living closeted sucks, but its 1000x better then coming out in an unsafe environment. stay safe y'all!

HERES A REMINDER THAT YOU ARE VALID, OUT OR NOT!!!

My suggestion if you don’t know if your parents are homophobic or transphobic if to watch a tv show or movie with them that you know has lgbtq+ representation in it and see how they react (this can also be an opportunity for you to explain any terms they might not understand to help your coming out go smoother)

Hol' up- so *you're* that person who's Tik Toks keep mysteriously appearing in my recommendations

These comment sections are the best, bc it's all the gays just vibing 🌈

I came out as Bi to my class in Nursing in a power point and my teacher was so supportive and so was my class

I came out to a friend of mine as Non-Binary and it took him a while to get used to it, but now he's really supportive and even asked one of his friends to buy me a binder. I'm really glad to have him as a friend. He's the only one in my real life I'm out to, because my family is kinda wierd with everything lgbt related. I'm planning on coming out to my other friends. I know they're all very supportive, but I'm still scared.

OK I WAS JUST PLANNING ON COMING OUT BECAUSE MY FLAGS ARRIVED- HOW DO YOU KNOW

I came out to my mom a few months ago as lesbian and she was like "so was the conversation about edward and Jacob from twilight you pretending"

Hi Laurenzo, thanks for this video, I bought a non-binary flag for Christmas and since I’m moving in my own apartment very soon I really wanted to come out so I received my flag on Christmas Day , but when they asked me what flag it was and why I got it , nothing , no answer just closeted enby panic I couldn’t say anything! I was rlly mad at myself cause I really wanted to it yk , online I have my name and my pronouns and here I’m still closeted even though I’m moving out soon 🤦🏼✨

i mean yes accurate i am in a similiar situation with my transphobic parents, but they weren't transphobic before i came out so

Last night my parents found that I was Trixic and Nonbinary because they were going through my phone and messages to my friends and both of my parents are homophobic and transphobic

I came out to my friend’s parents first because I knew that they supported LGBTQ+ because my friend is bi and they support her, they would’ve been my plan to go to if I got kicked out for being non-binary and lesbian. So glad I didn’t have to do that

I bought myself two trans flags and one gay flag despite being surrounded by homophobes and they just thought the colors were cute so HAHA

This is soo off topic but laurenzo's hair is having a mind of its own 🤣🤣. Love you laurenzo

I can't tell my parents they are so homophobic and transphobic that I'm so scared they might hurt me I wanna leave but I can't...

guess whos moving in with a step sibling?

my parents being highkey homophobic and dead naming people and saying “if you liked girls i wouldn’t support nor love you anymore”, like ok thanks 😃😃 now how am i supposed to tell them i don’t want to be a female and i like all genders 😳🤚

I will forever remember this for whem i come out to my mom and try to get her to understand and transphobic dad who is really scary and I now won't come out to him. EVER but I will keep everything you have said in mind for when I come out to my parents and my friends that I have to find and my teachers. . .

But you know what even worse is? Coming out to parents, that you thought were supportive, but then later finding out that they are complete biggots :)

I came out to my mum as trans as I thought she would be fine as my sister has trans friends and I have trans friends and she is okay but noooooooooooooooooooooooooo. I told her and she instantly tells me no, it's just a phase and other dog poop. And every time I try to ask her about it she goes " hi (dead name), you can use (preferred name) as a nickname but nothing more."

I just casually came out as a Demigirl and she had no reaction. At all. I love my friends.

My mother just came out as bi to me and the rest of my family and I couldn’t be prouder of her :)) it also made me really happy since I’m also bi. (I was never worried abt not being accepted for who I am though since both of my parents are very supportive and open minded)

Here's my problem. My mum knows I'm omnisexual and is very supportive, even my brother is gay. She loves the LGBTQ community but...when she started to get suspicious I might be trans ( more specifically a Demiboy in my case) she got mad? And said, oh your not a boy, it's all because kids at school are saying they are trans, I know your not trans I have birth to you. BUT THIS IS WHERE IS GETS WEIRD. I came out as non binary and my mum was open to it, and stuff. She uses my name sometimes ( very rarely, I'm too scared to correct) but rarely uses they them. But this was before I realised I was trans. So when I asked if she could you he/they ( mainly he) pronouns she went all defensive?! I'm so confused. I don't have any other family where I live. Well, my dad's side but there all abusers and transphobes and all that. We don't have any family friends that can help me. There's only one teacher at school who I know that is BEYOND SUPPORTIVE of gay , and trans kids. When she hears someone use gay as an insult she tells them of. She asked for our pronouns and preferred name if we are trans. But that's all. I have one LGBTQ friend, who I don't know well, and one good friend who is an Ally. Soooo not that much support ahaha. I love my mum but I'm just confused why she won't accept me being demiboy

I don’t feel the need to come out as bi to some of my homophobic family members until I possibly get a girlfriend and if I don’t, then that’s ok too!

I am bi and I already told most of my friends and my therapist who are all very supportive. My parents are allies and I think they are starting to suspect my true sexuality. I don’t know if I should wait a few years to come out since I’m only 12. I have a reliable environment unlike many others in the comments below, so I’m going to keep my fingers crossed that you guys can successfully come out when you’re ready. 😌

After coming out to my close friends and my partner on the 31th I said goodbye to my gender as well as the new year in pretty big whatsapp chain to a lot of folks... This russian doll of coming out is a nightmare

This must help ppl so much, I’m rlly glad my mum isn’t homophobic ;w; I’ve told my mum and teacher that I’m a demiboy and they were supportive :) Fun Fact: When I came out to my mum as Polysexual she told me that she was actually bi :>

When you are the only lgbtq+ person you know.....

I recently came out as nonbinary. My mom said she'll support me and that she loves me and my dad was like "oke... uhm yk it's going to be hard to use your new name and pronouns but I'll try". But they haven't used my name or my pronouns yet. I hope they'll use them soon.

I recommend telling your friends and other family before your parents. Also can I say this is the most yay vibing comment section and I love it 🤘🤟🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

I accidentally came out to my friend that I had just met I didn’t mean to say it but it just kinda came out of my mouth and she told one of my other friends and I really wish I didn’t come out to her

My mom and stepdad are supportive but I'm worried about my biological dad

I LOVE how this channel always has safety as a forefront. As a momma I realllyyyy appreciate it.

when your homophobic and transphobic parents read your coming out text to your friends but still deadname and misgender you and have even told them your not bi but now you think your a lesbian but they cut off your contact from all your lgbtqia+ friends: guess i failed step one

My siblings pride flag got here a few days ago!! And I’m going to get a pan one for us both 😊

I’m glad I have a friend that’s supportive of me wanting to identify as male because coming out to my mother didn’t go well. She’s very supportive of anyone in the LGBTQIA+ community...except me. She raised me as a girl and she will see me as a girl. I came out to her thinking she would be equally supportive of me as she was everyone else but this was not the case. Since I still live under her roof, I basically told her I would pretend my coming out never happened. But once I leave her roof, I’m living my life as *me* because I am who I am and I will not let the shackles of “but not my child” slow me down.

Nobody Laurenzo: **aggressively** I CARE ABOUT YOU

I came out to my parents as ftm about 7 months ago now I’m in gender therapy, counseling, and I’m about to get a binder and start hormone blockers.

i was outed and i have to pretend im straight lmao. i know being in the closet sucks, but it’s the best you could do at the moment. i used to be in the pantry too.

I wish Laurenzo was my parent lmao

I didn't come out as pan or trans to my parents or anyone else. My ex went around and told everyone. I wasn't even ready-

my sister came out as trans to our parents who are transphobic before she even knew she was trans saying “mom i want to be a girl” with a response of “but you cant be a girl since youre already a boy” anyways you remind me of my 6th grade pe teacher, lol ik thats random, you guys sound so similar not only in voice but in positivity

I made a lot of these mistakes.. BUT apparently my parents are super supportive and awesome. They are super accepting of who I am :D so it ended up ok in the end.

“Surround yourself by people who are LGBTQ+” *Me over here with like two straight friends but I met all of them before we came out* The odds of this happening is unreal-

I came out as pansexual to my parents a while ago, it's a safe situation in my case, there is just some lack of knowledge but I can understand how 😅. But because of that I tend to trust my lgbt+ friend group a lot!

I've made hints about being attracted to girls but haven't told my parents. They seem meh, but I'm still waiting until I have moved out!! Edit: The other week I said to my mum that I would marry a female character and she didn't seem overly pleased, more confused. I am come out sooner than I think...

Lots of love & support to all ❤

I have homophobic and transphobic parents and I’m both pansexual and genderqueer .-. It honestly scares me to come out but I want to my freshman year if hs (abt 2 yrs) But I’m scared of what will happen and I’m scared they won’t believe or will just not care and invalidate me by not accepting me and not using they/them pronouns But I have to do it one day and in the end, I don’t have to give them an explanation to why I’m who I am today Bc I was born this way and they can either accept it or I’ll find a safer environment to stay ✌️😗

My friend told me this at the skl the other day after a teacher said "girls and boys" (I'm considering enby/gender-queer and he knows) So he said it should be the guys, gals and non-binary pals and it just stuck 😂

I just come out yesterday

The only homophobic people ive encountered is my friends friend, my other friends friend XD, and my teacher. My teacher legit said, “Theyre all just blinded by sin”

idk if you care but i actually came out to my older sister that i thought was homophobic-? it was actually a month ago. I mean she kind of is but anyways. She would always say disgusting things about the LGBTQ+ community. My parents do fully support btw. I had wanted to tell her so many times but like you get the picture, anyways when i told her, she had said that it's okay and if its what i believe then its okay, she just doesn't believe in it- she also said she knew- which my parents said the same thing. owo

This is really good advice! Like, I didn't need it but I'm glad I watched this video so that I can recommend to others.

I told my mom I wanted to change my name, and she compared my name to a freaking deodorant ;^:

Literally the night before I came out I stayed up all night planning it in my head😭🤚

Dude this helps so much

its 2021 and im planning on coming out, but i didnt know how... luckly i saw this!

Tip for testing the ice before coming out that I’ve used - say you are doing an experiment and ask your friends + family stuff like “what do you think about the lgbtq+ community?” and “what do you think about global warming?” (mix things up a bit so’s not to arouse suspicion!) If they respond positively, it is probably fairly safe to come out :) ❤

Margaret feelings watching this video... Please Laurenzo, breathe...

So I'm uranic and planning on waking up early to draw in chalk "I'm uranic"on my mom's driveway to come out on my bday

i’m about to come out to my mom so thanks for the tips!

Something that is really great for me being Nonbinary and having they/them Pronouns is that I have some friends who are either in the lgbtq community or are allies that I could always go to if I'm worried about something, and I'm thinking about coming out to my grandma and other family somehow and their support will be great to have

I wish I knew about you before I came out bc my parents dont think I'm actly trans & that makes me sad

instead of coming out to people one by one I did it in a group chat of everyone in my phone . . . with a meme . . . the best part was a huge chunk of them responded with finallys the other group of people where like I fing know it.

I came out a couple years ago, to my parents in a japanese restaurant, we recently went there, and I just remembered the awkward moment when I came out. My mom, dad, brothers, and friends support me so much. Although, I came out to my brothers as lesbian later. My friends pretty much knew.

4:54 this is why I'm scared about getting my wisdom teeth removed

my guidance counselor thinks bisexuality isn’t real.. like aren’t you there to support everyone? 👁👄👁

I accidentally came out to my parents in June last year, and my mom told me to stop. My dad asked me why I liked women, I ALMOST asked him why HE liked women- Edit: they didn't accept me, I told my Gramma I was nb and she used the right pronouns, my mom DIDN'T-

What i did before coming out: 1. I asked my parents if they would be fine with it and i also said i'm not lgbt before asking and they said they would be totally fine! 2. Talking to my parents about it 3. Exposing myself

Thinking bout coming make me have a mini panick attack!!!

I think I’m just gonna come out to my parents in my fencing gear-

Yeah I came out on accident and I feel like my parents were uncomfortable, which sucked

no one youtube ads: "AM I GAY?" quiz no crap sherlock im pan

As a mama, I agree with the advice here. Be safe, all you lovely beans! 🙏 💙💗🤍💗💙

I came out to one of my friends as mtf transand she was really nice and supportive but I'm still closeted and it's painful 😖😣

My mom wasn't that transphobic..... until I came out as agender

I had one of my guy friends confessed to me that he was gay I said I am proud of you for being Who You Are

I relate to the first one

Hi,these are actully really helpful- and im planning to come out when my family move states(probably 3-5 years) that because the country I'm currently in isn't very fond of-yeah...But I'll do it one day and plus I'm probbly to young and nobody's going to take me seriously- if I even try to come out (I'm 13) probbly to young to even think about this..But hey I'm going to try to remain posetive- I found out about this after finding out I liked a boy and a girl(still to young) and- I don't even know what to say anymore- but yeah!

I’m bi and in my mind I never even thought that my family would at all even care, and they're fine with me being bi but whenever I mention it I feel kinda awkward, and IDK why has anyone ever felt like this, and if so do you have any advice? EDIT: in another comment I posted I said that I was lesbian but here I say I'm bi that's bc I'm confused about my sexuality, just wanted to mention that so that people don't ask

I came out to my mum before I knew she was homophobic then I went *straight* back in the closet. It is now just over a year later and she says comments like “I want a new daughter” or “You’re a disappointment” or “You make me so sick” and it rly hurts. I was ok when we were still going to school because there are so many allies and people within the community I can be myself around but now we are in lockdown and my mental health is getting worse and worse and I don’t have any supportive adults in my life. I’m only 14 and I don’t know what to do!!

So in the past two days, I've wanted to come out so much, but I'm not ready to. I wanted to come out yesterday because I am doing an activism writing after school thing, and I picked lgbtqia+ rights for my topic, and the instructor asked why I chose it, I had to lie. and today in English we read a part of a book called the 57 bus, which caused me to have a panic attack, I wanted to tell my teacher why but I cannot. I'm internally screeching because of this, thanks for the tips.

I came out as pan to my close friends first, then eventually to my friends that im not as close with, and then (idk why but i felt like it would be the best option) came out to my entire snapchat friends list and then my teachers. My only family that knows is my cousin because my dad and brother are homophobic (idk about my mum, but she seems really supportive but then she'll end up telling my dad) and i just dont feel rught coming out to anyone else Edit: im going to see if my mum will watch euphoria with me🙂

2:05 Can my support adult be someone I know on Discord but not irl? They do live in the same country as me at least, and they’re LGBTQ+ too.

This is responsible advice. When I first came out, my life was threatened and I was homeless for a time. Also, even though that was 14 years ago, I still suffer from PTSD from that experience.

Came out to my parents in june, i talked to them and they weren’t homophobic but when i came out to them…they told to me to get out of the house. My mother kinda hates me but my dad is good! My dad is supportive but he says to give it a bit more time though. I came out to my cousins and they are SO COOL. When i turn 18 my mum told me to immediately get out so thats great!! My friends helped me alot though so thanks alot for the video! Im kinda scared to tell my dad is nonbinary in the future tho 😭😭

Im pretty sure that all my family already knows, but I want to find a "friend", bring him for Christmas for 2 years and on the third I'll make some kind of joke about it

this is how i came out: **goes to girlfriend of 13 years house to meet her parents** **ask her dad if i can marry her** **leaves house shocked cause he actually let me** **proposes to gf** **sends out invitation to our wedding to both our families** **has wedding** me at reception: WOW THE CLOSET WAS A DARK PLACE BUT NOW THAT EVERYONE CLEARY KNOWS IM A LESBIAN LETS GET STARTED WITH THIS RECEPTION **hands mic back to hostess**

Iv known that I was (prefer not to say but not a boy or girl) since i was 8 so I told them how I felt ( even I thought I was a bit young ) that’s what they said ❤

I want to come out as trans but I am not 100 percent sure if my parents support or not and the 1st thing is don’t come out in an unsafe environment so what can I do to see if they support lgbt+ or not?

i’m complicated it’s like i’m trans but nobody even notices T-T

I’ve come out to almost all my friends but I live in the kind of town that is mostly old Christians, and farmers, and most of them are not very accepting to lgbtq+ people and most people who are accepting are teachers but I’m graduating so adults that can support me rn are hard to come by

Me, who plans on NEVER coming out to my parents EVER:

i tried to come out too my mom yesterday- she always says that she's an lgbt ally but she doesn't support non binary people apparently :) i'm so happy that i figured it out by getting yelled at that they/them is only for more people and that when she doesn't know the gender she just says him/her. it's so nice to get told her comfort is way more important than mine and that i shouldn't care what she thought :) so err could u make a video of how to stop caring what ur only parent who you thought loved you unconditionally will never respect your pronoun or name change but still pretend to love you and respect you :)

Nice vid wish I know this earlier, I came out last week to my family and close friends as bi and genderfluid. My friends were very supportive, thought my mom would too but turned out not. Now she ignored my coming out altogether and still won't accept me. Sucks but oh well that's life.

Hey I have a question! I'm not gay or anything, but I support the LGBTQ+ community. Recently, an ex-friend of mine has come out as being transgender, and I wasn't too hot about it. I soon apologized and I thought we were good, but apparently he lied. He and his friends keep harassing me saying that I'm transphobic and shit when I'm not. DO you guys have any advice? I just thought I'd come here because you guys are from the LGBTQ+ community, and would probably know how to handle a situation like this? Sounds stupid, I know. But, love you guys and I wish you the best lives!

step one: practice coming out too your shampoo bottle in the shower. (that actually helps me a bit lol)

I saw some people saying that they came out to their parents not knowing that their parents were lgbt-phobic so some more really important things: 1) if you have never explicitly told your parents that you are lgbt+ but have also done nothing to hide it (for example referring to anyone who you may potentially date as “partner” rather than girlfriend/boyfriend) and your parents continue to refer to anyone who you may potentially date as girlfriend/boyfriend DO NOT come out to them. They are being unsupportive by ignoring you not hiding that you are lgbt+. 2) no one knows your parents better than you. Everyone in your life may tell you that they are accepting people, but if you get the feeling that they aren’t DO NOT come out to them. 3) it is possible for parents to be accepting of lgbt people in general but to not be accepting of their child being gay. Even if your parents aren’t openly homophobic doesn’t mean you don’t have to be cautious.

i just came out to my parents about me being gay and at first they was scared of losing me as a son but then a friend of theirs who was married to a female for 50 years talked to them and they accepted it and they meet my feince