Hi, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your own experience here. The acceptance of the self is the beginning of change, Kudos to you! My experience and understanding is that ADHD is a neurological condition, that is highly inheritable, which means you can be born with an ADHD/ neurodivergent brain. While attachment style tends to be formed in relationships with others. The first relationship an infant has is with the caregivers. One can have different attachments with different caregivers. My video here is to name a possibility that one has an ADHD brain (with avoidance tendencies for certain tasks) and happens to have developed an anxious avoidant attachment style with their loved one(s). I have clients who are diagnosed with ADHD but have anxious preoccupied attachment with their partner. Hope this helps.

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Thank you, Francesco! Same to you!

Thank you for your question. Let me try to understand your question. Are you asking if one partner has a secure attachment style and the other has insecure attachment style, how does it show up in ADHD-impacted relationship? Insecure attachment styles are anxious-avoidant, preoccupied insecure, and disorganized attachment style. One can develop different attachment styles with different people, e.g: one can be securely attached to father and anxious-avoidant with mother. One can be avoidant in one romantic relationship and preoccupied in another romantic relationship. It is not a disorder, in my opinion, it is a dynamic that can be looked at. To listen to a great in-depth discussion on attachment and neuroscience, check out Dr Dan Siegel's The Neurobiology of We. www.audible.com/pd/The-Neurobiology-of-We-Audiobook/B005OZJFWA?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp