"When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred." -- Thomas Jefferson

Vegeta is a perfect example of this. Vegeta had above average skill level and constantly trained hard to get better. As powerful as he was he was held back by his anger. In his hard battles he often showed a hard outburst but always short lived and the calmer opponent won the fight. Goku was more relaxed and jovial in his day to day and took things less serious. Is why I believe he had more energy to put towards when it came time to fighting and training. Goku was the most powerful character because of this. If your body is always in fight or flight your brain is not able to put the same amount of energy on other things. Staying calm in the middle of a storm. Not letting the external affect your internal. Than your internal has more energy to put external. Great video as always. Many blessings to all 🙏🏾

I always feel awful and stupid when I have an anger outburst. I always regret I didn't handle it calmly. I feel out of control and stupid for letting someone push my buttons. The older I get, the more I feel so much better when I don't over-react in these situations. I feel better just walking away when I have the choice to do so. Wish I'd learned this long ago.

I think Einzelgänger is a mind-reader, whenever I deal with a particular issue, he post a video on that topic right away. Blessed to have you in the KZfaq Philosophy Community. 🙏

I let my anger out at my co worker once. I felt nothing but regret. Every time I get angry, I try to remind myself how I felt during that moment. Now, I have better control over it. In fact, I don't think I had an angry outburst since.

As an adult with ADHD, anger and I are old frenemies. Emotional disregulation is a demon we must wrestle with all our lives. * I actually like shooting my bow 🏹 as a stress reliever. I don’t see it so much as violence, but I picture it as holding something tight, like a negative feeling, and then releasing it.

"Speak when you are angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret" idk who said that but 💯💯

A Vegeta appeared in the thumbnail... It's super effective!

Anger is probably a surface symptom for something else. Oftentimes, this could be fear. Along with this, many other things.

I have read in a psychology journal that venting reinforces our brain to get to a state that needs venting in the future because venting feels good. Almost like a smoker smoking cigarettes. They create an environment in their body that reinforces getting that fix.

Anger is one thing but it isn't healthy to keep bottling things up. Swearing (as long as it is not focussed at someone) has a number of benefits! Unexpressed anger breeds resentment. There is such a thing as healthy anger- telling people when they are taking the piss is important so that you aren't treated as a doormat.

Sometimes in this world, if we dont get angry in some occasions people will take advantage of us. Anger is an emotion to be used wisely with control.

Anger has always been a problem for me, I have calmed down over the years compared to my younger years, but it does come out now and then. Hearing the negatives about anger, I must add that it can sometimes be positive. Twice in my life, my life has been in danger, and my anger has saved my life. The first occasion was when a person ran up behind me as I was walking home in the early hours, with the intention of robbing me. He hit me over the head with a metal bar, then tried to stab me with a knife. He failed to fell me, I snatched the metal bar from him, and battered him until he was unconscious and bloodied, and no further threat to me. The second occasion was an industrial accident, where I was trapped under some very heavy machinery, had I not lost my temper, which gave me the strength to remove the machinery from off my body, then I would most likely had perished, as no-one else was around to help me. Sometimes anger saves life.

Not sure I particularly agree with everything said, my man. Personally I find that physical activities have made me better at regulating my emotions, particularly running. In essence, I find when I routinely incorporate these into my day, I rarely arrive at anger in the first place, and are more likely to approach stress with a sense of poise and reason. If I’m misled by the emotion, then again it returns me to my center, where I can dispel the emotion with logic and reason.

I like anger. Not all the time, just every now and then. I think it’s part of being human. I try to channel my anger as motivation for working harder.

Burnout.. working non stop for 10-12-14-16-18 hrs can generate a short fuse as our capacity to take on additional stress is substantialy reduced. Thats why rest, meditation, breathing exercises, sleep, taking a naps just laying down and relaxing can reduce the sensitivity to stress from outside factors and increase our capacity to take on more stress

I have a feeling the need to vent anger is linked to desire for at least some control of the situation. It feels like an active response rather than passive acceptance. It might be that we feel it as a sign of weakness to not do anything, and so anger is deployed as a form of defense strategy (i.e. angry and strong > calm and weak). But clearly, as explained in the video, this strategy backfires.

Letting anger out is something you should do very judiciously. There are times when nothing else will get the job done, sad though it may be. The trick is realizing that using anger to achieve your ends is the personal emotional equivalent of smashing the emergency glass. It should only ever be a last resort

Science actually backs physical release of intense emotions through things like exercise and cathartic yelling

Freud also writes that blocked emotion, nevrosis can be released by humour. Laughter is just as relieving as anger and the better way.

I love the Stoics - Seneca's essay on anger is fantastic, and Epictetus is incredibly compelling. Nonetheless, I also love Chekhov's beautifully presented criticism of the Stoics in 'Ward Number 6'. It's only a short story, but a very powerful one, and for me, it is the best argument against Stoicism. Have a read if you like to challenge your beliefs

I've been venting my anger my entire life. It really hurts my own self. Thank you man for posting this video. There's been certain times where I give in to my own anger, and I regretted it all. Theres nothing good in anger. And thats why today I will try my very best to live an anger free life.

In Buddhism they say like: those who fully come to terms with the fact of their eventual death, all their conflicts, enmities, resentments are silenced. Something like that. It is a profoundly liberating statement and simultaneously a very depressing one. Don't know which is more. Another brilliant and thought provoking video Einzelganger bro. Thank You.

For me, anger and shame have been dancing intimately all my life.

Maybe because of ADHD but for me without physical outlet it is difficult to calm down. Telling someone who will involuntarily throw next object to "just calm down" is like telling a bullet to "just stop". In my experience it is better to work on not getting angry over small things then at controlling the anger.

If anger were solely negative and had no benefits, it would not exist according to evolutionary psychology. So I think it is necessary to understand anger in both a positive and negative way, and to learn to harness the positive aspects and control or eliminate the negative ones.

I’m so grateful that you make captions for these videos.

As someone going through an anger filled situation right now, this video helped me a ton. I've been venting to my friends about it and it starts to make me angry all over again. It started to feel like a vicious cycle, I'm so glad I found this video.

If you don't control your emotions, your emotions control you.

Since I'm early, let me take the time to thank you for all the marvelous insights you've given us over the years. It's very much appreciated. 👍👏🙏🙏

I can only agree but it is very nuanced, expressing might look like venting but verbalizing without screaming helps me process things with reason and logic and find many times that ilogic thougths or expectations emerge from those bursts, allowing me to think beyond the moment and deal with the experience.

Anger can be a powerful tool if used wisely but it is a thin line between constructive action and temporary madness....

Expressing anger in a healthy way vs reacting is the key I think

I’ve always been angry since I was a little child it’s all I know even around myself I don’t think venting it out ever helps But I also never knew how to not be angry I don’t have outbursts anymore it’s just all inside me not going away I will try meditation and mindfulness

agreed. anger should only be used for life threating situations or emergencies. most people abuse or overuse it with diminishing and detrimental effects. anger is a symptom of a problem that should be solved or avoided. my mother used this all the time on business and relationships, it only just drains her energy and easily forget the wrongdoings of her enemies and my father.

This channel has helped me more than anything

I notice the media that portrays anger positive is action movies. In those movies and tv shows, direct confrontation is the solution. In other genres, anger produces mixed results.

Letting anger out is something you should do very judiciously. There are times when nothing else will get the job done, sad though it may be. The trick is realizing that using anger to achieve your ends is the personal emotional equivalent of smashing the emergency glass. It should only ever be a last resort.

When anger swells I tell myself we’re all gonna die and return to the nothingness forever then everything seems trivial

"To be angry at others, you must first resist your own unpleasant feelings" - Hillside Hermitage

I shouted a lot of angry things at my annoying neighnor from inside my apartment (hoping she would hear) for a year. Soon after I got some painful arthritis. Coincidence ?? idk.

First of all the most important thing is the circumstances which we live in, in today's world you can't be a monk where everyone is trying to abuse you, you have to react so that they don't do it again

A Vegeta thumbnail on an Einzelganger video? Today’s my lucky day

Anger is nothing to be ashamed of. It comes from a place of wanting security and safety. Unhealthy anger is terrible though. The meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome Anger by Harper Daniels was helpful for me. Anger can be a great teacher if observed and not responded to with negativity.

"Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured" - Mark Twain. "Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools" - Ecclesiastes. "Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" - Buddha.

Emotions are healthy and natural. Expression of emotions is healthy and natural. The determining factor in this case is the individual. Their temperaments, impulses and urges. If your emotions run wild and become destructive, its not a problem with the emotion, its a problem with the individual.

Forever count ur words before spitting them out - I came off some heated words .. all I could do was listen & be quiet, could not reason. And there I was ! 😮

Thanks for this. Been going through so much anger from betrayal, hardships, victimhood mentality and been venting it out to my partner. I started to STOP venting and complaining to save my relationship. To summarise, things have been a lot better now and calmer.

Hi, I don’t know if you read all these comments, but I’ve found that exercise is a great way to deal with anger, frustration and anxiety. I try to exercise at least 30 min every day. It’s been shown that prehistorically, human beings used to be physically active all day long. It’s how we were meant to be. But now, we don’t. And so, our stress hormones build up instead of being used for what it was originally intended, which is to work out your stress hormones through physical activity.

I'd love to experience anger as a normal person. Could probably work on it then but for someone depressed and stuck in their head anger is like a best friend handing you a gun with the confidence to end it all. It shortcircuits your mind, there's no point in tackling the anger at the point cause it's just woken up a worse demon for you to contend with - suicide.

Anger can be good in the right context. It produces action in the situations we Where action is warranted, whereas passivity will never produce the feelings needed that get one to act.

This is a great topic. I've always been told to go workout or do something physical if I'm angry about something. I started linking those activities with my angry feelings and that bred more aggressive feelings. Talking through why I'm angry with someone or learning to put the anger into perspective in my mind seems to re-train my brain to go into calming mode instead of jumping to aggressive forms of venting.

When I feel particularly angry, I tend to sort of vent to myself whether out loud or in my head in the privacy of my room so that over some time I've blown off some steam without unnessecarily hurting anyone by either physically or verbally using them as a punching-bag (I've only lost my temper only very few times throughout my life before, but I'm afraid of allowing my emotions to blind my judgement and lead me onto a irreversable path of self-destruction) nor keeping all of my strong emotions bottled up untill they explode, so far it has consistently been of great help to me, being able to nagivate through difficult external an/or internal circumstances through self-love and self-reflect plus using your feeling and thinking side in tandem can really get anyone far with or without outside-support.

Man I remember this guy with 80k subs …. Wild!

The Timing timing timing! Of this release! Thank you!

I enjoy the increasing quality of video production 😁

I have always dealt with anger as long as I can remember, and I used to think that venting anger was the best way to deal with it (even psychiatrist recommended to me) but I can tell you that after screaming and shouting I always felt a deep feeling of regret and shame. Anger can make anyone do or say something that can seriously harm others and themselves, I can tell you that by experience. Overtime I believe I have made some progress and improvements in this area, it all comes down to the simple realization of "There is not a single problem that can be solved by anger, but any problem can be made worst by it".

How about dealing with anger by engaging in activities that require a lot of attention so you literally have to divert your attention from anger to something else? Like "Sorry, anger, I don't have time for you"

A good quote my medic just told me. " It is perhaps most necessary to have patience whenever we do no want to have patience". I am trying to calm myself right now. Petty people with petty problems.

I have tried several times to control my anger levels i have tried ignoring the whole situation that provokes me and i have tried walking around streets for a while to calm myself down i also tried Journaling but for somehow you feel that it's impossible to stay calm all the time you have to lose your control and to express your anger

Also.. you shouldn't keep anger inside of you (according to science and philosophy). Moderation is the key.

❤❤❤ You won't believe how much I needed this video - right now! Thank you so much.

Anger is an emotion just like all the others, you do not need to justify it.

Can’t agree. Righteous anger is a powerful emotion to stop harm or evil.

seeing this video felt so timely because i just listening to Marshall B. Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication series and he shared this belief that anger only leads to more violence, but i think his belief is that anger isn't a bad thing to experience inherently, but that it's a signal to oneself that a need of theirs is not being fulfilled, and they should take it as an opportunity to deconstruct that internally so they can later approach others in a more compassionate way

Thank you so much for making this video. Really shines a different light on how to deal with Anger.

Incredibly helpful as always. Accessible, profound insights with top-shelf video and script editing. Absolute respect for viewer time, but more than that. I'm talking myself into a tshirt purchase

I have a complicated history with anger. While I've been aware of the harmful nature of anger, I didn't know more about it until now. Thanks for posting!

I'm so glad for that video. Live Happily

Anger should always be acknowledged and given expression and within a given context it's about how it's done, not if.

I have always had a temper. At its worst in my early teenage years I thought I found release in playing football and "moshing" to heavy metal music. While those releases were temporarily satisfying, the feelings still persisted. But when I changed "moshing" to relaxing dancing to hippy music, the release became endearing and ultimately fulfilling. This may seem a subtle difference, but the significant difference was I was experiencing positive emotions. I owned a Jack Russell terrier, a dog that had a TON of energy. One way or another I had to do something active with him daily or else he would release his pent up energy in destructive ways. But part of the key was to do positive activities with him so he was happy while releasing that pent up energy. So there is something to the need for "release" for some people, I think the trick is that that release should be a positive experience in itself.

i found the idea that "there's no reason to be angry. anger betrays reason" interesting. i'd like to watch/read more content from this point of view

We shouldn't suppress or avoid feelings of anger. Anger is usually covering another feeling or emotion like humiliation, dissapointment, grief, annoyance that must be addressed. I think we should be ok with feeling upset and not feel shame or treated as inferior for experiencing it. Stoics are anti negative feelings because the appearance of calm is what makes them feel in control. We learn how to express anger with our upbringing as we see our parents deal with it. Also, it is very naive to say anger is always explosive. Look around you and see how many people are angry but don't express it. They walk with anger, and then later manifests in physiological and health problems. Anger must be addressed and processed. It must be transformed into clarity and positive action or resolution. Meditating and doing yoga is a temporary fix and distraction from what makes the person react in anger. If you don't question it and transform it, you will be doing meditation and downloading mindful apps for life. Im dissapointed that the only solution in this video is meditation and yoga.

Thank you. I was in dire need of these words

Informative as always.

Every time you lose it, you lose. Stay cool, calm & collect. Mae West said it best.

Thank u! Another awesome video

I love your work, congratulations for such good job 👏

What a valid and well put perspective on anger. I really needed this today dealing with an angry coworker. Thank you 🙏 everyone be well.

Whenever I feel like I'm gonna spill, I remind myself that my emotions are never a result of outside influences. If I ever do spill, I just say something super quick just to get it out and move on. I never dwell.

I think it is more accurate to say that we should avoid "wrath" rather than anger itself. Anger is classified as one of the few basic human emotions in psychology, along with sadness, happiness, fear, surprise, and disgust. "Anger" is more accurately viewed as a feeling--rather than an action. It is what you do with that emotion that determines if it is healthy or not. So if you use your emotion of anger to inflict disorder in the world around you (considered wrath), that would be considered negative. But you can utilize your emotion of anger for positive things aswell. The video makes very valid points on the need to control anger, and this is expressed thoroughly in Buddhist philosophy. In Buddhism, when you feel anger it is considered the "first bullet" and this is unavoidable for everyone, but when you take this anger and cause inappropriate chaos, that is considered the "second bullet." It is within our grasp to control and even eliminate this "second bullet." Some examples of "good" anger include Ghandi's peaceful protest, MLK peaceful protest, and even Jesus' anger in the temple. To eliminate anger is asking to eliminate a basic human emotion, which is to reject an aspect of the humanity that lives in you. It is thus more important to learn how to control and direct it to more productive avenues. TLDR: Anger = human emotion and often necessary. Need to learn how to control and use rather than "avoid." Wrath = negative expression of anger; bad and should be avoided. (what the video is more specifically referring to)

Fascinating. Thank you for this valuable knowledge.

Excellent video. I wonder if some of this can be extrapolated to other emotions like sadness or anxiety. It’s surprising how popular a therapist with a masters degree will tell you to hit a pillow. It’s no wonder why some things are the way they are, seems discouraging. I have found that knowing my suffering from anger is a choice, wanting not to have the feeling last more than it has too and manual labor help, along with music. I agree with the stoic and buddhist stance on the subject. Those two ways of thought, plus taoism, have helped me tremendously overcome my rage episodes. Taking that one second before reacting is practicing my freedom. As always, thank you for the video, I appreciate it.

What an excellent video. Another excellent video. Such an amazing channel.

I love all your videos. Keep it up👍

The concept of venting anger never set right with me. It's not like anger is a physical thing that can build up pressure on a container. I feel like the more you indulge in your anger the more likely you will do so the next time.

Love that you put vegeta in the thumbnail!❤️

I needed this. I’m a pretty calm person, but I have definite anger issues that I need to work on.

Only time I felt anger rise to a super high level, was at school and the school bully was chipping away. After one little encounter where i remained steadfast, as he walked away i took some deep calming breaths. A fellow student who was petrified of the bully asked me about it, about me deep breaths. I told him, he wants a fight and i am not willing to give him one but i wont back down either and so i need to remain calm and the breaths help... But i would get agitated driving on the road until one day while at a set of light that would take me 3 changes to get through, upon the green way way way ahead the woman in front started throwing her arm up and gesturing and shouting to the cars so very far ahead, they weren't moving quick enough. I realised then, her anger came from her inability to control the elements of her trip and that meant the other drivers. And i realised something else, the danger of superimposing my driving experience onto others, and that wherever I am going will still be there. And i would rather people drive within their skills than exceed those skills and crash, even if their skills almost cause crashes. And as i cannot control any other driver, i should go with the flow, like a cork bobbing on the water as a river takes it down stream. And from that moment, i have never angered again behind the wheel. Cut me off? Figures. Don't see me? Figures. Zip in and out? Figures and clearly hasn't done the math and how little that will gain them. Lane ending and want to squeeze where there is no gap? Figures, there you go, come in and be gone from my space. I now drive like a retired person with zero sense of urgency and it is so peaceful.

The arguments presented are robust and well-founded. Thank you

A very important content for me personally. Thank you wholeheartedly.

Just when i needed it thank you for the wisdom

I am a neuropsychologist and also just read this study....I LOVE it!!!! I share this with my students. Absolutely LOVE your channel and now I see you have many followers!!!! So happy for you!!!! I started listening to you from the beginning 😁 I tell all my students about your channel. You provide such excellent topics!!!! Thank you ever so much and have a splendid day 🌻

Interesting! I will take this knowledge with me moving forward

Anger is important for ensuring boundaries are respected

I really hope many people watch this video

It's crucial to develop healthier emotional regulation techniques that not only prevent the escalation of anger but also foster stronger, more constructive relationships. 🔑

That was fantastic!!

Bless you Einzelgānger, Thank you for your beautifully presented gems of wisdom. Your kindness travels far and wide. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊

I need this. Thank you.