She is brilliant. And once again Trevor' interview is one of the very best.

Trevor introduces us to conversations we need to have.

Two of my most favorite people to listen to, talking about a topic that needs intelligent discussion. It´s a win.

Esther is such an incredible person! I absolutely love her, I find myself hanging on every single word she speaks. She’s *brilliant* captivating, & thought provoking.

This is the most important interview I've seen in months and months.

I have a friend who will not commit himself to a relationship because he knows that he will be unfaithful. I admire him for his honesty. I feel that if more men and women were like this, there wouldn't be so much heartbreak!

Fantastic discussion! Trevor gives the utmost respect to every guest, and actually listens and understands, and in many times positively influenced.

Esther never misses - I could listen to her brilliance all day. She brings such acute clarity to complex issues if you're truly listening to what she says. I see a lot of comments adding assertions and opinions that she didn't articulate... this is a 10 minute segment, take what she said and digest it. One of the BEST, hour-long interviews that I've heard from her was with Lewis Howes and it opened my mind to the ways that we operate in relationship and friendship. Definitely worth a listen: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/iZtnZpdk2baveJs.html. I also love her podcast "Where Should We Begin". I've gotten so much from her without even reading her book, but that's next on my list! :-)

I'm so happy Esther is getting attention and media time. I strongly believe this is what we as people need to hear. She's so much spot on

Wow, I'm delighted to see two of my favorite people discussing!

Love this! Ive been reading her for years glad to see whole human beings coming into conversation whether it be for media purposes of profit or not, knowledge is power

I appreciate Trevor and his team for being up to date, not like the news!

Powerfully presented . . . terrific interview by both parties involved.

So great to see them interact together. Esther is amazing, very hope giving.

Amazing interview! She is brilliant. I will be listening to her podcasts.

Esther is such a gem. We don't deserve her. 🖤

Esther, thank you so much for addressing these complex themes, loaded with so much compassion!!

Esther is simply brilliant ❤

I'm reading this book currently & Esther is phenomenally brilliant. I am reading the book to expand what I know about infidelity and humans. I'll recommend the book for anyone who is looking for something deeper than the mainstream ideas.

i love her relationship counceling podcast

I love this Esther's work. Her books are a must read

I love this lady ..... when she speaks I am drawn

LOVE HER. Alain de Bottom is also amazing.

This is an excellent subject, and truly needs to be talked about further. 👍

Currently re-reading this book, which has been very helpful in understanding my former partner's actions and the end of our marriage. Esther's other book and podcast are excellent, too. Having read the book and listened to a lot of her sessions through the podcast 'Where Should We Begin,' I think Esther's points about power are really important. Assault (from Trevor's examples) is not the same as infidelity (what this book is about), and she's not defending either. Esther has helped a lot of people to see their situations with clearer eyes and move forward with their lives.

Big fan of her command of knowledge and eloquence to deliver, glad to see a clip of her on here that I missed!

Where has she been all my life?? THIS conversation!!!

Men sure don't need women to protect them from infidelity. People are strong enough to not cheat if they have made this decision.

Ms. Perel is a genius she captures this topic in the most eloquent true manner!

Finally! Esther on Daily Show!

Wow I am blown away this is such a great interview with really interesting information.

Desire versus compliance. Perfect.

Two of my favorite people!! ❤❤

i loved, and still love this interview, one of the best and very educational conversation i have ever been exposed to. thank you daily show, thank you @Trevor

Seriously wish this internet was at least an hour long ❤️ 2 of my favorite humans.

Apart from this serious topic. Two of most favourite people!!!!

She is amazing!

I read it as she is saying most cheating stories are complex due to theres more layers to it than "they cheated on their loved one." Like the they could feel lonely even though they are in the company of their loved one and so seek it elsewhere. Doesn't make the cheating ok, but it shows some more depth than a simple lie to each other. If someone can work through that betrayal and they can have a happy relationship, all power to them. I am personally not that person but that's just me and my own personal standard. Have had friends that have worked through that personal betrayal before and still in happy relationship with that person, as a friend I don't understand it, but I make sure my friends know I'm here if something happens again and hope for the best for them

Esther is brilliant.

She’s so smart! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 love Esther

Excellent discussion.

A nuanced conversation!!! More more more!

I gotta read this book sounds like a thrilling read

This lady is very intelligent

Two of my favorite speakers together. Trevor, why didn't you bring up your chapter on Fluffy?

This woman is so brilliant

I agree that we need to deal with people with compassion, however cheating is extremely traumatising. Cheating is a violation of the body, the heart, and the mind. When you cheat you are ripping the other person’s consent away from them. You are endangering their life to disease when they have not consented. You are endangering them to the possibility of a child outside their relationship when they have not consented. You are endangering their ability to make informed choices for their future. It is one thing to be polyamorous, it is one thing to be in an open relationship. To have consent and knowledge. It is another to take away someone’s ability to consent to what is happen to their life and their body.

Her jewellery is so bomb!

My fave line.. "We used to call it 'sin' now we frame it as an 'illness' ... patholigising 💩shifty behaviour."

I love this woman. she is so direct and honest...🧡🧡🧡

dope I love her!

Yaaaay Esther!!!!!!!!!!! Bringing in the conscious light !!!!!

I LOVE DR PEREL

Brilliant woman 👏

Both absolutely brilliant

Wow! ( speechless ) must get this book

Love this.

She makes some valid points y'all.

I love her

Incredible interview!

I love this brilliant woman. I’ve watched her a lot on her KZfaq videos.

Never understand the argument about covering up to modify behavior. If that was the case wouldn’t there be bedlam at the beach every day. Such an odd concept. Very impressive interview. Imagine being that articulate in a second language. Jeepers most of us can’t do it in our first 🙄

Great question!

Cheating i.e. lying is still a wrong done to someone, if you can't continue with monogamy it is only fair to address it with the other person. Sure some relationships can still survive which I am assuming is Ester Perel's take; but not without consequences and pain in most cases. If it's as wide spread then it only makes sense instead for open relationships to be the alternative. It's not my preference but at least its the most honest.

Everyone cheats physically or mentally most people just take the secret to the grave

👍a nice topic

Brilliant woman !

It's about time

We are learning.

"We use to be sinful, today we have illness, and it is the new frame so we can pathologize our sh**ty behaviors." *waves church fan*

Her intelligence is stunning.

Great way to start the new year with a rerun Couples therapist Esther Perel discusses power and infidelity in her book "The State of Affairs." ... The Daily ... Comedy Central · Nov 27, 2017

,💕❤️ thanks

PREACH!

I want to live in the world this woman lives in

The show The Affair tackles this subject beautifully…watch it..😊

Who else is here doing their research on her after the resurfacing of the Will and Jada video leaked on Reddit 💀

AMAZING WOMAN....expert

The first thing when I saw this video was that Trevor had cut his beautiful hair. Until I heard the audience laughter

Why is the sound quality so low on this channel only

Regarding what she said about the woman choosing to stick with someone who was toxic to them or cheated on them that would apply to to say Khloe Kardashian

Cool

Maybe I should write a book I’ve been saying almost exactly this for years

By far this is my best at Trevor noah’s.. amazing

Is it just me, or did the daily show get de monitized? Or something like youtube stopped reccomdending the daily show to me even though Im subbed... Cmon youtube.

Yo are they back in the old studio ?

A short interview for a complex topic. I’m glad to live in a place where equality is strived for, even though I wished it would happen faster. For her last example the situation might have more layers, but, to me, the outcome is pretty much the same, lying for personal gain to someone who is allegedly loved.

I don't know if this is because of the Will and Jada issue but... This lady scares me for some reason. She seems nice and knowledgeable but she got my spidey senses going crazy.

Interesting

This is one heck of a throwback. This was from 2017 if I'm not mistaken. Where is Trevor these days? Why do I feel like his colleagues are filling in for him more and more?

is this an old interview?

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What is her book called guys? I want to read it

WHEN YOU SEE TWO OF YOUR FAVORITE PEOPLE IN ONE VIDEO

From Germany, in the late 60s: "Wer zweimal mit derselben pennt, gehört schon zum Establischment" - > Whoever sleeps with a woman twice, already belongs to the establishment. I am a 72-year old woman, who hates certain social norms, e.g. marriage, but have been in a partnership - not marriage - for more than 40 years. Neither of us two (to my knowledge 😃 ) ever was "infidel". Tempted maybe, but love, solidarity, trust, friendship were stronger. However, you have to work on that continuously, not just bow to social perspectives. The topic is really complex - shall look into the book. "Infidelity" was important in feudal times, when succession and inheritance were important, hence the origin of offspring. Call me "romantic", but in our times it is only a question of psychology, not sociology any more.

Cheating is just cheating because it's easy to lie to somebody that trust you.

I think like many things, like drug use or infidelity, when terrible people do them it worsens the opinion of it. Not everyone who cheats is a heartless chauvinist, but that's the only stories we here of cheating.

Opssss very cool😋😋😋

I agree 💯

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