I hate that it's so common to hear the fear "If I mess up college/university, I mess up my life". It's such a sad reality many people feel. The stress of life is so huge.

I just want to give this dude a hug. He seems like a really kind person. There's so much pain and self-defeat here

This guy has such a kind and hurt face.

I appreciate you doing interviews with non streamers. They are much more relatable and helpful.

This was one of the most relatable interviews for me. Struggling in college with no support from family, trying to cope in a way that everything you do must be perfect, leave no room for the chance of failure and get so caught up in trying to be perfect that you end up doing nothing due to the fear of failure. Just stay inside where its safe. Kudos to Ezreal for coming on and sharing his thoughts, Im sure it helped some of us!

It breaks my heart to see how many 20-somethings smile and laugh while trying to talk about painful stuff. It's almost like the last generation of parents didn't know how to deal with uncomfortable emotions, so their kids (us) taught themselves to cope by bein' all like "Haha, I'm fine! Don't worry about me lmao! Nothing wrong here lolololol. I'm not traumatised teehee~".

The reason we _overthink_ is to alleviate _fear_ from ourselves, but the more we think - the smarter we are - the more possibilities our minds generate about how things can go wrong, and it's a vicious cycle. This solution of overthinking our minds sometimes comes up with is actually the *very problem* that keeps us paralyzed. You will never overcome your fear of failure; you act in spite of it. When you start acting *in spite of* things, instead of trying to fix them before you act, then you'll stop being stuck. Because you want to fix everything before you do anything. *Confidence is about acting in the face of uncertainty because you believe that you can manage what comes.* I needed this.

"It sounds you're familiar with Fantasy, are you familiar with Hope." DAMN, that line was good

We should have more "non streamers" on stream. Very relatable guy

while not the flashiest or most dramatic interview Dr K has ever done, I feel like this is one of the best. This guy is so relatable and articulated so many common behaviors and thought patterns. Great watch, with some really good stuff

"Start where you ARE AT, NOT where you think you should be." - mindblown

This kid is truly an angel - "I'm not an angry person, I tend to sympathize with others even if they've done me wrong." Speaking from those who watched this: we'll always be in your corner, man. What you're feeling is normal and you are strong & brave for what you have been through. Do not belittle your experiences because someone else may have it worse. You are so important too. We've got your back on your journey and you will never disappoint us. Thanks for putting yourself out there and allowing others to relate. Through understanding together, we are stronger. :)

" If you're gonna do something, go all out. Don't be afraid to fail, I mean how far can you fall look at the ground it's right here. " - Arnold Schwarzenegger

This was one of the most genuine guests. He really was well-spoken and truthful about his thought, at least it felt so to me. Really hope life works out for you my friend.

this dude is literally me wtf

i find it so crazy how unbelievably relatable ezreal is - to me, at least. i'm sitting here crying my eyes out every time he drops a statement and my immediate reaction is "holy shit, yes, exactly that". i don't even know if "respect" is strong enough of a word for what i have for this guy for being so open on freaking stream but i can say with 2000% certainty that i feel him. he deserves all the good that he receives in life!

I'm kind of addicted to Dr. K's interviews. They're very calming in a way. You hear the people he interviews talk about their problems and you relate to them and realise you're not alone, and they should know that they're not alone. And Dr. K just listens to them and has a open and honest discussion with them. I know they're just discussions and not meant to 'fix' people, but he always talks so much sense with so much confidence but without being condescending. He's the best thing that happened to twitch and youtube in a very long time. Thank you for everything you and your team do! Kudos to Ezreal for coming on, it takes courage to talk about your problems so openly to the world.

You can physically see how this man has never told a soul about his problems. The entire time his awkwardly smiling and laughing because his still not sold on being this vulnerable to anybody. It’s like his still holding his hands up just waiting for the hits to come. I can extremely relate to this because that was exactly how I was like.

Hes constantly smiling but with a sad smile. People who do this are very broken.

This might be one of the bravest interviews I've seen. Most of the interviews are people in the public eye, and this man comes on with all his fear and problems and does amazing.

As an anxious extremely undecided college dropout this definitely hits home a little bit. Being suffocated by indecision and fear of failure is not a fun time. and the longer i can't decide the less time it feels i have to make things work. We're with you homie.

This interview feels like a free trial therapy session to many of us.

Oh my god I was hurting right from the start on this one. You can tell he's such a kind, sensitive person, but the world has just chewed him up and spit him out.

Physics broke my soul. it took me 7 years and multiple breakdowns to finish my degree.. it is not something you switch to if you're not doing well in school. I wish you all the best Ezreal, I hope you take some time for yourself and finish whatever you chose to pursue.

1:00:06 "A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow." - George S. Patton

what a beautiful wholesome person. world would be better off with more people like him. also Dr. K dropped some nuggets: "You can control your actions, but you can't control the outcomes" and "I don't need you to be perfect I just need you to be you".

I hate dads that don’t believe in their sons.

This guys soft-spoken personality is so likable

The smile and look in his eyes, trying to hide his pain and hurt is so sad to see. Watching him describe his life at home makes me wish so badly that I could’ve been there for hmm. He has such a kind and warm soul. I really hope he is doing better now, he deserves happiness.

When you spend most of your life hiding your real self, you lose who you are and become just the pursuit of hiding your real self. Kinda like if you wore a mask your entire life and then took it off one day you wouldn't recognise yourself.

Yet another case of parents utterly failing their children. I'm so sick of bad parents. This guy is obviously smart and thoughtful and sharp, but he's wracked with nerves and has no confidence in himself because his parents are awful.

Personal notes: - Act in spite of having fear. You have more control of your actions than the outcome - Overthinking involves generating numerous possibilities and trying to explore them to see which one holds the best outcome, which means you'll take longer than usual to act ^- One solution is to stick with a good enough solution, because trial and error will help in the long run

As a perfectionist, the way my therapist helped me break it down was showing me her failures. DR. K is someone who society would deem as successful but hes also someone who failed to get there. When my therapist told me her story, it made me realize how much I lacked social experience...how just getting to know others can really help you feel less alone

1:39:44 This is quite funny because when I decided joining the gym, I was 3 months making pushups in my home to prepare myself for it.

I know this interview is almost two years old, but he sounds like he's constantly on the verge of tears, and he's just... smiling. He seems so broken. I hope he's better than he was now. Many of us genuinely are victims of circumstance, even if we try our best to seize an opportunity, or make chronic life changes and improvements. There is a poisonous comfort in helplessness.

I admire this young man for being so courageous to share his session online. I want to tell him that he is not alone in having the feelings he feels. As a 62 year old I want to assure him that failing some college courses in his early 20s (or younger) does not mean he screwed up his whole life, even though he feels that way.

"As a human being, you're entitled to your actions. You are not entitled to your results." I am so glad I found this channel today, and need to hang that quote on my door or something. And massive kudos to this for sharing his vulnerability with us.

I'm 13 mins in. The way Ezreal talks and his smile really reminds me of myself - it's really relatable. And the trouble talking on the phone with people. I already know this one will be great.

Gah.. I want nothing more than to just give this man a hug. His story resonates and his pain is real, it’s almost too difficult to watch knowing I can’t provide any comfort. But I’m not even halfway through this so I’ll continue on~

He looked defeated at the beginning but left the interview confident 🙏🏼🥺👏🏼

This left me feeling like a battered housewife. I've got a lot of boundaries to set and distance to make. Bye KZfaq

As a 40+ year old woman, this kid could be my facsimile. I 100% relate and am stuck in the same mental anguish even after all these years.

cptsd is a crippling monster and i’ve struggled with many of the things he’s talked about for pretty much ever. i feel so alone most of the time but this helped me so much. Thank you

His response to "I'm not hearing anger from you" had me in tears. I feel so much compassion for this guy.

28:19 This is one advice that resonated deeply within me. It was taught everywhere, but I had never taken it seriously "Take actions based on where you are, not based on where you should be"

"You do the thing you're afraid of, then the fear goes away, not the other way around"

I love how patient and compassionate this psychiatrist is. Giving this young man space to think, speak and rewire his system 🙏 This channel is so rich in learning materials, thank you doctor, really appreciating you and your work 🤍🙏🍀

He's so brave to come on to the stream!

In a nutshell this is me. I feel anxious talking to people I feel like a dissapointment I over - analyze everything Im afraid of failing Im still learning not to be too hard on myself I used music to escape my problems and reality and to express myself I feel hopeless on my channel bc of people hates my content I just feel lost....

This is so relatable. I had an overprotective mother who literally came to my class and told people to stop bullying me, it went to shit after that, then i changed schools at 6th grade (my mothers desition without consulting me beforehand), lost all my friends and ended up alone in my bedroom with Super Mario Sunshine, The end. I am 25 years old now with anger and resentment, but this sure did help me!

As someone that’s training to be a counsellor, Dr K is absolutely excellent at person centred therapy, it’s very inspiring to watch

I can't help but tear up when Dr. K says such nice things to someone who can't under any circumstance see them for themselves. It takes him the whole session to get them there and it's really heartwarming to see a little bit of the weight being lifted by having someone who has taken the time to understand what they're feeling, without judging, and being kind to them.

1:28:00-1:28:15 I'm bawling my eyes out, the fear of failure is so intense but it's been holding me back for a lot of things I want to accpmplish...maybe it's the right time for a leap of faith, and fuck whatever happens

"Level up your fear resistance." - Dr. K. Words to live for.

Ezreal's problems were super relatable. I took that feeling of perfectionism to the point of inaction and dropped out of college my freshman year. I struggled along for a year afterwards and wondered what the point was. It's tough and the only thing you can do is tell yourself that you WILL do better and you will find a way that makes you motivated. I went from a prospective Math major dropout to an Accounting Master's student. I realized that I'd never have the motivation to put in hours every week to achieve what I want, so I changed my major and did something that I knew I could achieve. Being an adult is about using your skill set and motivations to achieve what works for you. Sometimes you realize that you don't want to do what you think you SHOULD do. Find what you CAN do, and become good at that. I grew up playing Runescape and WoW, I found that I like long, repetitive grinds. Most of my day-to-day work is that same long, repetitive grind.

This channel is the best thing that happened to KZfaq so far IMO

Haven't watched yet, but fear of failure, over analyzing, escaping into fantasy... All three are literally me.

Less than 10 minutes in and I already relate so fucking much. Inability to talk on the phone, fear of failure, hiding things from family, not applying for jobs due to feeling like I won't get it anyway, disappointed dad, ignoring problems... I literally relate with every problem Fuck

My highlights: 57:27 "You have a fear of failure, and the reason you think is to get rid of the fear of failure, because if you can find that perfect solution where there is no chance of failure, then do you need to have fear?" 1:10:10 "Notice this* pattern in yourself and then as best as you can try to set it aside in the tiniest ways." (*) this being the 57:27 pattern of trying to think up the perfect solution to avoid fear. 1:10:30 "Run a little experiment. All of your current hypotheses are based on the data of the past. And what I would really love it if you could do is collect your own [data] that does not involve your stepfather. [...] Run a fucking experiment without [your stepfather]. 'Cause I can almost guarantee you: it's gonna give you different data. Your sense of confidence in yourself is based on like him interfering with your fucking experiment." 1:11:21 "Did your stepfather think you were a good cook? / I didn't cook much / Fascinating! It's almost as if you like learned good things and life skills when he wasn't around."

I can't help but feel hes holding so much back

this one resonated with me so much. Being part of an asian household, I had high expectations of me to do well university. When I fell short and under performed in college and felt the need to switch majors, I felt like I wasted so much time, money, and expectations that my parents bestowed on me. Now I am in a position where I feel rushed to make only the right decisions, and any wrong or non-perfect life decisions will only waste more time and money out of my family's pockets. Thank you fort this interview, it helped me out quite a bit.

I can so relate. Emotionally unstable household, divorced parents, overwhelming fear of failure. Ended up as a university drop out cause depression started hitting hard at the end. I was actually trying to finish my major for 5 years but felt like trying to break a wall with my head. 15 years in therapy, mostly going well and I've been turning my life around a lot. Tho recently I feel stuck again. Not happy with my job. Realized there is no way I can fix my family and I am getting to the decision to try sever ties with them cause they are toxic. The hard part is that I am working with my mother and she is big part of me not being happy with my job... tho for sure not the only one. I have a path to change a job. I took a java course last year, realized I remember much more from uni than I suspected but the closer to the end the I started feeling more doubt. To make it worse, at the end of the course I fell sick and didn't finish my project that was supposed to be the base to build my portfolio on. Since that moment I cannot make myself to code. I am not sure if it's the path I want. I would so much more prefer to go into psychology or philosophy as those things really fascinate me. But I kinda still need money to pay the bills. So I'm stuck... and really angry at my family not really for fucking up my life in my childhood but doing those things over and over again. Blaming me for my failures and not taking any shred of responsibility and still expecting me to be their emotional sponge I used to be for 38 years of my life. EDIT: i just got to the part when he talks about seeing things from other people's perspective because if he helps them they will stop hurting him... I want to hug him... but to be fair I really want to hug myself... and I'm just staring to have tears in my eyes cause I was trying to fix people around me for my whole life just so they stopped hurting me... that part of me is slowly dying because I've realized there is no way for me to fix people around me... if they get fixed they need to do it on their own... and most people around me do not want to get fixed... they think they are doing everything right and everyone else is to blame... the fun of being raised by narcissists :(

1:14:01 “I don’t need you to be perfect, I just need you to be YOU.” 🥺 That hit me like a ton of bricks.

Wow. Just wow. I wish I could like this video 1 billion times over. I feel like so many people on the internet are going to really relate to Ezreals story. (sorry if that's spelt wrong) I know I did. I dealt with a bit of emotional abuse myself having a bipolar mother, constantly being worried about what's going to trigger her because once she flipped the switch and was angry, there was really no getting her out of that angry state. A major issue between us was, well still is, communication. She loves to expect things, such as chores, but also things like apologies or for me to know as a 30 year old now, that she needs me without her asking or telling me so. She reacts off of emotion while I tend to react off of logic (unless we're in the heat of the moment then we're both being completely irrational and no one is listening). I'm trying to set up boundaries with her, I have a hard time with boundaries and figuring out how they work when it comes to my immediate family. I can very easily cut people out of my life, but I know I shouldn't and can't do that to my Mom, but I need more space then she's willing to give and it has left me in a state of not responding to her messages. It make's me feel shitty somedays but I know that it's the inner voice that I'm constantly beating myself up with. I've been working on forgiveness, not being so angry, and overall not being such a dick to myself. If you read all of this, thanks, I think I needed a good vent after watching this video.

I have a lot of compassion and appreciation for this poor guy. He’s a victim of his circumstances and naturally feels overwhelmed and not in control of his life. I certainly can relate to him. I hope he is helped and can break out of this horrible cycle of negativity. Best wishes to him.

its kinda scary how close to home this talk hits. i have a lot of internal selfdoubt and an immense fear of failure that even got bigger and bigger with every semester of uni (lol... im pursuing a physics degree as well... what are the odds... xD) and corona didnt really help eighter. in fact it made things way worse, cause i had no external force that pressured me into the "i have to do this, despite my fear" type of thinking, while simultaniously pushing my fear away in the "just do it" kinda way. i guess thats where my "problem" is. I can brute force the "just do it" mentality with ignoring my fear, when the option to solve a task the "perfect" way got impossible (due to procastination or whatever...) and then the only viable option left is to do at least something. (cause anything is better, than failing without even trying) i always kept wondering why i could only overcome the vicious cycle of "wanting to find the perfect solution" when confronted with the absolutely devastating and terrifying reality that doing nothing would for sure end up in a failure and why i could never recreate a similar "experience" when working on my own with no external pressure. the answer to that is probably that i only acted, cause possibility of failing got literraly super real in those moments (kinda the only option unless i do something) and thus my fear of failure got bigger than the fear of an imperfect solution. which maybe sounds really fucked up, but it makes sense for me... kinda... so i guess i really have to work on adapting the new mindset of "having to do it inspite of (any) fear" and accepting the ugly unpleasant feeling of fear as a part of me, and not to interchage one fear for another to see which one gets me the closest to my destination without helping me to improve or change or adapt a healthy mindset. sorry for the rambling, i just wanted to jot down some thoughts so that i might remember them when i revisit this interview. because i will... :D ps: i kinda thought that the fear of failure and the fear of not finding the perfect solution were one and the same thing/fear, but i guess, at least for me, they are not... (well, they feel the exact same way physically (like fear always does...duh...^^), but have a slight difference in internal dialouge, if that makes any sense...) just another weird realisation i had during this beautiful interview...

I’m 29. I cried this entire video. We have almost exact life stories to the point it’s haunting. (Just opposite genders). This episode was so therapeutic for me because I have come out on the other side much more healed from the situation, I was in before, and I just cried for him, and I’m just so hopeful that if he is anything like me, he will heal as well. He seems like such a nice guy and I really wish the best for him. I’m just crying for him because he just deserves the world and I hope he knows that.

Man I wish Dr. K knew how deep the Dark Souls reference was for me.😶 I played DS1 DS2 DS3 as they released, as Deprived. I've made 9 different characters in Dark Souls 3. Each as deprived. I would usually ignore weapons I've played with before and try new things each time. This just made me realize how adaptive I can be. Aswell it taught me how to play my best. The game made me a better gamer and in the background taught me to approach every problem from different angles. It also showed me I'm not afraid of obstacles in the game because I know I will find a problem. Yet in life I can replicate this, but the only thing that stops me is my ego/fear of others thoughts and I let it. But I can also stop it, if I learn to.. I'd never had expected it would have affects on my actual life. Well damn, I'm just going to start seeing hateful people as enemies in dark souls and that they are just obstacles to get pass quickly. Not violently.. and not with a wooden club... 🤣 Sorry for the essay.. Thank you for leading me to this revelation, Dr. K. Stay awesome!

Comparing 'overthinking' to poking ever more holes in your tyre, trying to fill it up...👀💡💯 Also: 'When you act despite your fear of failure, rather then trying to fix your fear of failure before acting.... that's when you start making progress'. I should put that on my coffee mug, so I'm reminded of it every morning!

i LOVE when he keeps saying "my dude". Just warms my frickin heart. This talk really helped me and I think I'm going to take steps to see a therapist. I hope they are 1/4 as good as Dr. K

When he said "I don't think it's as much as some people go through" that hit really hard because it's something I also tell myself too and I realize that might be true but it doesn't invalidate what I've been through

This is the exact journey I am on. I know what I've found is that the overthinking goes hand in hand with me being an expert distractor (video games, movies, KZfaq, etc.) I've been trying to face these fears and not just distracted hard enough that they are buried. Thank you for sharing man. Not being alone and seeing other people working on this is powerful.

Massive props to this young man for opening himself up, on a live stream no less. You’re bravery and grace is inspirational

Some notes : When you don't let anger go anywhere, it accumulates and starts to go towards yourself. • "If I can figure out the perfect solution , it'll be alright ".how can I find the perfect solution. this is due to fear of failure • You don't control the outcome so don't focus on it Solutions ▪︎Recognise the fear. Try to act while embracing the fact that sometimes you won't be able to do what you need to it . But ask yourself can I do it anyway . Look at the times when you did that and succeeded and realise that maybe I didn't need to worry that's how you develop confidence

"Energy needs to go somewhere": one of the most stable periods in my life was when i took a martial arts class once a week. i felt like most if not all of my weekly emotions were channeled out that day, so i always felt kinda fresh emotionally. i was very lucky to have an understanding martial arts partner at that time, who willing to accept serious blows and kicks for me (and vice versa), i appreciate her very much.

In 27min+ or so, when Dr.K. says "Incorrect", I almost cried, (ok yes I'm not sober), but for me that was like the statement I had been waiting for this whole vid, think what ever you may from that :) "Its not physical its only verbal" "How you feel about that"

To everyone commenting on how relatable this is: I feel you.

i'd be this guys friend he's lovely

Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with us, Azrael, there is so much in what you say that resonates. And I'm a 55 year old German woman. Family dynamics and their impact on our own self image, self worth, and our capacity to allow good stuff (and also grief for what will never be) into our life can't be overrated. I'm happy you got to have this conversation with wizard Dr K. Thank you both❤

This speaks to me on a spiritual level. I overanalyse everything, I always find complicated things easy and simple things hard.

This guy worked through in a session what it took me darn near a decade to piece together between self-reflection and random youtube videos. I hope he took it to heart.

Had to give this a rewatch after watching it live, this one was so nice

Damn, I've always been told I smile and laugh when I talk about pain, so strange to see it reflected in someone else. Wish I could be this guys friend.

More normies please, this non streamer related to me so heavily... I literally felt the same way throughout most of this interview. Please dr k focus on us

Not even 3 minutes into the conversation and I’m sobbing. I relate to everything he says and going through.

Ohh my god! I'm only a few seconds into the vid, and I just wanna say you immediately seem like a really sweet person, and I just wanna give you a big hug!!!

"Building solutions based on the perfect solution is a bad strategy" Oddly, I feel burned by that statement. GG, Doc. GG.

Props to both Dr. K and Ezreal. A remarkable interview on both ends. I think this interview will help and a ton of people, myself included.

Omg he is so me Phones are scary I am waiting for my success train I like my clean and pure fantasies The most relatable talk on the channel for me

I really hope he has read this comment thread. There are so many supportive people here. It is a beautiful thing to see. He is incredibly brave to put himself out there like this and I hope he is able to apply some of the things he learned here today.

Thank you so much for this interview. Helps a ton for me seeing people like me in the same situation so shout out to both parties for all the help.

Needed this. TY for all that you do DR.K and thankyou ezreal for being brave enough to do this.

Man, Dr K continues to bring tears to my eyes. The way he acts I see a lot of parallels to my current therapist and he definitely learned his task well

Out of all the streams, this has to be one of the most relatable ones. Loved it.

this breaks my heart, i feel this so much! what a gift to share this to the public, thanks for your bravery !

This was super helpful. Run into the same thing and it was so cool hearing Dr. K explain maybe why I feel the way I feel.

I've had so many of the same type of things happen in my life. I'm 35 and it's only in the last 5 years or so I've started to make some progress my own well being. I hope for the best for everyone else out there whose had to deal with those types of issues.

I can relate to most if not all these things. Good job getting out there.

Thank you Dr.K I actually had a lot of fear to failure and still have, but this really helps a lot to keep coping with it

Thank you so much, i needed to hear this. I've been struggling with this issue for nearly all my life, fear is keeping me from doing the things i want to do and improve myself on.