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Well done 💪💪💪😊😊😊

panduh So the Rebound/Monkey branch lasted 3 months? Also good for you.

@@Cornelius1212 I believe it's still going on. Especially when I said "I'd never give you another chance nor do I want to be your friend".

@panduh i’m trying to be like you! i was dumped/blocked/no contact ten months ago and still healing . i did nothing wrong but love this person, be loyal and gave them my all but it wasn’t enough.

Well said.

I did this .... Still missing my ex fiercely. 4 months in. She still with rebound. And she travels and they only see each other on weekends.

You handled it. That’s all you needed to do. Well done. You’re doing fine.

Have you seen her since?!

Some men love crazy p___y to them kindness and nurturing = mommy and not able to relate sexually to their loving partner On the other hand crazy usually isn’t easily had, can do without him especially if crazy is attractive in the very least - it’s just their nature - it’s exciting and hot so there’s that. they’ll go down to their ruin pursuing and wanting one more taste over and over til it’s finally impossible for whatever reason.

Much to learn we still have! 😁

I appreciate it. I’m glad I could be of some help. 😊

I agree, but here is the kicker. Who we choose to lay with is a reflection of ourselves.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Very true and I spent sometime in therapy to change my reflection…broken attracts broken so one needs to repair themselves if they want to level up. Thanks for the work you do! ❤

Thanks buddy, appreciate your support as always.

I’m sorry to hear that Timea. That’s really tough. One thing I disagree on. You’re not a victim! Victim mindset will keep you in the past. A student’s mindset will propel you forward. Be the student. 😊 I hope you feel better.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you 🙏🏻 you are correct sloppy use of words…I meant I was the one being abused.

Thank you Teresa, i hope you’re well.

My please, I hope you’re doing well.

Thank you. I hope you’re doing well.

My pleasure. I hope you’re well.

Because they have emotionally checked out from you, and they FEEL the best solution is to leave or rebound. Everyone situation is different, but most people do what they do based on their traumas and worldview. People will always do what they want to do.

I’m sorry to hear this buddy and I hear. You seem to be trying to overpower your feelings by staying super busy. Whilst staying busy is important, have just allowed yourself to be still and let your feelings out? You can’t outrun them by friend.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Believe me, I'm been feeling them pretty hard, the first four months, I' almost couldn't get out of bed, trying to move on this month, but just stading still and still crying most days, just so devasted and though I know that the relationship meant a lot to her, she's a fearful avoidant with deep fear of abandonment-trauma-wounds, it still doesn't feel like it was that important with her rebounding and that also is bittersweat because I know for a fact, that she has never done that before. After her previous relationships she always stayed single for 1½-2 years and took time to heal. And we took our time really getting to know each other and we are so compatible, mutual attraction, chemistry, intellectual, spritiual, emotion attraction, every box thicket, that is so increadibly rare. Only experienced that with the mother of my children. So losing someone like that, it feels more that I am able to bear. Which is also why I would consider reklindling the relationship, though not with out her going into both solo and couples therapy, because I know her worth and her pain and what we've shared and how much she have helped me grown as a person and how I've overcome some deep personal issued from my own childhood because of and with her by my side. Letting someone who go have meant the world to me, and I've no doubt what I've meant to her. I just saddens me immensly. Your videos is a big help, and man I hope she fits into the 80 percent crash and burn within six months.

Try not to hope your ex fits into the 80%. That’s your ego talking and it will only hold you back. Make investments in yourself, not your ego.

@@Cornelius1212 may I ask why you broke up? It sounds like you two were such a good match that I'm failing to see what went wrong.

@@getgot3461 My ex is a Fearful avoidant, meaning she has tremendous internal wounds from a traumatic childhood. Her mother is a paranoid schizophrenic her sister was diagnosed with PTSD while we were together, obviously because of the childhood. The FA is characterised by deep subconscious feelings a shame, worthlessness, self-hatred, self loathing, low self asteem, thinking that they are not worthy of love, that they will eventually be abandoned, deep feelings of mistrust because of multiple betrays as a kid, they all suffer from deep fears of abandoment and betrayal. And so the more my ex loves me, the more afraid she is of loosing me, her doomsdays inner voice tells that it’s only a matter of time before I leave her, see her “true flawed self” and thus don’t want to be with her, before I’m unfaithful etc. and so to protect herself, if she gets triggered she pushed away as a subconscious self-protecting coping mechanism. It’s hell for her and hell for me, and though I’ve tried and given everything it’s not been enough. So she shut down once more over something miniscule, and this time I wasn’t able to reconnect and she rebounded. I’ve since talked with one of her friends and everything she’s done after our breakup she never done before. Before she’s always been single for 1½-2 years to work on herself. And we were together for more than a year before we told her and my kids about us and going public on facebook. She done a 100 percent reversal of everything previous and the rebound is the polar opposite of me. A cop, bald, no beard whereas I’ve got long hair, big beard which she loves and have a masters in English and History and gives University lectures about history and art etc. Before people say, never take a rebound back. Well, 20 years ago, I left my the girlfriend, because of a classic grass-is-grenner/rebound, wasn’t really looking but found someone the polar opposite of my ex, we connected and then it burned itself out, she had to go back to Chile, I was really sad but also I knew that it had run its course and she made me value my Ex like never before. I saw her once more why I had originally pursued her and wanted her. Luckily my ex still had feelings for me and 8 months after our breakup we were back together. We had 13 years together after that, had to wonderful kids and today we are still very close. So nothing is ever as black and white as it seems.

Thanks for your comment Vincent. I hope you’re doing well.

Appreciate your comment. I’ve been to Oregon. Great place 😊 Stay strong 💪💪💪

Appreciate your comment Adam. Stay strong brother 💪💪💪

@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you mate. Hopefully have a success story at some point but I'm open to meeting somebody new. I've reached that serene point where I'm happy if I have her and happy if I don't. It's such a peaceful, sublime feeling.

You already have success story, you just need to change/redefine what success means to you.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick well this is my year to shine so we'll see what success looks like once I've done battering 2023. 💪😁 Thanks mate! You're very insightful.

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Sounds like he did you a favour. 🫂

"buckle up sister" - you're funny! 😂

Any update? 😊

@@mitnavn78 they did get married and she was immediately pregnant! 😆 The reason I knew that is I would occasionally stalk. But it does nothing but hurt your own feelings. I got told by one expert- “ turn off the narcissist’s tv!” Absolutely true. You cannot heal by watching it. That marriage is going to hell, coz he’s a liar and a cheater. I’ve blocked him and all people associated with him, but I’m sure a couple of years down the track I’ll hear something somewhere.

@LG-ly7pw any updates?

What I say in the video is general advice. It can’t account for outliers. If your ex rebounded and they’re still together 3 years later, then it probably wasn’t a rebound and a genuine “I’ve moved on”. I know it’s harsh, but it’s to let it go if it’s been 3 years. I hope you feel better.

There is a strong possibility you were the rebound, but you will never know for sure. All you can do is focus on you and your healing, I hope you feel better.

That was also my question.

I’m sorry to hear that buddy. What can you do? Move out as soon as you can. Or get her to move if possible.

I hear you man but you must stop reaching out. Give her the breakup and focus on your healing. It’s super painful, I know, but why invest in someone who doesn’t invest in you?

D C. I have no words! I cannot imagine what you must be going through, and i am so sorry you’re going through this. Buddy, you’ve got a war on your hands so you must focus your resources. 100% focus on you and beat the cancer. Let your ex do what she wants to do, because that is no longer your monkey. Go check out a channel called the Daily Stoic. Stoic philosophy has helped me so much and i think it could help you.

Hows it going now?

I’m surviving. I’m still here. Still fighting.

@@DC-wx2iz im happy to hear 😄 you seem like a strong person 💯

May God bless you 🙏

Sounds like you’re doing well bud. What do you think is the final piece of the puzzle for you? After 3 years, seems like you’re still holding on to something.

Pain is an excellent teacher for your improvement. Stay strong ♥️

Yeah but will he listen to her, empathise, respect her, ask about her dreams and aspirations, build a strong emotional connection with her, validate her and love her the way she needs to be loved. You might own a hundred houses and all the Ferraris under the sun, fixing the issues that crippled your relationship in the first place are more important than all your material goods and wealth. You might not be a better man than him in your ex’s eyes, how’d you fuck it up? Fix that. You have all those things you listed and she still left you.

@@norswil8763 I treated her good. I guess just took her for granted. Always made her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. We had a lot of stresses last couple years. With an ex wife and kids and it became too much for her and instead of working on things earlier I procrastinated and tried at the end. Too late. She said she still loved and missed me recently but she is involved with the rebound. This guy though is very unstable in life. Lots of ups and downs. Drug issues and such. I don't see it lasting. He is being nice now because he only sees on her weekends and it's easy to be nice when you see them on weekends so you can get laid.

Eric, women leave when they don’t feel heard and or emotionally safe.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick exactly what happened. Emotional attraction fell. Physical attraction never fell. 2 weeks later after breakup she came back to my house asking for sex. I didn't do it. Never saw her again even though that night she said she would think about giving us another chance. Haven't seen her in person since. It's been 4 months since I've laid eyes on her. Brutal. It feels like she died. The pain never seems to get better. I reach over in my bed at night when I wake up to see if she is there. Or I can see her laying in bed. It's awful. I can't imagine he doesn't sometimes think of us being together. She told me 2 weeks ago on the phone she missed me. It was easier for her being the dumper obviously and the rebound has helped her move on. But if you are happy in the rebound why are you telling me you missed me and spending an hour on the phone with me and talking about our relationship good and bad.

A monkey branch is when they had someone lined up to replace you before dumping you. Essentially swinging from one branch to another, overlapping the relationships.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick we didn't know, maybe they left you because of that guy

Who’s we? And why are you saying “you” I wasn’t monkey branched.

I'm referring to myself, I'm sorry

Possible? Yes, but highly unlikely. Good sex only goes so far.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I’m disgusted to be honest brother 8 years I spent with her . And after 4 months she’s in another relationship. I’m broken brother completely. It’s devastating it really is.

Yeah man I hear you. That’s hard to deal with. I try to look at it this way. It’s a reflection of them, not a reflection of them leaving. Now you can ask yourself, why would I want someone like that? I can and will do better. It takes time. Be kind to yourself.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I broke no contact because I recently found out my father has prostate cancer and I emailed her . No response nice huh? Thanks for your words my friend it’s hard . Life ain’t easy . But I guess god has a plan for me

They chose to rebound or monkey branch to a rebound person. It proves that they were unconsciously comparing their partners to someone else, they couldn’t even control the comparisons. Plus, if their friends always told them about their “opinions”, something like “you deserve better” “that person is better than your current partner”, their comparisons could be harder which would force them to make a decision. This state of mind will remain in their rebound relationships, unless they will be aware of it by themselves, they will try to ignore many of those friends “advices”, learn how to deal with problems in relationships. Just don’t expect them to be aware of it so soon. Focus on yourselves, if they do comeback, don’t just take them back, they must prove to you, they have been aware of their own shortcomings, they have changed/improved, and they’re 100% sure, they wanna work things out with you, unlike the last time, then you can think about if you can trust them again, and if they’re truly the one for you. Even if they don’t comeback, you will meet someone even better after you become a better version of you, you will just appreciate them and the experience with them, bcuz their decisions, the pain and trauma they left for you were the best motivation for you to become better, and will eventually meet someone who is truly the one for you.

He also said he appreciates her and he doesn’t want to hurt her, he said she’s putting so much effort into him.. and she already said I love you after 1 month. That’s just crazy and it causes me so much pain.

Honestly? This guys sounds like an arse hole and your should focus on you, your healing, leaving him where belongs. On the streets.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick he is really not, I have been with assh*les and this guy is really just soooo scared of the pain I caused him.. because I also went on dates after he broke up. So you think there’s no hope?😂

He broke up with you and now he’s hurt because you dated other men? He is 100% an arse hole if that is the case.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick But he broke up cause he’s a fearful avoidant who was so scared of ME leaving HIM. So it was really out of fear, I know he deeply loved me..

Yes. A rebound is an emotional response.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick ok that’s good to know. Always thought it was one sided. Awesome videos by the way.

@@kozmocramer24update?

Can you clarify, i am not sure i understand your question?

i was the dumpee when my ex gf was freshly divorced. ended up not only being dumped as the rebound but she rebounded with another person two months after dumping me. Is it possible to do a video on serial monagamy? Not sure if others have experienced this but your knowledge would be greatly appreciated, thank you and love your channel!💯

I think one of my recent videos explains the mechanisms behind it, quite effectively. Serial monogamy is nothing more than dopamine chasing. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/p7lzo7OVxt-0e6c.html

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you once again!

Sociopaths play with a different rule book, so this video probably doesn’t apply. How do you know he is a sociopath?

@TheLoveFix-Nick I'm sure about he , being a dismissive avoidant. And he is extremely introvert. but as I analyzed his behaviour I noticed that he was actually afraid of being in social occasions. or in the streets, he was afraid to be recognised by others.he constantly said he hates the system and society. The only doubt I have is because he wasn't empty of sympathy. He was kind and caring... I miss him, mostly because I've came to realise that I made him run by being anxious but now he is in a random rebound. What can I do?

Sociopathy, is a mental health condition in which a person consistently shows no regard for right and wrong and ignores the rights and feelings of others. Your definition of him rules him out as a sociopath. Also my friend, unless he has been diagnosed by a mental health professional, it’s fair of healthy to diagnose other people. For me, the best to handle this is to reframe it. “ he is who he is, he did what did, he said what he said. I have no control over that”

I’m sorry to hear that 🙁

A rebound isn’t a measure of time, it’s a measure of emotion. But yeah, highly unlikely to be a rebound.

It tells me you’re living rent free in their head! That’s their problem, not yours. Smile, laugh and go about your healing journey. 😊