Elimination Communication second time parent

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Elimination Communication second time parent
Elimination Communication is potty training for babies! I know... it sounds kind of insane but I'm so glad we did it with our first and we started around 6 months with our second.
It's way easier to clean up after, wastes less (cloth or disposable) diapers and helps transition them to potty training when their toddlers!
In this video I talk about the differences between do it with our first and with our second.
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00:00 Introduction
00:15 Hey Shayla Podcast
00:37 Hey Shayla Merch heyshayla.com/shop
01:05 Elimination communication with our second
01:16 What is Elimination Communication
01:49 Why use Cloth Diapers
02:50 EC experience with our first
04:10 WHY would you potty train your infant?
04:31 How we were successful with potty training our baby
05:49 Potty Training our toddler
06:21 DON'T stress about elimination communication
06:34 Items to grab HEYSHAYLA for a discount heyshayla.com/tinyundies
07:03 How to hold your baby to potty
08:04 We use cloth wipes for the potty
08:25 I catch less with my second
09:03 EC at night?
09:37 Mindset the second time

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@c411i3 Жыл бұрын

I learned about EC from KZfaq and did it from birth with my daughter using only transitions (and we actually skipped the naked observation time…) happy to say we just finished potty training her at 17 months! Totally worth it ✅

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏

@munchingmakenna5776 Жыл бұрын

That is so awesome mama!!! I’m so excited for u! Congratulations! My baby just turned 9 weeks💕 any suggestions from u?

@TheTravellingYogi 10 ай бұрын

We just wrapped up at 17 months too ❤

@c411i3 10 ай бұрын

@@TheTravellingYogi congrats 🎉

@danielleredman3540 Жыл бұрын

I love you for your no stress/low stress approach to baby/motherhood things. I know it comes with a cost, so thank you for all the unseen work that you do to bring us these videos. I really believe they’ve helped me take some stress off myself as a first time mom. I want to do ec, but I’ve been dreading it a little thinking I have to get it right every time or have to go “all in” for it to work.

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

You also don’t have to do it at all!! It’s totally up to you 🙌

@carinen8119 Жыл бұрын

Part time ec has been really fun for us! I love catching my 6 month olds poop: it feels great when we successfully communicate, and it's easier for him to poop while in the squatting ec hold, rather than fuss for a long time when trying to poop lying down. Sometimes we do after nap pees also, and sometimes we don't do anything at all. Parenting is hard! Just do what brings you joy if and when you have the energy for it. You're doing great!

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏

@laurenduncan904 Жыл бұрын

This was so helpful! We just wrapped up EC with our 17 month old and it was honestly so easy because we part time ECed. We were super similar to you in that we did mostly 80/20 cloth/disposable, easy catches, some obvious cues and very go with the flow. I’m expecting our second this summer and definitely plan on doing EC again.

@blank_notyou Ай бұрын

We started with just toileting her first thing in the morning, and offering an opportunity before getting in the car, and on the off chance I had the thought we should try / noticed a cue. Then we added after naps and at diaper changes (so she could finish). Super low stress, and I am so much more confident and enthusiastic about it with baby two.

@eirdoula3109 Жыл бұрын

Your videos always pop out at the perfect time! My virtual client was wanting resources and I love to send a mix of extremely informative facts plus real life experience. You do such a wonderful job giving a peek into the real world experience!❤️

@aprilumbenhower330 Жыл бұрын

Perfect timing 👌🏻 just watched this while my 11 week old is on the potty. EC has been amazing for us! We started at 6 weeks once my husband went back to work and I wish I had started sooner. My babe had the hardest time pooping and I was resorting to using the windi to get poop out. Once we started on the potty he started going almost every time I’d put him on. I don’t EC off cues either but we use the potty after every feed and it works so well for us. He never poops his diaper and he seems to just know that’s when we go potty 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m hopeful that once he starts peeing less often we can do full on potty training.

@carinen8119 Жыл бұрын

Yes! Squatting is a much more natural and easy position for bowel movements. How lovely to have this option for our little ones

@cheberlalu Жыл бұрын

It’s cool that you interviewed Andrea Olson on your podcast! I also follow her content!🤗 You both are awesome mommas!💪🏽♥️

@HannahinL Жыл бұрын

I also have my second child and I am much more relaxed. I started with both of them at birth. With the first I did EC at night too, now I only do it when he really tells me to. It is crazy I have to say with 3,5 months he started saying “kaken” because I always say “kacki “ ( I am from Germany 😂). So now when he tells me “kaken” he really has to poop of pee (for him it’s the same 😂). I also incorporated sign language which he is starting now a little over four months old. I am using cloth diapers as a backup and disposable at night but also I am not stressing out about it during the day. I tell myself every diaper saved is a good one 🙏👍

@blank_notyou Ай бұрын

Toilet training too early can lead to incontinence issues, UTIs, constipation... but I think that's mostly if there's shame tied to accidents. Which is one reason i think low stress EC is fantastic.

@awesukisuki 9 ай бұрын

This is my first video about this and so helpful! Thank you so much for sharing!

@AndreaOlson Жыл бұрын

Love hearing your potty update Shayla!! Esp the “no stress whatsoever” this time around. That’s the point. EC is pretty customizable and pretty much works better if you don’t stress and just do what feels right. Yay!!! 😘🙌😘

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Getting excited for you!!!! 🤰🙌

@gracewalton5479 11 ай бұрын

I just clicked on this video because I'm interested in EC for my fourth baby who is now six months. I have a friend who raved about it with her first, but I'm not sure if it will work with all these other kids distracting me, haha. You pointing out that 2000 years ago there were a lot of great things, but also people died, had me laughing 😆 You earned my subscribe with that nugget of truth and wisdom!

@SoftEarthHoney 10 ай бұрын

I was cloth diapered and my mom used EC. We lived in a different country where this was the norm. No one had regular diapers, we were all cloth babies.

@savannahmolina3725 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been thinking about doing elimination communication with my 4 month old son. We also do the 80/20 cloth diaper thing. HOWEVER, I also have taught him the sign for “potty”. This is so helpful!! He tells me when he’s gone potty or when he’s currently peeing. I’m not too sure how to merge the going potty on the actual potty and the signing potty thing yet, because he’s not really consistent with signing when he’s actively going. Idk, all this to say- thanks for this video! Super interested in it, and I’ll go listen to your podcast about it now!

@itsquieforme Жыл бұрын

I am about to start EC with my 5 month old! I really didn’t want to buy a specific waterproof mat for observation time, so I’m excited about your tip of using a crib mattress protector.

@Kasumistern Жыл бұрын

Before I had a baby I really wanted to try EC. After I had the baby and was a mess postpartum I learned how convenient disposables are. But I still have this goal of getting away from diapers early. The question that always bothers me is "how early is too early?". But now that I heard you say people used to potty train their babys between 12-18 months I feel like we should be fine starting soon. Thank you for always giving this intresting informations! ❤️

@carinen8119 Жыл бұрын

Postpartum is tough! I didn't start trying out ec before 4 months because things were too exhausting and overwhelming as is. You're doing great! Andrea has some very helpful resources on starting at different ages, if you're interested. And remember: in traditional societies, there's always a pair of helping hands available to potty a baby or support parents. So it's normal that we can't do it all on our own. We do our best and that's ok.

@Milonerve Жыл бұрын

Awesome vidéo as always, so useful, the other comparaisons you mention as vidéo ideas sound great, Hope you might do all of them :)

@blank_notyou Ай бұрын

My first, especially as an infant, if she woke up screaming, it meant she needed to pee. Sometimes she wouldn't be fully awake, and I'd set her in the toilet, she'd let it out, and then be back to sleep immediately. It was amazing. Getting home from a trip when she was asleep, I'd sometimes have her sleep pee on the toilet. She thrived on dream feeding so I didn't stress as much about waking her up when she usually slept restlessly if she needed to pee more.

@blank_notyou Ай бұрын

and any waking at night, because she got back to sleep faster if we toileted her at every night waking

@bethanyreimer 4 ай бұрын

Great video!! I love your personality 😊 I EC'd my son starting st 5 weeks, but that was 4 years ago! He ended up beint fully potty trained by 2 years and a few months, and i was very satisfied with that! Now I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my surprise gender baby!! I hope to start from birth this time!

@naomitrollopeillustration Жыл бұрын

Was inspired by you to try EC when my daughter was about 4 months old. She’s now 9 months. My baby HATES reusables (she will cry whenever I put one on her) and we tried for a while to use them but she was so unhappy wearing them, so we use reusable wipes instead of wet wipes (we’ve used one packet of wet wipes only since she was born) and disposable eco nappies. She still wets her nappies, but we pop her on the potty in the morning and sometimes in the afternoon. She now poos on the potty most mornings and has done since she was about 5 months old. We do that grunt/straining sound and she learned within a few weeks to make that sound while she is doing a poo, so if she makes it we pop her on the potty (if it’s not too late!). EC I think can for sure be used simply as a way to make potty training easier. I nannied so many kids through potty training who hated pooing on the potty because it felt so unnatural to them after two years+ of pooing in a nappy. I am hoping that having done EC with her will mean that when she’s fully ready for the potty it’ll be an easier transition. Thank you SO much Shayla for making EC so accessible in terms of simplifying it, making it feel less overwhelming and making it something flexible. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. It works so so well for our family, and the best part is only having to change a really pooey nappy once or twice a week.

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏🔥

@expressiveexpanse 7 ай бұрын

I needed this cause I've been stressing a little about EC since I've been trying to catch almost everything. Ive managed so far to catch mostly poo's. I started today (a little late in the day, I might add) to catch transition pees, so I hope for it to go a little better. Also, I enjoyed the video!

@elizabethlebaron9545 Ай бұрын

Can you please do more on this subject as it was way too overwhelming to even consider with my first. Thanks!

@lala-gg4dg Жыл бұрын

I ECed my baby from 2 weeks old. after a few months only worried about catching the kakas (which makes a huge difference when using cloth diapers) because kids dont seem to notice peeing as much and it was too stressful trying to 'catch' them. my daughter was using a regular potty by 6 months and had graduated to the toilet by 1 year. she had a lot of time diaper free time at home but she always had a diaper as a 'back up' she was fully clean (ie: no night time diapers) by around 2/5 - 3 years i think (its hard to remember because its all been such a gradual process) i can not recommend EC enough, literally cant imagine parenting without it.

@lala-gg4dg Жыл бұрын

Also when baby was newborn i would give a 'pottitunity' every time she woke in the night to feed. she would stay fully dry and clean all night because she would always pee pee or kaka in her little pot given the chance...was literally amazed by that!

@bonkusgrl3733 Жыл бұрын

Hey Shayla! Thank you for the great info! Not sure how to word this but Do you have any advise for how much to budget before or after you find your pregnant? I’d like to start saving but don’t know the ball park to aim for. I am having a harder time finding info on costs for alternative to hospitals. I know you also prefer natural birth doula midwife style etc.. expenses for those vs typical hospital and doctor route expenses have been harder to come by in my experience. Love your videos! I’m always learning something new!

@braria9855 Жыл бұрын

Good video idea! It would be interesting for others to compare their countries to yours

@mustashcolision Жыл бұрын

i just want to say cause it bugs me a bit but not every culture had the same diaper practices for example cree people put cattail fuzz or dried up moss wrapped in a lining of softened birch bark in the craddleboard essentially they did have a diaper all day cause the weather is often cold and the moms needed their hands free and baby safe while out working

@TriGirl123 Жыл бұрын

Could you do a basic EC video starting at newborn? I still don’t know how to practically pull it off. Like 1. 2.3. How exactly you do it 😅 We have a little one expected 3/28/23 🎉 this will be my fourth and the first time I wanna do EC!

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

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@ilovepink1396 Жыл бұрын

Please do more EC videos! I have three daughters, and with my baby who is eight months old I am doing elimination communication for the first time. So it is kind of difficult to stay on track with it. I originally wanted to do EC for easy potty training. And less diapers as well, I do 80/20 with cloth diapering and disposables as well

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

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@ilovepink1396 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I tried to find a few videos I’ve watched of yours before but they weren’t coming up so maybe were removed? I’m trying to find non-toxic pots.

@kristentardio5573 Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the video, Shayla. Has Andrea mentioned to you her thoughts on hovering baby over the adult toilet or using a seat reducer for EC?

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Not that I’ve seen

@carinen8119 Жыл бұрын

In her book, she demonstrates many pottying positions/ holds, including over the toilet. For example: You can squat (or sit in a stool) in front of the toilet or sit all the way back while holding them in front of you.

@anneshirley9560 Жыл бұрын

In case anybody needs to hear this. My 22 month it's pretty much potty trained. She only poops half the time in the potty, but she pees in the potty and is even dry most nights. I used to scroll in the comments and see people say how easy it was, but with my daughter it was easy at first, ( we would only go through maybe 1-3 diapers a day) and then around 10 months she would just throw such a big hissy fit. ( I think it might be because I went back to work) Then she regressed pretty hard ( only going once a day if I was lucky) and only started up again around 14 months. I would feel like a bad mother when everyone seemed to say that their kid was so easy and fast to potty train. Pretty much everyone said that their kid was potty trained around 15-18 months. Don't give up. It took my kid longer, but now we just have to worry about #2. We started when she was 2 months old.

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

I second this!! Mine went in stages!

@jeslaabduljaleel8518 Жыл бұрын

Don't focus on getting them potty trained. Being able to catch even one pee is going to save one diaper. I am an Indian and in my husband's house none of his siblings grew up on diapers and so even his grandmother didn't like even cloth diapering. I didnt use any type of diapers on my daughter and yes, some days or at some phace they can be incoporative but being able to catch atleast one pee reduces that much work so never be discouraged. At first it was overwhelming for me to not use diapers but now I am glad that I didn't. It's more easier, less laundry. Less diapers to deal. My daughter is 2 and half( not completely potty trained). As kids grow they sometimes intentionally pee on the bed, never did that when she was small ( she get off the bed). So because you were able to ec a newborn doesn't mean he is going to follow that when he grew up. It takes 3 years any ways to get completely potty trained.

@lavendermomma Жыл бұрын

With boys you have to shield it with your hand, otherwise it goes everywhere! 😂 An additional step, but still doable

@helenwo5030 7 ай бұрын

I’m stuck on how to hold the baby. She’s only 7 weeks so not able to lift her head. Are you holding the baby to hover over the tophat or setting her so she’s sitting on it and you’re holding her waist?

@kaycevictoria9947 Жыл бұрын

Whew! I looked at that top hat potty yesterday & its 25$ on amazon!! ill just get the baby potty then. She's 3 months old soo.. let's see how this goes, shall we!

@EP-qi8ed Жыл бұрын

IKEA's smallest green baby potty is under $10 and most similar in size to the Tiny Potty Andrea sells

@kaycevictoria9947 Жыл бұрын

@@EP-qi8ed thats awesome, thanks!

@jesse7680 Жыл бұрын

FTM, still pregnant. Would you say that practicing communication is still even valuable for a baby who will be mostly disposable diaper wearing? I feel like this method is so common sense but I also don’t want to deal with accidents or public situations, I would rather just do occasional catches when she’s most likely and hope that at least helps speed up the process of potty training

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Oh yeah we’re mostly diapering, and catching them when it’s convenient

@fionasherriff Жыл бұрын

Hey Shayla! I normally breastfeed as soon as my little one wakes up, otherwise he's pretty cranky. Do /did you put your girls on the potty straight after they woke up or did you feed/wait a few minutes for them to wake up? Thanks!

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

See if he’ll do the potty! Otherwise you can do it at the same time. I just set the potty on my lap

@marioannamarioanna1070 Жыл бұрын

Our urologist told us that most people with bladder-problems are potty trained too early. Cause children realise that they can play of relax or make their parents happy when they pee. That cause pee-ing with force instead of pee-ing by relaxing. And that causes bladder problems later in life. How can you EC babies without creating this problem?

@jeslaabduljaleel8518 Жыл бұрын

When you ec a baby, they are not adjusting their time to our time but we are catching the cues or predicting the time of their potty needs. So there is nothing like forcing. If you miss the time they will pee or poop outside potty, they won't hold it.

@natakers2451 Жыл бұрын

I started putting baby on the potty at 10 months and she picked up on it within a few days! Only a few weeks later & she’s going pee & poo at least once a day!

@arianaguptill2198 Жыл бұрын

How do you get an older baby (10 months) to not be afraid of the potty? I sit her on there with no diaper and she just cries

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Give her something to do while she’s on the potty, read to her or give her the wipes to play with

@braria9855 Жыл бұрын

also try to avoid discomfort like can it be cold? are her feet on the floor well? My son doesn't like having his pants at his ankles when he pees so we take them all the way off for example. :) and bribing with books and toys at times :D

@andreadean8862 Жыл бұрын

Could probably make hemp diapers. Hemp is used to make plastic and it decomposes in 7 years

@zinoneforcongress651 Жыл бұрын

How did you get your daughter to crawl by four months? I have a four month old right now.

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

They both were super early. Sometimes it’s a personality thing, sometimes they’re not interested! I’ve heard babies usually either developed their gross motor skills (crawling) OR fine motor skills (picking things up, feeding themselves etc). Promise no rush. But wr did lots of tummy time, time in the carrier and limited “containers” like swings. Which built the core strength

@yolandacollins8605 Жыл бұрын

What is the name is the books?

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Heyshayla.com/godiaperfree

@yolandacollins8605 Жыл бұрын

@@heyshayla great got it thanks!!!

@amystaahs2118 Жыл бұрын

Does anyone have a boy who does EC? I am wondering how well it works for them because my son pees every which way lol. I like the idea of doing this but I feel like it might be a bit easier for a girl than a boy.

@lindsaywait8763 Жыл бұрын

I did part time EC with both my son and daughter. The potty I have has a little guard on the front for boys, but I also would just use my finger to point him into the potty when he was super little and couldn't sit by himself. It wasn't really an issue that I can remember, and both of them were fully potty trained by 20 months!

@amystaahs2118 Жыл бұрын

@@lindsaywait8763 Okay, that makes sense!

@braria9855 Жыл бұрын

yeah, pointing works, but actually the upright position already dramatically helps make it a clearer aim compared to lying down and peeing upwards and it sprinkling sideways :)

@ShellyBullard Жыл бұрын

Hey Shayla! I want to be on your podcast, if you think it'd be fun! I teach manifesting here on KZfaq but I'm also a new mama (5 month old). Reach out if you think it'd be fun!

@frankiebee2980 Жыл бұрын

We potty trained our son at 20 months. Everyone says boys are the worst to potty train and that we were crazy to do it so early…..HIGHLY recommend. Highly! Do not expect your 20 month old to tap you and say “hey lady, I gotta go potty”. That’s not the objective. But we put our son on the potty when we see his cues and he is straight up in undies as a 21 month old kid. Poops in the toilet like a champ. Best decision! Ever. Go early!

@heyshayla Жыл бұрын

Agreed!! They won’t tell you but if you give them opportunities they get it!

@nataliepharand8325 Жыл бұрын

I'm on #5 he's 8 wks I'd like to learn this. Lol be great