Father's Rights in Child Custody: 3 Steps For Success

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This video is for fathers who are going through a custody battle with their ex and want more parenting time with their children or are trying to get joint custody. It's important for fathers to take the time to learn what they can do to enforce their parental rights in a custody case. commandthecourtroom.com
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However, unless you take the time to learn the basic custody laws for your state and follow certain steps, no attorney can help you. Most courts use the "best interest of the child" rule to determine custody and time-sharing.
Here are 3 Steps to follow before appearing in custody court.
1 Identify what you are going to change now that you and the parent are not together. For example, if you have traveled a lot for work when you were married to your spouse. And you have not been able to spend time with the mother or child, you need to present to the judge how you are going to modify your travel schedule so you are there for your children.
As any judge or expert will tell you, when children go through the transition when their parents are splitting up, they need consistency and stability. During your custody trial, you need to convince the judge that you will be able to provide that consistency and stability even though in the past the other parent has been the one who has picked up the lion’s share of the responsibilities.
So if you need to get a letter from your supervisor or a commitment that he or she will come to court to testify that you will have the flexibility then you need to do this. You have to present to the court how you are going to change things in the future.
2. Since you have never been the primary caretaker or you are a new father you can invest in some parenting classes to show the judge that you want to get the skills you need to give the kids the best care that they need. This may not be necessary if you have been a father for a long time, you may not need parenting classes. If you are a new Dad or have a newborn, this is persuasive evidence to show the court that you are willing to do whatever it takes to be the best father for your children.
3. Once you show the judge you are going to get the training you need and make adjustments to your life for the best interests of your children, you need to start walking the walk immediately, even before the case starts, or when your marriage is already falling apart and you are contemplating divorce, you need to do what you need to do right away.
Start asking the mother for more time with your children and you need to get on a consistent schedule that is best for them and not what’s best for your schedule or for the other parent’s schedule. You also should document when you ask the other parent for more time. You can use texts or email as evidence in court if you are asking the kids for the weekend or want to take them on vacation and the other parent is turning you down, by all means, save those texts and emails.
Start gathering your proof to show this to the judge. If your custody case goes on for a year, you need to start spending as much time with your children as possible. Start doing it immediately. Ask for more time with the children, start showing up at those parent/teacher conferences, going to the soccer practices, start picking up and dropping off your children to school or start getting involved with the pediatrician.
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@willchacon5888 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks from a Dad....who loves his son.

@jeremycoburn1526 7 жыл бұрын

This video gives me a lot of hope. I've been seperate from my sons mother for almost 6 years, and am always being told what to do by my son's mother, or threatened with child support if I disagree with anything she says. I have my son majority of the time, 4 to 5 days a week. or at the VERY least, 50% of each week, and yet she makes decisions, and I have no choice but to just accept it and feel angry about it because "She's the mother and there's nothing you can do about it." I am planning on filing for joint custody because I want to be in my son's life free of the ever lingering burdon of her just deciding to spontaneously take him away, or her just deciding to keep him forever or just let me see him on the weekends. I love my son, and my home is not complete when he isn't around.

@boldanalyticalvoyager2959 7 жыл бұрын

It's Sad that one would need to prove to a Judge to then give you permission to be a father and spend time with your own children.And if you don't cower to the judge and beg and plea he can easily take your father's rights away just based on what the judge feels with no real evidence of bad fatherhood or an exaggeration of a few mistakes done by the father if any.

@bluewater454 6 жыл бұрын

BOLD AnalyticalRaptor VOYAGER Do not try to prove you are a fit parent. Make the courts prove you are not. As a father, you have just as much right of the benefit of the doubt as your unfaithful ex wife. What you need is to man up and demand your rights to be recognized by the court. You do not need the antifamily court system to tell you what is in the best interest of your children. If you are a fit parent, you ARE the childrens best interest. *You are their primary authority* - not the court. The court has no right to usurp your authority without proof that you are an unfit parent. This has been determined by the Supreme Court. The rights of parents is a Liberty interest that has been reinforced by one decision after another for the past hundred years by SCOTUS rulings. The "best interest of the child" motif that the lower courts use to tell you how to parent your children is an overused and abused doctrine. They have no right to determine that against the wishes of a fit parent.

@igortrumpbotski4327 5 жыл бұрын

SmokerStar humans are not 99% of species. Our social and behavioral structures are vastly different than that of the animal kingdom. Statistically, humans need both parents to grow into peek productive, independent, successful individuals. Children who grow up without fathers are many times more likely to have mental health and behavioral problems, abuse drugs and alcohol, have social issues, as well as criminal records. They are also much less likely to graduate high school. Boys are at minimum two to three times more likely to have these problems than girls. Fact is, just because you think you turned out alright doesn’t mean you wouldn’t have turned out better and a more productive member of society had you had both parents in your life. In fact, the statistics suggest you probably would have been more successful.

@michaelsayen4360 5 жыл бұрын

bluewater you are absolutely correct. Are you working with any groups out there? If not, you should. As a father and an author on unilateral divorce, I had to look up our "liberty" laws. It is a constitutional right for a father to have care, control, and maintenance of his child. That means, CUSTODY. But, now courts realize a father is good for financial support and in order to prevent further custody hearings, motions, and appeals they simply give the mother 100% custody and call it a "high" conflict divorce. A man has to beg and pled to be a father and have any kind of shared custody. The courts do not care if you have rights ot parent your child, or if you are fit or not, they simply care that you will "play" nice and will not fight and argue with your wife (where the child will more than likely reside). Anyways, I would love to get with you more. For men, we need to stop cowardly "asking" for the rights of our child, but demanding them and put the burden of the proof on the court. It is not your burden to prove or show your a fit parent for 50% custody, it is the courts responsibility to prove you are Unfit, which they will try.

@SoySiervoDeDios1 5 жыл бұрын

@@michaelsayen4360Going through a tuff situation right now. Do you know of any group or blog to get some advice on family issues?

@frankcastle5737 5 жыл бұрын

It's simple, create equal parenting, eliminate child support under false pretenses and have follow up court dates. I'm for equality not here on biased agenda, nor sexist, just equal.

@JC-yv5ii 5 жыл бұрын

I will never get married because of this video.

@maxstreetracer1592 5 жыл бұрын

I'm going to court for full custody tomorrow i pay for everything that my son needs

@robertdiminuco689 6 жыл бұрын

In many situations such as mine, the child is with the mother all the time because the mother is simply alienating the father from his child, and if you make an effort to see the child, you have to deal with the abuse from that parent. This also goes for some fathers who are alienating the mother as well. I have been alienated since the child's birth 16 years ago. And it is not getting better. That ATM CARD that gives the mother access to my money is the big problem. I have no leverage

@mountainwolfrecords3284 5 жыл бұрын

Robert Diminuco going through something similar. Kids are in Massachusetts where I can’t afford to pay rent because of child support and I had to move to FL because she put two domestic cases on me and dropped them as soon as she got what she wanted. Unfortunately the common with kept them and now my job options are limited until the cases are over.

@joser5193 5 жыл бұрын

I understand your point. Although what happen when the ex moved 100 miles away from there home town with the children I must say it’s quite difficult to hold a great relationship being so far away. Thanks

@michaeldodds1137 7 жыл бұрын

I'm a single father going through a middle of a child custody battle with my wife that left the state to Tennessee from Arizona this video helps thank you

@bakhshishsingh6570 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing equality and helping to make children's lives better in unfortunate times.

@motherfudger6664 6 жыл бұрын

Glad I came across this and realized I'm already doing all these things.

@houseworth123 7 жыл бұрын

Thanks for these!

@angelasescil9601 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@paulhampton6408 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your wisdom ma'am ! Sincerely a concerned loving caring daddy / Papa that only wants what's best for them !. Paul Hampton~.

@officersantana0379 5 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate this video it made my day thank you

@dozaishere 6 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate this info. Makes me feel more better.

@stanleyvo5198 7 жыл бұрын

Nice advice! Thank a lot .

@jerseyltd 7 жыл бұрын

im going through this now. your videos bring me so much hope!

@dominiquelove1139 6 жыл бұрын

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@c.1211 6 жыл бұрын

Jersey LTD your not alone. My ex is not letting see my kids and I'm doing everything possible to see my 2 boys. I'm also going to parenting classes and getting therapy for all the stress she's putting me. Hang in there dude!

@firsttwin934 7 жыл бұрын

In other videos you claim fathers have the same chance of getting parental rights as mothers. In this video you admit fathers have to prove and convince the judge that they are good parents if they want more time with their kids. When was the last time a mother had to prove she could support the family in order to get custody? Fathers do not have the same rights as mothers. You should be more honest about men's chances of getting custody.

@jimcole6423 6 жыл бұрын

Yes, and this is known as sexual discrimination.

@Kaitlyn_B97 5 жыл бұрын

I agree somewhat. I'm a mother. And I feel that children are *in most cases* better off with the mother.

@southkake 5 жыл бұрын

@@Kaitlyn_B97 based on what? I believe kids are better off with the father.

@frankiegunnz8066 5 жыл бұрын

@@Kaitlyn_B97 That's BS. Children need their fathers Just as much as their mothers.

@bezent4212 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Very inspiring words. I wanna be the best father I can possibly be. I kno I can!!!🤗

@robertdiminuco689 6 жыл бұрын

The custody hearing is as much of a dog and pony show as the child support hearing where the lawyers refer to the hearing officer as Judge and Your Honor. The child I pay an on going ransom for was alienated from me for the first 5 years of his life before I was served to go to court, I was sending money to the child's mother, but she wanted to get it in writing that she had full custody, so the clerks told her that she needed to prove DNA, so after 2 and half years of total alienation, I received a phone call from the mother, she asked me if I wanted to visit Nick, I said I sure, I then asked, "does Nick have a bike?" she said no, I said, "don't say anything to Nick, I will surprise him with a new bike". After visiting with Nick for about 30 minutes, Court Process Server Steven Collins corners me in the mother's townhouse, threatens me with being arrested if I don't appear in court. I appear in court with a lawyer; Mike Schmitt walks me right into a Title IV-D contract. Then Law Guardian Ella Van Loon suggest that I start out with 6 chaperoned visits, which was not necessary, this was to create an illusion that I was unfit, no evidence, no trial, just her bull-sh-t recommendations. Then she recommends 6 hours on Saturday and says Deanne is willing to let you see Nick for 2 hours on Christmas. And in six months I could have sleep overs with the child. No holidays were written in this piece of garbage court order. And the language states, "if agreeable by both parties" I was right back to being alienated. Fighting this in these kangaroo courts is not going to get me far. I filed a Petition in 2016 regarding the alienation, the first thing the referee wanted to do was appoint a law guardian; it is the law guardian who staged this for me to lose. I just did not bother with it. My entire case is a joke.

@ConsciousGame6255 5 жыл бұрын

Damm man....that's *uck up?😐 Family court is a Joke! And US gud father's get screwed by "MONEY -Hungry bitches!!!

@dannyodayinhawaiinei9715 5 жыл бұрын

Doesn't this go for a mother aswell? The reason why a mother is able to be a mother is because of what the father did on his part. It takes two to raise a child. Now that a mother is single and now a single parent what can she bring to the table? You just said we both shared the responsibility so now she is alone how can she play a fathers roll or provide what the father had provided? A healthy child must have both a father and a mother in their life. There fast to ask the father what can he do, This should also go for the mother aswell. A father is no less than the mother. A father loves his children just a much as a mother and will do anything for their children.

@craigzilla100 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your insight. It's much appreciated. I just left an abusive relationship about 2 months ago and filed for divorce. I foolishly cancelled it after she begged me to and we pursued couples counseling. Nothing has improved and the fighting continues so im ready to refile. My wife is a stay at home mom, and we have a 3 year old (together) and a 9 yr old son (hers prior to us meeting). My goal is to get equal custody over both of them , both physical and legal. My lawyer had said that even though I'm not the biological father of my stepson, that the courts should rule in his best interest and Grant me rights. I'm the only father he has ever had and have been in his life since he was 4. My wife loves to threaten that I'll never get to see him, and only get visitation for our daughter. She also threatens that I'll be paying her lawyer fees as well. How likely is any of this? Do I have a chance in getting equal custody over both kids? Will I have to pay her legal fees? I am staying at my parents because I can't afford paying her bills plus rent of my own.. will I have to prove abuse to get what I feel that I deserve? I just don't know how bad this is going to get. I'm dealing with someone with a lot of cluster B personality traits here.. I've done everything with my kids. When I wasn't working, I was spending time with them- every evening and every weekend for the past 2 years I'd go straight home and care for the kids while she sat in a different room on her computer and phone while drinking beer. I helped with the homework, ate with them , played, took our son to every sports practice and school event by myself, and tucked them both in at night by myself. Besides caring for our toddler during the day, I feel that ive carried the bulk of the load the past few years. I appreciate any advice here. Do I have a chance ? Is it better to settle out of court or let a judge decide our fate? I know the second I claim abuse, she'll cry it back.. thanks. Also, Im not wealthy, so crazy legal fees are going to be a problem.

@chrisinla24 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@Commandthecourtroom 7 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome and thank you for your nice comment!

@cesarLopez-vy4dy 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@willchacon5888 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@Mad-Grace 7 жыл бұрын

If mom lives in PA now and Dad's in TN but original order for custody was made in Maryland. How would one request a move from the order being moved from one state to another?

@Skynet_the_AI 6 жыл бұрын

Thank You! 💜

@1happytime9 6 жыл бұрын

what makes a woman a natural parent ? why does a dad have to do so many things to prove when a woman doesn't? Sounds like your saying the woman doesn't work at all.

@marginelouis6674 6 жыл бұрын

1happytime9 it comes down to primary care taker. Even in a relationship where both parents work the task of taking care of the child still mostly falls on the mother

@bwinms1 6 жыл бұрын

not all the time

@joceelee 5 жыл бұрын

Your question doesn’t make sense. Most women *are* natural parents. How have you gone through life without observing that? Do you have a mother? This lawyer appears to be politely referring to fathers who couldn’t be bothered in the past but who all of a sudden want to be fathers but have no skills and have structured their lives around their own careers and needs. If yours is one of those situations where you’ve been an attentive father then this video doesn’t apply to you and you needn’t worry as there would be no reason to not get 50/50.

@TheMusicalStylingsofBrentBunn 7 жыл бұрын

I'm not a father, but I'm writing for one in my book. Your videos have been helpful for my research on how court works :-)

@barbaraalejandrasantillan150 6 жыл бұрын

im exactly in the same situation right now wow i hope yours turned out great!!

@MiguelOjedaJr 6 жыл бұрын

thank you

@felipecruz9865 5 жыл бұрын

Whats a de novo hearing and what to expect

@starblazer64 7 жыл бұрын

My problem is that my sons mother moved very frequently and it was nearly impossible to locate her and my son. She became addicted to meth and her mother (my sons grandmother) took custody but no one notified me. My sons mother ultimately died last year and I thought I would get custody but now Im in a legal battle for him. I live 420 miles away in another state. The court seems to want to drag the case out and it is expensive not mention cost of traveling and time from work. I feel Ive been given an unfair hand.

@philgriffith269 5 жыл бұрын

My ex is planning on moving to Georgia currently from Florida we've never married we been separated for nine years we have an 11 year old daughter and a 13 year old daughter who we mutually agreed that I get every other weekend and I also see them throughout the week as I coach their softball teams for the past several years I keep my kids whatever they need I give my ex whatever she needs for our kids she still has not told me that she wants to move or is moving which is in within the next two months she don't have the audacity to tell me I'd have to hear it from my kids she had a one-night stand with a 21 year old she is 35 she ended up pregnant now they have a one year old he's from Georgia she has no family there he's off in Washington in school only his family is there all of our families here in Florida where we are my kids do not want to leave they want to stay with me there is no meaning on them moving she's not moving for a job not moving for the best interest of the kids the kids want to stay with her father they call my house home like I said she's been two three four different places since we've split I'm still at the same place where my kids were when we split we have a mutual agreement on how much money I get for every week or whatever she needs money for I give I also give my kids lunch money buy them school clothes shoes girly items vacations etc etc what do I need to do to stop this shouldn't she have to give me a notice she shouldn't be able to just take my kids and leave I am really a victim of a narcissist I am always wrong she's always right she's in one of those type she's with a 22 year old guy now which my kids do not like she said they always fight it's so pleasant when he's not around 2 months ago they hated each other and we're splitting up like I said my kids say they do nothing but fight they're exactly alike now they're back together again after he left my daughter told me that they were going to get a place in Georgia my daughter asked her with what money and her response to my daughter was oh you don't know the money that he's going to be making when he gets done with school hmmm gold digger... like I said this is the third guy she's been with since we split in a relationship with. please help I have two months to help my kid get out of the situation they do not want to go there's nothing there for them a family no friends there's nothing there for her no job no family you just his family my kids really want to stay with me please get back with me thank you like I said I do way too much for my kids for her to think I would say goodbye to them I'm not going to let them go to wear a 21 year old will be trying to Father them he's way too young and very immature yes she had a one night stand and yes my kids do not like him at all they also have that love hate relationship with their mother what do I do to stop this right away I need to help my kids I asked my kid I told them if I didn't do anything I would expect them to think of me as a piece of crap father what's that would never happen like I said I give her and my kids with everything I need I'm always early with the money we agreed on giving her every week plus more lunch money Recreation money take them on vacation by them school clothes on top of giving her the money she also asked me to split mostly everything with her which I do she really gets a lot out of me definitely more than she should I think a lot of people would hate her if she did this to me knowing the father I am to my kids please help......

@wonderingstar29 6 жыл бұрын

I believe firmly that our sons has to be taught the same way as our daughters! Divorce is a reality!!!The findings is that the mothers usually thinks that the father does not know how to do the finer things that mothers do including those who don`t look after their children because of their personality traits. I have found women that have children where in their marriage they do nothing but manipulate the other parents to do everything so that she or he can be self centred to their own needs or was brought not do chores or responsibilities.Later in life when they have to do responsibilities, they`e at a complete loss because of spoiling. I feel that if you never had any responsibilities when you were single because your parents took on that which should have been shared then marriage would have been a breeze.Also there is also mothers who use the child as leverage for something she wants! Its amazing how a couple when they have their babies that they say "we" are having a baby but when it comes to divorce suddenly its my children.Parents who don`t show any gripes with each other is the ones whose lives are happy and they also save that money to use for their childrens than giving to lawyers which is a necessary thing because they can`t behave as adults!!!

@chuckytherapper 5 жыл бұрын

My children are still very young. 8,6,3 and 1. It’s been two years with minimal contact between my oldest daughters. And my three year old. My son who is one I have never met. Their mothers have a history of tricks, manipulation and dishonesty as far as concerns my involvement with the children. They are dropped off early or on time and not picked up unless it is on her terms. Contact between their mothers and I are normally me being very open honest and genuine. Their responses to me are man bashing, consistent trash talking my life my wife and my ambitions. Meanwhile I reserve my resolve, and just dream up ways to solidify parenting time. I feel like ceasing contact and having minimal contact for the last two years is going to work against me. But I also feel like since this is early in my sons lives I’ll be in favor there. All that I am after is parenting time with less parental contact (me and mom don’t get along well) my children love me and I love them. Which would be easily displayed if they were asked or if we saw one another.

@TheBen1tez 6 жыл бұрын

What if i was the primary care taker? She hated taking care of my daughter, she would cry with her alot so I went partime a few days a week and she worked full time.

@joebarniak 6 жыл бұрын

I was the primary care giver as s stay at home dad, and she is neglecting care of the kids when they are with her. What is the best course of action to ensure the safety and custody of the kids

@sherrondavis4603 7 жыл бұрын

Hey I'm a new father, how do I go about getting my case seen by a judge?

@luissolano3283 5 жыл бұрын

My baby mom won't allow my kids to receive gift from me , she wants money only? I feel that wrong I should be able to give my kids Christmas presents instead of giving her money, how should I go about that

@rayghazi4395 7 жыл бұрын

Thx a lott But the way you explain it looks so easy ..... its v bad fight .

@fabiojunior2010 6 жыл бұрын

Hello so I have a daughter and her mom don want that I see her and I decided go to the court I'm Just looking for some questions what I need to do to get there on my first step

@ivydene2107 6 жыл бұрын

Could you make a vid with mothers since I want to live with my mom

@joyceroberts7772 5 жыл бұрын

My court case has just started and I currectly have set visitation 2days out of the week, can I ask for more time? Can she give me time outside of the temporary court order? I'm in Texas.

@robynedward125 5 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately my ex won't do that. My ex hasn't done anything that was ordered. I love your advice my ex hasn't done anything in the best interests I'm in conjugal abuse and the kids It's difficult

@coldwolf2488 6 жыл бұрын

I am unable to pay child support due to failing health an my son was taken out of state without telling me what can I do ?

@joesmoke2209 6 жыл бұрын

Does it look really bad on the parent that filed then didn't show for the status hearing then told the clerk they moved out of state and will file again in another

@lelawxs27 5 жыл бұрын

What about it's not in the agreement that they are following word by word that you only get a certain time and that is strictly what they follow and that is the reason why they won't let you have more time with the child

@jacobhughes3973 6 жыл бұрын

thank you alot now i wish i could get a lawer that would fight more for the dad alot of them dont know stuff like that for me

@Seanype 5 жыл бұрын

What if I live in Australia and my kids lives in New Zealand? How the hell am I going to be able to spend more time when they are a 5 hr plane flight away ? I really want to but feel like I’m hitting a brick wall

@josephhitchin7884 6 жыл бұрын

Iv done all that. Iv got court orders but six years later still not seeing my son. Because baby Mum will not allow contact. I have struggled to earn enough money to my head above water. What should I do?

@mikewhitney2147 6 жыл бұрын

You don't have to prove the best interest of the child to the state. In fact it's the states burden to prove a parent unfit using strict scrutiny due process guidelines and that parent is under no obligation to help them. Unless the state does this then they have no rights or jurisdiction to preside over anything at all much less making decisions of a childs best interest over a fit parent. - People need to realize that the entire family law industry is a sham and not even fit for purpose. Learn the real law and assert your rights without compromise no matter what the family law judges & lawyers tell you about state jurisdiction in civil courts of equity. It's all a scam.

@tatermoreno2508 6 жыл бұрын

Please anyone help with my situation. I have 2 boys 10 and 11 they live with there mom at there grandmothers house. There are "no" custody papers. I just found out that there mother has been arrested and apparently she going to do a year. Now there grandmother where they reside is very sneaky to say the least...meaning she didn't inform me of her daughter being incarcerated and my boys having to not tell me anything. Can i just go and get my boys and bring them to reside with me? Cause o know I'm going to have a problem with there grandmother if I decide to go and get them. Or do I have to file something before doing so?

@ourquirkyconversations2255 5 жыл бұрын

I suffered my whole life when my mom lost that custody battle, i love my dad he does nothing wrong, but I can bear life with no dad, but with no mom, i'm stuck, I loved her so much kids should get to testify in the custody battles.

@jamesfinlayson1489 7 жыл бұрын

Hey thx!

@williamthompson5559 6 жыл бұрын

James

@stewietsheking 6 жыл бұрын

So if I have had shared legal custody since my kid was 6 months old, and the mother is unfit based on many factors, what can I do to show the court that I am the better option? I have been taking care of kids since I was a young teen and my 3 year old literally says that he does not want to go to his moms house. I have never once said anything bad about her to my son, but he has been losing his shit since he was just about a year and a half, ever time he has to go with her. To me that spells a clear problem, and even one time he came to my home with very suspicious marks that were all nearly identical and in a patter down his leg. I had this presented to the courts and I had called CYS. I was granted temporary sole custody until the matter was resolved because the judge thought the marks were suspicious too. The issue ended up getting thrown out and she still has shared custody of my son. Something like this would have stripped all my rights away but because she is the mother they basically blew it off. I'm talking about a child that wasn't even two years old looking like he was smacked with a rod in three spots with lines seperated by only a few inches and all in the same direction. At this point I feel very let down by the courts.

@ConsciousGame6255 5 жыл бұрын

I'm not surprise man.....The courts don't give a fuck!!! The rather side with an "Abusive" mother than a fit father because "they" - the courts get a portion of the child support....ITS ALL A SHAM AND A RACKETTE and the kids are the commodity. Facts!

@fredbjamz4956 7 жыл бұрын

Why getting visitation and custody is harder as well is slower than child support. I understand the difference but wow

@luissolano3283 5 жыл бұрын

What if they took off to a different state without permission or consent, I am able to see my kids, she put a restraining order on me so I won't see my kids but I am able to see my kids, I have no court order that says I can't see my kids, they took off without consent so I f I go to court can I make them pay transportation because they moved out of state without consent, it's not my problem they did there action without adknowledgement , violating custody agreement threw penal code without both consent

@rogeradams3624 5 жыл бұрын

I just got a letter in the mail saying I owe a yearly fee now. Of 25 bucks a year, so in total I owe fees of 100 for 4 years. I'm already paying monthly almost 500 bucks on CS. *Sidenote I've never once gotten to meet my son. She wouldn't even give him my last name. Another sidenote. The CS that I've been paying is off what I used to make before I had my accident. I'm now on SSI because I can't work. I have a severe TBI. The CS is just over half of my monthly income now. My sister has 2 kids with her ex. She's lucky to see 100 a month from him for my nieces. But here I am stuck paying almost 500 a month for one kid. This is some bullshit.

@4208jason 5 жыл бұрын

I got 2 paying 820 a month. Its crazy my man.

@CR7R10DG19 5 жыл бұрын

2 also paying $560

@JoseRamos-hk6ed 7 жыл бұрын

i live in mexico and my x wife took my son to the usa what rights do i have as a father to have vistion rights

@sergiomedina7656 5 жыл бұрын

What can I do to get join custody I have not be the present household for the past 1 year and 6 month! She ready doesn't let me see my duagther and when she does she makes her time i don't like dat! Once in a while I asked her to let me see my duagther Saturday or Sunday she saying no she going out with me! She reall does let me see her on the weekends please help me my duagther have asked me if she could live with me! What can I do please help me

@Krankster83 6 жыл бұрын

I need a good fathers right attorney here in AZ ......

@empirewealthofficial 6 жыл бұрын

What about out of state fathers?

@joshbetancourt344 6 жыл бұрын

My wages are being garnished by child support. I don't mind it. It is what it is. My problem is that after taking the mother of my kid to court for joint costudy and being granted joint costudy by the judge, the mother now is not letting me see my child on my days granted by the judge. What can I do? I haven't seen my baby in months and it's killing me inside.

@jimcole6423 6 жыл бұрын

Go back to court. File a motion of contempt. Meanwhile, Conduct a search on Dr. Craig Childress, watch his videos.

@michealholland8820 7 жыл бұрын

I would give up my job and find another one that will give hours needed to take care of my child

@ozaamigo3130 6 жыл бұрын

what if for some reason you cant see the children often as you would like? as for me i only get phone calls because i live so far away from them, how can i convince the judge that moving my children to were i live will be benefical ? do i write and plan for education? and a plan for visiting the other parent like meeting half ways ? im trying to get full custody but i only get phone calls and i havent seen my children in 1 year?

@JoseNunez600 6 жыл бұрын

Rezzereked 64 you wont get full custody unfortunately, joint is your best bet. However before you start opening a case , spend time with your children no matter the circumstances and help out as much as you can for atleast a year. This way, when you go to the judge you have something backing you up for example: visitation time and economical help for the child.

@jelee6049 5 жыл бұрын

What do you do when the court and the AG is Corrupt and the FBI is looking the other way?

@OUstillSUCKS 6 жыл бұрын

I asked my sons mother and she won't let me see him at all and only time she talk to me is to see who I'm in relationship with and when I make it about my son she cuts it off right then and there. She even told me if I didn't marry her she would keep him from me and I'm still waiting to see him but now I have a attorney so I can't wait to be in his life and do things. She don't even have him doing anything or getting out at all. I offered to help with clothes and meds and she said " I have 3 kids I been doing it all alone I'm a single married mom" but yet I offer help and she turns my offering down

@jimcole6423 6 жыл бұрын

Ok, be aware that while she is stone-walling you she is MOST LIKELY brainwashing the children against you. This is pathogenic parenting. A DSM-V disorder in the APA. Also, MOST LIKELY alienating you. Do a search on Dr. Craig Childress and watch his videos for further understanding.

@Israel777 6 жыл бұрын

That you

@jimmyvictor13 5 жыл бұрын

How do I do it when it comes to filling taxes🤷🏻‍♂️ he lives with her but my goal is for him to live two weeks with me two weeks with her

@TheMak3itreign 6 жыл бұрын

Ok what If a father who has been primary care giver and mother has only down horrible responsibility in the care of said child. How to deny someone when its unhealthy and unsafe for developmental, health, saftey. Mother is now seeking custody therfore she is plaintiff and i am the defendent. Fyi ur awesome and thanks.

@sunwarz 6 жыл бұрын

What do you do if you work on the opposite side of the Provence, how do you transition from weekends to longer holidays instead, and what if she fights with you and threatens you with more court every time she sees you,! Is it worth getting the child so upset with having to call the police to enforce your court order, or your child to see and hear fighting every time you go see him or attempt to pick your child up! Its stressful for the father, imagine the stress on the child? Is it worth seeing the tears and the pain in the child's heart and eyes? Why can't the judges understand this? I know for a fact some dads stay away to avoid this situation! Its just not fair! When you love your child that much, that you stay away and just keep sending the checks and bday and christmas presents to prevent the hurt! In the mean time the mom tells the child he doesn't care he never comes to see you? I bought him a phone to keep in touch with me, she took it away, she unfriends my parents from talking to him or deletes his messages before he sees them, she even keeps saying she wants me to sign off and let her change his name? He knows I'm his dad, I've had him a lot, threw summers and Holliday's and weekends when I worked in that area! He has his own bedroom always has even now, but he's never seen it! I can't afford a lawyer! What can I do, all she does if fight me at every turn, I've only been working out of town for a year, its the best job I've ever had!

@joser5193 5 жыл бұрын

So sorry There was a typo The ex moved 1000 miles away From Texas to California

@bettymccandless8776 6 жыл бұрын

my son is going thru Hell right now. But why does a man have to be asked if he's taking parenting class, or about how he will handle child care if he has custody... But they didn't ask the mother the same questions

@kenzieshea 7 жыл бұрын

My dad has joint custody but he tells me all the time that it's my choice if I want full custody. I do want this but I am scared that my mom will be very mad that this happened that she would not treat me the same. She moved farther so I can't see my dad that much and I have to go to school around her and leave my friends how could I do this as a 13 year old?

@ConsciousTeaQueen 6 жыл бұрын

mackenzie shea be honest and tell the courts the truth

@EmpireMG 6 жыл бұрын

What if my daughter is young 2 years old and I've bought several flights in hopes that my ex would bring her and she always gets upset right before the flight because of things she makes up in her head about other women she's making it difficult to have my daughter in my life we live in two different states

@mountainwolfrecords3284 5 жыл бұрын

A. WAL in the same situation brother smh. Courts are not on our side in certain states. Unfortunately my cases are in Massachusetts. Would be better in FL where I’m at.

@shanyajohnson2623 6 жыл бұрын

what should a father do if he wants to spend more time with his kid and has reached out multiple times but the mother has blocked him in every way, and he has no way to contact her pending a custody battle. My fiance has reached out 3 times since since we moved to see if we could take his daughter on certain dates and every single Time he has been turned Down, and as of right now the mother has blocked every one of his family members, him and I on everything, we have absolutely no way to contact her. We also know factually that the child may be unsafe due to the last time seeing her she had inner thigh bruises, dark under eyes, and was underweight. we have called CPS multiple times, and the mother as of right now has not legal rights to terminate visitation. We're at a loss until we can go to courthouse later this month and file, we moved counties so we would have a place to live and so he could get a better job. He has been consistent in her life, only time we canceled was if I was to be gone and there would be nobody home, I would often travel with my mom and he worked 6 days a week and his boss refused to give him 2 days off because he was a manager. We also had to cancel when we first moved so we could completely figure out or living arrangement, we have 2 kids together, both are under 3, and he was settling into a new job and gaining financial stability once again so he could make sure he was able to pay his child support and not be in contempt of court. So far we have been very consistent, and we even give major notices for cancellations, especially when the other kids would be very sick and contagious. We wanted to try every other weekend at one point because I was seeking therapy for anxiety and post partum depression and because I was the stay at home parent I felt it reasonable to civilly talk about it with everyone involved, I needed some weekends to just step away and treat my mental illness, but that has since been controlled and regulated with regular support talks with an unnamed person. I just didn't want to subject any child to my mental illness in fear of harming that child, even with my own children, they would stay with their grandma twice a month so I could treat my mental illness. I explained this in full as well as explaining that the childs father was not given an option to take a day off without getting fired. She was more concerned at the fact that she would have to cancel her date nights and the nights when she goes drinking with friends. She also has stated that my fiance has not paid child support even tho child support has explained to her where the support went and why it was a little amount (in my state at least if the father is already supporting minors they lower the support in effort to keep him above the poverty line). She also is posting on social media that Her daughter "eats a lot" but then saying she only had a banana, two jerky sticks and some chips. As if that is enough food for an underweight almost 3 year old. This person is annoyed that my fiance didn't believe that baby was his until a DNA test was presented., once said test was shown, he owned up to it. She wants to terminate his rights, and she has made many rude remarks about my parenting to him and on social media, untrue remarks at that. Both my child are of perfect health, my son is almost 3 feet tall at age 2 and he is 34 pounds, my daughter is about 28 inches and weighs 21 pounds at one year old. my future step daughter, the child in this case, is 33 inches tall and about 20 pounds. We are genuinely worried about her, but we also can't afford a lawyer so we feel as if we will lose.

@jimcole6423 6 жыл бұрын

This sounds like pathogenic parenting. A DSM-V disorder in the APA. Conduct a search on Dr. Craig Childress. Watch his videos for more understanding.

@mesaralbujeyash6976 5 жыл бұрын

my child mother died ayear ago n her sister put my sons in her name i was out state at work i left him with his mother n then i came to take him .. his mom died from durgs n she gave to her sister n i lost my house cuz of her n now my so is with her sister she toll lies about me that i never did in my life what should i do

@hateisasignofenvy651 6 жыл бұрын

What if u never married??

@babiezombie 6 жыл бұрын

I'm going through custody.. Jan is our first court date. Our 2 girls are 5years old and 4year-old . He left and moved to another state when I was pregnant with our first daughter. She was a break up baby.. I moved out to him and got pregnant with our second daughter. She was a make up baby. He doesn't normally reach out he doesn't try and see the girls. He has came out 3 different times requesting to see the girls. I allowed him. They don't k ow him. He left with out even telling them goodbye this late time.. I told him I would understand if he left just say good bye. He did not. Now he's expecting another child so his girlfriend wants the girls.. she's never met them. My oldest has known him for less then 4months out of her life. Youngest is less then a month... He wants full custody or to take them out to his state. We had domestic violence. Only thing none of it was documented. We both say there was tho. I printed out all o could on him. He shows nothing of him having children on social media. So is there anything else I can do?

@_serenity3298 5 жыл бұрын

The fact that he hasn't even made efforts to see them and left y'all should win your case let alone. Is he really make legal action or just trying to scare you into giving them up? This shit makes me so angry like bitch you're already pregnant with his kid go live your life with him and raise your own damn kid. Courts always favor mothers and the fact that you've been the #1 supporter should suffice. Your babies can also be interviewed...

@huntingfishingandexploring9690 6 жыл бұрын

I hope.my dad wins

@larrywhittington7311 5 жыл бұрын

I was the primary caretaker.

@TavisWack-ip8fl 5 жыл бұрын

You left one thing out. The other parent doesn’t give access to the child?

@traciebutton2717 6 жыл бұрын

Mothers be warned your children will grow up to hate you if you stop them seeing their father they find out when they are adults that their fathers wanted them reached out for them tried everything and you blocked them seeing them expect some serious hate because you will get it

@jimcole6423 6 жыл бұрын

True. They have not met Karma yet.

@paulsanchez8610 6 жыл бұрын

idk if you will reply to this it would mean a lot I'm a father of my beautiful 2 month baby girl the but I'm only sixteen slot of my family and friends have never been in my shoes I was just wondering if there was away you can help me one on one my situation is very complicated and wouldn't want to discuss on live comment if not I understand

@SLugo-ml9kh 7 жыл бұрын

is there an email i can ask you a legal question? Florida

@godgirlsguitars 7 жыл бұрын

I'm the primary care taker of my daughter. I am unemployed and fighting for social security dissability. I spend the most time of my daughter while my wife works and then spends her off time on Facebook talking about me to her friends. how can I win sole custody for my daughter? I believe it's in my child's best interest to be with me who has good family values than to be with her mother who cusses and is a gold digger and don't have commitment. only thing she has over me is that she buys the diapers. I buy the formula.

@josephmcclary9667 7 жыл бұрын

How exactly does this help a father ENFORCE a parenting plan? Seems more like what to do to get paternal parenting time. BTW, nice job showing that judges ARE BIASED, unlike what you claim in one of your other videos. Suggesting that dads take parenting classes but not moms? Proves it right there. On a side note, I do enjoy watching your videos. #censurejudgepahl

@kombathayes 5 жыл бұрын

And what happens when I do all this but the woman lies about the fathers. Nothing cuz the legal system is biased towards mothers and always has been. I been fighting to see my son for three years

@Iceman97913 7 жыл бұрын

Complete lies, It is your constitutional right to be treated as an equal parent. Until they find you as an unfit parent it's 50/50

@abrahamrivera6298 5 жыл бұрын

Why does she look like she’s about to cry?!

@margaretpage9716 7 жыл бұрын

No one has a right judge or not to say I can love children this society is fucked up beyond belief hope the judges rot in hell

@bwinms1 6 жыл бұрын

This video shows there is a bias against fathers with the courts. Guys don't ever marry a woman. Avoid the headache and keep your money.

@jimcole6423 6 жыл бұрын

Go MGTOW.

@deondaniels7770 5 жыл бұрын

This video sucks one sided you might as well say ask the mother for permission

@GranddaddySwag1 7 жыл бұрын

A father is a legal fiction.a corporation..look up legal definition of father...A legal father is an obligor that's obligated by a Contract to Pa-rent..A father has no rights unless you reserve your rights under UCC 1308 what the child support system and any other separate n pruvate govt agency is operating under... it including our de facto courtrooms...And Child support Court is a de facto color of law courtroom in the executive branch of govt..That has no judicial power..see the separation of powers in the Constitution to enforce anything but title IV a loans and title IV d the collections of those loans to sorry bitches on welfare..Limited JURISDICTION..Child support is voluntary for the Government needs the Consent of the people to govern them..You are committing Fraud in your video by misleading opinionated presumptions..you people are dillusional..Challenging the Subject Matter Jurisdiction of the IV D collection agency limited JURISDiCTION is the first defense in any de facto court that's not even a real court..A validation of debt affidavit Affidavit notice and demand of undertaking..Affidavit Notice of Special appearance..Affidavit of notification of rights. COMMERCIAL LIENS ON YOUR PROPERTY WILL STOP THE MADNESS..Don't glorify the FRAUD..PROCEDURE AND STATUTES ARE NOT LAW..