Ep. 8 The ADHD Guys Podcast: ADHD Kids, Social Skills & Social Executive Functioning

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In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael delve into the intricate world of social executive functioning skills in children with ADHD. They explore the difference between social skills and social executive function skills, highlighting the challenges faced by kids with ADHD in social interactions. With a focus on perspective taking and cognitive flexibility, the hosts provide insights into how parents can support their children in navigating social situations. Tune in to discover the crucial role of front-loading information and the impact of social relationships on long-term success.
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00:00:00 Intro
00:01:22 Social executive function skills.
00:03:27 Differences between ADHD and autism.
00:07:15 Disorder of self-awareness in ADHD.
00:10:41 Difficulty with perspective taking.
00:15:01 Social challenges in ADHD.
00:18:38 Social executive functioning challenges.
00:22:19 Social executive function challenges.
00:24:18 Social impact of ADHD behaviors.
00:26:14 Male youth development.
00:29:19 Social relationships and success.
00:34:17 Teaching social perspective taking.
00:36:26 The ADHD parent.
00:40:22 Front loading for social skills.
00:43:26 Pushing kids out of comfort zones.
00:45:26 Parenting through discomfort and anxiety.
00:50:00 Social dangers of Discord.
00:50:48 Social executive functioning groups.
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@serowley1 3 ай бұрын

I know that this podcast is not designed for children and my 9 year old asks to listen to you. He is listening and learning along with me as we work through his ADHD journey. I appreciate your work and the male perspective.

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Please tell him that makes my day hearing that. Also, I wasn't sure if you had seen this playlist: kzfaq.info/sun/PLzmXDzfrSJcAXILKSK-7UDSRKm7ml_bvp&si=Oc8Ar_uENN73o-af

@mpersaud74 3 ай бұрын

I would love to know how he is processing it? Has it helped him in any way? I was thinking to do the same, but was scared to have my 7yo listen, as I didn't know if what was being said would influence his behaviour more, etc.

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

A 7 year old will not understand any of this episode and listening to adults talk aboove his developmental level will not have any influence on his behavior.

@serowley1 2 ай бұрын

@@ADHDDude Thank you for the link. I had forgotten about those videos.

@logann-mackenziefroste563 3 ай бұрын

As a female with ADHD everything you have said is what it was like for me in elementary, middle and high school. You are 💯spot on ‼️ I have sent friends and even my cousins texts to hangout and do stuff and they never reply back so I will just wait until they reach out to me.

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Glad to hear this resonated, thank you

@chrisamiejohnson3362 3 ай бұрын

Frontloading is as close to a magic encantation as I have used with my kids. Such a great skill for parents and for kids.

@Maria-oz3rm 3 ай бұрын

Can you please explain what this is?

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gLB1prehyZ2-gHU.html

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Yes, absolutely

@Maria-oz3rm 3 ай бұрын

@@ADHDDude Thank you! It's kind of a prep-talk! I love it... have been doing this with my children without knowing the exact name.

@TrekieGal 3 ай бұрын

Wow. So much good stuff in here. Thank you. My husband, our oldest daughter, and I all have ADHD. Not sure about any of our other 4 kids yet, but this podcast is helping me understand how to help my kids so much better! I've always practiced various social situations in my head or in the mirror so I knew how to respond. And if it wasn't a person I was seeing regularly, they sort of fell out of my head (long distance relatives or 'friends' that I no longer had classes with). Now I finally know why. The bit you said about the ADHD brain preferences in order of Electronics, Parent Disregulation, and Laughter rings so true for me. I have said of my daughter many times how I don't understand how she can be the class clown when she is in a class of 1 (homeschooled).

@thewaywormsitch Ай бұрын

Thank you for this episode. Watching i emotionally devastated me, learning more about perspective-taking has sent me thru episodes in my past and the shame and guilt is so strong. I wish I had this knowledge when I was a child. I'd almost forgotten I'd even been pulled out of classes for the "help" because it was so useless for me! You two are great. Lots of love.

@ADHDDude Ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful and thank you so much for watching!

@hlimpuii1 3 ай бұрын

Thank you to both of you. As a mom, sometimes it’s really heartbreaking to see your kid struggle especially socially. My 6.7 yrs old son really love socializing, making friends and all but the problem is that the friendship is not mutual. Even though at first it’s ok but then after sometimes the other kid receded.😢

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Please check out the Social Skills playlist here at the channel and thank you for watching.

@CathyDenis-uz3wj 3 ай бұрын

My husband just listened to your podcast yesterday (after I sent it to him to read) because we have a 13 year old son with ADHD and he struggles with close friendships in school. Has "friends" he sits with at lunch but they are all on their computers playing chess or he'll play a plane flying game, etc. or scroll through KZfaq. He is in Boy Scouts and on a swim team and has friends there but no close friends. He has friends in our neighborhood and he'll go to their houses on weekends sometimes. One is his age and one is a year younger. They play normally but sometimes also play video games. What you said is spot on but we don't allow our son to have a phone at 13 - he has my old phone he can use to play Roblox on, on the weekends for 1-2 hours but he doesn't know the passcode and it doesn't have cell service so he can't text his friends (he has a Gizmo watch but can only communicate with us or his sister) so I've been curious if not having a cell phone is impacting his social relationships? Most kids communicate by texting, calling etc. and he can't do that. My husband doesn't think so - we are waiting till at least the start of 9th grade (he will be turning 15 then) and this is mainly because of his ADHD. Would love to hear a segment on a podcast about that. We are planning on signing up for your curriculum so maybe you go over this in there.

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

What I address is that I think it's OK for kids to have phones, without social media on them, that way they can communicate, granted not through social media though.

@chrisamiejohnson3362 3 ай бұрын

This is sooooo good! My 4th grader struggles to make friends for all the reasons you are mentioning. It breaks my Mama heart!

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Please check out the Social Skills playlist here at the channel.

@terp4u2 3 ай бұрын

Great in content and advice. At 71 I still struggle with the most simple decision making and I’m not comfortable with people. I never go to women’s groups, and struggle ordering at a fast food for fear of decisions and making another mistake! So crippling. I do naturally try to anticipate situations I’m going into to the point of obsession! A real challenge for my husband, too!!!

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@florentinac.2651 3 ай бұрын

Thank you both for your time.

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

thank you for watching

@JulianaSchie 3 ай бұрын

Love your content , thank you!!!

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@andreagoz9612 3 ай бұрын

Great episode! Thank you Guys!!

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@iseethings4218 3 ай бұрын

Holy s**t, this episode is priceless! Well done!!!

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

thank you!

@thatsnotmyunicorn 3 ай бұрын

Ryan, this was amazing! This describes my son so well!

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Glad to hear it, thank you!

@mpersaud74 3 ай бұрын

Great content. So helpful!

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

thank you!

@AllenB-mz5vl 3 ай бұрын

This is an awesome, very informative video, really good job here guys

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@krissydavidson5655 3 ай бұрын

So in your professional opinion- is homeschooling with a Co-op and keeping the child involved in multiple groups/clubs and sports healthier and more productive ? Or Public school route with the IEP and other tools offered in the public school realm? Asking for a 8 yof /ADHD

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

I think that's a personal decision for each individual family and I have no judgement about families that choose to homeschool. It's not something I would have done had I been able to do.

@florentinac.2651 3 ай бұрын

Hi.Good to see you !

@pinkcharm91789 3 ай бұрын

Assuming we give attention/rewards for behavior we want to see-- Will extrinsically rewarding my son for asking questions about another person or demonstrating interest/care about another person turn off any intrinsic motivation? Will he expect rewards every time he does something nice for someone? My son is 6 with ADHD.

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

6 year olds should not be expected to show interest in others, they should show interest in reciprocal and imaginative play with others.

@pinkcharm91789 3 ай бұрын

Good to know, thank you!

@L._._ 7 күн бұрын

Question: do you have a video on inappropriate behavior ? My son is almost 6 and struggling at school w understanding why he can’t do “potty talk” at school or show his ‘privates’ to make people laugh. He’s not understanding that people are laughing bc they’re uncomfortable or immature and that it’s not a positive. Thank you for this.

@ADHDDude 7 күн бұрын

kzfaq.info/sun/PLzmXDzfrSJcCaomxN3cm8-TLqi07_Wr8V&si=LQr87MwAZxktZo6n kzfaq.info/sun/PLzmXDzfrSJcCcEb9Y7Iwhjx6r7pAnqCTH&si=ZrjgWBbYxuAtNgpT

@L._._ 7 күн бұрын

@@ADHDDude ty for the response!

@mattichisgar9804 3 ай бұрын

This was so incredibly helpful! But I have a question... how do you help your child (middle school aged) when they are motivated, interested, and engaged with other kids but always end up doing something to alienate them? My son has a great personality, loves people, super social BUT ends up acting "weird" or is often called worse. He also often shares secrets and betrays his friends' trust. He wants so badly to fit in and be socially interactive but he struggles. I've completed your membership site training and it's been the most helpful tool in our journey. Thank you for the invaluable information you provide.

@ADHDDude 3 ай бұрын

Hi, did you watch the Socially Smarter series? For some reason most membership site members don't seem to realize it's part of the membership site. That course would address specifically what you're talking about