When all you’ve known is emotional and physical abuse, the idea of “family” sends chills down your spine

Thank you for this. -The black sheep of my family

Families is the building block of successful societies. You want to heal society, heal the family!

When I've been driven to homelessness, psychosis, and suicidal ideation, I cant give them anymore chances. Thank you for not making me feel alone💓

I separated from my family and I've never been happier.

It has been 4 years, I cut off all my family members. The last month my mother called me for the first time in 7 years, bc she never calls me but I should. I didn't answer her call, when I listened to the voice mail, she said that people noticed my absence & i'm ruining the family reputation by doing this. I blocked her immediately bc i know my family will never change, experts in guilt triping. Thank you Teal for this reassuring words. I'm on the right path 🙏

Every time I went to visit my parents I had runny nose, now I am pretty sure it was my body expressing sadness. Being in my parents home made my brother very depressed. Now we are both living abroad, we have made the choice of life over death.

I was born into a severely dysfunctional family on so many levels. Made to be the scapegoat. Many many years of therapy later I am accepting and loving of myself and living how I want to. I have no contact with either of my parents and limited contact with my siblings. Best decision I ever made.

I've been estranged from my family since 2014. Thet have gave me spiritual, physical, mental scars that cannot be healed by them because they arent the type of people who can admit what they have done. They don't know how to heal. I tried for years...if I continued...I would not be here right now. I'd either be dead or in prison. Sometimes you just have to let them go because too much damage has been done. Sometimes the worst advice you can give a person is to reconnect their family.

I actually think creating and building our own families despite not being blood is actually going to be more and more of the future. "Soul tribes" are going to create so much more awareness, respect & compassion towards diversity. I love my family members but I do not identify with them. They have very little tolerance for people who are different from them. I have actually been the change agent in the family but no one wants to acknowledge my open-mindedness. I actually yearn to leave my family, at least for a while.

"It's where you were first programmed...it's where your patterns first began" . BOOM. This is exactly the point I've gotten to in therapy! Realizing what these patterns are, and where they originated. Teal is so spot-on!

Nothing like coffee and disillusionment in the morning 🤣 I love you Teal. Thank you for your dedication to truth always 🙏❤️

I feel all awakened people go through a period with the family that they feel a need for separation at some point. This may be for the best and they may come back a different individual able to help the family overcome these limiting patterns, an ultimate act of love.

When I experienced a total shift in my world view because of information that I found very disturbing I went into a space of being terrified of what the future would hold for humanity and spent far too much time focusing on all the horrors that were being exposed. My youngest daughter had the strength and intelligence to shut me out of her life for 5 years. It spurred me into deep introspection and spiritual awakening that I bless her for being the catalyst of. When she let me back into her life I realized how absolutely brilliant she is. I am very grateful for the experience.

This is so reassuring because I have no desire to visit my dad or brother since my mom passed over 2 years ago. I have learned to love life and spirituality, but trying to talk to them is like talking to a wall! One of my childhood roles was the poor sickly boy that rarely went outside and “got dirty”. Now i work outdoors and have a farm working real dirty work. Also I have only called in sick 5 times in 30 years!! Any time I am around them I feel the old fears and doom creeping in on me. Feels good to vent that

I have been estranged from my family if birth since 2013. No one except my mom has even called me once. There's always a part of me that wonders why they hate me so much when my greatest sin in childhood was really just being "too sensitive" and when I was older I couldn't be in their presence soberly, which only brough more scorn. They've never included or accepted me. I don't know why and I can't afford to care why any more because I made my own family to care about now. I don't miss the one I was born into.

When people learn that I dont speak to my parents they react with "oh thats a shame", " maybe you will make it up some day", " family is important you must make an effort". Even though Im healed I still have scars because of the effort I made. I have scars because my father physically and mentally abused us all. I have scars because my mother chose to allow this and not protect us

Adopted. Done being the family scapegoat and spiritually bypassed by every single member of THAT family. I now tell people I was an orphan. That is what is BEST FOR ME.

Going against family being unnatural makes sense as to why I have spent my whole life in denial about being emotionally neglected by them

I'm very grateful that my family was in the rare category that decided to change together to stay together years ago. We are much closer as a result.

It’s been almost 17 years of no family contact for me. Thank you teal this has been powerful 🙏🏻🙏🏻

I feel like I’m odd in that I refuse to defend and justify what my family is/did/does. I just see it for what it is and point it out, but I find people don’t want to see things and just pretend everything is fine. Uh it’s so annoying , you can’t solve a problem if you won’t acknowledge it’s there...

THIS. IS. BEAUTIFUL. That ENDING? That ENDING? How she closed the episode is even MORE BEAUTIFUL.

After awakening I learn that is best to love them from distance. Their view hurts and makes me unhappy. I don't see my father and my mother as family, I see and love them as the others, they were just biological and a way of coming here and my job is not to perpetuate their mistakes.

Why can’t I like this more than once

Blood family isn’t always meant to be in your life just because they’re blood. That’s that.

I separated from my daughter's father when she was 3. He did everything he could to make me the bad guy. I always told her I am your mom no mater what. When she was15 she thanked me for not talking trash about her Dad. It was worth it. I always told her I might not always like what you do but I will always love you. Sometimes other family needs to know this too.

My family is soo dysfunctional I left when I was 16. It was really hard and I tried reconnecting a few times but I am healthier and happier without them.

I cut all my family members years ago when I moved to the US. I left all behind and moved to NYC with only a backpack. I still talk to my mom sometimes and I can tell, after all those years, they haven't progressed neither mentally nor spiritually. It makes me feel good about leaving them years ago😂...

I wish there was a whole series on how to be an “empowered orphan”.... If I’d known I could walk away with love at 18 and had structured boundaries (like a once a year love letter sent to them) my life wouldn’t have been so difficult. Instead, staying close to an extremely toxic family only compounds your injury and drains you from the energy you need to heal and build your own life with new people. Some people who are very far on the spectrum of dysfunction and in the family system they’re the black sheep... you must get out. You must. But with love and I’d suggest a structured connection... like a once a year letter or holiday letters only. I wasn’t safe even letting my family know where I lived... I wasn’t safe letting them into any of my business... but I did... because I “loved” them.... now I know, yes I still love their incredibly dysfunctional and abusive a**es... but I’ve got to be careful... as careful as when handling a poisonous snake... it needs to be rare and with full attention and awareness that they are dangerous. How many people stay in close contact with family and it just messes up their life even more than if they’d cut off/created strict boundaries. I wish I’d been able to accept much earlier, before so much additional damage/abuse was done, that it’s ok to be an “orphan”... I’d like to know the spiritual path of the empowered orphan... to make it something beautiful... there has to be something good about it... something with a unique purpose... a unique perspective .... something to help people walk away sooner ... before they’ve set fire to your life and health and damaged every facet of your life... because you wanted to be loved and wanted to be “good” and “loyal” and “strong”... I’d love to hear more about spirituality within family systems and how, practically and spiritually BOTH, to handle a life with zero family care or support. ♥️Love to all the orphans of the world due to being a literal orphan or being born into a family that wasn’t worthy of the word “family” in the sense of love and care. No one WANTS to be an orphan, but maybe there’s a way to look at it that can reveal some nice truths/nice advantages/fresh spiritual perspectives! I’ve recently had some thoughts on this but I’ve already gone on too long and am hoping Teal might have some thoughts for the Empowered Orphan ♥️🙌⭐️thank you for all you do, Teal!

Just in time as always, thank u Teal. And blessings to YOU whomever you are who is reading this right now 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🌈🌈🌈💖🌈💖🌈

This was a powerful video. I've had to separate from my family entirely for the sake of my well-being. However, there is still so much for me to do identifying those old patterns. My memory of childhood is very fuzzy. I've tried to do the self-authoring and review my memories from childhood, but I can barely access them. They seem to pop up spontaneously at times, at which point I can actually integrate

"In fact, when each new member, a new generation, within a family is born, the consciousness of that family line progresses and the child is in fact the one that represents that next step forward. Which is why so often, what they're needing and wanting seems to be in opposition to the generation previous to them, because it is that child that is calling the previous generation into those changes which they absolutely need to make. When an entire family system gets on board with a full system's change, when any member within that family needs that to happen for the sake of their well-being, closeness, intimacy, all the things you want from family, are going to occur." Woosh ! Almost fell of my chair hearing all of this and feeling how it resonates so strongly in me. Incredibly perceptive and deep wisdom you're sharing in such a straightforward and clear way, Teal, thank you so much once again, as you keep blowing my mind, my ego, and breaking my heart in the most beautiful, powerful way, for me to heal myself into full self-acceptance and being and (re-)expressing the love that I am and that I know I deserve, as well as to realise that my heart was and is fulfilled, whole and complete to begin with and now will continue to be.... fully, truly, being alive and in love with me and with reality. Accepting dysfunction, I've noticed is a major part of that, because it takes of the pressure too of trying to see others for what they're actually not capable of in that moment, but it also means taking a distance to protect yourself to not put yourself in a position of constant disappointment and resentment for having others or yourself let you down. Healthy boundaries, healing boundaries, boundaries to allow love to flow more safely.

3:58 once you experience this, tried million times to fix, go alone in life... a way better on your own! So glad I've made that decision.

I don’t hate my family, I wish them the best, but I don’t really want to have anything to do with them anymore! After almost 70 years of abuse, and somehow finally making the decision to end the verbal abuse, bullying and gaslighting, I’m surprised with myself for finally making the decision to cut them off from my life! It took me this long to have the guts to do it! But realize that it was for my own sanity to make the choice! Personally I would have wished to be able to work things out, but realize after all these years that things were not going to change! Thank you for sharing guys!

Yes, Teal I have been WAITING for this one!!! I'm particularly interested in ancestral/genetic makeup passed down to us

In the first 3 minutes I became so angry and offended, that I needed all self-control to not write my opinion in the chats. I sat through it, my anger somewhat disappeared. I know that for many people out there, this will hold great insights. For me.. Not so much. As we do not incarnate into the same family over and over again, I strongly hold the opinion that family is a lesson that we need to learn, but not in any way some place where we are doomed to be with forever. This mentality healed me, served me and continually serves me. I choose people around me. And when they are to my detriment, they can get the fcucuk out of my sight.

This is by far the cleverest content I have seen. Ever.

16:34 - "Never underestimate the power of family dynamics to prevent the empowerment, the progression and the wellbeing of one of its members."

My family is garbage. I’ll be starting my own.

It’s highly tragic that this video made me cry in a good way because I feel finally validated. It’s tragic that many of us understand this so well. It feels like such a gaslight when you only ever see happy family propoganda everywhere, even from people who so called are only seeking for the truth.

Incase You'd Rather Read About It: tealswan.com/resources/articles/the-truth-about-family-r429/

I was neglected, the scape goat through my life. Any connection that I wanted would be sabotaged every time. I have a disease that will take my life and oddly this is the thought that brings me some form of peace. I was emotionally and mentally and physical abuse. Two leaving permanent scars on my body, but the scars in my soul are the scars that still have power to harm me. They say that an infant will die without love, some that survive I cannot see a way to long life or a fulfilled life as they remain subject to familial ostracism and emotional and verbal abuse. I am journaling my hurt my harm and my understanding. That journey before I die will be given to my family and to my psychologist with hope that need and care can be shown while in the youth of the person. I was in my late 20s when I discovered that my single parent home was filled with narcicism, that is also when I discovered that I had diabeties. Now I have heart disease and realize how much destruction of my body came from abuse that then set in as my inner dialogue. I share this because it is no longer a vulnerability to do so. There is no reason to weep in silence anymore, I have discovered my talents late in my life as a person in their late 40s, now 52 I wish that I could have shared this wisdom with my younger self. I look at my pictures when I was a child and feel great sadness gor that child. Even going so far as to apologize to myself. I am encouraged that I could grow to that understanding, because I have seen too many relatives carry their toxicity to their grave and innocent through the veil of their own narcicism. God bless you all.

I grew up in a very toxic family. When I was 27, moved to the, US 20 yrs ago, best decision of my life!!! Since then I healed the traumas through psychedelics, but because of my shift to forgiveness they shifted, too. We have a much much better, loving relationship now.

Most of the family members are there to block you from moving forwards

“Don’t ever tell anyone outside the family what you are thinking.” The Godfather

“That he is unsafe and has no advocates in life”… thank you for giving some words to the impact of older brother on me growing up. It really really leaves a scar.

Most families don’t do what is best for you but what is best for themselves and that includes having children that they assign roles like the golden child and scapegoat or invisible child and doing what they fell is best for you because it makes them comfortable. They only want what makes them comfortable not necessarily your authentic best self. It’s like the story of the nurse who wants to inject the patient to calm him or her down and will say it’s best for them but it’s only best for the nurses, doctors and hospital to keep them asleep not getting better by running around the hospital room with that energy and illness they have.

This was about and for me, its crazy weird.Thank you. I've been forced to separate from my family becuase they refused to change, it's been the hardest time of my life and I'm still struggling 5 later. Thanks you for this!

Totally love this video, the examples Teal gave are so on point that they totally apply on myself/people around me.

Black sheep here. Had breakthrough with my older sister, who has come to resent our mother tremendously. Even though I don't resent my mum, I do feel relief in having my sister recognise and talk about how things were for me, and her own role in keeping things that way when we were younger. I left the family home when I was 18 and a couple of years later I moved to a different country. I lived 20 years abroad as the distance actually made it easier. I'm back now and have a great relationship with everyone but only my sister knows and actively supported my healing.

I’m so glad Teal Swan chose this subject because I separated from my family when I was in my 20’s... Then we came together again after 8 years.... and recently I’ve seen some behaviors that have reminded me why our separation happened in the first place. Life is too short so I’m sending out positive energy and prayers for those dealing with hard family issues. 💞🙏🏼

❤️QUESTION: I grew up in a highly disfunctional family: 2 narcisistic parents mother highly violent with all of her 3 daughters since they were very young I witnessed a lot of domestic violence and abuse...father was almost never present as working overseas but that was really an excuse to not be in the family as my mother was and still a psyco, but they always pretended everything was normal and perfectly fine😉 using extreme gaslight. I escaped abroad travelling for many years when I was 21 building my self. I am 30 now. And had to come back in my "family" house for COVID19 a lot of shadow came out me and one of my sister are the mirror of their disfunctionality they cannot stand us. Family is separated but still pretending everything is great. I had to see a lawyer for the 1st time in my life as my mother wanted to kick me out of the house. But this time I stood up for my self and I am no longer scared of her (as she used physical violence on me untill I was 19) I am devoted to my self and always present for my self I know deep inside I am a teacher. I am not abandoning my self anymore I used to think about suicide but now I understood. My pattern would be to focus on the negative (and so staying in the negative) but I changed that too. My family is not willing to see their disfunction and even if I mind my own business the mob me to get away from them. I know that they are so far from me emotionally also I am living from my truth and they are escaping their truth everyday so we are definitely not a match. I feel good when I distance my self from them and my friends are my real family and I am always here for me. By following what I think is the best for me as I love my self I believe I am doing the right thing. And I.try to look at them with an eye of compassion and appreciating them from far when I feel like it. I know I am on the right path. Thank you for your video. Much love from Italy❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️I will come and see you one day in costa rica💙 I am also a vegan Chef so I would love to make you something ❤️ love you guys. Thank you for being part of my FAMILY❤️ LISA

Right on time. Just had a conversation with my sister the other day about needing to separate from our family for 2-3 years for my own healing. I was conflicted not knowing whether or not to sever ties or to stay or to leave temporarily. You just talked me through my process, thank you. 🙏🏾

Separating from my family healed my soul.

First traumatic, yes, until realization sets in. Then peace

I know you already made a video about cancer, but if you could break down the specific, underlying causes behind the many different types of cancer (and what changes the body is trying to achieve/force), that would be much appreciated. The “self sacrifice” cancer for instance...

This has been my experience during the last years. I tried to incorporate the learnings and evolution i was going through to my family, whenever i did i felt rejected and invisible, that was followed by a period of doubting my own evolution, because i would regress back just to stop feeling their fear, yes i felt they were scared of me if i expressed any change, in some way i felt to make them feel secure and confortable i had to lie ... When i was toxic and not contributing to good, i felt i was sharing my life with them, when i was evolving i felt i could not share it, and i really tried. Now i am out of energy and tired to feel like i am a threat or problem , and about to completelly regress, only to feel the confort and belonging, but i know it would be a lie to everyone.

This was eye opening and validating. I keep forgetting how hard it is to be home with all the same disfunction

Since I can remember, my biggest wish is to show them who I am and still be loved... and seeing them happy, because they never were

"Never go against the family..." (wheezing gangster voice)

teal, thanks to you in the last few months i began to think about my passions in life again. i am prioritazing them. i appreciate you so much. this video speaks the truth.

I definitely feel I am growing, expanding and changing in spite of my family and in direct opposition to my Mother. Another awesome video. Thank you, Teal.

100% agree with this.❤️🙏

Thank you thank you thank you 😔 exhausted cycling through this since 2017 in my life, but much needed to heal through!

After I combat cancer, I am a very different woman. I look at life differently. Not a great person for the family. My whole family holds me at arm’s length. Now I have no life. I live in my bedroom by myself. I have no friends to talk to. I have thought of suicide as a way for me to end my suffering. I just need it to stop. Thank you for your kindness and time.

I never felt connected to my family, when I left, I felt nothing and kept all parts of myself. Gotta disagree with teal on this one.

That is absolutely true. That is the main reason why I had to terminate my bank account and prevent my brother from sending me my parents support money. My mother wanted me to be financially dependent to them and at the same time she blamed me for their financial problems (when my brother gets like 6 times as much money from them as I did). One day I lost it on Skype and yelled at her. It was not much longer that I terminated the bank account and stopped talking to them. My parents and brother are extremely neurotic and all is unconscious. I do care about them though. But I had to set up very clear boundaries to them. It's those boundaries that freed me and enable me to heal my wounds.

I wish you had gone into depth about ancestral karma and family curses.

Time to load the truth bullets...❤️ Also loved the “ ...in no time!...” part

So true, family dynamics are so impactful on our growth in life. They can be some of the hardest parts to work with, but the most rewarding. Thank you teal! As I slowly transformed my anger, into compassion about my family, I have slowly transformed into my happiest and healthiest self.

After life long suffering 42 years old I had to put distance between myself and my family.

You are absolutely fantastic!!!! I hope my kids watch this as I just shared it. Amazing explanation! In love with your methods of explaining

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one

thank you for what you do teal swan!!! i always felt a lot of self doubt because i see relationships and people similarly to how you do. I always felt like i have a sixth sense in a way. You explaining these things and putting it in words so eloquently makes me realize im not crazy and these unhealthy relationship dynamics and people's ignorance to these truths is a very real thing.

Hi Teal, this is such a sad story, I cannot even finish to listening to it without crying big tears...sorry for the loss of your friend's. I came across some similar scenario myself...found out I had cancer but when everybody began to pressure me to go and seek an allopathic care and cure I firmly stood up strong to it. I went alternative and did it my way...three months later everything were completely gone bye-bye! I love the family, but no one can tell us what to do with our own body and life, we are ultimately responsible for ourselves. I know it takes courage to take these serious matters in our own hands, but this is exactly what it takes at this time. No one knows our body better than ourselves.

I just had a fighting with my mom and i was crying and i slept! I just woke up to to this notification! I guess god has a sense of humour

This hit close to home thank you for your insight 👍🏽❤️✌🏽

It took me 20 years separated from my family to change the dynamics, heal and regain the bond when we had all worked enough on ourselves, now each one gives the best of ourselves and the family can respect and love each member, providing encouragement, affection and support for each one in their differences ... to stop being an outcast or abandoned parents takes a lot of personal improvement and a lot of love to understand and forgive our roles and mistakes ... but leaving all this behind and having harmony is the closest to happiness . Thanks Teal because during all these years ... it has been the brightest ligthhouse of light that without interference managed to give me all the necessary knowledge to find my way back home. I sincerely admire you and consider you the best friend ever ... as well as one of the most authentic and wise people of this time .warm greetings and a huge hug from Cali Colombia.

Thank you for never victim blaming & for showing the truth

We're All GOD's Children "Mitakuye oyasin - All are related." Words and Emotions are extremely powerful, stay blessed! 😇🙏👽✌️🤣

I don’t know if Teal is going to read this comment, but I truly hope that she will do a video on OCD one day. I noticed that a lot of people amongst the spiritual community started dealing with obsessive and intrusive thoughts out of the blue. I’m one of them, but I definitely see a lot more other people dealing with this as well.

Family is a 'Karmic Portal' we are reborn into to teach us what we failed to learn in our past lives...

Thank you for sharing this, Teal - it needed to be said. 🙏🏻💜

☀️”Thank you, Teal”🙏🏻💜💫

Maybe it's time to discuss how to heal when the family won't change. How to accept the resentment and shame, etc that stems from this environment. You always describe how necessary it is to the health of the individual to have dysfunctional family members get on board with changing themself and caring about other people's welfare, when if it was remotely possible for the abusive family members to do that, they wouldn't abuse and be dysfunctional in the first place. How to handle the internal environment for the person on the receiving end to heal and move forward when change from the family is absolutely not in the cards would be an appreciated video! You have always done excellent analysis in these videos am I am feeling that more could be said here on this matter.

How you summed up the video at the end gave me goosebumps, I try not to rely on external validation too much but I really needed to hear that. Thank you Teal and much love everyone 💜🙏

My brother separated from us, he's the only one who lives out of state. He doesn't tell us why he stays to himself but we always welcome him whenever he feels like spending time with us.

Always breakin me wide open. I love this geminian genius

Which one is the “the self-sacrifice cancer” in the natural health community?

Wow, yes video was pretty eerie with timing! Exactly what I’ve been feeling! My family has a hard time realizing abundance and prosperity seems to think that they have to work hard for it. But my experience tells me that abundance is my birthright as well and prosperity! Much support and empathy to anyone experiencing THIS! I’m currently living with my brother getting backfrom LA and energetically it’s a challenge! to say the least!🌞🌞✌️👏

Beautiful. You hit the nail on the head. I sooooooooooooo agree with you. Bless you for explaining the depth and truth that so many do not see. I always use your term “it’s a symptom not a cause” bless you!!

This is absolutely fantastic. So needed. I’ve recently needed to remove myself from my family and this hits the nail on the head. But duh it’s teal. When does she ever miss the mark lol

Personally I don't see the ideal scenario being healing with the entire family as in alignment all the time. It's a matter of synchronicity. They are also individuals that have traumas and that don't really care about the family structure sometimes. The role I played is the Deep Issues Problem solver and the intricate dynamics, that's why I'm mainly focused on integration and building my own family, but not through birth of children but with new permanence with people I belong with. It doesn't always work , Teal, even if you try your best, even if you give it your all. It just doesn't happen you are spiritual and they are " down to earth " even though being down to earth means to be more in the past or in separation, by exclusion of the multi-dimensional aspects of life. You will always love them because they are you, just like you'd love anything evil or cruel or demonic. It's you, it doesn't change that. But sadly we have an ego and we have to love it and take care of it. If they can't do it then it's better to part ways and make your own thing. Source can help you build it, you are that after all. So to me no structure for family or preferred way of being should be that strict. Also biology shouldn't be very strict as it shifts with thoughts and awareness. Things have been improving lately, but my entire family perceives themselves to be alone in general and are only walls that sometimes won't talk to you if you don't forcefully put them in a lose-win scenario with you when they depend on you for love and you'll give it only if they do the shadow work with you. It's just so complex that I don't think 1 video is enough. It should be like an entire book. But I'm assuming you're aware of it and how painful it is, especially for the rare cases like myself and others. Regardless thank you for the video and thank you for reading, whoever you may be, believe in yourself first and foremost and then think about family and social structures. They're just mental constructs after all, nothing too serious. If it doesn't work, throw it away and build something for yourself.

100% accurate - this video should be shown to all young adults; unless you have very mature, well-balanced, supportive parents/siblings, whom respect you, as another and separate human being, making your own choices and decisions in life, then move away as soon as you can. This is the best advice, in order to reach your full potential in this lifetime, within every area of your "own" life; you can still love them from a distance. Family can be the most toxic element in your life and can be responsible for the experience of much trauma, throughout your entire life; they can reflect all of their own insecurities onto you without even knowing what they are doing - look after your own well being/sanity in the first instance, very important.

Thank you Teal for being part of my life journey. It's an hounr! Love and Peace ❤

AS the Patriarch of our family, you've helped me see the confusion and dismay I'm causing to my children from my spiritual awakening to galactic awareness of collective consciousness. I'm not sure how to regain their trust while relating to Source in lieu of the Christian tradition that I raised them in.

I was artificially conceived to fill the void my grandmother's neglect left in my emotionally stunted mother. My brother and I were dolls for her to dress up and project upon until we were old enough to take over as her parents. I had to disengage from this dynamic in order to parent myself properly and give her a chance to do the same. She's still pining for the parenting neither generation on either side gave her, but it's not my responsibility to make her feed herself when she will only accept spoon-feeding. I don't anticipate that anything in my family will change until my grandmother dies and takes the emotional vacuum she created with her.

Gratitude, Teal. This came at a perfect time for me 💛

Thank You Teal. These lessons are helping undercover my traumatic experiences.