and very hurtful words.

Get in control of your emotions because if you can’t another will.Cut off your emotions from anyone that is using them against you.😊Use your logical mind not the emotional mind it takes a few moments to get there after an insult take your time to answer in a calm way!

You touched my heart with this video. No one understands what damage a narcissist can do to your life unless they have been through it too. Thank you for understanding. Thank you for this video.

Thank you Danish. Your help is more appreciated than you know. The cruelty I just went thru is horrific. He played me very well, he is as cold as ice. A monster. His eyes are as black as coal. I feel like he set out to destroy me like a predator. I'm picking myself up. I am experiencing serious trauma. Not eating. Thank you for your help. ❤

This is weirdly hard to listen to but i know its truth.

So earlier I told my narcissistic boyfriend who is in prison for hurting me and my kids that I was going to go to sleep so I went to sleep. I ended up falling asleep right away because I'm tired taking care of three kids by myself. I woke up to use the restroom so I checked my phone and he said that I never go to sleep this early I must be up to something but whatever he doesn't want to think them so he's just going to stop. I thought I was going to see a text saying okay goodnight talk to you tomorrow but I was wrong once again. That text just really pissed me off and I finally text him saying I was done and I give up. I blocked him and I took the texting app for the prison off of my phone. This video is the first thing I just seen right now so I know God put it here for me to start my healing process. 6 years of torture with this person is enough

I cannot speak for anyone, but by just listening to this video in particular, I already started to feel better about myself. I'm going to try everything you said. Thank you again for all of your videos, they really help, they actually gives me a sense of healing and drive...

I am so happy, that i find your videos to heal after 40 years of dieing slowly, because of my narcs (father, sister, ex partner, coworker), thank you for your insightfull explanations, advices, your ethical care about us -narc survivors.... i barely survived, i was almost dead, because i was used to think i am a problem and denied my needs.... i wanted to die, because of sadness, guilt and never been good enough or be worh and loved... so lonely, like being poisoned, ill all the time.... thank you so so much❤

My father and family. He called my place of work telling the person in charge how bad of a person I am. All lies. Can u imagine. My father is sick

Omg that is incredibly horrible. It no wonder why the damage that was done is toxic. That just too much. We definitely need to get past this and reclaim ourselves again. The act has to go and we have to stand up and believe that .

It does take time to detox from all that narc toxicity. No matter how many times I would tell him that there is no such thing as perfection he could only criticize. As part of my therapy i realized that I felt like I didn't exist. Wow how dark can one be to do this to another human being.

I am a nonconformist. I never felt the need to conform unless I happened to agree with the behaviour in the first place. This resulted in my being scapegoated by my mother. It has also caused me to experience abuse at the hands of employers because I'm "not a good team member" (called out abuse, refused to submit false invoices, refused unreasonable deadlines etc). Narcs are all about control and I guess I will go to my grave refusing to give it to them.

Say no to a narcisist and see the devil face and body language like dancing 😂

Wow I just realized that I'm starting to do some of this! Ex: a guy was harassing me and I stayed firm and refused to talk to him again and made him go away and then I actually fairly calmly explained to another guy why that wasn't NBD and was actually threatening af. Later, when my body was having a strong freeze/fawn response and my hr was dropping I took myself home and responded to the pressure to stay with the words "sorry dude, I gotta take care of me"! I still feel guilty AF for taking the rest I've needed the last 2 days (I'm still living with the problem, divorce pending) but I did it and today I'm gonna spend time with friends instead of staying in my room all day while he celebrates his birthday with the kids. And all this has just been natural, I barely thought about it at all. Keep watching videos like this, it really does help change your mindset and brings real recovery 😊 thank you Danish ❤

Thanks so much for speaking out. This channel is the best one about narcissist abuse.

I filed a restraining order against my guy friend narcissist, it was one of the best choices of my life

They are absolutely jealous of all the good things that you are and they are not. They try to kill your spirit.

Have a married “friend” who proudly and aggressively announces her “rules” for any encounter…this is framed as self care and assertiveness. It definitely crosses the line into aggression and controlling critical behavior. Not supposed to talk about anything she doesn’t want to hear. Which includes everything except weather and kittens. I’m basically there to listen to her supportively and soothe her feelings. Then buh bye. Pattern years long…with little bits of random interest interjected to confuse. I’m done.

Danish, please put a video on about how the daughter of a narcissist mother can survive in school and university.

i almost skipped this one . shoot , i have been split up for three years. why would i need to worry about her control 🤷🏼‍♂️. all you said was true . there control in imbedded in my soul .. not letting you enjoy your hobbies your pleasures.. yeah it’s in there and does need to be uprooted and burned.. Thank you again Danish , job well done 👍🏼

Omg I can’t take any more I’m done my rope snapped they are beyond sick people

After leaving my first husband I did return to Univeristy and earned my first year in a Bachelor's of Science degree however again I didn't spend enough time on my own pursuing personal goals on my own. that year a poem I wrote ended up getting me an award in a poetry contest too. Instead I married again before my second year in that program. Then I started struggling in school again. While watching my blind father in law starting to die of heart disease. So I offered to take him into our home. He lived 3 years with us until not long after I left regardless of the fact at the time was given only 3 months more to live. So I learned a bit about heart disease while doing so. After leaving my second husband I was a home care home maker for 5 years while at the same time singing in a choir; then participating in a theatre company part time too for 2 years in the summer too which was of the entertaining in a museum style perfect for people like me who have gone through a lot. When doing so I only wanting to have fun when to be honest being already too old to do some serious entertaining for a living. Some people at the time imcluding the director of that musical theatre company based in Pincher Creek and in Edmonton and some in our chori and in that theatre company encouraged me to break off into acting and helping to write songs with the help of the directors brother who was a professor of music studies at the time too. Wasn't in my heart at the time. i wanted to be there for my small children however was being denied that often after their father insisted on moving 60 miles out of town. The grief of being separated from them was almost too much for me to take. Having to send them back during those only 3 weekends per month with them during the school year felt so unbearable had I not started pusuing goals to distract myself from it. For awhile I picked the wrong program of study which was demanding way too much of my time too while having to work 2 part time jobs for awhile only at first too. 4 years ago I was in a roll over car accident and since then started getting busy renovating a house and a yard while getting better. I'm starting to feel like a just need a long rest some days.

Don’t defend don’t react - just do just act on what YOU want - without fear but assertiveness Ignore them whatever they say whatever they do

When the narc isn’t a parent, a 6th way the narcissist has control is through your sexuality. This one will be the hardest to break. It’s like they have a direct port into your control mechanism at the most primal level. Other than that, all these five tools the narcissists has are very powerful. And the narcissist refuses to let them go. And when you find yourself under the control of two different narcissists at the same time, it can be all the more confusing. One of them is a female parent who’s had narcissistic control since forever, and the other one is more like a sexual abuser. lol This is quite a lot for the brain to process. lol 🧠

I find this video so amazingly accurate. It is as if you have stood and watched through the window and seen how my life has been with this narc. The common behaviours is such a surprise to me, I wasn’t aware of the ‘symptoms’ attributable to narcissism.

Danish you have a way of saying things about narcissism that is full of wisdom. Thank you.

Danish....100% you are correct!!! I can not believe what I have lived with without knowing what it really was. 😢😢 I'm on the divorce corner...right there...and knowing what these problems are now....what this disorder actually is...and sadly...how widespread it is...has been a life saver!!! THANK YOU!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

This episode was therapeutic and empowering! Thank you very much!

You helped me so much and still helping me Danish. I keep watching your videos every day as I recover from a narcissistic abuse from my parents. I dont speak to them anymore. I have finally taken my life back. Just wish it was sooner

Great advice. Have been working on those things. It starts out small the progress each day/week: small goals. (1) Reconnected with a normal non-narcissist. Got replacement phone (idk what happened to the last old lost/stolen by narc) (2) get job again (narcissist smeared me at the last ones). Boundaries and fitness goals are other ones, and cerebral wise to get back to where I was before the narcissist ruined my life mostly.

Thank you, these are all the things I'm been doing for a bit now. I always said it's not me it's them.

Thanks Danish

Thank you very much, you said really well, unfortunately people don't understand that narcissist wants a perfect human being which is not possible, I often get really tired of that , I can't make people understand that, the horrifying thing is that if the narcissist is your own father they can tell any narrative about you and society will believe them , anything they says when they don't have the ability to be a normal person or judge normally........

Thank you for your videos. I hope your channel gets really big, because it would help so many people.

I'm still afraid to speak my truth because it always leads to more abuse & pettiness. We have kids together so I feel like I can't escape him

Thank you so much for this very wonderful and helpful video. Each point resonated with me. In the last point about asserting your Independence, the items that you listed are so so important, especially finances. Thanks to my finances, I was able to escape the parasite. And honestly I was also stuck in the relationship because he controlled my money even though I earned it. So financial freedom is huge. Most women are stuck, because they do not have financial support of any kind. Thank you for your effort. God bless.

Health, medicines, workout, meditation, friends and family

Awesome truth! Thank you Danish!!

VERY WELL SAID ❤ MY FAMILY ARE NARCISSIST IT WAS REALLY SUFFOCATING. All you said are all TRUE I HAVE NO FREEDOM AT ALL. They Kill my Dreams everthing. I dont know where to wscape and LEAVE THEM. THANK YOU SO MICH I PRACTICE NOW AND FOLLOW YOUR ADVISE.

Amazing episode! Every episode is always encouraging and validating.

Wow, you are so on target...I used to say my mother takes up ALL the air...her demands were unachievable. She forced her will over those she deemed inferior/worthless. Fear was the rule of our house. It took decades for me to heal.

This is so beautiful and truly supportive and nurturing. We must all be healers of each other now. Be well.

Great. 🎉 Heavy stuff… an idea for a whole series could be to break these down individually and how to do each one with daily dos and donts…

3:45 "before meeting the narcissist" lol. What if it's your mom. a phrase jumps out: "A narcissist killed your passion, they attacked that one thing you love to do the most." It makes so much sense. Mom attacked me programming or coding AI or mobile apps because it was for fun, I was passionate about it with all my heart. She didn't attack my brother transferring from genetics research into coding AI because it wasn't a fucking passion, it was for work, and work is serious and painful, and painful is good. That's why it's OK for him to do AI but not for me. China is my passion because it allows me to escape my parents, and that's why mom attacks China. My business was my passion, and she attacked my business, saying "You'll never be a great businessman, you'll fail at everything, you weren't born to do business, you were born to be a technologist, come back to Canada live with us and find a government job." etc. She occasionally mentions about feeling empty, unneeded, having no purpose in life. Her purpose before was surviving and taking care of kids, but now that we finished university he has no purpose.

Thank you Danish. I am healing now and have come a long way over the past year. ❤ Thank you for this video.

You are doing an excellent videos that educate people on these MONSTERS in human bodies.

Sadly, spoke truth with anger.

Made sense.. problems are rooted in trauma. With me its living with him

Perfect timing, on this! Mid divorce.

This is very powerful and very important to learn. This is probably the most important step to move forward after narcissistic abuse. Thank you for sharing this knowledge.

So many points resonated with me. Thank you for another wonderful teaching video.

I was in tears. By end of video... everything happened exactly with me...thanks for all the help please let me.know if u give 1to 1 counselling. I really want to take it

Thank you, Danish. This is everything I needed to hear. I’ve just found your channel and am watching it every day now 💖

True. Thank you for brilliant advice.

So happy I found your channel (and this video in particular!) I resonated with all of it! Thank you! 🙏

Thank you. This was a wonderful video.

Fantastic video ty🙏

Spot on. Excellent advice. Thankyou.😊

Thanks for sharing your information

U r doing a great job by making people aware of such monsters

thanks for talking on topic, Shortly and powerfully.

Thank you brother for this video. I got myself educated and practiced to handle the situations, after 18 years of marriage now only I am practicing the things on my own that you have spoken. Happy to get the confirmation for the steps ahead

This was extremely helpful! Thank you!🌺

Danish, your knowledge is amazing! Thank you so much

Thank you u so much! I can’t tell you how much I can relate to what your saying It’s like you know how I am feeling Thank you so much Mr Danish

You nailed it. I needed this information today. Very helpful. Extremely helpful.

Thank you for another great video. I especially appreciated make lots of mistakes

Thank you Danish God Bless you

Its like u have waTched my life thro camera !!! !😢🎉

Perfekt Video!!!! It gave me so much strength!!!

VERY insightful And helpful! You are truly an amazing human being And thank You for Your channel And this community To everyone thank You for validation by sharing your experiences and opinions even advice ❤ XOXOXO 😘

Thank you danish!

Your video helps me a lot to understand such person previously I was confused and tried to focus on him but not now

Incredible!,, how you describe my experience with a vulnerable narcissist… healing now enjoying my freedom, my healing, in yoga meditation and nature… and loving people!! Thank YOU

Absolute clarity n lot of concern n Tq so much

Thank you...😊

Thank you for videos!

Thank you Danish

Point 02 made me cry instantly

Excellent video with so much accurate information 👏

Thnk u so much, it really helps me watching your vids🙏🏽 To know im not alone..i see so many poeple who have been hurt by them narcs smhh🙈 Now its time for recovering💪🏾💞

Danish, I feel like you are sent by god to answer my questions! Now I think I can come out from my childhood trauma.. can't thank you enough! ❤

Thank U 😍

Very helpful. Thank you Danish

Thank you thank you tha k you 😊 so much for such great great great suggestions I'll do inshallah. It relief me from inside, for the burden i had for a long time. Especially for doing mistakes which i always tried to avoid. Felling relieved 😌

Thank you. ❤️

You're a beautiful soul. Love you, my friend.🙏🔥

Thank you ❤

Thank you brother ❤

This is beautiful - thank you i dampened down so much of me. I know i have great ability and am creative. I also saw a spectacular creativity in him as and artist a musician and someone who was able to take any electronic component and make it into something wonderful and it saddened me not to see him using these skills to the fullest, it blew my mind - his whole family had creative talents yet they all kept themselves small

He discarded me immediately when I exposed him but he called me the narcissist 🤷‍♂️

Very well researched!