Dr. Paul Conti: How to Build and Maintain Healthy Relationships

Dr. Paul Conti: How to Build and Maintain Healthy Relationships | Huberman Lab Guest Series

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This is episode 3 of a 4-part special series on mental health with Dr. Paul Conti, M.D., a psychiatrist who did his medical training at Stanford School of Medicine and residency at Harvard Medical School. He is the author of the book, “Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic.” Dr. Conti explains how to find, develop and strengthen healthy relationships - including romantic relationships, work and colleague relationships, and friendships. He explains a roadmap of the conscious and unconscious mind that can allow anyone to navigate conflicts better and set healthy boundaries in relationships. We also discuss common features of unhealthy relationships and clinically supported tools for dealing with relationship insecurity, excessive anxiety, past traumas, manipulation and abuse. Dr. Conti explains how, in healthy relationships, there emerges a dynamic of the mutually generative “us” and how to continually improve that dynamic. The next episode in this special series explores true self-care, which can be cultivated through a process of building self-awareness along with other important practices.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Build Healthy Relationships
00:02:04 Sponsors: BetterHelp & Waking Up
00:05:01 Healthiest Self in Relationships
00:10:51 Structure & Function of Self
00:15:44 Relationships, Levels of Emergence
00:22:48 Generative Drive in Relationships
00:35:00 Sponsor: AG1
00:36:26 Generative Drive, Aggressive Drive, Pleasure Drive
00:45:16 Romantic Relationships & Matched Generative Drives, Trauma Bonds
00:53:05 Generative Drive Expression, Libido, Giving & Taking
01:04:29 Sponsor: Eight Sleep
01:05:50 Generative Drive in Partnerships
01:11:16 Libido, Avoidance & Working through Barriers
01:18:02 Repeating Bad Relationship Patterns, Repetition Compulsion
01:29:23 Narcissism, Dependence, Attachment Insecurity
01:34:10 Abusive Relationships, Demoralization
01:39:37 Oppressors, Darkness, Hope & Change
01:48:08 Work Relationships, Oppression & Accountability
01:53:53 Jealousy vs. Envy, Narcissism
01:59:13 Power Dynamics in Relationships
02:05:54 Giving vs. Taking in Relationships
02:09:39 Transactions & Relationships; Family & Generative Drive; Flexibility
02:19:47 Relationships & Kindergarten
02:23:04 Anxiety in Relationships, Communication
02:31:32 The “Magic Bridge of the Us”
02:37:09 Mentalization, Getting into Another’s Mindset; Navigating Conflict
02:46:51 Healthy Boundaries
02:52:08 Self-Awareness, Mentalization
02:55:28 “Broken Compass” & Self Inquiry, “Map” Analogy
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@miabdin 7 ай бұрын

Imagine the world if they had these sort of discussions in schools...thank you both for taking the time to share this valuable information!

@Lenoxygen 7 ай бұрын

Less discussions; more woke left moralists.

@jaredthegentile 7 ай бұрын

@@Lenoxygendude this sheet wasn't never discussed in schools watchyu on, playa?? c'mon now!

@classicadministrator2408 7 ай бұрын

school is a scam parents agree to because the system is just way too big

@philgagne4741 6 ай бұрын

well ... Dr. Paul Conti, M.D., is a psychiatrist who did his medical training at Stanford SCHOOL of Medicine and residency at Harvard Medical SCHOOL... Which makes me believe they actually do have those sorts of discussions in school!☝

@alejandrabustamante889 5 ай бұрын

@@jaredthegentile 42:01 😮😮😮 J

@sirawsome127 7 ай бұрын

Dr. Conti and Dr. Huberman are a blessing to the world!

@tarablyfun 7 ай бұрын

🙌🏼

@ghassenelloumi3086 Ай бұрын

I agree. :)

@me0101001000 7 ай бұрын

There is one nugget of advice which I was given not too long ago, which actually caused me to transfer PhD programs: "Don't work for someone you don't want to become." I want to be a professor, and my former supervisor's attitude towards research, teaching, and academia as a whole were absolutely antithetical to everything I believe. As prestigious as the position was, I could never produce anything I'd be proud of in that environment. So I'm restarting my PhD in the spring, under a supervisor whose values more closely align with mine. My example is specifically academic, but I'm sure this is true in industry as well.

@athinav.5995 7 ай бұрын

I applaud your decision. Plus, you saved yourself from unecessary pain, walking around academic - narcissistic eggshells. Wishing you all the very best. ♥

@jesversusevil 7 ай бұрын

This is a magnificent thought. Thank you.

@pepperrose467 7 ай бұрын

Great decision. I left MIt for that reason and restarted my PhD elsewhere. It is a long road- but I graduated with my PhD and so I can tell you it is worth it. Good luck on your journey.

@kaybeejelly461 2 ай бұрын

In a world that can be so noisy, it takes true strength to not only listen to your inner voice but to act upon it. People can take the time to listen and then never dare to act. Well done.

@prmft94123 7 ай бұрын

One thing that is becoming abundantly clear in these discussions is what truly good men you both are. Refreshing and so needed in our world.

@kssgpv Ай бұрын

Hahaha😂 that didn't age well

@wigoftsvi4522 Ай бұрын

You don't know anything about these men. You have listened to their words and you think you know them? Why would you draw such a conclusion based on listening to them speak for 3 hours? I am genuinely curious.

@prmft94123 Ай бұрын

@@wigoftsvi4522 To begin with, your statement that I "don't know anything about these men" is not true. I have been listening to Andrew Huberman's podcast for a couple of years now, and as a result do know quite a bit about him, his values, and the kind of person he is. As a mental health practitioner myself, I am trained to come to provisional conclusions based on a person's words as well as body language, their reputation, their actions. Dr. Conti is a skilled clinician, has impeccable credentials and a glowing reputation, and both men show considerable empathy, compassion and knowledge of the human psyche including strengths and weaknesses. I draw my conclusions based on many factors besides 3 hours of talk, (although there were really more like 12 because Dr. Huberman's series on mental health with Dr. Conti was in 4 parts). Like all of us, these men contain the worst and best aspects of what makes a human being, but they have chosen by their words and actions to cultivate the best qualities which help others and make the world a better place . In my opinion, however, it doesn't depend on the amount of time one hears another speak. Often I can tell a lot about a person after one sentence. For example, I can tell quite a bit about you by the question you ask.

@JacCichockiOfficial 7 ай бұрын

Dr. Huberman, could you *please* do an episode on memory degeneration with age including Alzheimer's and dementia? I'm looking to understand and help my grandmother who just had her 90th birthday. Love your podcast! Thank you for all of your brilliant teaching!

@sitiimanina 7 ай бұрын

Awesome suggestion

@carolinaandrade4114 6 ай бұрын

Hi! Don't know if you already know but there are some timestamps about this topic on his website that you could find interesting!

@CristinaCanchola-xx7kp Ай бұрын

The lastest magazine from John’s Hopkins 12/19/24 edition is a great introduction to understanding dementia and all its forms specifically Alzheimer’s

@brianajane6079 7 ай бұрын

Appreciate this episode so much. I love the idea of being with someone who wants to grow and heal with you-it suggests one does not need to be wholly and completely healed before they can be in a relationship-on the contrary-together you can bring great value to one another’s lives. I sent this to my 20 something nieces and feel it could save them a lot of grief.☺️ I can’t believe the wisdom and knowledge your podcast provides is free. Grateful to support this show.

@soapywater 7 ай бұрын

That is true. We can always be more aware of the self and improve. But I don't know where the balance is, because there are times when there is too much trauma brought to the relationship. Victim mentality and what not. Should one put up with toxic or negative behaviour and walk away and mentalise away...

@l.d.a.2987 6 ай бұрын

Yeah. An idea. That’s all it is. Some philosophy. It’s absolutely his fantasy. And yours. And everybody’s. You’d be more likely to marry Elvis. And he’s dead!

@VeronicaNicole4778 7 ай бұрын

There’s something about the way dr. Conti speaks that’s so incredibly calm, reassuring and caring. I just love these discussions. They are so valuable!!! Thank you 💞

@skillzzz 7 ай бұрын

I totally agree. I was thinking the same thing

@stephenr85 7 ай бұрын

I've gleaned a lot from them and have already been re-listening to 1 & 2; however, Conti's unpleasant facial expression in the thumbnails throws me off everytime lol...

@schminktisch 7 ай бұрын

I agree. And he’s hot! 😂

@skillzzz 7 ай бұрын

@@schminktisch lol I know!

@trillyfly7805 7 ай бұрын

I love this thread.😂 im not ashamed to admit he's been my psychiatrist for over a decade. He is really humble and kind. I'm grateful for his intervention in my life. I'm in a much better place than I would've been otherwise. Idk why these videos came up in youtube recommendations. I didn't realize he was so popular! I look forward to listening to them though.

@AwareParenting 7 ай бұрын

This series is gold. A whole new level of knowing that I don't really know myself and a deepening of my desire to know myself better. Huge thanks Paul and Andrew and team.

@DWBincharleston 7 ай бұрын

I can’t tell you how much this series has added to my life. Thank you for all of your time and effort. It mean so much !

@RockyoLP 7 ай бұрын

You two are truly a gift to humanity, I always admire the sheer amount of wisdom delivered through your podcast episodes, especially in this four-part series. It's literally a life-hack to know Andrew Huberman and follow his/their advice.

@truthseek3017 7 ай бұрын

LIAR

@neakpekne1520 7 ай бұрын

@@truthseek3017 what do you mean?

@DanielKrikun 7 ай бұрын

Requests to Prof. Huberman: 1. Please do an episode on dreams, day-dreaming and, especially so, lucid dreaming 2. Is there any known benefit to weighted blankets for sleep, any specific info on how to use them? 3. A lot of people have asked this in other places, but how to deal with early waking up: should we push ourselves into trying to get back to sleep, should we wake up kinda slowly easy going till the natural sun light, or go all-in on coffee, cold water etc. to start the day?

@zohaln6419 7 ай бұрын

oof each episode gets better and better! I wish more people would watch this series, the world would be better for it. Thank you both!

@jd32k 7 ай бұрын

"Do something cognitively challanging for at least 30 minutes each morning" from episode one. And i love it. Episode one was phenomenal with such amazing key tips and reminders on the simple pillars of wellbeing we seem to forget sometimes. Cannot wait to listen to this one and see what i get from it. The last one completely redirected my mind back toward settingvnew goals for Uni next year and to contirubuted some excellent things to my morning routine-setting. An overall goal for this year has been to build my personal agency. Very excited for this one ❤

@nathansummers6458 7 ай бұрын

Please can you let me know what episode one is called?

@petermay6496 7 ай бұрын

@@nathansummers6458how to understand and assess your mental health. I search it on the youtube : huberman with dr conti serie 1.

@rattansaini5423 4 күн бұрын

Thank you Dr C & H. This has revolutionized the way I thought of relationships. May the good you spread in the world, come back to you many fold.

@rashmitulsyan 6 ай бұрын

Paul Conti is like a Buddha he has so much pain in his face like dripping with Empathy and so much understanding ,,,,truly beautiful soul. Andrew is the dude bringing us these brilliant people and directing /asking the right questions. Thank you both!

@Spinks345 6 ай бұрын

Brilliant work by Dr. Conti. Something that doesn’t get recognized enough, is how great a listener Andrew is.

@MonicaLopez-se5me 7 ай бұрын

Paul Conti is incredibly skilled communicator, really wise, soo helpful, with such a clear mind and wealth of practical knowledge and also a really beautiful soul who is always guiding with his explanations to wholeness and love. Andrew Huberman is sooo good asking questions and leading the conversation and also always speaking really masterfully to get the wisdom of Paul Conti and share it with all of us. Is such a satisfying experience to watch 2 men speaking in such a deep and healthy way about relationships. Thank you to both of you for your incredibly valuable contribution to humanity.

@jehanton 5 ай бұрын

Andrew, you are a gifted speaker. Thank you for sharing precious insights with us. I often look forward to your podcasts and your world-renowned guests.

@brent4464 3 ай бұрын

So when describing narcissistic Machiavellian sociopathic people, you described my baby mama perfectly and help me understand a lot of things. And I've gone through years of court with her of making up lies about me and putting me through the ringer and the court side with her because she's the mom but I've proven them wrong of integrity alone. And I wanted to address one thing because I did leave her and I live on my own now and have my own place and still take care of my kids but sometimes you can leave but you can't get away because I'm still financially responsible for everything I still have to deal with the weight of the burden of anything that ever goes wrong it's blamed on me and the mental state that it's left me in is tough for me to deal with and I don't have any money for a therapist so I'm just trying to deal with this stuff myself in the healthiest ways I can. So I just thank you for all of your insight and knowledge

@bbygirl8363 Ай бұрын

gosh that sounds horrible. im not going to be like incels who blame u like they blame women but can u record everything she says?

@mariamorris954 7 ай бұрын

I love these two men, so helpful to society and our inner healing. I bet Dr. Conti got her the Carburetor ❤️

@cgoodsonparker 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for clarifying envy and jealousy. It sheds light on the dynamic that begins in the home and schoolyard and extends to the workplace. So many other valuable insights from you both. What an amazing gift.

@sandrawilson4647 4 ай бұрын

This man is gifted and blessed in his understanding 😊 we are blessed to have both together to share and help anyone willing to choose agency and gratitude ❤🙏

@in_light. 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, gentlemen. Probably one of my favourite conversations ever. I tell everybody about this channel and the series and the both of you. Dr Conti is truly one of my favourite, sage people. And I think this four-part series should be required listening for everyone.

@florianfloditt2881 5 ай бұрын

I cannot stop listening to Dr Conti. His thoughts are gold....

@elspethboyd8074 5 ай бұрын

What a FANTASTIC discussion. I can't remember ever hearing such a mature, generous and sensible conversation about relationships. I got so much out of this. Thank you both so much!

@NPKim Ай бұрын

I'm on my second listen to your conversations with Dr. Conti. I have truly enjoyed his gentle voice and deeply knowledgeable insights. Thank you both for sharing your conversations and thoughts with all of us.

@csillatalamasz196 7 ай бұрын

I love to follow your conversations with Dr. Conti, so much inner value in them! Thanks for sharing!

@JohnHoffmann-qw5wg 7 ай бұрын

Monumental “Thanks Y’all” to Andrew, Paul and those behind the curtains. I’ve been suffering from depression, anxiety and ADHD for over a decade. Over-suffering from over-diagnoses in all likelihood. Your series has shown me ways I can be healthy and how in some aspects already healthy. I’ve been living with a twisted ignorance about mental health and mental illnesses. The long-format nature helps me understand Paul’s wisdom and better question my beliefs about health/pathologies/self. That the discussion kept returning to agency and gratitude showed me they are pivotal in Paul’s framework. And it let me apprehend many nuances in the value of his framework. The two visuals/downloads are very useful to me. Please try to find a historian who can speak to theories about mental healthiness throughout the ages and in different cultures (including behind the iron curtain). Not about mental illness, but what they thought was healthy. I’m fed up with pathologies. What’s the point in understating anything about what’s unhealthy if I don’t know what it means to be healthy?

@finchsparrowbird 7 ай бұрын

This comments session is refreshingly populated by healthy and positive comments. I came here expecting the all-too common diatribe from people putting-down the other genders, etc. Thank you fellow viewers! 🙏 👏👏

@berrieds 7 ай бұрын

I'm delighted and gratified that you are having these discussions with Dr Conti. Speaking for myself, as someone who has both personally and as a clinician dealt with psychiatric illnesses, I truly believe this is some of your best work. Looking forward to the later half of this discussion ❤

@95425 5 ай бұрын

I have not enough words to describe how grateful I am ❤ Thank you to both of you, you’re doing the greatest work.

@thechannel7957 7 ай бұрын

Hey Dr Huberman, I'd love to see an interview or discussion with Dr. Gabor Maté on your channel! Dr. Maté is a renowned physician and author known for his expertise in addiction, trauma, and the mind-body connection. His insights on these topics could provide valuable and enlightening content for us.

@unintelligiblewhispersofwi6616 7 ай бұрын

Unfortunately I'm pretty sure he passed away :(

@sroy8817 5 ай бұрын

One of the most powerful discussions you've gifted us with, Dr Huberman. ❤

@tazeenmohsin 7 ай бұрын

The glee on Andrew's face. You could tell this would be a good podcast.

@irinadominy9642 2 ай бұрын

...listening to Dr.P.Conti I started crying... what a beautiful person ❤️

@Supervale111 7 ай бұрын

3 life changing hours. Really thank you to both

@smokeywilly4364 7 ай бұрын

This is both incredibly poetic and informative. How much I wish I could explain this to past friends and girlfriends. It’s a shame so many people are too quick to judge based on what they “see” you as.

@Nocebonobo 4 ай бұрын

I think everyone has this same feeling, but maybe wanting to show this to past girlfriends is somewhat against the point of the talk 😂

@YourWingmam 7 ай бұрын

Love these conversations! Thank you for introducing Dr. Conti to those of us who were unfamiliar with him. I’m reading his book, Trauma. I highly recommend it for those who are ready, willing, and able to face the trauma they experienced, and anyone with a loved one who’s experienced trauma.

@sebc6736 7 ай бұрын

Thank you both for discussing the topics of relationship dynamics, and how the self and the drives within one’s self can shape said relationships. Also it’s really resonated with me that the insight that can come from psychology or psychiatry, I’ve been putting off seeing a medical professional for a while but because of your talk I’ve convinced myself that it can be a route that can really help me. I’m truly grateful for you both.

@alisonmcintosh937 6 ай бұрын

This was epically long, but absolutely worth the listen. I appreciate the shift in language around relationships. Empowering and resourcing. Thanks to you both for sharing your knowledge.

@tannmaydeepak5509 6 ай бұрын

This series had changed my life in a more generative way.. Thank you both for your kind and generous advice 🙏🏻

@dianed5193 7 ай бұрын

This was very validating. The explantion of the narcisistic relationship and how it keeps the other stuck, was so useful to understand. Thank you so much for that and all the other insights this episode offered. You are doing a wonderful service for people.

@keeleythompson1644 7 ай бұрын

Thank you! So grateful for your mission to help everyone have access to this science & information! We have no excuse now to not show up better as humans for each other

@biancagetz941 5 ай бұрын

What a refreshing and hopeful view on mental health! Thank you Dr. Conti and Dr. Huberman. I enjoyed every second

@fernandooliveiralino 5 ай бұрын

One last to go! Terrific series. Thank you so much, Dr. Andrew Huberman and Dr. Paul Conti.

@snowvantures 7 ай бұрын

First of all I want to thank you and your team for the incredible service you bring to society. What Dr. Conti said around minute 37:30 about being healthy and wanting the people around us to be also healthy, really resonates with me. But that becomes a struggle when it comes to the family you have from birth, because they might have an "unhealthy" life, and it really hurts to see that.

@Siobhan_Bulfin 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Conti and Huberman for this series. It's so helpful.

@geraldambrosia4227 Ай бұрын

Simply priceless and mind blowing guides. I will be listening twice, to better absorb the nuances of what is being suggested. Really incredible

@dustinwilcox6821 3 ай бұрын

Dr Huberman I want to thank you for your work and efforts. It has really helped me learn and grow mentally and physically healthier.

@flowgoestheuniverse 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Huberman for this series. I personally feel that it’s the most important content you’ve released to the public.

@traciealbano7499 7 ай бұрын

💯 ❤

@jodydewittdewitt9044 7 ай бұрын

Pod cast like these help me be healthier and happier and have the generative drive and I’m grateful for the both of you ❤️👏🏻🙏🏻

@peggyford108 4 ай бұрын

Dr. Conti saved my life ❤

@eili8806 6 ай бұрын

This podcast I now listen to again,- and have recommended to many people. So good! very very inspiring and useful. Thank you both for sharing your important knowledge in such a brilliant way.

@user-zw7sk9eu3k 4 ай бұрын

Thank you very much for this podcast ! It helped me to understand myself or the way I communicate with people,. Dr Conti is God given gift for us for those vulnerable to oppressors. God save him

@martinepeters9891 7 ай бұрын

Dr. Conti is awesome together with dr. HUBERMAN.

@danitaoliver264 5 ай бұрын

❤ @ 1:35:49, That Person Feeling Stuck, Learned Helplessness, If You Will. Complete Powerlessness.........Being in a Gilded Cage W/ the Key in Hand, the doors open.........but unable to Walk Through to Freedom. That's HOW THIS FEELS!!!!! TRAUMA BOND!!!!!❤

@theresahope9759 7 ай бұрын

What a beautiful and useful topic! We have to learn how to build and maintain healthy connections in all aspects of our lives: with other people, with our environment and last but not least, with ourselves. And only then, we will trully thrive. Thank you for sharing your work, Professor! As always, such valuable information, yet free!

@theresahope9759 7 ай бұрын

We already had this conversation :)

@quietandsounds 7 ай бұрын

Mr. Huberman, thank you for your work. You provide valuable, very useful information. Thank you. 😊❤🙏

@annewhite7058 7 ай бұрын

I appreciate this series. I wonder if these same ideas apply to people who may be on the autism spectrum. Would you consider doing a show on neurodivergence ? For years, parents were told not to worry about addiction with their neurodiverse kids. Now we see high-functioning neurodiverse people do have struggles with addiction - often screen addiction. How can this group of people get help. Anything on screen addiction would be so appreciated. I’m having a hard time getting help for my young adult child. Thanks for all you do!

@pinkifloyd7867 7 ай бұрын

Great initiative, itS like the great silent brain hacking machine and if they dont let their children why would we? 😮

@angiesaga8276 7 ай бұрын

Ty for another brilliant podcast! My respects to Dr.Huberman and Dr.Conti!!👏👏❤❤

@Poooooha 7 ай бұрын

My son turned 2 yo this weekend. During labor I was listening to Dr. Huberman’s podcast. He was delivered during Dr. Lembke’s episode. I am so grateful for all the work you do to make science available to everyone. From the bottom of my heart - thank you.

@tarablyfun 7 ай бұрын

I especially appreciated the dialogue of relationships and transactions. Yes, there are transactions within relationships, but healthy relations are not transactional in total. I feel a relation is at an end when a person begins to measure, tit for tat. People are complex and bring so much in their own ways. We should lead with respect and gratitude for what each brings. It may not, and usually not, be equal, As Dr. Conti shared, but mutual. Thinking about it even in a basic way between what I get from the love of my dog. We both get something from being together - but I don’t think, “I feed and walk him because I get to pet him”. Ha, funny to even type.

@Trixie.2005 3 ай бұрын

Brilliant Dr Conti and Andrew. Great work Paul..

@Racekelly9 4 ай бұрын

Omg, this episode gold! This man is divine🤍 Thanks Dr Conti!

@peoplefirstleadershipcoach 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this knowledge on relationships. After recently ending a relationship of over 25 years, this information helps me in my personal growth which will help me in my next relationship. Aside from personal agency, I believe from my experience that one should enter a relationship from a non-selfish viewpoint. Relationships are not selfish, but truly caring for another, giving to another and taking interest in another. So many are in relationships to fulfill something they need. While self is important, relationships go way beyond self. This is the delicate balance to me. Preserving and growing self, while growing in a relationship.

@user-vv9ky2oo3t 7 ай бұрын

Happy birthday dr. Huberman! 🎉 Your podcasts are fantastic! Thank you so much!

@AliAtlas-qi1hu 7 ай бұрын

not yet. it is on the 26th

@stevegaspar Ай бұрын

after this weeks allegations this episode and the one with Dr. Buss are more eye opening

@kriswittyk Ай бұрын

so true... I hadn't seen this episode before but its clear that Dr. Conti is incredibly well-versed and well-spoken. He gave very good answers to Andy's questions even though those questions have very little to do with what the good dr. was saying, and are clearly based in insecurities. Imagine how this conversation could have gone if Dr. Huberman was not preoccupied with his own internal and relationship struggles. :(

@danielleyamasaki6771 7 ай бұрын

So grateful that you shared this knowledge! I feel way more confident in gaining better awareness of how I struggled in the past and how I can do better navigating relationships moving forward!

@jeancardoza4442 7 ай бұрын

Love this series. Learning so much. Thank you! More and we can heal the world.

@electricjellyfish375 6 ай бұрын

It is Amazing and totally wonderful that this kind of information is presented to the public for free.

@shirleykilbride4555 5 ай бұрын

Thank u Andrew and Dr Paul ..u are the.models of ultimate givers helping fix society' ailes ... ❤

@Squirrel_101 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I have BPD and as such relationships for me are difficult. There's a lot I can take away from this conversation

@salvajebienestar 6 ай бұрын

Thanks to you I just realize and put a name of relationship success: generative drive. the more I think of it the more sense it does. A “simple thing” I I ve never thought like that before. Thanks so much for being so revealing.

@loyalty8803 7 ай бұрын

Yess sir love hearing these for a better understanding

@decemberbreidel 2 ай бұрын

Everything I have seen you do is so valuable to me. Thank you.

@TimCrain-ke5vt 7 ай бұрын

Thanks! Andrew, it would be difficult at best to articulate the profound positive impact your four-part series with Dr. Conti has had on me, so I won’t try. I have done a life, reboot, body mind and spirit, and by divine intervention I stumbled across the series on your podcast. I recommended it to a dozen of my friends and family members. For the first time in my adult life, I have a clear vision and a better understanding of why I’ve done some of the things I’ve done, and how to make positive changes that will impact my life and the lives of everyone in my bubble moving forward. Cheers and keep on keep’n on! TC

@user-nv6lk6jb6f 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Andrew Huberman and Dr. Conti! These discussions are so beautiful and helpful, informative and healing. Please keep going. Love and shalom to you both. ❤️📣🎯🚀

@katerino4kaaaa373 6 ай бұрын

Really love this episode. Dr. Paul puts into simple words what Erich Fromm described

@upavida 7 ай бұрын

This is a wonderful episode! Everyone should listen/watch. ❤

@user-nx2ht6nh2o 7 ай бұрын

Super interesting! I wish you could make more episodes with Dr Paul Conti, he is a jewel 💎

@MatchmakingServices 6 ай бұрын

Thank you ,Andrew, for setting up such wonderful shows: which are very informative and useful

@shalakasarpotdar3996 5 ай бұрын

It was such an interesting series that it was impossible to not go back and hear it again, especially parts that seem most relevant to me. I think it would be a worthwhile project to put it all in a book.

@VonW0lf3N5t31N 4 ай бұрын

Hey Andrew! Thanks for this collaboration and information. Have an awesome day!

@healthycomments 6 ай бұрын

Dude, this is a smart m*fer! All things aside though, this content really changed my life recently and it was only through seeing the benefits of generative drive that I saw where happiness is hidden; tucked away in plain sight for us all whenever we find and stay with the courage it takes within for it to show up in our everyday lives. People will look and feel an allure and desire to be around you. You have that "thing."

@edmundobaca3498 6 ай бұрын

Amazing Dr.Paul Conti.

@AP-ri5ph 7 ай бұрын

Finished my 1st round of 3 hrs, re-listening it again, love it, love it, love it - THANK U Dr Huberman & Dr Conti 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@johnblake4523 7 ай бұрын

More tremendous insights. Thank you both.

@marshad.9149 Ай бұрын

Really eye opening exchange of information. I’d like to add, Dr Huberman, that in my experience working for tips that the successful are by far the least generous. Poverty level as a whole were much better tippers. In my experience, and those of my contemporaries who have shared experiences with me. This speaks to me of an innate sense of fairness and generosity in the less than successful. There are always exceptions of course. I hope sir, that you are one such exception. Thank you for addressing this subject.

@AllinterneyThingsandstufd 7 ай бұрын

Very good point when dr. Conti told Dr. Huberman about a relationship with abuse is not an extreme or special case.

@shawnaasendorf6908 7 ай бұрын

Fabulous, so much gratitude 🙏🏽

@xanynax 5 ай бұрын

This is a new way of looking at relationships that is useful and enlightening. Thank you for adding new knowledge for me to integrate.

@carolinao9918 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your podcasts. So helpful!👏👏👏

@shadanhameed6201 7 ай бұрын

I thank you from my heart for sharing this fascinating discussion ❤

@dianegilbank5095 7 ай бұрын

What a amazing series! This one has so much to dissect and I am an hour in! Especially the piece about the trauma bond actually having a positive effect of managed to engender a more cohesive relationship! Also the sexual appetite of a 2 and an 8 so well explained about how it is possible to come together ! The sadness is that each is so entrenched in their belief that coming together just doesn’t happen! I wish I had had that knowledge when in a relationship! It might have started a conversation which could have resolved a chasm that was never breached sadly!!! Each in defence of their own position!! I look forward to listening to the rest of the talk on my next early morning walk, thank you to you both x

@paulx7620 7 ай бұрын

Great, my father said to have "an attitude of gratitude". And that's what I credit so much of my happiness too! Thanks to everyone involved 👍

@Nich_Rogers 6 ай бұрын

I absolutely loved these four sessions. As someone who has worked in the AOD and MH field most of my life the simply conceptual structure is invaluable to share with those who are on the early help seeking journey, but not yet ready to commit. Would love you to have Paul back in integrate discussion about 'meaning' in the context of the generative drive, I feel it would add more depth the this dimension and was missing in the conversation. I'm sure Paul has thought about it through this lens, but would love to hear him explain.