Drama-Dumping" The #1 Thing Not to Do WHEN MEETING SOMEONE NEW

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Drama-Dumping" The #1 Thing Not to Do WHEN MEETING SOMEONE NEW

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

Күн бұрын

You meet someone new and you're thrilled to have a new friend. You go on a first date after the Hijackal, and you're delighted and scared. Do this one thing... and guarantee things won't go well! You really need to think about this or it will happen by default. Don't let that happen, Be prepared right now.
Whether you're looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don't want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it.
Out of the gate, with someone new, it's smart to establish a relationship dynamic based on balance, mutual sharing, and emotional maturity. Oversharing personal traumas can burden the budding relationship and skew its potential for growth.
Whether you're single, dating, or looking to improve your emotional connections, this episode of #saveyoursanitypodcast share strategies and practices you need, to proceed with care and confidence.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- New Relationships and Emotional Baggage
- Understanding Drama Dumping and Trauma Dumping
- Emotional Health and Relationship Dynamics
- Building Emotional Maturity
- Dating After a Toxic Relationship
00:00 Avoid drama dumping to foster healthy relationships.
04:53 Seek validation but test the waters cautiously.
09:41 Don't share everything on the first date.
13:16 Wait one year after leaving a hijackal.
15:10 Listening to shame, Hijackals thrive on pressure.
20:04 New Relationships: share light stories, not emotional baggage.
23:59 Prioritize self-care, values, and relationships.
26:12 Safe, anonymous conversations can be emotionally beneficial.
* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.
No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out.
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Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships?
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@maryambrose8466 4 ай бұрын

What a brilliant woman. Dedicated to her line of work supporting the victims of hijackles. Until her last breath she gave to those of us who are healing from these kind of relationships. Much love to her family ❤

@lunaluna5815 5 ай бұрын

Dr. Shaler we appreciate your efforts

@ForRelationshipHelp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you kindly

@tamraholland2285 5 ай бұрын

😢🙏, Dr. please know we appreciate you.

@lunaluna5815 5 ай бұрын

does anyone know if she is okay?

@BrillGirl82 5 ай бұрын

@@lunaluna5815I’m wondering the same thing. What illness is she dealing with??

@Fairgreentube 5 ай бұрын

I have no idea but I am praying for her ♥️ please let her feel better she is such a caring person to share all of this.

@maunder01 4 ай бұрын

@@lunaluna5815she passed away this week. God bless her for her work.

@Greenleafroad 5 ай бұрын

Learning that my private self is kept to myself. Most wouldn't have the bandwidth to understand my life and wrap their minds around it. Even in time, things are shared with those who deserve it. No hijackels 😊 high jacking my life again. Thank you ❤

@BubblyinUSA2010 5 ай бұрын

You are so right! We do tend to divulge too much when we feel connected. I learnt that a long time ago. I only answer questions and disclose very little. Just enough.

@sheilawilliams9080 5 ай бұрын

I so needed to hear this message. Over sharing shows poor boundaries and invites disrespect.

@krispbacon598 4 ай бұрын

Oh, sweet woman Dr Shaler, look at you. Pouring everything that you had to get your message out to us as your struggling in health. This makes me weep seeing the outpouring of love you have for your community. I feel so loved and yet we never met. I know all your viewers have felt the same through the validation you gave us. May you rest in peace and thank you so much for all that you contributed to this topic. 💔

@laurenherbst8871 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this episode. Coming out of relationships with hijackals can be so disorienting and it would be hard to remember to protect future relationships from that drama. thank you thank you thank you.

@BubblyinUSA2010 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for explaining these relationships to the public. I lived this and know what you are saying. Please get better soon! It pains me to see you struggling.😇🤗❤

@celestialfire111 5 ай бұрын

I am so grateful for you ❤. Thank you for sharing so generously, elder wisdom, I bow before you silver queen

@maunder01 4 ай бұрын

So sad to hear of your passing. So grateful for your videos through the years. God bless your family in this time of sadness. ❤ You helped me in my greatest time of need, forever grateful.

@BrillGirl82 5 ай бұрын

Oh my goodness, Rhoberta. Are you going to be okay?? Sending well wishes your way. I’m sad seeing you like this 😢

@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger 5 ай бұрын

Such great advice 💎 like pearls of wisdom!

@carmenmercado393 5 ай бұрын

Thank you! I need your advice now! Take time for self care. Your wisdom is appreciated!

@crystalmckinneycoaches 26 күн бұрын

For anyone that sees this message please know that you can send the doctor your gratitude by leaving a message here or wishing her well in spirit. She truly left us all a precious gift with all these videos.

@OneMongolian 2 күн бұрын

Dear dr. Shaler, I just can't believe you left... I wanted tobe your client three weeks after I discovered you and your life saving channel. But then I discovered you already left this world... I am so greatfull for all the videos you left for us behind, I appreciate your work and your empathy so much! You help me so so much! I will never meet you face to face, but i feel like i knlw you for many years and i cry and miss you😢💔

@specialk4762 5 ай бұрын

Prayers for you 🙏

@levlyGoren 5 ай бұрын

Thank you dear soul for your wisdom and I send you tons and tons of love and health 💜 !

@karieification 5 ай бұрын

37:18 first time I heard someone else talk about group dynamics. Facilitation and structure where all can speak is important. Very helpful info for professionals running groups that allow certain voices to dominate. Part of the issue is the member creating space by asserting themselves. The other part is facilitation. I do agree that there’s a role for the facilitator to intervene, as well.

@dreamtimelotus7894 4 ай бұрын

Whats wrong, youre sick😢,🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 i have you in my prayers.❤. Listening to you helps me. it calms me down. I realised so much. About how all men have treat me. I m almost ready to leave al behind. Exept my kids Hope you get well soon🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤❤ just found you three weeks ago online. Im shocked to see you this way😢

@carolynmcintyre2549 5 ай бұрын

Thank you 🩵

@genevievekelly4998 5 ай бұрын

Brightest of blessings go out to Dr Rhoberta ❤you have given me some life changing advice in the last few weeks .Thank-you ❤

@wendykathleenscuteri5271 4 ай бұрын

I got a notice from Patreon that Dr. Roberta Shaler has passed away. 😢

@BrillGirl82 4 ай бұрын

I had a feeling 😢😢😢

@madambutterfly1556 4 ай бұрын

I’m so sad. She was such a wonderful person and helped so many.

@susanmcculloch1945 4 ай бұрын

Ty for being there💖Doc...RIP🇨🇦

@juneelle370 5 ай бұрын

Your message is true and made all the more beautiful by the strength to share during a health challenge ❤️👑❤ fortitude & 🙏

@erickanorris567 3 ай бұрын

Bless you for helping so many. God speed.

@inesgonzalez2246 4 ай бұрын

Su sabiduría nunca morirá 😢

@madambutterfly1556 4 ай бұрын

🙏🏽 thank you for all you’ve done to help everyone! 🙏🏽

@FaithAndGrace-eb2tz 5 ай бұрын

❤❤❤GOD BLESS YOU ❤❤❤

@ronpitsenbarger 3 ай бұрын

I miss you! I love you Roberta. You help me alot.

@findingdori442 3 күн бұрын

I miss her so much 💛

@user-nt6ow2wj2u 4 ай бұрын

She will be missed 😢😢

@auset1276 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Shaler - you have helped me so much! I hope that you feel better soon and have the help you need. Much love, you are in my prayers ❤🙏🏾

@batbarasobczak351 5 ай бұрын

Sorry so sad your health is fragile. You deserve better from people.

@user-nt6ow2wj2u 4 ай бұрын

Dr Shaler Hello thanking you so much for your words and knowledge I said a prayer just now for YOU and healing may The lord bless and heal you❤

@BrillGirl82 4 ай бұрын

She has passed 😢

@user-nt6ow2wj2u 4 ай бұрын

@BrillGirl82 so sorry to hear may God let her Rest in peace

@user-nt6ow2wj2u 4 ай бұрын

What was her illness if it's not personal?

@organic80 5 ай бұрын

❤

@kimberlymccracken747 5 ай бұрын

Guilty as charged! I couldn't seem to break the habit - I would hold back and hold back then the dam would break. Making progress and this helped - thank you 💐🩷💐🩷💐

@creneshiaphillips6954 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing I’m surely listening 🔥🪭❤ your the first to call them hi-jackals it makes so much more sense because I’m sure it must be a different type of high getting over on people but it’s not good living in total fear that’s no way to live oh wow God Bless you .🪷