Anyone ever obsess so much about a real event in your past that you did, that it seems everywhere you go or anything you watch will send you a reminder of that event and makes you anxious and fearful

honestly i feel like this is what my ocd just can't detach from ... it feels so real, it feels like I'm exception from the rule and unlike everything else i truly did something wrong, its like my world centres around the event and my life will never be same!

False memory scares the hell out of me. I can't believe how much ocd has morphed my innocent memories into something much more sinister. I even remember false thoughts/feelings about certain events

False memories are insane. I felt a memory was so traumatizing and insane that it ate away at me. Finally I broke down and talked to my little brother and he verified it never happened. That's when I realized my ocd was taking me to a very dark place

Hey I love you. You can't imagine how many people you saved from suicide with this video. You deserve the best in life. Same for all the OCD sufferers. Take care.

Who ever is suffering from real event ocd the cure is stop the fight to get rid of that thought, and learn to live with it! Stop looking for videos to stop it, pre much doing that is a compulsion in itself, I’ve been dealing with real event ever since last year March and the past few weeks I’ve let my hands down and stop the fight. No that doesn’t mean you’ve lost the fight, just means to stop fighting it, it slowly locks off and it fades away and when ever it comes up your just at peace with it and it doesn’t lock on as much, everyone can get through this! Good luck to everyone.

Thank You for making this video. You broke down exactly what I have been going through. I've had OCD for a majority of my life and this past time it felt like "no this is different" "you did something horrible" "how can i live with myself"

The guilt is really bad It makes me feel like I'm the worst person ever and that I don't even deserve to die. Does anyone else get this thought or feeling

Greatly distilled insights. I think this is exactly what I need - thank you!

Thank you so much 💖 I really appreciate that you would take time in your life to help people out by making this video, it's truly a mark of a good person to do something like that, and everyone with OCD who you are helping really appreciates it!

This honestly has saved my life. Thank you so much.

This was done brilliantly. Working with those struggling with OCD….this will be used to help them for sure. Well done sir.

Very detailed information. Word for word describes how I’ve been feeling for years now. Surprised to see how many of you guys out there also have been experiencing it. I’m ready to do whatever it takes to get my life back. Hope all of us are able to overcome this terrible annoying condition.

It’s amazing you put this up today. This is exactly what I’ve recently been struggling with. At the core of the issue is Guilt.. and I had not realized that!

Thank you so much for this talk. We need more of these explanations. I feel like I learned some things that I wasn't fully aware of till now. You really do understand the struggle and pointed out some very important things, the turmoil and hell that an OCD sufferer goes through every day and all of the trial questions they ask themselves. I ask myself these things every single day. Oh and I have subscribed to your Instagram.

This past month I’ve been struggling with this. I always watched videos on pure O ocd but there was always a deep feeling that I wish there was a diagnosis that applied to something that I actually did. It has been so relieving to find out about Real Event OCD. I know that simply finding this video isn’t the cure, and I most likely have months to go before I recover, and I may even relapse in the future. But it feels good to have some sense of security for even a moment.

Thank you from the deepest corners of my heart

I have been having this weird memories of a tiny bad thing that I did butt my thoughts keep making it seem as if it was big deal now whenever I try to relax or do something positive it keeps haunting me. But thank God I found this video and that i am alive to see this day

Happy belated Birthday Rob! I have been struggling with Harm OCD - False Memory - primarily from the past for 30 years. Very similar to how you describe in the video, with slight variations. I am just starting to read your reading list. Thank you for the work you are doing, it is beyond helpful for so many suffers.

This is spot on advice

Thank you for posting

I just found this community and than you so much for making these videos

The part where you talked about not wanting your kids to do the same thing as you...that’s me! I am terrified of my future children doing the same. I feel like I am corrupt because of my past awful behaviour and that I have bad genes that will pass the behaviour to the children.

Ive got this overwhelming feeling that i have done something such taboo. Its been with my for 14 months now. It actually started from seeing a horrible word and now ita made me believe i have done something more sinister that i have no memory of. The thing is ive cone to believe it as the rational side of my brain never wins. So now its just spiralled out of control to what the worst possible outcomes will be. Its gone from this intial feeling to being arrested and my life being over. Its terrifying!

Yess utter utter acceptance i love this video 😍

Very well said in your video. Horrible ever changing OCD now for 33 years here.

Hi, thanks for the video. I’m getting worried at the minute because I’m scared I might have done something inappropriate to my cat. I don’t want to have done something, but I just don’t know if it’s real or if my mind has fabricated it. Is there any hints of distinguishing a real memory from a false one ?

Amen extremely helpful 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Been dealing with this from time to time during months. It's horrible!!

Wow I didn't know other people suffer this way. I'm starting to think after watching some of your videos that I also suffer from different kinds of OCD. Guilt and shame is a big thing with me for a long time now. But I've been dealing with various intrusive thoughts since I was 17. Some intrusive thoughts I didn't get until I was 25. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2016 after I went to the psyche ward. I didn't learn my thoughts were intrusive thoughts or even knew that was a thing. And I really believe they diagnosed me with schizophrenia simply to start me on meds. But I'm missing so many key things with that I never felt that diagnosis was correct. Since stumbling on this channel so much people have said here sound just like me. And for the first time in my life I feel like I may have found what's actually wrong with me. And also for the first time, hearing other people talk on these subjects I have a small ray of hope in what's been a deep dark hell since I was 17. The next time I see a psychologist I'm going to ask them to do a re evaluation on me for OCD. Because all this stuff is like hearing stories that perfectly describe my issues. I never felt that way watching videos on people with scizophrenia. But damn the chronic guilt and shame, compulsions, harm OCD and pocd, real event and false event like man all these things I full heartedly relate to. In the end I just wanted to say thanks. Because of these videos I now can properly address this with my mental health professionals and hopefully get treated finally for the right thing. And I have the deepest amount of gratitude for you guys posting these videos as it literally has pulled me out of some suicidal depression I've had for months now. I finally feel I can start moving in the right direction now due to information that's completely new to me that I've gained from this channel.

thank you sir.. i struggle with terrible ocd for most of my life.

Very good video.subscribed👍

Thank you. Subscribed.

Hi man ! I have also decided to accept everything. Today I am going to do my toughest exposure. I neither have an OCD specialist nor a community. KZfaq is the only OCD community I've got.

Your so brave thankyou

Are there any cases of this type of thing happening post-natal? I feel like this is what I'm going through. But my partner thinks I'm suffering from postnatal depression.

Thank you!!!!!

thank you so much - can you do a ocd intrusive urges or false feelings on wanting to do something that you don't want to

After depression because of mental abuse for years then fear of lockdowns along came anxiety and it brought up och about blinking to much saliva fears from my childhood. Was making good progress then I had a bad fall and hurt my back. Now its as if my recovery has went back.

I have these thoughts as well together with strong anxiety it brings events from the past to cause me guilt and other feelings.

I have real event ocd and wanna know how to change your perspective to living with it instead of trying to get rid of it and make more compulsions Anyone going through same thing?

I honestly fear there’s no help and that I’m doomed to suffer, and agonize from this condition, I am terrified

Guilt latches on by making me feel im a coward and in the past not standing up for myself in certain situations in my past that i regret

Do you still plan to do a video on OCD and schizophrenia? I think I remember you mentioning it. I could be wrong.

You literally described me. Thank you so much. I have real events and false memories but the false memories are way worse. Can false memories come from nowhere and be quite specific?

I used to be a drunk and didn’t treat my family the best. I’m Sober now I feel Chronic guilt and makes me so extremely sad glad I found this

I'm a teenager and this shot took 3 years of my life. I've been told several times not to worry since I didn't do anything wrong but I'm so scared that I might have done something horrible even tho I know that I didn't. I'm doing better but the anxiety is still there. I wanted to take my life bc if this

Does writing down obsessions help? Sorry, I know it’s a very general question.

Thank you

Will real event scenarios bring new thoughts dealing with the incident, bringing new thoughts to make you feel guilt?

I've been suffering with this for years

I have been suffering from chronic guilt and anxiety from false and real event OCD. Sometimes the events are just events that I don't think ever happened at all and some are events that did happen that feel like they are being morphed into something else. I am ready to start recovering but I'm not sure how to start. I have already spoken to many people, but I am not really sure how to start the recovery process or how to start handling these thoughts. Any advice?

Hey you are doing a great job but I have one doubt on false memory my doubt is that these false memories which produces guilt shame regret or can cause any harm only happens when we are in depression stress or we already have OCD or we have eye witness any accident or crime or in generally also when we absolutely fine these false memories of guilt and shame can occur

I have been haunted by bad memories for 30 years. Also guilt shame and self hatred . Sometimes I want to pull the plug.

I've been struggling with this ocd for the past 4 years. It switches alot though, between this specific type, Religious ocd, contamination and self harm or harming others. It comes and goes and with different intensities, especially when I'm finally starting to move forward in my life, the thoughts come back intensely and just constantly torments me.

Is it possible to fear that something happened to you and not that you did something? I don't see that as common

It feels like I have to convince myself that I didn't do something that I really didn't do which is insane smh 🥺

Can real event OCD also be something that happened to you in the past, or something in the past that you didn't do right and you keep obsessing about it and want to make it right, or else you'll be punished eventually?

Ok mine is attacking an incident that occurred probably at the age of 15-17 but it keeps pushing the age group older and older to made me feel like my fears are true. Is it possible for it to attack memories at this age group as well?

This is exactly what I'm going through!!!

Holy fuck this was me, I used to blame myself for my first kiss at 15, and convinced myself it was wrong because I wasn’t 16, yes crazy I know, 😢to the point I was going to go to the police… love the video And yes I still fight ocd daily❤❤ Love and peace

I think it might be false memory OCD currently for me I'm not sure. When I go outside and I'm near someone I will get an intrusive thought about harming them out of nowhere (pushing the woman I just saw into the road) , then I will wonder if my movements that followed were me trying to hurt someone, even though they were harmless movements for example I may make a small movement backwards, and then my brain will say what if you were trying to push that lady into the road? , then I go home and replay the movements I made over and over to try and get an answer about whether I tried kill someone (that is what OCD is accusing me of) My intrusive thoughts are very frequent and it's connecting the thoughts to my movements. Is this false memory OCD? It's ruining my life.

My thoughts are all related to being drunk and not remembering if I've done something bad, like the drunk me is a different person etc.

Thank you so much, im 16 and I’m so lost it’s been like this for over a year I haven’t been able to enjoy myself, I feel like I don’t deserve it, how do I get help

Will you be doing another group for real event Rob?

Hi! This is litterly me. I've done such horrible things and I can't move on. I feel like a monster. I feel so guilty for all these diffrent things some worse then other. I'm litterly crying inside right now seeing this video. I just want to be a happy person again, I've had so much therapies already and all work for short amount of times before falling back into ocd again. My wife is pregnant of our 2nd child and I want to be there for them, I'm just so disconnected because of my ocd and I hate myself for it. Is there anyway we can get in touch l? I'm from the Netherlands btw I hope that's not an issue?

I have the same problem but not about something I did. It's about something I thought. A fleeting thought. What is this then?

Please help. Could this apply to having a memory or thought and you start to obsess that something horrible happened to you vs you doing something horrible?

Is guilt always there in such OCD ? Is there a possibility that at one point where its like "alright, if the thought says this, then it must be true" but there is no guilt but just feeling numb ?

i think there should be way more awarenes about false memory ocd

I been struggling with false memories/cheat OCD it's the worse 🥺

Real event related to cheating, anybody else? Guilt is all consuming

Is it OCD if you think someone else did something to you I'm the past? Not other way around.

I've been obsessing a memory for this week I feel so guilty so I'm punishing myself by starving myself, even if I tried to eat I wouldn't be able to stomach it But I feel like I've forgotten somethings pertaining to that particular memory, because if I really did do that then why do I feel such disgust at the thought? And why didn't I feel guilty all the days after? Did I just do it and forget it? The uncertainty is killing me If I accept it too, I won't be able to take it because that's not the type of person I am, I will never be able to look people in the eye again But I cant help the guilt and anxiety either way What I do in these situations is confess and get reassurance but this time I'm not going to do it Do you suggest that I accept it anyway?

I think it also comes from an expectation of one self to always have to be ' good' . In my case , growing up in a left wing and christian family has made me want to reach the unattainable of being all good at all times. Which is of course inhumane , as you're always gonna fuck up one way or the other.I guess other people who didn't grow up with these strict values, will find it a lot easier to accept themselves for what they are.And are therefor not so vulnerable for ocd guilt attacks..

But why does this condition exist? Like what is the cause of this sort of psychological neuroses?

Even watching this I'm thinking "But my event is ACTUALLY bad" lol.

So I need to get used to it feeling like I did something horrible, and compare myself to people on death row and say they can have calm days?

I'm currently suffering from Real Event OCD and is related to my POCD. It's torturing me.

Same bro what i do for cure

Can anyone help me, it’s been over a year since this ‘night’ where I think I may of done something awful to a female (r**e), it came after many ‘mistakes’ with females that affected me but after speaking to my housemate he said they were part of growing up, I walked home intoxicated and on my own and feel I grabbed someone and committed the act, nothings came of the night but I did start to find my own evidence, what do you all advise, Its affected my life so much I can’t hardly leave my bed, any suggestions please

But what if you actually did something criminal and was never convicted for it? In that case I have a reason to live in guilt and fear because I deserve nothing more than that.

OCD has ruined me

One night in my childhood my father unconsiously started rubbing my leg as he thought dt it was my mother's leg and nw I am suffering from the guilt dt y I didn't take back my leg immediately?

Where do you come from? I like your dialect.

"Humans are designed to fight and be violent." You are wrong about this Robert. Do you see claws on our hands? Are our teeth sharp? Is our skin thick enough to resist penetration even by blunt objects? Would a person who was raised by a compassionate and accepting family in a strong and tolerant community - who wasn't conditioned into reacting with hatred and aggression by means of their reliance on group respect or warped by fear, trauma or the fear and trauma of the generations before them - be at all likely to raise a fist against another human because they wanted something? The last question is not rhetorical, I am genuinely interested in your answer. What you said here is based on a fallacious appeal to nature that started a couple hundred years ago after the academic acceptance of evolution. It was propagated by those seeking increased power through the emerging capitalist system, who used biased biologists and anthropologists - selecting "evidence" to back up speculation, possibly with financial incentive - to convince people that humanity tends towards violence and aggressive competition by nature and evolved that way: therefore it is natural and acceptable that success be achieved by stepping over the bodies of failures. In reality our brains are designed for co-operation, not violence. Our ability to work together is and has always been immensely more important to our survival (as groups and individuals) than our ability to physically overpower each other or rival groups, and so it follows that this is the dominant factor in the evolution of our brains. The prevalence of inter-personal violence as we know it today - and eventually war - most likely came as the result of the wealth and social hierarchy that followed agriculture, construction and therefore concentrated population centers and the large-scale storing of foods less than 10,000 years ago. There wasn't much power to struggle for before that and violence in any community would be a great risk not only to the individuals involved but to the whole group, which - along with inherent empathy and powerful fear of social rejection - meant that individuals would have little incentive to carry out violent acts and peaceful resolution of interpersonal conflicts would have been a high social priority. Likewise it would have been quite unlikely for any community to see more reward than risk in the prospect of violent conflict with another community. Even the existence of psychopaths would not have resulted in much violence at all back then because they would be incentivized in a manner similar to others, and their own brains' risk/reward calculations would rarely lead them to fighting or murder because where is the reward without wealth or power? I like what you are doing and hope you keep it up, but the "red in tooth and claw" myth is pseudo-scientific and it is surprising and very disappointing that you don't know this, especially given the subject of your practice.

Which type of ocd of u have 🙄

Thank you