I adore your direct feedback Jill ! It's very refreshing. You can't please all the people all the time. I'll let you into a secret - I don't like this style either - which is why I use it very infrequently. But it works - so I still do occasionally. The majority of the KZfaq audience are young people and unfortunately with TikTok and Call of Duty attention spans are very short. The algorithm loves the aggressive, fast paced, click bait style (that you hate) and due to the high CTR (click through rate) and retention on this video - after only one day it's already started to push the video out to a wider audience (which is very rare) So long term I predict this video is going to be one that does very well - which will mean it will help a lot of people as after watching it they may then be fortunate enough to discover my much calmer, empathetic, softer, evidence based content that accounts for the vast majority of my channel (which I also personally much prefer) Here's one of them: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fat3p5Z3vMnYnH0.html And here's another: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/iKeVm9SLmZ3OeaM.html And here's a really good one which ticks all the boxes: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e8hxmKaqtMmUdqM.html And here's me with a dog which is a presentation style and manner I utilized only once as an experiment after too many ales so it's basically a load of nonsense. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/n7CmeNqqppi1ias.html You may wish to watch some of these videos. But you probably won't.

Interesting, because I like his manner of presentation. It’s what kept me watching the first time I watched one of his videos. I guess I really like him. The moral of the story is that what we think of others have no real value. Yet we think that our opinion matters more than it really does. After everything is said and done, our opinion matters nothing except to us. The day you day your opinions will go to the grave with you. And, sooner or later, once your children and/or grandchildren are dead too, no one will even know who you were or bother visiting your grave. Get some psycho therapy and try to project less. Because putting others down speaks louder about ourselves than it does the person being criticized. Remember, when you point a finger at someone, you have three fingers pointing right back at you. Take care, be happy!

Really happy my book and content has helped you and thank you for taking the time to comment. Yes when you stop with all the 1001 other things to control / perfect / protect your sleep and just put a few changes in place that actually help it's amazing how quickly you can see results. I notice also from your content you are a serious about the gym. It's surprising how many body builders develop insomnia, they represent a significant proportion of my clients . They hear about how important sleep is for muscle recovery / performance etc (which of course it is) start going to bed when they are not sleepy to try to increase sleep duration beyond what the body naturally wants to give them, supplements, avoiding caffeine etc then... total obsession around sleep which turns into insomnia. Without knowing your own story i'm not saying this is you, but it's a common scenario I see! Would you mind doing me a massive favour and clicking the stars on my book on Amazon? Also if you need any more help just comment with questions on any of my videos and i'll answer them, and again, happy you're doing well!

@@InsomniaTalks Of course I will give you 5 stars on Amazon! Also, yes... I am a (natural) bodybuilder and I think hearing about the importance of sleep and how some people sleep 10 hours, I thought I was missing out on important sleep for recovery. It was in the obsessive cycle. You have no idea how much you helped my life. Seriously, thank you for your work sir. I will try direct people to you if they ever ask me of how to deal with insomnia!

Hi Angela, thanks for your comment. Yes something that is never discussed is the anxiety and obsession about sleep itself. And all the quick fixes, hacks tips tricks - whilst even if there is some evidence behind them, they are not going to fix a long term chronic problem as they never address the root cause - often they just feed the obsession. It's why I get so cross when people tell people with insomnia to meditate. There is nothing wrong with meditation, but when used to force and manipulate sleep it just creates even more anxiety around sleep and teaches the brain that sleep is something you have to manufacture and control - which is impossible.

Thank you Lynn. The problem I see is that not all of it is 'wrong' it's just that there is no softness, no nuance, no tailoring. Insomnia is all about control and obsession which is why people fall down the rabbit hole of avoiding ALL caffeine, and never eating too late (so no more restaurants that you used to enjoy) and ..... and you also must to this that and the other to sleep and take that - but good sleepers don't do any of this. So the strictness of his approach and the lack of understanding how insomnia drives people down this path of obsession can feed insomnia as it convinces people that sleep is something you can force and control. Whereas, once you have rebuilt peoples pattern of sleep and get the body clock and sleep drive working for them again, the complete absence of focus, control and effort is what is helpful - after all this is what good sleepers instinctively know to do. 95% of my work is undoing the unhelpful behaviours people have done to protect and force sleep and just getting them to live their life again so insomnia is not the only thing they have in their life. It's the narrowing of life due to the condition that is so problematic. and of course if insomnia has been the only thing on your mind all day, naturally you will bring that anxiety and obsession into the bedroom at night time when the lights are off and there is nothing else to think about. I say it all the time, insomnia is fixed the second you wake up, not at night time! But like I said in the video, I really don't dislike Matthew as I think he means well. But with the fear he creates around insomnia - I do believe he does not help people. I was one of the people who he made insomnia worse for and I have lost count of the number of clients I have had who were maybe sleeping a little bit poorly, read his book and then developed long term chronic insomnia. I do believe perhaps my resentment that he made my insomnia worse may have crept out a little bit in this video! However, most of my work is far more upbeat and softer! Thank you very much for your comment, well yes ideally one day I will be a much bigger voice, and as long as I keep going - give it 10 years I think I will get there, in the mean time I truly and grateful to every single person who watches the channel and helps spread the message - and whilst 1000's of thousands of people is better, 1000's of people subscribing / buying the books is still good enough!

And should i disclose one thing . I had a zero sleep night and i denied to play the semi final game from my team and stayed at hotel which caused huge fine and reduction in my salary 😭

Thanks Stonefreaky! I wasn't brave enough to be as direct as you when I made this video, but yeah, this is what I would have liked to have said, would have been a lot quicker!

Hi, so naturally after a poor night of sleep you will have less motivation to go to the gym and when you are there you may not lift as heavy / do as many sets / reps etc. This is normal. But I would say definitely if you can still go! The more you allow insomnia to push you around / tell you what you can and can't do with your life the more it will take from you. If you have a laundry list of 1001 things you HAVE to do because you can't sleep and a laundry list of 1001 things you now can't do or avoid doing it only feeds the condition. So yes, accept the inevitable that perhaps the motivation / commitment when at the gym may be lower but go anyway! You may just surprise yourself and when you are there mid exercise you forget about your poor night of sleep. And whats the alternative? sitting on the sofa detaching from life obsessing about the poor night you just had and giving it more power over you? Part of the treatment plan is getting people as best as they can to get stuck back into there life. Easy, no. But I'm not asking people to do anything perfectly or to do anything I didn't have to do myself when crawling out of insomnia. Baby steps. You'll get there.

Even if i get multiple nights of poor sleep ?