I am a white, middle-aged Christian-raised American who might not be expected to praise this video but I am deeply enthused by its message that can better all men. I heard encouragement for a strong work ethic and dedication to family which leads, of course, to a stronger community. That bravery is missing in so many young men today who are weakened by negative cultural influences. Thank you this video and its transcendent message.

No matter what the Quran says, for some ppl culture is above all.

I was in an unfair marriage with any kind of support... Subhanna Allah, why Muslims are like that and they call themselves Mumin!! I'm reverted and almost lost my deen in that situation but alhamdulillah I held to Al-Adl and I'm going ahead again with new goals and my faith get stronger than before.

13 years he always took what he gave. And also my earnings. Had Access to my personal account to manage financial responsibility of the family. He made sure I didn't see statements. After leaving and doing online banking I saw he put in and made bills go out of my account and made sure there was never enough money for me to spend on myself. I'm glad I left that marriage. I feel I been robbed for 13 years.

6:22 my grandmother did with my mother, she took my mother's mehr jewellary without free will and married off her another daughter...and to this day they haven't given it back, she went to hajj though. Financial abuse is too common in desi families and nobody even talks abt it, bcz it's likely the imam doing it himself. I hope to follow everything that you said one day inshallah. May allah have grant everyone the sabr and wisdom to follow his commands.

I am not Muslim but I love his teachings. I wish I could understand the other language he spoke. Please put a translation in the subtitles.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I am not a Muslim but I really liked what he said.

MaasyaAllah ... I'm speechless! ... I don't know what to say! Alhamdulillah ... I'm a Muslim and I believe in Islam ... SubhanAllah 💞

This is all so true and relevant to current issues today

Mashaallah so beautifully explained ..... May Allah swt reward the ustadh immensly

Great speech. May we implement Islam as we are meant to do it.

Masha Allah, on point....May Allah guide us all, to fulfill our duties towards our spouses 🧡

Am so happy to hear that. Am a pharmacist and my dad is a doctor and left me quite a lot. But my hubby is a spends all his money and asks mine And I pay for all household food, kids, school ect. And he tells me am a disobedient unfaithful wife

Finest of the lectures!! Jazakumullah hu khair !!

MashaAllah how lovely and well explained using the Holy Quran.. Men of today dnt fear Allah and wat the Quran says... This why there are alot of problems... May Allah guide us all Ameen

I can relate so much. I have to work and earn while my husband sits idle at home, he's having a small rental income. I have to take almost every other financial, maintenance etc responsibility of house n kids..and really I want to be a saabir wife and respect him but many times I fail..I was religious even before marriage and I always prayed for a good religious husband, but I know this is my azmaish and please pray for me to be successful in this

Wowowow MashaAlllaah he is soo amazing to hear..i can just feel every bit of word said♥️♥️

Would love to have subtitles in the lecture for the people who is hard of hearing. So, they learn about islam too. Excellent lecture and very much needed topic for the men to hear and understand inshaAllah. Jazakallah khairan.

Absolutely right, may god raise the awareness of people to the gates of Islam.

Muslim speakers are very excited always!!!!!!

Well said...M a Christian...I m impressed...Thankz for sharing

Mashaa Allah I loved this for so long thanks

Finally a true man / brother stood up for women. Thanks 🙏

SubhanAllah, Allah Show us The Right Path.

Allah makes easy for us Everything but we make it too hard

Mr noman this is very nice speach this is happning in us .every home problem and children are destory thanks 💞💞💞💞💞

Love this topic. I’m in a situation I inherited money and my husband keep asking about it. I keep telling him no habibi it’s my money. He works but makes little money. The problem ismost Muslim men especially the african and black Muslim men make all kinds of excuses lame 😒 excuses as to why they cannot afford to provide for the wife and children. It quite obvious that the man need to provide to clam manhood

I'm in the same situation..suffering with disgust all the ehsaan of all family ..still I have to earn look after my family and still striving hard to make both ends meet...grave situation ..please Allah have mercy on us ll

My heart watching this video!🥰💗

Mashallah well explained JazakhAllah khair brother !!

thank you than you thank you thank you thank you for making a video on financial abuse! it's too prevalent in our culture unfortunately!

So true especially in the black community American black community

Why can’t anyone listen instead of getting offensive? It’s like we can’t even make an improvement in our own deen. Smh

My husband refuse to support me financially he keeps telling me to go and get a job but when I do work I get accused of cheating with my co workers I am also not allowed to go places by myself or make a decision for myself 😢I also get insulted and told I’m a b he swears me infront of our kids he always call me names and when I talk and stand up for myself he say I only think of myself and start blaming me for everything that happens in our marriage

Brother Nouman Ali Khan is usually on point in all of his lectures. What he is emphasizing in this one is that men are the maintainers and providers of their households, NOT the women. He never said that women cannot work and earn their own money in the marriage. If they do and choose to help their husbands and contribute to the households, it is considered a charity, NOT an obligation on their part. This is very much Islamic. It makes no sense for men to become offended or insulted with this. Problems come in when un-Islamic cultural practices override Islam. As Muslims, we can come up with all the "what if's" we want, but no matter. ISLAM ALWAYS OVERRIDE UNISLAMIC CULTURAL PRACTICES, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND! We must always keep in mind that Allah is Always Most Fair and Most Just! He knows best, NOT us!

Culture is what is destroying our ummah. Solely because I’m a physician I had a family last month request $100,000 US dollars for mahr. Along with $100,000 wedding and $65,000 diamond ring. I walked away.

In todays real world finances are very hard and almost every couple works to pay rent because bills today are ridiculous as prices raise especially in the UK.

My mother in law never allow her sons to give money to daughter in laws and when daughter in law is earning they take everything from her. They don't even provide basic needs it is still responsibility of girls parents and will tell daughter in law that husband is majazi khuda...no need to ask anything..😐

I am a Desi American and it is true what brother Nouman Ali Khan said. There are many desi families both in the west and back home where women are forced to work and all their money goes to their husband's family. I have experienced this with my family growing up and always thought that Islam was to blame for this, but no it is not Islam but this culture that has come into this beautiful religion. Never let the culture come to dictate what the Quran and Sunnah have brought for us. Desi culture has to become more Islamic. This lecture needs to be promoted for ALL Muslim men in the Desi culture. Islam teaches men how to be men. I am a proud Muslim and am glad that I as a man have to fulfill my responsibilities for my wife and children.

Masha Allah ❤️

Yes thanks to your speech my wife has taken her irresponsibility with money to a criminal level I give her half my wage and she spends more and expects me to pay her debt uses your sermon and the Quran to justify irresponsible behavior thank you

Speech is really true nd good. This scholar told the responsibilities of women , quite true. But he didn't tell the responsibilities of women for her husband..

No marriage , no problems in life

I’m paying half of everything and being abused .. Part of that abuse is he won’t pay his half of the bills if he decides he is mad at me. I have no issue paying half. I would love to spilt half of everything, domestic work included. I would love more if I could go to school but I can’t depend on him financially, even if I could drop down to part time with my job, it wouldn’t be enough money to cover my half, and he would own me if he helped me in that way. At the bare minimum, I would love to be able to depend on bills being paid on time because I always do my part financially and in the home, whether I am upset or not. I really want to believe this isn’t how it’s supposed to be. But no one is showing me any different. Family is backing him up and bailing him out. We’re not actually married, just engaged, for 5 years because he said I don’t deserve marriage unless I become his doormat (direct quote). I don’t see a way out. I am terrified and feel like I’ve been taken advantage of because I have no rights in my situation at all. I’m not Muslim, I’m Christian. I don’t know if I’m allowed to ask a sheikh for advice or not. I really wish I had more Muslim friends or someone to come to for advice. Part of that advice I feel like would be to “not air dirty laundry” as I’ve been told before but that’s how abuse continues and goes unnoticed because they convince you it’s not bad and it’s your fault it happened.

My situation here and am stressed,he stopped providing since I got a job and he would even take advantage of my money,used my loan I took to self develope and forcing me to take another, I swear I won't if it's continues like this I pray that I will leave this marriage

Subhan’Allah

For so long I wanted someone to talk about this matter...." financial abuse"

I have a friend that her husband send most of his wage back home. Even though his parents and siblings are living lavishly. He is building his sister a house even though she has a husband providing . His wife works looks after 4 kidaand pays for most the bills, as he gets mad if she asks for any money from him.

I would've liked to hear the entire lecture.

Video: "What do the women owe then?" Me: 👀 Video: -cuts off Me: 😭

May allah guide us

The team men khutbah got cropped out. 😭

Please upload the second part of this khutba

Just when the khutbah gets to the good bit the video ends haha. Where's the rest of this lecture?

Where can i find rest of the khutba?

Every muslim men knows this.. But nobody follows the religion.. All follows the culture

Where can I find the original video?

My mahr will always stay high my dad provided for me and my family in everything.

Where can i get the Bangla dubbed of this video

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Wow really l like your this beard

Asslamualaekum brother , just pray for me I am also facing issues in my marriage

Who should budget the money, like sorting out the bills etc? Wife or husband?

True

A husband told his wife, your mohor is for everything!!

I've met potential spouses that wore hijab and fully covered up in terms of clothing below her neck and the first thing out of their mouths was high demands of financial expectations from a man. They take the parts of the religion that benefits them but ignore the rest. For example I've met highly educated Muslim women with hijab and love to repeat how the man is financially responsible for his family and his wife. They always mention any salaries they earn is for them and they specifically mention that they will not help out the husband. Although they are correct they convientely leave out the part where they are responsible to maintain the home such as cooking, cleaning and raising the children. If they can't do their duties they shouldn't work! Don't get me wrong I will help out my wife with those duties and never will I tell my potential wife "hey you will stay home, cook and clean" the same way these women I met have told me "your are responsible for the finances and don't expect me to help". If your going to apply something from the religion make sure you apply all of it! I have met musilm women who wear the hijab but not the full outfit or met with no hijab and those I've met were very righteous women!

Where is the second part of this talk?

My father gave me some money and deposited it as FD in my name. I was assisted by my hisband and in law to the bank for the depositing. It was two mnths back. Today while we were talking my husband mentioned about a plot to be bought in both our names using the money my dad gave and he would also take the majority fund for it. I asked him a practical question that if we bought the plot will i also get a share in the money we get from it. He immediately turned soooo weird and acted in a emotional way saying i don't need ur money and all... What ur father has given is you is just nothing... A mere ** lakhs... Etc... I'm soo cnfused that whether i have sinned asking him that... I do need an answer please 🥺

where can we find the rest of this lecture please?

SUBHAN ALLAH ALHUMDULILLAH ALLAH AKBAR.

Hii where is the full video pleaaaaee??

Anybody has the link of the other side of the khutbah?

Where is the other part to this video?

Where’s the next part of this video?

Sir i want to ask something .my husband isn't working from last three years he lives in my parents home. We have two daughters. Earlier he worked for 6 years in abudhabi .but after leaving his job from there he is not working since then. 18 years of my married life he worked for only these 6 years. He doesn't have any social security like to give any thing to her daughters. Im working in a school but that doesn't fulfil even basic needs of my kids. What does islam says in such cas. Do guide . Jazak Allah

where is the rest of the video

Her money is hers . His money is his. Just a small percent to fill her living needs its her (eat,etc..)

And the monthly written in the nikah namma other than dowry? Men say they are providing shelter so why would I need money?

What is. Said is 💯.. but what do we do when the husband doesn't give a damn...

I am this financial abuse, 😭 got 3 daughters dont know where to go

Men come up with an argument that we live in the USA. I heard a lot of men are withholding their wife's stimulus check and tax return money because they say that since we take care of the household it's ours even if she has a job and the tax return money had been withholding from her paycheck

NAK, did you mention to what extent is the husband supposed to provide for the family? Basic necessities yes. Luxuries, no and its a bonus.

Where is the second part of this khutba

could u plz Translate in urdu ...write urdu on video coz easy to understand for who can't understand English

NO, it's not like "his money is also hers" the husband is only responsible to fulfill her basic needs like food shelter bills and groceries and clothing nothing more than that......

I will not pay a fine. I'd rather stay single and die alone

forgiven all his sins even if they were as much as the foam of the sea. Sahih al-Bukhari 6405 In-book reference : Book 80, Hadith 100 USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 8, Book 75, Hadith 414

the video ends as soon as the woman’s obligations 😂

In one of the Mufti Menk videos I heard that you can bargain the Mehr if you can't afford and here Nouman Ali Khan says the otherwise. I'm confused now ):

Full lecture: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/p5tdgdKp2p_efas.html

My husband is a lazy financial abuser. My patents refuse I leave him as we have kids. Am well off but he basically takes most of my income everymonth and I do all household expenses with the rest. I hate him and really hate him and he treats me like am shit and owe him stuff. Any help for divorce

My father abandoned my family when I was 8yrs old, and came back after 5 years when he came to know my brother just finished his graduation and he left after 2months right after my brother joined post graduation.. Now he is again trying to comeback to us after 12 yrs.. And I can't recall him being nice to me or paying a penny for my education. Now I know in islam we have obligation to our parents.. Do I have any obligation to my father whome I never saw in 7 yrs while he staying not far than 100km? Ustad do I have any obligation towards a father like this?

Where is the rest of the khutba??

Men should be men..........

Can someone please share the link to the whole khutbah? Thanks in advance ♥️

Where pt 2?

Unfortunately some husband's are financially dependent on their wife and still abuses and disrespect the wife wife earns and husband spends and after that still wife is abused

Your money is hers and her money is hers 😂😂😂😂ma shaa allah such a beautiful religion.. hope every man hu doesn’t go for work hear this

This situation is worse in India.

Men should listen to this ...