Quitting porn was the best decision in my life Don't get me wrong all my life's problems aren't solved But I actually care about my life now 👊

Listen to this my friends, porn IS NOT WORTH IT! Not worth losing a girlfriend over! Not worth being depressed for hours for just a five minute high! It will destroy your life! Please don’t stay there or go there just to feel cool or better. For the sake of your soul please listen to the warning before you drop if the edge into a seemingly endless abyss of hell

1.) Vampire = mystery and seduction 2.) Pirate (a.k.a. the bad boy) = ambition and independence 3.) Surgeon = purpose and competence 4.) Billionaire = resources and status 5.) Werewolf = danger and dominance that can be tamed (important to note this doesn’t always mean physical dominance)

I love that his wife is interviewing him. Mr. Peterson is safe to answer the way he wants without judgement and criticism

The passion with which he speaks is incredible. Rarely does anyone speak with this passion and from his soul.

61 days without porn and masturbation after addicted it to my whole life... My happiness is through the roof (both physical and mental)! Keep grinding guys!

As someone recovering from porn addiction, I can say its absolutely wrecked my mind. I've not watched it in about a year now but everyday use for over 12 years leaves it's mark. I find it difficult to not look at women passing by and wondering what they look like naked. I wish that wasn't my first thought about people. It creeps me out! Please, if you're struggling with this, seek help. You can change your habits. It's difficult and most days I feel the urge to watch it but I can't let myself down anymore. The long term affects are draining :/

I wish I could use words as well as Dr. Peterson does. No joke. Seriously an intriguing character.

Jordan: “No one wears a T-shirt that says ‘I masturbate to pornography regularly’” Guy in the crowd: “I DO!!!”😂

We need more discussion about this.

Porn is codeine for a hurting sex/romantic life. It treats a symptom and is potentially addictive.

I honestly used to think this kind of talk was nonsense. Then, after not seeing my girlfriend for a couple of weeks and using porn heavily during that time, I was unable to "perform" the next time I saw her. I was so shocked, embarrassed, and confused. I looked into it and saw similar stories from other people. Porn really does desensitize your mind to real experiences. That was the only experience I needed to never go near it again! Luckily, my girlfriend was very nice about it and made sure I didn't feel worse about it than I already did.

Perfect timing, thank you

It seems to me that most of modern men and most of modern women don’t have what the other sex needs in a relationship. Not that there’s no potential, but a lot of work needs to be done on both sides.

Peterson is such a worthwhile listen when he’s in his field. I’m glad I watched this today. Watching him discuss theology out of his expertise for so long really put me off him - was becoming a real sophist at times I hate to say it; but watching him here reminds me how much he does know and has to offer. An important man

I am currently on day 71 of NoFap, the positive effects it has on my life are no friggin joke - it makes a HUGE difference!

It's so difficult when no one is ever interested in you, even after using 20+ dating apps.

Ouuu I was there this was in Atlanta more than a year ago. Pleasure seeing Dr JBP live

Porn isn't the problem, it's the symptom. Build a better life and your bad habits will erode. Stay strong brothers.

I don’t even care anymore. No woman wants me anyways, and there’s nothing I can do to change that. I have a shit job, I’m short, not conventionally attractive, I’m not funny, I don’t have any interesting talents or hobbies., I’m riddled with depression, I have a crippling injury that causes me near constant pain, self-doubt, and anxiety. Hell, I wouldn’t want me either - they’re right! I am unfit to be an object of affection or desire. I suppose I should be thankful I’ve managed somehow not to resent women as a consequence of my state of being. But I don’t have the power to change any of it either - I’ve spent the past seven years desperately trying to do so. I finished my degree; Ive tried worked out 3-5 days to week to improve my appearance; Ive spoken to therapist’s psychiatrists; I’ve applied to thousands of new positions and been rejected every single time; Ive pushed myself into uncomfortable social situations to try to overcome my anxiety. None of it matters. Nothing changes. I am never good enough. Never smart enough. Never “the right candidate”. I am worthless and I know it. And, clearly, so does everyone else. I’m stuck, and at 33 I don’t frankly see the point anymore. I mean, I don’t disagree with anything he’s said -porn is evil- but in a world that has so little use for men, even those of us who so desperately want to be of use, what does it even matter? No one cares about men. That war is already lost. We’re just “extra” humans. Better that we be given some great cause to die for in the fires of revolution, or on the battlefield smashing the enemies of civilization than to continue living like this. No one should have to live like this. To not have ever been at all would be preferable to having known only suffering. I know I won’t make it to 35 now. I’ve consigned myself to that. I’m trying to make peace with the knowledge of something that I’ve known since I was 14. That my death will serve no purpose. That my live will have meant nothing. That I will have no legacy. The male line of countless generations will end with me. That I’ll die having never known what it’s like to have been loved by another person. And when my death comes, it will come by my own hand.

One thing that helped me quit is when I relapsed every time I tried to monitor my own behaviour while I watched porn and I tried to find what exactly excites me the most because that’s what you try to find on the internet and that’s what makes you keep relapsing, once you control that and it no longer excites you, you will not look at porn cause it won’t be worth it.

Insightful as always. Thank you J!

He didn't tell any solutions but explained how deep the problem is

Genius take! My opinions on this have changed!

Dr. Peterson's insights into the effects of pornography on young men are truly eye-opening. His frank discussion challenges us to rethink our habits and consider the long-term consequences of seeking quick solutions to complex issues. It's a reminder that meaningful relationships and personal development should always be a priority.

He explains solutions with such simplicity

2:38 indeed it’s difficult to choose live or just because you don’t want to deprive yourself of the hunger for intimacy or improve that your body so craves but knowing that takes much longer than the access porn has is a tough ordeal however, when you’ve had it (the real deal) it’s worth it to sustain yourself from that easy listful access because that isn’t real. It leaves a hole in you that hood intimacy wells in to fill. Porn pretends to fill it but it just ultimately does more damage and makes getting true love that actually does the job, that much harder. 2:43 However, what I’m hearing is that, longing for that special someone will make you miserable so you don’t want to numb yourself. You want to feel so miserable that you can’t help but to do something to change your situation in finding genuine love and intimacy. That’s the closest I got to what he meant in 2:37. I don’t personally agree because Jordan got with his wife in that they were childhood friends so they had held a deep connection and he pursued a deep connection with this woman later in life. I am unsure but I am glad he’s referring the literature because feeling bad, leads people to p@rn which is numbing themselves to the pain. Gabor Matte is great Psychologist who talks about this with more understanding and compassion; while I’m not saying that Peterson doesn’t but Matte seems to understand addiction more emphatically. I am at odds because Peterson had his own dealings with a drug because he was in such pain and misery; because his wife was terminally I’ll and dying. It’s understandable. And he was right in that it’s hard to deny p@rn/ some alternative because it’s easily accessible and you need relief from your suffering so you can’t just get miserable enough to motivate yourself out of addiction. ( I mean, you can but it’s not the only motivation to keep you on the straight and narrow) It might be a bit of both aspects of misery of your position and what this numbing agent is doing and what your hopes are mixes to give you that drive. Indeed, what you want, tangible hopes, a plan, etc. Essentially a transformed life built on a collection of little things that aid you in your goals and pursuits. I don’t knock Peterson for his decision; especially because it was doctor-prescribed and he was too in distress to make a rational decision so he honored his colleague’s recommendation so technically he “did everything right” but, it led him to…😬maybe stay consistent on his mantra of willing yourself out of your predicament; which for benzodiazepines, I’ve heard is really dangerous. I am glad Peterson is doing well and is consciously with us. However, I think even Peterson’s journey tells us the complexity of dealing with our misery and suffering are a multi-blended process; whether that’s a technical one where his daughter and her husband at that time saved Peterson via Russia via an Anesthesiologist with an experimental procedure that actually helped in. Crazy story but, _it worked_ . He didn’t misery himself out of his suffering. He technically did deprive himself out of the deprivation (the lack of what he was needing) to Will himself to actually search for soothing his pain but I don’t blame him for that. He’s human and is experiencing suffering. He’s not special and he needed some solutions. It doesn’t conflict with this message but adds onto it because it may well work for millions of people to Will themselves out of their misery, by misery. I don’t mean to make any claims about him, with the same compassion I think Gabor Matte says about his clients who use substances, they are in pain and wanted that pain to stop and Peterson’s condition was , for the most part, no different than others; despite the technicalities. Im glad his wife is much better and im glad he is better. There is multiple ways of engaging with your suffering, I’d say and at this time, I believe he was just rightfully so, following the data to a thorough conclusion. Ultimately, people do need hope and ironically they’re getting it with their feelings heard by Peterson. Maybe they’ll be following his advice but moreso, they get that fatherly intimacy via advice & encouragement from Jordan to hold out until they find that significant other. Also, get a sleep routine. Pursue a workout plan. Aim for a competitive career because you’ll need to provide for a potential family and be competitive in your personality, be a little selfish and have some grit and tenacity with your life. No one’s gonna give it to you if you won’t ask. You’ve gotta pursue and ask for what you want and have some character to make yourself attractive and impressive in the dating market. Even rabbits get at it; and they’re a prey animal.

well, think about this,. the brain is not fully developed until the age of 25. so anything people watch , listen to, or read, is going to affect brain development

Amen, Dr Peterson🙏 Thank you for making the world a better place

Very great explanation

The last sentence was really hard to pull off. 5/5.

Love is silence, lust is a roar! Love is sacrifice ,lust always wants more. Love is giving, lust only takes. Love is a meeting of hearts ,lust brakes. Love is patient ,lust is always in a hurry. Love heals, Lust hurts. Love smiles ,lust frowns. Love endures all things and hopes all things, lust doesn't. Love is beautiful, lust isn't! Love is simple, Lust is arrogant! Love is genuine, lust pretends.❤ Remember Love is not Lust ! Start where you are now if you still breathe everything is possible!

stopping will give u stronger focus and you will become stronger physically.

Always a straight on response..❤

Kinda hurt me when the people laughed. Here I am trying to climb out of hole I put myself in at a very young age. And I’m being laughed at… saddening

I stopped watching porn and I turned into a repressed angry person with wet dreams all the time. Stopping pornography and masturbtion is absolutely not a magic pill. It can be tremendously beneficial for the right person at the right time. Psychological issues exist in us all from decisions we made during childhood. Getting well is much more difficult than suppressing your lust. In fact I would say consciousness of what you’re after in the pornography is the key to solving the underlying issue and finding a solution, not suppressing the instincts in yourself that drive you toward it in the first place. I made this rule with myself a long time ago that if I watch porn I need to be a little bit more conscious about it than the last time I did it. This was far more beneficial to me than shaming myself for liking sexy women and suppressing my sexuality.

Silence was great before answering the question❤

Well said

This is why I despise jokes in movies and TV about porn as if it's a harmless activity. It's not, neither for the viewer or the performer. It also hurts the family members when the parent becomes emotionally distant and numb from it.

Porn is prostitutes without the physical risk, but heightened mental risk.

Well said.

Please write a book on this!

People need to stop laughing, and start listening. If young men can stop watching porn, our society would improve ten fold.

Nothing in this world is free, but porn is! Does no one else find that highly suspect?! Why would we be given something free that could be highly profitable?

Jordan is so high and mighty

Thank you, 💯

His a poetic philosopher 🙏🏿

He's spot on. It's a repulsive war on the mind. People, learn to reprogram your cues with thought habits and emotional responses that actually answer the subconscious question/craving you're suffering when you next feel yourself pulling towards porn. That is absolutely crucial.

2:20, 2:37 (deprivation is the biggest motivating factor, go without something that you need for long enough and you’ll find incredible motivation to get it)

Been trying to quit but I always end up relapsing

He’s right about masturbation not being something people are proud of, but I would counter with : eating is not something people are proud of, either. No one wears a shirt that says “I eat every day” or “I have sex with my loving wife every day.” These things are not meant to be shining accomplishments, they’re just part of life. They are things we do to sustain our existence. Not every part of life is something spectacular that needs to be some shining accomplishment.

1.) Vampire = mystery 2.) Pirate = independence 3.) Surgeon = intelligence 4.) Billionaire = status/money 5.) Werewolf = untamedness The trades every girl is looking for?

THANKS !!!

Is there link to the full interview/talk?

You know what's funny is how we're completely okay with leaving the women behind when it comes to this matter. Men see pornography as bad and i think that's a good judgement, but we're lying to ourselves if we think women don't struggle with this too. I'm grateful that the men make time and space for this serious conversation, but women are totally in the shadows it seems when this matter is brought up, which is unfortunate for them. I mean it doesn't seem apparent to me that anybody is caring enough to ask how this is effecting women as they do with caring enough to ask this in regards to us men.

he's right, it destroyed my childhood and nearly my life. likely destroyed countless families.

I did not quit it. I got bored of it. How do people not get bored?

we must learn to differentiate out thoughts and desires from who we are. we are not what we think, and we are not what we desire. every time you feel the urge to watch it or to do something you consider morally wrong to you, remember you are not this. you can control what you’re going to do. we must learn to don’t become slaves of our minds.

I wont let porn touch me with its tendrils of guilt, self doubt and depression anymore

If you have a long dry spell, watching too much porn may leave you unable to perform whenever you do finally managed to land a date and things escalate. Took me 3 years just to find one woman to speak to regularly.

Stopping the porn was the best decision ever. It warps and damages the mind

I stopped it and other related vices for a long while now. I have much more energy and a much more fulfilling life.

2:30 the real thing is always gonna be the better choice. If you’ve felt it, you’ve known it be so much more stimulating that the alternative.

I am 46 and happily married. The J&J jab destroyed my testosterone and I am now on TRT. I feel like I'm going through a second puberty and it's crazy how my mind reacts to a beautiful woman. Luckily I quit looking at pornography over 7 years ago but with this new testosterone it is extremely hard. No pun intended. Luckily my wife is extremely understanding and willing to help me through this new challenge. It feels so great to not be addicted to something that completely destroys your spirit and drive. Best of luck to all those that are still struggling with this challenge. 🙏

Where does he say it destroys young men? I cite : 'It's less than an optimal solution'.

Is there a link that has this conference/presentation in its entirety?

did anybody understand his point when he said that " it's so difficult to do that you don't want to deprive yourself of any of the deprivation that might motivate you to do it " and by "it" he means the long-term good relationships and so on, in my understanding which I think it withholds since I think that the second use of deprivation is what he refers to porn and the first on it the actual meaning of the deprivation. Furthermore, I think that the reason why porn is a deprivation is that it prevents you from accomplishing whatever and so on, but again that depends on the personal use of pornography and so on, secondly, let's say that porn is bad in this case which I think it is true for some people that maybe have some traumatic experiences when growing from childhood and so on, so that it stays the in the unconscious as a repressed idea and that what creates the issue. But let not deviate from the actual meaning he meant, again I have a problem understanding the layering of the word deprive(prevent), because logically when you use a double negation you end up with the primitive meaning of the word in this case (deprivation), meaning that eventually the correct way of saying it might be: "It's so difficult to do that so you deprive yourself of the motivation to do it " which here again "it" refer to the long term relationship, and you notice that it is much easier to understand, that porn is a way that takes away that motivation to create good long relationships. Meaning that he intentionally created this overlaying of words to deceive the audience or make the statement look much more complex which it isn't. Again I am not saying that porn is not bad, but, but in a very specific narrow window, it isn't.

I'm trying to quit porn. I wil beat this addiction. 4 hours clean. Stay strong brothers

Without porn, in a society that treats men like trash and does everything within its power to work against their social needs, I'd have ended it all a long time ago. Porn saved me.

@JordanBPeterson @DrJordanBPetersonClips, if I'm on completely other end of spectrum in terms of these attractive to women characters (vampire, surgeon etc), how do I become attractive? I think I lack the mystery/seduction/danger/dominance parts. I'm open, I offer my time, attention etc. I think I'm too predictable and available and I think it's taking excitement away. How do I manage my desire to be open about feelings and needs, while also providing some novelty and excitment to my significat other?

5 hours clear. Stay strong brothers.

Or how about the women who have made the dating market place so insufferable. Guys who have to work 5 times harder for girls 10 times worse than their grandmother.

“I DO!”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 0:25

Nice idea for a shirt

Where can I see the full videos?

I'm a radical 70 years old, and I've literally stopped watching porn for a trade, into reading, and when I say reading I mean reading, Greeks, philosphers all of these non-dimensional giants among men.

Try having social anxiety disorder and being hooked on this, (not social anxiety as in general anxiety where you lack social emotion and socializing only triggers your right brain). Im talking about the social anxiety where you think of all social aspects, worry about them, get stuck in your head and can't even talk to people and feel like absolute shit about yourself. It will ruin your life. When people tell me their social anxiety is so bad but they have a family friends, good job etc I feel disrespected because you don't know the pain of not even being able to form relationships or be able to enjoy leaving the house.

The guy who yelled “I do” 😂😂😂💀

It depends on how much porn watching we're talking. I catch my dad watching porn sometimes but it didn't stop him marrying my mother. But if its every single day, then I would say thats an addiction.

As someone who is moderately successful with women, I can say when you don't have a girlfriend and you're single looking for one, it can be extremely distracting to be constantly horny all the time. I've tried nofap for a month in November, and the end result is just me being really horny and anxious. I agree that masterbation is a second rate solution (it will never replace sex), but as long as doing it doesnt inhibit your drive to find a partner (I still flirt with people I find attractive). I agree with Peterson in everything he said. It's such a suboptimal solution, and it will never be anything anyone brags about. It shouldn't be because youre not doing anything. In fact its just time out of your day. Theres something to be said though for horniness being a distraction in your day to day life though.

I kicked the porn habit and am glad I did. I am viewing women in a healthier way, as people and not mere collections of body parts that are pleasant to look at. Of course, this has improved my relations with them as they don’t have to think “eww that guy keeps glancing at my chest/butt/legs/ etc”

I’m surprised many women don’t understand the side offers of porn on their men.

No woman can measure up against the perfect fantasies you make up in your head, the variety of women in porn, or know exactly what to do to you. So you end up being disappointed with your partner. As my urologist joked once with regards to your partner, you've seen that movie many times over.

2nd thought: Just remembered, Internet video porn was the catalyst for improved streaming. It quite literally gave us YT & Netflix/all the rest.

What does he mean by his last comment "you don't want to deprive yourself of the deprivation that might motivate you to do it" - my head hurts just thinking about that and trying to work it out. It sounds like a riddle.

And it’s not a dead end if you learn about yourself and you learn how to love yourself and you learn about your desires. Porn and masturbation is a viable path to greater consciousness if that’s the way you approach it

It's been almost 6 hours with no porn. Damn, I better jump back in.

Id wear that T shirt in a heartbeat

I had to turn the volume way up on this one to hear it, and then the violins at the end cut my head in fucking half.

I've given up on love or actually ever having sex. Whether it's better to being kept alive by a porn addiction or not being kept alive at all, you can decide that for yourself.

You said, 'Porn is a suboptimal solution.' Well, it's a solution, nonetheless. Men can't force women to find them attractive, and the majority of women today are superficial and fickle, and not worth the effort they demand. Men, think for yourselves and decide what you will do. I have decided that in pursuit of wealth and knowledge, I will not compromise time and mental energy just for momentary sexual satisfaction (which is all I need from a woman, if I was to have one)

It actually affects the grey matter in the brain

Amen! The book death of porn is also a fantastic breed.

I don’t have a date I want to be intimately involved with,or the one I would like to be is not sure so I don’t have a hugger.I don’t want to use anyone,hurt anyone ,fool anyone. If a women is not interested I’m not pushing partly because it’s no good if she’s not into it,Porn has nothing to do with relationships.

Very well said. People who struggle with porn usually have an issue with intimacy. Porn also objectifies women, which is a problem, women aren’t sex objects that’s soul purpose is to please men sexually. Women are people. Porn is also a dangerous lie, nothing good has ever came from deception. Now people who struggle there’s hope, we were made for better things, higher things. A deep intimacy with your spouse is possible, you just have to put away the fear and plaything of porn away and focus on loving the other person selflessly. It’s difficult but worth it, absolutely worth it

1:46 and a werewolf; those are the five archetypes. I've also read A Billion Wicked Thoughts as well as Crime & Punishment from Dostoyevsky, 12 Rules of Life from Peterson and many other wonderfully insightful books in which Peterson has recommended at one time or another. :)

Luv ya Jordan. ✝️❤️

@jordan b Peterson clips Can you answer so that we can understand please? I didn’t understand the deprivation answer 😢

Hard to see it as depriving you of something you never found interesting in the first place. Can honestly say growing up the desire for relationships with either sex never manifested, and I grew up pre-Internet widespread availability. I was a teenager before I got my first Internet connection. I always told myself growing up I'd understand the romantic interests depicted in media one day, but that switch never flipped. I can however trace back my porn interests to a very young age, before I even understood what that fascination was. Maybe I'm broken/damaged on some level, nevertheless denying porn isn't going to activate some suppressed interest that never manifested in the first place. There would just be no outlet and a lot of pent up frustration. The absolute state of modern gender relations is hardly an incentive to try to forcefully explore that direction either.

Does p0rn use really prevent men from developing relationships? Or is it a case where men turned to p0rn because they tried again and again in dating, with all sorts of women and all sorts of approaches, and got absolutely nowhere?