I think the most depressing part of feeling like a failure is not not being where you want to be in life but feeling like there is no hope of ever getting there.

I'm 40, I live with my ex-girlfriend, i have a crap retail job like a teenager, and haven't completed anything in my life. nothing in my past makes sense - lots of avenues explored. no cohesive identity. I feel empty.

The way I see it, by the time you’re 40 nobody around you really cares what you’re doing anyway, and it’s an opportunity to just let go and not take life too seriously anymore.

at 42 I don't have what my mates have... no career, unemployed, no family of my own, no kids, no partner, stuck as a caregiver for my disabled brother and sickly mother... but I look like I'm in my 20's, my health is great, and I'm not overweight. Unlike many of my peers, I'm not monitoring my blood pressure... so I'm okay with that trade off 🎉

There is something significant about reaching your 40s and not feeling like you're in a good place. I think before I hit 40 I felt like there was still time to turn it around. Hitting 40 is like "shit, I'm probably halfway through and I still haven't got anywhere"

63. Complete failure. But still here for some reason.

The hardest part for me is Envy and Regret.

Its crazy, my bf who is 43 came to me one night after coming home from work and said to me "babe you shouldnt be with me. I have nothing." But i see his decently working car and job and his adorable cat and loving family. I told him "what are you talking about? You have everything and more from what i can see!" The truth is he is super insecure being his age, not being married or "making enough money", not having a house yet, etc etc. While i totally empathize with his worries, it pains me that he would feel so low about it to the point of telling me i shouldnt be with him, even if he was half joking 💔

Thank you so much for this. I am 45 and very ashamed to disclose that I am unemployed. Have never felt so useless and pressured in my life. Honestly, the closest I felt with anyone recently is you. I am so thankful for discovering your channel. I really am. Thank you!

Turning 40 in two months and not much to show for it. I actually do keep a gratitude journal, which does help. A grateful heart is a happy heart.

Its simple. When you literally dont care about this existence.... you dont care about failure, or success. We all die in the end. Im here to have fun and experience all I can. Now that Im over 40... ive been married, divorced, seen and done a lot. We are too self important. I Live life, have fun and dont care at all about what others think also dont care about success or failure. We are a blip in time. Nothing more.

Im 31 and I´ve been feeling like a failure since my 20s. Im grateful for finding your channel. Greetings from Mexico!

I can see why people turn into alcoholics. When you feel hopeless the bottle seems like your only friend.

40 is here, no family, struggle with unstable job, parents worried about me... very different than my 20-35; but kept working out all throughout 29-40

Try the 50s. We had a massive financial crash last year that has thrown us into debt (massively). Savings gone, debt-laden, and no clear way of getting out of the mess we have found ourselves in. I feel crushed. So yeah, it's a definite thing. Thanks for the video my friend.

Most of us tend to feel like a failure EVERY decade! I say we rebel and start feeling like a badass instead!!

I'm 40. I've achieved very little. I'm enjoying the ride. I don't have time to waste on stupid shiite like regret, envy, low self ersteem, fear. Anyone who even implies I'm a looser gets sent to hell. I give negative Fs. Change my mind. I'm grateful I wake up happy, alive, healthy, have the basics and then some, have enthusiasm and fresh ideas. The most important thing is that I've resolved so much of my trauma originating from childhood. I feel like I'm light years ahead of people like this guy I've been dating who is 10 yr older, has millions, has kids from his marriage. He's so miserable with all this, zero trauma processed, health in shambles and can't enjoy what he's got. Many people I encounter who are like this. I see my life so far as me building a solid foundation. I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful for peace and no anxiety. I'm happy.

If you think you feel bad at 40, try 50. I've finally started doing the inner work I should've done decades ago. Just getting started taking the steps, but they're working. I'm more honest with myself now. I'm more patient and compassionate with others. It's scary in terms of how much time do I have left? I can't control that, but I'm not going to stop just because I feel fear about it. I want this for me to make my life better and to enjoy my life more. My joy in my life affects people around me. Self love is the hardest thing to learn after a lifetime of self hatred. It matters because I matter. I want to impact my corner of the world as much as possible. Now I actually can.

One thing to remember, is that contrary to the popular perception of young entrepreneurs, most people who start successful businesses do so in their 40s. While there are many people who do impressive things in their younger years, they are generally outliers (which is why they get a lot of attention). It's quite common for the 40s to be where many things begin.

I feel like a failure in my fifties. People all have jobs and family and children and friends, I am sick and on disability and alone and broke. I worry I will be homeless or in prison or psychotic. It could be worse for you. You could suffer health problems. Health is the most valuable than everything above all. If you have your health nothing should matter to you. I have ten diagnosis or so ... my future looks bleak. Be happy you have your health, roof, food, family and friends.

My parents are in their late 50’s and they seem like they are still figuring it out. Learning never stops.

Pushing 40 here, and I don't know why the heck this was in my inbox. I'm pretty much a complete and total failure, but I genuinely stopped giving a f*ck, and it's been the best thing to ever happen to my mental health. I work a hard job that pays *BELOW* minimum wage, haven't had a friend or girlfriend in years, and I have zero desire to change any of that. When I did have people in my life, they *SUCKED.* Even if they started out good, they always become sh*t after a while. Being alone isn't for everybody, and I get that, but damn it, it's been pretty freakin great for me. I don't know why I'm getting video's like this, because I intend on changing nothing, but the algorithm somehow seems to think I need to change. I'm good KZfaq. Leave me TF alone, and keep showing me Pokemon speed runs, updates from my favorite band, and the occasional ghost video. Thanks.

I’m 37yrs old with a masters degree, great body, excellent health, can provide basic needs but don’t have much physical cash. My friends have homes, lots of money, great careers, nice cars etc. Despite it all, I’m wayyyyy happier. The money will come. I’m not in any rush and have never been hard on myself. I just don’t focus on what others are doing or achieved. It’s ME and the world. My time will come. Great video!!!!

At 48 now, failure causes me not to sleep properly. Setbacks make me tired and think I can't be bothered anymore!!! 😕

27, no partner or kids, no house or car or much savings, a handful of friends but just got done with a group of them. Just did an upheaval of my life thus far, and am starting again (with similar goals to before). currently living with my parents for a while before I move out again. It sure is tough.

I'm 35, about to turn 36 in a few months. I feel like the good times are behind me. My dad died a few months ago, I'm morbidly obese, struggle to find a good job and I'm single. I know I should be happy for the little things like my friends, but I just feel lost.

40s? I had hope all through my 40s. I'm a 56 year old woman now so I know I failed in life.

Hey . I found this video.Somehow the comments make me feel that I am not alone with the problems.I am 40+. We are here to share. 😢

I'm 30 right now and for the last 8 years i feel like i've accomplished nothing, i'm stuck in a job i hate, i'm no where near my financial or social or physical goals and no matter what i do, that feeling of guilt and regret is always there. I feel like i've entered a tunnel and i can't see it's end.

I'm 31 this year and I'm clueless where I'm going, I feel stuck and useless. This video gives me hope. All the way from South Africa

You only fail if you give up. Just keep moving forward. I’m 40 and have felt like such a failure because of where I’m at in my career and income. I’m learning to be more thankful where God has me because it’s right where I’m supposed to be. Just keep trying to be a better person and doinng what is right. Don’t give up.

I'm 47 and I think for me atleast, 40's has been challenging due to my perimenopausal problems. Other than that I feel grateful for everything including the small joys.

I grew up where almost all my peers got married and moved straight into their own homes. They had good jobs, meanwhile I had none of those things. People were confused about me and also judged me for it. I am learning to count my blessings and I can say that a lot of important changes have been made on the inside. I'm also glad I'm not married. I just need to forget those critical voices...

I am turning 40 today and I don't have the life I wished for. I wanted a family and children so bad. 😢

I'm 39, quit my job because I couldn't stand it anymore after years of being unhappy and depressed because of it. I know I should have quit earlier, but that's in hindsight. Now, at this point in my life, I have nothing I want to do. Nothing I feel like achieving, and it's terrifying in a way. I'm experiencing a state of almost complete anhedonia and I've never felt this way before. I feel like I'm stuck and I desperately want to get unstuck from this way of thinking. The SSRI's aren't working the way they should either, so I'm kind of at a loss right now.

40 and i was in the sweet spot for 15 years. Divorcing now and im at my lowest ever...

I'm in my 30s and I just had a terrible job interview. I recognized how loser I am at this age. This video saves me a little bit, I hope I can be both tough and kind to myself to move forward.

I'm 46 and when I hit 40 for some reason it hit me that I was a failure. I think the main reason was before 40 I felt like I had gobs of time to succeed, but it got in my mind that being in my 40s meant since I wasn't successful I have failed in life. Admittedly I still feel that way but am realizing that it's simply not true and it's all in my head. Sometimes you need to hear it from others so I thank you for the video.

No greater gain than the spiritual life. Turning our attention to others , understanding impermanence and thinking clearly about our attachment to worldly success . The core of all spiritual life, no matter the tradition, is to understand and free ourselves from those attachments

I am 43. I guess I succeeded in most of my life. The only thing I need to focus on is my financial situation. Not for social status or anything of the sort. That is meaningless to me. But because worrying if I have enough money to cover my basic needs has become really tiresome.

you only feel behind if you compare yourself to others. Life is a journy and it's your jounry, not anyone elses. Focus on yourself.

47 here. I had low energy vibes during my teenage and 20s. I assume this was because of shitty diet. I still did sports and was very physically active. I just couldnt concentrate at school though. The jobs I had were uninspiring mainly due to my feeling like a zombie in the mornings. (I work nightshifts now which suit my circadian rhytm better) Now my energy levels are completely different, much higher and im able to focus. We've had a food revolution the last 10 years. I could have used this in my youth. Also hearing about other peoples experiences on youtube would have helped tremendeously.

I'm only 29 entering 30 and I definitely feel left behind. Watching my peers around me be somewhere where I should be makes me feel lonely sometimes, but your video was absolutely comforting. Thank you. 🙏

I'm 36 and I have accomplished a level of education, and tried some ventures in the past in my early 30s but it failed. The feeling of the failure energy kinda comes in at times; the fact I have no kids, and not where I'm at in my career hurts at times. I'm happy to come cross your video and most of all I think trusting god is what is sustaining me. Im hoping for better

I am watching this at 23, because I feel like a failure :D. But gosh this was one of the most wholesome things I have watched this day .

Will turn 52 in a couple of months. Am starting from scratch professionally as I try to reinvent and redraw my career. Hope I look back in 5-10 years and believe I have not wasted my life away. Had a decent career but last few years post covid have been rough and the only shining light is that I am still swimming and haven’t drowned in the turbulence of the past few years. Professional disruption also has effected my personal life which I am totally responsible for.

I lost my belief in my religion at 40 and dropped out of my doctoral program in New Testament after seventeen years of being a minister. I felt like I had wasted the first two decades of my adult life. I had no money, investments, or property, besides my old Toyota Corolla. I scrambled and started a software engineering degree at age 43 and got my first software engineering job at age 46. It was scary, but it was either that or go back to window cleaning. Today's sense of failure can lead to tomorrow's success.

I feel like a failure cuz I’m doing same minimum wage job for like 12 years almost and not going forward because high jobs seem too hard for me and me having learning problems makes me freak out even doing any high job and getting fired

I'll be 40 in 6 months. Listening to this video gives me a lot of perspective, and I will likely hear it again to remind myself of how far I've really come in my life.

Having just recently turned 40 and feeling like a complete failure this video has helped me a lot.

I waa raised in a DOOMSDAY CULT that discouraged being financially successful & discouraged getting a college education. The END of the world was any day....finally woke up. Lost my entire social network and family. Trying to rebuild my life.

I feel like a failure. 45 next week and in the last few years diagnosed with an neurological illness that has been a nightmare to eradicate- endless delays in treatment due to Corona happening. I'm hoping soon to get it sorted and return back to the workplace and have a little one whilst I just about still can; I've had enough. X

If I may give some tips of my own experience: - You don't need to be productive all the time. Take a step back from time to time. Chill, enjoy the moment. Doing nothing can recharge your batteries. - You don't need to financial independed at your 50s or earn a lot of money. It's ok if you have a little less as long as you don't have major depths. - It's ok if your relation with your partner doesn't last. Sometimes no relationship is better then a bad one.

I'm not good enough, I don't enjoy living and others my age are doing infinitely better than me. I am a failure and no deluded reframing will change that

It’s necessary to feel behind so you push harder. Never satisfied.

God bless anyone reading this. May you have good health & Happiness & treat others the way you want to be treated. Kindness goes a long way.

I'm 48 and it's easy to feel like I failed badly in life. Broke, with no wife, no kids.

"No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again" - Buddha

I'm only 32 but I like prepping for the future.

Hello. I stopped listening to people a long time ago. People called me names. Some of them were stupid, illiterate, book worm, nerd, the perfect one. I have lived my life the way that I want. Without friends, or any type of support. I never brag about my success, because it's my achievement. I only let the name calling affect me, because I wasn't prepared for the drastic change in my life. Since then my life has been changing every day, because I took action to make changes happen. I'm 57 years old now, and feel that only I can make changes in my life. All the name callings that I got were those names of the people that did that. There is more to name calling.😊

Quitting my job on a tech company, recently contracted but i work under pressure not under fear or scolding, 45 years and all my kpis are 0. I applied to other jobs and planning to move from failed consultant to previously failed programmer. Will endup as a homeless as i would not have movey to pay the rent in mexico.

I liked what you said about how failure creates wisdom which begets prudence. I'm 36. Trauma set me back so much time has been spent overcoming this and I'm still climbing my way out. Yes, kindness. The key has been giving myself grace to go slow because shame can drive you to go too fast, take on too much and fail.

40 indeed is a hell of an age, where we start questioning everything. I think it's a Universal forties crisis feeling...as stated Somewhere, 40 is the end of youth. While 50 is the beginning of old.

You can’t be “successful” in every department. Older you get the more you realize most stuff we stress about isn’t worth stressing about. Health and happiness is the most important two things.

Turning 38 this year and i feel lost and nothing to show for it. I dont even want to work anymore. I really have no purpose or direction.

I was a bright student in high school, but joined for commerce and business in school just because of friends. Failed to make it to graduation in 2003 and lost my dad in 2004, I dropped studies and left India in 2005. I sent my sister to college (she has 2 masters now) and bought a home for mom in 2014. Even without a college degree I got a job (not a career) in Dubai. I got married in 2015 and we have a baby born in 2016. In 2020 I lost my job to pandemic. Since then I have been unemployed and broke. My son is Autistic, so my wife can't get a job. The last 2 years (and still) is a hell. I don't know whether this is depression or not. But I don't feel happy at all. I am an extrovert, my social/interpersonal skills are above average. That's the only reason why I am still pushing it forward.

40s is the age to start meditating daily.

Problem at my 40s is not about not succeeding. At a certain point, i can accept i didn't achieved all my plans but tht's ok. Problem is about so much ppl bullshiting me, not respecting me and even more: not giving a sht about considering me a a decent human being.

I remember talking to a prisoner, who's serving a life sentence, about his release date. He's been in prison since his mid 20s and was in his mid 40s at the time of our conversation. How to convince someone in that position to keep going? We're raised to believe that we are something we're not, then we form our identities around that part of ourselves be it our jobs, looks, status etc.. but those things change and then who are we? When I get down and feel like a failure I am usually desiring love or approval externally and to compare or selves to others or to pursue happiness is a fast track to misery. How many wise people have echoed that sentiment? I'm a weirdo, my ideas aren't popular and at 39 I'm earning close to minimum wage. The truth is, I've never wanted to engage with society, I hate having a job, but love to work on my own projects. My dream is to reinspire people, undo the negative programming and encourage them to let go of self limiting BS... (belief systems). Most misery is self inflicted whilst seeking the approval of people we don't even like, gain status in a society which doesn't serve us and work towards a goal someone else set for us. Besides, How many 'successful' people are unhappy? We've seen what can happen.. There is a spiritual essence within all of us all, a point of unique energy which only we as individuals can express and once it has gone it will never occur again. Everyone is so traumatized from childhood, school, media, technology, loss of connection, consumerism and so on that we've forgotten our true selves. We're here so briefly, to live and learn. There is no great reveal, no first prize, I only hope to have had positive impact and to have learnt to give and recieve love to the best of my ability, reduce suffering in others and to be at peace when my life comes to an end. You can keep the trinkets and crumbs of the unconscious life I want to live consciously, fearless and free.

Omg! I so needed to hear this. I just turned 40 and I feel so unaccomplished. The only thing that I have felt good about is having my 3 wonderful children. Other then that I just don’t feel like I’ve done much of anything in my life. It’s such a horrible feeling to have

I'm older and wiser now. Over 20 years ago, I thought it would be best to end life. Today I know it would have been best if I had.

I'm 42. Finally feel good.

Really needed to hear this. There is so much pressure in society that in order to be a success in life is to be on the perpetual hedonic treadmill. A quote a love from Alan Watts: if you say that getting the money is the most important thing you will spend your life completely wasting your time you'll be doing things you don't like doing in order to go on living that is to go on doing things you don't like doing which is stupid.

Thank you. I turned 40 this year and am really struggling with all of these things. There are so many things I still wish to do in life and feel so far behind.

I just want to say about 20 min ago at work my throat started to tingle up and I started dropping tears because I'm 31 year old man and I felt so far behind. I don't want to play the blame game and point fingers at my parents or my past or anyone but something in my soul hurts and I'm calling myself a looser etc. I literally was telling myself i failed at life. Then this video randomly popped up on my feed. And I'm not even subscribed to you 😢

At 44 what feels horrible is not wanting anything. For all the color to be drained out of me and everything I look at. Anhedonia maybe. It affects job performance, relationships, health, and everything. Yes, I’m grateful I have arms, legs, food. Maybe it’s good that I don’t have any specific expectations, but I also don’t have any goals. I’m addicted to medication that is destroying my health, but also making it possible for me to leave the house. I’m trapped that way. I don’t have any relationships. When I’m with people, I quickly want to be alone at home to check off the “be social” box bc I’m supposed to. Again - this is my problem. It’s not so much being a failure. It’s like not existing at all. Maybe this isn’t really related to the video then. But these videos are, of course, brought to me by the algorithm. No surprises there.

I’m very appreciative of the advice, but one thing that cannot be reversed is the passage of time. I’ll turn 40 next summer. Life for me is a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions. I’ve noticed that in the past several months my anhedonia and apathy have significantly increased. I’m sick and tired of feeling the same way every day. There are moments of respite, where something fun is going on or something makes me laugh, but these moments never last and are gone in a flash. Don’t mistake what kind of message I’m trying to put out here. I would never, ever hurt myself or take my life. I would never be that selfish and subject my family to that. I have, however, reached a point where I stopped caring about everything. I’ve tried to get into various artistic pursuits over the last 10-15 years, but could never get anything off the ground. I’m tired of working for a payoff or reward that’s never going to arrive. Life is like playing the same tape over and over every day. I’ll just keep going through the motions until it’s over. I’m out of ideas at this point. I hope others are more successful than what I’ve been.

This guy has the best advice that ive seen here in youtube. Awesome man!

Thanks for this. I’m 43 and feel a bit like a failure but less so after watching. My biggest regret is sometimes (often if I’m being honest) is that I spend so much time feeling like a failure that I’m not enjoying the good wonderful things like my lovely wife or beautiful daughter - I will be present but not present.

Well said. .Im 57 and things falling apart, sold the house, separated. But I'm healthy, I got two lovey boys. It's scary to start again.

I wish everyone love and happiness! ❤You’re not alone.

Really resonated with your video, thanks for sharing your viewpoint. I’m 58, financially challenged, survived the pandemic when 95% of my business stopped overnight, am trying to change careers and having had a lifetime of success in sales and management, I am struggling to be relevant in 2022, predominantly because of ageism I believe. I’m not social media savvy or not well connected but still have the desire to succeed and thrive. I started 2 businesses, sold one and took the other to just under a million t/o in under 4 years and it failed after bank crisis so I know I can do it. I look forward to posting what actions I took to turn my life around at 58 ? Great video

35 y.o male here. Feel like a failure as I changed careers a year ago into trucking thinking that would be it and it wasn’t. I ended up netting like 30k from a year of being away from my wife. My wife, also, makes way more than I do and now I have decided to pursue aviation and even that isn’t going as well as I’d hoped. She wants to fund my pursuits, while I’m grateful…something about that doesn’t sit well with me. I also feel like I am not the greatest health wise which and to my general paranoia etc. I work at the local airport and make like $16 all the while everyone around me seems to have so much more. Thanks for the encouragement.

I am turning 27 soon. The idea of 30 scares me. I still feel the same I felt at 21. And also, very much like I did then, I still feel like a "failure". The true success to me at this point would just be not feeling like this anymore, even if I am actually failing.

I'm 16. I hate it. I used to be a pretty good student, so my parents shifted me to the most competitive school in the city , with 11 hourse of just school hours and 4 to 5 hours of self study. It sucks, I'm failing in school. And because a lot of my time is spent in school where everyone studies in silence and stress, i pretty much have no friends, no social life, no hobby and no emotional support from my parents. I know there's no use of pouring out my feelings in the comment section of a KZfaq channel, i just want to try it before i really lose my mind, so please If your reading this day something to me to keep me alive,

You can feel this way even at 50, however, acceptance and realizing that being alive and breathing will trump any type of so-called material success. I've nothing of material worth but have a realistic sober and spiritual view these days, and that is priceless.

I’m 30 and I’m not wasting anymore time. Hard lesson I learn in my 20s.

I was ok, until pandemic reached and i went from having enough income to save and enjoy my life to having half of my salary, living on the edge and feeling like it's really hard to come back to where i was before. i'm 34 years old, i still have all my life to improve.. but still.. i feel like i failed :( it's hard to start again.

Amen to your encouragement. In my 20's as a healthy optimistic individual I lived off a trust and built a impressive photography business and had amazing connections then out of nowhere I got a random sickness and I seen by 28 everything I worked for completely vanished as my body was weaker and I used lots of money to fund medical procedures and medications. I had to work a regular job and after 8 years I am healed from this sickness Praise God but I am now rebuilding my life and I'm not 40 yet but I feel very low at times now because now I'm trying to figure the next stage of my life and who I want to be.

I only watched 2 of your videos (including this one) and I have to say that your videos amazing. So grateful for your advice and wisdom. I definitely needed this. Unfortunately, I need constant reminders to not be so hard on myself because I do need myself to stay focused and not waste any time on what-ifs and have-nots.

Thank you. This helped recalibrate my 38 year old brain at 1:30 AM after one of those days where I just felt "Wow, half my life is down the drain now and I haven't achieved THIS and THAT". Glad I found your video.

Dude, I’ve failed repeatedly in life!! The $hit hurt my soul during those times when I took a chance and failed miserably. However I will say it’s true what the most successful people say, “you will fail 99 times before you succeed just once” more or less. Now lifes getting really good but the road was covered in broken glass and snakes most of the times. The key is to keep pushing yourself, find that drive to keep you going when the light at the end of the tunnel is barely a spark on the horizon.

I haven't even reach the middle of this clip, and I felt like I'm blessed with your wisdom. Thanks for encouragement. I'm turning 38, a dad with no job and education, and starting a 10 year plan to declare war on failure. My dad was brutally honest and told me lately that he could not provide what other parents could for children my age back then, and he told me that I am the only one to fix all these life disadvantages with the help of God. Anyway, good luck to us all who sought this kind of content. I feel the hurt and I cry with you. Life is a battle and no family, friends, or preachers to help you. Have faith my friend. To men, it's impossible, but with God, it is possible what ever you want to achieve.

thanks man...its been dark lately definitely got lost in my thoughts

OK, I'll act as if I'm 20, and as if I don't have a wife and two kids, and as if my parents are still happy to have me live with them (and as if one of them isn't dead) - Let's do this! But seriously, I think I get it, thanks man :)

God bless you for coming into my life lots of love.

Thanks for uploading this. So many people fall into the fallacy of sunk costs. As long you’re still alive, you can always start improving yourself.

I am 21 and felt like a failure Thank God I found your video I have 20 more years to figure it out🙏

Not 40 yet but I can definitely understand this type of view point. Specially when there is a point in life (say age 23-29 atleast in my time, I am older now) for example where all your batch of school mates got married, settled, with 2-3 kids, got a permanent job. And here I am or you are, still no gf or if you do still not settling, no kids etc. And I think that makes you start to think about your life, where you are, what you achieved and most likely start thinking that you got left behind. It gets even more pronounced when you check your FB short story reels and all your batch friends from highschool settled with kids and you did not. (Although even if they did settle, with a family etc, it doesn't always mean that the job they are doing when they settled is the one they originally wanted in life. Ofcourse having a family will hinder you from pursuing your dream job as an example. As you won't have a freedom of doing the job you like if you are a family man. ) Now maybe I say this as a cope, or maybe there is truth about it. But I feel like no one really truly is "settled" or shall I say, like have it figured it out. Each and everyone with their own path in life are figuring life out as they go (even the one's that seemed to have settled with a family and job). Everyday they are still Putting out fires left and right, fixing issues, problems left and right etc, just like you do single or not or married or not. Ofcourse there will be the 1%'ters of very rich people who got life controlled in the palm of their hands, but majority won't and are not able to do that. As I work in the health sector, I have seen stuff. Even have death in your watch. Or in your arms as you tried to save them. And it really does affect you in a way where it changes your perspective in life. One moment you know the person, the next moment someone from the undertaker's who do not know that person just take them away in a body bag. Like they were nothing (ofcourse with all due respect). And it changes your perspective in life. You start to think, did that person felt fulfilled until their last breath? or not? Makes you think that life is indeed short. When someone is gone, life and time keeps going like nothing happened. Its an insane/intense feeling and you start thinking stuff. And as life is short, and we all end up like that. One should enjoy the moment/the present. And one should not be afraid or be insecure of doing something they really wanted to do cause in the end. We will have the same ending. Doing so, atleast you will have no regrets as you know you did what you wanted to do. Struggle or not, you did it. No regrets. And I know its easy to say than done. As people who suffer from anxiety/insecurity and what not truly do struggle. But once you stop giving a f*** and do it and not care what other people think. That is when you start living. You see I myself suffer from anxiety or insecurity, not extreme but enough that it hinders me from doing stuff I would prefer doing/love doing. And I think the anxiety and insecurity is also a factor why a person would think that they are left behind. Or what got them in the situation in the first place. Again if you suffer the same way, I know first hand that it is very hard to overcome such anxiety/insecurity. But I am working on dealing with that bit by bit. And usually the best way to fix insecurity is by exposure therapy. i.e. if it makes you insecure, DO IT! and it applies to anything, from a job perspective, social, etc. At the same time work on your self and don't put yourself down when you fail. like, if you fail you start saying. "you idiot" or "that is your fault you ***" etc. Imagine if you say that to your actual friend that failed, they will refuse to be your friend again. And for your subconsciousness this little "remarks" you tell yourself affects you MORE than you think, you just fed the insecurity and you end up not wanting to try anything anymore afraid of failing again. Instead of insulting your self. Be kind to yourself. Like "its okay will get it next time" or "lets figure out what happened and fix it". And more. Be your own bestfriend first. Imagine if majority of people were confident and not give a f*** about what people think about them. We'd all be successful. In our own ways. Maybe not filthy rich successful. But more of like in a better place. a place where you are not thinking of yourself as a failure.

I think that failure is being stuck in a situation that is inauthentic, if you’re living a true life then you are not a failure… plus you shouldn’t think that material success matters… things come and go, money comes and goes… love and the people you care about is all that matters