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When caring for a child in foster care, there may come a time when they feel safe enough to share their past experiences with you.
While I wish that these times were in a calm backyard like I show in this video, this isn't always the case. It can happen anytime, as one of my followers noted, "in the aisle at Target." Here are some phrases you can use to respond in the moment if you are at a loss.
As noted in the video, foster parents are mandated reporters. I try to always explain my role and rules when a child moves in so they know that I must report, why I have to do it, and how it all works (of course in age-appropriate ways). Many agencies and counties have specific rules around how much time may pass before you report and who to call / how to report.
Lastly, it's important to note your own body and feelings. Are you regulated and in control? Deep breaths, sip water, and do some grounding exercises to help yourself. You aren't able to remain regulated, it is usually best to gently pause and offer another time to finish. Something you could try for a quick pause to collect yourself is: "I really want to hear more, and I'm here to listen. May I use the restroom really quick so that you have my full attention?"
Every situation is different, if you are not sure how to respond, I highly suggest reaching to a professional for their advice on how to respond, talk about, and support the child should they want to talk about a past experience. Therapists can help the child directly process and also help you as the caregiver process.
Of course, we all learn in this community and have a variety of thoughts and experiences to share. As always feel free to contribute below. ⬇️
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