Dr George Simon - Reclaiming Yourself After A Relationship With A Character Disturbed Person

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Dr George Simon - Reclaiming Yourself After A Relationship With A Character Disturbed Person

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George Simon Jr.

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@goddessvibes08 Жыл бұрын

Wish i had him as a therapist when i was in my 20s. Would've saved me trauma

@Kintsugi979 11 ай бұрын

Learned helplessness....yes! Put your time into what you CAN control will bring you back to joy. Yes!!

@danaezama5701 Жыл бұрын

There was a man named William Glasser who wrote several books and some of them were used in the school systems. He wrote a book called 'Reality Therapy' where he told how he worked with delinquent kids and shaped them all up by teaching them to work hard and action-based therapy. His books are amazing. He was a psychologist, but he was anti-psychology. He wrote one book called Psychiatry is bad for your health. The Psychologists were so mad at him that they tried to have him committed. He shared Mr Simon's view that you can help a person much more by changing their actions than you can by talking to them forever in traditional counseling. I loved his books.

@joymattson8549 Жыл бұрын

Wow, you really hit the nail on the head, Dr. Simon. The idea that if you could only understand what makes a disordered person act the way they do, then you could fix it. Sounds exactly like my marriage.

@northerngaltrue Жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr. Simon. You are a lone voice speaking wisdom. Our modern paradigm about therapy has led to the nurturing and fostering of narcissistic personalities. If you go into counselling with a malignant narcissist or even with someone who believes that narcissistic behaviour is necessary, too often the therapist will treat you for being overly dependent or sensitive or judgmental and reward the narcissist for having good boundaries!

@edgreen8140 3 жыл бұрын

You don't go to marital therapy w a narcissist. They play the victim.

@annemurphy8074 Жыл бұрын

It's just awful.

@ivanasimic2072 2 жыл бұрын

Very, very good dr. I just descover him. Respect and God bless dr. Simon.

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr. Simon. You’re work is crucial.

@sage9836 3 жыл бұрын

They are exceedingly well spoken and patient, so it's easy to listen and take in the information.

@iheartlol90 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t think you fully understand being in a relationship with an abusive, character disordered person. You said the person needs to overcome depression by standing up for themselves, doing what they want well, these people revel in controlling others so no you cannot stand up for yourself, it makes them angry that they’re losing control. many times people fear leaving an abusive relationship because they fear the person doing harm to them. The abusive person strips the victim of their autonomy, dignity, self esteem. The only way to make yourself better is to leave in a safe manner.

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@fractal97 3 жыл бұрын

You don't get to be a clinical psychologist when you master how it is to be in a relationship with a disordered person, but when you learn how to treat them. It doesn't seem you read his book Character Disturbance where he goes over tactics in details and what to do. There is no other way to fix those people but to leave the relationship, otherwise you're just fooling yourself. However, you want to leave, it's up to you. Ultimately, standing up or not, your removing yourself from the toxic person is the only solution. Simon's goal is not so much to help you understand what you are dealing with, but to demonstrate that traditional approach to treating toxic people doesn't work and show what does.

@iheartlol90 3 жыл бұрын

@@fractal97 I haven’t read that book but I started reading In Sheep’s Clothing. I’ve dealt with someone was was controlling, manipulative so that’s where a lot of my opinions come from. You don’t have to be an expert to have a valuable opinion to contribute, being in something teaches you a lot about that thing, whatever it is.

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@fractal97 3 жыл бұрын

@@iheartlol90 of course, neither am I an expert. In my opinion Character Disturbance is a much better book. Each one of us in our lives met some of those people, and if we are here we must have had a relationship with them. My experience is that there is no other option but to run in the opposite direction.

@cynthiafortier2540 Жыл бұрын

I so agree, leave, they are not worth losing our peace of mind!! They are only happy if they are hurting you. Sick!!!!!

@jtbro2574 Жыл бұрын

When enough people leave them in this way they will reach a point of realisation, a narcissistic collapse on steroids, when they realise this they either kill themselves or change their behaviours for the better. Both of these things are positive results What Simon says is not enough negative reinforcement currently BC of the age of the individual

@kimlec3592 Жыл бұрын

@ iheartlol90 : Very well explained...thank you for writing it. It helps me handle life to remember how there was no escape from my parents. My brother got his freedom ..by dying. It truly is a horrendous thing to be involved with "people" such as our parents.

@JesusSaves77799 3 жыл бұрын

Wonderful, wonderful video! Thank you! The only thing is that as a Christian I would hope that people wouldn’t be encouraged to have 4-5 marriages (if they can help it). I think that this can be destructive to a sense of a family unit if they have children? I LOVE that how this book that you talk about addresses how we got here as a society and how to create a lifetime marriage and family! Thank you!! I will contact you now on one of your websites mentioned to see if I can obtain a copy! Thank you again and thank you too to the interviewer for a great discussion!

@colettedixon4040 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree thank you, wondering in cases where the clinician is ‘narcissistic’ ‘character disturbed’ what’s your view🌸

@sonali9836 Жыл бұрын

I experienced this- went to his therapist and got triangulated. Eventually my intuition was screaming so loud that I stopped going. The next therapist- my own- gave me EMDR to help deal with the trauma. It caused full on ptsd and I ended up being punished by both of them for speaking up and trying to create boundaries. 2 years of being gaslight.