Narcissist treat us all to a very valuable education. An expensive one. Learn your lessons, build your boundaries and learn to enjoy your own company. Make friends and get hobbies. Your enough alone, take yourself out on dates, get a pet to love, volunteer somewhere, animal shelter is always needed.

Yep, that's how you get tricked - at first you try to prove your loyalty and prove that you can be trusted and then slowly turn into a slave . Very easy way to avoid having a relationship with a narcissist - don't date someone out of pity. If you feel like you pity this person , you don't really respect this person, but you believe in your magical ability to turn them into what YOU want them to be - you are fooling yourself. Only date people who's personality you genuinely like. People who you like the way they are

The venom part is real. At one point I told him “I feel like my mind has been poisoned.”

There is no where to go after a Narcissist Abusive relationship except to humility and self reflection. The sadness is overwhelming, the mind is foggy, questions you can't answer, nothing makes sense at all and no one believes your story anyway. Therapy does help tremendously, Journaling helps, admission of loving someone who could not love or cared to learn how. Years lost on someone who would never be what you hoped they could. I forgave myself first and then him and his family who Aldo participated. Moving forward towards who I am and who I want to be. Honesty with myself first. What people think don't matter, I know what I experienced. Being believed is not necessary. My Truth is what counts. Thanks Richard.. GREAT VIDEO!

Please remember if you were involved with a narc or a sociopath or a psychopath in the first stages of your relationship it’s not your fault you fell for their charm, their lies, their manipulation. You didn’t even know these things were happening. So you learned your lessons, you’ve come to terms with the person you thought you cared for was a fake. So please FORGIVE yourself, and later forgive the narc so you can be free and not concerned with them anymore ❤

Experiencing a narcissistic relationship is humbling- Because there’s no solution And the levels of confusion are extremely destabilizing. Ty RG ❤️

I just rolled off my second toxic relationship in a 2 year period. I accept my stupidity and try and laugh at myself, because if not I'm going to drive myself insane trying to rationalize things that will never make sense. I can accept that. I'm predictable when it comes to fitting a square relationship in a circle hole.. you can't jam it, when you need to jelly it.

My great crime, to me, was that I didn't leave. There were so many times that he did something terrible & I should have gone & I didn't! My therapist talks about humility & acceptance. Acceptance is very empowering. Thank you Richard.

Self-awareness and accountabilty are keys. We can't blame the Narc for not having it, and not have it ourselves. Losing years to an illusion SUCKS. But it takes two to tango. Looking at what got us in it in the first place is the first step on the road to recovery. No mud, no lotus.

I totally agree a sin is always involved. Was a non beleiving Catholic, alcholic, sex loving, workaholic, truth bender until abused. Putting on all Gods armour saved me. 1 - Belt of Truth. The belt of truth signifies holding God's truth close to yourself at the core of your being. ... 2- Breastplate of Righteousness. ... 3 - Feet Fitted with the Gospel of Peace. ... 4 - Shield of Faith. ... 5 - Helmet of Salvation. ... 6 - Sword of the Spirit. ... 7 - Prayer. If you are rightous, truthful, have faith, beleive in salvation. You can then stand alone and not be affected by the npd's

Don’t worry about your concern Richard. Your videos have saved my life. I take responsibility for being human, for losing, for not being healthy enough to recognize it. I lost everything, my career, friendships, family. I accept it and I understand why it happened now. You are a big part of that man. Thank you

I went into my marriage knowing something was wrong but he treated me like my mother did and it felt familiar. I wasn’t authentic. I only attract them, so I’ve got a lot of work to do but at least I spot them quickly these days.

I literally just walked out of a narcissistic abuse relationship twelve hours ago and I have felt so many emotions sadness And emptiness seem to be the all thats left

Jesus walked the Earth. The Humblest Man who ever lived!!! I am a Follower of Jesus!!!! I am proud to be humble. God hates pride!!! Be humble like Jesus was. You are giving us the right advice!!! Thank you, Richard❤

First step - be kind. “keep coming back to this.” Needed to be reminded of this.

That's the crazy thing . With humility , there becomes the genuine sovereignty. You see, because in that there is full accountability. It doesn't absolve the abuser , but it returns agency to you. This is great insight RG . ✌️

I was not able for years to learn to forgive myself and to be kind to myself. Finally Finally Finally......after years of inner work I am able now and it’s wonderful.....I feel joy again. 😊 This is all true Richard. I was so infected with their spirits .....the enmeshment...spirit of fear, of pride, of anger, of judgement, of lies, shame, arrogance ,envy, jalousy......I was infected with all this and I judged myself for it and now after individuation I can see and feel that this wasn't me 😃😃I constantly get in contact with my inner child, my inner adolescent and sad that it wasn't her fault, I explained her what happened, I gave her what she needed in the past and I took responsability for her pain, changed her believes which were projections and then real healing began. I became much more humble automatically. It was not possible to be humble at first. I had to gave myself security, forgiveness and understanding first. Thank you Richard

It’s weird but I feel there is something in your age that triggers an awakening in your brain to the truth. I’ve just turned 50 and I can honestly say I don’t think I could’ve felt this way 10 years ago. I knew something was wrong but I wasn’t able to process what my instincts were telling me. Over the last 18 months I can honestly say I’ve been able to open my mind. It’s like a transfer window in footy, if I hadn’t done this in that specific time I would’ve never got it. Maybe my turning to god or a loss of some chemical in my brain when I went through menopause. Whatever it is I feel so lucky to have seen what I see and escaped from the depths of despair 😊 also thanks to you, Sam, Danish, Jessie and a few others who helped me along the way 🤩

Possibly Richard's most helpful video ever, for me anyway. Planning to share!

I think humbleness comes hand in hand with accountability (not guilt!). I have recently watched an interview of the Wolf of Wall street Jordan Belfort’s ex-wife Nadia (he is real narcissist, if not a psychopath), and what I really liked is that she didn’t blame it all on him but also said that she holds herself accountable for what happened in her life too, as you said “it has to be something wrong with me too, if I allowed this to happen in my life”. And it’s not victim blaming, it’s being accountable for your life as an adult.

Indeed! Had to be said. Narcissistic wounding creates narcissistic defences. In my own recovery I’ve had to go into those wounds and whilst I was feeling them I had to (temporarily) accept the voice of the narcissist- I had to feel the shame, sadness, & intense hurt that the words created in me. I had to feel it all, in order to release it and transform it. And to feel it fully I had to stop suppressing it. It was lodged on a really deep level because I was resisting and suppressing. My resistance (in the form of ‘but I didn’t deserve it’, ‘but I wasn’t the abuser’), even though logically & empirically correct! was actually keeping the wounding stuck within me, and was producing compensatory behaviours to prove to myself that I wasn’t what I had been painted to be. This is the crux of narcissistic wounding. Even if consciously you know it was their trauma and issues, by the time you’ve become embroiled then your subconscious has heard and received the devaluing messages, whether rationally you agreed with them or not. It may be mild compared to what they suffered as children, but it’s still in you. And if you’ve had a tendency to remain in these types of dynamics, then you probably have some wounding like this from your childhood as well (coupled with neglect) that has also lodged there. I suspect trauma bonding is at least in part the psyche is seeking absolution, acceptance, love from the very voice that declared your unworthiness. This may also be why trying to heal from a trauma bond with someone who has BPD & co-morbid narcissistic traits is arguably even harder than straight up NPD, because there can be some real affection and love from people like that, even though it’s all mingled up with toxicity, so it’s even harder to walk away because the absolution and love is there! It’s just waiting for you to take them in again. But obviously that’s a trap...all part of the manipulation and their inability to self soothe. The only way through is to give ourselves that witnessing and absolution, and to feel absolved we actually need to fully process the shame, hurt and anger. But thankfully if you’re open to it, it can be done in a therapeutic space, through a number of modalities (I don’t just do things cognitively, I have to work somatically as well). But all this to say Richard’s right, once it’s in you it’s 100% your responsibility. And if meaning is what we need, then learning and growing can be the meaning, and sometimes even just having experiences. I mean I wouldn’t go back into the toxic dynamics I have experienced, but I wouldn’t want them to have never happened either. There was an incredible amount of beauty, fun, connection, steaminess and even love (sometimes) in them. But there was also abuse and all the shitty stuff as well. I can be grateful for the good stuff whilst still knowing that I’d prefer and deserve to have more peaceful and healthy interactions in the future. They taught me a lot. I wouldn’t be who I am without them.

I was in this kind of relationship for years. I was needy when I got into it and emotionally immature. Also received a programming from childhood that I was never enough. And that’s why, I feel, I had to go through this relationship. To break that trauma. For a narcissist, you will never be enough. I followed that wrong pattern. But this was the chance for me to wake up and break the cycle. To realise what was wrong with me. To step on the path of healing. I am thankful for that. I encourage all who suffered from narcissistic abuse to see the lesson in this situation. Life doesn’t punish us. It gives us lessons and challenges. Life doesn’t want to destroy us. Life wants us to realise that we are capable of living. You are forgiven, you are loved.

How you stand up for the truth is beautiful and admirable. Your integrity shines through.

Are you saying that there are people who start this process being anything but devastated? I remember what a relief it was when I got angry because with anger came creativity and determination. Up to then I was paralyzed. When I look at the outcome for my children it is clear we did not win. I kept waiting for the world to make sense, and for me to feel wise . There has been no redemption or validation, no requests for forgiveness, no perfect world. You'll never meet your quota of bad people or pain. The Universe will never determine that you have paid enough, and neither will your toxic family, sadistic ex or traumatized kids.

Its a crazy journey. I'm finally getting to understanding my situation. ❤

Thank you for your time, Richard. Especially in making these videos. They really help.

This is why Buddhism is the way out of our mental cage that the narcassists put us in. When we do mind body work we use our own voice. The more we do that the more we will recognise our voice over the other voices.

I felt overwhelming guilt more than anything when I left my last narcissistic partner.. she did make out like I was horrible for leaving her though. Like some helpless abandoned child. It's sickening how perfect their acting is. Absolutely diabolical

Humility is accepting that you have lost the ego war so that you can truly win your mind, your spirit, your heart. So much peace comes with it.

I will forgive myself. It's a process. When I met him, I wanted to be loved. I wanted to be wanted. I thought he really loved me. I passed off the red flags as his faults. No one is without faults. I did not understand the dynamics of narcissism until recently. It makes no sense to kick myself in the ass for it. It's a lesson to be learned from and move forward while healing.

I like what you said about humility, redemption and forgiveness.

Best talk ever. . This encapsulates the journey to wholeness for myself. Kindness, compassion, humility…. These are the best paths.

Well said Richard, truth is healing!

Completely agree. 27 years. I justified staying so my kids would have a dad and a decent lifestyle to grow up with. I moved to separate on the 26/12/23. It’s only been nearly 2 months. Hopefully we can divorce amicably. I’m so done. I don’t hate him, we both behaved badly on occasion. I have a lot of work to do to regain my independence at age 51. The grieving process is definitely a thing. The love bombing thing is in full force. I just want to feel better and be a loving person toward my kids and the friends I have that love me. We all make mistakes and when you know better you do better ❤

Thank you Richard you help us a lot ! Detachment finally kicked in for my set of mind to finally do it NOW ! Difficult but necessary was to the point of me getting sick and die or to tell ,find authority , legally to have my adult narcissist son (42years old) move out 60 days notice . He’s the continuation of abuse as my own family chain … my mother , ex husband his father , 3 ex boyfriends . Thank you to our community, who needs to get out is …NOW , ASAP , nothing goes better with time only WORSE !!! This new approach of humble,humility,tell , AUTHENTICITY IS MY WORD FOR A MONTH 💕 in my character now for Myself!

You are absolutely the BEST Narcissistic Expert on KZfaq. Thank you so much for all that you do and the way that you do it sir. God bless. ❤

I was barely out of that insanity, broken , in a bizarre new world of damage emotionally, then got cancer , nearly died , it’s been hell trying to recover . Not able to work after being hit by a truck years ago . Can’t afford therapy in Australia, we get 6 hours a year subsidy from the government so it has to be self help n books n you tube , lifeline , domestic violence support services but it’s so minimal and sadly there are psychological support providers who aren’t ethical or don’t know anything about this . He’s helped me more than any other psychologist. It’s made me feel worse . Ty Richard .

The years you're honesty moved forwards. Some what as I too learned to forgive myself. Keep on going. One step a time

Ii thank you Richard:) Been watching as I heal, since 2014. Much appreciation! Kept me company through a 14 year muck hole. ❤❤

I know this post is 3 months old: but I needed Mr.Grannon's wisdom poured out here. And I'm grateful for it. As well let me add because I've gone through this - being vicious and saying or doing anything back just poisons you! It only makes you feel worse and makes you question yourself more , hate on yourself more for being so "unlike" your true loving peaceful self, it just makes you sicker - not the person who is / has been doing real damage to you. So yes, be humble with yourself and reinstate as much PEACE and as great a Serine environment around yourself and for yourself no matter what. {if you are still around the damaging person - just do all you can truly to stop all interactions until...}

I agree with ALL of this. I have had 3 narc relationships over 30+ years. I felt so stupid after my 3rd which I ended 9 weeks ago. I have felt all the guilt, blamed myself… all of it! But I have learned to forgive them AND myself for making those mistakes. I am being kind, humble and loving towards me and focus on my healing. Unfortunately I am not able to put it all behind me as there are ongoing issues to deal with in a legal sense but I will remember to remain humble and forgiving as I go forward. I am only human, fallible and but have the ability to do and be better with these lessons 🙏🏻

Right on brother. Last night I was saying to myself, you are beautiful, smart, and amazing woman. Then I thought, wow I sound like a narcissist then I laughed and God reminded me, well you have been calling yourself a piece of shit for so long, its ok in the privacy of your own home, to build your self esteem. Be humble out there in the world..

Do you know what my sin was? I didn’t know my worth and I let a man determine my worth for 34 years of marriage and my religious beliefs kept me in that marriage. I thought I could change this man and teach him humility and teach him how to react kindly. The golden rule never worked on him. I suffered. I floundered and made mistakes trying to find self-worth in the relationship and outside the relationship. I finally found videos online like this, that helped me break free.

I've been recovering from narcissism for some time now and still have a lot to learn. However, there is one thing I have known about myself and my recovery from the get go. That is that, I do not want to hurt the narcissist. As Mr. Grannon is saying, it is a big failure because you are then no different than the narcissist. It has always been very easy for me to destroy a narcissist with sarcasm, hitting below the belt as they do and crushing their feelings and ego. The only thing that has ever done for me is to make me feel guilty and apologetic towards the narcissist, thus keeping me in the state of non-recovery.

Here I am. Since Four o'clock in the morning...Listening to you and understanding every single word ...and still, feeling miserable. I was married for 40 years.I raised four boys whom I named like their father. I left him five and a half years ago. This never ending loneliness seems to get worse and worse. I don't see myself as stupid but emotionally I know I'm an idiot. I forgive myself for that but I can't help feeling sorry for myself and this sorrow is not compatíble with my idea of dignity and self respect... It's been sooo hard . This man for whom I now feel sorrow, keeps haunting me like a ghost...

If you keep going back, you will find it only gets worse, I went back so many times just to make sure they were ok, as i worried that it was all my fault. If you do the work with yourself first and really learn to heal yourself back to love and health, you will see their floors more and more. It starts with you. These videos have helped so so much, never let it be said that being informed with the correct information doesnt work, they are all part of the personal healing journey. A good therapist, journalling giving yourself time to breath and heal, and good informative guidance, you will break free 🙏

Wow, This is Very Powerful. Your Very Best. Thank you.

Deep down i think we attract where we are at. I was vulnerable and narcs sense it. If you love yourself and forgive yourself and trust you can have boundaries your safe. If you choose love and kindness and humility you will attract that. I turned into a very angry bitter person I still have this in me . If your abused in childhood you marry your abuser over and over even choose toxic friends. Its all u know. I think getting to rock bottom you say ENOUGH. Your way out is love and being kind. Richard i think your so great. Im so thankful I found your teaching. 😊 Your very special!!

That part at 11:54 is huge for men to observe, seeing how to vocalize pain is probably not a lot of us have been taught.

My 1st one was over 9 years ago. Lasted 2 years. I was so traumatized i stayed single for 7 years. The a girl pursued me with great intensity and speed. I knew something was wrong from the beginning, but it was so fun and happy i got sucked in. Turned out she has bpd. I held out for 7 yrs then ended it. I was so broken a d mentally and physically damaged. After i had her leave she said she never wanted to speak to me again and that i abised her. I was stunned. I have now been diagnosed with cptsd.

Yeah I've had 7 narcissists in my life and have 2 still around me...but I can handle them as I don't see them much anymore ...I'm winning in life now and have finally through the help of people like you help me survive these demons and get through all my trauma....x

Go where it's easy to be accepted, not a fight. I'm grateful for that advice. And your guidance on this years-long journey of soul and mind has been irreplaceable, Richard. Makes sense that it gets overwhelming at times. Lord knows each of us has been in that state many times, too. This video has me reexamining a lot of interactions now, it is doing good.

Ive been living this for ten years surviving now time to put it all to work now that im finally NO CONTACT😊 in theripy nowadays.....

A creative person just çan't create when in a nrc relationship.I'ts absolute hell.

We walked right into it willingly. I was young but stayed till 40’s trying to “make” it work.

I thank God for you often & for His angels to cover & protect you Richard . The fantasy/dual mothership youtube revelation was a life saver for me ❤❤❤

Your understanding of THIS, is answered prayer. Thank you for the revelations.blessings.

I appreciate these videos. I just started watching them a few days ago and my perspective is already starting to change. They’re really helping me.

You really are an expert Richard, doing this work will help you not relapse, what do you think of the idea that soulmates split into polar opposites in this 3D world, light/dark relationships everywhere. Do you think lightworkers need to be abused to toughen up and get smarter??? Part of the hybridisation agenda on earth? Good video, complex subject, process work never ends...❤🌟🙏🌟

Even after being separated for more than a decade... When you have a child together, and the child grows up to be a teen mirroring and being coached by the narcissistic parent. Both abusing you at the same time. I stand up and say to you all " I will keep healing even when I'm in the fire." I sit in humility and learn from every step taken. Love to you all. xoxo Thank you @RICHARDGRANNON for being a part of my healing journey. You make the difference in the world.

Humility is actually very healing, its like a weight off, and being deadly honest is also very therapeutic. And the balancing of humility and kindness to self in your msg is very helpful and on point. Thank you

This one made me cry. Thank you for the message or forgiving yourself and having humility. There were times when I thought I had to be strong and not grieve, but the fact that it was so easy to hear what you said and cry because of how true your statements were, say a lot.

This has been very encouraging. A great reminder of what to do. But to also know that what you walked away from was the right thing to do.

so brilliantly said. I teach this with my clients and it’s wonderful for me to listen to your deeper layers. I agree with this inner reflection, the introject, aligning with truth, humility and how we all fumble- we all make these “Mis Takes”

This video is really priceless. Honestly it’s the BEST NPD abuse video I’ve ever seen. You are doing incredible healing work on this topic and giving some reality sound, grounded advice while also being very effective. Plus you are so humble, AND funny! think you should be awarded for your service to humanity in this field. Thanks so much for what you do and the work you put into this.

Thank you Richard. Very helpful, clear and uplifting.

Love your flavour and humour Richard And I understand Humility knowing the difference through context switch.

Thanks Richard another great video!! from one humble compassionate ole gal! Big smiles to you. 😊bless you for the people you help💗

This is a wonderful video Richard. Thank you. and I'm glad for you, too. Take Care and Thank you again

Hi Richard, I'm out of a Narsscistic marriage that I survived for 9 years. Thank you for teaching me the next steps that I need to take. It has taken me nearly 4 months to realise the person I fell in love with was a phantom, and Because I had very little experience of relationships prior to the marriage. I idealised my partner and jumped into the fantasy that I realised both constructed. I'm starting at rock bottom and reconstructing myself and giving up my revenge I had planned. Taking these first few steps are scary but I know it's necessary.

This is amazing. What you are saying is something I had not heard before and it explains the things I still had not understood. And it also explains why I feel the hate and cruel vengeance so many other channels spew made me feel something was dreadfully amiss. Wow. Thank you.

Richard, thank you for your help with these videos without them. I wouldn’t have the knowledge I do now and just wanted to say I’m very grateful and thank you for what you do.

One of the best videos from Richard. Thank you

I really needed this today Richard. Thankyou so much 🙏🏼💖

25 years married, then divorce, 30 years later returned, got involved, 9 months in blocked it all. My previous life passed before my eyes and suddenly I understood. Back to Al anon and working on me and moving on. Getting counseling. Grieving and forgiving myself, realizing what was lost but moving thru. No trying to pay him back. Even if I loose my family on the smear campaign, I will be fine alone, I have many friends.

This video is beautiful. Thank you, Richard 😢❤

Thank you it has been almost 5 months and i agree is forgiving myself Caring for my self and be kind to myself thank you 🙏

Such insights expressed extremely well. This video is a gift.

This was so good again 🙏 Yeah I’ve started watching your content as I’ve been seeing my own narcissistic traits because of it all tbh and as I’ve only just felt like I’ve properly healed from it recently by accepting how much I was had off an that I played a role in that but was all I was capable of at the time. Been working on it from many angles and your course healing from the matrix of npd abuse - a couple of the main points in that changed things massively so thanks Richard. Your understanding of how it operates is the best I’ve come across. This whole topic of npd abuse ; it’s in everything, it’s everywhere, it’s a virus 🦠 infecting us all which is why it’s so difficult to see through the spell.

Lucky we have Reacher to guide us on our healing journey lol. God bless, may all here find peace, power and prosperity!

Yes, yes, yes! I agree. When I was still angry, blaming, and hard I was nowhere near being healed, or even okay. Humility and calmness are coming slowly, and with them a feeling of peace. That feels a lot more like healing to me. Thanks for the vids. I love your insights.

Thank you. I’m so glad I found this. I know now I have to be kind to myself. I kept kicking myself and beating myself up. I’m going to treat myself with kindness and respect coz I just made a mistake. You really helped me

A candid and impressive conclusion of thought, I appreciate your sharing.

This is outstanding and the most practical real life, applicable help I have heard yet since this unreal shit storm unfolded on me over a year ago. Thanks for these videos, they are helping me.

"Fake it till you make it", "needy" cool keywords. I wish I wasn't that needy myself... "Why do people depend on each other, in the end you are on your own." another cool catchphrase from a video game...🤟🦁🖤

Best dose of reality for me I have heard,ty. I am 73 yrs young & I now recognize my homeward journey was my start to my next act. Grateful really if the narc never was in my life I would never have learned the lesson. My journey is a reward

I am just grateful for your work and honesty and insisting we be honest and humble to ourselves. I was in a half- dead state when I stumbled on your video, and Fortress got me started. I am starting therapy , again, and that is a good reminder. And a Dr. Phil said you need to be " coachable" which takes humility. Gobs of it.

41:27 Exactly 💯 Thanks Richard for all your videos, I have been watching for over 5 years and I'm finally "getting it". Was assaulted and abused numerous times by numerous people from birth to age 40. Am finally healing. I thought I was a narcissist too but I think I had just taken on the parts from the people who abused me. Wasted over a decade with one who took my early adult years, health, energy , sanity, all my money and possessions, and parts of who I was. Coming out of the fog now. It has been hard but it's not impossible. You give me hope. Thank you.

Thank you for offering these videos and your sanity through this difficult time... Thank you for bringing the light to the darkness and offering hope....

Time and mercy ❤

He is so right about how we respond in narcissistic ways. Even empathetic people tend to be selfish.. This is so true. 🎉 Thanks for that info. This is great..

Richard you are saving life’s. I understand there are things you need to keep to yourself but I do know God is with you. Warrior

You are very kind man. Best wishes for you! There is a saying "Pride walks before fall" its complite Truth. Humility is a superpower.

Been a while since I've experienced such clear synchronicity I finished a few of your sentences for you Thanks Richard I've got to be honest with myself if I want to trust myself again

thank you, Richard. I just listened to this again a second time and it is really helping me. I am currently really stuck in my wounds.

These videos are a bit late, but are very helpful! I realized my last relationship was also a little abusive in the Narcissist sense, but it was lower level than what I am used to. I was with a Rock Star Drummer for 9 years. He has so many of the signs, but he was never abusive or controlling over me. Instead, he needed a perpetual audience in his personal life when he wasn't on tour. He was never cruel to me, but he had this idea that he couldn't understand why people get upset when he "bleeds on them." What he thought he was doing was complaining and expressing his troubles. What he WAS doing was getting paper cuts and then ripping his own arm off and beating me with it, to illustrate how bad he felt. Lol...He was always the Victim. Unfortunately for him, my experiences were usually much worse, so if I was relating to him and giving advice, he would see it as though I was trying to win a "how bad" contest. I only wanted to illustrate that I "get it." He abandoned me in my time of need, when I started displaying serious MS symptoms. I just got pissed about that, after every back-breaking thing I had done for him, and left the relationship immediately. I can be proud of myself for that. Turns out, it took 50 years for my spinal cord injury, that nobody-not even me- knew about, to begin disabling me. I sustained that injury in the early part of my abuse journey, at the age of 5. It went unchecked and I was neglected. All of my symptoms were ridiculed and ignored, so I learned to live with them and thought a lot of them were actually normal. Finally get to see a neurologist today, in fact! The MRI is already done, neurologists have been hard to come by lately. But I got the first part of the diagnosis and I knew right away, how and when I got that injury. It took me out of my body, to watch from the ceiling. I don't even know what happened after I was nearly beaten to death or crippled, I just know everything changed in my perceptions, when I was blamed for the attack for being whiny. I had asked for help with a difficult button. I had not been whiny all day, I know and remember. Sorry if this is too long. I thought it was appropriate to point out my ex's behavior here. It wasn't so obvious, and I figured others in this realm, might relate to the more subtle signs.

Excellent advice Richard! Thank you ❤

The rise of “the individualistic society”, isolation and vulnerability regaled by the controllers of the “system of things”….make it make sense 😉

Yes, Compassion with humility. Love has different degrees and I learn through my repeated lessons with narcissists that my love is big and that is actually beautiful, though it comes with sadness , but that's Ok too. Truly thankful to my last beautiful narcissist. I see his pain but know it is not mine now❤️ I learnt to connect to myself instead of connecting to non-connection!! Thanks for your videos.. my healing journey started with Sam Vaknin then you about 7 years ago...🌟🌟

I stayed in it so long because I was gaslighted by therapists. I did seek guidance which is why im so angry now. Silver lining, I listen to my intuition in every situation and that has been huge the last 4 years.