Esther Perel on Workplace Dynamics

Esther Perel on Workplace Dynamics | SXSW 2019

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What Business Leaders Can Learn About Workplace Dynamics from Couples Therapy
Navigating relationships and cultivating relational fluency is key- both personally and professionally. Each of us carries specific narratives which guide our needs and expectations - how we connect to others, how we define trust, and how we engage or avoid conflict. Most importantly, these inner stories determine how we communicate and elicit curiosity and collaboration.
We don't magically become different people when we walk into our office. Once considered a “soft skill” in the workplace, relational intelligence is now one of the top currencies of business success.
Famed couples therapist Esther Perel has spent more than 35 years helping people articulate their aspirations, explore boundaries between self and others, and repair trust that is broken. Now she’s applying her extensive knowledge of relationships to help us master the art of modern leadership.
This session and others are available for listening on the SXSW Sessions Podcast here: link.chtbl.com/directesther
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@astridjacobs7529 5 жыл бұрын

Everything that comes out of her mouth is pure gold!!!

@thehill8353 5 жыл бұрын

If you're gay.

@chrysichrysi7889 3 жыл бұрын

No it really isn't.

@farshid819 3 жыл бұрын

Woooww! A revolutionary view of work and relationships. *Relational* intelligence... emotional capitalism... romantic consumerism... subtle narcissism - profound concepts that she is revealing. Her explanation of trust and the shattering of trust rocked my world.

@360.Tapestry 3 жыл бұрын

i'm hypnotized by her necklace flipping direction each time she turns her neck/body

@victoriap2519 5 жыл бұрын

"start by changing myself" because all about how you perceive it, and the how you mind it, and so how you emote it. The way you think is the way you emote. The way you emote is the way you think, different people have different degree of importance of emotion and thinking. Nobody can upset you, as any emotion is generated within you , you see withing yourself, you hear within yourself. No matter whats happening, if it happens to you that means it is your responsibility , now you have ability to respond.

@funnnkyk1d 5 жыл бұрын

She is such a genius !!

@mariakirilova4152 4 жыл бұрын

She is so amazing.

@MariaANDSunday 5 жыл бұрын

So accurate and with such high degree of honesty. Some principles to live by.

@ianpatrick23 3 жыл бұрын

Such an incredible look into what happens between people at work

@leahkmarshall 5 жыл бұрын

Such an amazing conversation with Esther Perel at SxSW on our relationships at work! "All relationships rest on 3 main pillars: autonomy & interdependence, managing conflict & communication, & self-awareness & accountability. We all carry beliefs based on our childhoods about what we can expect from people. These form the lens through which we look at our relationships. What messages did you grow up with? That relationships are central and safe, or peripheral and harmful? Never before have we expected so much from our romantic partners and our work. We want our work to give us an enormous amount of flexibility so it will adapt to the particularities of our life, to be attentive to our physical and emotional well-being, and to give us a sense of purpose and meaning. In our intimate relationships, we want all of this for the long haul... and the long haul keeps getting longer." ☺️

@thehill8353 5 жыл бұрын

For LGBT people

@TISONJEDISON 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for notes.

@chrisromano6821 2 жыл бұрын

@JayJay-ge9sm 5 жыл бұрын

Powerful as usual

@missjenn3963 3 жыл бұрын

Self Awareness and Accountability - this could change a LOT!

@krasteva100 5 жыл бұрын

"If you want to change the others I start by changing myself" and it starts with "The only thing you can change in a person is the way you see it" Great speech Esther. I would like to know who is your mentor? :)

@equteachme 5 жыл бұрын

Probably more than one person, they say the most skillful teachers learn from their students.

@equteachme 5 жыл бұрын

After hearing the whole presentation I understand your question more clearly. Sorry for jumping in.

@FabioOlyntho 4 жыл бұрын

Great presentation, so true

@AtendimentoeGestao 5 жыл бұрын

Great speech

@dialecticalspectacle 5 жыл бұрын

I love her podcast and Esther's wisdom.

@jesseliam3717 3 жыл бұрын

I know Im asking the wrong place but does any of you know of a way to get back into an Instagram account?? I stupidly lost my account password. I would love any help you can give me

@ledgeradan9495 3 жыл бұрын

@Jesse Liam Instablaster ;)

@jesseliam3717 3 жыл бұрын

@Ledger Adan i really appreciate your reply. I got to the site thru google and I'm trying it out atm. Seems to take quite some time so I will get back to you later with my results.

@jesseliam3717 3 жыл бұрын

@Ledger Adan DAMN IT ACTUALLY WORKED :O Just hacked my Instagram account within about 45 minutes of using the site. Just had to pay 15 $ but definitely worth it :O Thank you so much you saved my ass !

@ledgeradan9495 3 жыл бұрын

@Jesse Liam happy to help =)

@alvarosalcedo 5 жыл бұрын

first!!! ❤️ Esther Perel ❤️SXSW!!!

@heilapaulino7602 4 жыл бұрын

Esther Perel dresses like the wise woman heroine in a Bond movie (whatever that means, I'm getting Judie Dench vibes, mostly) and it makes me very happy.

@JoeEPena 2 жыл бұрын

I found some goodies for the kids for Christmas,:faired good with the podiatrist/cardiologist, will finish up with the PPO for this year, and follow up with the New HMO after New Years Visits!

@mehdibaghbadran3182 4 жыл бұрын

I’m aware of everything

@SXHQQSSS 5 жыл бұрын

❤️ ❤️ ❤️

@ishasingh1462 3 жыл бұрын

Gold

@RontschDaPontsch 5 жыл бұрын

That smart woman always wears that one necklace. I would love to know what it means to her.

@annaswiatowska1800 5 жыл бұрын

It also intrigues me ;) As someone who attaches meaning to some personal possessions/jewellery..

@thehill8353 5 жыл бұрын

Probably lgbtq

@RontschDaPontsch 5 жыл бұрын

@@thehill8353 what makes you think that?

@ElcioChiquinato 5 жыл бұрын

It's a ladder, that's how relationships and life are built... step by step.

@amiecn 5 жыл бұрын

I 2nd that!

@AmericaWomannn 5 жыл бұрын

It’s life.

@JoeM370 9 ай бұрын

This is an excellent review. A similar book I read steered my life in a new direction. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

@charlesoftherocks1264 4 жыл бұрын

Is there an intentional edit at 12:24? Ive been over it three times and the sound is cut/chopped.

@earlsmith9312 4 жыл бұрын

Turn on captions

@LarryP248 9 ай бұрын

This content is awe-inspiring. A book I read recently was equally magnificent. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

@azr6288 8 ай бұрын

amazing im just interested why some people immediately are aloof and rude to people whom they just met ?

@littlemonster9927 5 жыл бұрын

❤

@mehdibaghbadran3182 4 жыл бұрын

Me the same

@a.c.j.c.4025 3 жыл бұрын

.. I hera the word parter family... and those that are alone where do they fit in?

@mehdibaghbadran3182 4 жыл бұрын

Don’t worry

@Booer 5 жыл бұрын

Do u ever what???....12:25

@TheParadox_ 5 жыл бұрын

_“And stand up if you have ever let somebody take credit for something you’ve done.”_

@sam12587 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for asking & thank you to the person that knew the answer :)

@mehdibaghbadran3182 4 жыл бұрын

I will do the job

@chris_staybeastly 5 жыл бұрын

What does she say 12:23 ???

@krasteva100 5 жыл бұрын

Something like "If somebody let you know that your work is done"

@leahculberson9360 5 жыл бұрын

xFILIPINOx C ‘stand up if you have let others take credit for the work that you’ve done?’

@TheParadox_ 5 жыл бұрын

_“And stand up if you have ever let somebody take credit for something you’ve done.”_

@mandanaweingartner153 4 жыл бұрын

She is way too unpopular I love her

@chrysichrysi7889 3 жыл бұрын

Seriously??? She's all over YT.

@cholakicha 4 жыл бұрын

25:00

@mehdibaghbadran3182 4 жыл бұрын

Mahdi means = leader

@mehdibaghbadran3182 4 жыл бұрын

Even god’s himself , comes to earth, human being, forced him to running back to universes

@Florian30 5 жыл бұрын

I knew, that she reads Eva Illouz' books kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ZrahirSdl6euoIU.html, great to see these reference, i like them both very much, they are so smart and passionate about relationships and love

@amymarie3642 Жыл бұрын

Not “soft” skills. Interpersonal skills.

@eleonoraformatoneeszczepan8807 2 жыл бұрын

You realise, or realize, that if survival is the decision and it is rational, then, that sort of debunks the intention bit ... ? ... anarchic ... love has no borders, hey ... conventions sort of go out the window ...when you are with the one ... it's no holds barred ... using a poetic licence ... ... caveat ... scale seems relevant, like in physics ... behaviour of objects ...

@eleonoraformatoneeszczepan8807 2 жыл бұрын

... yeah, I might be in trouble ... you still seem beautiful ...

@eleonoraformatoneeszczepan8807 2 жыл бұрын

... belonging?

@eleonoraformatoneeszczepan8807 2 жыл бұрын

... "foolish things"? ... is it their region? ... perhaps if it were in part, their region, then maybe they would do less foolish things? ... How many foolish things though, do they do in their own region? They might be just as foolish if not more so, in their own region? Sometimes people do foolish things when they are trying to impress other people - especially if they don't quite realise that is what they are doing ... it's ok, you can look at me on that point ... but not in a prolonged creepy way please ... just saying ... hehehe

@eleonoraformatoneeszczepan8807 2 жыл бұрын

... "almost". How come they can't all sit down and say, things have got out of control, let's start again, let's start from here, in theory, put aside agreements which aren't actually working, and say, yes "we" had agreements and things aren't working, times have changed, so rather than waste time trying to force things to stick and stay stuck, what do "we", as in all sides, need to do for where the world is now, what agreement do "we" need to make, now?

@eleonoraformatoneeszczepan8807 2 жыл бұрын

... is it impossible to trust, again? I myself don't know the answer to that question. The solution phases in and out of phase. At present, it is illusory, simultaneously impossible and possible, difficult to see how, and in a writhing, yet not so much twisted way, not difficult to see that it might not always be, difficult to see how, even if, right now, it isn't clear how, it might be otherwise. Would comparing it to being like a non-conscripted and non-volunteering human guinea pig or piggy in the middle, feeling and thinking, outside the box (ha ha, but, not hehehe, no pun intended) inverse version of Schroedinger's cat, be more coocoo or more kooky? ... ok, now, a chuckle ... the absurdity of the reality of it ... it's surrealistic and cubist and neither ... a twilight zone it is ...

@robbedontuesday 4 жыл бұрын

One year later: Coronavirus...!

@clivepatterson4321 4 жыл бұрын

Remember you Jezebel's, men don't bear children, you do!., so think very carefully about your desires, because regret is a bitter pill to swallow, and time is fleeting...If you know what I mean. Lol.