Don't Force Relationships, Build Them For Your Team

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Don't Force Relationships, Build Them For Your Team - Jocko Willink

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@rhettkoller9676 4 жыл бұрын

Can anyone else not stop looking at Echo's arms??

@MrGrateful1000 4 жыл бұрын

Those ain't arms bruh, them be CANNONS.

@CurlyFries120 4 жыл бұрын

Guilty as charged 🥳😅

@milwaukeetweed4843 3 жыл бұрын

stretch marks looking like effing watermellons.

@whenurefree 4 жыл бұрын

Man, good talk. But next podcast should be about Echo's freaking BICEPS, and if he has a LISCENSE FOR THOSE CANNONS.

@Theendman42 4 жыл бұрын

The 2nd amendment allows for the ownership of weapons. Created or otherwise.

@fh17522 4 жыл бұрын

Right to bear arms.

@dakodaweldon8508 3 жыл бұрын

They definitely violate the laws about nukes.

@endogenic6913 3 жыл бұрын

how do you get cannons like that, though, seriously?

@Sirbikingviking 4 жыл бұрын

Jocko I just wanted to thank you for putting your leadership expertise out here on the internet. I've read your book "Extreme Ownership" and it has made my life so much better. I went into a meeting with my manager and director in an attempt to resolve some workplace tension. I took extreme ownership to the point where the focus was completely on me. This meeting could have been very ugly, but instead it ended with handshakes and with brand new bridges having being built. Thank you for encouraging me to get after it, and thank you for being a straight up badass.

@keithlewandowski7456 4 жыл бұрын

Relationships can only be built with your people out of genuine care and concern for them. I learned this with my Marines and the same applies to people in general. Leadership is about the whole person -- including their life OUTSIDE of their role at work. What Jocko is touching on is authentic leadership, which has a decent amount of literature out there on it. Building the relationship means asking questions, listening, giving respect, having humility and checking your ego -- all things Jocko has hit on in past podcasts. He nails it, as usual.

@Newbport849 4 жыл бұрын

If you're watching this podcast you're on the right track

@irrelevantideology9640 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes you just have to humble yourself and go a little out of your way to let people know that you care about them even if they don't like you to much ... because ik I'm a little over sensitive and if I get the feeling that someone doesn't like me my first instinct is to kind of put my nose in the air and let them know that IDC if they do not like me and really that is just insecurity and weakness and the truth is that I probably read the situation wrong and they didn't have a problem with me until I started putting my nose in the air.....so I realised that at the end of the day I still actually cared about that person so I needed to humble myself and not let the way that I percieved them effect the way that I oporate I the world....

@pedromedina93 3 жыл бұрын

Echos feedback is incredible he tries to help you really understand . not taking anything away from jocko they have great chemistry .

@700joshr 4 жыл бұрын

These guys really love Dave.

@PracticalInspiration 4 жыл бұрын

It's best to let relationships take their natural course as recommended. The issue is, when trying to force it, it's hard not to give subtle signals of your intentions (even if they're good), and this can come across when interacting with people. It's best to find natural places of conversation with others

@rossgooding7423 4 жыл бұрын

Great comment. And to follow up on this--a natural place of conversation often follows from shared interests: you are both interested in the same thing, or maybe doing similar things, say, like both at the gym, museum, ball game, etc... common/shared interests provide a natural connector (so long as you are genuine and a skilled enough communicator)..

@Michael-rm1bx 4 жыл бұрын

Any books or videos to this topic?

@Debunked421 4 жыл бұрын

Amen brother, never chase those who dont want you to chase them. If a woman want you she will do everything in her power to let you know and make her self available to you

@jimmykeating2029 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏 I have a unconventional team of two me and my daughter. I appreciate you two dorks . Much ❤️

@CM-fh7fe 4 жыл бұрын

Okay...this is weird. Shit happens in my life and i get notification from this channel on exactly what I'm going through and what need to hear to help the situation wtf👀 This is the 3rd time now

@johnnymartinez7717 4 жыл бұрын

Dude same

@jesusr.2694 4 жыл бұрын

Matrix bro

@Sniperkitten971 4 жыл бұрын

Time to smash that suscribe button fellas !

@backwardsyoga 4 жыл бұрын

Morphic Resonance!!

@SuperSaiyanDCG 4 жыл бұрын

Same bro. We all got a smash the day

@muttenmong5509 4 жыл бұрын

My suggestion for you Jocko is about the topic NARCISSISM. Because I read a lot of comments of people who are getting narcissistic abuse but never heard of it. Thank you, sir.

@andagain9826 4 жыл бұрын

I've always been most successful when I was very obvious about the fact that I wanted to get on well with people but that I was also OK if they weren't into it and I could handle it either way.

@reportx9633 3 жыл бұрын

That's a good approach

@clawedmist6893 4 жыл бұрын

... Exactly what I needed, except I'm only trying to make a friend cuz I don't got one.But I feel like I'm jumping too much here n there.Thx

@entertainmentprime101 4 жыл бұрын

Just be your self and don't think about having no friends. It'll come naturally as long as you put a gain mindset

@muttenmong5509 4 жыл бұрын

Temporary Kinda be true to yourself, do not be codepend, that is an invitation for people to abuse you. Stronghearted people are too hard to control. YOU CAN DO THAT, because you realise and admit your problems. Know yourself is to know your value, you are gold! Have a great day and a fantastic journey!

@clawedmist6893 4 жыл бұрын

@@muttenmong5509 Thank you guys for your insights,its so helpful and thanks for the advice :)

@muttenmong5509 4 жыл бұрын

Temporary Kinda You got the power, never forget! Always happy to help. Cheers👍

@armorsmith43 4 жыл бұрын

Temporary Kinda the key isn’t to passively “just be yourself” nor to focus strictly on trying to make friends The key is to find people that already want to win in the same way you already do, then build the friendship on that. Be genuine, which means being willing to be dorky and enthusiastic about whatever you’re doing because looking cool matters less than having a great time and winning together

@danielcoffey2632 4 жыл бұрын

This puts holes in a lot of pickup artist methodology.

@andraskovacs6403 3 жыл бұрын

But not all, if you have the genuine intention of making a woman happy. At the other end of the spectrum a hyper conscientious person might think that they are using someone even when they're not. Women are also into sex and love.

@Benjamenho 4 жыл бұрын

Your convo got me some clarity about building relationships, thank you! Out

@teti_99 4 жыл бұрын

Jocko reminds of a book my wife and I enjoyed reading multiple times called The Go Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann. So awesome!!!

@jesskolbe609 4 жыл бұрын

Leadership and Trust, investing in people and them investing in greater purpose. Connected leadership.Absolutely love your truths and natural abilities to lead.. So grateful for finding your channel and the ability to share with others ❤

@paulevans4334 4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely excellent advice. This couldn't be more clear or true.

@chipturd55 2 жыл бұрын

Our 26 yr old green horn boss needs to hear this. Some ppl are just oblivious that ppl see thru Thier shit

@tomprice7425 4 жыл бұрын

Echo is jaaaaaacked

@cloudrun654 4 жыл бұрын

What the hell is going on with Echo's arms?

@muttenmong5509 4 жыл бұрын

Whatever you force upon people is going to backfire to you. If true love/respect backfires most of the times, surely will the use of force. Kindness is the only thing that a man truly possess in this world, no one has an account here, period. That is a fact!

@aikishugyo 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome to be able to separate out the difference between manipulation and leadership in respect of building relationships. And that there is a dichotomy in all these things (manipulative leadership brown-nosing) Caring about the other people being a baseline for communication sounds good to me (as opposed to crappy leadership where the team is treated like crap and the mission still needs to be accomplished by imposed authority).

@clif.c.2906 4 жыл бұрын

I love this podcast. It balances much weak emotional stuff on the internet and in counselling from educated female professionals.

@Mrpulkitvmehta14 4 жыл бұрын

And all the memes where they're almost proud about being a lazy dysfunctional adult.

@clif.c.2906 4 жыл бұрын

@@Mrpulkitvmehta14 After having a slightly negative transaction with a young female retail clerk I decided to read some feminist books at the book store. I photographed the most useful ones to buy on Amazon Kindle. Then I purchased a book on warfare history for martial arts. I want to adopt these principles in my life. I am using quietness, formal civility and avoidance when dealing with younger educated women these days. It is a better strategy.

@meta1gear4 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah but sometimes, no matter how good your intentions are towards the group, the backstabbers that screw you over will win. Only thing to do at that point is to walk away and rebuild yourself and find a better group of people.

@justinfreeman4614 4 жыл бұрын

I would also like to hear the podcasts thoughts on this. I have often observed that deliberate manipulators pull out ahead of even hard chargers who put mission and team first. Like...a majority of the time.

@clif.c.2906 4 жыл бұрын

Things always balance in the end. Principle of the universe.

@meta1gear4 4 жыл бұрын

The problem is that if the group revolves around the manipulators, it was a worthless group to begin with regardless of a few good people present. I always looked out for my friends but turns out that the best friend that I had confided everything in had been having a thing with my ex for months behind my back. I totally lost it and left. All the group wants to do is ignore all the wrong that was committed and move on while being friends with everyone. Pathetic I know but I realized that hanging out in such a weak group to begin with was my own fault. Regardless, my life is so much better now. I feel bad for saying a lot of horrible stuff to my ex though but still, she had it coming. Better to get out of toxic groups than live a lie with them and later have them stab you in the back in more serious scenarios.

@michaelenglish7798 3 жыл бұрын

I am still waiting on the day when Jocko is what is trending on KZfaq. I beleive alot of this country's issue could be resolved with somthing as simple as a shift in what we call entertainment.

@emoney2480 4 жыл бұрын

Echo is a treasure to this podcast lol

@josepaulloor6449 2 жыл бұрын

This is an insanely awesome pod cast

@Shawn3002 4 жыл бұрын

Intent. Jocko is on point

@MARTINespartano1 3 жыл бұрын

5:55 Can anyone tell me what book is Jocko talking about? Is some of his? Thanks for taking the time to tell me

@biasedmiamifan4679 4 жыл бұрын

NICE VIDEO!

@TheMetalHeadbangger 3 жыл бұрын

Looks comments. I agree Echoes arms are huge.

@joeygouda 4 жыл бұрын

Jocko you changed my whole line a thinking..... I can tell the real from the fake, Real recognize real, Dabs To the pod cast and I wish you all the best GOD BLESS You guys Jocko and Dave. 👊👊👊👊👊👊

@dm20422 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the advice dudes much appreciated 👍

@dm20422 4 жыл бұрын

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@dave3269 2 жыл бұрын

This advice works unless the person has BPD... GL having everything you ever say questioned

@cameronline3780 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I love this

@bimscutney1242 4 жыл бұрын

Get Echo to the veterinarian quick! Because those puppies (biceps) are sick! Works better in person.

@AGChin-bx1wp 4 жыл бұрын

Is the book referenced: Dichotomy of Leadership?

@loganstriker2973 4 жыл бұрын

Huh?

@scotttaylor1955 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly my question. Can someone please answer??

@naadirsoeker2504 3 жыл бұрын

I believe it's Leadership Strategy and Tactics

@VenomousRage 4 жыл бұрын

I found this podcast a tad bit contradictory but I followed what you all were saying.

@thatomofolo452 23 күн бұрын

Jocko cares ☺️

@paul-mj8vl 4 жыл бұрын

Love the show guys wonder what jockos view is on Silence Is Golden

@legendhcs9677 Жыл бұрын

What book are they referring to? Is it Extreme Ownership?

@BillyBombastic 4 жыл бұрын

Build a relationship with Dave. Small steps

@xbox360mrjoker 2 жыл бұрын

Echo looks massive

@lukasmcandrew9378 2 жыл бұрын

I love this podcast and their advices, but why is Jocko speaking in 2x speed? 😂

@neoyipeng 2 жыл бұрын

Does anyone know what book jocko is referencing? Not sure if I read that in extreme ownership

@alexmcpherson9350 4 жыл бұрын

Those arms echo..

@PinkYellowGreen2023 7 ай бұрын

Mature people do not force others to connect with them. Criminals and aggressive people do however.

@christopherarmstrong2710 2 жыл бұрын

Curious what book Jocko is referencing at the beginning?

@nickhenstridge6452 4 жыл бұрын

Is this stuff in the new leadership tactics book?

@ChadKirk 4 жыл бұрын

Some of it yeah. If you download audible you get your first book for free. That’s how I got the book

@jackcheng4479 4 жыл бұрын

Jocko the only guy says he cares for someone without souding cheesey...

@thatomofolo452 23 күн бұрын

🏄🏄🏄

@jamisco4432 4 жыл бұрын

What should one do when you need something from someone (to benefit yourself) but you don't particular give a shit about said person, At around the 0:25 second mark you say manipulation is wrong but do you think it can sometimes be more of a necessary evil?

@liavasquez8221 3 жыл бұрын

what is the name of the book?

@safetythirdified 4 жыл бұрын

Next podcast: manipulation countermeasures/ psyops.

@komranbehbehani6379 4 жыл бұрын

First here 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

@BradPitbull 4 жыл бұрын

What can I build to improve my SKINNY KNEES???

@huh4346 4 жыл бұрын

I thought he was that athlean X guy

@AlexTraitor 4 жыл бұрын

LOL same

@ak47ava 4 жыл бұрын

I didn't realize I was brown nosing until seeing this video

@pakal494 4 жыл бұрын

Please which book are you reading from

@austinchappell4775 4 жыл бұрын

Paschal Rapuluchukwu if i has too assume I’d say it’s his book, which i highly recommended.

@tommyshropshire1413 4 жыл бұрын

E.C. New drinking game take a shot every thine you say "like"

@BillyBombastic 4 жыл бұрын

Why are their biceps full of water

@CalebBroad 8 ай бұрын

❤️🇺🇲🐴

@clintontowne8191 4 жыл бұрын

Will God use Social media to force us to have the right relationships, with the right people . YES do I impose my will on people. YES , will I stop.- NO . do know what team I am on . Absolutely Hey Dan, Play the pipes slowly , did you know the Attorney General plays Bagpipes ?

@clintontowne8191 4 жыл бұрын

I think TJ walker training starts at 9am . my house is spotless, dishes are done, my bed is made, I may go shovel some snow and go for a walk at wildlife refuge. Hope you have a great day Friend. Interesting fact, I knew 3 Jocko's in the real world .. none of them like you though ok Bye