I am a 37 yo big strong man that discovered that sadness is actually Ok to feel just a few years back. I had days upon days when I was letting my pinned up sadness to move through me when I was laying in bed and crying. People around couldn't understand me, they thought I was clinically depressed but I knew I was just letting my sadness be expressed. It's a tough process a specially in a world that setup roles for us and told us what feelings are ok for certain genders and what feelings are a sign of weakness. These days I only trust my feelings and what resonates with my feelings and people like Heidi who seems to get it. I believe that we all deserve to live in inner peace and listening to our hearts and our feelings is what will get you there.

This is officially my favourite channel for navigating life

She was born to make this videos. I can’t believe how life changing these videos are for me.

I’ve just realised that I was always made to feel shame when I got upset or expressed emotions as a child and I have carried that through to adulthood. Whenever I get upset, including when it’s totally justified I feel angry at myself for “losing control” and feel shame that I couldn’t keep my emotions in check. I keep it inside until i can’t anymore then I start the shame cycle again. 😢

When I feel a sense that I need to cry, what I like to do is set up a little crying zone for myself. I put extra pillows and blankets on my bed, put on my crying music, and lay there and cry for a while. When I'm done crying I continue to lay there until I want to get up. It's been wonderful for helping me get my emotions out. It also helps me feel more ready to make choices that will cause those emotions (like breaking up with a partner) because I know I have something I can do to help them pass through.

You are literally a God-send. Thank you for allowing yourself to be a vessel for clear, emotionally honest, nonjudgmental, expressive and relatable healing.

each videos of yours that i've watched has LITERALLY changed my life. i love the way you talk (no ambiguity, pronunciation, even tone), i love your topics, and i wish you nothing but success

TIL why im such a 'calm' person. I just learned how to supress anger.

my mother would scream at me, and then order me not to cry or get mad with her hand up to hit me. my very first memory.

I heard something quite profound (at least to me) today: 'a repeated avoidance response can become attached to deeper fundamental needs of safety, comfort and control. Avoidance becomes a self-fulfilling lifestyle for soothing and managing your internal needs'. I would've never thought that my fearful avoidance is a source of safety and comfort within its own avoidance mechanisms.

Thank you, Heidi. My inner child was never taught how to regulate herself properly. I am trying to be there for her but sometimes I feel unable to take care of myself. I think I am having trouble with the identification of the authentic feeling versus meta feeling. I love how you explained that when you express your authentic feeling, the feeling changes. That was enlightening. Congrats on passing 100k subs!! I'm so excited for you.

Holy shit, what you said about expressing emotions authentically and meta-emotions makes a lot of sense. I was always told I had anger problems growing up, to the point I would consistently blow up in a fit of rage, and no attempt to stop the anger or rage worked, because that wasn't actually the problem, I was just buying into what my mother was telling me, when in reality I was getting angry because I was being told how I was feeling. It wasn't until age 29 that I considered I didn't have an anger problem and started accepting myself for who I was that the rage just melted away. Since then, anger has been actually manageable. A video in this format/style on respect and dignity and what the hell those are, would be helpful if that is any interest to you. The more I learn, the more I realize I am missing a lot of super basic knowledge and I'm not sure how to get it because searching "What is respect" doesn't exactly help.

This is INSANE how much value you share for free! This is the most important lesson for me ATM. I've experienced A LOT of abandonment because I AMPLIFY my emotions to people who I want to contain it for me, but they (justifiably) feel it's too much pressure for them. THIS THIS THIS is just so valuable. My gosh I feel so calm and grateful for this education. THANK YOU HEIDI 🙏🏼💗

I have never commented on a video, this is my first time. I have to though, Heidi - THANK YOU so much for the information and knowledge you share... for YEARS I have tried to find ways to express the concepts you seem to be able to convey so easily. Your channel is lifechanging, thank you for all your work and efforts, I wish there was a way to share how much you are probably changing lives... I know you have changed mine. Thank you for helping us all navigate this important self-work, I do it so my girls can have the best mummy they can have, and it is really difficult to single parent my girls, while re-parenting and protecting my inner child. Bless you, truly.

WOO Here early. I just want to say Heidi, your ability to put into common english language complex and or nuanced psychology ideas is PHENOMENAL and you really are helping a lot of people, especially in the way you make us feel seen and without judgement.

I was thinking about this lately, but I didn’t know of the term. My version of “I’m experiencing this emotion and I’m noticing I’m surviving” was “my emotions cannot hurt me” so I was free to sit with them mindfully no matter how painful. I spent like 2 days in a pit of shame recently, but came out happier on the other side. And my version of emotional containment was “contain the chaos” referring to the chaos that comes with an episode of shame or anger. Contain it, own it, don’t project it, or involve others in it, just sit with it and process it before before it can do any damage” once I left the gym and came home early because I found myself in a shame spiral unexpectedly.

I can tell that "containment = predictability" is going to change my life in a big way. Thanks for sharing.

I watched your depression guide a while back, and now that I am feeling my feelings I find it difficult to contain them when it feels endless. I thought yesterday to myself that it would be great if you did a video on self-containment! Thank you so much for all the work you do & congrats on getting a 100k subs!

Heidi is a GODDESS !!! As a psychiatrist with a background in Tomkins' Affect/Script Psychology, you have described the process of affect magnification, and script formation, exceedingly well, in your own terms. I wish I had always been so succinct and clear with my patients. But what i really mean is - please try to Gestalt with me: You start the video leaning back comfortably wit your arms spread over the top of the couch. Then suddenly, you start to gesture in tune with your words using 2 additional arms! Do you by chance have another pair? Anyone who, by her own wisdom, self-awareness and critical observations, has escaped the academic CBT trap of cognitive hegemony, deserves the extra pair of arms. Or wings, or whatever you prefer.

“Try not to tell stories to yourself or others that keep the feeling locked inside” felt that

WHOA!! WHOA! I'm not going just gloss over the absolute gem Heidi just dropped on me. "A lack of self respect will turn to depression in the long run" Heidi you just put to words my inner me's problem with outer me in a nutshell. Like it was an absolute "Ah! That's it, 🎯" Moment. "I (me) HAVE to respect you (me)" in the sense I can trust you to handle these emotions, to honor them. "Do not deny or resist your emotions when they come about." Don't force your inner child to suck it up forever! You must give that emotions time and space to fully express itself. I'm Fearful Avoidant, so I need parent myself in that I will address this dire intense feeling but with understanding I need to do "x" first and most importantly setting a time and date to address this need along with KEEPING THIS PROMISE/APPOINTMENT to myself. Learning to take aligned actions with the authentic feeling, not the meta in my interpersonal communication. Called out here, do it in real life, vulnerable and authentically. (That might come out loud and explosive. Afraid of that but that is what I must overcome) Start small steps. Conduct "small controlled burns" I had no idea how much this video would apply directly to me, in fact I had been avoiding it. Lol FA. God is good, that autoplay made it happen at the right time.

Imagine how different the world would be if we all learnt how to be with and process our emotions when they come up before going back out into the world again. This would create world peace I'm sure...

Great synthesis of prescient points from your past videos all 'contained' within 30 minutes. Feels like it's all coming together here in a tangible and practical way. Well done on this one - very impressive work.

Just want to thank you for the work you’re doing here, I always learn so much and the way you communicate all this complex info is really masterful. Congrats on the channel hitting 100k you deserve that and much more!! 🎉

Heidi - you are literally the only person on KZfaq who breaks it down in a real way that makes sense. We have dissociative identity disorder so emotions here are almost guaranteed to be overwhelming OR guaranteed to be immediately rejected by dissociation. Watching your videos has illuminated so much about childhood trauma on top of being super helpful with our healing journey. Learning how to identify, feel, and sit with our feelings, and then learning how to be self-compassionate about them, has been such a tough deal. And it's been great to use these terms you propose, like - well this alter is really really overwhelmed by sadness, but what's the meta feeling that's causing their Crazy Activation? Even having words for it has made going to therapy more fruitful cos now we can actually talk about what's happening instead of defaulting to "I don't know man. I'm just feeling a lot." All in all, thank you for being so thorough and taking all this time to produce such excellent resources. We're grateful for your content and can't wait to watch more!

Oh my god. This video could not have come at a better time! I feel as though I am so bad at *not* containing my emotions, in a bad way! It gets to the point that I regret saying certain things because it's not how I actually felt. Thanks Heidi. As another ENFP, you keep sharing content that helps me so much!

I have been trying to figure out how to "fix" myself with my avoidant attachment. These are the steps I needed to start changing my behavior of stuffing my emotions down deep, and putting a smile on my face...which I've done since childhood. I REALLY appreciate your videos. You are helping so many of us identify and work thru our attachment issues. Thank you!

Hello Heidi, I 💕 how you put this sticky topic across to people. I will certainly try to get into recognizing and honouring my inner child. She's gotten bruised and battered psychically over the years, and I am now reminded that she's still with me! I will comfort and care for her like a precious being! Anger is a thing I'd like to work on. Thx again!

The part about abandonment equals death in childhood stunted me. I’ve come to a place of understanding with my absent father but still feel extreme emotions about feeling forgotten and left behind. This perspective is so validating to the ongoing presence of very real abandonment issues. You have helped me be so so much kinder to myself ❤️

I love your closing theme! I feel like I’m riding off into the sunset of understanding on a galloping horse!

You are incredibly informative and kind. Your channel is helping me in ways I never imagined. I am trying to find myself at 58 years old. I’ve been divorced for one year. Just came out as queer to my entire family and friends. Thank you for creating this space to listen and listen again to your videos. I’m feeling hopeful that I can navigate through this transition. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating these.

Hi Heidi - your clarity of explication is outstanding. If you wrote a book, I'd read the heck out of it!

Thank you so much for your time, Heidi! All the effort you put into these videos means a lot. And congrats on 100k, you're going to cross that 500k mark very quickly!

I’m 27 yo and I realised that I’ve bottled up my feelings for years, therefore constantly trying to limit my exposure to potential triggers and be afraid of what could happen inside of me. I’ve recently started working on recognising and expressing more what I feel and although I still have work to do I do think it’s going better! I’m now dating a girl I’ve had a crush on for years (on and off), at first we were just friends but now something is maybe changing (she’s avoidant and I’m anxious), and the thing is that I’m not used at all to feel these strong emotions since for years I haven’t been really interested in someone else and it’s taking me a while to process them properly. I’m grateful to feel all of this, whether it’s gonna really work out or not in the end, I feel grateful for just be here and feel! I realise that you’ll learn more through the painful and “negative” feelings than else. And I wanted to thank you so much for all your contents! I’ve watched hours of your videos and it’s been incredibly helpful! Lots of love and appreciation, all the best ❤ 🙏

Such great insights! I wonder how you move past the meta feeling when it’s strongly intertwined with empathy for other people and thus operating as rationalizations, which then suppress the true feelings so well that we don’t know what they are. I believe this creates co-dependencies that persist as long as the co-dependent person is more aware of the other person’s feelings and experiences than his/her/their own.

Thank u for everything u do, u r awesome. And congrats on 100k subs too! 🎉

I just discovered this channel and in addition to therapy. This channel is soo helpful 😅

Hearing this content is a reminder of your bravery in bringing people content that provides access to tools that they can grab out of the tool shed or pick up off the carperter's table to facilitate a new level of emotional awareness or attach words to current thoughts and emotional sensations. I currently feel like I need help in this area when expressing difficult topics with people in my work or living circle. I also think what is expressed hear might provide some tools for helping work thru some rage I fear I may sense if I were to pick up a book and read about topics that might cause me to become dissassociated from a calmer composed self. The self I need to be able to go to work and not pick on someone or the self I need to not get triggered by someone I don't know on my travels to and from work.

You are really speaking to me Heidi. I’m so glad I found your channel. I feel more understood every time I watch one of your videos.

You are amazing. Thank you so much for breaking it down like this!

You have a gift of understanding and explanation - thank you

I think I'm starting to get something. So the reason for expressing emotions is to let them transform into something else. I never knew that's what happened with emotions. And so I always wondered what the fuss was about being able to express emotions and why people would go on about sharing their emotions. I understood that this is how you bond with people - because sharing emotions is a bit like you're sharing a secret. But I didn't know there was an added benefit of emotions changing into something else. This is a really good incentive for sharing. The way I've been thinking about it is I'm ok with not bonding with people so it's probably not that important to share feelings (especially that my track record of sharing and bonding successfully is not great). But if sharing will mean that I can feel different and better, then it becomes worth it. I've had some strong emotions earlier today and I shared them (following your advice) and I'm reflecting on this now with the added context of this video and I can see that my feelings changed and I felt a release when I did that. Thanks!

Sometimes some wisdom comes along precisely when you need to hear it. Thank you, Heidi.

I'm currently practicing to recognise and sit with my emotions and allowing them, accepting and validating my inner child (avoidant leaning FA CPTSD surviver) and it's quite a disorienting journey! Learning to set boundaries, beeing healthily vulnerable, rewiring my brain. I've been very angry with myself and a close friend since smth happened on Sunday. I very briefly explained to them that I need to take a step back and have been processing the anger consciously (so exhausting) discovering that there's pain, sadness and a feeling of betrayed trust underneath. As a result I phrased a clear new boundary for myself in regards to that person and am now ready to approach constructive conversation with them without the fear of exploding in their face or not expressing my feelings at all. This process is still very unfamiliar to me. All this to say: Your video came out perfectly timed for me! Thank you for continuously sharing your thoughts and knowledge, Heidi (edited typos)

Thank you for helping me find myself. 🤗🙂❤️🙏

Just discovered your account. Love the way you break down all these concepts and provide constructive guidelines. Thank you for sharing this work!

Definitely needed to watch this ❤ Expressing my feelings disregulated my parents, and I had to learn to dissociate, or I would explode by holding them in too long (tried to be alone when this happened). Becoming more respectful towards myself and not ashamed of my emotions is so healing for me. I try to not be shaming of myself but it happens and I have to allow people their feelings about my self expression without taking it personally. Mature people can remove themselves and also can provide comfort. ❤ I love your videos! Thank you!

I found your channel about one year ago. I just wanted to say THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR PROVIDING THIS CONTENT FOR FREE - as I am writing this I am about to cry because I am so grateful for you. You put all my struggles into words I can understand and work with. I am glad I learned to speak English since I was 8. I can listen to you with ease and understand everything and can put it to practice. I am doing therapy but you literally help me to do the work. Thank you from my heart.❤

So glad I find your video. Many year's of watching KZfaq& few therapies but what u said is exactly what I need is like u understand me& what went thru. Thank u

Love the distinction between feelings and meta feelings. Eye opening. I'm going to listen again. Thank you, Heidi.

You are a Godsend! Thank you Heidi

Damn Heidi you are a genius at what you do, the number of AHA tearful moments ive had from your content is insane! You are such a gift to us all ❤️

Heidi, thank you for this video. The first 5 minutes describe my experience of my emotions and feelings, exactly. What you share has been helping me make more sense of things and I'm so grateful.

Hi Heidi, I am only at the beginning of the video but I have to thank you for breaking down meta feelings and how it leads to deactivation. This is so helpful to me to know that what I'm experiencing actually makes sense and I'm not just à sometimes unfeeling sometimes oversensitive mess. In my small French island, there are not a lot of knowledgeable therapists and you are doing a great job in your videos making me feel seen, safe and heard so I can process what's going on with me. Thank you so much ❤

Omg Heidi Priebe as always thank you so much. This is a beautiful description of how to patiently work with yourself.

Woof. I’ll need to watch this a few times to get the hang of it. This is revelatory for me

Sometimes I see a new video of yours, and I think to myself, that maybe that one I don’t need to watch. I’m always so wrong, you are doing an amazing job, and you have changed my emotional life.

a big big thank you Heidi 💟 I am from a small country where I don't have the help I need actually to heal but YOU, you explained it all too well. I was confused raged all the time never knew anything and whenever I tried to my family made me seem that I am the problem. But now I get everyone's perspective. I can see people as peole, not some bad or good, flawed or angel. Thank you so much, you will never know how much grateful I am because of these videos. Now I can live my fays better. 🙏🏻

Your video content is amazing! I love your clarity in the subjects and the hands on tips. Thank you for putting this out here🌌✨🙏💜

Amazing video Heidi, probably the most important one I've seen on your channel. I laughed when you suggested what emotions might not be allowed, since none of those is allowed in my inner world lol. I'm immediately gonna work more on holding space for the expression of these emotions, like planning a breathwork session tomorrow. Thanks, you rock!

Thank you for helping me and teaching me how to let go. I need to let this shi go

I've got to share how grateful I am to have come across your channel, thank you 🙏

Makes great sense. Thank you.

The inner me is wise and genuine and many times I didn't listen to him. Through this video and some other of your videos I rediscovered many bottlenecks. And it is amazing how my body starts feeling better and my mind rested and my courage and hope reinvigorated. Inner me says..."I told you so...😂. Thanks H.

Thank you so much. I’m intrigued by the concept of meta feelings, and it makes so much sense out of my inner experience.

Wow! I am an INFP and you just spoke to some corner of my being, one just outside my peripheral awareness until now. It feels like a new lens that I can use to find the blind spots I’ve been searching for. Thank you for sharing your insight in such a concise and relatable way.

100k yeaaa \o/ so well deserved Heidi! :) Love your videos!

oh my word. I love this. Thank you. I have to come back and watch it as it's triggering that desire to amplify. Wow. that's what i have been doing probably because i also feel frustrated and unsure how to go about voicing /expressing myself. I suddenly feel neutral and normal about it now. Thank you so much. What a Gift . The very thing i had been hoping for. Thank u Heidi P :)

Step 5 really wrapped it up so nicely for me. You explained everything so well in this video as always. I'm still often confused by the concepts around emtional expression of even experiencing them at all, but I'm trying to learn. Thank you so much for making these, I know you're helping so many people, including myself ❤❤❤

Thank you Heidi. I am a new follower and have learned so much and really enjoy the way you present this topic. I have CPTSD and a fearful avoidant attachment style resulting from unresolved early childhood traumas. At the age of 47, I had my first full, drop to the ground cataplexy attack( loss of muscle tone due to stong emotions- REM while conscious, but unable to talk, stand or move much, usually for just a few seconds. Usually controlled with anti depressants) . I was diagnosed as having type1 Narcolepsy. At the time, I thought to myself that there was no way I had Narcolepsy because I couldn't sleep! I was exhausted. I always thought it had more to do with my trauma and how I was wired. I Still do to some extent. The biggest triggers for my cataplexy, is self pride, joy, coincidences, embarrassment, orgasms, humor-espically my own- and few select people when they are being funny. It The severity is anywhere from not being able to speak, to my hands dropping, half body flop, to dropping like a puppet all the way down into a puddle lying on the floor. They are all just thoughts that bring up emotion. It's quite bizarre really and for the most part, I am really enjoying myself when it happens. They come out of no where, but more so when I am tired or around my immediate family and a few close friends. It feels like a woosh of ??? energy somewhat hormonal, and it is really hard to control it once it starts. I have to really concentrate to get out of that state of helplessness. They know it has a lot to do with the Amyglada and that a loss of Orexin causes it. I am going to try and work with my emotions when it happens and see if I can minimize the severity or prevent them all together. Name the emotion and tell myself that it is safe and normal to feel XYZ....as they come up. It might be time to pull out my well loved emotion charts to really pinpoint the deep feeling and ABC sheets to rewrite the narrative after the episode! I am so grateful to have found your channel at this point of my healing journey. There is still much work to be done! I am looking forward to the next video. Cheers!

Here we go! This is HUGE. Very important and valuable video you have created for us. Thank you❤❤❤

Also, just adding - @Heidi - your practical example of how avoidants and anxiously attached folks deal with strong emotions differently - was bang on. I have experienced both sides of it though (probably because I am fearful?) - I force myself to continue through my tasks while being immensely overwhelmed by the emotion. I am learning to accept that sometimes, some unforeseen events will cause emotions that will de-rail my plans, and it is okay to cater to them. And not feel too guilty about my initial plan getting derailed by it. Thats the side I have chosen for now :)

This is so helpful!!! I now have a much better understanding of how emotions work. Thank you!

wow really great video! I havent seen it in myself before but when I heard it it fitted perfectly to me. I used to be very angry by a lot of things, both in my house and out, but if I expressed that with my parents things would only get worse, so I learnt not do it. But experiencing the anger is very frustrating, so I learnt to deactivate it. But I`m starting to notice that doesnt make me any good, because things rarely go the way I want them because Im a bit too comprehensive. Also I feel like there`s anger built up inside me and I reconnect with it everytime I get angry. Needed to let off some steam, but I really wanted to tell you it`s a great video and to thank you for making it.

AHA! Relief and hope are the emotions im going through watching this video..i can now paying attention to the meta-feeling that arises, guilt and overwhelm whether i will be able to use this nugget of teaching to finally learn to express my emotions in a healthy way and start living my life! Heidi..Thank you for your insights❤ I love the community and appreciate the discussions in the comments section a lot

Another BRILLIANT topic. Thanks!!!

The best explanation of emotions I've ever heard! thank you!

Your videos and content have been amazingly relatable and helpful!! I do want to request that you add time stamps to your videos that have different steps in them because it helps my adhd brain focus on how things are transitioning and allows me to jump back to a specific section when rewatching.

It helps when you are at a life stage and are able to clearly recall events but the way you deliver all of these messages is amazing. Even when you know things are off and what you ought to do, these messages connect everything and tie up all the loose ends and nagging thoughts and memories.

I like your points about not expecting others to fix your relationship with your own inner child bc I find myself doing that unintentionally

Thank you so much for teaching us these practical life-changing skills for FREE. You are so appreciated. The time and effort it takes to produce these videos is intense. Thank you!

What an incredible video. this is my new template for dealing with feelings!!!

This channel is blowing up! Congrats 🎉

I really appreciate how well you explain these concepts, like a lecture from your favorite professor. You packed an incredible amount of useful information. I'm sure I'll be re-watching this several times and taking notes for application.

YES HEIDI PRIEBE KEEP ON BLESSING MEEEEEE.

Wow. Thank you so very very much for illuminating this concept for me. I understand myself sooooo much better from this!!!!! So glad i found this video.

I realized the meta emotions concept after seeing a meme of Captain Jack Sparrow saying: "The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem". That changed my perspective big time. But I still didn't have this detailed instructions yet. Learning so much here is also expanding other areas of life once inactive.

I've been watching your videos over the last year. I was diagnosed with CPTSD after a traumatic event a little over a year ago. I knew my childhood was rough but... damn, I had no idea how trauma driven thinking was driving my behavior my entire life until this event started to unravel it. You, your channel, your content has REALLY helped me wrap my head around these very important concepts for healing and to understand how my life came to be so chaotic at times. Your content speaks to the way I need to hear, see, process this information. I honestly can't thank you enough for what you are doing. I can't thank you enough what you have done for me personally. And I'm so happy to see your healing and success and I also know how hard fought it is to come to the place you are now. You are amazing. Again, thank you. I do have a question. This video really resonated with me. I would still consider myself earlier in the healing process and this to say that I'm having some intense realizations, important thoughts to pursue, and of course some intense emotions and dysregulation. And often, these things are happening at times that I cannot address them. So I do my best to write these thoughts down and promise that I will address it when I have carved out to address these things privately and alone. Self containment. And I will honor that time and place, and then not be able to get back to that emotion, that thought, that thing that I need to process. And it's like my body knows this ahead of time that I will disappoint it in this way, if that makes sense. Sometimes I can feel the almost dejection from my body or inner child when I write something down to come back to it, because it knows I won't be able to return to that space again to process, not because I won't show up, but because I can't get back to that feeling, or that place, or that thought process that allowed me to get to a revelation. I will make this promise to myself to come back to this, but my body or inner child can't get on board with the process at the time I allow it for this. I have a therapist and we both agree that I am more fearful/avoidant on the attachment spectrum. I wonder if this challenge to return to the processing at another time has anything to do with activated and deactivated states? Am I trying to do this emotional processing when I'm in a deactivated state? I'm still trying to tease out when I'm dysregulated or activated/deactivated. How can I return to addressing processing emotions at an appropriate time when I just can't get back into that groove later, so to speak? And does anyone else find it as challenging to come back to processing emotions at a more appropriate time?

you are so smart !!

Ooo „Emotional Literacy 101“ that needs to actually be a course people can sign up for. I take it 🙋🏽‍♀️

Thank you, Heidi❤️

yes yes yes angel of truth

My therapist of about 6 months responded really poorly the last time we met, which was the first time I brought strong emotions to the session. I haven't seen her since. Hoping I can find someone who can create a safe container going forward.

I tried to play sadness on stage, but only rage came out. I powered through in that moment. Powerful moment. I learned a lot that day.

Thank you! I learn so much from you. ❤

So good!

Amazing, thank you! I am grateful! You give words to my experience. My meta feeling is panic and anxiety. Now I know what it means for our brains to perceive harmless emotions as life threats and go into fight or flight. The brain sees shame or loneliness or loss as life-threatening and goes into fight or fight! Gosh, our brains are killing us! 😮 So profound!

Such a great topic to address!!

You have done it once more - I apparently really dislike having a crush on people, so i just... Try to ignore it, hoping it will go away, while longing for reciprocation... That makes very little sense as far as living life goes :D Now I know what to talk to my therapist about :)

Thank you!