Okay, so you know how lots of people don't like using plural "you" sometimes and use stuff like "y'all" instead to make it seem more plural? Do you think that could ever happen with "they" or "them?" Like we end up using singular they so much it gets more confusing and people eventually decide to just say something like "th'all" or something to signify that it's plural? Language is just so weird and confusing sometimes and we can't really know how it's going to evolve, right?

Unrelated: For you or anyone here: Some supporrt; The crisis lines are on google. Maybe search up the instructions to. The instructions for Canada: just text the word text or Text or TEXT I'm not sure which one. They are also on Quora (the phone numbers) if you search up something bad mental health related. They show up at the top if you click on the page from the website. Numbers that you can call are on google, as well as su1c1de prevention lines. Make sure it's the right one for your country.

@@stefh1183 in the uk yous is often used instead of y’all, but even as a brit i have to say that y’all is better, yous sounds too much like use and it gets confusing

Roses are red, violets are blue. They/them sucks. And so do you.

Woooow you just changed my life

My mom is the same way

Just point to the French language, where a men's dress shirt has a female pronoun, an egg has a male pronoun, and they/them is commonly used to refer to a single person.

@@damienwonder yep, I took French and it was a NIGHTMARE after coming out because literally every single word is either male or female

Mee too, show them the Mariam Webster article - that’s what changed my moms mind but not my dads

@@pixelatorextreme3359 okay cool

Now you have another, me!

Use* not has

@@marran2594 typo sorry 😅😂

Thats super cool!

Same here I’ve known them since kindergarten and I love them with my whole heart. Ngl, it came a kind of a shock when they told me. It’s also kind of hard to keep track of what I call them and when. The reason being, my mother knows them, and whenever I have a story with my friend in it or speak about them..I have to use she/her pronouns so my mom doesn’t get upset or weird about it and so I don’t out my friend...sometimes it’s hard to switch back and forth especially because I’ve known them so long and they’ve gone by she/her up until this year. I’m trying my best though! Sometimes my brain just goes back to the default it’s been at for 12 years. I’ve never referred to them as “she” to anyone in our friend group or anyone who knows but I feel so bad when I’m just thinking about them (cause I think about my friends a lot cause I love them more than Peter loved the lord) and my brain calls them a she and I’m just like “NO. NO! BAD BRAIN! THEY. IT’S THEY!”

Sorry, but what does your flag mean

@Ava Austin Thanks

@@flo1202xyz its the nonbinary flag! Nonbinary means an individual who isn't 100% male or 100% female, or existing outside the two binary genders completley.

@Ava Austin dang thank you!!! 💕💕💕

@@moonlitmoss_ thanks. I knew the explanation but I just can’t remember the flags

that's so true

exactly, nobody just says completely unprompted “what did he or she say?” they just say they

@@maple22moose44 oh my gosh, my sister was talking about how it was wrong to use they/them pronouns singularly …then she used them both singularly in the same conversation, like a sentence after what she was saying before. Then she realized what she did and had to correct herself…

We understand. We even know the reasoning behind it. We just don't agree with it. Honestly if you want a good solid perception of how the majority feels look up American Dad's Tank Bates, his reactions are kind of the only thing you need to see. It's not ignorance, it's just a disagreement.

@@walkingcorpse1224 why don’t you agree with it though?

Omg I'm the exact same except I knew what trans meant

@@EK-ho4qz cool but i know what trans means now

Same. I had no idea what any of this meant. And now i think I’m nonbinary and bisexual

@@august1837 cool i i also feel like im not only gonna be biseaxel soon

I remember my friend was the first to introduce me to asexuality and transgender ness. I'm both. It was very awkward when he came out cause I had never heard either of the terms before and he wasn't prepared to explain them He still identifies as trans, but has since rejected the asexuality. We're super close now :p

either is fine! Laurenzo is more of my nickname, Lauren is my actual name, but I don't think of it as a deadname. Thanks for asking! :)

@@adesso.laurenzo so you go by laurenzo then right

@@smeyer8713 they said they don’t mind, Either Laurenzo or Lauren

Who

@@frgwyn3760 they said that like Laurenzo said that they are ok with either so don’t think of either as their dead name

Yeah I usually just hit those people with some dumb response

Right, it's not hard, what's difficult is the rest of the changes the LGBT is demanding, many don't want to give an inch to avoid giving the whole foot. And most don't feel obligated to have to abide by respecting terms and conditions that's thing.

thank you :) people have said she has "Fire Green Eyes"

True

I am so happy for you! You are so valid💖

Oh my goodness congrats!

Amazing!! Great job!

congratz!!!!

I’m so happy for you 🥺 you deserve it 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️⚧

What does it mean to be “enby” I haven’t heard of that and care to be informed 💗

It's the nonbinary equivalent of boy or girl. Not every nonbinary person is comfortable with it.

@@justwannawatchyoutubegeez2381 It's just shorthand for non binary thank you for the curiosity though I felt very seen😊

Well what we have to understand is that in those conflicts we can both be right. For instance arguing that there are more than one gender biologically is illogical. However arguing that how one chooses to be and express themselves can be undefined by what is in their pants is completely logical. But that’s how it’s always been waaaay before non-Binary became a term. It’s just people who choose to ignore the boundaries of gender. Like girls who decided to be mechanics or boys who decided they like to dance or figure skate. Many of which still preferring heterosexual relationships even. My favorite advice to give is that in this life it is not about WHAT you are, it is about WHO you are.

there's only 2 genders

This is actually what's making it more difficult. If you want for people to respect the "they/them" pronouns and refer to it as"preferred" pronouns then that's alot more feasable. But when you come in with non-factual biology this is why people turn away. So best thing to do is just say that there's only two genders and recognize that fact but have society recognize you would prefer not being referred to as he/ she. Now check this out, if you at all disagree with me or cannot even remotely abide by those types of term and conditions then that would make you the pot calling the kettle black.

@@justwannawatchyoutubegeez2381 There ARE more than two biological sexes though…haven’t you ever heard of intersexual?

There are two genders. That’s a biological fact. Male and Female. XX and XY. It’s that simple. It’s not homophobia or transphobia. That would imply people are scared of gay or trans folks. Nobody is scared of you all.

just dont...JKJK. I say try to be honest with them. I know it may sound hard and scary, but being honest really helps get it off your chest.

This might help kzfaq.info/get/bejne/eMuioKl03Luse6M.html It's another one of their vids

Do what is right for you, know that so many people are supporting you and backing you up, and carry on with your life and happiness

Make sure you have a support group (like tell your friends our an adult) and have a plan in mind if things go wrong. Also I'd say don't tell them for now. You never *have* to tell them. If you are leaving for college soon then maybe save up for an apartment. I hope this helps Lorenzo made a video about this on their channel you should go check it out

FIRST: safety first!! Have an escape plan, have teacher allies or a good support system in case things go south SECOND: don't overthink it, pretend you're telling them you got a car! Third: explain as best you can and remain calm

It’ll get easier eventually! Whenever you use their dead name or misgender then just gently remind yourself, eventually you’ll just automatically think of them with their preferred pronouns/name :)

like the person above said, it’s perfectly normal to feel that way! as long as you’re not addressing them my their dead name and incorrect on purpose, they won’t have a problem with it! if it helps, just try letting them know that it’s hard for you and you may mess up before you address them correctly every time!!

Your friend will understand that its hard to get used to. I don't get upset if someone uses my deadname/pronouns if they make an effort and correct themselves. It'll get easier and y I friend probably really appreciates you making an effort and supporting them.

That’s nice

That’s mean

@@jellyandthecrewman1834 why?

@@sail0rtr1xx.82 well I hope she gets used to it it’s kinda mean that she won’t call u it

@@jellyandthecrewman1834 I do to :)

@@sail0rtr1xx.82 u do what?

They actually are grammatically correct. What do you call someone who's gender you don't know? "A clerk at the store helped me out today, they carried my water bottles"

If you don’t mind me asking, what does demigirl mean? I’m questioning my gender, and I am trying to learn as much as I could about gender identities

@@august1837 it's a gender identity for someone who does not fully identify with being a woman, socially or mentally. Pronouns used are they/them and she/her

@@the.midnightskies8908 thanks for replying. That kind of sounds like me. But how is it different from being nonbinary?

@@august1837 oh, it means you're also a bit of a female and a bit of agender? Agender means having no gender or genderless. So your kinda like half female and half genderless? I hope you get what I mean

@@august1837 if you have any doubts, feel free to ask. Even if I don't know, I'll try my best to answer

Dang, that must suck. Hopefully it will get better. I'm forced to be in PE girls and my dysphoria was so bad I cried on the first day. Hopefully once you come out to your parents you can talk to the school and they can change it.

this one kzfaq.info/get/bejne/oa2HoNyFvKy7eIU.html 😉

@@adesso.laurenzo 😊 🙏

I think it’s wise of you to anticipate unnecessary conflict and choose to just maintain your good relationship. Unless you end up marrying someone of the same gender who really needs to know what you like sexually that’s my motto xD

@@justwannawatchyoutubegeez2381 I keep it hidden from a lot of people so I'm good

My grandma: I'm not transphobic, but you can't "know" your trans until your brain is fully formed. So you have to be at least 21. Me at age eleven: Excuse me!?!?!

Lmao

Hey I'm gender fluid too! :D

Oh my friggin gosh that’s is the best thing I have ever heard about lmao 😂 I freakin love you! ❤️

Misgender him on purpose if he won’t stop

@@ryomasus oops I was trying to reply to someone else

@@ryomasus no it’s the wrong comment

@@ryomasus someone’s brother doesn’t believe in non binary and refuses to call the person to they/them

@@ryomasus yeh so he knows how it feels

That’s great! Though also do know that sometimes we change a little as we grow. While these titles work for you now and of course very well may still in the future.. know that it is ok if you grow and your titles grow with you ❤️

You know I extremely value you sharing your experience like that! Can I ask how was it that you first found out about LGBTQ? How old were you then? How old are you now? Me I’m 21 and I’m still working things out and can’t remember when or how I learned about it 😆

@@justwannawatchyoutubegeez2381 i was in a car with a friend who had lesbian parents. This was when i was in 3rd grade so i was about 8. That was the first time I could think of that I knew about the lgbtq community. Then I only knew about lesbians and gays. When I heard his parents were two women i was weirded out and got scolded by my mom.(i still feel bad about it to this day). Oh and I’d rather not say my age sorry 😅

I had a very similar experience!

@@justaperson5677 omg denki heyyy😆

From what I know, Non binary is having one gender but Genderfluid is having more than 1 gender and your gender is fluid

@@hanhanisamaterialgworl thank you for explaining

non binary is not identifying as any gender on the binary. gender fluid is being fluid with gender identity and fluctuating between genders. anyone correct me if i'm wrong though. :)

@@thedragonsunicorn thank you for explaining :>

Also I get to cut my hair short soon (as soon as there's less covid cases in my area) My dad probably won't like it cause he thinks "girls" should have long hair, but I'm still really excited.

I don't have advice for you. All I want to say is your going to be fine. And you can get though this. Have a great day! Make sure to smell some flowers if you see any

I’m totally in the closet about being pan and genderfluid I wanna change my name but I’m a afraid even though my dads side is a supporter (I think my aunt isn’t but I’m not sure)

Oh, I really hope it gets better..

You seem like a very outgoing person. I don’t have social media besides yt but me and my mom were looking at baby pictures and she said “ how dare they assume you were a girl, well at least they got it right!” And I just kinda had to sit there like “haha, yea...right..” and thats why I haven’t come out to my family yet

This would be transgender. It could also be called Demi-boy. If you are changing your gender identity, it would be trans though. Hope this helps :)

You could also possibly be agender or just genderqueer. (Perhaps you could also be a gender fluid person) Good luck with finding a fitting label for you!

@@bublearts4628 thank you!

@@this_is_me_Mika thank you!

@@ab.erdeen54 anytime!

Do you like anime? Also out of context

Ash is a very cute name! 😍 I love it

@@magnez1umvalaki135 thanks, a friend helped me with that

Do you have a male character you would like to dress up as? You could maybe say it's for that. That's how I got mine, but I know not everyone cosplays, so it could be harder 😓

@@justaperson5677 my parents said I should try Cosplay but it would be very obvious if I wore it while I'm not Cosplaying(?)

@A gecko with internet access I once asked them anonymous but they only said that they are ok with different sexualities but they never talked about other gender Identities

I personally wouldn't take hormones/ have operations, but it varies from person to person what they wanna do

Nonbinary doesn't necessarily equal agender too, so there's a big spectrum of identities

I'm personally considering getting surgical operations in the future, but it's different for everyone

It definitely varies from person to person but I’m looking at get hormone blockers once I legally can (my state my a dumb law about not being able to get affirmative care until 18)