Dumper Rebound Experience (Podcast 303)

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Vincent Bos

Vincent Bos

3 жыл бұрын

What is the likely experience that a dumper will go though, if they jump into a rebound relationship after a breakup.
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@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
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@fabian_2323
@fabian_2323 3 жыл бұрын
Very true. I stopped stalking, but my friends will still tell me things about my ex without me asking lol.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
They always do lol. All you can do is make sure that you don't stalk
@nameavailable987
@nameavailable987 Жыл бұрын
My rebound lasted over a year and we still made a real connection but I still understood and recognized it was a rebound. Just because it turns into a genuine connection doesn’t mean it wasn’t a rebound relationship bc now that it’s over it’s ticking a lot of boxes and there were moments where I thought yeah maybe this isn’t what I want but we had a connection the timing just wasn’t right.
@captainkaveh1
@captainkaveh1 Жыл бұрын
Why on earth i have to take back my EX that dumped me and slept with some one else and comes back after a year!!!!???? She should take the pain and experience all of it with all cells in her body.
@1337ington
@1337ington 3 жыл бұрын
My ex was unhappy for many months and then made friends with a co-worker. Then went on a date with him and broke up with me two days after. They were exchanging "I love you"s with each other over the phone in front of me before I was moved out 10 days after the breakup. It's been 3 months so it was a combo of rebound, monkey branch, and grass is greener. They have moved fast, he is completely opposite of me, all people I've told about the situation think it's really bizarre/messed up and it's very unhealthy (they spend 12 hrs on phone together daily, work the same shift, and spend their entire weekend together).
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story 1337. It sounds a very challenging situation and maintaining a stable mindset must be difficult, but I know you can do it. Keep moving forward and you will come out the other side of the tunnel into happiness.
@jairamramadas9117
@jairamramadas9117 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos do u think situation like this can turn into a long term relationship?
@DiLLyi
@DiLLyi 2 жыл бұрын
any updates?
@samjanson7456
@samjanson7456 Жыл бұрын
Any update on your ex and her coworker?
@joemluv
@joemluv Жыл бұрын
Any updates?
@finalyfreeworld
@finalyfreeworld 2 жыл бұрын
This video is spot on. My dumper ex gf broke up with me after 3 years of relationship. She had her rebound moved in with her within 3 months and got engaged. I found out they are getting married now. She reached out after getting engaged telling me how she still misses me and how her rebound doesn’t giver the goose bumps like how she used to get with me. She wanted to meet me but then changed her mind. Her hot and cold behavior really put on on emotional roller coaster. I told her o oh reach out when she knows what she wants in her life. She started to gas light me how pissed she would be if I get married soon with someone and angry if I become a father of a child. From now on I’m never answering her calls. Can’t give her that anxiety releasing remedy by always answering her calls.
@TinfoilHatGirl
@TinfoilHatGirl Жыл бұрын
Any update? You sound cool I hope you moved on and didn't give her a second chance in case she blew off the marriage
@finalyfreeworld
@finalyfreeworld Жыл бұрын
@@TinfoilHatGirl Thank you. She came to see me. We talked but she was still confused. I texted her after a few weeks of meeting that she should move on as I’m too. If you love someone, you shouldn’t be confused. I wished her luck as she is married now, living in another state and having a baby. I have no hard feelings, and I’m happy for her and myself that we were able to move on.
@mimiescyberandstockcorner-4975
@mimiescyberandstockcorner-4975 7 ай бұрын
I want to be emotional where you are so bad but right now, I feel like I lost my other half, I am so heartbroken and in a lot of pain and feeling super depressed. My guy was confused like your ex and it's taking me longer to process things
@elliotwolf2276
@elliotwolf2276 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Vincent I needed more information on this topic. Great video!
@elliotwolf2276
@elliotwolf2276 3 жыл бұрын
And yes I feel like my ex is in a rebound but only time will tell, been close to probably 3 months that they’ve been together
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Thank you very much
@christopherdriver9369
@christopherdriver9369 Жыл бұрын
I dated my ex for 2 years and 2 months. We moved in together after a year of dating. I helped her through numerous hardships and her daughter saw me as a father. 2 months after our breakup, she was dating a new guy and planning to move in with him after 2 more months. He is about a year into divorce proceedings with his ex. She is moving her daughter in with this guy. Their relationship is moving at the speed of light. It's just so jarring. It took me about 5 months to get comfortable with dating again. However, after a couple girls that didn't seem like good fits, I found a girl I vibe with really well. I don't know if things will work out, but I'm cautiously optimistic.
@georgespangler1517
@georgespangler1517 2 жыл бұрын
Is no time limit, can be years if it's the first person after a long term relationship and still be a rebound.
@StarsStars714
@StarsStars714 2 жыл бұрын
This was so good.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Star. How are you today?
@StarsStars714
@StarsStars714 2 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos I'm hanging in there with no contact. Some days are easier than others, but it's tough. Staying focused on me and my goals through it all though.
@TheSoundofTanay
@TheSoundofTanay 3 жыл бұрын
Hi, I happen to be the “dumper”. I had a relationship of close to 3.5 years. However, I was unhappy with her but since this was my first girlfriend/attachment we stayed together for a long time. When we ended things, I met someone and we clicked instantly. But slowly memories from the past (and longing) started hitting me. That’s when I realised this might be a rebound situation. However, I cut off all ties from my ex and focused on this new relationship. I got attached to her and got to know all about her. We did see a future together. It’s been 7 months with her now but I still struggle with past stuff/healing. I saw how she feels insecure about my past and we often argue about it. That’s when I knew I should take a break and heal properly. In my heart… I do want to go back to her and restart what we have. I don’t want to go back to my first ex because I knew she was quite toxic for me. This one however, has a heart of gold. Not sure what to do.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Tanay, this sounds like a classic rebound situation, with you considering ending the relationship after 7 months. I don't believe there is such thing as a 'break'. I believe all 'breaks' are gentle breakups. The reason is because you can't ask someone to wait for you as you heal, because that is both unfair to you and them. If you don't feel able to proceed with this relationship, then unfortunately your only option is to end the relationship.
@TheSoundofTanay
@TheSoundofTanay 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos it’s honestly such a struggle. I keep thinking about her, wanting hard to be ‘ready’ to give her my all. It doesn’t help that we both are already so attracted and attached to each other. Are there really no stories of people who make it work in the long run?
@KrystalKlearlyRides
@KrystalKlearlyRides 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheSoundofTanay I think what he saying is by ending the relationship you should then work on yourself. Over time you should focus on your happiness and your goals. When feel ready and you feel that your heart has had time to heal and you’ve grown as a person then reach out to her. If she is still available then it will have a higher chance of success. But if you’ve done all that and she’s not available anymore then you have your answer. But putting her through the emotional agony of you still being in love or getting over your ex isn’t fair to her. Basically you’re emotionally unavailable and you’ve attached onto someone new to dull your pain. A breakup is much like a drug detox… unfortunately the only way to really deal with it is to go through it day by day.
@MonaLisaFace
@MonaLisaFace Жыл бұрын
@@TheSoundofTanay how are things now? Been a year.
@TheSoundofTanay
@TheSoundofTanay Жыл бұрын
@@MonaLisaFace things were much better after getting out of the rebound situation. I had to take up the courage to end things and she understood. I was alone for a while, then met someone truly brilliant. We became friends, and over the course of 7 months developed a good friendship. We’re together now, and it’s the best relationship I’ve been in.
@QUINTUSMAXIMUS
@QUINTUSMAXIMUS 2 жыл бұрын
She definitely is because she started formally dating him right after we broke up. Of course, I understand that it could be long-term or not for them.
@kalstkim1254
@kalstkim1254 3 жыл бұрын
LOL, i worry about the "people you may know" category.
@PRC420
@PRC420 2 жыл бұрын
My ex is in a rebound relationship, she has been reaching out to me! She says that her new man is a hopeless lover and she can't stop thinking about me, I was in no contact for about a month before she reached out to me!
@gillianbarker2663
@gillianbarker2663 Жыл бұрын
Look Lloyd's
@JejinGJ
@JejinGJ 2 жыл бұрын
I was in long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years, she dumped me few weeks ago and she moved in already with a new guy within 7 days of meeting new guy. Is it because i was always far and this new guy is physically available with her? Is this still a rebound? Or she will feel everything in real life now than virtual which was happening between us because of long distance and this will not be a rebound for her?
@krisg2640
@krisg2640 2 жыл бұрын
What if he went bk to his ex? had her waiting so he wouldnt have to be alone when he dumped me?.. is that still classified as a rebound? We were together for 2 yrs.. he was with her 3 yrs ago!
@fringeelements5744
@fringeelements5744 3 жыл бұрын
My ex is in a 'rebound' but not a 'rebound relationship', she is infatuated with someone who doesn't like her back, really bizzare situation
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Fringe, the important thing right now is to focus on your own journey.
@fringeelements5744
@fringeelements5744 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos Thanks I will
@rickcope3226
@rickcope3226 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos what if the rebound looks like her ex
@timmy5948
@timmy5948 5 ай бұрын
Currently living with an ex who I believe is in a rebound. He's total opposite of me. She pulls away whenever she's having too much fun with me. It's been 6 months since the separation. 2 since she jumped into another relationship. We were together 12 years.
@laurah.7696
@laurah.7696 Жыл бұрын
We were friends for 3 years and then together for 7 years. I heard he is seeing someone shortly after he dumped me. We are both over 50. It is now almost 5 months ago. I have not heard from him since he dumped me and I texted just twice.
@elliotwolf2276
@elliotwolf2276 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Vincent, hope you are doing well. I don’t know if you have touched on this in other podcasts but possibly you could make a video and touch on how to maintain a healthy relationship and keep those romantic emotional attraction levels high while in one. I know you have touched on factors that cause it to dip. Just a thought. Thanks!
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Elliot, thanks for the great idea! I will add it to my list
@thatcherschild
@thatcherschild 3 жыл бұрын
My ex married dumped me three times in a year via ghosting. I knew she was seeing someone. She said she wanted to get back but after about five months on the phone with her I decided I couldn’t trust her when I finished with her she was calling a lot then she called saying she was back in the uk and wanted to catch up then I saw she got married a few months later. I wouldn’t advise going backwards when you can move forward if a woman wants you she would never leave.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Keep moving forward and you will find new happiness sooner.
@MonaLisaFace
@MonaLisaFace Жыл бұрын
Not always. I dumped my ex because he was showing red flags for being a narcissist but that doesn’t mean I didn’t love him. We were on and off for a little while after and he future faked me with promises of getting better, and used me for sex. Got a new girl a few months after he just blocked me. I actually still care for him even tho technically I ended it first. Sometimes people have a war with their heart and their head… I know that I did. If he had come back to me serious about treating me well I never would have left again.
@leonardocamargo4346
@leonardocamargo4346 3 жыл бұрын
My ex started dating the new guy 1 month after our break up from a 18 months relationship. 4 weeks into the relationship they made facebook official. Probably a huge red flag
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like a red flag to me Leonardo
@Lexo593
@Lexo593 3 ай бұрын
Together 2.5years, unfortunately I neglected her towards the end, I offered to change but she didn’t wanna try. She started going out with someone almost 3 months after we broke up. She’s now posting pictures of them, Is it a rebound?
@paolanamuncura8879
@paolanamuncura8879 3 жыл бұрын
Hi. What if the rebound had always been on his life and they were coworkers for the past 3 years, do these principles still apply?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Paola, If your ex knew his rebound through work, then they might know each other a little better than a random online meet. However, they only know each other within a work dynamic and they are unlikely to have got to know each other too deeply through this.
@paolanamuncura8879
@paolanamuncura8879 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos thank you!❤
@user-vs9qy3sg1l
@user-vs9qy3sg1l 10 ай бұрын
My ex started dating a guy 3 weeks after dumping me a week later I saw her at a party and and caught her staring at me several time while with her new boyfriend what could she be thinking
@janedavis3110
@janedavis3110 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I do
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jane, how are you feeling today?
@jonathanselva1610
@jonathanselva1610 3 жыл бұрын
I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years I had visited her 4x. We were doing good until she met this guy in her college and in less than a week of knowing him she dumped me for him and they were already dating 5 days after our breakup and made it official on social media 3 weeks after. I've been so depressed and lost my eating habits. I never felt so insecure, betrayed and disillusioned before... do you think they will last?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jonathan, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Please make sure you speak with your friends and family about your feelings. If you feel depressed, it's vital you speak with a local doctor as well. There is no way of knowing for certain how long a relationship may or may not last. However, long-distance relationships rarely last forever and this is because they need a closing of space, to become short-distance relationships. The pain and confusion you feel are only temporary and you will get through this difficult time in your life. You have a fantastic, exciting future ahead of you, but this might be with someone who lives closer to you, rather than your ex. I suggest you try and make new local connections, whilst talking through your feelings with your friends, family and doctor if necessary. With or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
@mayy5160
@mayy5160 2 жыл бұрын
Any updates?
@purplenightmare29
@purplenightmare29 3 жыл бұрын
My ex fiancé of 5 1/2 yrs married a girl 2 months after she left me, she dated this girl in the past for 6 months and she lived across the country at the time of our breakup. A month after their “marriage” they moved into the apartment behind mine. Theyve been there 5 months now. My ex has reached out a few times but about our pets and regarding a dream she had of my mom who passed away a month after they moved in together. Idk what to think of all this psychologically.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear of the difficult situation you are experiencing. My suggestion is to focus on what we know for certain. Sadly, the one thing we know for certain is that your ex is in a relationship with someone else currently. For this reason, I believe you should focus on your own journey moving forward.
@jaymie8082
@jaymie8082 Жыл бұрын
🥶 what a 🤪 And they call us crazy 😂😂😂 imo. She been punched in the head way too much already 💯 👊👊👊 💥 🤣. She is Not worth another one. Let her wife punch her 😇🙏🥰
@shawntee.8461
@shawntee.8461 2 жыл бұрын
What if she's in a rebound relationship and has been hot and cold, she has been contacting me, sometimes it's a breadcrumb and sometimes the conversation scalates and starts saying that she misses me and even tries to pull back to "not cheat emotionally on the guy".
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
Hello Shawn and DTM, thanks for your comments. If your ex contacts you when they're in a new relationship, it shows they are interested in you in some respect. Is this platonic or romantic? Only time will tell and sometimes this can be judged via the type of contact they gave you. The important thing is that you live your life. There is no guarantee this contact will lead to you reconnecting and hence you can't 'wait'. If you can live your life, then that's OK, but if you struggle to move forward, then you might want to consider asking them only to contact you if they are single.
@ryandavis7954
@ryandavis7954 2 жыл бұрын
I believe my ex gf is in a rebound. We were together 3 years. She called late a few days ago. I answered n she hung up
@Introverted_Batman
@Introverted_Batman 3 жыл бұрын
I was in a relationship with a girl for a year and then I cheated on her by talking to another girl on social media she get to know about it and got very upset but I apologized but that happened again and due to repetitive behavior she felt betrayed and got very angry cursed me a lot and got into a relationship with a another guy on the same day of breakup... I apologized 3-4 times and then started no contact then she contacted me after one mother about her medicine and then after talking for a week she blocked me again stating that she is happy with her new relationship and doesn't want me to bother her... I then contacted her on her birthday she seemed cold and mean... So I started no contact again... Now it's been 3 months of no contact... Should I contact her in near future or not???
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Motivation. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I don't think you should ever contact your ex again, unless she contacts you first.
@exocharms2166
@exocharms2166 3 жыл бұрын
My ex and I dated for 1 year and 3 months... he was my first love and I was his. I honestly thought we had a great relationship with a few flaws here and there, but they could be worked out. We always made up when we argued, but not this time... we broke up because I was mad at him for giving me the silent treatment and for not actually talking with me, so I asked him if he wanted to break up and he said yes. Due to the heat of the moment, I agreed and walked away. I needed to cool down... After I did, I tried coming back to talk things out with him, but he kept saying we were done and that he doesn’t love me anymore... Later I found out that he started talking to his childhood friend and jumped into a relationship with her the same week we broke up... I had never heard of her. How could he have moved on so fast? They started saying I love you and posting on social media within 1-2 months of their relationship. It’s been 7 months now and they are still together. Is this considered a rebound?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi exocharms, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Rather than considering dating labels, the important thing right now is to focus on your own journey moving forward. If you do this, then you will find happiness, with or without your ex.
@loriocruz8702
@loriocruz8702 2 жыл бұрын
@@aong7122 i know its easy to say this but for real we all need to move forward for our self , for our family who love us and believe us .. its been 3 weeks for me since we broke up , i got mad and hated him so bad .. why? he choose his sex partner(i think rebound) than me as his girlfriend lol it really hurt like i dont want to go outside ,like i cant walk all i can do is to cry , thats how it hurts. but in my mind i have to move on .. and trying every single day to accept that he is not coming back or if he comes back one day i set my mind that im not gonna stock in my past ..i will grow and be a better person ,. so in 3 months from now i know im gonna heal . i still cry when i want to. but i know one day im going to be ok :)
@joemluv
@joemluv Жыл бұрын
Are they still together?
@josselin3393
@josselin3393 3 жыл бұрын
I believe more and more I was her rebound. She was never physically attracted but I came after she got dumped by a friend of mine and was very nice to her. After 2 weeks she was proposing vacation away in Italy. 10 months and 3 break up later she moved on fast to new guy. And they went after few weeks in vacation in Italy... is a rebound of a rebound possible? Or she is really into the guy and was never into me? Sad thing is that even know I am obsessed by her while she is sleeping with a different guy... how to move on?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear your pain. Your ex seems to be moving from relationship to relationship quickly. There is a chance that she has a monkey branching personality. Instead of focusing on dating labels, the best advice I can give is to use this energy to concentrate on your own journey and always looking forwards.
@josselin3393
@josselin3393 3 жыл бұрын
Vincent Bos I know but how can I manage to not think about her all the time? I wish I did not. I wish I also did not want her back. But cannot help thinking about her even if I know she sleeps all nights in the arms of another one :(
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
@@josselin3393 this is the challenge every dumpee has and you will get through this. Spend your time speaking with friends, family and having new experiences.
@a.d.b535
@a.d.b535 Ай бұрын
Was I the rebound? Hes still in contact with his ex GF 2 years later.
@jacquelineburns4386
@jacquelineburns4386 3 жыл бұрын
I believe my ex is in rebound. Definitely. But he has poor judgment.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jacqueline, thank you for your comment. How are you feeling?
@hecticsheff1
@hecticsheff1 Жыл бұрын
We was together 2 years she split i saw this guy was in the picture before I left 2 weeks after us they was on dates 1 month after us they are official online? Red flag?
@user-vs9qy3sg1l
@user-vs9qy3sg1l 10 ай бұрын
Will my ex girlfriend forget all the good memories and moments we shared even if she is in a rebound
@koleclement9899
@koleclement9899 7 ай бұрын
what if they were friends for 10 years in the same social circle?
@farhanmahmudneloy4497
@farhanmahmudneloy4497 3 жыл бұрын
Hello, Me and My ex girlfriend were in a relationship for last 7 years. She broke up with me showing reason such as i didn't give her time, care, importance, respect. I begged and pleaded a lot for 2 weeks. Then she blocked me on everything. Now its been 2 months i am in your no contact version. I am still blocked everywhere. Can i get back her, is it possible? Hopeless or is there any chance? Help me.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Farhan, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back, and getting an ex back from a blocking is hard, but not impossible. If you are able to get her back then it's likely to be a long journey. I don't want you 'waiting' for this to happen, because 1) It might never happen and 2) Your chances of getting your ex back actually increase if you start 'living' your life to the full. Continue to use my version of NC and go through self-improvement every single day. That is the starting point. With or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
@farhanmahmudneloy4497
@farhanmahmudneloy4497 3 жыл бұрын
One thing more, she Daily share sad quotes like she is very hurt in facebook. She is likely living happy. Sharing photos, makeups. But i want to get her back. I already lost 50 pounds. Having tour, hanging out with friends. Should i reach out or leave her alone!
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
@@farhanmahmudneloy4497 there is no 100% guaranteed way or system to get your ex back. Your best chance of success is based around you never contacting your ex again, unless she contacts you first. Based on this, my suggestion is you don't reach out to her.
@farhanmahmudneloy4497
@farhanmahmudneloy4497 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos i got you clearly. I will never Reach out first but one last question we had a lot of good memories, fun, dates and everything. Will she forgot all those?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
@@farhanmahmudneloy4497 thank you. I think the best way for me to answer your question is to link you to a video which will explain this in better detail - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/n7p8mrufz7CYc3k.html
@dominiccampana7385
@dominiccampana7385 3 жыл бұрын
What if my ex blocked me while I’m in no contact and I never once reached out during it and never made mistakes with it. She almost immediately got in a rebound after our 1 year long relationship. She was madly in love with me till corona happened and I became needy and a bit rude at times :/ she broke up with me in May and I begged and pleaded for a while and continued to talk to her until beginning of October. Ever since October I’ve finally worked on myself a bit and still am, but I would post good photos of my friends and I, and even though she didn’t follow me on insta, she would search up my name and like my posts. Eventually she blocked me on Snapchat and Instagram and I still haven’t tried to get ahold of her by text or anything. Why do you think she blocked me, and do you think it’s possible for her rebound relationship to fail and for her to realize her mistake ?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Dominic, thank you for your question and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. There is no way of knowing for sure why your ex has blocked you, but what we can take from this action is that currently she doesn't want to communicate with you. This doesn't mean that her mindset will always be like this, but currently this is the situation. The future is unknown, but what I can say, is that I know of many instances where dumpers have unblocked their ex and reached out, so this is possible, although nothing can be guaranteed. When blocked, it's important to respect the blocking and not try and find a way to 'cheat' and make contact another way. My suggestion is to try and focus on your own journey and move forward with your life with positivity.
@dominiccampana7385
@dominiccampana7385 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos thank you. I do feel like she wanted me to continue to reach out and she got upset, and maybe that’s why she blocked me. I’m not sure, but I will try and move on with my life
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
@@dominiccampana7385 you will get through this difficult tunnel in your life. keep moving forward and you will get through the other side into the light and happiness.
@ruelanguabez2965
@ruelanguabez2965 3 жыл бұрын
same experience here.
@dominiccampana7385
@dominiccampana7385 3 жыл бұрын
@@ruelanguabez2965 pretty rough isn’t it
@mcstark4912
@mcstark4912 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Vincent I really hope you would take time to read and answer this. Me and my ex were childhood sweethearts on and off for 19yrs but it's bec we were too young back then so this last time we got back we moved in together with her only son. We were happy and of course the road is not always smooth and so our rel became toxic but we know we really loved each other and I never cheated, they were always my priority and I did everything to provide and make her happy. 3mos ago her son (15yrs old) died then after more than a month she broke up with me. I moved out of our apartment after this she was always texting me and misses me a lot but bec I was hurt I became distant and casual but she knew I still love her. Then I was shocked to find out she posted in fb that she is in a relationship with a person she just met a less than a month. I was so confused how could someone who loss her child, didn't even grieve and even left her son's ashes and urn with me and now is too much enjoying and is sayong she in inlove with a person she just met.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi MC, thank you for your comment and I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. It is a heartbreaking story for everyone involved. My thoughts are that your ex is doing everything she can to escape the reality of her pain. This new relationship certainly seems to be built on rebound foundations as she tries to struggle through the terrible grief.
@mcstark4912
@mcstark4912 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos Can't believe you replied. Right now she is posting their love all over fb, I forgot to mention that this new guy she met is thru her cousin which is really the girl he is seeing, but when the cousin introduced the guy to her he jumped right at her. Now I asked her to unfriend all my relatives and close friends I also informed her that I would blocked her in fb and IG and also on text and call. Then I sent her a very long msge stating all truth that they would enjoy the fruits of my labor the house and the bed which I picked for us. I told her I'am not mad but very hurt. Then she did not reply and instead she blocked me first on text msge. Our son's ashes still with me and I'am all alone and sad while she is being happy with the person she met 3wks ago.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi MC, it's very important you talk things through with people. Talk with your family and your friends. If you feel depressed, please contact a local doctor and speak to them about your feelings as well. The one person you shouldn't contact is your ex. Never contact your ex again, unless she contacts you first. You are going through a dark tunnel, but if you keep moving forward you will come through the other side into the light of happiness. Keep moving forward.
@jaymie8082
@jaymie8082 Жыл бұрын
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@02314066
@02314066 2 жыл бұрын
What if my ex was in a 5 year relationship, she ended it because she found out her ex was cheating for 3 out of 5.. she dated 2 people before me , then we got together clicked instantly was telling eachother we love eachother was together 9 months met families and had plans for future , she had mututal friends with ex and saw him on a weekend away with friends and dumped me the next day saying she was unnatracted to me , she hasn't admitted going back to the ex but I have seen them out with eachother on other people's Instagram stories, why do you think she hasn't admitted it to me?... The girl was adoment she didn't want to go back to him but it was the first time they saw eachother since a year of splitting up .. I guess feelings have came back and he said some stuff to her to make her believe him or whatever ... We had never argued and we have both been saying how much we have been getting along .. whats do you think she is going to go through ... Bear in mind I have treated her like a queen since I met her and never done a single thing wrong and we have never argued ... I feel it is a decision she has made with her heart rather than head ... How long do you think it will take before she starts comaparing how better she was getting treated with me to her ex?
@02314066
@02314066 2 жыл бұрын
Can I add we was basically with eeachother daily for nearly 9 months due to Corona .. so we was in eachothers company a very long time and we never argued or felt like we had to go spend some time alone due to us bugging eachgoher .. no arguements or no biccering and we just wanted to see eachother all time too ..
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. The first thing we need to consider is that you were a rebound for your ex. The second thing to consider is although you didn't argue, was there magic within your relationship? It seems as though your ex lost romantic feelings towards the end and was possibly feeling more of a friendly vibe? How are you feeling today?
@02314066
@02314066 2 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos hi I'm feeling better... Yeah it was really special .. not even me just saying that to make my self better ... It's a strange one ... 9 months Vs 5 years though it's a tough one...
@02314066
@02314066 2 жыл бұрын
Hi bit of a update , my ex and her ex have called it off .... I still haven't reached out for over 2 weeks .. we really had a really special relationship no arguements and we was both telling eachother how good it was , the magic as you say was defo there ... What stage do you think she will be in now considering she left me on a rushed decicion within 24hrs of seeing her ex and ending it with me , obvs she has done whatever she done with her ex and one of them have called it off , do you think she will reach out even though it will be really embarrassing for her to do so considering of how she left for her ex when she promised se never would and was over him ... I will continue no contact, do you think she may now actually start to take in what has happened between us and her ending it on such a rush decicion ... I feel she skipped the relief stage and went straight into the relationship with her ex so she skipped tha stage .. now that has ended do you think she will now go into relief or the next step? I'm not a love blind fool and jus saying our relationship was really special , it was a really good one I've had a few and we was both giving the same the whole way through... My ex went to the weekend away with her ex and mutual friends I feel she thought she was stronger than she was and since seeing him has obvs shown her she may not have been as string as she thought .. I don't think she went there to play foul games or anything but once seeing him obvs can't control what he said or she felt P.s we are both 30 and was talking about kids and stuff
@miniiaav7430
@miniiaav7430 2 жыл бұрын
Forget her bruh she for the streets
@loriocruz8702
@loriocruz8702 2 жыл бұрын
my ex do the rebound because of sex .. i mean he dont commit to a girl he just want to have sex , then after that he will just ignore them and when he is horny again he jump to another girl or he will text to the last girl he had sex .. shit it gross! is that kind of character called rebound too? i think its a yes
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Lorio, thanks for your question. This sounds like someone who doesn't want a serious long-term relationship. How are you feeling today?
@user-id1ew6tt9f
@user-id1ew6tt9f 2 жыл бұрын
Definitely a rebound, but now dead ass in love with one another 😂😂😂😂😂💔💥
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Silver, how are you feeling?
@user-id1ew6tt9f
@user-id1ew6tt9f 2 жыл бұрын
I am well!! Self love is the key to happiness! Thankyou for such a wonderful channel. Modern relationships are not functional it seems and a change is desperately needed, for the happiness of humanity! Peace and love!
@travelthings2702
@travelthings2702 2 жыл бұрын
In love and filling a void is something people confuse often. When jumping into a new relationship, sometimes people can’t tell the difference between “love” and the infatuation of having someone there to fill that void.
@user-id1ew6tt9f
@user-id1ew6tt9f 2 жыл бұрын
@@travelthings2702 yes and not 3 months later she is going through a lot of trouble, so you are very correct! Now I know. And I have moved on finally!
@sanlaw584
@sanlaw584 2 жыл бұрын
What if the new person is a Colleague they already knew?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
Hi San. How long had they known them?
@sanlaw584
@sanlaw584 2 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos Couple of years I think.
@jeffstough6043
@jeffstough6043 11 ай бұрын
My ex is in a rebound relationship
@Sevoflurane2014
@Sevoflurane2014 2 ай бұрын
My ex literally TOLD me recently on phone call she broke after NC that "things are moving quickly with me and this new guy". I assume she is trying to make me jealous? Or insinuating she will be getting engaged??? Lol... I literally wanted to laugh. I'm like how dumb would you be to do that this fast? With a guy you have been with for 3 months and only see him on weekends. She literally started dating this guy the SAME WEEK we broke up! But she meets her soulmate in the same week??? Lol
@francismeansfreeman3063
@francismeansfreeman3063 3 жыл бұрын
My ex is in a rebound relationship right now and shes 7 weeks pregnant
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Francis. How are you feeling today?
@dt8427
@dt8427 3 жыл бұрын
Don't worry bro it's a rebound relationship and a baby involed. Everyone has arguments with new children. Double whammy on her side. Don't make that child your problem.
@francismeansfreeman3063
@francismeansfreeman3063 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos not good,, its been 2 weeks when i knew the news,, and its killin me,, all i did is no contak and accept the pain to move on
@francismeansfreeman3063
@francismeansfreeman3063 3 жыл бұрын
@D T yes sir, i knew is not mine, the only thing hurt is she cheated on me.. and destroy me in public media.. i stay silence and continue with my life.. we have 5 yrs relation and all she did is to controlled me.. i think shes a narcissist, when my financial goes down, she acted wierd, and started arguing with my annulment, then suddenly decided to leave
@dt8427
@dt8427 3 жыл бұрын
Looks like the rebound is gonna have to pay child support soon! lol. jokes on them bro, move on
@maepoblete8946
@maepoblete8946 3 жыл бұрын
Don't take them back! Lol
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
That is every dumpees choice
@jahleelx9270
@jahleelx9270 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly. They chose to leave. It doesn't mean u have to be enemies or can't talk but u can never let them in your life the same way
@crystalsmith4764
@crystalsmith4764 3 жыл бұрын
My Ex got with a lady 2 Days After he Dump me.
@daniellecarr4454
@daniellecarr4454 3 жыл бұрын
Dumper monkey branched 2 days before breakup and is now in a rebound. Not sure if with same person but has jumped from our relationship to another one. He spent no time alone. Just jumped from our relationship to another. I just don’t get that.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Danielle, thank you for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Here is the link to a video that I think might help you - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hbujipZmsrvMkaM.html
@DiLLyi
@DiLLyi 2 жыл бұрын
any updates?
@hirakjyotidas3287
@hirakjyotidas3287 3 жыл бұрын
What is the duration of a rebound relationship?
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
There is no definitive answer, but I would say less than a year. Generally less than 6 months.
@hirakjyotidas3287
@hirakjyotidas3287 3 жыл бұрын
@@vincentbos ok thank you
@kirstenwalker365
@kirstenwalker365 3 жыл бұрын
My ex has been with the new girl for about 6 months this month it will be. Also, he went on vacation with our vacation money within two months of dating and had her meet the family within two months of dating as well. He made it Facebook official a week after we had just moved out of our apartment. Thoughts? He says he’s happy... we had a really messy breakup full of ups and downs and jealousy that really drove it home. I can’t tell if this is a rebound or he found his real person.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 3 жыл бұрын
@@kirstenwalker365 it certainly has a lot of rebound, red flags. The relationship will fall apart in the coming months if it's a true rebound. However, even if it becomes something more substantial, that doesn't mean it will last forever. Relationships end every day of the year. Try not to get hung up on dating labels. The important thing is you work on yourself and concentrate on your journey.
@traviss977
@traviss977 Жыл бұрын
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@michellegervais2410
@michellegervais2410 2 жыл бұрын
My ex and I had a 4 year relationship minus one year I had broken up with him. He is bipolar and started taking medication that seemed to be helping him when we got back together in the fall of 2020. Things seemed to be going well until we went on vacation last July to visit my family in California. His old behaviors of being short with me and verbally abusive returned. After the vacation he admitted he was not taking his meds like before and the rest of the summer was really good or so I thought. In august he started a new treatment and seemed to slip back into angry manic behavior. One day he broke up with me out of the blue and a week like put a profile in tinder. I found out and I confronted him and he said he is the “new me” referring to himself and he thought the healthy thing to do was get into a new relationship right away with someone he really wanted to be with. Up until this point I thought he has wanted to be with me. He had always said he loved me and we had talked about moving in together. During our fight which lead to our break up he told me I had gotten old. I am 13 years older, he is 37 and I just turned 50. Since he never wanted kids and he had been the one to pursue me I didn’t know it was an issue. He had kept reaching out until my birthday which was a month after the breakup but the things he was saying were so hurtful I asked him not to reach out anymore. I found out recently he has a new girlfriend he met online 4 weeks after our breakup. She’s 26 and 11 years younger. I was so hurt that not only he could move on so quickly but with someone a decade younger after he said my age was an issue. I found it incredibly hypocritical. I haven’t spoken to him in over a month and I don’t think we will get back together but I’m hurt he moved on so fast with someone so young and I can’t help but wonder if this is real with her or a rebound.
@vincentbos
@vincentbos 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Michelle, thank you for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. The pain, frustration and confusion you experience are feelings that no one should have to endure. There are certainly 'red flags' in your ex's behaviour and this points to his current connection possibly being a true rebound relationship. I hope my channel can provide you with the support you require to help you through this difficult time. How are you feeling today?
@jaymie8082
@jaymie8082 Жыл бұрын
He has a mental illness. The Manic part of Bipolar disorder is what can make people lose ALL their marbles . Best be single then with an uncontrolled bipolar 🙄 it is complete uncontrolled madness. Very serious!
@crystalsmith4764
@crystalsmith4764 3 жыл бұрын
My Ex got with a lady 2 Days After he Dump me.
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