My girlfriend is from Argentina and the food is next level

Love using your app to learn

I’ve heard of a few Canadian girls who moved to Germany and were surprised when they learned their men pee sitting down at home. Have you experienced the opposite? Do you complain if he leaves the toilet seat up?

Ok this guy's getting pretty cool This link is for him if he's interested kzfaq.info/get/bejne/h96Yg6aGxNCaink.html

I was stationed on Germany 3 times, for 8 years total. Never had a problem with German Women.

Hehehe siuuuu

that‘s great!

That’s so cool! I always wish I was bilingual it makes me jealous ☺️

Holy shit I read six but somehow thought in my head 3 because 6 is too much. I had to come back to this comment that it was actually 6.

That kinder at the end really got me 😅

Same with France

Sure, isn't that true everywhere?

Wie sagte einst tingeltangel bob? "Wer deutsch spricht, kann kein schlechter Mensch sein" xD

I’ve always taken a language course before traveling but rarely get to use what I’ve learned bec the people are so excited (that’s the exact word they’ve used) to speak English. We’ve always had great discussions about English slang & idioms.

@@dnocturn84 it's not true in the Netherlands. If they hear your foreign accent they will immediately talk English to you.

Spot on brother spot on.

I agree and in Germany people often do that too.

Thank you! People get offended over nothing these days and aren’t appreciative enough for common courtesy.

In Germany people do hold the door too. It is seen as you taking time out of your own life for the benefit of others. It's more about helping them to do "tasks" (such as opening a door) either "faster" or "at the same speed with added convenience". while speed > convenience in most cases ^^ Now if you slow down the process for them, just to make it more convenient, that mostly wouldn't be seen as a desireable outcome for alot of germans. Ex. "getting out of the car" (as with the car example in the video), while having to wait (wasting time). Hope i could explain the difference in the thought process behind that.

I as a German feel like holding the door for other people - even strangers - is still more of a respect thing. Like you wouldn't necessarily hold the door for your girlfriend all the time, but rather for elderly people, a mother carrying a baby or just commonly if you hear someone approach the door. At least I do that a lot and like 90% of the people are thankful of it. So it's not a dependency thing between a man and a woman, but it's just being nice and helpful towards others.

You mean, you pass through a door, see someone behind you and hold it open until they are there as well? I usually do so as well, releasing the door when the other person takes it over. Gender is irrelevant

Well, yeah! Who wouldn't!

He's so lucky. I've never had a woman look at me like that.

@@golden.lights.twinkle2329 Neither have I and I'm even married! My own wife doesn't give me that adoring look!

I really agree! Her face almost glows.

He looks at her the same way. They’re def in love.

And the historical aspect of this is before the auto... men were to walk on the inside.. to protect the lady from anyone stepping out of the shadows. Who knows...

+nikoss... So you want be equal to men but you prefer men to die instead of you - has your female life a bigger value that a male's?? What kind of crooked culture is that? Are you also one of those who expect a man to give up the last seat in the lifeboat for a woman? I'm disgusted ! ! !

Im an Aussie, 40 yr old. I was never taught that, it was just something i did. The ex pointed it out that i did it. I didnt to it because of water though. I did it because if a car hit me vs if a car hit her. For me its just my protective nature

Is that really shocking? I am in my 30's, raised here in Boston. I was taught chivalry and manners starting at an early age. It isn't the norm here, but I have buddies raised the same way and isn't uncommon to stand up and move away from your open seat, when a lady or elderly man gets onto your train car,. Offer help carrying something, holding the door or flanking street side when walking (on a sidewalk here...only roadsides are highways ) , also same as the Aussie mentioned, that one wasn't taught, just force of habit, that was self taught from childhood, because I had to walk my sister to school every morning before a buddy of mine and I linked up because he also had sister luggage,that went to the same place....then we walked to our school. Sometimes he would even have a loose Marlboro his Dad wouldn't miss. Just a couple of tough customers , on the streets, not even walking quickly. A lit Marlboro, I would also show off the cannon, as we would pass a "Bob Haas-a fighter for Boston" sign w/a black&white sun faded picture of a middle aged bald man who had run for Mayor and lost, mean mugging, in a boxing stance, with his dukes up. I would hunt for three rocks and think I was awe inspiring because I would hit Bob dead center in the dome EVERY DAY and never missed.... not any of three throws, every day for THREE YEARS, even when my friends turned and rooted against me ,every couple of months! (Still shocked this accomplishment isn't discussed in the media!) Manners and chivalry are a show of respect for the other person and also tradition! When I was a young kid and into early teens, that behavior was reinforced because it makes you feel good to show someone you like respect......or to see an older lady suddenly smile and appreciate your consideration! It's not a hard thing to try to be a decent person, and these nominal gestures are easy to offer and have the potential to make someone happy. These types of traditions deserve their place in our culture. So I think there will always be people who appreciate these behaviors. Observing them can't hurt but may help in sone small way. The thing that shocked me is when some dope of a woman, a heavyset lass that was built like a fire hydrant, and maybe on her mid to late twenties, went out of her way to call out to me, after I held a door for her. I had earbuds in, on my way to work and always hold the door for the next person, so thought nothing of it, until someone gestured to turn around. I did so, and lowered volume to point out that I .was listening to something and pointed at my ears and the dog dick red, can't nniss earbuds!This lady was red faced and breathing like she had a plastic bag " Hey, didn't you HEAR ME CALLING you"?! Wow, to lead w/that question and she informed me that she didn't need me to hold the door for her, and I should keep walking and worry about myself! I WAS walking and worrying about myself! And doors must be her specialty, because the miserable glutton couldn't catch up to a brisk walking pace and had to get others involved to waste my time! THAT was odd and shocking! I don't get it. She wasn't sone schizophrenic baglady, she was dressed like a realtor type , so I truly don't understand what she was angry about! Lol

@@yourdashingheroidol7909 Having respect for people is a nice thing. But if you reduce this respect to women and leave aside men then you don't deserve any respect yourself. Why helping an elderly woman and not an elderly man? There is absolutely *no* reason to treat women different than men unless maybe if it's about physical force. When a woman is very modern you might offend her by trying to do something for her that she could do herself - like opening a door. Of course this is silly but it's how they think. In short words: Give men every favour that you would give a woman, too. And if there is only 1 seat left in the lifeboat: Take it yourself and don't give it to a woman only because she has breasts and you don't.

Super cute.

xD My husband came by and asked "are you watching Robert Pattinson videos?" xD

I think Feli loved the movie, Walk to Remember. The BF looks like a brother of Shane West.

yeah‘s he’s a very good looking guy, but that earring…

@@ferlou2373Funny how tastes can differ - I absolutely *_love_* that earring! :D It reminds me of the singer of one of my favourite bands growing up: Tears for Fears

There was no Feli, or any gorgeous, bright and positive Bavarian princess w/great morals and sweet heart! The exchange students, we got were, M'France and M'Doine.....TWIIIIIIIINS!!!....... .....wait,....what? They were fraternal twin BROTHERS, from Haiti?! Next you will tell me that.......wait. oh, so they actually don't speak English! Hmmm. Okay, well it was nice to meet you fellas. Best of luck.., see you la....ohhhh. They are here to play the two sports that I play, and in baseball I am about to get bemche.....oh, M'Doine is taking my spot, AND I get to be attached at the hip w/them....have to show them around AND can't communicate w/them. Perfect! It sounds like a straight to dvd dart throw movie from 20004! Long story short, I'll be damned if those bastards didn't capture my heart I will member that special day for as long as there is a single grain of sand on this Earth.....somehow, will have to figure it out. Anyway, my silver flip phone buzzed in my pocket. My buddy Kenny was frantically yelling and giggling that I had to immediately get to bathroom! 38Razor was our signal that whatever was happening was the equivalent of all out nuclear war kicking off! ......he underplayed the situation! I rounded the corner into the men's room. Kenny and M'Doine were cracking up, casually leaning against the row of sinks, facing the urinals? What would they.....I turned to see a M'France smiling brightly and nodding to me as a greeting. His pants were pulled all the way down around his ankles...his Cosby sweater rolled all the way up to under his armpits, and he was hunching slightly knees bent, yet no part if him touched the urinal, yet he hovered perfectly over in a way that screamed uncanny valley.....while stacking logs into the urinal that would make any lumberjack proud! It was also odd that his beaming smile never flinched.

Lol I like your comment. Sometimes I’m the same, but sometimes I feel when I’m down or in a grumpy mood, someone else’s insistence on small talk gets me out of my shell and makes me feel a little better. Like, it’s nice to know some stranger is interested in my day.

100% agree

i want to give german girl my veenah shnitzel

I can't stand uncomfortable silences, I don't talk much but am interested in others so often try and instigate small talk to avoid the silence. It has its purpose!

Sounds like you need a German barber!

BEN CAN JOIN THE AIR FORCE. RETIRE AFTER 20, 30, OR 40 YEARS & RECEIVE 50 % , 75 %, or 100 % of LAST PAY, for LIFE. (psychologist, dentist or veterinarian)?

I never feel obligated after one date.

Thats good. I never got ghosted but I did ghost a girl when i was a kid. It wasnt serious but I still feel bad I did that to her.

@@noneofurbusiness5223 true, me neither. Nor do I expect a feedback if it's negative. Might not be relevant for the next date

@xXSingMusic4everXx I use to chat with this German girl I met here on KZfaq, she lived in Hamburg, we had interactions here in KZfaq before she gave me her number. We chatted on the app Signal, we had a really good conversation about politics both German and American. But then she must've ghosted me, because she said she was busy with school, but I wouldn't here from her for months. It was hard, it really ruined my interest in Germany, but I'm getting better though. Sorry for over sharing.

Do you ever bring up the Battle of Britain with her?

That sounds fun 😄

Haha 😂 ye don’t cross a German woman. My German girlfriend I run and hide but the next day it’s forgotten about then highly sexy they are

@@marksauck8481 😂 yes I do when she wakes up every morning and starts talking German to me and I’m like what the hell you saying. We didn’t win the war for me to talk German to you. She thinks it’s funny tho cuz she forgets sometimes when she’s around me. Love the woman tho I will say her dad don’t like me at all but I sort of understand that cuz his dad was in the war ww2

How’s use getting on mate. My girlfriend is way forward and don’t care on what she says at times. Very highly sexually woman to. Like my German girlfriend on the beach one day just started flashing to me. Not a care in the world. God I love her tho. She’s truly stunningly beautiful with the most amazing heart and soul. ❤. I’d love to no how your getting on mate. Plus where in the world are you from. I’m in the Isle of Man 🇮🇲 my girlfriend is from bonn

How is it going on?

@ John Smith Yeah, let us know how you're going now. It's been 6 months, I see 😁✨.

Like do you have any anecdotes? I would love to read some examples.

@@Tobmei One I heard from somebody I know went something like this: German fan: "Do you like your new album?" Musician: "Yes." German fan: "Really?"

@@Spermwhales93 OUCH

@@Spermwhales93 One possible response rather than “yes”. “Stupid question. Why would I put out an album I didn’t like.”

But are they direct or rude. In the video the woman touch him and instruct him how got change his body. On the other hand she is clearly a feminist and will not tolerate a man asking her to change her looks and touching her to that effect. So it looks like hypocritical. I know they are direct, and that is good but I don’t know. In this videos al there is a lot of German=perfect but history tell us they are far from perfect.

So she probably doesn't realize every time that she speaks English. It's just natural for her to speak English ...until something different happens ;-) My first language is German, but sometimes when I remember a topic, I don't necessarily know whether I heard this topic in a German or in an English KZfaq video for example. Maybe I remember the person and from that I realize that it must have been a video in this language ;-) Or a written article... It does not matter in which one of the both languages it is written... And I might remember many details about the article a week later, but not necessarily the language in which it was written ;-) Or like in the video example, I might remember the (online) magazine in which it was written and so I realize, that it must have been an article in this language ;-) The "method of transportation" is not important, the content of the article or video is the important thing ;-)

She does have an accent. Just a different one. There is no such thing as having no accent.

@@greenmachine5600 not true

yes there is an accent and different rhythm when speaking English, but perfectly understandable!

@@greenmachine5600 dear, there is a difference linguisticly. Having an accent means usually that the person speaks the language fluently but you can heat that it is not their mother tongue. Whereas native speakers have dialects or idioms, you can also hear where their from within their native country, for example Southerners or Easterners and so on

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But even in Germany, the trouble with the "traditional manners" exist. For me (as a Southerner) , it's too natural, to keep the door open for a woman, to help her out of the jacket or to put the chair under her...

⁠@@compukiller2not sure what the trouble is here. These things are all such nice habits that needs to be passed on

Greetings to the rain and the Schwebebahn.

nawww thank you❤🥺🙏🏻

I feel its similar with all European people. Im a trucker I spend alot of time on discord talking to ppl from all over the world. At first I thought they were kind of rude to be honest. Europeans are very blunt about things (especially people from london and eastern europe) where in the US we aren't as blunt.

@@GuyFromTheSouth WellI've met one or two Americans who've been pretty blunt about how superior they feel to us ...

@@paulohagan3309 lol stop it😂 I promise it’s easier to find a European insulting Americans then the other way around. It’s weird how Europeans are bitter about the usa importance that they form a little brother or superiority complex

@@projectc.j.j3310 Not bitter. Not jealous of the 'American way of life at all but have the right to mention a common experience of mine regarding too many of the Americans I met.

It also depends if you’re genuine about it or not

I agree: They seem to make an awesome couple. 2 really lovely people met and what's not to love about that!?

Totally agree 😃

If you mean the "Kölner Dom" well the only thing i remember the many stages i had to climb😂

Until today I remember Schiller´s "die Bürgschaft" (The Pledge). 😁😁🤣🤣

@@teodoro1007 For me, it's the opening to Die Verwandlung.

You're in another country - things are different. Her friend knows her better than you do so take another shot.

That was a long time ago, the ‘70s. I did start talking to her again but I got orders back to Camp Pendleton so it never anyplace.

This is simple a Disrespect to the other one!

The good thing is that when you go back, it'll pretty much be the same. Unless you have to deal with the authorities, they will always be slightly racist (looking Chinese doesn't help)

@@sootheskin4022 where did you get that I am Chinese? I am white, just not German

@@sootheskin4022 Chinese??

​@@sootheskin4022hä?

Meta-reaction? 🤔

Yes re the meta-video observation. Feli & Ben are far superior to other vloggers because they demonstrate such respect, sensitivity & appreciation for how they're overcoming cultural & communication roadblocks. Especially refreshing to learn about the German custom of respecting soundly-based differences of opinion on sensitive topics.

LOL! In the 80s I was a taxi driver in West Berlin. One day I was standing in a very busy street at a taxi stand. And there was a military exercise being held by the Allies (at that time there was no German military allowed in West Berlin!). Anyway, it was so funny to see the soldiers crawling along the sidewalk while German civilians went shopping all around. Especially when the Allied soldiers crawled up to the traffic lights, waited for the green light, crossed the street and then immediately threw themselves down again to continue crawling. I will never forget that for the rest of my life!

So you live in the USA and want to rather live in Germany to date German people?

Yes you are mate.

Just be forthright and honest. You will find your people.

Small talk is a very good thing. Germans should stop making it look like a fake and unnecessary thing. We are humans. We are social beings. Social contact keeps you mentally and psychologically sane. Small talk is a way of acknowledging the other human. Even if it is useless talk. It means that I see you and I acknowledge you. Without it, such as in German society, people behave like robots. No one acknowledges anyone. This makes people psychologically lonely and depressed. So don't blame this small but important human gesture. Just because it doesn't exist in your society, it doesn't mean that it is useless.

yeah, I definitely glance at someone coming, especially walking at night or alone

In the US this is far from universal. In the US It really depends on whom is approaching whom, and also depends not only on how urban an area is, but how globally connected vs. provincial a city or region is, as well as what part of the country (different regional subcultures), as well as class, ethnicity, religion and politics. This is a frequent source of social and political conflict (I.E. cancel culture) as well as culture shock WITHIN the US. But in typical American fashion 🙄, we also often refuse to respect or even acknowledge these differences, or are ignorant about them, but we (mostly) tolerate those with different views on boundaries, and learn to then avoid or shun people who are different in this respect.

@@danielzhang1916 being wary of someone coming up from behind alone at night is more universal I think. But otherwise social boundaries in the US vary widely by subculture and are often a source of social and even political conflict. Parts of US culture are far more open to being truly friendly with strangers in public (outside of business contexts) but others find it unacceptable. However compared to some cultures, public criticism of strangers in the US is often asking for a literal fight (you are often at risk of getting physically assaulted) and is a complete No No!

@@danielzhang1916 also sorry if I sound presumptive as I just realized I might. I am speaking as an American but from your reply it sounds like maybe you are also? If so you likely know what I mean. However, I'm often amazed about just how ignorant and provincial USA'an often are about many fellow citizens of our own country, often assuming that their own way is normative often without any real evidence or despite much evidence to the contrary...

Not just a Southern thing. I was taught all that growing up in Chicago, including walking on the street side. Some women like, or even expect to be treated that way; some others, mostly younger ones, may actually feel offended. I've had to relearn a lot about cultural conventions in the last few decade.

The recipe originally called German’s Chocolate named for Samual German not the nationality. I grew up with the pronunciation sher-beRt with both parts rhyming.

@@chrisk5651 I did too with the sherbert. That’s actually what she said. When I typed it, it auto corrected

Oh, I thought it sounds actually like „sorbet“ (watery fruit ice cream, sometimes with alcohol) but „sherbet“ is according to Wikipedia a little bit different.

In germany we have a cake that is called russian "zupf"(idk what that is in english) cake which is like the best version of cheescake and it's not russian at all it's german, but they thought they would sell more if they marketed it as russian.

@@MisterPyOne wow. Anything with Russian in the name in the states would be viewed very negatively.

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That‘s a good question. My dad is in a relationship with an english-speaking woman so when she‘s around we speak english. Sometimes we forget it and speak German together but it‘s not a problem.

Nice....now I don't have to make that point

Hey John Labus, these rolling grocery bags are very popular in Germany. They are named Hackenporsche = Heel Porsche! Greetings from north Germany 🏖️☀️

It might also be that when on a date you might be in what you would consider "Your Best Behavior". Formal mode.

It may be a generational thing too. I am German (but 2 decades older than Feli) and learned things like, "the man walks on the street side of the side walk" (with the exact same explanation), "When you drive/walk somebody home you always wait until they opened the door and go in before you leave" (reasoning: Then you know they are safe) and such little things. And, as @mirajolinardiaglionis399 said, a "Hackenporsche" is a thing in Germany. If you want to see try an image search for "Hackenporsche"

There is nowhere more FIM than in Manchester England. They say exactly how it is with brutal honesty no matter the subject matter. If you even attempt to soften the edges about something or get caught bending the truth then you get called out immediately no matter your social standing. It isn't the same all over the country but I know it stems from the history of poverty which can be seen as almost arrogant yet it really isn't. For this reason you simply can cast a net over an entire population and then add a context to all when a class system deeply divides people into certain groups.

European mothers expect from theirs children to be independent. An then you want speek for an independent women in public, she feels herself like a child. Should Amerika think about some things, if they could be modernised in some way? To be polite is ok, but on the other side, to see a women as partner on the same level as himself, could be difficult for some men.

@@l.p.7960 But that's a double standard, if you are expecting the American to be the one to adapt, regardless of whether they are in Europe or the U.S., just because you feel the European way is superior. (Although, not all American men are that way, and not all American women are okay with it either.) The point is that respect goes both ways. If she wants him to respect her independence, she should also respect the fact that he's trying to be polite, rather than judge him for it, and come to a clear mutual understanding of how to proceed.

I am a Filipina (somehow has american influence to our culture and mentality, living here in Germany with German kids. I love how independent girls here. Because of that, boys respect them as equal. Girls here never experienced name-calling and harassment in public. Girls know their rights and will stand their ground.

@@jc3drums916 Exactly right.

@@l.p.7960 There is nothing about courtesy and respect that should threaten anyone's independence.