I feel very nervous being this vulnerable about how i am feeling. I know it is part of the process & that feeling behind is a universal feeling, regardless of where you are in life. Social media tends to show only the highs & wins but i want to be open about not just the good days but also the not so good ones too:)

28, no job, no girlfriend, no university degree and a very hard to cure illness. Stay strong

At 27, you are not “starting over”. You are just “starting”. That’s pretty young in the scheme of things. Nothing wrong with changing and growing during this period in your life. That’s what your 20’s are for.

I'm turning 30 and I don't have savings, a job or bf. I'm figuring out life as well. Luckily my family and friends are very supportive of whatever decision I make. :) We got this! *virtual hugs* 🫂

there should be a support group for us girlies between the ages of 24 to 35, for all of us where its tough to find jobs, have references and give emotional support in our darkest days. Its tough doing these things all alone and nothing have the support needed to weather this storm.

youtube algorithm knowing me on a personal level is lowkey scary im also about to turn 27 and i feel the exact same way, it feels good to know im not the alone but at the same time it is scary being so uncertain about your future when everyorne around you seems to have figured their life out

love what you said: "there's no such thing as being behind in your own life"

Life doesn’t “start” when you get a bf/gf or job. Life encompasses everything that we do. From eating, sleeping and reading, to traveling, spending time with people that we enjoy, or simply being in each moment. Living is an art, a gift, an experience. Our life starts before we can even form memories and lasts until after we’ve lost many of them. Jobs and romantic relationships are just a part of the adventure. Stories don’t start once the dragon is defeated or when the prince and princess live happily ever after. And neither does life. Wishing everyone reading this all the best on your personal adventure!

At 25 had 6 figured salary, a life partner and and a beautiful kid. Today I am 42 I don't have a salary and a family. Life is uncertain we have to live everyday as it comes. Grass on other side is always green.

Staring over by just-turn 38. No job, no bf. A big space to fulfill with❤tears laugh and dancing

I am 27, and I feel SOOO behind. I have never had a relationship, I was just fired from my job, and I have no idea what I'm gonna do because I don't wanna do anything related to my degree anymore. But, unlike most people, I don't feel sad because I'm comparing myself to others, I feel like that because I feel like I am VEEERY FAR from achieving anything. Far from getting into a relationship, from figuring out what I want in life, from having a stable career, from settling down... And I'll just keep feeling miserable and lonely this whole time, cause I don't know what to do... yeah

This is a great video. I started my life over at 27 too. I just got out of a serious relationship at the time. At 18, I went to college but I dropped out a year later because I didn't have the accommodations I needed, due to my disability. But I wrote 3 self empowerment books at 30 and at 33, I returned to college to finish what I started. Now, I'm getting my PhD. RJ

I am 28 with no job, always wanted to do something else and this has brought me behind others. But its okay, we're all figuring out life :)

I just became 27 and I am just now feeling like my life is starting the way I want it to be and its very exciting. I never thought I would have even made it to 27 and I am truly blessed and happy about it. I no longer let "societal clock" get to me anymore. Life is meant to be enjoyed and I spent too much time not doing it. But I am sending you love and good luck for your dreams on starting a tech startup, that is an amazing goal 🌼🌼

Watching this at 3am turning 27 , recovering from past relationship .. I'll pray for everyone's journey, I hope one day we all figured it out.

Hey girl you don't know how much you've inspired me.. I will turn 27 on August 20th..never dated all my friends are settleling down. Here I am still wonder what am I supposed to do.. I'm glad knowing that I'm not alone and there are people around the world who are living life just like me.. ❤

Hi Joy, just wanted to say that I am in a similar boat.. I recently turned 28 and I am currently working as a software developer full-time. I often find myself wanting to quit so I can have time to start my own business and travel, but I struggle with the expectations of society and fear of failure. I also find myself becoming increasingly lonely and I feel like everyone else around my age is already getting married, etc. Your videos make me think more seriously about jumping ship. PS - You are very beautiful!

i’m starting over too :) at 37… you got this!!

love the way you think and I totally understand you during these times I go back and forth all the time! in the end you gotta focus on you and they will come.

I graduated from my masters degree at the end of last year. Living with my parents. Last month, I finally got a job that I quitted after two weeks. Today I just sent in my immediate resignation letter after one day of working at new place. Starting over at 27 is definitely a challenge. You know what you want, and you feel the rush to get it asap, but its easier said than done. We will get through this girl!

This hits close to the heart. Good luck! and cheers to new beginnings a new canvass and anything is possible!

This video is so touching! It is truly amazing to open up about your struggles and post them on KZfaq lol. You have a very clear idea of what is going on and what to do. Wish you the best ❤.

thank you so much for posting this! I have been feeling very lost and directionless in life. Everyone seems so far ahead of me. Thank you for making me feel not alone in this journey! As long as we keep trying, good things will surely come!

You got this! Love lots of things of things you said.. I feel encouraged!

I found these days, there are so many KZfaqrs losing their regular job, especially in tech. I was laid off recently and am looking for job proactively. You're young so don't need to worry about the samll bummer. Take the time to step back and think about what you really enjoy. You will find the unique way for your own life.

I love your courage to take a risk and pursue your dream ❤ As well as how you encourage people not to regard life as a tracklist. You go girl. Wish you all the best 😊

Thanks for your video Joy. I'm in similar situation as you career wise, but 13 years older than you. The uncertainty and nervousness is understandable. I feel that too at times, but as you said, take it one day at a time. Good luck and stay positive.😊

I can very much relate to you. Im 21 turning 22 in a week, post grad international student. Everything has been overwhelming after finally stepping out, im always anxious about career and love. I know I’m still very young but the pressure gets to me very easily. Love the video and goodluck with everything ahead Joy ❤, rooting for your success

totally relatable and love that you've posted this for everyone to relate and feel a little better about 'feeling behind' when there's no reason to!

Couldn’t more agree Joy! Turned 28 and realised that everything I expected myself to be, I am totally at the opposite end of it. Similar to your journey, leaving a full time career after years and. Being single in my late twenties is scary and beautiful at the same time. Amazing video ❤️

first of all SENDING A BIG HUG!!! thanks for being vulnerable :) and what's with life at this point?? I'm 22, but I have a few acquaintances getting married, others having babies, others have babies already turning 3 years old, others getting a job at a big company, others just ??? and thanks for the "there's no such thing as being behind in your own life" I wish I had heard that last year when I was struggling with postgrad crisis, but even now, it feels like a warm hug to my heart knowing that it is true!

I am also 27 years old and relate to almost everything you said in the video. Undoubtedly, I needed to hear this message. ❤ I am not going to say that we don't know these things, but a kind reminder is never too late. 😊

You GO GIRL! I am rooting for you.

I'm glad I came across this video. It's a reminder that chasing your dreams is paramount, especially in youth when risks are minimal and our capacity for adventure is at its peak. At 24, I'm fortunate to have found my path. What I've realized from pursuing my dream is that everyday life becomes a joyous pursuit, not a chore, when you're clear about your aspirations.

Man I’m turning 27 this year and this is exactly how I feel. Thanks for posting this. I don’t want others to feel this way, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone in this journey.

Loved this and your vibes! Thank you for making this beautiful video, really needed to hear this today. ❤❤❤❤

this video is so relatable. sometimes I feel that I am behind, and it seems that everyone around me is settling down/engaged/married (rationally not true, but on social media it seems this way, and with certain groups of friends, the majority are engaged or married). am on this journey to be okay with "not conforming", to be kind and supportive to myself.

Thankyou so much for posting this . I was beating myself over for feeling so behind in my life and listening to you made me feel understood and relaxed

It's definitely can be though to start over at any age, depends on what point of life you're in. Always go in your own time line and not what or how you see yourself in others timelines. Create your own time line, take your time with it, especially with relationships. I haven't been in a relationship in years and I just got into one and it feels weird being back in a relationship after a long time. But it's a fresh new chapter in your life and any relationship has their own challenges. Be yourself, take your time, create your own time line and look back at what you already have and built that up to your current point in your time line. You got this!

In exact same boat, 27, left my full time job 8 months ago and starting over with my startup. Just "Naive Optimisim" Keeping me going. Happy to see you talk about it. I am loving it so far.

turning 29 net month when I saw your vid and all these awesome people's comments. makes me put my life into perspective.

I'm in the same boat lol. Recently turned 27 and making a career pivot into a completely different field, but I finally found what I'm passionate about. I can definitely relate about 20s being so hard, but also I believe if you truly are doing what you love, things will figure itself out :) Best of luck!!

i don't know why your video was recommended to me, but the algorithm did its magic and I was compelled to click - so glad i did!! I think the reason why your video showed up is because I also feel a little bit lost and uncertain about the future and it's so nice to someone in a similar age to be going through similar experiences - you also seem like someone I would wanna be friends with in real life!!

ughh thanxxxxx so muchh I turned 27...same situation....Gov exam prep. didn't worked out so still a fresher struggling for a single job and yeahhhh nothing as in dating sort tooo... Universe made me see this ...Thankyouu..

Well said , i'm also facing the same situation. Thank you for the sharing and hope our life will figure out sooner.

I felt this so hard :') glad to know we're not alone haha - thank you for sharing your journey!! will be rooting for you

Girl!! Thank for sharing. You are not alone and I am very inspired by your courage to put yourself out there in the social media world. I’m 27, no bf, lost friends and still trying to figure out my life. But I never give up. I guess i learned that the scary it is, the more know about my potential.

I like that. Life is not a checklist, it is something to experience

Hello I just saw your video and I’m at age 27 feeling Same emotional ride of what ought to be and not to be. Just letting you speak confidently itself speaks volumes about your choice that you made strongly. Getting inspired and will continue with your journey channel😊

I saw this little note I made back when I was 18. Reading it now, all the goals look too extravagant and unattainable. Right now, I only want peaceful life where I tend to my garden and eat 3 meals a day, but even that kind of peace is turning to be a stretch in my new reality

Good luck in what you are looking for . When I was in my 27 year old. I didn’t have to worry because I had my life together at 10 years old.

so relatable, i’m turning 27 soon myself, feeling unfulfilled at my 9-5 and also started a yt channel as a result lol. am definitely experiencing similar feelings to you. you’re not alone!

Same girl! Only got my first official job now at 27 and I am living the single life. Thanks for the video though! It’s really good. Keep it up❤️

Your videos always make me feel so seen and heard ❤ lots of love!

It's good thing you are starting whatever is your age. I am the same with your age and still not starting and you don't need a bf/gf to be complete.. You yourself is complete. Focusing on self love and having your goals is great.

You're starting. and that's totally fine. I am pretty sure with 10 years of experience you'll start on the right path

Thanka for this video. This helps a lot!

We each need judge life success, based on our own circumstances, not others. I went back to school got job not quite doing what I wanted, worked through multiple companies and advancement paths. Found my calling early 30’s, moved with a transfer 1,200 miles. 30 years later looking back yes it was worth it for me and where I ended up and our financial wellbeing.

I'm also 27 and i have left my job at 25 and almost 2 yr i was unemployed and lately i found what I actually want to do and now I'm clear about my goal and now I'm working for my goal and today found your video which gave me the relaxation of that I'm not actually alone what I'm going through..

I feel you. I’m also almost 27 and i decided to change careers, i already had a new job lined up, in a new country, and at the last moment it fell through. I’m considering going anyway since i already have a place to stay and just look for a job when i get there but the whole idea of moving countries without certainties is so daunting and scary. I’m the same as you when it comes to dating, i just can’t do apps. I also thought i’d have my life figured by now. You’re not alone ❤

Thank you for this video from a fellow 27 year old who feels very lost in life ❤️ I’ve never been in a relationship and trying to date has been awful. Even though I have an okay job I feel extremely directionless and unhappy. I was recently accepted to grad school so I hope that changes things for me.

Haha this feels very relatable in NYC as well, especially at 25 when I wanted to start something myself. I think I save a lot of mental energy by not being attracted to social media. There were times before when I often compared myself to others close to me, and it definitely felt like what you've said. I've grown slightly more comfortable knowing that I'm always going to be behind since I'm not going the same path as most do. Who knows, maybe we'll see some amusing scenery this way.

You are just starting. It is never too late to start. With a little bit of courage, you can defeat any obstacles. I have been there. I know that.

I did start again in my 27s with nothing much at that time since I was in school most of the time and in and out for several jobs. But at least if you decided to choose something then you have 50% winning already. Be brave and work hard on it then you will get the fruit later. Wish you all the best.

I feel you. Finishing a PhD in theoretical physics and trying to switch into a completely different field in finance. Person that I've talked to the most for 5 years just sorta passed and now I'm an emotional wreck :^ )

The hard shell and vulnerable part was sooooo relatable.

I would say you are starting a new chapter in your life, it’s new and exciting and your journey/ story✨ But I understand where you are coming it’s the “unknown of” that can create some levels of anxiety sometimes.

Your vid is so inspiring!! Thank you for sharing all these wonderful things

Im soon to be 23, I feel like this. But lately I'm trying to not compare my life to others and just keep working hard..Better days are coming for all of us ✨️

Great video and great advices at the end 🙌🏾

27 is very young. I’m 34 right now and I feel the same, having to start over when it comes to career choices. When I was 27, I felt like I had my life under control. But years later, here I am, without a job and feeling lost. There are times when I feel like I’m past my “prime” and I’m falling behind as well but then I realize that life is not a linear journey. There will be a lot of turns and ups and down. Our journey is different from one another, so don’t ever think you’re falling behind. And when you feel at your lowest, then it only means that there’s no other way but up.

It’s okay I am going through similar :) I’m 26, finishing my Masters in Europe this summer. I’ve had two relationships here that didn’t last and I don’t want to date right now so I can just focus on my thesis and work, and I don’t know where I will move for a post-grad job. I could move to DC since I’m having a hard time finding work as a non-EU citizen and my salary would be so high in the US. I thought I would be in Europe forever, but it’s just not working out like that. But that’s okay! Starting over again can be frustrating but I am looking on the bright side of making more money, being closer to friends and family, being in a more social place, etc. It is a blessing to be able to start over again and shape my own life :)

It's amazing. You do a great job. Good luck.

girrrrlll i am 27 and will be 28 this year and i think i found this video just at the right time because i feel so behind and lost at this v moment. idk what to do, ive been trying out things but im mostly grazing at it and not going all out.

Hi hi! Just found your channel and omg, this was so refreshing to watch. I couldn't relate even more esp when it comes to careers. Cheers to the exciting but nerve wrecking journey of navigating life through our 20's haha.

i wish you all the best in life, i'm 40 when iam at your age i regret so much because not trust my own gut feeling.. just trust your gut even though the circumstance looks bleak and terrible, ignore logic. that's what all can say for you. good luck joy.

This hits home 😭

Enjoy what you have and everything will come unexpectedly 😊

I am 29 and still figuring out my life. Do not worry. U will do grt. 👍

I'm glad that I'm not alone. I'm 27 but I never had a boyfriend because it's not really my cup of tea until now. I still enjoy my singleness...I also try not to put pressure to myself to get married since I've witnessed from my friends and colleagues how difficult it is. I'm currently taking my masters while working at the same time. I'd feel lonely and get teased sometimes for being single but I don't really care. I just don't want to rush things. I'm just really thankful that my parents think the same way that I do and they're always supportive to me ❤

I really needed this😊😊😊 sending lots of love to us girlies here❤❤❤

Me about to turn 25, also in the same boat 🥲 starting over can be nice because you don’t have that existing baggage and there are so many possibilities and so much potential. It’s both exciting and a bit scary to not know what will happen next. But you got this!

I'm 25, but I totally feel the same. We got this :')

I am 30 and let me tell you what suprised me. During my twenties I felt so behind everyone else and I didnt have a job.. I was a college dropout, emphasis on "was" I live in a place that allow for re education, did so with pretty darn good grades. I am motivated and Life has given me a passion, and a way forward. You know what i have learned? MOST people you feel behind, their olympic fire probably have already burnt out or is close to burning out, I have gone to multiple schools during my lifetime and i would dare to say that just a handful of people still working hard out of all of them. I had a past that's why it took 30 years to get my life together, but my 30's is set up to be the best fucking years of my life. I am not rich yet, maybe in the future but at least i got a road to walk on, and i no longer feel behind. :) You just need to find your passion and give everything you have, and your 30's can be the best years of your life. + you are beautiful so i wouldnt count on you feeling behind that long. 27 isnt old. 30 isnt old. still got 2/3 of the road to go and you can make a lot of changes in just a couple of years.

I relate with video a lot. I feel so stuck at the moment majorly because I am still grieving my big sis who passed away 6 months ago. I get discouraged whenever I think of what the future holds.

Thank you fro sharing your thoughts on this, it really means a lot.

i feel the same way... stay strong everyone

Hi Joy! I bumped into you and this video on KZfaq Home. Similarly, I am turning 27 and still feeling lost in my career, my life and else. Happy to see people having clear targets in life at their young age, but I believe we all have our own pursuit and pace to get things done. It is never too late to start sth new. Appreciate your courage and wish you all the best!

I am 29 yet i am still in my parents basement.. so your type of life is heaven for me. 😅😅😅

This is funny: I don't know you at all and for some reason KZfaq recommended your video to me, but I feel the exact same way, since I'm turning 27 in a few months and I'm at a very similar situtation as you in life. We are all on the same boat haha, so we're not behind, we just have our own unique journey 😊 I really hope you can make your dreams come true and make your business a success. I feel like you already have the resources and the courage, so its a matter of consistency and work, and you're going to achieve what you want :) Cheering for you and your business, you got it!

im turning 27 this year! I cant wait to change and start over! Hugs to us!

we want a blog about your study routine, how u managed to land a job in SE within 8 months of intensive study and how also u managed to not burn out and managed to work with Studying

27 turning 28 this year, just broke up with my partner a couple months ago. Thankful I'm still gainfully employed but it's a role that I don't quite know where I'm heading. It's comforting to know there are a few peeps out there in a similar situation, but here's to hoping that all of us find a purpose, healing, love and fulfillment in our lives soon.

great video! fingers crossed you will succeed here x

i have all these feelings but in my late 30s. I do think you deal with it easier as you get older, mostly because you learn to accept things and develop other areas that give you confidence and joy

those are some awesome reflections

Hi Joy! New to your channel & just subscribed. Happy to be here. (: Thank you so much for sharing your story & insights! You are very wise. (: Excited to watch more videos on your channel!

Hi Joy, my name is Jessica, and I want to thank you for making this video. I stumbled upon your video today when it showed up on KZfaq. Your video came to me at the right time - I am in my twenties right now, and the difficulties you mention in love and career resonated with me. I found myself agreeing with everything you said! (Haha) I am grateful to know that apart from myself, there are more people, like you, who I can relate to - I am experiencing the same emotions and wonder at times if I am "behind in life." I am interested in seeing more of your videos and look forward to watching more of your content. Cheering you on and wishing you the best in life! Sincerely, Jessica

Well,first pardon my English I don't know if you read my comments but,thank you so much to post this And God bless you.

I'm 23 and i feel like lost after completing my college...most of my friends are either working or married.. you know that feeling when life is really hard and nothing is going on your favour... I'm single all my life and don't even have any working experience but I've this hope wothin me that soon I'll have a job and ny life will be change .... let's do this and let's shine in whatever we do from noww oon