Do you find in your third narc relationship that it's so hard to to believe that this is happening again, even tho you see it, that you start to question if you see everyone as a narc..

One of the shittiest parts of being the child of a narcissistically abusive parent is that it sets you up and sends you into adulthood with the ability to have an entire relationship with an absolute cipher of a human being, with nothing of value inside, for years without even noticing, only hoping that the house doesn't explode.

This episode was the most touching and powerful demonstration of manhood and of courage that I’ve witnessed in this lifetime.☀️🥳

Richard, I'm a 57 old male and I just had my very first child, a beautiful baby boy. Having run through a series of childless narcissistic relationships I had already given up on becoming a father and building a family and by now I thought it would never happen, but it did - like a small miracle I met just the right person to make it happen. God does write in mysterious ways, so don't you despair! When you least expect it... :)

You haven’t a clue how many people you have helped by your authentic and highly emotional intelligent way of using your words to understand such a complicated subject. Listeners leave hearing a person they can relate to. You are our go too. We need you in this space. You are the best Mr. Richard Grannon. You have helped me and soooo many others more than you will ever know 💕. Thank you 🥰

Richard, how ANYONE who has watched your videos made light of or made fun of the fact that you are single at 46 with no children is BEYOND my comprehension. I am 4 months out of a narcissistic relationship with “no contact” thanks to YOU!! I started following you in January and YOU are the reason I am finally free! 🙏❤️ 21:45

Oh Richard -I feel your pain and anguish too-We are so honored to have you as such a pillar in this community 🙏🙏❤️❤️

I’m 46 (47 next month) and was also in 3 narcissistic relationships. No one should be judging you or commenting on your situation!! I actually think you should be commended for not having children in such relationships.

You deserve a great woman after all of that horror. Praying that God will bless you with the very best.

Be very careful about identifying with your abusers pain or origin story. They sold you a broken car and charged you full price. Now you are walking to work in the rain with a broken heart and mind. And they are looking for their next victim.

You’re such a decent guy. You really deserve the very best

They always see our Love as a weakness. Love is not a weakness. Love is a strength. With the right partner Love is a powerful bond and can transcend all adversity and no one can destroy it. The problem is finding each other. I hope you find your Soul mate ❤

The only thing I know is that narcissists never change for the better, they get worse and worse. I have experienced it for 14 years.

When I started to watch this, the viewers had been here. Now it's over 3500. Im sorry to all those out there that need this video. But selfishly, I don't feel so alone.

The authenticity and vulnerability you've shared is profoundly validating and shows us that there is way to get to the other side of the abyss with wisdom and compassion. Thank you.

My only consolation I can offer is you truly seem much more healthy mentally and physically. Now when you do meet someone you can build something real that hopefully will bring children and a dog and cat lol. You will be a wonderful dad please do not give up.

I take my hat off to Richard for his courage to talk publicly about his personal experience.

I cried with you. The torture of marrying and having a son with my grandiose just never ends, 14 yrs together since I was a happy innocent helpful 18 yr old. 10 years post divorce and still it’s so awful every week it’s an attempted drama that i have to dodge/grey rock. I learned though, the guy I met dating was a covert so it’s made me super cautious and yeah I’m ok single at 41. The silence is fine :/

It’s trendy right now to figuratively slap people on the back for being single and childless, while completely ignoring the fact that the single and childless didn’t all choose that. It’s extremely painful and I’m sorry to everyone carrying that around with them.

Richard, I discovered you on YT in 2017. At that time I had recently left a 30+ year relationship but I had yet to discover the Narc & Co-dependent dynamic. You opened my eyes and I have learned so much from you. So often I would cry and jump up and down in my chair with relief when you described behavior after behavior and I knew it wasn't just me!! You're how I discovered what gaslighting was and I was floored because for the first time I realized maybe I wasn't crazy and irrational. When I heard you talk tonight about the life events that you didn't get to have (yet) because of those abusive relationships, it parallels what is happening in my life now. The massive guilt that I have been feeling for spending my entire adult life letting my husband control me and abuse me... I have felt like I let my life be stolen from me, spending all my love and energy on a man who is now trying to destroy me. I'm 57 years old and in all likelihood I will spend my old age without a partner. I am facing it, dealing with it, and healing from it... all of it. And I have you to thank in large part. It was tough to get to this point and I will tell you that the single biggest shift in my thinking to really get me to move on was advice from you about hope and the giving up of it. You are an amazing human. Thank you for all you have done. I just wanna give ya a hug :D And don't hate us Canadians, eh? We're mostly a good lot :)

We need to build our own self esteem and boundaries before getting involved in intimate relationships. We also need to understand our own desire to help, save, rescue, etc works against us. When we decide NOT to settle, our energy will project that confidence and our discernment will lead the way.

Same self imposed celibacy for five years after an abusive relationship then thought that I was ready to try again and walked into another one that was equally as toxic and abusive and I am now celibate and have no intention of going there ever again, I feel safer being single and happier. It’s less hassle and the thought of having the happily there after seems unrealistic and probably not something that I would be good at anyway, it’s liberating to come to this conclusion. It’s horrible when you trust people and they turn out to be fucking nut jobs who are capable of immense hate and anger and destruction and can be living a double life for years before they show you who they really are, fucking terrifying really how silence can mask absolute rage resentment and evil.

My father was 58 when i was born so you still have plenty of time to meet a lovely woman and have children. Never give up!

As the saying goes, "No one falls in love faster than a Narcissist that needs somewhere to live."

As a mom and grandma I just want to hug you and tell you that you are getting better,because you are feeling now. Omg thank you for not hating Canadians we are generally very nice people😢. Your last program healing from the narcissist helped me to heal and that is truly amazing.

I wish you love & peace Richard ❤

Richard: 1. Before starting following you I thought that just women could suffer from abuse. Thank you 2. In one of your video you said, fix your life (material life) become indipendent otherwise you won't be able to heal. I did that and my life began to change. Thank you 3. When you began talking about how personal values can guide you and be a compass to deal with the world that was another turning point in my life that helped my healing. Thank you 4. Sometimes I says f..off to bad behaviour that I might receive but kindness still remain one of my values. Thanks

1 of the most life changing & freeing moments I had was when I finally understood that I'm (NOT) responsible for OTHER people's 💩 life choices even when they essentially doom themselves as a result of their poor decisions...It was then that I realized my codependency was finally beginning to heal😌🕊️.

You have such a way with the words you choose and describing the feelings of this. Ugh it makes me so mad this all happened to u but you’re taking this suffering & turning it into strength to reach down into he|| and giving people a hand out of there. 💪🏽🙏

Richard, I have watched more than 100 of your videos. I was listening carefully and learning. However, this video will be the most important one that you've made. You have to understand what you're talking about in order to truly help others. This was what I was missing. Your story told in your own words. I felt like someone was squeezing my stomach as I listened to you. I spent 28 years of my life with a very excellent narcissist. I put him on a pedestal that was so high. Naturally, that put me in a ditch. I think that you were blessed to get out of one of your relationships without being poisoned. Although, staying in a narcissistic relationship is a slow poison. As you were speaking about empathy, I was realizing that it isn't something that you can teach. I know my husband brought every woman he slept with to meet me at our house. I was too naive to understand what was happening. But, I never forgot the strange looks and the weird feelings. It wasn't something that I could possibly even imagine. But, I met him when he was 15 years old and I started doing homework at his house and I saw what went into the making of a narcissist. It was so bad. I don't think of narcissists as interchangeable. The things that he was exposed to were heartbreaking. I never lost my empathy even when I finally understood. I just wanted him to go away and be as happy as he could be without me. People hate narcissists. Ironically, they were already hated since the minute they were born. They just learned how to survive. Richard, you just put down your walls and I can't tell you how amazing that is to me. You're not an easy read. No one can say they know you unless they know you. You gave us a small window into your heart. I hope this helps someone to walk away without bitterness. I'm not saying that narcissists don't know better but, if you adopted a dog when it was 5 years old and it had been beaten and starved its whole life, you can't be surprised if it bites you. I thought if a man was loved with all my heart, respected and held in high regard, catered to because, that's just how I love, things could be okay. I am so grateful that I never think of him. Thank you so much. You know, there are people that are genuinely so kind and empathetic that it's almost impossible to find a mate. I was blessed to get to have 15 years with someone who let me be me. I didn't care about his flaws because, we all have them. I healed so much that I was even able to watch him die unexpectedly right in front of me and all I could do was tell him, thank you. I will be okay and you will be too. I saw the worry in his eyes. I care about people so much and I'm starting to think that some people care about people more than others can imagine. It's the kind of gratitude that comes from loving people in a very pure way. I'll never forget the night it hit me that I had put this new man on a pedestal. I called him up and I blurted out, I think I have you on a pedestal!!! He very calmly said, that's okay. I said, it is? He said, yes, as long as your pedestal is the same height as mine. People are like precious gems. You're only going to find a red diamond once in a while and you're always going to find them caked in mud. But, if you're sensitive enough, you'll know when you've found a diamond in the rough. I hope I get to find a diamond one more time because, all I have is love and nowhere for it to go. I only yearn for the things that no amount of money can buy. Take care Richard. 💙 I believe that one day you're going to meet your diamond and you are going to be a father. A really great dad. 💕

There’s so much pain in your voice as you tell your story. I am so sorry you had to go through this. I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse as well. It is absolutely devastating to go through. It’s like being through a war of the mind.

Your vulnerability in this video hit me in a place that I had thought had been bricked up & buried. The locked door ,that my inner broken little girl that hides behind, hasn't been cracked, to let her peek her head out, for over 50+ years. All I/she kept thinking, while I watched you cry, was that she just wanted to hug the little boy we all just watched show up. ❤❤❤

Thank you for sharing your story. I can fully relate. I'm certain my breakup alone caused me PTSD. It's particularly hard for men because female narcissists are more hidden and men are just told to man up and get over it. But if there was some futuristic technology where some law enforcement could read my mind and see the memories of what I have gone through, I think she would get life imprisonment. These people are highly dangerous with the emotional and psychological abuse they can cause.

You have a big loving heart, been through so very much. You deserve so much happiness and I sincerely hope you do. ❤

I really thank you for your courage! Not all narcissist or abusers are men, this needs to be out in the open as much as possible. A real man is in touch with his emotions and honest about them. You are a juwel and i whish you all the happines. I understand you perfectly. I have been raised by a covert neglectful narcissist mother and i have had three abusive covert narcissistic relationships. The last marriage lasted for 15 years and this covert neglectful narcissist has almost destroyed me. I have escaped last year and i'm healing now, helped by your channel.

I did get married, I did have children (& I'm not much younger than you). I spent years being patted on the back by other people for my life choices. 15 years in, I got very sick, & legitimately thought I was losing my mind. 19 years in, I watched one of your videos by accident.... and suddenly, reality came crashing back - opening my eyes to the decades spent trapped in the delusional fantasy of a man who, it turned out, wasn't even 'there'. That was almost 5 years ago now. He was gone (ran off with a stripper!) within a year. Now? What was a point of achievement is a reason for embarrassment, and other people's incredulity & misunderstanding. My children, despite everything they've endured - are good people who it's a pleasure to be around. But - I'll never escape the regret & sadness of knowing I was complicit in creating such hardship for all of them. 'But I didn't KNOW!' really doesn't matter when it comes to watching them falling into the same relationship traps, seeing them struggle as a result of old 'triggers', or knowing that my now- 16-year old understands more psychodynamic theory than most adults (the only thing that could help him mentally 'save' himself from the scapegoating & abuse he'd endured until that point). I'm not trying to say that anyone's trauma / experience is 'worse' btw. It's not. I'm trying to say that perspective is everything. What is a point of pride from one person's PoV, is a reason for shame & sadness when viewed by another; What appears to be a lifetime of success one day, can so easily become decades lost, in the next. People have their viewpoint... fine. It doesn't mean they're using all the available information to form it! It doesn't make them right, and it certainly doesn't mean that you should take those viewpoints on board. People like to judge other people..... it makes them feel better about themselves - and in the end, it has very little to do with the person being judged.

Richard- We love you, so proud of you; you are smart strong and beautiful human being ❤Stay strong, let’s all keep on going and fighting 👊🦾🙏🤝🏆

The problem with verbal abuse is it’s out of their mouth so quickly and has already done its damage by the time you realize they are narcissistic…it’s hard to close the door but well worth it. Thanks for your sharing Richard! You have helped me understand this complex type of emotional violence.

Deeply touched by your vulnerability and transparency in this video Richard, and I feel moved and grateful for your passion to speak out against tribalism and the increasingly warped "narcissism survivor" cult too, which seems to be making people worse and actually more narcissistic and bitter rather than actually helping people recover and genuinely heal. I say this recognising I myself went through this phase and it wasn't good, and it isn't how I want to be in the world. Oh and also in the Q&A near the end you were hilarious, loved the alpha male character 😂Such good medicine to laugh! Thank you so much!

I was so wrecked by my relationships with narcissists (the very worst one when I was 17-19l, that I was completely celibate in my 20s - and only "cracked the code" at 38 years old, getting married at 44. Getting out, healing and being able to be attracted to people who won't destroy you is no picnic. I can't believe I did it at all. The ship of having children had sailed. I feel all the empathy and sympathy in the world for you, Richard. You're a good man and indeed, so very generous. Karma this time around was a bitch

Thank you Richard for your humanity, your vulnerability and responsibility. Sending you a hug. xJ

Thank you for sharing, Richard. Much like the words you have written in your book “A Cult of One”, I really appreciate your openness and courage to speak from the heart. As I deeply empathize with the pain and suffering you have endured. All the while, you have a remarkable ability to look at the bright side of life, lick your wounds and heal. Your tremendous gift of psychology and philosophy makes a MASSIVE difference in people’s lives- including mine. Ever since I committed to studying your courses a year ago, I have said goodbye to every bad relationship, paid off debts, lost 20 lbs and bought a new home. It’s miraculous! Now, I can’t say I have fully healed from the abuse of two narcissist parents and CPTSD, but I am on the positive trajectory of being in total control of my emotional state and ending the suffering. Hard work. Believing in myself; the willingness to change… and a bit of wit and woo, thanks to you. 😉💗

I am so guilty of thinking all men are the same. I don't want to think that way, but it's so hard. I also had a mother who reinforced that idea daily. I was unfortunately surrounded by many sexually inappropriate male role models. Taught to doubt the ones who weren't. I want so much to believe that men can be good and loving and moral. It's absolutely terrifying to imagine putting all my trust in a man. I want so much to be vulnerable and let go of this fear. I'm afraid I might be alone forever. Even worse, the men I do end up choosing seem to reinforce the idea as well. Maybe that's why I choose them. To make myself right and justified. Ughh

Im 48, single, celibate for 2 years now.. very similar feelings about my past not going the way I wanted as well. the bullet I dodged from my narcissistic relationships was not having her move in with me. That boundary was key, although it was subconsciously made because I’m naturally independent. Each time we spent closer extended time day to day the more intense the narcissism manipulation increased.. and when I placed the boundaries back to wanting more personal space then the shaming and anger was projected. Now.. I base nothing on what people say. Only by what they do.

You still have time to find someone and have a family. Im sorry you went through this. You're a good person to help other people through this mess. It takes a good heart to want to walk these folks through their disfunction because the reality is that they are obviously sick, and we want to help. We want to love out the pain, and any glimmer of hope will keep us there. Just watching them be able to have a good day, or achieve a goal, whatever, keeps us there. But they are not capable of not hurting us. They fall back on survival because function is scary, and we only get more and more broken until we just bairly exist. We cannot save them. They have to do that on their own. Without us.

I'm so sorry for your pain that was inflicted upon you as an innocent child and continued on through many other capacities I'm right there with you and it takes a lot of courage to speak up the Way You are and to face those demons that did not originate from your heart. Thank you for baring your soul and having the ability to be vulnerable in spite of all of the bullshit that you have been forced throughout these circumstances. It gives me hope that I too might be able to experience joy and vulnerability and maybe love again one day thank you so much I appreciate you and your value to this earth and the people walking on it, is immense. I'm a scapegoat and although I realized my mother was in malignant narcissist and my father was a covert narcissist and actually both of them were covert to some degree, I didn't really understand the damage it did to stick around until much later when I experienced such hate from my siblings as well as my mother who I like into an ex-spouse who alienates you from your shared children's my mother was a monster ..

I relate to the pain caused by jokes being made about being single and childless. I'm 54, and I've never been married. Being a woman, there's this expectation by others that I should've been married by now. 😔

Thank you Richard. I’m a mental health therapist in New York State and have also been through abuse by unstable and Narcissistic individuals. I have been following you for a while and can see the onion skin layers being peeled here. It’s hard and sometimes excruciating work. I could go on but I really just wanted to say “Thank you” for your honesty. That’s very brave. You have helped me and I will be following you as you continue on your journey. We are always on a journey. With gratitude, Laura B

I am sorry and sympathetic Richard - I am 46 and single and understand the pain that gets activated when people assume that I am just a cad that plays the field and to blame for being alone. I always wanted a family and a strong partner to raise the family with too. Stay strong, brother-man!

I have been so broken for the last 5 months because of what my NPD partner hurt me. I thought there was no way out because i still loved her and wanted her back. But this today, listening to you has set me free! Thank you so much!

Really touching and genuine video. ❤

You are telling my story. The amount of time I've spent questioning if it was just in my head is impressive. Sad but impressive.

My little heart broke for you watching this, you are very brave Richard. I will be forever grateful for the help and understanding you have bestowed to me as well as so many others. I would agree that for me also - super ego injunctions are almost harder to argue with than the psychopath threatening your life. Both are quite terrifying, but the super ego seems more of a harder prison to escape than running for your life - as an adult of course - i only say this from experience, not devaluing anyone’s experiences with either situation - Sending hugs to you Xo❤️

I'm older than Richard, grew up in the UK in a time when we simply didn't discuss our feelings. The entire nation had such a rod up its arse. RG is doing amazing work in dispelling that awful paradigm. Everyone from my generation is in recovery of some kind. We need to express ourselves genuinely and emotionally.

I like how people who experienced the abuse have this dark humour because the experience was so unreal and absurd that noone else would be able to laugh at it. Thank you for changing people

Been watching you for so many years. Cried with you in this. Just sending tight hugs. 💜 Thank you for so bravely sharing parts on your story 🙏

Richard, I have been confused/skeptical about trusting men after my 4 year abusive narcissistic relationship, by seeing this video you restored part of that trust that, there are men that feel feelings Thank you

Admire your willingness to be open and vulnerable to help others. Thank you for giving us all so much of yourself. We all wish we could comfort you the same way you do us x

Primal Way Roast was epic 😂😂😂 and so true! As a person living in the US I can verify that you are spot on. Also having been in the military, it is worse than you think. I’m in utter amazement on a daily.

This has blown me away. It is very sad to hear that you had hopes of having children & it never happened. Amazingly open, brave, sincere and honest of you to speak on these private matters. Thank you for sharing.

This is so validating. I was damaged early. I just thought a family was never going to happen. I have had 3 narcs. I still believe in marriage and family and god. But, also in truth. ❤️

This is such a vulnerable video - It has been the most gut wrenching realization that there are people on the planet who have no soul within them. It's the murder of your very soul. Your truth is very much needed. Thank you, healing is a journey that takes great courage...fearless!

I had the exact same experience! Three different relationships where he had to move in because they had no place to live and you didn’t want to rip the Band-Aid off and break free and have them be homeless. When he threatened to leave, I used that threat at face value to have that be my exit. When they say ‘I just have to leave you’ or ‘why don’t you just break up with me?’ do it, break up, but not at the heat of the moment because that would cause a rage. They use break up threats to get you to say ‘please come back’, nope… change the locks and move their stuff into storage when they are out of town.❤

I ended up homeless. It’s cruel, unjust- evil. Thanks for all you do Richard. 🙏🏻

I'm glad I'm not the only one who can't deal with trauma in other peoples lives. it's just too much for me. But thank God there are people who can. Thank you to all the truely empathetic counselors out there❤

Dear Richard sending your much love from Germany. I'm a woman and my life story is like yours . Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest. You are a very special wonderful man. God bless you and all of us who suffer from love which is all we ever wanted. ❤

Sending so much love to you Richard, your vulnerability in sharing your experience and your raw emotions has really touched my heart. You’re a beacon of light for so many others recovering from narcissistic abuse. Thank you for everything you do.🙏🏼

A few years ago in one night your name rang out in my dream. When I woke up in the morning, I kept repeating it and trying to understand form where. So I searched and found your channel. Thank you for existing Richard. I learned so many things, I started reading a lot of psychology and I remained as empathetic as ever, only now I love myself in the first instance.💜🍀 Good luck!

I love you so much! If I were younger I would beg you to have children with you! Instead I am 65, met my husband in 1999, he asked me out on a date one year after I joined AA (following a suicide attempt a year earlier). He’s known that for 24 years. 31/2 years ago, I discovered he was having an affair. A very serious one. Long story short; everything you have said is what I’ve experienced. We tried to work it out. Instead I became an investigator. In needles and pins, always wondering where he was. Could someone really work this much? I instigated a narcissistic trauma? Break? Unbeknownst to me and have been suffering his rage for seven months. The pain is excruciating. Sometimes I think he wants me to commit suicide and that way he wouldn’t have to pay the things we’ve agreed on in our divorce. I’ve cried every day for 7 months. I’m dead inside but listening to you helps me so much! I keep trudging along! Btw: after the first affair I relapsed and lost 24 years of sobriety. I am sober again now, 7 months, he knows I’m newly sober and vulnerable and close to a drink but I’m refusing to drink and or commit suicide! I’m determined to get through this! Thank you Richard. Leslie D.

I was stuck in a narcissistic relationship for 2 years and everything you described is what i lived through. It was the most difficult thing ive ever had to go through emotionally. So much manipulation, control and selfishness i almost lost who i was. At the end he tried to sabotage my relationships with friends, attacked me as a person and im pretty sure he cheated because he'd disappear for days to make me suffer....it was a nightmare 😔 he keeps leaving and coming back, having breakdowns but i can see through the bs now and so ive decided yo end it forever nomatter what it takes but i don't hate men now 🙂

Brother. You'll be a lovely father. And/or you will be a learned guide to many, many people who need to hear your voice. You've earned the right to speak either way. Never mind. Get on with what you'd like. ❤

I've watched 7 years of your videos. This one really hits home. The way you describe the x y con game has been crazy making. My mind works like crazy to figure it all out. I experience rage that has nowhere to go. Punishment charm with others. Using my loyalty and desire to please to my peril. Thank you for sharing this, Richard. Your openness is appreciated. I feel less aline and confused.

So so kind Richard i have been abused for so so long i still could not hate my abuser and i lost everything my beautyful children and my lovely grsndchildren still could not hate him thank you again you have been so helpful

The sentiment that comes across here is bravery, the courage to tell your true, authentic story. For me, one of the best videos on this subject (NPD abuse recovery) on YT. At the risk of speaking out of turn, we are all grateful for having you in this world.

Richard, I’m half-way through watching this and you are such a genuinely lovely guy - and you will find happiness and peace in full as time goes by, because you have the great gifts of introspection and intelligence and a loving nature - and - you are a life-long learner with the oomph to put the new good things into practice. You already have helped so many - you deserve to be proud of your work and you deserve to be happy

Lots of respect for you to be frank and open how you feel about having no wife and children at age 46. Most people don't even dare to think about it to show this vulnerability to avoid being laughed at which sadly many (narcissistic/sadistic/psychopathic) people do. I hope for you and for all other men who are in the same situation to still be able to get married and have a normal family life. Because a healthy society is based upon families and a human in general functions best and feels peace when he is part of his own family.

Richard! You don't know me but ive been listening to you for years. I have learned so much listening to you 😢. ( Tears of reminiscing the emotional journey) I'm in a better place now. I hear you. I'm here with you! Some people will not understand. Some people don't want to understand. The ones who do will reap what you are teaching. You are brave for sharing this. You're a great example of strength.

I just watched Oliver Twist(original ) with my 13 year old and found myself crying full on crying I was thinking to myself..Oliver was so lucky he found safety in the end but how about the rest of the boys and girls used and damage as a kids and never known how to feel to be loved or care about growing up to be troubled damaged adults that are not capable of love coz all they experience so far was neglect and exploitation .And then I watched this on KZfaq found the subject very similar -at least I find it similar.🤔 Thanks for sharing 🤗🤜🏻

Same with me Richard , it's all happened to me too until I'm energetically drained, bankrupt , and immune issues. I have learned to have boundaries now as I am a caring introverted empath, a huge target of narcissists. I'm still healing physically & emotionally and trying to save money again. Thankyou for your podcasts Hope you meet someone nice soon. 🧡☮️🍓

Why I never met a man like you, Richard don't know. Why I fell for the abusive mean bastards I have!! What injustices these narcissists create to good, decent people. God bless you, you've helped me through this shit tremendously!!

Been there too many times...your videos have helped me find healing...I've been in three as well and, they only got worse. The last one was without a doubt the worst human being I've ever known. I too broke contact with very abusive narcissist parents. Continued in darkness, finally sought therapy and research on my own. OUCH!~ I am now 3 years no contact and divorced and...no dating, no desire to seek affirmation from a partner and loving my life. Love you Richard, thank you for sharing.

Great to be part of the live. When you said ''I never saw these tears when you were bullying me'', it struck, and when you said, ''I was always made to feel that I was doing something wrong or that I wasn't good enough''. Yeah , right there ! It took all my strength and wisdom to turn on my heel , but I did it ! Who the f do these people think that they are to break us down? !! THEY need to go to counselling and to work on themselves , not us. Keep well everyone.

I was in 2 very abusive relationships. It made me see a narcissist/psychopath in almost everyone because I'm paranoid. I don't wanna be hurt anymore. 💔

I never blamed men or women due to trauma, but I was fearful of older men and some extremely manly men. But I got myself through and got over it! Thank you for bringing it up!

I've loved your channels since Malaysia, they're so valuable to me. Your laugh is adorable and your vision and knowledge always surprises me. Big hug of empathy and respect from this 'cuddly built' grandma in Australia.

*he says I am the narcissist. I’ve cried and begged and been on my pity pot now for months. *he has spent thousands on his new supply and left me to deal with everything, packing the house for sale, showing the house, no money, not making my car payments. Will not respond to texts, etc. I find myself doubting if it’s him or me. **its him

Thank you for sharing this Richard , very touching and deep. Touched me on many levels as a child myself raised by 2 shitty narsassist bastards

thank you Richard! your story is like my story with my 3 toxic relationships (with men, I'm a woman) 44 years old and single.. healed 🎉

thank you very much for your vulnerability & heartfelt spoken truth...your channel helped me so much over the years..thank you🖤❤️💖Love from black Germany 🇩🇪🙌🏾💖

I’ve been through 3 narcissistic abusive relationships myself so I have a lot of compassion for you. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. I’ve been single for a year and a half and so traumatized from the last one I haven’t even dared to find a relationship. I might never but at least not for another 2 years, that’s how much the last one damaged me.

Soooo many relationships!!!fourteen?!?!!! Whoa 😱 May peace be multiplied to you and everyone suffering from the trauma.

Thank you so much Richard, I've learned a lot from you over the years and it's helped me a ton. Your work is so needed right now❤❤❤

Richard we've never met in real life but you have a special place in my heart, your videos saved me and i know it saved and will save thousand others , thank you

Richard I am 45 as well and have been in a severe narc relationship with a woman for 12 years. I identify with your 15 years brother, I did not want to leave either but I forced myself to do so. Adequately put when you said it is horror move scenario where I have to cut off my own arm. I am really struggling with that now as its only been 6 weeks. You are my source for all this material, as a man I know that you can understand where I'm coming from when you're entangled with a female covert. I feel all your pain, your words are heard and I know EXACTLY how you feel about these things and relationships. I know how hard it is for me and I tip my cap to you sir. As men we must keep moving forward. I have purchased your matrix course. I am ready to put the work in. Thank you for being you and from all of us out here, we love you, you ARE good enough.

For what it's worth, I feel the best therapy I have received through this journey has been those on KZfaq (such as yourself) the inform others about it.

I’ve followed you since 2011. You are a great man. Helped me immensely. Head and shoulders above everyone on this subject. Sorry about what happened to you, Richard.

"It's not good enough...don't seek a team in a spirit of conflict" This is, besides being biblical, exactly why it's so hard to find support coming out of the type of relationship I'm experiencing and you're describing. I'm not seeking someone to be on my side and destroy my abuser and yet there are so many people who have been conditioned to basically hear a few soundbites from what's happened to me and go sick the person or assume things about me. He needs help, I'm getting help but there is not much of a pool of true support. I agree also with what you said about it being harder to be cowardly than brave. For me it's getting less and less draining to speak up and take back my voice. So...thanks for being a supportive, genuine person. Thanks for standing up for yourself and sharing your testimony so that others can be encouraged to do the same. Richard, I pray God's blessing and protection on you and your endeavors🙏🏼

Thank you for sharing!! My mother was a narcissist, and my ex from 2 years ago was a nasty covert. I am 62. It took me that long to truly understand what a narc is. The betrayal,stalking,gaslighting, etc. WTF. I did see the oddness, the constant roller coaster ride, none of it made sense. I broke it off and went no contact. He really went after me by stalking, lies,so much drama, finally obtained a TRO so he would stop showing up everywhere. Major violation of your personal space always looking over my shoulder. I researched constantly on yt to understand what had happened..all of it is hard to wrap your mind around what it was, you can't really analyze anything whatsoever,what they do does not make sense. I really learned a lot through the process, feeling stronger in who I am now.

Hey Richard. I can't tell you how much your videos have helped me. I'm in the process of leaving a very toxic relationship. Your words have provided me comfort and an understanding of what has happened to me over the course of the last seven years. The emotional toll this has taken on me is huge. I will continue to watch you in the future for guidance and support.

I was born to a Narcissistic mother and that set the stage for me to go into adulthood thinking WHAT I GREW UP IN WAS NORMAL..I went on to be in 3 more narcissistic relationships and NOW I don't even entertain the thought of another relationship AT ALL!! Period! Game over!