REAL LIFE WITH a TODDLER and NEWBORN | Doctor Mom Maternity Leave

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5 жыл бұрын

Hi everyone! As you're watching it, I probably have about 3 weeks left of my maternity leave. Very Very VERY sad about it. The United States already has a poor maternity/paternity leave but the issue is even worse in GME programs.
There is a great article published in the American Journal of Medicine on "Parental leave in Graduate Medical Education and Recommendations for Reform"
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@KSakemi 5 жыл бұрын

I’m married to a family medicine physician and couldn’t even imagine having a baby in residency! Major respect for you momma, you’re a warrior!

@lyondrakelley8494 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny, Im so glad you touched on FLMA and maternity leave... not only does it make female professionals pressured and feel insecure about starting a family and not having the financial support after having a baby is extremely unfair to woman in the workforce . We go to college to get an education and start our careers, but are unequally paid and are pressured into coming back to work to soon after giving birth. Maternity leave should be a paid benefit and for at least 12 weeks.. its such a diservice for women and to anyone male or female who want to start and family.

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I agree! I hoping the new laws in 2020 will help. It is no where close to other countries but it is a step in the right direction

@rebeccaanderson2520 5 жыл бұрын

Your babies are just the cutest! Congrats on the new little muffin. 🥰

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😍 I think they’re cute but I’m bias 😬

@yanilkarodriguez7335 5 жыл бұрын

Maternity leave is such a huge issue in the U.S. Becoming a physician is already so much sacrifice, maternity leave should not have to include all your vacation and sick days. So new moms can’t afford to get sick when they come back to work from having a baby 😑, so unfair.

@RedRoseSeptember22 4 жыл бұрын

Agreed! Also it should be PAID!!!

@matejaarifi4930 5 жыл бұрын

In my country we have maternity leave for one year and we still get paid. Love your vlogs, you have great husband and wonderful kids.💙💙💕

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

What country are you from?

@matejaarifi4930 5 жыл бұрын

@@drjennale Slovenia(Central Europe) 😘

@sagek7949 5 жыл бұрын

Wow!

@giebbieserah4440 5 жыл бұрын

Wow

@iwluka 5 жыл бұрын

same in Poland. You have 46weeks maternity leave , paid 80% of your salary. You can also take first 20 weeks paid 100% and decide later if you want to take another 26 weeks - than paid 60%.

@WhitneyOsei 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for keeping the authenticity of what it's really like being a mom of two! I feel like most YT's come here and portray this "superficial" life that is just not accurate with motherhood.

@DrAdnan 5 жыл бұрын

Can’t wait for the baby to grow up a bit so him and Wyatt can play together :)

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Me too! But then again I don’t want him to grow up too fast 😭 such a mix of emotions

@jaehee7196 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny you are just amazing raising two children, taking care of yourself, and being a doctor!!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I try my best to take care of myself but I will have to admit that sometimes my own health is neglected with now two young kids and a crazy work schedule.

@mrs.a4564 5 жыл бұрын

I have a 20 month old and a 2 month old. This is the first video I’ve seen that actually depicts what toddlers are really like, 👍 you have a new subscriber

@analuisadealba220 5 жыл бұрын

That lip color looks so nice on you Jenny ! Great video 😁

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks! The lip color is actually out of my comfort zone! I tend to wear nudes 😬

@jadecruz3910 5 жыл бұрын

@@drjennale can I drink coffee amd and breastfeed without give my baby gas

@ciaragibson1091 5 жыл бұрын

You are seriously one of the strongest women I have seen. Such a role model. And space buns are so freaking cute on you! Congratulations 😁😊

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I remember wearing my hair like this in middle school and the kids would call me Princess Leia

@honestinsky 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Jenny, how are you doing on this very nice summer day? Thanks so much for taking us along to share in a bit of your amazing journey. Congratulations mama, the world is in very competent hands with Wyatt and London. Love your channel. Have a very nice and peaceful day my friend, fist bump : )

@quipinman 5 жыл бұрын

You’re such a good mom and hard worker, I love you’re videos so much. A true inspiration 💓

@Carrythekingdom 5 жыл бұрын

You go momma! Love these types of videos. I have a toddler (17 mo) and am due in 3 weeks so videos like this help me realize that life will be hectic, but totally doable!

@RobinMarconeCassidyRN 5 жыл бұрын

You look absolutely wonderful Jenny! London has changed so much in just a month. Such beautiful little guys💗 I actually started nursing school when my daughters were close to London and Wyatt's ages and I remember thinking I will never get through it😄 Much respect to you❤ Thank you for sharing your world with us!💗

@oliviaharding6188 5 жыл бұрын

As someone considering going to med school, you're my inspiration! You help me see that I don't have to give up my life goals (being a mom, etc.) to go to med school!

@SheaBaby31 5 жыл бұрын

olivia harding Same! We can be doctors and have families❤️

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Yes! We need to normalize pregnancy in medicine

@suchitrannv 5 жыл бұрын

I am a mom of a five year old son and three month old daughter.. I totally relate to this video you posted.. The struggle is real. I wish the USA changes the maternity leave policy in the interest of women and for child's development. I am from India, inspite of being considered a 'third world country', I am happy that we are better than the US in this aspect..we have six months paid maternity leave. Please take good care of yourself.. Your babies are cutie pies.. Loved the vlog

@margheritabugiani9503 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry that in the US you have such bad laws for maternity leave...but you are a supermom so everything is going to be alright, keep going!!

@debbiemayo3498 5 жыл бұрын

Loved this day in the life video!! The boys are so Adorable and Wyatt seems to be a great big brother.

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

It’s was one of the things I was really worried about but Wyatt has been amazing !

@IramAlam94 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny...you were always a superwoman and man you keep getting better at it.💓 Congratulations on baby London💓

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Gotta adapt to my ever changing environment! 😬

@ellamarosvari2951 5 жыл бұрын

Your hair is seriously so cute here! You look amazing!😍 Wyatt comparing foot size with little London was so precious😭

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Their interactions are so cute! I feel sad thinking I’ll miss things like this when I start working again

@skinnietennie 5 жыл бұрын

I have two weeks left of maternity leave and have a toddler/newborn as well. This video hit so close to home!!!!!

@SheaBaby31 5 жыл бұрын

Wyatt’s speech is improving so much❤️

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I was just thinking that this morning!! He’s starting to be able to mimic what we say now

@shanelec783 Жыл бұрын

I have so much r appreciation for this video

@user-rh6di3sv1g 5 жыл бұрын

I loved this video! Thank you for sharing! I'm so proud of you! I really liked this vlog! I'm excited to see more vlogs! Love 😘

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Yay! I’m glad. I always think my life is too burning to vlog because most of the time we’re at home 😅

@abdulrahuman8636 5 жыл бұрын

u and ur hus make a great parent role model!!The perfect way of not making Wyatt feel neglected ,yet at the same time making London feel equally important is difficult!!Jenny we love ur family so much+!Loong way to go😍😍

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Wyatt has tantrums here or there but overall he’s been so good

@abdulrahuman8636 5 жыл бұрын

@@drjennale 😍😍😍Wyatt is such a cutie pie!!

@pamelagonzalez3136 5 жыл бұрын

You’re a great momma ♥️ Stan and you make such great parents ! Blessings 🌼 btw I love these types of videos!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️ it’s definitely a learning curve but it feels great

@alexandralawson9578 5 жыл бұрын

Such a cute vlog, I just have 1 22mon old boy and the struggle is real lol, you rock mama 💪🏽💛☝️

@Pathologymadesimple 5 жыл бұрын

Helloooo Jenny😍 Hope you are enjoying your motherhood again for infant baby London 😍

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Motherhood - Hardest and best thing ever 🥰

@CLON08yesi 5 жыл бұрын

You’re so impressive, goals!!

@deniserodriguez9451 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny you’re looking great! And the babies are too cute! Can’t believe how big Wyatt has gotten this last month! Or is it just me? Lol hugs and kisses to the babies :)

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I feel like he became a big kid out of no where! 😭

@maysen111 5 жыл бұрын

I just finished my mat leave. And here in Canada, as long as you work 52 weeks prior to going on mat leave, you get the whole year. Or 18 months, it's optional. Before you go on mat leave you apply for employment insurance (ei) and they pay you 55% of your income while on mat leave.

@amberlilly1899 5 жыл бұрын

Kristi B man I’m about to move to Canada 😂😂

@bwalto21 5 жыл бұрын

Wow!!!

@makeupmel23 5 жыл бұрын

I work as a RN in Canada and had to go off on disability at 31 weeks pregnant. I'm super lucky and get paid while on sick leave and yes then we get our mat leave covered through our government up to 18 months. I don't know how American families cope with such a short mat leave; especially low income families that want to breastfeed.

@kunalsingh-xu7sp 5 жыл бұрын

Congratulations and best of luck

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🥰

@PameGlezBl 5 жыл бұрын

Aww.. baby London made me Yawn When I saw him yawning ☺️☺️ Such a cutie 🥰🥰

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Me too! Haha I think it means we have empathy.

@majdak6847 5 жыл бұрын

He is so cute God Bless him.

@chiravuris 5 жыл бұрын

I'm a 3yr Internal medicine resident and I'm 23 weeks pregnant. I don't have any real maternity leave and all I have is my 3 weeks of vacation days. I can't extend my residency beyond the actual end date due to visa issues. Life of a resident!!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

That is horrible! There is no way to extend your visa?

@chiravuris 5 жыл бұрын

No, I can't..And I have a toddler too..That's why I enjoy watching your videos and how you deal with your toddler, the new born and your residency life. Let's see how mine goes!!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Shalini good luck. I hope your residency is supportive at least. I’m extending my residency for a month. I couldn’t image going back after 3 weeks 😭

@RachelSouthard 5 жыл бұрын

Your hair looks so cute in spacebuns!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks girl 👽

@liitsoi 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, more vlogs!!

@Montessoriathome_ 5 жыл бұрын

7 weeks !?! Jesus Christ that’s terrible shame on the hospital I’m a teacher and I got the 16 weeks off paid

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

A lot of the US is this way. 4 weeks of the 7 are unpaid so I can see why many moms feel like they have to go back to work so early. It’s a shame.

@tinyt79 5 жыл бұрын

Here in Canada, moms usually take 1 year mat leave. i not quite sure how many are paid or unpaid

@Montessoriathome_ 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny Le that’s insane I’m in California so the first 4 weeks are paid post maternity leave then I’m offered 12 additional weeks of baby Bonding time. It’s a shame we aren’t allowed more time with our newborns

@Montessoriathome_ 5 жыл бұрын

T Leung wow that’s amazing I hear other parts of the world do longer times

@wakeup608 5 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭 All the best

@marythang1260 5 жыл бұрын

As always, enjoyed your video! 7 weeks is short but you have to do what you have to do. At least your husband will be taking care of the kids so you won’t have to worry about them at all. I plan on taking the 12 weeks after and it will be partial pay only. And my husband will also be at home to take care of the baby and kids. 😊

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

That’s good! You need that time to bond as a family! How far along are you?

@marythang1260 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny Le I’ll be 37 weeks tomorrow!

@A_Vets_Life 5 жыл бұрын

Great video as always! 😊 I wasn't aware about maternity laws changing in 2020. Is that in Cali or the US? I am going to look into it

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I believe it applies to California.

@MJ31579 3 жыл бұрын

I'm in South Africa. I am an engineer and all the companies I have been with offer atleast 4 months fully paid leave (1 company offered 5 months paid leave with the 6th month half paid). Its not perfect for everyone but basically if you are a professional you will have access to 4 months paid maternity leave. With an option to extend with either unpaid leave or paid annual leave. It is weird to see American videos of professionals saying they have no /6 weeks paid leave. Considering America is a first world country and SA is a developing country.

@jeaninerufkahr1549 4 жыл бұрын

I’m so thankful I’m having baby #2 in California. I had my first in Alaska and maternity leave was 12 weeks unpaid (had to use my PTO/sick leave time and got a private insurance a year before we had baby for “disability” - it wasn’t much). California at least has disability coverage and paid family leave (like 50-60% of your income).

@drjennale 4 жыл бұрын

Yes!! In 2020 Washington is to have the same ... not for training residents but for all employees! so that’s good news

@YenieD13 5 жыл бұрын

My son just turned 1 month and I’m dreading going back to work in a few weeks as my maternity leave will be over soon 😭

@nicole_holding 5 жыл бұрын

In Australia we get 12 months maternity leave and the men can get paternity leave. Annual leave is 4-9 weeks depending on the job and if you do shift work. I am doing my PhD on childbirth in America at the moment (but I am Australian, my supervisor is from America) starting from the Sheppard-Towner Act in 1921 up until the present and looking at how maternal mortality in America is the worst ranked out of comparable countries and is now rising. I am specifically looking at prenatal care and whether it has any effect on maternal mortality rates.

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

That’s awesome! I would love to see what the data shows.

@LecksGetCozy 5 жыл бұрын

I’m a union RN and have the same issue...for our maternity leave we have to use up all of our sick time and vacation if we want to be paid. We can take up to 8 weeks of leave, and however much sick time and vacation doesn’t cover for, we have to take the rest unpaid. There’s some issue with getting short term disability with the way our vacation is split into vacation and sick time. I was told we will lose that? Idk, I think it’s just silly!!!

@lizs1817 5 жыл бұрын

Love your videos! I'd love to see a video on breastfeeding.. and tips, tricks, what you use to boost your supply, etc.

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I’m making a video about building a breast milk stash! Should be posted next week! I will touch on boosting milk supply in that video as well.

@tifftolley5793 5 жыл бұрын

I use vsco for editing instagram pictures so that the feed looks more cohesive! I just played around with the filters and found what I like to do the same editing for everything

@lailar3739 5 жыл бұрын

House Tour!!

@anon19800 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, we have one year mat leave in the U.K. we get full pay first three months and then half and then a quarter until 6 months, the other 6 months are unpaid.... we can also work part time during training (residency).

@anon19800 4 жыл бұрын

But then again our training years are much longer and pay isn’t that great and getting into training programmes is getting more and more competitive plus there is a shortage of doctors!

@jonajuliusdottir2849 5 жыл бұрын

As a European and from the nordic /Scandinavian country, thought Iceland is not techically Scandinavian but part of the nordic and follows rge Scandinavian welfare scheme. I guess we have it pretty good here. 9 months maternity leave and dad gets 3 and then some months they can share too. But it doesn't affect sick days or holidays. You get them as well And I am on disability due to my crhonic disease and not beeing able to work, I live now in different EU country and get my benefit and free healthcare where I live now. I ha e also as not beeing able to work been adding uni degrees and have way too many but at least keeping me active as much as I can while not beeing able to work. We also gave free uni in Iceland too

@nicoleenmashiloane914 5 жыл бұрын

U so beautiful Jenny happy one month to london

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

One month already!! I can’t believe it 😭

@mpumimg6000 5 жыл бұрын

Maternity leave in USA sounds tough to me as a South African, I'm currently on it and I get 4 months paid maternity leave, I added 1 month of my annual leave. Plus 1 month of unpaid leave, but I can claim from UIF insurance for that month. When you work is S.A you contribute to Unemployment Fund Insurance that covers you when you are of work. So I can claim from it for the month that I wont be paid. So in total I have 6 months maternity leave.

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Congratulations on your newborn! It is amazing you get to spend this time ❤️

@lvnjden4ever 5 жыл бұрын

He’s so cute!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks! 👶🏻❤️

@hassanrabat7716 5 жыл бұрын

As Canadians we are lucky omg 😮

@savannahcarlon7033 5 жыл бұрын

My secret instagram tip is just to post things that make you happy and are good representations of who you are as a person! If you love it and love scrolling through it, we will too. I use instagram as a public scrapbook and it makes me really happy to scroll through every few months and look at my favorite moments.

@clare1971 5 жыл бұрын

Definitely feel like you are so deprived in the u.s. for maternity leave compared to us in the u.k.

@alazcano61 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny congratulations on baby London!! He’s sooo freaking adorable!! I had my son Noah already! He was born at 34 weeks because they wanted to induce me (it’s a long story 😕) but he’s doing great now and will be 38 weeks tomorrow! Girlfriend, the struggle with two is so real! And I can hella relate to the brushing of the teeth 🤣 Jayden is the same way 🤦🏽‍♀️ It’s awesome you get to breastfeed!! It’s a work in progress for us. Right now I’m pumping and supplementing him with formula for the extra calories. Man, there’s so much that’s going on, but I’ll fill up this whole comment section. Lol Overall, you look amazing, Wyatt seems like a great big brother, and Stan is the MAN being so incredibly supportive! Love your family and hope all is well 💞

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness! So sorry you’re going through all that. Probably unexpected for Noah to come so early. His suck and swallow coordination is probably not fully developed yet but it’ll get there. We supplemented in the first few days with London too because my milk hadn’t come it and he was just at the boob ALL DAY! And I needed sleep lol. We still give him bottles of expressed breast milk when we’re out. No nipple confusion. Noah is going to do great!

@alazcano61 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny Le I gotta get Jayden into a school/daycare. It’s just so damn expensive! Lol Twice a week for half days is like $400-$500/month 🥴 Once Nick goes back to work it’s gonna be so hard having both boys to myself. It’s kind of easy since Noah just sleeps, but when both boys are up to eat the struggle is real. Lol I love the lip color on you too by the way!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Amanda I feel like I’m working just to pay for daycare 😭

@hajraasifsheikh6000 5 жыл бұрын

Hey Jenny you are doing a great job! I am inspired by your path to family medicine residency and would love to follow your footsteps. Can you please help me with a research project in family medicine.. I'll be grateful.

@AdingaDupie 3 жыл бұрын

You need to move to Canada where you’ll get a full year…well now they changed it to 18 months

@rhiannonkira3512 5 жыл бұрын

Wow here in New Zealand we get 22 weeks paid parental leave and you can take up to a year off (30 weeks unpaid) if you like. I couldn't imagine having a baby and not being able to stay home if you cant afford it!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, that happens fairly commonly here in the US 😪

@billiefreitas6621 5 жыл бұрын

Wow, maternity leave in residency in Brazil is 4 months and I thought it was short. Are you graduating with the rest of the residents?

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

No! 😭 4 of the 7 weeks is unpaid and I have to make it up at the end.

@iiivuliii 5 жыл бұрын

In my country (in central Europe) we get 34 weeks of maternity leave (paid) and then we can stay on parental leave (paid but just a few 100 eur) until the child is 3 years old. I am never complaining again.

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

I guess it’s not too late to move to another country ... but I do think I’m done having anymore children lol

@jessiturner164 5 жыл бұрын

Hello, Jenny! I’m a senior in high school and being a doctor specifically in women’s or family health care has been on my mind for quite a long time. What do the hours of a part time doctor look like?

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Depending on what type of part time you choose to do but usually clinic 2-3 days a week

@Marur-sw6mi 5 жыл бұрын

Can u not put phones cam tv near newborn? My pd ask us not to do so?

@emarti8580 4 жыл бұрын

Is the worse going back to work after having a baby and the maximum is 12 weeks

@IK-fg4gw 5 жыл бұрын

9:53 music?

@dancingwiththedocs134 5 жыл бұрын

Love the red lipstick!

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

This was actually out of my comfort zone! I usually only wear nudes 😬

@dancingwiththedocs134 5 жыл бұрын

@@drjennale You should definitely wear it more often.

@maikanorachai1811 5 жыл бұрын

Have you and Stan ever thought about getting a nanny? Atleast when the baby is abit older?

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

We’ve talked about getting even a sitter for date night! But I have a hard time trusting anyone especially after Wyatt’s daycare experience. Financial, we won’t be able to afford a nanny for a long time 😭

@maikanorachai1811 5 жыл бұрын

@@drjennale oh shame, but you will be able to figure it out in due time I guess one partner doing parttime/ staying home works best for now

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

maikano rachai I also don’t want to miss these early stages since they grow so fast. I can always go back to full time when the kids start school.

@shannonjohnson4314 5 жыл бұрын

I appreciate her for showing this hectic working mom lifestyle we live in the U.S. because it needs to change.

@carsonkerekes9833 5 жыл бұрын

Do you think that If someone were to wait until after graduate school or medical school to have kids that it would prevent them from getting a job because of maternity leave? I know In radiology where I’m at you have to sign a contract saying you aren’t going to have kids for two years.

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

What area are you from? I know in the US they have laws against that because it’s considered discrimination. Family medicine is in such high demand that I don’t think there will be issues. But I can’t really say for sure because I haven’t started trying to get a real job as of yet

@carsonkerekes9833 5 жыл бұрын

Jenny Le I live in West Virginia. That’s why I decided not to go into X-ray bc my friends had to agree not to have kids lol.

@nicoleenmashiloane914 5 жыл бұрын

😁😁😁😂😂😂wyet so funny

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

He has grown into his own personality and I just love it!

@chelseal9639 5 жыл бұрын

tell him you are going to use his toothbrush. I work with toddlers. Haha

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Good idea!! Everything is “Mine. Mine. Me!” Right now with him 😅

@chelseal9639 5 жыл бұрын

@@drjennale yep those are the toddler rules! Haha

@monavejdani5046 5 жыл бұрын

You are so freaking beautiful 😍🙌

@drjennale 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks 🥰 learning to love myself again after my first pregnancy. It’s definitely a journey

@monavejdani5046 5 жыл бұрын

@@drjennale ❤🙌

@mariasandrovich414 4 жыл бұрын

Wyatt is such a brat! London is really cute

@gabrielacosma3308 4 жыл бұрын

You lost me at the part you gave your toddler milk. I’m surprised that as a doctor you don’t know that milk is not necessary for a toddler, it is actually detrimental to his health. Besides that I appreciate your stamina :)