Can I get an actual honest testimony from a cold dumper? Was the grass really greener?

It really seems most of them come back in a way. Two weeks ago I had an ex contacting me. The breakup was done by the police in late 2019 as she blackmailed me. She's kind of borderline and most likely has more psychic challenges. She just asked me to repair her car as I'd own that to her. (After a good 4 years separated 😮) I played her game for some messages - and as she got weird again I simply blocked her.

*This means forever...* thats the cold harsh truth...

Why protect scumbags identity? Lol expose these heartless people 🤣

You're one of the few coaches that puts realistic timelines on a break-up/ reconnection. 30, 60 and 90 days are laughable, It's more like 6 months to 1 or 2 years.

If it was not for the fact that I had kids I would have blocked my ex out of my life completely. My older son inadvertently acted as a messenger between the 2 households.

Great advice, but these white screens are brutal on the eyes. I turned the brightness down on my tv to lowest setting

Thank you for giving a proper estimate of time…. Other channels are saying 30 days, 45 days, and it feels hopeless at times

She can take her test and shove it

Believe in NC. I did the reach out, no begging, twice after the breakup and then went full NC. It took almost 3 months and she reached out, I'm more confident and secure where I'm at, and this allows me the chance to control what I let back in my life or not. It sucks going through it, but it really is your best, most mature option.

Going on 6 weeks no contact and nothing but I haven't reached out and didn't beg or plead, chase. I call this one a loss. Be cool if she reaches out someday but I won't hold to it

I’ve reached a point in my life where I’m happy with my growth and progress but still feel so much for my ex. I really want another chance with her and I truly hope she reaches out someday but in the meantime I’m gonna continue to focus on God and my growing

Dumper here. I'd say it depends. I left him because of his unwillingness to spent time with me (we saw each other once a week at best, he was always traveling to see his friends or spending week-ends by himself without asking me to do things together) and his lack of communication (he would see my texts and ignore them for days or weeks for whatever reasons). He was keeping me at arm-length, and gave me all of this sh*tty behaviours despite me communicating my needs regularly. At first I suggested we remained friends because I secretly wanted him to change by himself but then he ghosted me, keeping my stuff at his place. It hurt at the beginning because he agreed to be friends at least. Now I just moved on, because I realized that I didn't want someone who is unable to respect other people.

I have been in a bad place for a couple of months last weekend i finally said right time to go out and try and socialise any way long story short i bumped into a girl i used to go to school with she is absolutely beautiful and we are going out next weekend life goes on boys dont let it pass you by for someone who doesn't care and leaves you in the dirt

My girl blocked me on whatsapp and tik tok. Turns out it was actually her new lover who blocked me... Yet she will call me on whatsapp but I cant call her back. Why this behavior?

After a year of nc and so much growth, my brain seems to be occupied into two parts. Growth, hobbies, family, moving forward and the other half is my ex. I still live her even though it’s been a long time and I’m a completely different person.

Resonate my black azz they had plenty of time to think about it……don’t feel bad now hell. Selfish people man😭😭😭🤣💀

Crazy how they plan on dumping you while you still love them. Sick people. 100% disregard your emotions they deserve the worst of the world. Crazy how they think this is a game.

This is when you block them. They don't get to orbit you and care about you after they dump you. They shouldn't feel a part of your life or be able to see "how you're doing" when they left you. They deserve to feel the loss too. If they want to truly know how you're doing and how well your life is coming along then they can grow a pair and step back into your life. Learn to openly communicate and not "orbit and stalk" you.

Don’t agree… so many post to be reactionary.

I've been NC for over a month. Should I reach out and wish her a happy Mother's Day

She thinks shes something special 😂

If youve "lost them" can you get them back

Good points

I did chase in the beginning, she went into a rebound which didn’t work. Now I’m removed from everywhere apart from WhatsApp. Written a message out recently but didn’t send it. It been 9 months since she left and NC for a third time

Thanks!

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I did chase, but only 1 day. Right after that - 11 month no contact already.

What about after a year of reaching out at least once a month? Will she still have these feelings if I stopped contacting her altogether? Been 51 days so far

What about reaching out 45 days after NC...is that chasing?

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please do a video on how to navigate the contact stage !

No manners at all

when is your next live? so upset missed it :(((((( he ignores me then says hi how are u then when I reply fine how are u... I'm ghosted again 🙄

My life totally felt down because of trauma. Not able to fully functional for 11 months already.

You should never go back to an ex, it's a really bad move

Hello from Australia

What does it mean if my ex boyfriend who I have been in no contact with for 5 months (we don’t even have each other on instagram) deleted my mom off Instagram after she posted a photo of her and I together for the first time. Does that mean there’s little hope for us getting back together?

She and her best girlfriend are constantly stalking my stories, I mean every single story is checked for the last months. They are crazy, I cannot understand why she is doing this… I am exponentially improving every single day and it’s supper visible including I am dating other women. Fully ignoring her implying no contact rule, therefore I bet is ego related rather than real attraction.

Me and my ex-girlfriend blocked each other everywhere 😝 last time i saw her Instagram there`s too many breakup quotes and memes 💔❤️‍🩹

My ex is breadcrumbing for 6 month. she keeps creating reasons for contacting me, even after i set a boundary lol its kind of funny at this point

He was writing to me every day and asking to meet. I was busy which wasn't a lie. Had an interview the next day. I'm trying to become a version 2.0 but its so hard. I flunked the interview (not his fault lol) but I wasn't going to risk the interview for a night out with him. Anyway he was friendly and writing every day but now not one message since 21st. I have no idea if I'll ever hear from him again. I wanted to block him just for peace of mind but I'm using all my strength to leave that door open. Maybe he's butthurt I 'rejected' him. But if so that's stupid as before he dumped me I was always asking him to meet and he always said he's busy. But it's one rule for him one for me. I'm so upset. I've deleted him as a contact but for now took a screenshot of his number. IF he doesn't reach out within a month or however long until I'm ready, I will delete the screenshot and just forget him. He's apparently deleted his hinge profile, don't know if that means he met someone or he left because he wasn't getting all the matches he assumed he'd get. I hope the latter lol but I'm trying to tell myself it's none of my business. We have no mutual friends as met on an app and he doesn't have any social media. Mine was the last message and he left me on read. Wish I hadn't even written. Very very depressed and feel really rejected. Praying he writes to me again soon but very weird that after writing every single day now he's vanished. Think he's testing me. I will NOT reach out so help me God but he's so stubborn maybe that means this is the end. Oh well. If someone thinks you're not good enough then is there any way back?! The monster I saw at the end, I have to remember, that's him. Wish he apologised and came back. Thought I had finally found 'my person'! Ugh

She literally said she wanted no contact so she could properly move on and she blocked me on FB when we weren’t even friends. This from a woman that constantly spammed me with I love yous and I miss you so much up until the day she dumped me. What’s worse, she lives a few minutes across town. She randomly pulled up next to me at the red light a few weeks ago after work and we just said Hi and nothing by else.