Obviously, staying away from social media immensely helps with FOMO.

One of the worst and most bizarre fears of mine... every time i find a really good song, that is very unconventional, i get so depressed, because i start thinking about how much more of these songs are out there, that i still did not heard of, and probably never will.

I am so happy that you mentioned Liepaja. I live in Latvia and it caught me by surprise. Definitely one of the randomest mentions of one of our towns. 10/10. Thank you.

I am a nobody living in nowhere. I want to thank you for uplifting my soul..

thank you from bottom of my heat for creating this channel...

I like this channel a lot because it addresses all my anxieties in a soothing and optimistic manner. Makes me (and a lot of others) feel like we aren't alone. Thank you

School of Life: Dividing people into "romantic" and "classical" is a bit misleading because not all individuals maintain the same approach to life for all of their lives. Most of us begin life with a romantic approach to fear of missing out and grow into a classical approach. When we are young, we chase the perfect job, the perfect partner, the perfect lifestyle, but as we grow older, discover that those things don't make us as happy as we thought they would. The ordinary only seems ordinary because we do it every day, so anything, no matter how glamorous, can become ordinary through repetition. And so we cultivate a classical approach and learn to appreciate our own lives and talents as they are.

This channel is truly one of the best I've found so far. It covers a wide range of topics, all with carefully reasearched and detailed elaboration and delivery. I just want to thank you for making this and spreading such important knowledge to a wide range of people. These videos really stimulate thinking, as oposed to so many other that just plainly present information.

One thing I cannot overstate the power of is gratitude. It's changed my life for the better completely.

You guys are unbelievably good. You make this world a better place.

What I truly love about these videos is that, while they may take a stance or side on certain issues, they always bring up the conversation in a meaningful way. Having these conversations is immensely important to delving deeper into "us" as humans.

Ok the first minutes of this video really freaked me out because its exactly how ive been feeling the last couple of years since the end o of high school up to now in university, i feel like im missing out on really amazing things because im not in that place, makes me feel very upset that i didnt get to be born in a place where the stuff i like is one of the biggest focus (entertainment related business) intead of where i live at the moment, in which very very little people care about what i like and there arent many job positions. Everytime i think of this it does make me want to ,as it was said in the video, burst into tears. Guess its something i just have to live with since my mind chose to like what it likes and i cant convince it otherwise nor do i feel happy nor content about any other area. The thing that mostly keeps me going is believing that one day instead of going after those things they will eventually find their way to me and that that little anxious part in me will feel better (doesnt mean im gonna be lazy but actually gonna try and keep working smarter) After all there are a lot more opportunities now a days than before, so got to keep myself optimistic and keep thinking about this subject, Good job on the videos, always enjoy them*

This is one of my favorite channels. =) About FOMO, among readers the fear of don't read all the books we would like is a great one. Specially knowing that some books might change our life forever.

This channel is absolutely the thing I need right now. Thank you!

That moment when you are from Latvia and have been in Liepaja :D

I really needed to see this right now. Thank you.

You really make me happy and content The School of Life. Glad I found this channel.

Omg! I finally dealt with the nagging feeling that I'm afraid to be boring and that I'm not good enough because of that, and that also if I always try to find excitement in other places I'll miss out on the many small but genuine moments of my life happening now. I don't feel like shit anymore. Thank you School of Life!

i like how articulate this guy is and the beautiful collaged aesthetics that he mentioned my homecity (auckland) and how i just learnt the difference between classical and romantic FOMO within 4 mins i didnt realise that i struggled with romantic fomo all my life until basically this year wow thanks from a new sub

This really reasonated with me. Sometimes its good to stop take a breath and realize things take time, effort, and dedication. P.s. I'm glad I just subscribed, such a high quality & unique channel. :)

Social media and online dating contributes significantly to FOMO. Aziz Anzari's "Modern Love" details how this impacts our relationships

Thank you so much! this videos have helped me so much, I have seen most of them, and the amount of knowledge concentrated in this short videos is very fulfilling and very enjoyable, I live in London and I'm trying to save some money to get to see Alain one day, is hard as a student, but the philosophy behind this project is magnificent in my humble words, and absolutely worth an effort, thanks again! please don't stop.

Your voice is so calming. I love these videos.

This is one of the best channels on youtube and I'm glad it is in my life

I am so stressed right now and this is really comforting.

Thank you. I learned something about myself today.

One of the best channels on KZfaq, and this is one of their best videos.

By this definition I'm a classical. And this surprises me because I have strong romantic tendencies as well. I think I have been changing from romantic to classical ever since I reached a certain chapter of my life.

I just can't thank you guys enough for teaching me (first through Philosopher's Mail, then Book of Life, now these videos) about the distinction between Classical and Romantic world views. I would not have known about it otherwise and it's very interesting to me. Classical makes life much easier, I don't have to feel inadequate for living in an unglamorous location because my family is there and I like it. We can't all live in San Francisco... Great video, excellent topic. High fives all around :)

An amazingly eloquent video. As per usual, an excellent job.

Thank You, your video made me feel better.

This is a take on the paradox of choice: maximizers vs statisficers. Really well done. Something I often forget, great wisdom can be found anywhere.

I needed this so badly just now and stumbled upon this video. Thanks SofL

Thank you, I needed this.

The subtle change in tone sounds great.

We Class of 2020 have suffered greatly. FOMO is ripping us up at the moment.

DO YOU UNDERSTAND HOW HAPPY IT MAKES ME TO HEAR ALAIN SAY "FOMO"

If one is scared of the fear of missing out, Is one considered Fomophobic?

Oh my, that was sooooooooooooo deep , unexpected and brutally honest !

This video is just truly precise for me

The School Of Life Knows How To READ and Throw SHADE in the most intellectual and compassionate way 😂

Thanks for putting out such well done videos consistently. I give all them a like! Could you do Rudolf Steiner?

liked it and it describes one of the anxieties of our times but romantic means something else to me and it is also compatible with what you described as classical

How I love this channel..

Interesting perspective. I am someone who was mostly governed by the romantic view of this... wanting to go party, not miss out on cool events. But now I am transitioning to the classical, or, at least, that side is more coming to light than it was before. Thank goodness. I am hoping the next stage will involve disregarding both and simply know myself well enough to act on positive impulses I have to lead an amazing life.. on my terms. Best of luck to everyone.

Thank you.

Great topic and awesome delivery! I like to suggest creating a playlist called "Romantic or Classical?" and create content around this subject. This topic is very much in line with School of Life mission and curriculum. With gratitude!

I love this channel.

Thanks!

"I used to be an adventure like you, until I grew the fuck up. " -Some guy.

let's be honest, it's highly unlikely to be Auckland

You know, I was enjoying so much the videos on this channel I just found, that I started to feel bad. Like I was wasting my time working at my father's company. That I should be out there, expanding and imagining new ideas, like the people that do this videos! I was being a bit romantic maybe, like this video says. Lol. Thanks for reminding me of what truly is important in this life. :) No rushes. I'll enjoy my moment, and good things will come in the future, when they need to come.

This was terribly insightful! (especially in understanding some of my own thoughts) I wonder if the School of Life would have any suggestions or coping mechanisms that modern society should adhere to, in order to reduce FOMO? I'm guessing the medication would be different for the Romantic and Classical thinker, or strangely even for people that relate to both FOMO theories perhaps hypocritically.

this is the narration to my life thus far

just.. absolutely brilliant, again, even three years ago, damn

I found those romantic thoughts within myself in the past and I was therefore utterly surprised when I discovered how "worth living" ordinary lives often are. Moreover, I realised that what often made those lives so liveable was being part of an accepting community and it reminded me of the various times in my own life where I was working and hanging out as a totally ordinary person in an ordinary environment with totally ordinary people...and it often was the best times. I had often asked myself previously how anyone could possibly work at a "dull" job where they sell, let's say, washing machines. Why would anyone be passionate about selling washing machines? But, of course, it isn't about that. The idea that a job can only be done if one is passionate about the content of the work is a misconception...sometimes quite an elitist one. Instead, many people go to work knowing that they will get to work alongside decent people, doing a job they know how to do and that provides them with what they need in order to follow their real passion in their private life. And even there, this passion might as well be to sit in an unremarkable garden with a couple of good friends, having a BBQ and watching sports, telling jokes. The conversations, fun and feeling of community will be as good as any in that place. A lot of happiness lies in human connection and thus you can find it wherever humans are that you get along with. The rest is just context or scenery. Of course, some people truly have a unique talent/interest and one would hope that they put it to use, which will naturally lead them to the unique kind of people and lifestyle that comes with it. But, in contrast, we should be careful that our dreams of "doing something special" are not just a covert wish for finally fitting in, finally having friends or finally doing something that increases our self-esteem. If we only want to be special or want to be somewhere special because we hope it will cure whatever sadness and emotional deficit we feel right now, we are bound to be disappointed. Because, in many cases, we would carry our issues with us to that new place or we might never get there, because we didn't resolve them in the situation that we are in now. It is really worth thinking about the question: What would be the absolute essentials that I need in my life to make it worth living into old age? Yes, of course, there will be an ideal dream of how it might all play out, but what would be the absolute basics? My guess is that it will likely have something to do with... a) ...having some regular opportunity to meet/hang out with welcoming, friendly, accepting people (who can be, but need not share our specific passions. Some common ground might suffice) b) ...having some regular opportunity and the ressources to engage in what we are most passionate about, even if we cannot make it our job and will "only" pursue it as a hobby c) ...find some agreeable way to finance the basic needs you have defined. If you realize that you need relatively little to live a life that is still worth living, you will feel less anxious about missing out. You might still strive for bigger, more spectacular things, but you will do it out of passion, not just out of fear.

Great video!

thank you

This movie was totally delightful. Thanks!

This is a well-made video: short and sweet.

I think life is good in all forms, and should be enjoyed for the moment and what it brings.

I like to think of an almost existentialist point of view when I experience FOMO, and remind myself that I would regret any other decision just as much as the one I'm living! It may sound horribly pessimistic, but it is in fact wonderfully liberating to assure myself each day that I didn't necessarily make a 'bad choice' or 'miss an opportunity', but rather that I just took one bad pathway amonst many. I'd have regretted moving to SanFrancisco, and I'd have regretted not moving there too, so neither decision is 'missing out', but merely 'missing'.

Romantic and Classical. Even a mention of "quality." Shout out to Robert Pirsig.

I'd love to help put one of these together on JOMO - The Joy of Missing Out

everything mentioned for classical resonated with me

I love your videos!

This vid elevates my view of being (personally) a hopeless romantic to a whole new level

this thing is big.. keep on going.

"One can indeed miss out on such extremly important things if one is always rushing out a little too intently to find excitement elsewhere"

visiting the Maldives sounds good !

You're being really very harsh on Romantics, I think. To be clear, in so far as everyone is a bit of both, I am undoubtedly more classical than romantic. But to say that Romantics don't understand the importance of walking in the Lake District with the people closest to them is, I think, to misunderstand these people. Or to say that they think that the vast majority of people are mediocre and grey; unambitious and not worth bothering with. I completely reject these assumptions about romantics! Is there not a certain romance to the ideal that every 'normal' person has a rich soul and inner world of experience, as rich and subtle as your own, and that even the smallest child can, every once in a while, be the wisest person you could ever hope to talk to?

Hi Alain and +The School of Life ! What books can I read to learn more about the definition of a classical mind? I love this channel. It puts a lot of things in perspective and reminds me of what's truly important. I appreciate the effort you put into these videos. Thank you. :)

'Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance' is a great read on the difference between the romantic and classical attitudes towards life. Obvious recommendation. According to the author, the difference between the two is what causes most conflicts in the first place.

I can't help it! I always feel something happening somewhere and i don't know about it.

Sometimes I wonder what the narrator is like in the real life. He seems like a pretty chill and cool guy. I'd love to hang with him.

As an extremely classical personality, I think reading is the most efficient way to experience as much as you can. Travel to New York, and you'll see some of it through the lens of your everyday perspective. _Read Catcher in the Rye_ and you'll really get a feel for the essence of the city as well as the author, characters, themes, etc. All of the interesting people don't live in cities. They live in books.

It was never in the fact that I cared about how others were living. It was in the fact that I needed others approval in order to validate my existence and to feel a sense of love I lacked all throughout my life.

Thankyou

Be in the moment wherever you find yourself.

I had the wrong idea of what fomo was...I thought it was my anxiety when I miss an event that could (possibly) be the one where something crucial happens.

Alain, could you, please, mention some of the most ground-breaking books ever written? The books that actually destroyed everything you had inside your head at the time, and changed your life. Thanks a lot, love your work and The School of Life's Cheers

This is a clear illustration about the difference between classic minded people and romantic ones and I love it and thank you so much for the effort. But I would like to know If I have a romantic mind is this a bad sign of mental health and how can I have some of the ways of thinking of the classic ones.

I like the video, I wish it was as balanced as the other romantic v. classical one though. I do appreciate ambitious people. To be into ordinary things in life is essential, but is still just one aspect of life. I think some people can make "ordinary" things in life extraordinary, like creating meaningful relationships. Yet I also like creatives, and not just ones who are writing a book privately in their house, but those who get their work out there to inspire others too. That too is a journey. There can also be the opposite extreme of people who like to live "ordinary" lives but look down at people with big dreams.

you all should do a video about the emotion of missing- missing someone or something !

FOMO is the reason I'm always there right at the end of an after party at 3 in the afternoon still going from the night before even though I'm shattered and should have called it a night ages ago.

Thanks a lot for all your Videos! I have watched many of them and I watch a couple them practically every day to help me go through life. I have the feeling you could do one about the fear of the unknown. I realized the fear of failure is part of several videos but I don't find much about the fear of the unknown. Or have I overseen it? :) xoxo

The thing I wonder most about mum is not why she doesn't want to go to NY or such, her hobbies sound fulfilling, but why she spends so few time with Philosophy. Though sometimes the philosopher in her comes through, like when she wondered how odd humans must look to other species.

I find myself favouring a penchant towards the classical view.

I wonder what Schopenhauer would say about this? Something tells me he would remind us that there are plenty of wretched things we are missing out on as well, and the absence of misfortune should always trump the presence of pleasure. FOMO sounds like the child of boredom...

Your videos are everyday improving in quality and content. Maybe you should think about making an intro and outro. Your work is marvellous. Thank you.

Finally some videos that speak my language.

Seeing this video the first time actually made me worry how many School of Life videos I might be missing. But then I started focusing on knocking things out one at a time, and I'm close to the end. And if there's something better still left, then wow.

Oh great, this video just activated "existential crisis" mode. Despite that, it was very enlightening video.

My officemates and I were just talking about this! Haha. I'm so sorry to myself that I just learned this term today. :)) But really its a good topic to discuss with so I appreciate this video a lot.

Please do s video about "YOLO" its a funny kind of thinking that is to some extent dangerous and also sensible.But it floods society today, especially the youth!

Yayy! New Zealand!

Are we currently experiencing a cultural movement/period? Is the a today's equivalent of Romanticism the Enlightenment? Or are these periods only determined decades/centuries later?

How to deal with yourself, if you are Romantic? :) And a bit classical, too. Love your videos, guys :)

You guys couldn't be more right in my opinion. I experience the world with such similar thoughts about where to find happiness as the ones portrayed here. I think of myself as being between Romantic and Classically minded, therefore I say that there indeed are little utopia's where everything is happening but there are also little moments that can be created by the little things of life (or what was first seen as the little things of life). And as a second point to make: Didn't the part about the cities on the worldmap bring up references (or memories of reading the book) to The Great Gatsby when the narrator said New York? Please tell me some of you guys thought of that, that would be a funny coincidence.

Hey I have been feeling really jealous I would say about two of my close friends who constantly r able to go out and have become really close. I'm not allowed to go here and there so freely like they can so I start to get depressed and anxiety that I'm being pushed out of the group. Is this FOMO? Or am I overreacting?