Ep. 9 The ADHD Guys Podcast: Step into Parental Authority to Manage ADHD Behaviors

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Stop trying to partner with your kids in parenting! In this episode, Ryan and Michael delve into the concept of authoritative parenting, challenging the idea of children masking their true selves due to ADHD. They explore the importance of pushing children out of their comfort zones and discuss practical strategies for effective parenting. How can parents model emotional regulation for their children?
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[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:51] Children's role in parenting.
[00:06:16] Pushing children out of comfort.
[00:09:06] Boys and therapy resistance.
[00:11:00] Resilience and Anti-Fragility.
[00:15:54] Parenting challenges and decisions.
[00:19:18] Building self-confidence in children.
[00:21:33] Varied experiences for child development.
[00:25:41] Strategies for handling child's resistance.
[00:28:47] Clutch and cringe video segment.
[00:32:27] The negative impact of masking.
[00:36:32] ADHD masking on social media.
[00:38:08] Parenting rules and discipline.
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@KatrinaT 2 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this... we keep a low to no-sugar household and my son will often ask for soda and even when I say he shouldn't have it, he continues to ask and prod me to go get one. I realized as I was listening to this that I am not confidently just telling him no because I know it's not what's best for him. He was literally asking as I was listening to this and I used my mom voice and said "no. It's not good for you." He just walked away and came back later and gave me a hug and said he was sorry for bothering me about it." What?! I don't expect it to go that well every time, but that was amazing! I think I am going to look into integrating the outdoors into our homeschool more too.

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Such a perfect example, thank you for sharing this!

@naomijohnson4901 2 ай бұрын

Yes! If we are on the fence inside ourselves, or not confident or sure of what we are telling our kids, they feel that. Thanks for sharing!

@erinnflaherty 2 ай бұрын

In just the week and a half since I found you both, I have learned so much! For the first time I can recall, my son stopped himself mid-insult to me and contained his emotions a bit. He was very proud of himself, I could see it all over his face🥰

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

That's so great to hear, thank you for sharing!

@emilybeaulieu999 2 ай бұрын

Loved this entire talk. Parents are DYING for this kind of clarity and encouragement. Words cannot express how grateful I am. Every point in this video resonated with me and is accurate!

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, that means a lot to us!

@erinslawson2269 Ай бұрын

You guys are both awesome! I've listened to many of your ADHD Guys podcasts and have learned, or been affirmed, so much. Thank you!

@ADHDDude Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@erinvosbury7993 2 ай бұрын

Thank you both so much for your podcast and both of your programs. You have made a huge difference in our family's life. I was able to find the right psychiatrist for med management only. Your programs work!!!

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@amychura4331 2 ай бұрын

Awesome podcast, guys! I will be sharing this with my parents at IEP meetings! Parents are extremely undereducated in executive function and need legitimate resources. It scares me how little parents know. Thank you for creating this podcast!

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Awesome! Thank you!

@jacquelineprotka7357 Ай бұрын

I’ve often found the “masking” concept questionable. It always seemed what one person called “masking” another person would call performing life skills, or executive skills as you say. I have a friend with Tourette syndrome and he manages to suppress almost all his tics during the day so he does not have to disclose at work, but then comes home and a tsunami of tics pours out of him. To me that is masking. To me that seems different from the so called masking often described in the ADHD social media world.

@ADHDDude Ай бұрын

This is a perfect example you provided. Yes, the term "masking" is profoundly misunderstood and over-used.

@yyyw82i2 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for always share practical tips...always excited for ur new video

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@jaeespo5413 2 ай бұрын

Excellent, thank you

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching :)

@mum9343 2 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

@Deb780YEG 2 ай бұрын

❤

@jacquelineprotka7357 Ай бұрын

Could you share the news story about the profitability of ADHD-related social media posts? You mentioned it might be on CNN. I found a CNN story about the increase in teen self-diagnosis of mental health issues from non-professional accounts on social media. I wasn’t sure if that was the article or news segment you referenced.

@ADHDDude Ай бұрын

Hi, I don't know an article about the profitability, but there have been studies showing how much misinformation on social media is put out by ADHD social media '"influencers".

@wilk2926 2 ай бұрын

Isn’t a good idea to ask what your child actually enjoys doing eg: basketball instead of football instead of forcing them to do something they don’t enjoy doing?

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

Sure, but there may be things they would enjoy yet haven't been exposed to yet. There may be things they have enjoyed but due to their difficulty with episodic memory they don't remember those experiences, and need an adult to help an adult make the connection. Kids with ADHD have a propensity to say "No" to anything new, unfamiliar or things they don't remember enjoying.

@wilk2926 2 ай бұрын

@@ADHDDudethank you. My son tends to say yes to most things and once he doesn’t like a small detail about the activity he wants to give up and it’s really hard to get him back into this activity😢

@stephanymaria4359 2 ай бұрын

What do you guys charge for consultation?

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

I only have availabily for coaching appointments with membership site members. You would have to reach out to GrowNow to ask if they do consultations, I don't want to speak for them. www.adhddude.com Thank you

@danieloconnell4225 2 ай бұрын

What's your response to the many clinicians that state that masking is a poor choice for those with ADHD? Do you have a particular study you like to share that it is not inherently negative? Good listen today.

@ADHDDude 2 ай бұрын

I would ask them to show me research data on it, and the longitudinal effects of "masking", which is a term that's become a disempowering narrative.