@@THNexusdude7 bish have u been in an abusive relationship before? do you now what it feels like to be isolated from your family, be mentally and physically abused and played with? i dont know where or who raised and brought you up, but i just feel bad for you, what does it take to think like that? imagine how it feels to have no one, to have depression and anxiety and to feel like you arent good enough and to feel suicidal, and no one knows what your going through, think about what you say first because its people like you who write things like that, and then send them without thinking about the outcome it can have on a person. who knows, someone in an abusive situation could have watched this video, to feel less alone, gone and read your comment and probaly felt so terrible and bad and thinking that there just 'overreacting' and thinking its normal, so karen, i hope ur happy.

I was in a abusive relationship for 7 years💔💔💔

mark snead I’m so sorry, I hope it’s gotten better for you ❤️ don’t listen to comments like that, (essays comment) they don’t know what they’re on about because they haven’t been or experienced what you’ve been through

bluebell funny because I was in one for 8 months and had therapy for it. Now as a grown adult, its time to man up and become a better judge of character and now I’m with the LOML. Stop letting toxic ex’s define you by mentioning them every chance you get.

It’s not about mentioning ex’s or ‘manning up’ it’s about sharing life experiences and growing into a new person during/after the abusive termoil. Congratulations on moving on but please don’t mock others that aren’t quite where you are yet.

Apart from the stories of the miscarriges storyline they're realistic along with the abuse storylines and the rape storylines.

I know

And the lady who plays Chantelle is amazing. If she doesn’t get an award it’s a joke. A real good actress

You mean you weren't buying that MICK CARTER was a major thieving, gun toting, member of a weirdass mob from a Carry On movie? *-THE SHOCK-*

I’d feel sorry for both them

He’s insecure lol

He deserves to be pushed sympathy seeker he’s a pussy not a real man with balls

@@XkingDeceptionXD no he is a real man he shows alpha Male qualities

I may not be perfect, but that could never be me (at least I very well hope not!) Your partner should be able to have their own life and friends, and if my (hypothetical) partner kept putting off things for me, I'd feel bad and strongly encourage them to at least spend a bit of time and be free whole there(!) It's pretty important to have that time with other people for multiple reasons too, not least because it'll make the time that you do spend with your partner much more interesting and better, and when one is being annoying you have that other side to speak to, allowing you to cool off and evaluate both your and their actions.

That problem is with all men 😒😒😒

Needs a bit more than that mate, men like that used to get publicly tarred and feathered

@@lukemcinerny8220 true

@@lukemcinerny8220 When and where was this? Societies history with this sort of thing, at least pre sixties, was what goes on behind closed doors stays behind closed doors.

The song tho 😭😭

Kenyjah Larris I know right it makes me cry sometimes

You won't believe but it happened with me in 3 years of marriage he beats me many time then he send me to Canada when I came after 1.5 years he beats me again after 9 days I came back

@@ritukhan5335 hope you’re okay now!!

yeah and seeing her with her family ugh its just so sad

@@ritukhan5335 please 🙏😢tell me you're ok now 💜💛💜💛

Dhaliwal Khan Dhaliwal please leave him, your life will only be unhappy

Yea and then he fucks up gray

Because Mitch never liked Gray ftom the start and he wants to know the whole truth of him

Would cherish the sight of him get knocked out😂

Marvel Girl8 that true bro

Same

Meeee

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Meeh

Tarnveer Bassi me😭😭😭

Everyone

There is I believe something called clares law where a partner can find out if their current partner has ever had any violent past, such as domestic abuse

Yes agree and a registere for the abusive women as 13.6% of men aged 16 - 74 have experienced domestic abuse. 2.9 million male victims.

@Emily Cooper That's great that your brother got away. I agree it's not taken seriously enough by a lot of people 👍

@@romainebanks2722 how would the partner find this out? Can they ask the police station?

@@khalid3363 yes they can contact their local police station in private(if they fear their partner finding out) and then they can apply for Clare’s law to find out any information regarding their partner about any convictions of violent offences(especially domestic violence).

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I know absolutely dreadful

@The Yorkshireman Reacts Yeah just look at Jhonny Depp and Amber Heard.

Jealousy control power u name it all these play a role in why it happens, so taking it out on someone close to you is there release for their own short comings

Chantelle is getting killed off ? How come ?

Joseph Wallace we don’t know all we know is that gray does it

Grays going to murder her

Lanae Chaplin Joseph-W7 ;)

I wish Mitch, Karen and Keegan will eventually kind out

Exactly sadly it’s the case these bitches exist everywhere ppl with low self esteem think they can overpower others to make them feel FUCKING better about themselves

I’m horrified that people do. Abusers make me sick to my stomach

PSYCHO!!! Switcheroo within 2 seconds! So not normal!

Same

@Rebellionardo amazing actor but hate his character !!!

That part was horrible yes 😶😔

@@liverpoolpotter4155 yes

Just hope he didn’t get too many abusive messages after this was filmed

I agree, but it's not always that easy.

Diane Griffen that’s just an opportunity for the aggressor to continue their ways u think they ever change DESPITE THEM SAYING SORRY THESE F ING HUMANS DESERVE TO BE KILLED

Yea man I agree there is many opportunities for victim to see help they just need to open up and not hide their experiences

It is very hard to leave

Thank you random guy in the comment section of an eastenders video. You are a true hero

She looks like a queen, She acts like a queen, She needs to be treated like a queen, She is a queen. 👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑 He looks likes a devil, He acts like a devil, He needs to be treated like a devil, He is a devil. 😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈

@Carl Stirling , yes she is.

IKR she seems like such a lovely girl

@Carl Stirling And Gray is a domestic abusing asshole

@Carl Stirling And Gray doesn't know how to control his emotions so he keeps having to take it out on Chantelle. THAT is not a good husband. Silly troll.

*Phenomenal

Choosing the Lil' Wayne way of spelling are we? 😁

@@Ace4975_ thankyou. Fed up with illiteracy being acceptable.

I would flush with pride if I had a wife like Chantelle. I would feel extremely wifeproud to have such a wonderful woman enriching my life with her humour and humanity.

Yes get out of this violent situation, before he kills you.

Janet Hussain please delete this message. I know you mean well but i worry that someone who reads this and IS going through a similar situation will be terrified in general from reading this message. Kind regards x

@@shannonmeikle8945 ok thanks

No dont delete it. Its important

TheSilkykatie it isn’t because if people who are going through this feel scared that their s/o may kill them they might try to end things before it gets that bad. I know you all mean well but I just worry for others x

Because that’s basically what domestic abuse is-

@Vanessa Violet, I don’t have an attitude problem, but you have a perception problem.

@@VanessaViolet55 you change your attitude cupcake. You're showing the same controlling attitude as Gray lol

Lol I’m quite happy that eastenders isn’t real but things like abuse are

That’s what abusers are. They are heartless monsters

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Shes dead now

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Because she was too terrified to leave him.

She does, but she loved him so much but she was scared

Doesn’t excuse it when someone has a messed up past. I’ve have someone in my life who’s very close to me and they’ve been through utter hell with their parent seeing them go through awful things. Thank God they are safe now but it was very damaging. Doesn’t mean they have the excuse to do that.

Nothing that happened to him in the past justifies his behaviour.

@@Jess-3 Did I say it was?

@@bryanvasquez8975 you seemed to have literally ignored the last line!

You said he's messed up because of his past, but none of that matters. End of the day he chooses his actions regardless of what happened to him in the past.

people like gray make me sick..

Omg this is the same for me except I stopped watching after Abbie died.

@@saotomemary2545 I haven't watched in about 20yrs yet I wanted to see this episode and it really triggered old memories. This summary was incredibly difficult to watch but very true to life.

Same just decided to watch again & look😢

Same I stopped watching it like 2 or 3 years ago mainly bc my mum stopped watching it lol but I love how it chose to get interesting after we stopped watching tho😭

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It depends on how much emotional damage that was done, before the violence started. They first start with that, so the victim spends most of the time second guessing how to stay safe. By then, the victim's self worth so damaged, getting out is second to staying alive!

It's honestly not thag easy

I hope so cuz even know he still gotten away with it

Cause she was laughing he wants to batter her?

Faith he did cause he was humiliated. But still no reason to do that. I think he just very protective and when she goes out he thinks it alright to gain that power over her which is really wrong.

@@chloeshiers no, he is a psycho that's why. A normal person would be ok even if they felt slightly embarrassed. Most people would just laugh along and play it cool. Worst case scenario maybe be a bit butt hurt and be passive aggressive later but that's about it.

Darkshadow if ur bf is humiliating by laughing and he was normal he wouldn’t hit you he’d simply have a conversation saying he was humiliated by u laughing and that he didn’t like it and he doesn’t want it to happen again not bloody hit you what a sick bastard Grey is

@@Samuel115s Gray must have got away with this behaviour at an early age.

@Richard Jason timothy Damien people like this don’t change

@Richard Jason timothy Damien personally I believe at a certain age your moulded I’m mean it will be hard to change. People like this want control over everything and will go out their way to gain it no matter who it hurts. They always play victim when in the wrong. The brain is wired differently

@Richard Jason timothy Damien they can’t, domestic abusers majority of the time hold narcissistic traits and mentality, even if you were to try change the person, they won’t be changing the actual type of person they are. The reason they can’t change is because their narcissism won’t allow them to, majority of the time they are so deluded they believe they are right in what they are doing and it’s justified, due to their high sense of entitlement. Look at when gray kills Tina and afterwards he says “I loved her, but she didn’t listen...”. They have a very fucked up sense of morality and that’s why they can’t change, it isn’t anything to do with anger issues, etc, he abuses because in his head he believes he has the right to do so if his high standards are never met(which will never be met).

@Richard Jason timothy Damien and more often, because of the type of person they are, when in therapy, they just manipulate the therapist whilst not telling the full story because in their heads their version is the truth and the only truth. Abusers are more conscious of what they are doing than it seems, Think about it like this as well, more often in domestic abuse it’s not just physical abuse, but more often emotional as well as physical. Remember where he rapes her when wanting to try for another child(sexual violence), and the time he watched her hold her breathe under water, man the guy even threatened to kill his own kids in their sleep due to Chantelle trying to leave. People like this just can’t change its inside of them, the rates of change with abusers are very very low.

And if they do manage to go to therapy they don't utilise what they learn and they manipulate and lie further acting like everyone else is the problem

Yeah I think this storyline is going to continue for a while. It's likely he will get together with Whitney, she will start being abused and after a while turn to Mitch or Kheerat and tell them what's happening and that is how Gray will be brought down.

Yeah just think how uncomfortable it is for real Victims !!!

@@reds1013 I can’t imagine how horrible it is for real victims, my heart goes out to them, I hope they get the help they deserve!

I'm sorry you went through that. Thank god you got out

I’m so sorry you had to go through that, but good for you for getting out! 💕

I'm sorry you went through that, I was in a domestic abuse relationship too, he was very much like gray, acted great in front of my family, hit me in places that would be seen. Finally got out, well done for getting out too ❤

He did. I feel it’s my fault though

@@msingh9634 Even if you did the worst thing or said the stupidest thing, it does not give him a right to raise his hand towards you.

Yeah it's horrible but I feel more bad for men who go through abuse because they're not taken seriously as female victims.

@@frankuduma5264 there is no feeling bad "more" for anyone. It's supposed to be equal or you're messed up.

@@namjesus3789 If you had any idea how much male victims are blamed and even arrested for being abused then you would rethink what you're saying

@@frankuduma5264 that happens to males, agreed! But statistics also prove females are abused more. So shouldn't you be feeling bad for both equally?

@@namjesus3789 From what I witnessed and how western women are now it's the opposite of what you say. But either way I feel bad for both but women have more than enough support and there hardly isn't any for men.

He’s not a sociopath because all of the things he does is fuelled by emotion and sociopaths do what they do because of their lack of emotion.

@@blahblahblah7716 Agreed, but I think it's poor writing and not clear what he is

@@blahblahblah7716 Sorry always hey the two mixed up... Though I think Gray is a bit of both tbh. He's most definitely a narcissistic sociopsyhopath IMO for he, like many sociopathic people, will feel emotion... But only for themselves. They'll feel they're emotions are bigger and more important than anybody elses. I agree he is more psychopathic because he knows how to charm his way into and out of situations. He's incredibly calculating and does things without remorse... But it's a common theory that sociopathic people can't feel emotion... But they can. Not NEARLY as MUCH as others, but they are able to emote. Sociopath or "APD" are more times than not, trauma induced. Victims that keep holding the victim card when losing their ability to rationalise or when they "see red". Its usually because of trauma from their past/childhood. Psychopaths are argued to be born that way whether it be because of damage to the pre-frontal cortex which help us rationalise, feel empathy, fear, remorse and pain... Or due to significant brain damage due to head injuries in life. A sociopath is generally nurtured into being due to significant trauma during childhood which stifles the brain's capacity to grow up, adhere to the rights and wrongs etc. Not every trauma survivor will have urges to hurt others (usually it's directed at oneself) and whilst they may suffer with other disorders like BPD, DID, Chronic/Manic/Situational depression & anxiety, low self esteem, PTSD (which can bring on flashbacks/night terrors etc), bipolar, SAD etc... Most of these trauma induced disorders come along later in life. Most of our brains will be able to function with the knowledge, and have the capacity to understand the situations placed upon them earlier on in life (whilst the brain was still growing & absorbing & learning) as being wrong/bad and we are able to learn from what was done to us and not have the urge to do unto others as was done to us. We will learn to break the cycle so that we DON'T EVER do anything to hurt others because we'll understand how wrong it is. True sociopaths? Will hold onto that "victim" mentality and remain in that space of "I went through, had to deal with, suffered from/with this and you didn't", they'll be able to form relationships and there will be emotional attachments but they will be more about them than the person they claim to love. They will have a honeymoon period of everything being wonderful and almost over the top romance and taste of a brilliant life. But then the resentment surfaces etc like in the case with Gray.

They’ve just announced he’s going to murder her

it's happening soon , Chantelle is getting killed off ):

Well💔

same! its annoying that its so long but then its more real because of the situtations that do last this long

She gets killed by gray

Molly Murray what

Georgia 521 yep. She’s died now

He knows exactly how to socialise, he uses social manipulation in every area of his life, he's a brief and he's an abusive husband. Everything he does is by choice.

@@cheekyrambler9752 it’s not genuine socialism that’s y he feels like an outcast

Why do you think I left my wife before I married her she was abusing me and she tried going for my best friend and talked to other men

@@josephdalton6968 im so sorry

I don't think it's them "refusing" to make the women smart, it's just an accurate portrayal of how it's like being in an abusive relationship. The abuser breaking them down so much to the point that it's hard for them to get out.

It's horrible indeed. Even a woman who raises her hand on a man is no lady either. Domestic violence is wrong. Nobody deserves it male or female.

Because she's terrified of him.

Chantelle actress quit

😪😪so sad! Sorry to hear this!

I had the same experience, me and my sister both grew up with my parents fighting and even multiple times I'd see my mum bloody on the floor. It was soul crushing

Me too

Grey*