Elimination Communication after 1 year: Potty Training an infant

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Elimination Communication after 1 year: Potty Training an infant
We started Elimination Communication (EC) during her 4 months sleep regression and quickly quit.
We tried this early potty training method again when she was 6 months. Now she's 16 months old and I wouldn't say that she's potty trained but she absolutely knows what to do when she's on the potty and doesn't mind sitting on it.
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0:00 Elimination communication : potty training
:15 The first year is NUTS
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:50 What is elimination communication
1:10 When we started
1:34 Look for cues for when they have to potty
1:59 When we started... again
2:07 We did transition (times and that worked)
2:42 What you need
4:29 Cloth Diapering + Elimination communication is the best combo!
4:55 Don't say "GOOD JOB"
5:20 What to do when she sits on the potty
5:37 Potty sign language
5:51 She knows what to do... but she doesn't tell me
6:22 A possible con to elimination communication
6:39 Probiotics
6:47 Daycare? Part time?
7:14 Our Potty Schedule
8:34 Catching poops
8:51 At night?
9:04 Disposables?
9:12 Phases
9:45 Why I consider it a success!

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@krista9309 2 жыл бұрын

Bahaha… thank you for including “ my baby is about to scream, it’s not your baby”

@jes5icaP 2 жыл бұрын

OMG YES!! So clever. All KZfaqrs with babies, please do this! LOL

@Gabriela-ej5ew 2 жыл бұрын

My mom used to give me comic books to “read” when I was potty training and I think it really helped to contribute to my passion for reading today lol

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Omg hahaha that’s amazing

@sophiapeterson3686 2 жыл бұрын

Mine too! That's how my passion for pooping happened! 💩

@jgilbert1998 2 жыл бұрын

@@sophiapeterson3686 passion for pooping? 😂

@scarrier4535 Жыл бұрын

We started EC at 2 weeks with my daughter who is 2 months now and she is doing great. We make it to the potty about 8/10 times, sometimes more, sometimes less. It is so satisfying to read her cues and also amazing to do waaay less laundry with cloth diapers. We also use a disposable diaper at night because I prioritize sleep over making it to the potty! I think EC looks different for everyone and I love approaching it with a laid back attitude. In my opinion, it’s all about what you said about how your baby knew what to do when she was on the potty. I was watching my 11 month old nephew and I could tell he needed to pee, so I tried to let him go on his big sisters seat and he got really scared. I see this as a big impediment to potty training because it’s so unfamiliar! It isn’t about perfection, just early exposure to make your life easier down the road!

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Yes!! I agree

@joeydelgaudou2681 7 ай бұрын

Did u try the tummy massage potty training method

@ceciliapistorius8321 2 жыл бұрын

My little sister was poop potty trained by a year, and totally potty trained by 18 months using a similar cloth diapering + EC strategy and I'm a huge fan!

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Amaaaaaazing!

@Sustainabledoula 2 жыл бұрын

I love that you did the notice for the baby yell. So many parents probably appreciate it so much.

@heatherlawhon3408 2 жыл бұрын

We did casual EC from maybe two months. We always did wake up pees, the others were hit or miss. We just finished potty training. Gently potty trained at 20 months and it was INSANELY EASY! We would have started earlier, but we had a cross-state move and I didn’t want to stress her out or have her regress. I’ll add, we make sure to not mention smells of poo or make it seem gross in any way. I feel like that has helped her to not see poop as a bad thing and cause her to hold it. EC + CD = 🥳

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Soooo good to hear!!!!!

@minamckenzie4070 2 жыл бұрын

My best day (my son is 5 months) was 7 catches! He wore the same, perfectly dry, disposable all day long 😍 When we are busy I don't worry about it. Sometimes we pottitunity out and about, most of the time we don't. Sometimes I forget, and my son didn't cue for pees, but he's started to! He grabs at his diaper every so often and I jump on the opportunity! We didn't catch the first 4 months worth of poops but this past month he has started grunting and getting real quiet and still to poop so I've caught 5 this month! 🤯 My husband is so adorable giving pottitunities with his son ❤

@joeydelgaudou2681 7 ай бұрын

Did u try the tummy massage potty training method

@applebritta 2 жыл бұрын

I started EC when my daughter was 7 months. I've always done it really casually, but it was great not to have potty training be a shock to her once I decided to get rid of diapers at 21 months. So many of my mom friends are having trouble because their toddlers are afraid of the toilet. Also, avoiding poopy diapers is just the best.

@sjama5941 2 жыл бұрын

That’s great! My son is 6 months, I’ve always had the intention to do EC since birth but told that I’ve missed the window for EC…

@drawingangel2 11 ай бұрын

My daughter is 7 months too~ I'm glad it's not too late to start

@jennifercate8996 10 ай бұрын

I can relate! My child was fine with the potty around 2 years and was doing well. She went on her first trip away from home, ever, to her grands and they traumatized her by putting her on the potty for 30 minutes on, 30 minutes off, all day long! Yes, 30 whole minutes for a 2yo!!! So we had a really hard time. I didn’t push her and just let her use diapers after that, but even at five years old, she REFUSED to go anywhere near the Elmo potty (that’s the potty the grands had when she was visiting). She was fully potty trained and I got rid of that potty and she couldn’t have been happier lol. I’m still annoyed by them trying to potty train my child in that forceful, and in my opinion, cruel way, but luckily we are over that hurdle. It’s just not logical to me. Who would sit a tiny toddler on a potty for 30 minutes? They had it in front of the tv, so at least she wasn’t sitting in the bathroom alone or completely bored, but again it’s just cruel to me. I mean for heavens sake, they tell people who do, “time outs” for only the amount of minutes as their age. So at two, go to time out for two minutes - they did it FIFTEEN times that. Curious if people think I’m over reacting (I’m mostly over it, it just breaks my heart thinking of her sitting there all day long) or if you agree with this method. I have a feeling anyone willing to learn about EC would NOT think that 30 minute thing was a good idea, but I could be wrong! Thanks for listening lol, have a good one! And I’m a new subscriber but I already love your channel, Shayla!

@jennifercate8996 10 ай бұрын

*** my whole point in this comment, is yes, I too know a lot of parents whose child(ren) are afraid of the potty, especially for poos, and so was my child. I think my daughter was, because of her experience because she was fine at first, but even though it took sooo long to get her trained, I didn’t push it- at all! One day she just started going and we didn’t even need pull ups at night.

@Theporchabove 6 ай бұрын

@@jennifercate8996anyone trying to parent your child like this is completely inappropriate. I can tell I'm going to start having issues with the in-laws similar to this and not looking forward to it bc I don't play

@sumfoxx 2 жыл бұрын

Your videos on cloth diapers & your mentioning of EC have changed the entire game for me! I just have to say you have my utmost gratitude! Thank you so much!!!

@Erinraewellness 2 жыл бұрын

I started at birth and we did it so well for about 3 months. Then I got overwhelmed by breastfeeding and oral ties, etc and now at 8 months I’m trying to start again for the last month. Your video gives me hope that we can get it going again!

@gfplaydoughpeople 2 жыл бұрын

Oh man. EC was one of the best things I did. I started at only two weeks. There were a couple weeks where I had a lot of poop and pee on me, but after that, I only change about 1 poop diaper a month.

@iyabomarvel8506 Жыл бұрын

Hi how did you start? What'd you do? Did you use disposable or cloth diapers? I have a 5 week old

@gfplaydoughpeople Жыл бұрын

@@iyabomarvel8506 I started by taking him to the bathroom every little bit, and he eventually got the idea. I use a mix of cloth and disposable, depending on what's going on. Also, there was a big change in potty routine after we began solids. But it gave us a deeper connection. And then my son's and my bathroom needs synced, which is still strange.

@gfplaydoughpeople Жыл бұрын

@@iyabomarvel8506 super good luck! It'll be great no matter what. Just the fact that you want to do something to benefit your baby is huge in itself.

@madisonjane9865 2 жыл бұрын

We are at 11 months and love love love it. Transitioning to daytime diaperfree!

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Amaaaaaazing!!!!

@amandagonzalez-flores7369 2 жыл бұрын

Wow that baby yelling alert is magic. Love you for that.

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha even when I edit it I have to look at my monitor 😂

@ciannacoleman5125 2 жыл бұрын

I really like your approach to EC. I am nowhere near kids although I like the idea for when I do have them, but I was thinking trying to "catch" everything would be stressful. Your approach of "getting her used to it" rather than "have to do it all" is much more relaxed, especially for when with other people or out of the house.

@Tonia897 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! I was expecting another video of someone telling me about their "easy" or "perfect" journey. We tried early on and gave up. We are going to try again in a couple of months, and we are going to do something similar to what you are doing

@magdalenaparadowska4833 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Perfect timing! We are 3 weeks in and it's revolutionary! Our son is almost 7 months old :)

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Right?! Amaaaazing!!

@TheCrystalMRoberts Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!!!! This helps takes the stress out of my process...I started EC with my 11.5 month old not knowing it was called EC. I've been so committed and he will be 16 months soon and we are doing pretty good. It's stressful because I would think he should be trained by now, but your experience has helped me.

@giliana23 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve seen a couple of videos and fall asleep right after I hit click, this one got me entertained the whole time, girl you’re HILARIOUS. I can’t with your faces make me lol

@raisingthemdifferent1618 2 жыл бұрын

I am on baby #4. Started EC with all of them at birth. All 3 older ones were out of diapers full time by 1 yo. And by 18months old I could trust them to tell me. No need to check up on them. In South Africa this is still a way foreign concept and I don't even know anybody doing this. People think we are crazy but every time I see 3yo pooing in their pants/diapers, I know that it was the right thing for our family to do. Keep on going, your relaxed attitude is actually beneficial towards the whole approach.

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

That’s amazing!!!! And thank you so much for the encouragement!

@raenewnham7490 2 жыл бұрын

Not really anywhere close to having kids but this is something that both my husband and I are super interested in. I just think it makes a ton of sense.

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!!!

@svb7351 2 жыл бұрын

You won’t regret it! We’ll… maybe that first few days or week or observation time 😆 but after that you’ll be totally on board!

@chibywallah 2 жыл бұрын

I've been watching your videos since the begining. First time I comment. You are so great! Thank you for sharing your journey. It empowers me so much and I relate with you so much. We have a 3 month old little boy and we also cloth diaper 80-20 and do EC. Some days it's great and we catch a lot, some days it seems like we have more misses than catches. I think it such a great experience and I'm so glad to have this with my baby. He clearly ques for poop and it's AMAZING. Since birth I have only changed a handful of poopy diapers! Big kiss from sunny Greece! Keep it up!♥️

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Amaaaaaaaazing!!!!! What is the poop cue?!

@birthinghope4868 2 жыл бұрын

Highly considering doing this...

@samanthab5006 Жыл бұрын

This reminds me of house training a puppy .. Don't have a kid yet but I really enjoy your energy and interested for when we do

@elvirazeb4113 2 жыл бұрын

We do the same and I love it! I just read on Instagram on your video about night weaning that she is still waking up (a lot ish) and it can also be because of needing to go! I know it sounds messy to put her on the Potty at Night but maybe she’ll sleep better afterwards! Just something you might want to consider 😊❤️

@mackenziemeyer1937 2 жыл бұрын

I started EC again when my baby was 5 months and it's going much better! When I caught his first poop, I got so excited and it motivated me to keep going. The trickest part is trying to find the balance of how often to offer since it is alot of work

@dawnforlife 2 жыл бұрын

Shayla! I just posted a 24hours with an elimination communication newborn! I started at 2 weeks for fun but my journey is much like yours, catch more catch less. In months 5 and 6 with growth spurt and somehow she doesn't poo everyday, I gave up and restarted again at month 7th. Right now, I'm just catching poop because she is just heavy (I take her over the sink) and for me...for now..that's good enough. hahah Unlike you, I failed at cloth diapering (hate laundry) and find disposables working really well with EC.

@joeydelgaudou2681 7 ай бұрын

Try the tummy massage potty training method

@GLAMTHATFACEWithLALAxoxo 2 жыл бұрын

yes that is definitely a win!! The whole not saying good job makes a lot of sense!!!

@goldielikes3 Жыл бұрын

Hey Shayla! 😄We did EC through Andrea’s resources too! The diapers, undies, potty, everything. I do love Andrea and how passionate she is about this. We started at 9 mo and he was potty trained by 18 mo - telling me he has to poo and pee. Then…we hit a major regression soon after, which is common, and had to take a big step backwards (advice from the Go Diaper Free book). Then we tried again and took a while. At 2 years old we did the potty training also through Andrea’s book. Not a short road. Now he is 2 and 9 months and tells us when he has to pee and poo, likes to go on his own actually. It’s great. Still wearing pull ups for naps and bedtime bc he drinks a TON of water and I just don’t want his sleep disturbed. I feel like it will happen naturally. In hindsight, EC was a lot of work, and frustration and joy! With baby 2 on the way - a girl - I’m still not sure if I want to venture on this road again. Maybe dabble in it. Curious what you did with Baby 2…?

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

We haven’t started yet but we started at 6 months with AJ so I’m not worried. We did it pretty loosely but what I did love was that she wasn’t afraid of the potty. So many other parents I talk to said their kid wouldn’t even get on the potty! But doing it and deciding not to do it a second time is totally justified!

@goldielikes3 Жыл бұрын

@@heyshayla so true. At the time when it was going so well I swore I’d start from birth with second baby. I’ll probably try it with baby girl around 6 months, to make sure she’s comfortable with the potty, but with no expectations. Going easier on ourselves as mamas is the most important thing 🥰

@heatherdyer5124 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@invioletsky 6 ай бұрын

A good starting point for EC is when they start eating solid foods and they can sit, so some time after 6+ months. The back and the muscles are ready and they need that extra help with the new type of poop, which is now more regular. Starting earlier can also be beneficial, again if the baby is starting solids earlier or the baby has problems with colic or constipation. There is no need to catch everything in the early months. For actual results, you have to be prepared that at some point you have to try and be as diaper free as possible. Baby has to learn what wet feels and try to communicate its needs. A good time for that is during the summer, after 12 moths of age, when both mama and baby feel they are ready and can work on that.

@TiffanySparrow Жыл бұрын

So much of this has been our experience too. 😀

@lisduperou 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your ec journey, so helpful. We have been doing ec with our daughter since she was six weeks old and it has been great. Only recently (she is 10 month old now), since about when she started crawling and standing, has it been a struggle with her not signaling at all and not even wanting to sit on the potty. Have you experienced anything like this?

@svb7351 2 жыл бұрын

We definitely did at about 9 months. We designated a week or maybe a couple days shy of a week, for naked observation. It helped a ton. I think because they’re developing so quickly, their cues are changing too. They’re more busy now and also communicate in different ways now. It turned into a lot more transition catches for us at that point but at about 10.5 months he got back into signaling more. I asked the Go Diaper Free group/Andrea and they kind of helped me through it. Keep at it!

@Kaystory 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this video it’s so helpful! Thank you beautiful. How can I get this book? Is there a link?

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Of course! It’s in the description! Book: godiaperfree.com/elimination-communication-book/?invite=766 Tiny Trainers: bit.ly/3DhFmDz Potty: bit.ly/3gE3mqz Heyshayla is the discount code for all of it!

@HudsonValleyFamilyDoulas 2 жыл бұрын

Love EC!! Great insight 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 And yayy for the 💩 sign! 😆

@kburkett13 2 жыл бұрын

Combining EC and just being patient has been amazing our girl has been in panties full time since 2y 3m we of course have to remind her but she reliably could hold it as long as we have her the opportunity to go. Shes now 2y 8m and will reliably go into the bathroom get her stool turn on the light and go potty she still has accidents but I’m so glad we introduced the potty early also will say she’s pooped in the potty since she was a year old (few accidents on the way to potty) using EC for poops is definitely the way to start🙌🏼

@carolewynn9407 2 жыл бұрын

Not too sure what you have achieved with all the EC, many children are potty trained,day and night by an earlier age. Obviously depends on home circumstances, but perhaps not the easiest for some, or for over anxious parents.

@kburkett13 2 жыл бұрын

@@carolewynn9407 I’m just saying we took slow approach to potty training introducing early and paying attention to her. It worked for us not randomly one day propping a 2 year old on the potty after nothing but diapers I know some wait till three not for us!!

@annarocha3254 2 жыл бұрын

I tried my heart out from day one to discern my sons various signs and signals. Come to find out he is either very subtle or I'm very bad at reading cues. I'll blame me. 😂 So elimination communication for me would go something like this. Baby poops himself and stinks to high heaven with a gnarly poop smear up his back. And I communicate that I suck at this. 🤣🤣🤣

@lifetutor6995 2 жыл бұрын

Hahahahaha that "my baby is about to yell it's not your baby" had me ROLLING! SO FUNNY

@pastorbritbolerjack2987 2 жыл бұрын

The heads up caption was so helpful 😂😂😂😂😂

@tiffanyforester622 2 жыл бұрын

Is it ever too late to start? We're at 16 months. Baby boy isn't really showing signs of being ready for traditional potty training, but I'm interested in EC.

@shannonbrown8918 2 жыл бұрын

We've been doing EC with our two month old for a month but are only able to catch the after nap pees and some poops. But she still goes in her diaper during every awake time. Is it worth continuing? Will she communicate more later on? We don't cloth diaper at least not yet so that could be holding us back.

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

I totally think it worth it. But it depends on if it feels worth it to you!

@amandan943 10 ай бұрын

So I know you have a second child now. Did your guys do ec again? Still liking it? I’m preggo and considering this.

@heyshayla 10 ай бұрын

Way less, but we do it mostly first thing in the morning

@unoriginalcyn 2 жыл бұрын

I've always been interested in EC but haven't actually tried it (LO is 9 months now🤦🏻‍♀️). Did you put her on the toilet when you're out the house? Or did you just stick with EC at home?

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Mostly Ec at home but I will try it when we’re out. I really was trying it outside of the house when we started potty training

@stefaniekaraminas998 2 жыл бұрын

Shayla how did you find the motivation to EC? I was so gung ho about the idea but it just seems like a daunting task to have to fully undress baby every time, especially now that it’s getting cold. Plus we bedshare too so most of the time we’re just lounging around in bed and playing together for a while after she wakes up and we miss the window. What was your routine? When did you put her on the potty? I need guidance!

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

We tried at 4 months and then again at 6 and that’s when we stuck with it. I dressed her in pants and a shirt not a onesie and we don’t do it at night! I go for the transitions (after sleeping, eating, a car ride, a walk etc) I hope this is helpful!

@joeydelgaudou2681 7 ай бұрын

Did u try the tummy massage potty training method

@andreaaldrich4046 2 жыл бұрын

Just fyi, are you in Minnesota? Because there a location symbol with Minnesota under your title. I've never seen that before.

@firestarhk3875 2 жыл бұрын

She is! So am I so I was pleasantly surprised when I learned this 😂

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Yep!

@Niaxx178 Жыл бұрын

I have question to all of you who started early. When did your babies start going on their own? My mom started potty training my sis at 11 months and she was 13 months when we removed the diaper completely. She had accidents but she started going on her own at 14/15 months. She was genuinely happy doing it. I was wondering if I start very early with my own, like from 3-4 months when they are more aware of what’s going on, would they be able to sign/ tell they need to go before they are 12 months? I know they can’t hold and would pee immediately after they say/sign it, which is okay because at least they’d be aware of it happening. I just want to avoid having walking, talking baby with diapers. I just feel like it’s holding them back. Making them aware of their body early makes more sense to me. But I haven’t seen many videos of 1 year olds who have been introduced to the potty since birth, so I am not sure if it makes any difference if you start at birth vs 11 months. Where I live babies are usually out of diapers before their 2nd birthday and I was always super confused when I would travel abroad and see a 2 year old screaming for ice cream in diapers

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Check out “ go diaper free” !

@kb3239 2 жыл бұрын

Do you use two containers for dirty cloth and disposable diapers?

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Yep!

@avaniketron7353 Жыл бұрын

Hey. I’m interested in starting my 8 month almost 9month old in ec. He’s a pretty small kid weighing like 15 pounds. Which potty do you recommend? Should I get the ikea or tiny tushie? Or is that paw patrol one ok? Thanks!

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

I don’t love the paw patrol one. If they sit on it long it hurts her but. It’s foam or whatever but the inside is a hard plastic. I like the tiny undies toilets!

@avaniketron7353 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for replying! I would think just putting her in the toilet would be so much easier

@alexaclaire8728 2 жыл бұрын

Where can I find your podcast?

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

It is launching September 15th! It will be “hey Shayla” on all podcast places. So stoked you’re excited!

@nancygossin8698 2 жыл бұрын

How do you breastfeed and at the same time ec?? I have the top hat potty for my almost 2 month old and I think he does wet his diaper when he feeds so I want to ec during his feeds but I can’t figure out the positioning!

@carolewynn9407 2 жыл бұрын

You concentrate on breastfeeding and bonding, forget potty training ,that will come later.

@daniellelansing3982 2 жыл бұрын

Hello, I have been trying EC with my 3 month old and its working but im worried she will hold it when she gets older and it might create health issues. Did you just give her probiotics or how did you do so she would stop?

@joeydelgaudou2681 7 ай бұрын

Try the tummy massage potty training method she will have constipation when she is 2 years old through 5 years old of age

@joeydelgaudou2681 7 ай бұрын

I will help u help your 3 month old baby to poop 💩 bowel movement 💩

@joeydelgaudou2681 7 ай бұрын

My job is a dr pediatrician kids dr pedia doktor doctor pediatrician

@gabriellefata4800 4 ай бұрын

The trick is to let them pee on the tiny potty while you pee first thing in the morning lol

@simplysojourners Жыл бұрын

My sister's name is Shayla 🥰

@mvacwentwild 2 жыл бұрын

I started putting her in a normal toilet from very little to try and catch the poops. Then we stopped and now that she is eating solids I started again. She is very comfortable in the toilet and I catch most of the poops which is my goal.

@madisonjane9865 2 жыл бұрын

Checking in to see if you transitioned to undies completely yet? How is your experience?

@heyshayla 2 жыл бұрын

Ugh we were! She’s 20 months now and was consistently telling us when she had to poop and usually AFTER she peed but now she’s not even saying anything. But we’re really not trying very hard lol

@TheNerdyAro 2 жыл бұрын

Why don’t you poop together in the morning? That’s what we do when we also have to go when baby does. lol my husband sings a song about pooping together lol